EP - 34 Bathtime Battles, Dad Fails, and a Huge Parenting Win

Summary

Podcast Summary: More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle Busby
Episode: EP - 34 Bathtime Battles, Dad Fails, and a Huge Parenting Win
Release Date: May 22, 2025

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Introduction: Shifting Gears to Light-Hearted Conversations

In Episode 34 of "More Than Reality," Adam and Danielle Busby decide to pivot from their recent serious and emotional discussions to a more fun and light-hearted Q&A format. They aim to create an episode that's both entertaining and relatable, offering listeners a candid glimpse into their everyday lives beyond the camera.

Weekly Life Updates: Navigating the Last Week of School

The episode kicks off with Adam and Danielle sharing the whirlwind of activities that marked their past week. With the last week of school in full swing, the Busbys grapple with numerous events:

• School Events and Awards:
  Danielle mentions, "It's just been like a week of you, like, a lot of travel and stuff, but the kids and, like, there's just so much happening day to day this week because it's like the last week of school and it's like activity, activity, activity."
  (Timestamp: 02:56)

• Blake's Achievement:
  Adam proudly recounts their daughter Blake's participation in two award ceremonies. Initially anticipating routine awards for good grades, the evening took a surprising turn when Blake was honored with the "Award for Character," recognizing her integrity and leadership.
  "She exemplifies all of the aspirations and standards of what we want a student to be at the school."
  (Timestamp: 21:05)

• Home Projects:
  Danielle shares her excitement about starting to declutter their upstairs area to prepare for carpet cleaning. The ongoing battle with carpet stains from their quintuplets' antics is a recurring theme.
  "We thought it needs new carpet even whenever we bought the house... So I just refuse. We're not putting new carpets up there until they're old enough."
  (Timestamp: 03:36)

Upcoming Events: Balancing Family and Fans

Looking ahead, Adam and Danielle discuss their busy schedule filled with work and family commitments:

• Travel Plans:
  They detail their upcoming trip to a gala in Nashville, followed by a trip to Indianapolis for Indy 500 events. The excitement builds as they anticipate the challenges and thrills of attending such prestigious events with a large family in tow.
  "It's going to be an exciting day. Could just be like any other 500, but we'll see. Yeah, it'll be fun."
  (Timestamp: 12:10)

• Indy 500 Drama:
  Adam shares a heartfelt story about their driver, Scott McLaughlin, who experienced a terrifying wreck during practice for the Indy 500. Despite his car being in excellent shape that morning, a loss of control led to a severe accident, impacting his qualifying position.
  "He blew by me and then I just heard boom. And I turned around and looked and his car was just in pieces."
  (Timestamp: 09:32)

Q&A Segment: Fun and Personal Insights

To inject some levity, Adam and Danielle engage in a spontaneous Q&A, answering questions without prior preparation. This segment highlights their playful dynamics and genuine interactions.

• Favorite Dad Jokes:
  Danielle asks Adam about his favorite dad jokes, but he admits he's drawing a blank in the moment.
  "I can't think of a dad joke right now. But I remember, like, multiple episodes on the TV show."
  (Timestamp: 16:18)

• No Favorite Child, but Celebrating Achievements:
  Both partners emphasize that they don't have a favorite child, maintaining a balanced and loving approach to parenting. However, Adam proudly highlights Blake's recent award, subtly presenting her as the favorite for the day.
  "Blake won the award... Super proud."
  (Timestamp: 22:10)

• Unexpected Parenting Habits:
  Danielle questions Adam about surprising things he does as a dad, leading to a humorous recount of his overzealous support during their children's sports events.
  "I'm that very vocal dad... I get intense."
  (Timestamp: 24:07)

• Weirdest Moments as Parents:
  Adam describes a memorable scene where Danielle, in an effort to manage the quintuplets, sprinkles snacks on the floor, turning the babies into playful "little chickens."
  "You would just take, like, their little puffs... they're just like little chickens."
  (Timestamp: 35:12)

• Strange Direct Messages:
  The couple shares amusing and bewildering direct messages they've received on social media, highlighting the unpredictable nature of online interactions.
  "I have a brain tumor. I want ice cream."
  (Timestamp: 37:00)

Communication Challenges: Balancing Personal Time and Togetherness

A significant portion of the episode delves into the intricacies of Adam and Danielle's communication, especially concerning their need for personal time versus couple time:

• Personal Time Needs:
  Danielle expresses her frustration with Adam's early bedtime routines, feeling neglected when he opts to sleep immediately after the kids are asleep.
  "I'm annoyed you went to bed. I'm glad you still love me anyway, though. I choose to take a bath."
  (Timestamp: 44:27)

  Conversely, Adam discusses his need for time at the gym, which sometimes extends into hours, leaving Danielle feeling sidelined.
  "Sometimes... I just want to hang out or like, oh, well, that's time for us to catch up."
  (Timestamp: 43:25)

• Differences in Personalities:
  Their contrasting personalities—Danielle's need for quiet and personal space versus Adam's extroverted nature—create tension. They acknowledge the importance of understanding and accommodating each other's differences.
  "You're the opposite. You're like a network or social person, but it takes a lot of energy out of you."
  (Timestamp: 48:27)

• Importance of Communication:
  Both emphasize the critical role of open communication in maintaining a healthy relationship. Danielle advocates for expressing needs and intentions more clearly, while Adam highlights the challenges of verbalizing his desires.
  "Communicating expectations and always remembering, too, because we forget this."
  (Timestamp: 55:05)

  Danielle suggests practical solutions, like coordinating times to spend together before engaging in personal activities, fostering mutual respect and understanding.
  "You're offering me. I know... You're not taking it away from me."
  (Timestamp: 46:10)

Conclusion: Lessons in Love and Understanding

As the episode wraps up, Adam and Danielle reflect on the lessons learned from their candid conversation. They underscore the importance of:

• Mutual Understanding: Recognizing and respecting each other's needs for personal time.
• Grace and Patience: Offering grace to one another to maintain harmony.
• Continuous Communication: Striving to communicate intentions and feelings openly to prevent misunderstandings.

Danielle aptly summarizes, "It's not about what the thing is that you want to do for your time and I want to do for my time. It's not about what that actual thing is. So then therefore, what's the problem?"
(Timestamp: 46:25)

Adam adds, "Intentions go a long way."
(Timestamp: 51:34)

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Key Takeaways:

• Balancing Act: Managing a large family while maintaining personal and couple's time requires deliberate effort and understanding.
• Celebrating Achievements: Recognizing and celebrating each child's unique accomplishments fosters a supportive family environment.
• Communication is Crucial: Open and honest communication helps navigate the complexities of marriage and parenting, ensuring both partners feel heard and valued.

This episode of "More Than Reality" offers listeners a heartfelt and humorous exploration of the Busbys' daily lives, highlighting the universal challenges and triumphs of parenting and maintaining a strong marital bond.

Transcript

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[Danielle Busby]

Of people think that, like, I'm just like Kate to you.

[Adam Busby]

Kate Gosselin.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. From the show. In that.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. It's like very much so editing, but.

[Danielle Busby]

Even like social media.

[Adam Busby]

I think we've been at fights before. Every now and then, couples fight, obviously. And every now and then I'll call you Kate just to get under your skin. Okay, Kate. Okay. Be real. Do you have a favorite child?

[Danielle Busby]

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[Adam Busby]

Welcome.

[Danielle Busby]

Selfie time.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, Danielle's taking selfies in the intro. Welcome to More Than reality podcast episode 34. And the last few episodes, I feel like, have got like tooken token real, have taken like a turn and so got a little bit serious, a little bit emotional, stuff like that. So we're like, let's do one that's a little bit more fun and light hearted. I don't know, we may end up going that way. Seems like all of our podcasts end up due, so we'll see how it goes.

[Danielle Busby]

Because we're real. We're more than reality.

[Adam Busby]

This is episode 34. I don't know, we just like to end up getting serious or emotional and stuff. I mean, get all up in the fields emotional the way I want us to.

[Danielle Busby]

Emotional meaning like tear and cry and then mess up your makeup and then you got a snotty nose and you're gonna get a headache.

[Adam Busby]

Feels good to cry every now and then.

[Danielle Busby]

It does, it does. So what's up?

[Adam Busby]

This week's been a blur for me.

[Danielle Busby]

Same here. Well, it's just been, like a week of you, like, a lot of travel and stuff, but the kids and, like, there's just so much happening day to day this week because it's like the last week of school and it's like activity, activity, activity. A school thing. A school thing. A school thing.

[Adam Busby]

Like awards banquets and class parties and end of the year stuff and just.

[Danielle Busby]

So much back and forth.

[Adam Busby]

And Blake had two, like, award ceremonies just this week.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. And then we. Yeah. But I will say I did find time to start decluttering upstairs to get the carpet clean, which I'm super excited about today because our carpet upstairs. Don't forget we have quintuplets.

[Adam Busby]

Our house was somewhat at a point where it was, like, borderline. We kind of needed new carpet even whenever we bought the house. But I'm like, no three, three year olds moving into a new house. No. We're not changing the carpets until they're, like, old enough to not smear makeup into the carpet and, like, play with slime upstairs and stuff like that. So I just refuse. We're not. We're not putting new carpets up there until they're.

[Danielle Busby]

Remember that day that they brought a towel upstairs one morning and put paint. Brought the paint, but they put a towel down like a beach child because they know they're not supposed to have that upstairs. And it's still steel. Got all over the floor. Remember that?

[Adam Busby]

Of course.

[Danielle Busby]

So we have stains from that. Like, the carpet's getting clean today and I'm super excited about it.

[Adam Busby]

I'll be curious to see what all comes out same. Hopefully that's some really hot steam.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

Hand shampoo and not very hopeful.

[Danielle Busby]

Anyway, today's episode's gonna be fun. We're gonna do kind of like blind Q and A. So we usually do those cards, but we're going to do like an episode of. I have, like, these list of questions, but we're not going to read them until it's time to ask the question because Adam wants to pre read them and I'm like, no, because then you already know what the questions are going to be and do a little bit of banter and stuff. But I thought it was fun to just ask some fun questions and see what comes up. You never know what Adam's going to say when it comes, if it's going to be real or if it's going to be sarcasm, so we'll see. It's about. Could be a mix of, like, marriage, family, parenting, fate, like, all the things just life.

[Adam Busby]

Smoking meat.

[Danielle Busby]

Smoking meat. That was last episode. Was that last episode.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, I think so.

[Danielle Busby]

I still. I'm still laughing about that. Like, where you said one thing that you wish I cared more about. Something that you care about that I care about. And you were like, smoking me still, like, no.

[Adam Busby]

I don't know.

[Danielle Busby]

Babe, what's the meat temperature today? What's the meat?

[Adam Busby]

I don't want to be the only one in the house excited about it other than just like, oh, it's ready.

[Danielle Busby]

That's exciting. That part right there. I don't want to do all day just trying to cook meat all day.

[Adam Busby]

A lot of work goes into it.

[Danielle Busby]

I know.

[Adam Busby]

It's an art.

[Danielle Busby]

Well, I'm glad you have that for you. That's your time.

[Adam Busby]

Actually bought a new cook, kind of like a grilling, smoking, like, cookbook this week from Matt Grork. I pre ordered it. It's a buddy of mine that, like, I know from my Instagram and just, like, cooking content and we talk back and forth every now and then. But he's got a new cookbook coming out and it's really cool because he's been, like, talking about it this whole week and he's super excited about it. He incorporated a lot of stuff with their family and stuff in it, and his wife took all the photos and it's just kind of been a labor of love and. So cute. I told him. I was like, I ordered one. I didn't ask for you to send me one for free, but. Because a lot of people just will. But, like, I reached out to him first. I'm like, hey, I'm buying it. Before he even had the chance to say he'd send me one. Yeah. Yeah, that's cool. Can't wait to see it.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. So summer is approaching and, like, basically today is like the last day of school. Tomorrow's half day, and so we.

[Adam Busby]

And then.

[Danielle Busby]

Then what?

[Adam Busby]

And then what?

[Danielle Busby]

Today's 100. Then we go out of town for a little summer kickoff.

[Adam Busby]

We have a Friday. Friday night we have this, like, gala in Nashville at the Gaylord.

[Danielle Busby]

I totally forgot we have to go to Nashville.

[Adam Busby]

And then we were. We were going to be staying a night in Nashville and then going to Indianapolis early Saturday morning. But now I think we're going to go to the gala and then just drive straight to Indianapolis Friday night. So we're wake up In Indianapolis, for all the stuff going on. We got a bunch of people coming in, standard or suite kind of showing around, like a bunch of like driver interaction stuff and museum stuff and just different things around the track on Saturday and then obviously Sunday just.

[Danielle Busby]

And I still don't know what I'm gonna wear last.

[Adam Busby]

This past weekend was like, crazy. I was up there for qualifying. Our driver, Scott McLaughlin, drives a yellow Pennzoil yellow submarine. And I mean, he was doing awesome. His car was dialed in, got all the way through first round of qualifying, so he made it into the top 12. And then Sunday morning they had like a practice session that is immediately before they're like top 12 qualifying. So Indy 500, there's like 34 drivers, 34 drivers that are competing to actually race in the race. Eventually, one person is going to get bumped because their car is not fast enough. And so Saturday, they whittle all the cars down, everybody qualifies, and they lock in position 13 through 30. And those people just wherever their times are, they're 13 through 30. Then the next day, it's the fastest 12 cars go through another, like, all their scores and everything go out the window. And then they're qualifying again for the fastest 12, and they're trying to get the fastest six out of that 12. So then position seven through 12 get locked in, and then they have another round. All those. All those numbers go out the window. Then it's one through six, they do it again. And then that gets like the first. First two rows in order. But Scott, it was heartbreaking because he had the. He had just recorded it was going around in practice. And they're. They're just trying. They're just obviously going as fast as they can, trying to get the cars dialed in, getting ready for fast 12. And he had just recorded the fastest time in practice. Like, he was the top car out there, top driver out there. And I was down. I was taking photos at the time, and I was in turn one, and I was just catching him as he came around the front stretch, turning into turn one and coming at me. And then they'd fly by. And I was just taking a sequence of photos as he was coming through and coming right at me. And he had just recorded fastest speed. He blew by me and then I just heard boom. And I turned around and looked and his car was just in pieces. Just. He lost control, lost traction. And I mean, it was a bad, scary wreck. Luckily he walked away from it, but the car was toast. And so they had to, like, he didn't make the he didn't make the top 12 qualifying because he just didn't have a car because literally it was within like three hours. There's no way they could have built a whole new car in three hours ready to compete with the fastest 12.

[Danielle Busby]

Cars for the race.

[Adam Busby]

There was a bunch of other drama that happened with the other Penske cars and some modifications and stuff that didn't pass inspections. So he ended up getting bumped from 12 to 10. So he's going to be starting in position 10. So he'll be in the this is.

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[Adam Busby]

In the fourth row starting the Indy 500. So hopefully this week they have his car fine tune like it like the last one was and he's ready to compete because if he, if, if his car was as fast as it was that morning, he has a really good potential to win it. But who knows. It's Indy 500 and a lot of crazy stuff stuff happens. We'll see. It could be a very exciting day. Could just be like any other 500, but we'll see. Yeah, it'll be fun. I know that. And it'll be Daniel's first. And it's a sold out grandstands are completely sold out. It's the first Indy 500 with a sellout crowd since 2016. So it'll be well over probably close to 400,000 people if not more there. All the grandstands are sold out plus and then they also will sell seats or not just seat just passes to get into the infill and people can sit out on the grass and stuff like that. So you can fit a lot of people in there. So who knows how many, but it'll be a lot of people.

[Danielle Busby]

A lot of people. I'm glad the kids are not going this time.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, I mean I've been to a few Indy 500s and I just don't wanna, don't wanna deal with six kids. Trying to fight crowds with six kids.

[Danielle Busby]

No thank you.

[Adam Busby]

Maybe one or two wouldn't be as bad, but six, that's a lot.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

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[Adam Busby]

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[Adam Busby]

All right, so we'll get back to the topic today.

[Danielle Busby]

There's actually lots of topics because we're doing a Q A.

[Adam Busby]

There's lots of them.

[Danielle Busby]

Well, yeah, because each question's like a topic.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

So I'm going first. I'm gonna ask you first pick a number one.

[Adam Busby]

It's almost like this whole episode is kind of like a connect card, but they're just fun.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. So Hopefully I have 10 questions here, and so I'm gonna ask you pick a number one through 10, and that's what I'm gonna read.

[Adam Busby]

Oh, really?

[Danielle Busby]

That's what I'm gonna do right now.

[Adam Busby]

So, like, I hold my fate. So I'm giving you a number.

[Danielle Busby]

Mm. One through ten.

[Adam Busby]

Seven.

[Danielle Busby]

What's your favorite dad joke moment that the girls just rolled their eyes at? Do you have a dad joke?

[Adam Busby]

I always just have, like, such sarcastic, random thoughts. I remember actually looking back, I don't know. All the girls usually like my dad jokes, though.

[Danielle Busby]

Do you have one right now?

[Adam Busby]

I can't think. I'm having brain fog right now. But I remember, like, multiple episodes on the TV show. Like, it's usually, like, in the car whenever we're just having conversations with the kids. And, like, just one randomly will come to mind. And. But it's funny because, like, that's all filmed and so you can, like, see the kids reaction, like, in real time, like, whenever I say it.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

And so, yeah, I can't think of a dad joke right now.

[Danielle Busby]

Okay, well, that was lame.

[Adam Busby]

I mean, this is what happens whenever you put me on the spot. So that's why I want it.

[Danielle Busby]

It's okay. I'm gonna go to the next one. Finish this sentence.

[Adam Busby]

Me. You're doing two on me.

[Danielle Busby]

That wasn't a good answer. We're making this up as we go today. Finish the statement sentence. Danielle's superpower is sleeping. Oh, I love it. I do love sleep. Because you know why?

[Adam Busby]

It goes in my cozy hurts. It's probably not her superpower.

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[Danielle Busby]

Make myself go to sleep, though.

[Adam Busby]

You kind of do. You struggle getting to sleep, but whenever you do, you don't want to wake up. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because like me sleeping probably is one of my superpowers because I can sleep at any time through anything.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

It might be more my sleep superpower than yours.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. So what's my.

[Adam Busby]

But I just wake up really early though. Like I'm an early riser.

[Danielle Busby]

So what would be my superpower? Just a badass.

[Adam Busby]

Working under pressure.

[Danielle Busby]

I feel like that should be a song. Under pressure. I think it is.

[Adam Busby]

All right.

[Danielle Busby]

Working well under pressure.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, yeah. Like whenever it comes to like just like high pressure situations. I mean that's usually like whenever. I don't know. People probably don't like me whenever I'm in like high pressure situations because like, I get really quiet. Like I seclude myself when you become mean. And like, I'm just like super driven. Like, gotta get this done. Nobody like, nobody mess with me. Leave me alone.

[Danielle Busby]

Because your focus is gonna go like this.

[Adam Busby]

Yes, I get.

[Danielle Busby]

It's gonna fly away.

[Adam Busby]

I lose focus so fast and so I just have to lock myself away. So like I. I'm like a recluse whenever it comes to needing to get stuff done.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

But Daniel works great under pressure.

[Danielle Busby]

You're gonna ask me one of those questions. Number two.

[Adam Busby]

Number two.

[Danielle Busby]

Picked one.

[Adam Busby]

Okay. Be real. Do you have a favorite child today? Absolutely not today.

[Danielle Busby]

No. That's like I don't have a favorite child. They are all different and all have like different specialties. But I love all my children the same. That is a true statement. Looking at me like I need to change my answer.

[Adam Busby]

I'm like, no, I thought, I thought because I said today, today you might have a different answer.

[Danielle Busby]

Well, it hit me up in the summer when they're around 247 and we.

[Adam Busby]

I probably do need to like brag a little bit about Blake though, today.

[Danielle Busby]

Oh yeah.

[Adam Busby]

So today Blake had like her like it was probably more like the acid. Yeah. It was an academic types awards at school today.

[Danielle Busby]

So One's from the school, the teachers.

[Adam Busby]

And we got it. We got an email saying, hey, come to this award banquet. Your child's gonna receive an award. But they don't say, like, what it is or anything like that. You have no clue. And, you know, Blake does well in school. And so, I mean, she was like. Makes A's and B's and stuff like that. So we're like, oh, probably just, you know, AMB. Award. Like, typical thing. You sit there for close to two hours, and she walks up on stage once. And so it's long.

[Danielle Busby]

And there. The AC wasn't working. There was issues with that. Like, it just started late. It was a long day.

[Adam Busby]

But they do all these. All this list of awards. Like, I mean, how many kids are in Blake school?

[Danielle Busby]

I don't know. Just a lot.

[Adam Busby]

And it. It takes a while. But then they save this award for very last. It's like, they're like, award for character. All like, it. That. It. The. The kid that exemplifies all of the. The aspirations and standards and stuff of what they want a student to be at the school. Like, character, integrity, leadership, you know, all these things.

[Danielle Busby]

Respect.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. Yeah. And. And Blake won the award.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

And we're like, man, that's like, they should have asked the parents to come up there. Cause that's, like. That's like a parent award. Super proud.

[Danielle Busby]

I mean, like, super proud to, like, her to get all A's and B's. Like, that's awesome. But, like, to get that award, to me was like, wow.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, that probably matters. Said probably matters. It matters more than just, like, getting good grades.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. Because that shows that I feel like the Blake that we know want to raise her is the Blake that they're seeing. And so I love that. I love. I. And this was the very last award. And we're, like, hour and a half in, and we're, like, so ready to go. We're like, finally, we're at the end, and we didn't know we were going to get in there. Like, Blake Busby. And I'm like, oh, my God, my phone.

[Adam Busby]

Like, I didn't even know.

[Danielle Busby]

But, I mean, I know in my heart, but I didn't know that y' all saw yo she was gonna get an award for it. So I didn't really get any good pictures or a video or anything. And Adam's like, wait, what's this award for?

[Adam Busby]

Because I was, like, zoned out by the. We were, like, an hour and 45 minutes in.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

Like, gosh, when is this gonna end? It's hot in here. All of a sudden, you hear Blake's name.

[Danielle Busby]

Aren't you glad you didn't go to the bathroom at that point?

[Adam Busby]

I know. I had to go to the bathroom.

[Danielle Busby]

That was funny. But, yeah. So it's a good day. What a way to end and wrap up middle school.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

Getting that award.

[Adam Busby]

Super proud of that. That's what I was gonna think. Blake's your favorite today.

[Danielle Busby]

All right, Adam, what's one thing you swore you'd never do as a dad, but you totally do it now? Like, you're like, oh, my God, I'm never gonna do that as a dad, but then you do it.

[Adam Busby]

It's what I would never do as a dad.

[Danielle Busby]

Like, are there annoying dad things that you've seen done? You're like, oh, my God. I would never do that with. With my kids. But then you do it.

[Adam Busby]

Not really.

[Danielle Busby]

So you're just all around.

[Adam Busby]

I mean, I would probably have to say annoying things that you see. It would probably. It would probably involve sports, like, whenever.

[Danielle Busby]

Oh, my gosh. Yes. Yes.

[Adam Busby]

Like, I'm that dad.

[Danielle Busby]

You're the cheer mom, but you're the dad.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

And it doesn't matter if it's your kids or watching a friend's kids or a niece or nephew. You're that cheer mom dad.

[Adam Busby]

Especially, like, if I feel like I know, like, better than the coach or, like, I see something that, like, the ref or refs, like.

[Danielle Busby]

Wait, what did you just say? When I think I know better than the coach. That's pretty funny.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. And so I'm just that very vocal dad. And it's probably mostly been for Blake, though.

[Danielle Busby]

No, babe, like, do you remember when we went to go watch Kyler play baseball, and you were so embarrassing because you're yelling at the ref and he almost kicked you out. I'm like, this isn't even our kid, and he's family. But, like, he's not hurt when referees.

[Adam Busby]

Like, totally blow a blatant call on the soccer field.

[Danielle Busby]

Oh, my gosh. Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, I guess so.

[Danielle Busby]

And I've kind of been more surprised. I'm not surprised by, like, the focus of, like, get it right and do it the best kind of a thing, but, like, you're not a very, like, loud person.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

But when you are watching a sport, especially one of the. With kids in that we know that are playing, like, you're obnoxious.

[Adam Busby]

I get intense.

[Danielle Busby]

You get fired up. It's like, you know when Hayes. You know when Hazel gets mad?

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

Like, Hazel's sweetest.

[Adam Busby]

She goes from, like, 1 to an 11 and, like.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah, and that's. That's you. She gets that from you. Like, there's no. When Adam's watching somebody play a game and he thinks he knows better than the coach, which he just said, it's like a hundred.

[Adam Busby]

Did you see that? Speaking of Hazel, did you see that thing this week? This lady that says that redheads are black?

[Danielle Busby]

Huh?

[Adam Busby]

She said all red.

[Danielle Busby]

What?

[Adam Busby]

I don't know. She said.

[Danielle Busby]

Did you read it? What did she say?

[Adam Busby]

She says all red.

[Danielle Busby]

That was just a comment.

[Adam Busby]

Anybody. Anybody in the world that has red hair is black.

[Danielle Busby]

What do you mean?

[Adam Busby]

Like, I don't know. It's confusing, but that's what she said. So I want to know right now how that happened.

[Danielle Busby]

It doesn't make sense. I don't understand the statement.

[Adam Busby]

It's. It was the most.

[Danielle Busby]

So it's like.

[Adam Busby]

It was the most random and weird thing. Like, I heard it on the radio coming home. They were like, just, you know, two DJs, they're just kind of talking about, like, topics of the day. And it was like they brought up this lady that was, like, on social media, talking about. And she. She made this comment saying that every redhead in the world is, like, black.

[Danielle Busby]

That's so weird.

[Adam Busby]

And so since then, I've seen like, five or six videos on social media about, like, like, black guys with their redhead friend. They're like, welcome to the team and, like, giving them their. Their black starter kit.

[Danielle Busby]

It's a. It says gingers are black trend on TikTok.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

Redheads are now the black people of white people. What? Well, I don't get it, but I.

[Adam Busby]

Don'T get it either. I don't know why she said that. I don't think there's any kind of evidence like that supports it. I don't know what. I don't know, but I thought it was funny.

[Danielle Busby]

As a ginger, I am very confused, but happy to be invited to the cookout.

[Adam Busby]

So I guess Hazel's got a little bit more streak red.

[Danielle Busby]

Oh, get it. Orange is the new black. Like the show.

[Adam Busby]

Is there a new season coming out or something? That's why she said it. No way. I don't think it has anything to do with that. That show has been off Air Force ever.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. So I don't know. I didn't see that.

[Adam Busby]

Anyway. That was a tangent. Sorry. I chased it.

[Danielle Busby]

I said, hey, so that's where you went.

[Adam Busby]

I chased that rabbit. Sorry.

[Danielle Busby]

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[Adam Busby]

I gotta ask you one.

[Danielle Busby]

Oh, yeah. This is so random.

[Adam Busby]

Oh, wait, I read that one. What's something people think about you from social media that isn't true?

[Danielle Busby]

A lot. I mean, a lot of people think that a lot of things. I think a lot of people think that, like, I'm just like Kate to you.

[Adam Busby]

Kate Gosselin.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. From the show in that.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. It's like very much so editing, but.

[Danielle Busby]

Even like social media.

[Adam Busby]

I think we've been at fights before. Like every now and then couples fight, obviously. And every now and then I'll call you Kate just to get under your skin. Okay, Kate.

[Danielle Busby]

But it's more so that, like, I'm not enough said this behind the scenes filming and stuff is that, like, I get her aspect of like, the control of like a routine and you have to follow some type of schedule. But guess what? Adam's all on board for having a routine that I have to lead in a way because that's not his gifts. And if we didn't have any of that, we would be a total wreck house.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. And I think a little bit of the like.

[Danielle Busby]

But I think because it's a lot of, like, they don't. People don't see, like, the inside of the humor and like the sarcasm. Like, even. Even on, like, if I comment on something that you comment and then I'll get like, hate off of my comment to you. Just being sarcastic. But you know what I'm saying, they don't. I'm like, well, then. Then you don't know us.

[Adam Busby]

I think, like, kind of peeling back the curtain a little bit just so, like in the TV show, there's a lot of things that Danielle and I agreed upon, like, parenting style. Like, we were like, like all that kind of stuff. We're on the same page probably 90% of the time, if not more. But filming a TV show, there has to be conflict. And so, you know, you have to have some sort of tension to keep a viewer intrigued. Intrigued and wanting to watch the show and see, like, what's going to happen next or what's going on and all this stuff. And so, like, there was so many of those conversations as we're filming the TV show because they would ask us, like, you know, if we're going through something with the kids or we're trying to make a decision as a family or.

[Danielle Busby]

And we're like, yeah, this is what we say. Like, what? Wait, that doesn't lead.

[Adam Busby]

Both of us will just like, say something. We're like, yeah, yeah, like, we. We agree. And they're like, wait, no, we can't do that. Like, one of y' all has to.

[Danielle Busby]

At least it's gonna come to that result. But can we?

[Adam Busby]

Like, yeah, ultimately we're gonna get there, but one of y' all at least needs to somewhat play devil's advocate. And.

[Danielle Busby]

And guess who usually got picked just.

[Adam Busby]

Because Danielle's more of, like, the headstrong, task oriented, like, black and white planner, stuff like that. So it was always like, Danielle was the one that, like, oh, no. Like, it needs to be like this. And I'm like, more of the dreamer and like, oh, like, let's do this or let's have fun or whatever. So that's how I was portrayed most of the time is just like, oh, yeah, we'll get to there, but, like, let's have some fun first, you know, or something like that. And then they wanted Danielle just to be like.

[Danielle Busby]

And I'm like, let's get it done and have fun later.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. But it does put a. This, like, negative spin on just like Danielle, you know, in editing. Because it's like, you never let Adam do what he wants.

[Danielle Busby]

And if you only knew. I think, honestly, I actually think the older older people get, the more. The more selfish they get. Because you get to where you get.

[Adam Busby]

Set in your ways.

[Danielle Busby]

Set in your ways. But then you get to the, like, I don't care club, which. That's that lady I've been following on Instagram who I love.

[Adam Busby]

She has an I don't care club.

[Danielle Busby]

Yes. And she's so on point with everything that she sends she shares. She'll be like, I'm sorry. She's like. She puts a nap and says, like, the I don't. Founding member of the We Don't Care club. And then she'll say, I'm going to read our we do not care statements for the day. I do not care. No, we. Because this is about people in the club. Who's in the club, the people who don't care. Like, angel says, we do not care if the front of our hair is done and the back is not. Y' all are the ones looking at the back. We do not care. Just funny things like that. Like, I. I'm trying to think other ones that she's. I mean, it's just. They're all so good. They're all so good. So I've been sending it to all the friends who are going through. It's all about, like, going through, like, this perimenopause. Menopause, like, statements. And I just think I like my aunts. Aunt Lyette like, telling me. I remember when she was, like, in her 40s, and we would like, oh, you need to shave your legs. And she's like, I just don't care. And, like, hello. That's, like, so mean. Now I'm like, man, I haven't shaved my legs in forever, or you're going to see, like, my ankles. I'll just shave, like, the bottom two inches of. We do not care anyway. That makes me laugh. And you're like, this is boring. All right, Adam, what's the weirdest thing you've ever seen me do? This is as a mom, but what's the weirdest thing you've ever seen me do as a mom or not a mom?

[Adam Busby]

I mean, yeah, I mean, stuff, but it. I don't know. It's. It's things like, out of the norm, necessity, and, like, out of the norm of, like, a normal situation. So, like, having six babies, like, in a huge packing, play, baby gate situation in the living room, and you just need to prep to leave the house or prep dinner or wash dishes or whatever's going on. And, I mean, the floor was clean, but you would just take, like, their, like, little puffs. The little puff snacks. And, like, all the babies are just, like, standing at the gate, like, whining because they want out. You know, anytime there's a barrier, they went through it. And she would just go over to the edge of the thing and just, like, sprinkle all the snacks on the ground, and they're just like. Like little chickens.

[Danielle Busby]

Remember Alejandro saw that first time. This lady's crazy.

[Adam Busby]

What the heck is going on here?

[Danielle Busby]

Builds their immune system. Yeah, I mean, I didn't do it.

[Adam Busby]

Out in, like, public to this day. Our kids have great immune systems, so it could be a parenting hack.

[Danielle Busby]

How to feed more kids at one time. Sprinkle on the floor.

[Adam Busby]

Sprinkle snacks. And now it's, like, always a. Like, I even, like, bring this up with the girls. Like, if we're, like, going out of town for, like, two days or something like that. They're like, who's going to watch the dogs? Like, well, let's just sprinkle some snacks. They'll be fine. They're like, what? No. All right. What is the funniest or strangest DM you've ever gotten this could out somebody that may be watching this episode?

[Danielle Busby]

I don't know why I pull it up right now.

[Adam Busby]

Gotten one recently.

[Danielle Busby]

I just remember a long A while back, I made a post about something and it was like, probably like a heartfelt, like, sweet thing. And then someone commented and said, I have a brain tumor. I want ice cream. Like, that was the comment that you.

[Adam Busby]

Have a brain tumor or they do?

[Danielle Busby]

Well, I don't know.

[Adam Busby]

Did it say I or you? Well, I don't remember.

[Danielle Busby]

It was a while back, but it was just. It was so random. It had nothing to do with. With the post in. Those two things really didn't go together either, you know, in a sense. So I just remember reading that going, like, what? What?

[Adam Busby]

I remember. I mean, yeah, I mean, obviously we get a lot of DMs, but there's like, for the most part, we probably. We might see most of them. We at least, like, kind of scan through them and, like, swipe through. But obviously you don't have time to, like, respond to everything. Or it's just like something so random that, like, it doesn't even warrant, like, needing to respond. You're just like, oh, okay.

[Danielle Busby]

I don't even know how to go to the DMs anymore. All this stuff changes all the time.

[Adam Busby]

I know. I was posting.

[Danielle Busby]

How do you. How do you go to.

[Adam Busby]

I was posting something from your account the other day, and your Instagram looks different than mine. Like, your messages are at the bottom now, not the top.

[Danielle Busby]

Oh, there they are.

[Adam Busby]

It's weird how Instagram rolls out new, new features to certain accounts and when. And so, like, sometimes, like, Danielle will get, like, an update and it's like, completely different. And then I'll, like, look on my phone and like, oh, there's no update. But hers just looks different now.

[Danielle Busby]

I get a lot of ones, like, in different languages.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, I get that for sure.

[Danielle Busby]

I think it's a. I think it's. It's frustrating a bit where I. If I were to post like a game or something, and then, you know, and then I'll like, link or tag it or say something, and it's like, people get annoyed.

[Adam Busby]

People might come back trying to make that money.

[Danielle Busby]

And I'm like, if you only saw the amount of people asking, where's that from? What's that game?

[Adam Busby]

That's just like, miserable people that are like, gosh, they. They think the worst intentions about everything that you post because they're. They're just either miserable or jealous.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

And nine times out of 10, usually whenever we share, like, a link to something, it's because we know if we, like, post ourselves, like.

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[Adam Busby]

You know, have an interaction with the kids, playing with some new game. Or like, we're going to get 50 DMs asking, oh, what is that? Send me a link. And so, like, we'll just go ahead and put a link in there because we know we're going to get asked anyway. But then you have those people. Those people, Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

I like to know it's been reaching out to me and wanting me to set up a thing.

[Adam Busby]

And I'm like, yeah, I remember Danny Austin wanted me to set up a. Like, to know it.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah, you're.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, she's like, Adam, you totally need a. Like to know it.

[Danielle Busby]

I wish I could find a good one right now. Wow, there's a lot of messages on here I hadn't even seen that are actually from people. Remember, I'm. Dude, I had one lady. I wish I could remember her name, but remember, she was, like, older. Like, a older lady. And she bashed me. Every single time I posted something. She would send me a hateful message.

[Adam Busby]

Remember her? Yeah, I usually, like, sometimes. Sometimes. Well, I may have just blocked her from your account.

[Danielle Busby]

No, I like every.

[Adam Busby]

Every now and then, like, if it's like the same person and, like, I'll like, click on a DM and it's like every response, I gotta swipe up through, like, every responsive ever sent, and every single one of them is something negative or criticism or, like, not a single positive thing.

[Danielle Busby]

Some of them might be like, ew, your earrings are horrible.

[Adam Busby]

This page is clearly. This page is not for you. So, like, I'll just, like, block them. Like, why are you. Why are you even following me? Like, you don't have one nice thing to say about anything, Nick. We just kind of block out, like, people just want to steal your joy. So you just kind of. You gotta. You gotta brush those haters off.

[Danielle Busby]

Shake your haters off.

[Adam Busby]

It's probably what Hazel would say.

[Danielle Busby]

No, she would say, sleigh baddie.

[Adam Busby]

That's Hazel's thing. Hazel's into all, like, the. What the teenagers say now. Yeah, all the kids are. Hazel says, slay so much now.

[Danielle Busby]

Sleigh baddie. What's the other one? Sleigh baddie something. She'll say, like, three words. I'm like, what does all that even mean?

[Adam Busby]

Or you'll. You'll be like. She'll text you something and you'll give her an answer. She's like, okay, slay.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah, slay. And then I start doing it.

[Adam Busby]

Hazel say that like, Our sweetest little redhead. Okay, slay.

[Danielle Busby]

What's something I do that secretly drives you nuts but you love me anyway? Oh, quick to answer already. All the other ones you had to think real hard.

[Adam Busby]

That I secretly find annoying. Well, for one thing.

[Danielle Busby]

No, it says, drives you nuts, but you love me anyway.

[Adam Busby]

How many can I give?

[Danielle Busby]

Rude.

[Adam Busby]

No, it's. It's probably justified.

[Danielle Busby]

Just answer.

[Adam Busby]

It's probably like, the. Which I know that this is Danielle's like, me time of the day. Just like mine is probably is going to the gym. But, like, after all the kids are in bed, like, she'll spend probably an hour and a half. I feel like sometimes two hours because I don't know. Because by the time she comes to bed, I'm asleep. And that, like, annoys me sometimes because, like, sometimes, like, I just want to, like, hang out or like, oh, well, that's the time for, like, us to catch up. And then, like, you're in there. I feel like you're just waiting me out until I go to sleep some nights.

[Danielle Busby]

That is so rude. That would be like, me, like, being mad that you're at the gym, but.

[Adam Busby]

You can't be mad because you don't even know I'm gone.

[Danielle Busby]

Why?

[Adam Busby]

Because you're asleep.

[Danielle Busby]

Well, you're asleep when I'm in the bathtub.

[Adam Busby]

I know, but, like, I don't get to spend any time.

[Danielle Busby]

This is the thing that we're not going to get an argument, but we might. This is the thing that gets annoying, is that I tell you a lot of times, like, everything's fine until you're preferences off.

[Adam Busby]

No, but, like, sometimes, like, I want.

[Danielle Busby]

To just like, then say something.

[Adam Busby]

Spend time with you, then say something.

[Danielle Busby]

Hey, let's hang out. You never, you know, you never tell me what's in your head. I'm always like, what's in there? Tell me what you're thinking. I can't assume. I know, but to me, I'm like, he's just gonna go get right in bed every night.

[Adam Busby]

But it's just like, sometimes you're just like.

[Danielle Busby]

But like, you can't. That's not justifiable because, like, to me, I'm like the kids going to bed. You're like, immediately, you go get in bed. You brush your teeth, you go get in bed.

[Adam Busby]

And I wake up early.

[Danielle Busby]

But, yeah, but this is.

[Adam Busby]

What am I gonna do? Go crawl in the bathtub with you?

[Danielle Busby]

No.

[Adam Busby]

What are you doing in here?

[Danielle Busby]

Well, when you gonna. When you gonna ask me out on.

[Adam Busby]

A date on a weeknight while Our kids are in sleep.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah, you could. Yeah, you could done that. Like, hey, let's go hang out. Let's go hang on the back porch. No, you just get annoyed that I go to the bathtub. Well, I'm annoyed you went to bed. I'm glad you still love me anyway, though. I choose to take a bath.

[Adam Busby]

It's not take a bath. I can take a bath in three minutes.

[Danielle Busby]

You, you go to the gym for two hours. Why can't I do what I want for two hours?

[Adam Busby]

I don't go to the gym for two hours.

[Danielle Busby]

Okay, an hour, 30 minutes.

[Adam Busby]

Hurry back together.

[Danielle Busby]

Why are you not giving me any of time?

[Adam Busby]

Maybe on days that, like, I go to the gym after getting the kids to school, I might take that long.

[Danielle Busby]

But I think this is a fair discussion. This is a fair discussion to have for our listeners because I think this relates to a lot of relationships. You, you go do something that you want to do when I'm still sleeping and the kids are asleep. And yet.

[Adam Busby]

But my thing keeps everyone else in consideration because, like, I'll make it a point to be home to help with getting the kids ready for school.

[Danielle Busby]

And so how is mine not justifiable because the kids go to bed and you go get in bed.

[Adam Busby]

I know, but maybe I want to hang out.

[Danielle Busby]

But they're, they're the exact same scenario, but not your timing. Do you understand? Do you see how it's the same thing?

[Adam Busby]

Kind of.

[Danielle Busby]

Then explain to me how it's not. So our listeners can explain to their husbands, too. How is it not the same?

[Adam Busby]

Because I just don't understand it because I don't take baths either, though.

[Danielle Busby]

Okay, Take the, Take the idea. Take the bath out of it.

[Adam Busby]

Like, I couldn't just, I couldn't just, like, sit in the tub for two hours.

[Danielle Busby]

So take, take.

[Adam Busby]

How many women out there actually like love baths? Yeah, just like, we'll sit in there for hours.

[Danielle Busby]

You got five, six more in this house, that love bath. That's why we need more bathrooms.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, I just can't do it.

[Danielle Busby]

But listen, get bored. Take whatever the thing is out.

[Adam Busby]

So you go, I've tried, I've tried to get.

[Danielle Busby]

Ask a question.

[Adam Busby]

Take the thing out.

[Danielle Busby]

It's not about what the thing is that you want to do for your time and I want to do for my time. It's not about what that actual thing is. So then therefore, what's the problem? No matter what, you're going to bed. No matter what, you're still. No matter what, you are sleeping there's no, they're not. At the same time, they're not. I think, I think this would. I think this statement I'm about to make is relatable. I think you get annoyed because I'm doing something without you and did not include you. Or, or you're assuming I don't want you to, which is that into. That is a statement because it's my, that's my like brown grounding time. Just like your gym time is your grounding time. Okay. That's your time.

[Adam Busby]

But I would actually enjoy it if you came to the gym with me.

[Danielle Busby]

But this is the thing. Like you are a different personality and a different like love language and like all those things. And I'm not the same.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

So I need to be away and you want to be more absorbed. So you want me to go with you? You want me to do this. You don't verbally say those things, but you, you want those wants.

[Adam Busby]

And I'm like, I want you to want to.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. And I want you to want to leave me alone. Because this comes to that introvert, extrovert parts of your day.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, for sure.

[Danielle Busby]

Like. Like when we talk about going to India, there's 400000 people. I'm like, oh my God.

[Adam Busby]

Like I was actually like that last night. Been away. Indianapolis. Get home. And then. Oh, I stayed half the day. I. I got off the airplane, went straight to the office, stayed there for half the day to prep because I had an all day long photo shoot at Good Ranchers Tuesday. And so I just wanted long, A.

[Danielle Busby]

Long couple of days.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. And so I wanted to get everything squared away because I knew we wanted to start this shoot super, super early in the morning because we had to just like. It was one of the more ambitious shoots that we've done. Like, just had a lot of stuff to shoot but got there like got everything prepped, woke up the next morning, didn't go to the gym because I wouldn't have had time. So I didn't get to go to the gym that day and then got to the office before 7am to get prepped. So we were ready to shoot as soon as everybody got there. And then I was there till probably 7:30 last night. And so whenever I got home I was just like done and I was just tired. I'd pretty much been standing all day and I was just like ready to just like collapse. And then you were like organizing everything in the house all day, getting ready for the carpet cleaners for today. And then you're Like, I need all this stuff brought down from upstairs.

[Danielle Busby]

Well, we also had the award thing that night, and I said before you go, sit down, will you please take this downstairs? Because I knew.

[Adam Busby]

I knew it wasn't just one thing. It was, like, stacks of things.

[Danielle Busby]

Babe, I'm used. I needed your muscle.

[Adam Busby]

So by the time, like, we'd gotten everything down, I'm like, I'm done. And I just went. Literally went straight to bed.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah, but the. The. The conversation issue is I was not.

[Adam Busby]

Needy yesterday and needed, like, wanted to hang out. I was just.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. So why is that okay at that moment? See what I'm saying?

[Adam Busby]

Like, but that's not every day for you. I feel like it's every day or near about.

[Danielle Busby]

I feel like you feel like it's every day.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, true.

[Danielle Busby]

I literally take a bath every day, so almost every day. So, like, how you feel at times where you don't get, like, your gym time or whatever, and it makes your day different. That's how I feel when it comes to, like, whatever I'm doing, even, like, my bath time. So this is where I'm saying it's not about what the thing is. It's about giving grace to the other person.

[Adam Busby]

I feel like this is probably a very relatable conversation because it's something the other needs.

[Danielle Busby]

So this shows how you love by giving grace and all those things, but you're not a very big communicator, and you don't verbally talk about what you need or what you want or what you're feeling or, like, it has to be drug out of you.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

So if you were to say, like, hey, I know. So. So husbands or wives out there, who relates to my side or Adam's side, like, if you're like, me saying, communicating.

[Adam Busby]

Intentions goes a long way.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. Like, saying, like, hey, I know you want to take your bath tonight, but, like, before that, you want to go. Like, let's go. Let's go sit on the back porch and just hang out for a bit. Okay. Yeah. I'm totally down. You're not taking away my need for, like, escape and alone time and to get out of the distractions. But you're also you. So you're offering me. I know. Like, let's just have a little bit of time together before you go do that. You're not taking it away from me and absorbing all of me more. Because a lot of times, like, there's a need. I feel like there's a need of, like, I'm always needed. I'm Always needed. I'm always needed. I'm always needed. Which is. It's not a. I'm not. It's not a complaining statement. It just shows that, like, at the end of the day, like, what I want to do is not be around anybody. Like, the introvert in me is like, I just want to breathe. Because I have been doing, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And you're. You're almost the opposite. Your hard part is. Is you're very. You're like a network or social person, but it takes a lot of energy out of you. And so at the end of the day, you want. The introvert of you wants to come out and be, like, coddled in a sense. So we are complete opposites. So the communication through those is where, once again, communication, which we know is our hardest thing. So lesson learned.

[Adam Busby]

Sure.

[Danielle Busby]

That was a great podcast. Started out with Q and A, off to something hopeful and helpful.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. Because we're probably right in an hour, which I didn't think we'd go that long.

[Danielle Busby]

Well, actually, I was looking at the thing going, the carpet guys probably about to be hearing the dogs and start making a bunch of noises. And then you're going to say, your alarms went off. And I'm going to say, no, they were.

[Adam Busby]

All right, so.

[Danielle Busby]

So what did we learn this podcast, and what did we share that was relevant?

[Adam Busby]

I don't think the last part really got that heavy. It just got into, like, a real topic. But I don't know, we always end up going into something, like, very real. And I would hope that's pretty relatable amongst husbands and wives.

[Danielle Busby]

It's not about the gym. It's not about the bath time. It's about understanding each other's need for a breath and, like, that quiet time.

[Adam Busby]

But also, like, communicating expectations.

[Danielle Busby]

Yes. And then communicating expectations and always remembering, too, because we forget this. I do, you do, we all do. You listening doesn't do this well either. And forgets this, too, is that you do not love enough. So show love more to the other person. And that's hard because we're humans and we're selfish and we want what we want. And like I was saying, the older we get, I think the more selfish we get because we. We want to be in our own. Like, Adam, I keep telling him, like, if it's not on your time, you're annoyed. Well, same with me at times, too. So it's like, we gotta stop trying to, like, keep things in our own rhythm and have to show the grace and put the others first. And, like, it's just a hard thing to do. And that's marriage.

[Adam Busby]

That's marriage. So thank you guys for tuning in to episode 34 of more than Reality podcast, and we'll see you in the next one.

[Danielle Busby]

See y'.

[Adam Busby]

All. All right, we love you guys.

[Danielle Busby]

Bye.

[Adam Busby]

Bye, Sam.