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Modern Husbands Podcast
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Winning ideas from experts to manage money and the home as a team. #Money #Relationships #PersonalGrowth #Family
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No More Mediocre: A Conversation with Laura Danger
Jan 1300:46:09Tap to summarizeWelcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I provide as an Accredited Financial Counselor and Fair Play Facilitator. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com.For today’s episode we welcome Laura Danger, a licensed educator, facilitator, and domestic-equity advocate who has collaborated with the Fair Play team and is known on social media as @ThatDarnChat. Her book, No More Mediocre: A Call to Reimagine Our Relationships and Demand More, combines candid interviews, personal stories, and research to expose how unpaid domestic labor — and dynamics like “weaponized incompetence” — shape inequity in relationships. In today’s conversation we explore the complexities of emotional labor in relationships, the importance of communication, and strategies for creating equitable home systems. Laura also shares insights from her book, emphasizing the need for curiosity and intentionality in relationships, and offers actionable advice for couples seeking to enhance their connection and reduce resentment.Enjoy the show.Show Questions00:00 Introduction01:53 Let’s start with sharing with the audience a little bit about you and your family. 03:36 In the book, you describe the moment you and Jack realized you were stuck in a loop: you carried the mental load, and he felt unsure how to jump in. What helped you both break that pattern?06:31 You write about the “Nag Paradox” and how women become narrators of their partner’s tasks. What is the first step for couples stuck in that dynamic?09:50 Can you define emotional labor and explain why it is so difficult to shoulder?12:30 You say conflict isn’t something to avoid, but an opportunity for connection and clarity. How can couples begin treating conflict as collaboration?15:28 You talk about good faith a lot. How can couples distinguish “won’t do” from “doesn’t know how yet?”20:04 What is weaponized incompetence and can you provide gender stereotypical examples of men and women doing it?29:55 You and Jack implemented meetings, shared task reviews, and even safe words for stressful conversations. What changes were most transformative?33:17 Many couples think they need “more help,” when what they actually need is systems.What does a functional, equitable home system look like in practice?37:12 Where do you see the most immediate wins for couples who want to reduce resentment and increase connection?41:08 What would you say to a man who genuinely wants to “do more” but feels overwhelmed or afraid of getting it wrong?44:08 If every listener could adopt one habit this week to make their relationship less mediocre and more connected, what would it be?45:00 Where can listeners purchase your book and learn more about you?Purchase the book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/737921/no-more-mediocre-by-laura-danger/Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!NewsletterFacebookYouTubeLinkedInInstagramTwitterTikTokSubstack
Transcribe →Willpower at Home: Strengthening Self-Control as a Couple. A Conversation with Dr. Kentaro Fujita
Dec 3000:38:06Tap to summarizeWelcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com.For today’s podcast we welcome Dr. Kentaro Fujita, a Professor of Psychology and Director of the Decision Sciences Collaborative at The Ohio State University. He received his Bachelors in Psychology at Harvard College, and his Masters and PhD in Psychology at New York University. He is an expert in motivation, goals, behavior change, and decision-making. Much of his award-winning research explores self-control: that is, who, when, and why do some succeed and others fail at resisting immediate temptations that undermine more distant goals?We’ll explore how self-control shapes the way couples handle money, divide household responsibilities, and support each other through everyday challenges. Dr. Fujita will share research-backed strategies to strengthen willpower, reduce temptations, and stay focused on the big picture—both individually and as a team. Enjoy the show.Show NotesIntroduction00:00 Introduction03:06 You’ve studied self-control extensively. How do you define it, and why is it such an important factor in our daily lives, particularly for couples managing money and household responsibilities?6:40 The Marshmallow Study13:05 Many of us think of willpower as simply “trying harder.” From a scientific perspective, what actually fuels or drains our self-control?17:06 Can we discuss self control hacks with important context?27:31 The concept of ego depletion suggests self-control is a limited resource. How does this play out in dual-career couples who feel constantly stretched thin by work and home obligations?31:48 What does your environment look like when you talk about money with your spouse?35:02 Where can our listeners learn more about you?35:44: If you could give dual-career couples one or two evidence-based practices to consistently improve their self-control—both individually and as a team—what would they be?Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!NewsletterFacebookYouTubeLinkedInInstagramTwitterTikTokSubstack
Transcribe →Financial Caregiving For Your Parents: A Conversation with Beth Pinsker, CFP®.
Dec 1600:43:15Tap to summarizeWelcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com.For today’s podcast we welcome Beth Pinsker, CFP®, financial columnist for Marketwatch and author of My Mother’s Money. Beth shares the critical steps couples should take to prepare for financial caregiving—whether it’s naming a guardian for your kids, planning for your parents’ future, or managing the complex realities of blended families. She also unpacks how to balance caregiving responsibilities with work, retirement goals, and staying connected as a couple. Enjoy the show.Show Notes 00:00 Introduction04:28 Your book My Mother’s Money is rooted in personal experience. What prompted you to write it, and why is financial caregiving an issue couples need to think about before it becomes a crisis?07:16 Whether it’s for your kids, your parents, or yourself, what are the key legal and financial documents and considerations couples need to have in place?13:35 What unique challenges do blended families face with caregiving and inheritance planning, and how can couples protect both their relationships and finances in those situations?17:10 Caregiving for a spouse’s parent can be especially challenging—sometimes even requiring an in-law to move in. What can couples do to support each other and set healthy boundaries?21:32 Caregiving can be expensive. How should couples budget and plan for the potential costs, and what resources (including Medicaid) are available to help?27:54 With the upcoming Medicaid cuts from the Big Beautiful Bill, how might caregiving for parents become more difficult, and what steps can families take now to prepare?39:18 Where can you go to purchase your book?39:38 What is one piece of simple and actionable advice you want to share with our listeners today?To purchase the book: bethpinkser.com Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!NewsletterFacebookYouTubeLinkedInInstagramTwitterTikTokSubstack
Transcribe →Having It All: A Conversation with Dr. Corinne Low
Dec 200:36:48Tap to summarizeWelcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I provide as an Accredited Financial Counselor and Fair Play Facilitator. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com.For today’s episode we welcome Dr. Corinne Low, an Associate Professor of Business Economics and Public Policy at the Wharton School. Dr. Low has spoken to top academic institutions such as Harvard University, Stanford University, and Oxford, as well as to organizations like the New York Federal Reserve, Brookings, and the US Department of Labor.Her research focuses on the economics of gender and discrimination. Her first book, Having It All, is a bestseller, and the focus of today’s conversation.We discuss the evolving definition of success, emphasizing the need to balance career ambitions with personal fulfillment and lifestyle needs. They challenge the traditional notion of success as merely career maximization, advocating for a more holistic approach that includes financial stability and time management.Enjoy the show.Questions00:00 Introduction02:45 Your book argues that women’s unhappiness isn’t a result of “trying too little” but of operating within systems that were never designed for them to succeed. What do you see as the biggest structural change that would make dual-career households more sustainable today?04:27 You write that we should “think like economists” when making life decisions. How can couples apply that mindset at home—when deciding how to divide money, chores, and childcare?07:23 You describe relationships and careers as “deals” that exchange time, effort, and money for certain payoffs. How can couples assess whether they’re both getting a good deal at home and at work?17:10 In your research, you’ve found that even when women are the primary breadwinners, they still do more cooking and cleaning. What does the data tell us about why this happens—and what needs to shift culturally for men to truly share the load?21:43 You’ve written that women’s time constraints are fundamentally different from men’s. How can couples design systems—financial or domestic—that make time equity as real a goal as income equity?28:48 You challenge the old idea of “having it all.” If we were to redefine success for couples today, what should replace that phrase?30:41 You’ve said this book is both a guide and a call to action. What do you hope men, in particular, will take away from Having It All about their role in building more equal partnerships?32:51 What is one simple and actionable step you want listeners to take away from today’s conversation? https://www.corinnelow.com/: Time Tracking SheetSubscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!NewsletterFacebookYouTubeLinkedInInstagramTwitterTikTokSubstack
Transcribe →What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't: A Conversation with Rhoda Mills Sommer, LCSW
Nov 1800:39:04Tap to summarizeWelcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com or you can email me at brian@modernhusbands.com. For today’s podcast we welcome Rhoda Mills Sommer, who has been helping couples for nearly 45 years, and is the host of the podcast, What Healthy Couples Know that You Don't. Today’s conversation explores the root causes behind money struggles, how to improve problem-solving and communication, and practical strategies for navigating hard conversations—especially around major topics like college expenses and shifting money values. Couples will walk away with tools to foster courage, connection, and clarity in their financial journey together. Enjoy the show.Show Notes00:00 Introduction01:35 What do you believe is underneath the struggles that couples have over money?03:15 What does it mean to share power?08:50 What is one big thing that interferes with couples problem solving over money?11:25 What can help relationships improve their problem solving abilities?13:38 What is one quality that husbands & wives can both embrace to help financial success move forward?17:55 What can couples do to find their courage to have conversations about money?20:20 What can improve hard conversations?22:29 Your thoughts about spending money for kids on college?32:55 Would you address money values changing over time?34:32 What should couples watch out for that can easily derail money conversations?36:31: Actionable advice for your lifeRhoda Mills Sommer LCSWBlog & Website: therapyideas.netTwitter & Instagram: @rhodaoncouplesPodcast: What Healthy Couples Know That You Don'tSubscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!NewsletterFacebookYouTubeLinkedInInstagramTwitterTikTokSubstack
Transcribe →Breadwinners: A Conversation with Melissa Hogenboom
Nov 400:50:45Tap to summarizeWelcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com or you can email me at brian@modernhusbands.com. For today’s podcast we welcome Melissa Hogenboom, an award-winning journalist and editor at the BBC who is the author of Breadwinners.In this episode of the Modern Husbands podcast, we delve into the intricate dynamics of gender roles and economic anxiety. We explore the challenges faced by female breadwinners, the psychological impact of economic instability on men, and the evolving expectations of masculinity. Through insightful discussions, we uncover how societal norms and financial pressures shape relationships and individual well-being. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of these pressing issues and discover actionable steps to foster equality and resilience in modern partnerships.Show Notes00:00 Introduction02:44 What motivated you to write the book, Breadwinners?04:36 Can you define what it means to be a breadwinner, and distinguish between sole and primary breadwinners?07:49 Why do some men experience anxiety and stress when their wives are the breadwinners?09:46 What are the traits and attitudes men possess that lead to high marital satisfaction when he is married to a female breadwinner?13:29 Why is it that women who earn more often feel the need to overcompensate at home?17:54 Can you explain the concept of 'exchange-bargaining’ and how money becomes a bargaining chip in domestic labor? 22:09 Can you describe financial control as a form of power that can easily veer into manipulation?27:53 How do societal expectations differ for same-sex couples when it comes to earning and domestic responsibilities? 32:05 What does the science say about the benefits—for children and couples—of dads taking on caregiving roles?37:03 What are the traits of the men who stay home and take advantage of parental leave, or do not have problems when their wife is the breadwinner?40:50 What are the consequences of one partner with a low sense of power in the relationship?42:48 You mention that too little power creates stress, but too much reduces empathy. How can couples find the right balance of shared influence in their relationship?46:39 What are the small, actionable steps listeners can take today to start shifting power imbalances in their own relationships?Purchase the book: https://melissahogenboom.com/breadwinners-2/ Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!NewsletterFacebookYouTubeLinkedInInstagramTwitterTikTokSubstack
Transcribe →Money Together: A Conversation with Experts and Authors Douglas and Heather Boneparth
Oct 2100:44:55Tap to summarizeWelcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com or you can email me at brian@modernhusbands.com. For today’s podcast we welcome Heather and Douglas Boneparth, a powerhouse couple blending financial expertise with real-life relationship insights. Douglas, a nationally recognized financial advisor and founder of Bone Fide Wealth, serves on advisory councils for CNBC, Investopedia, and with his wife Heather, serves on our Modern Husbands Advisory Board. Heather is a former attorney and rising voice at the intersection of love, money, and family, now leads business and legal affairs at the firm. Together, they co-author The Joint Account newsletter and are passionate about helping couples build financial intimacy and teamwork.In this episode, Heather and Douglas share powerful personal stories, research-backed insights, and practical tips to help couples navigate financial conversations, divide responsibilities fairly, and build lasting trust. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed or simply want to strengthen your financial partnership, this episode offers both motivation and actionable advice. Enjoy the show.Show Notes00:00 Introduction02:14 What inspired you to write Money Together? 07:30 How are you balancing your professional and family roles?12:52 Why do you think money is such a charged topic in relationships? What common myths or fears do you see couples bring into their financial lives?24:01 What are some common imbalances you’ve observed in how couples divide financial responsibility?28:34 How can couples begin to have fair conversations about labor—especially when one person feels overwhelmed or resentful?35:51 What’s your advice when one partner doesn’t want to be involved with money at all? Should they be able to "opt out?"42:17 Where can listeners learn more, and how can they start having “money together” conversations today?43:10 What is one piece of simple and actionable advice you can share with our listeners?Buy their book here: https://domoneytogether.com/Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!NewsletterFacebookYouTubeLinkedInInstagramTwitterTikTokSubstack
Transcribe →Travel Points Hacks and Facts
Mar 11, 202500:22:35Tap to summarizeWelcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.Today we welcome Julia Menez, founder of Geo Breeze Travel. We discuss the world of points and rewards travel. She shares how points and miles can be used to save money on flights and hotels, how to be strategic with credit cards and points, and shares success stories of clients who have planned dream vacations using her strategies. Enjoy the show.00:00 Introduction and Favorite Travel Destination01:39 Inspiration Behind Founding Geobreeze Travel03:42 Points and Rewards Travel 10105:24 Dispelling Misconceptions about Points and Rewards Travel13:32 What Makes Julia Uniquelly Qualified15:26 Fast Facts About Travel Rewards and Points 17:45 Success Stories: Dream Vacations Planned with Points and Rewards21:12 Conclusion and Actionable StepsKey TakeawaysPoints and miles can be used to save money on flights and hotelsBeing strategic with credit cards and points is importantDon't hoard points, use them to create memoriesFlexible points from credit cards can hedge against devaluationResearch and plan your travel to maximize the value of your pointsLearn more about Geobreeze Travel: https://geobreezetravel.com/Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!NewsletterFacebookYouTubeLinkedInInstagramTwitterTikTokSubstack
Transcribe →Empowering Partners: Roles in Childbirth. A Conversation with Birthsmarter Founder Ashley Brichter
Feb 25, 202500:47:57Tap to summarizeWelcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.Today we welcome Birthsmarter Founder Ashley Brichter. Ashley is a life-long educator, birth worker, consultant, and entrepreneur. She is a Certified Fair Play Facilitator, a Tory Burch Fellow, and she sits on the board of ProNatal Fitness.In this episode, we explore the challenges couples face during childbirth, emphasizing its unpredictability and impact on relationships. She highlights postpartum mental health, Fair Play for shared parenting, and provides practical advice of support. Show Notes00:00 Introduction01:24 How did you become passionate about supporting couples through childbirth and the early stages of parenting?05:01 What are some common challenges couples face during childbirth and how can they prepare to tackle these together? Instincts, healthy communication, learning to make decisions, connection with elders19:42 How important is it for both partners to be actively involved during labor and delivery, and what roles can the non-birthing partner play?25:24 Can you discuss the emotional and psychological impacts of childbirth on a couple’s relationship and how they can strengthen their bond during this time?31:51 How can couples divide parenting responsibilities in a way that feels fair and supportive to both partners?37:02 What advice do you have for couples on managing the stress that comes with sleep deprivation and constant caregiving in the first year?45:12 One is one piece of simple and actionable advice you would like to leave our listeners with?Learn more about Birthsmarter: https://birthsmarter.com/ Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!NewsletterFacebookYouTubeLinkedInInstagramTwitterTikTokSubstack
Transcribe →Marriage Advice for Couples. How NOT to Screw Up Your Marriage
Feb 11, 202500:29:49Tap to summarizeWelcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.Today we welcome Marriage and Family Therapist Aly Bullock. Aly is the Paired App Head of Relationships and a marriage and family therapist who is dedicated to helping couples build stronger, more fulfilling partnerships. Aly is a married mom of three. She has over 350,000 followers on social media, where she posts fun content designed to help committed couples navigate communication challenges.In this episode, Aly shares the intricacies of relationships, focusing on effective communication strategies for couples. We discuss practical advice for dealing with the silent treatment, making date nights special, and much more. Enjoy the episode.Show Notes00:00 Introduction01:39 Where does your passion for helping couples come from?03:17 How do you tell your partner to calm down without telling your partner to calm down? 06:01 What if you don’t want to talk to your partner about your feelings?09:00 Your partner is in a bad mood, but you don't know why. What is the best approach?15:30 What should you say to your partner when they are giving you the silent treatment? 18:17 What are a few easy ways to make your date night rock! 23:39 Let’s shift gears to your new role at Paired. What is a couples app? 26:17 How does Paired address major couple stressors including money, sex, etc?27:23 What kind of couple can most benefit from Paired and who is their target audience?27:45 What is one piece of simple and actionable advice you want to leave our listeners with? Aly’s Free Relationship Check In Guide: https://www.relationshipswithaly.com/storeFollow Aly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationshipswithaly/Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media!NewsletterFacebookYouTubeLinkedInInstagramTwitterTikTokSubstack
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