
Summer has arrived, and with it comes chaos, camp drop-offs, and… a major life decision we didn’t expect to make. In this episode, Adam and Danielle open up about the shifts happening in their home—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. From...
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Adam Busby
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Danielle Busby
The cleaner wiener. You need to talk about facts. I'm like, okay, Riley, what facts do we need to talk about? She's like, that kid.
Riley Busby
And facts. Like, she wants to know all the details about everything.
Danielle Busby
She's just. She's just like a little person. Just a petite, tiny, little adult. I asked. I asked you a question. And then you'll just stare at me. What's the answer from you? And I'm like, tell me what you're telling yourself in your head. I want to hear it. I want to hear what's inside there, because I know you're thinking of what you should say before you say it.
Riley Busby
Yeah, half the time you don't want to know what's in my head.
Danielle Busby
When we would do the couch interviews for outdaughtered. How many times were I in slippers? How many times were I in PJ pants? And just change the shirt because that's all you see.
Riley Busby
You've gotten bit by that before, too, because they would show, like, a wide shot every once in a while. And what you're. What you're wearing below your shirt, like, doesn't all match.
Danielle Busby
Yeah. So we're going to do, like, a who's more likely to. So they're facts about who's more likely to in the Buzzfeed house.
Riley Busby
Stuff like that.
Danielle Busby
Dropping that bomb.
Riley Busby
Hey, the podcast always gets it first.
Danielle Busby
Dude, you can't say that. We have not even talked to, like, my family or my sister. This is more than reality podcast, where we dive into all things faith, family, and marriage and share that there is so much more than the reality that you see on the surface. Welcome to More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle Busby.
Riley Busby
What's up, guys? Welcome to episode 36. I remembered of More Than Reality podcast.
Danielle Busby
Look, my brain is, like, starting to, like, work better.
Riley Busby
Why is that?
Danielle Busby
Because I'm sleeping good?
Riley Busby
Because you're cozier cozy or because it's summer and then. Well, actually, they still had to wake up early. This week?
Danielle Busby
No, this week. This week. Like, so we started summer camp this week, which is VBS for the girls, and then Blake started tennis drills weekly. So she's got. Today was like. I felt like this morning, you know, it's like, going. Bringing your kids to summer camp is so great, but when it's like, half a day or, like, a couple hours, it's almost like. Like, what do you do in between? Because by the time I bring him over there, you were in a meeting or whatever. Like, I brought him to camp. I came back, I picked Blake up, took her to tennis. I literally came back. I think I unloaded some groceries into the organizing in the pantry, threw the trash away, and was like, it's time to go pick up. So I went back to pick up Blake. Then I went to pick up the quince, and I'm like, really? There was no, like, really anything to, like, tackle. I should have just, like, sat in the car, so. And bring my laptop. So next week, I know, like, I'm gonna drop Blake off, and I'm just gonna sit in the car with my laptop and work, because I've been trying to get through those edits, writing and illustration edits and stuff for the books, so. Which is so exciting because it's all coming together. So exciting. The first book's almost done, so have we talked about that?
Riley Busby
Yeah, a little bit of the kids series. A little bit.
Danielle Busby
Oh, okay.
Riley Busby
Well, the kids series, we haven't really, like, talked. Talked about it.
Danielle Busby
Yeah, so we.
Riley Busby
We definitely talked about it.
Danielle Busby
Okay, so if you don't know, this is episode 36. So we may have talked about this.
Riley Busby
In the past three. Three or four episodes ago.
Danielle Busby
Yeah, just briefly. But I have been working on, like, a devotional life, kind of, like memoir, but in a devotional format. And so that's almost done. But that's almost done. No, that's not almost done. Like, with, like, editing and stuff, it's almost. I'm almost done writing it, and then it'll go through, like, an editing process. So with the kids series that I've Have a kids series, and it's a series of six books. I'm not going to give titles or any of that stuff yet because it's all so cute. And they all are based off of the girls. Each a character, each a book. And so the series is. The hope is that I have everything in hard copies and printed, which is a speedy time frame before October women's event that I'm going to put on. So just seeing illustration go along with the words, like it literally makes me tear up like seeing it come to life and then, you know, and getting the girls involved and asking them do they like that outfit? What about this? And you know, it's just fun. It's just. I never thought I'd have fun doing that because I'm not a writer. But doing it in that format has been so fun to kind of like see it come to life. And just the illustrations make it fun. My book is not going to be illustrations, but maybe I should throw some illustrations.
Riley Busby
Graphic novel of your life.
Danielle Busby
I'll do a graphic novel. That's kind of funny.
Riley Busby
Get a comic book artist.
Danielle Busby
But yeah, all I did was just like run back and forth. I'm like, man, I was just in the car all morning. But it's fine. It's fine because it's still not school time and it's just still summer. So it's still kind of like, whatever.
Riley Busby
Yay.
Danielle Busby
Aren't you proud of me? I haven't been like, I'm starting to get back in bed and sleep and.
Riley Busby
I'm still not quite adjusted to kids being home from school. It just feels weird because I. Because I still am like doing the same stuff I always do. But they're just home now.
Danielle Busby
Yeah. And it's different for me because I, I am home and, and it's almost like we're not, we're not sharing those responsibilities of like go and take and travel on you. So now. Yeah. So it feels weird because we're usually tag teaming like those things back again party.
Riley Busby
But everything, but everything's like during the weekdays, during the day and that's.
Danielle Busby
Yeah, I mean I have like a whole week planned. I like it. I'm like, we're doing this. We're going to film the podcast here. We have to do this afterwards. Then we're going to go but this house and swim and play and then on this day they're going to come over to our house and like I.
Riley Busby
Have like scheduled most mornings. Like the house is pretty much empty.
Danielle Busby
Yeah.
Riley Busby
Just for the, like I come home from the gym and it's like, everybody's pretty much gone. Yeah, that's kind of nice. I can just knock out some stuff. But first, we want to talk about the sponsor. One of the sponsors for today's podcast that is Good Ranchers American Meat Delivered. You can go to goodranchers.com right now. It is the perfect Father's Day present I'm giving my dad Good Ranchers. For Father's Day, I'm ordering the King Cut box because.
Danielle Busby
Just King Cut.
Riley Busby
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Danielle Busby
What are the rest of the.
Riley Busby
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Danielle Busby
And it's a. And it's a tagline right there. So.
Riley Busby
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Danielle Busby
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Riley Busby
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Danielle Busby
Chicken wings are. We need. You need to make some chicken wings because they're so good.
Riley Busby
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Danielle Busby
But, yeah, it's fun. I'm glad the girls are finally doing vbs. I've always missed. Every year, I've always missed the deadline for the quints to be in there.
Riley Busby
I did that my whole childhood.
Danielle Busby
I went with, like, friends, like, a.
Riley Busby
Thing to do in the South. I don't know if it's just the South. It's not just a South thing. Huh?
Danielle Busby
Oh, when we went on Brazil mission trip, we went and did vbs.
Riley Busby
Yeah. Because that's what. We just brought that to another culture.
Danielle Busby
I know, but still, other states do that.
Riley Busby
I don't know.
Danielle Busby
I don't know. Do they do VBS where you're at?
Riley Busby
I didn't grow up in another state, actually.
Danielle Busby
What is vbs?
Riley Busby
Vacation Bible school.
Danielle Busby
Okay, so.
Riley Busby
Which sounds boring. We just been telling our kids that they're going to camp.
Danielle Busby
They love it. Well, they know. They're. They know.
Riley Busby
Vacation Bible school. They're like, what?
Danielle Busby
Well, Blake asked me what it stitched for, and I was like, vacation Bible school. Vacation Bible studies. Vacation Bible school. Bible studies. I didn't know what the S was.
Riley Busby
Yeah, they just have fun. They're doing, like, crafts.
Danielle Busby
Oh, yeah, it's a blast. So there. I'm film with that. But, yeah, I'm loving the summer and just. It is a different pace of life all around with just, like, the work atmosphere. Just everything is still. Is still different.
Riley Busby
Yeah. I mean, this. Since this summer started, I mean, we've gone a little bit into, like, life change and stuff that still are. We've been, like, contemplating and stuff. And obviously all that stuff is still, like, in full swing. Like, actually. Yeah. I mean, we're looking at putting our house on the market and stuff like that.
Danielle Busby
Dropping that bump.
Riley Busby
Hey, the podcast always gets it first.
Danielle Busby
Dude, you can't say that. We have not even talked to, like, my family or my sisters.
Riley Busby
I said, we're thinking about.
Danielle Busby
When we have our family dinner this week. I was going to bring it up. So I was like, you can't. We have to do it before this drops. Then.
Riley Busby
No, they don't listen anyway. Why would we listen? We know Yalls life.
Danielle Busby
We had a conversation. So. Okay, now that you talked about it, I'm gonna talk about it. We had a conversation with the kids.
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Danielle Busby
Is something we feel that, you know, God's wanting to change with us. Like this whole year, he's kind of, like, taken our life, dumped it upside down, is shaking it and wanting all these things to fall out that are not necessary. We still don't know what that's leading to and what's next or where we'll end up, where we'll end up. But we're trying to be obedient to what we find clarity on.
Riley Busby
I'm pretty much stressed out to the max with it all, but that's where.
Danielle Busby
You got to amp up your face.
Riley Busby
No, I just. Yeah, I don't think Faith even has a part in it. I think it's just like knowing everything that has to be done. Faith ain't gonna do everything for me.
Danielle Busby
I don't like that statement. Faith is everything.
Riley Busby
Faith ain't freaking packing up my house and putting in boxes.
Danielle Busby
Well, I told you, you're busy. I got. I will handle it. Plus, it gives me something to work on.
Riley Busby
I'm just thinking about, you know, your office. We're contemplating and coming up with, putting our heads around, you know, is this where we want to stay? You know, there are some compromises that we've made with this house. We love this house, but I wouldn't.
Danielle Busby
Say we love this house.
Riley Busby
I love this house. Thinking forward to.
Danielle Busby
My grandma always said, you don't love things. You love people.
Riley Busby
The kids being in. Well, not being in. The kids being teenagers. We need at least one more bathroom, like, full bathroom. Just thinking about, like, the future and stuff, and six kids. Not even kids. Six teenagers in our house. We need one more full bathroom.
Danielle Busby
And two.
Riley Busby
Yeah, two would be great, but. And it's just hard to find that. I mean, it's just hard to find a house right now with what we're looking for. And so, you know, just thinking, do we sell our house? Do we buy something? Do we sell our house? Do we rent something for a little bit while we just figure out the best place we want to end up? You know, if it's going to be a house that we're buying, I. I particularly don't want to make many compromises if it's something that we're going to buy. And so do we just find something to rent for a year? Thinking the housing market would probably be a little bit better in a year. And then, you know, it allows us to be able to just, you know, we close down Grayson B. There's still, like, some lingering stuff from there that we just. We just want to pay out and just pay off, like, anybody we owe anything to and just, like, pay off Debt, pay off everything. Just not be bound down by anything and just have that cash that if we need to, if we see something that pops up that is a great fit, we can jump on it. And so I think that's, I think that's where our mind is headed right now. That's what we're looking at. It's just nobody likes to move. Whenever you think of a family of eight and just all the stuff, to.
Danielle Busby
Me, it's not about the moving, it's about the change. I don't get stressed out about the moving. I think of, yay. I get to declutter. I get to clean out things, I get to go through things. I get to get rid of stuff. I get.
Riley Busby
We need, we need to call one of those companies and have like one of those big roll off boxes put out, like a construction box put out in front of our house just to like purge when I get, when I, when I get in the mood for stuff like that. And like, okay, do I keep it? Do I organize it, Adam? Like, I'll just start throwing stuff away. Trust me. I threw away three cameras last week that I was like, I haven't touched this in a year.
Danielle Busby
You.
Riley Busby
I could have probably put it, I could have probably put it on Facebook, Marketplace and made, you know, made a little bit of money off of it. But I'm like, I don't even feel like messing with it, so I just like start chunking stuff.
Danielle Busby
You threw them away?
Riley Busby
Yeah.
Danielle Busby
You could have donated it. I got a box of donate stuff right there. But you, you are, you are not a throwawayer. You are a pack rat. And let's talk about what's in your pockets right now. How much trash is in your pockets?
Riley Busby
I don't have any trash in my.
Danielle Busby
Pockets because you don't throw anything away.
Riley Busby
I literally have one thing in my pocket, right? Yeah.
Danielle Busby
But don't tell me I'm wrong. Just this one moment that you just showered and put some pants. Did it restuff your pockets with the trash that you had in from yesterday?
Riley Busby
Yeah. Anyway, so I'm in some major need of some, especially my office because, like this whole. The past months, months, I'm going from camera bag to camera bag, trip to trip to trip. Everything just gets pulled out, thrown on the floor, moved into another bag, and then I'm gone. And then I come home and it's like, oh, I got another trip in about three days from now. And so I just like, leave everything out. And, and so, like, haven't wanted to.
Danielle Busby
Like, his Office is treated like how he cooks. He wants everything just.
Riley Busby
Yeah. Outside.
Danielle Busby
Anything in a box, a cabinet or nothing. He just wants to be able to see everything.
Riley Busby
Yeah. And just because I know, like, once I start organizing, it's going to be like a full day, maybe two days of just pulling out all my storage boxes and, like, organizing all the little accessories that go with every single thing.
Danielle Busby
And that's what he's stressed out about.
Riley Busby
Like, the monumental task of that.
Danielle Busby
But that's what you think about with moving is those things.
Riley Busby
I don't like it.
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Danielle Busby
You can have your.
Riley Busby
I like it once it's done. But, like, going through it, I can think about way more things that I need to do rather than just sitting here and, like, organizing.
Danielle Busby
I can think of things of why.
Riley Busby
I need to get into here, power cables and.
Danielle Busby
But I never touch. I don't touch anything in here because I'm not responsible for anything that's in this room.
Riley Busby
Like, refuse to go. Way too much money in this room.
Danielle Busby
Anyway, we are, like, on a tangent. What are we talking about today? Oh, we're talking about. Okay, so at lunch today, Riley is just like. She's just like a little person. Well, while I'm sitting here cozy in a blanket, it reminds me that. Thank you, cozy Earth, for sponsoring this podcast. That was pretty good.
Riley Busby
It's not a Cozy Earth blanket.
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Riley Busby
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Riley Busby
Thank you. Cozy Earth. And now back to the episode. So now what are we talking about today? You're having lunch today with Riley.
Danielle Busby
Yes. So after camps.
Riley Busby
Not just with Riley, with all the kids.
Danielle Busby
All the kids. And some of them were going to the bathroom, wash their hands, whatever. And Riley, we were talking about the podcast and she says, you need to talk about facts. I'm like, okay, Riley, what facts do we need to talk about?
Riley Busby
She's like that kid in Facts. She's. She wants to know all the details about everything.
Danielle Busby
She's just. She's just like a little person, just a petite, tiny, little adult.
Riley Busby
And she likes to soak in as much information as possible.
Danielle Busby
And when you don't, and when she's not around, just like everybody, she just is non stop. I mean, she just non stop talking and throwing questions out.
Riley Busby
Most of her sentences start with did you know?
Danielle Busby
Yeah, I mean, it's just. I love it. Today she said, let's talk about facts. And I was like, well, what do you. What facts? And she's like, I don't know that I'm amazing and I'm beautiful. And I'm like, everybody knows those facts. So I just thought it was really sweet. And so I was like, you know what? We're going to do some facts statements.
Riley Busby
And about how amazing Riley is.
Danielle Busby
No.
Riley Busby
Yeah.
Danielle Busby
Did Riley write these questions there? So we're going to do like a. Who's more likely to. So they're facts about who's more likely to in the Busby house.
Riley Busby
Oh, in our whole house. Not just between me and you.
Danielle Busby
I feel like the questions are. Would be mostly me and you. But if we really think that, like, it falls on one of the quints or Blake, like, I feel like we should put them in there. So first one's up. This is going to be a mix of, like some laughter, some relatability, some faith.
Riley Busby
It should probably be between me and you.
Danielle Busby
Yeah.
Riley Busby
But then, yeah, primarily like me and you. But if one of them pops out as one of the kids too.
Danielle Busby
So who is more likely to start crying during a commercial?
Riley Busby
A commercial.
Danielle Busby
Unless I'm pregnant, I'll. I'm not crying and I'm not pregnant and I won't be pregnant. So it's definitely not me. I feel like that would fall on like a Olivia or Ava thing.
Riley Busby
I mean, out of me and you would be me.
Danielle Busby
Yeah. Have you ever cried in a commercial?
Riley Busby
In a commercial or at a commercial? I've never cried in a commercial, but.
Danielle Busby
At a commercial, I cried at one commercial.
Riley Busby
There was one There was one commercial. Was it around the super bowl that Apple did with the AirPods? It was pretty emotional.
Danielle Busby
Oh.
Riley Busby
Like the dad not being able to hear how the new AirPods have, like, it's kind of like a hearing aid built into them now.
Danielle Busby
Oh, yeah.
Riley Busby
With this update and you can actually hear your surroundings better. And that was like, a pretty emotional one. I think that made me tear up a little bit.
Danielle Busby
Yeah. The very first time I ever cried a commercial was I was pregnant with Blake. And it was a soap commercial. It was a soap commercial. And it was like the family and the baby. And I cried at that commercial and at that moment because I'm not a sensitive, like, crier. I was like, I'm having a girl. That was. I knew I was having a girl because I cried a commercial. All right, now. Love this one. Who is more likely to accidentally leave a kid at church?
Riley Busby
It's me.
Danielle Busby
Oh, yeah. Yeah.
Riley Busby
Because I do get caught talking to people.
Danielle Busby
Because the other. I mean, it was a while ago.
Riley Busby
Whenever you and I both, like, drive separate because we have either have came, come from different directions or are going somewhere right after church. Sometimes we'll drive separately. And so, like, we'll each have our own conversations going. I feel like mine usually end up taking longer. And then my kids will just, like, walk away and just meander to the car. And I'm just. We'll assume that they all go. That they're with you.
Danielle Busby
Yeah. So Adam would be the one to leave. I really do feel like it would be.
Riley Busby
I don't think I would ever leave them, though. I think I would.
Danielle Busby
That's all he has to do.
Riley Busby
Okay.
Danielle Busby
We have to do roll call in the car.
Riley Busby
Which ones you got?
Danielle Busby
Yeah. Who's more likely to eat snacks that are meant for kids lunches? Depends on what it is.
Riley Busby
Depends on what it is. For sure. It depends on my mood, too. Like, I get in, like a sweet mood, like a sweet tooth mood, or like I just say you get a.
Danielle Busby
Sweet mood or a sweet tooth mood.
Riley Busby
I will binge on just like, whatever is close to me for like a day, and then it's like out of my system.
Danielle Busby
Like a week.
Riley Busby
Depends.
Danielle Busby
Yeah. Yeah. I think that's definitely you. I. I'll. I'll have, like, some snacks, but I don't know.
Riley Busby
Always regret it, though. All right, so we're going to take a little break for our sponsor today, which is Good Ranchers. And we just want to thank Good Ranchers for sponsoring the show. Did you know that 85% of grass fed beef that is sold in stores in America is coming from overseas.
Danielle Busby
Gross. I did not know that.
Riley Busby
I mean it could be gross. I just don't know where it's coming from. That's why good ranchers fights against that. All good ranchers beef, they have beef, chicken, pork, seafood. It all comes from US farms and ranches and everything is born, raised, harvested in the usa. I think before we finish this podcast, another US ranch is going to go out of business. And it's not because they just stopped doing hard work. It's because all the meat that you see in your local grocery store is coming from foreign countries. And just because of the USDA labeling law, they let, they let the cool act expire. And so what that does is as long as the meat is in its final stages of packaging, they're allowed to put a USDA label on it and say it's a product to the US and sketchy. Yeah, it's super sketchy. I mean like any other, any other product that you can buy in the, in the store, it's going to say where it came from, where its origin is from. Why, why do we allow that with our meat? I mean that's crazy. And so right now we are offering@goodranchers.com a special. You get $40 off with the code BUSBEE++ as long as you have a subscription, you get free meat for life. So you get a choice of wagyu burgers, bacon, hot dogs and chicken wings right now. And so you can go to GoodRanchers.com or you go to GoodRanchers.Com busbee and get the Busbee box. It's hand selected staples that we eat in our house every single week. Yeah.
Danielle Busby
Especially the chicken nuggets which are the antibiotic free and avocado oil.
Riley Busby
Yeah.
Danielle Busby
Made chicken nuggets that literally are chunks of chicken that they have figured out how to make them a nugget with crispiness that doesn't feel soggy and gross.
Riley Busby
Yeah. The chicken nuggets are whole chunk chicken breast.
Danielle Busby
So we have that in our box and that is a game changer for us.
Riley Busby
Gluten free seed oil free. I would say it's better than one.
Danielle Busby
Very few what we ate for lunch today.
Riley Busby
One very famous out on the road chicken place here in America.
Danielle Busby
So check out goodranchers.com and use the code Buzz B to get $40 off.
Riley Busby
And that'll make a great gift for Father's Day.
Danielle Busby
That is.
Riley Busby
We got Father's Day coming up. I'm giving, I'm personally gifting My dad the King Cut box. So hopefully dad's not listening because you just ruined it. I'm horrible about surprise, but he'll be so excited. Yeah. Because just last week, they're over at our house. We were off to Indy 500. They were staying with the kids, and he kept raving and raving about the filets, and the filets are in the King Cut box. And so I'm like, I'm getting dad the King Cut box this year.
Danielle Busby
Yeah.
Riley Busby
And so, yeah, it's. It's awesome. I mean, the King Cut box is, like, top tier awesome box. Get your dad the King Cut box this year for father's Day with $40.
Danielle Busby
Off with code Busby.
Riley Busby
It'll make a great gift. Yeah.
Danielle Busby
So thanks, Good ranchers.
Riley Busby
Thank you. Good ranchers. Go to good ranchers.com. american meat delivered.
Danielle Busby
Who's more likely to start a spontaneous family dance party?
Riley Busby
Hazel, Dude.
Danielle Busby
And Mom, I'm always doing dance parties. Remember when they were little, we always do dance. But I shared that the other day. Honestly, the hop like a bunny. Oh, my gosh. Were they not so cute? I shared that on my story. Them hopping like a bunny. Hazel always dance parties always keep things alive. Like when you're trying to cook dinner and try to do things.
Riley Busby
Hazel will dance. Olivia and Ava will just, like, jump and do tricks.
Danielle Busby
Yeah. Oh, gosh. This is so me. Forget why you walked into a room. Like, what did I walk into this room for that is 100% me. And then I would say, it's Blake.
Riley Busby
Yeah.
Danielle Busby
I always forget when I'm walking into a room that's. That's, like, just getting older, too. Like, not in menopause, but, like, the perimenopause. I'm not impairment of pause either, but, like, you get, like, brain fog. And I'm like. Like, I cannot talk to. I can't talk to Katie, Priscilla, or Mandy on the phone in the car, because I will never end up going where I'm supposed to. 100 of the time. I'm like, I'll have some. Answer the phone. They're on. I'm like, katie, I'm going to Costco. Okay? I'm going to Costco right now. So remind me. I'm going to costume. We'll get to talking. And then I'm like, where am I? I'm not even on my way to Costco. I want the opposite direction.
Riley Busby
You'll be in, like, the middle of a thought. Like, you just, like, act on something that just pops in your mind. And, like, I'm not like that. Like, I'll, like, think about something and think. You think before I start to move. But you, you'll be like, doing something and something pops in your mind and you'll just, like, head that direction.
Danielle Busby
I like to call that multitasking.
Riley Busby
But then you forget where you're going.
Danielle Busby
Yeah.
Riley Busby
All it takes is one mom. And then you're.
Danielle Busby
And I always tell Adam, I asked you a question. And then you'll just stare at me. And I'm like, what's the answer from you? And I'm like, tell me what you're telling yourself in your head. I want to hear it. I want to hear what's inside there. Because I know you're thinking of what you should say before you say it.
Riley Busby
Yeah, half the time you don't want to know what's in my head.
Danielle Busby
Oh, really? Why?
Riley Busby
Because I've learned over the years just to not immediately respond.
Danielle Busby
Okay, I'll take that as a. A good thing. Who would say yes to a pet the kids have been begging for? Can we talk about Fuzzy Bun? Bun, Bun Bun. Fuzzy. What was his name?
Riley Busby
Bun Bun. Fuzzy Nuts.
Danielle Busby
Bun Bun. I went out of town and came.
Riley Busby
Back to a rabbit.
Danielle Busby
A 7 year old and some 3 year old. Quintuplets with a rabbit. A bunny rabbit. And he was incredibly cute. He was incredibly soft.
Riley Busby
He pooped an incredibly amount of times in the house.
Danielle Busby
We did not need bunnies. Or unless you have a place to like, really have them outside.
Riley Busby
You don't realize how messy rabbits are.
Danielle Busby
Just, they're pee. Oh, you remember that smell?
Riley Busby
Yeah. Super strong.
Danielle Busby
It's like so, like ammonia. Who would be the binge, watch a whole show in one night? You totally.
Riley Busby
I'd get through 15 minutes of an episode and I'm out.
Danielle Busby
And then the next day, he goes and puts it on. I'm like, dude, you were watching this last night? Like, last night. What were you watching last night? Baseball?
Riley Busby
Oh, yeah, I was watching it. I was watching the LSU game. Thank goodness they won. But I was watching it. And I was. I was. I. I was in and out. But, like, I would. I would sleep for a couple minutes, then I wake up, sleep for a couple minutes, wake up. I was like, in and out, but I was still, like, in the game.
Danielle Busby
I love when. And then.
Riley Busby
And then all of a sudden I just. I was. My eyes were open.
Danielle Busby
Literally, I literally go off, and I was like, just staring at you, and I'm like, yep, it's going off. And then after it's off, I lay down. He's like, did you turn the TV off?
Riley Busby
Like, I'm watching that game.
Danielle Busby
You say that all the time, and it's not true. Like, dude, you've been snoring.
Riley Busby
Some days it'll take me, like, three nights just to finish one episode of a show.
Danielle Busby
That's why I can't watch anything with you anymore, because, like, you're even. Like, Sometimes I'm like, let's watch a movie or whatever. And you. He fixes a cup of coffee. He gets in bed, and he. Sit straight up in bed with pillows.
Riley Busby
Prep myself for.
Danielle Busby
And I'm like, it's not gonna work. Like, you're still gonna go. Like, your head's gonna fall. But he's like, yeah, it doesn't matter. I'm gonna stay up. Stay up. Never happens. Never happens. He would leave that house in slippers. I think we all know that one.
Riley Busby
It's 100% you.
Danielle Busby
Adam wouldn't never walk out the house without prime shoes on.
Riley Busby
True.
Danielle Busby
That matched whatever he was wearing. Of the differences, it's actually funny. I mean, this is. This is why the show is more than reality, because this is where you get to know more than. How many times. Okay, here's like, a. Here's a story. How many times. Like a. Here's a. Did you know when we would do the couch interviews for outdaughtered? How many times were I in slippers? How many times were I in PJ pants and just changed the shirt? Because that's all you see.
Riley Busby
You've gotten bit by that before, too, because they would show, like, a wide shot, and you're, like, every once in a while and what you're. What you're wearing below your shirt, like, doesn't all match.
Danielle Busby
Yeah. 90% of the time, I was, like, in comfortable pants or shorts with socks and slippers. Things you didn't know. Laugh at the wrong moment during a serious conversation.
Riley Busby
No, it's probably me.
Danielle Busby
Probably. Yes, it would be.
Riley Busby
I always have. I don't know. I have dark humor and. Or, like, I'll think of something very sarcastic to say. That's completely inappropriate.
Danielle Busby
No, you don't take a moment and make.
Riley Busby
And I try to hold it in.
Danielle Busby
You'll take a hard moment or a.
Riley Busby
Serious moment and try to lighten the mood.
Danielle Busby
Lighten the mood with something off the wall, like a. You can't say that right now.
Riley Busby
But that's helped a lot of our friends. Like, we. We've had friends. I'm not going to talk about those kind of things. I mean, but we've. We've had some friends, like, in, like, serious or dark moments or, like, a death or whatever. We've been at, like, a funeral and stuff like that. And I've always gotten, like, compliments, but, like, man, like, I'm so glad you're here, because, like, you know, people just, like, walk up to you and don't know what to say, and I'll just, like, say something just completely off the wall just to, like, take them out of that moment. And they appreciate that.
Danielle Busby
Yes. Who's more likely to give in during discipline because the kid just looked too cute?
Riley Busby
Oh, I don't know if we're both together, I don't know that either one of us would do that, but I.
Danielle Busby
Don'T think we ever give in to the discipline, but we catch it, and both will kind of, like, look away at each other and be like, how do we keep our face straight? You know? Because there's been lots of moments, especially when they were a little younger, like, dude, you can't.
Riley Busby
Don't crack.
Danielle Busby
Don't crack. Yeah. Hold strong. Hold strong. Lots of times where you have to, like, hide your face, and you're literally, like, dying, laughing inside, you know, like, she forked me.
Riley Busby
Hazel forked me.
Danielle Busby
Hazel forked me. Like, come on. How do you stay serious with that when that's so funny and cute? Pull a prank on one another? I would say we both do that, but you definitely, for sure, you. Oh, tell them. Tell them what you did Monday. Monday. Oh, I died.
Riley Busby
Did you? You never said you found it.
Danielle Busby
Huh?
Riley Busby
Wait, there was something else. Never mind.
Danielle Busby
No, Hazel told me.
Riley Busby
No, Hazel told me, play cockroach.
Danielle Busby
Yes.
Riley Busby
In your purse.
Danielle Busby
And I swear, I have thrown that bag away of hundred rubbery, fake cockroaches that Adam bought to just randomly scare the crap out of me whenever. After he threw one on me, a real live one when I was in the bathtub. Accident, he says, and died laughing for 40 hours. But I could tell he was doing. Y' all were doing something. Well, I'm not coming over there either.
Riley Busby
Right after the house gets sprayed for pest or, like, after a rain. Like, we'll. Because we have these huge oak trees, and obviously that's where cockroaches live, is in the big oak trees. And so, like, they'll come through, like, the kitchen door or something like that, like, underneath the door. So every now and then we'll get one. There was one. There was one, like, right by the. Right by the side door to the garage in the kitchen. And all the girls were freaking out. Riley's not. You want me get it? And so Ava. Ava's the one that's like the drama queen with the cockroach. And so what I did was I killed it. And then I picked it up with a paper towel. But then I had the fake roach. I went and grabbed the fake roach, and I threw that dead roach away, grabbed a new paper towel, and folded the fake roach up. And I started chasing Ava with the fake roach.
Danielle Busby
I heard it.
Riley Busby
She thought the real roach was in that paper towel.
Danielle Busby
Don't act like you never done that with the real roach. Anyway.
Riley Busby
And I chased her all over, and I hemmed her up in the pantry.
Danielle Busby
Who's crying? Like, this is dramatic.
Riley Busby
And I put it right on her lips, y'. All.
Danielle Busby
This is what I deal with every single day.
Riley Busby
And then she realized it was just fake.
Danielle Busby
No. But then Hazel told me. Hazel walked up. I said, I will not walk over there until I know that that roach is gone. And Hazel walks up to my purse and takes it. Daddy, put it in your purse. Mom put it in your purse. And said, throw it away, Hazel. She's like, it's the fake one. Throw it away. Throw it away. But what you did on Monday, which was funny because we had, like, the packets for vbs with their bracelet that they needed for their week and, like, their name card or whatever. And there was. There was one. Well, Adam, it, like, crawled on the packet or in the packet or something of Reese's. And you're like, oh, it went in there. Let's keep it in there and give this to Reese. And I was like, I will not be driving with a roach in the car. I don't care. You give it to Reese. I'm not taking it with me. But what's so funny is that we had already taken her bracelet out. So the packet Reese didn't need, but I was going to give it to Aaron, and. And how hilarious would it have been if Aaron opened it and the roach would have came out? Now, I would have laughed at that, but I didn't want to drive with it in the car. But this is what he does.
Riley Busby
He.
Danielle Busby
Like, this is why I have trust issues. Because I don't know if he's gonna put a roach in my bed, in my purse, in my coffee, in the bathtub every once in a while. I can get you. But it's. Usually he plays it off like it didn't scare him. Start a DIY project and not finish it.
Riley Busby
You.
Danielle Busby
I mean, you're kind of the same way, too.
Riley Busby
The wallpaper in our bedroom, there's still a strip that's been there for a year that you haven't put in. So it's the entire walls.
Danielle Busby
No, it's just because I was short.
Riley Busby
Strip.
Danielle Busby
No, it's not one strip. It's like six inches. And it's because I was not a six inch strip, but my strips were like 18 inches.
Riley Busby
But still.
Danielle Busby
I'm just saying because it's been like that for a year because I was short. It was short that much and I just needed to order another strip.
Riley Busby
I mean, if I, if I start a project, like, I will. I usually put like everything in the world aside until I finish it.
Danielle Busby
But a completed project is one that is starting.
Riley Busby
I gotta start it though, start it.
Danielle Busby
Finished and finished. Which means I gotta start up. All the trash is cleaned afterwards. The tools are up. You won't do that part of it. Like when the Walmart.
Riley Busby
There may be a few, A few, A few tools left in that spot once the project's done.
Danielle Busby
But yeah, you'll, you'll complete a project to perfection, but you won't pick up whatever it took to do the project. You'll leave, just leave it around. But that's part of the project.
Riley Busby
That could be argued.
Danielle Busby
I feel like that would been something on like Big Bang Theory. Snoop at a teen's text message when the days come.
Riley Busby
No, that's totally you.
Danielle Busby
I don't snoop about it. I'm like straight up giving your phone and I'm gonna look at your messages.
Riley Busby
That's snooping.
Danielle Busby
It's not snooping. Snooping means you go behind their back and do.
Riley Busby
I mean, that's good parenting. I'm not gonna say it's not.
Danielle Busby
It's not. If. I mean, I wouldn't say. I don't like the word snoop. Because snoop means sneaky, right?
Riley Busby
No, not necessarily.
Danielle Busby
I mean, I don't. I. If I want to pick up.
Riley Busby
I mean, our kids know we have access to all their stuff anyway.
Danielle Busby
It's like I can see it and I, and I, it's like, that's not. I give you respect and, you know, some privacy allowing you to text. But at any given time, I can pick this up and read whatever I want off of it. I also can do it from my phone. Like there's all these things that like, you want to, you want to. As they get older, you want to give them like this like, space to learn how to text or communicate that way or whatnot. But also it's still us parenting where it's like, I'm not giving you full reins of that. Like, we still have control over. Over your protection. And if I want to pick up the phone that we pay for, that we pay for. And we are giving you for certain reasons, but you're leisurely using it for friendships and texting your friends. We have the rights to pick that up.
Riley Busby
I mean, I. I agree, but you're the one more likely to do that.
Danielle Busby
Yeah.
Riley Busby
I am.
Danielle Busby
I am. Who would say, we need to talk and it's something super minor. You 1. You would never use those words. I was. I would probably be the one to say, like, hey, let's. Let's find a time to talk, or let's talk about this. But. But you would. You would. It would be something super minor.
Riley Busby
I would just go straight into the conversation and probably in time, at full speed that you.
Danielle Busby
When you're ready, at full speed, of all the analytical questions and points made around what lanyard? Like, something super stupid. Like, I just see a lanyard over there. So I'm thinking it would be, like, nothing that is important for, like, the family. It would be, like, something that you think is a big deal, which, therefore, then is a big deal to me. Right. Oh, I love this one. Accidentally embarrasses the kids in public, but in a fun way. Dude, that's, like, the best. Like, that. I feel like we both do. That is so fun. It's so fun.
Riley Busby
Like, walking into. It's usually. Not by accident, though. Usually very much so on purpose.
Danielle Busby
Yeah.
Riley Busby
Like, walk. Walking into Blake's award banquet. Like, walking down the hallway.
Danielle Busby
Oh, and you're like, hold my hand.
Riley Busby
And I kept holding her hand. She's trying to get away from me so, so bad. I'm just holding her.
Danielle Busby
Pictures of me of that. He's like, hold my hand. She's like, stop.
Riley Busby
Right as we're walking right up to the auditorium with all her friends.
Danielle Busby
Not all her friends.
Riley Busby
The whole eighth grade, I'm like. Kept grabbing her hand. She was like, quit it.
Danielle Busby
What's so funny is that you think at that age that, like, one thing that you think like that is that teenager that everybody notices it. Like, I guarantee you, not in one person would have said, like, oh, Blake was holding her dad's hand. Like, nobody would have noticed that. But it made for good fun laughs for us. Get emotional. Watching old videos of the girls. Adam.
Riley Busby
Me.
Danielle Busby
Yeah.
Riley Busby
I get on the field sometimes I'll get on, like, a rabbit hole of, like, all the old videos on my phone or, like, just old projects that I've done for sure.
Danielle Busby
Trust God boldly, even when the future looks uncertain.
Riley Busby
That's totally you. Yeah, I think I'm. I'm more of. More of the worrier.
Danielle Busby
Just so thankful I'm not a worrier.
Riley Busby
I get caught up in all the. Just the details of everything, and I'm just like, will bog me down. And it takes me. It takes me a while to, like, kind of go back to, like, faith and just, okay, whatever. I'm not gonna worry about this. But, like, I always immediately go to that first for sure.
Danielle Busby
But I think. I think that's where, like, you know, in our differences, there's compliment for the other strengths.
Riley Busby
Right.
Danielle Busby
And so, like, when we talk about that, like, that someone who worries is more of a worrier. Anxiety. A worry. I actually talked about this little encouragement thing in my story yesterday, and I really. I really don't have anxiety and I don't have worry. There are things that will probably bother me or make me worried about, but I don't. I don't feel those. Like, the heaviness of those things. Like, I don't think really ever. Like, really ever. Whether it comes from financial, comes to school, comes to being a mom, comes to being pregnant, come to. You might die. Like, it's like all those things. Like, I don't feel the weight of it because I think I know. And you know, and this is what's interesting, is that you know the facts, too. Riley wants to talk about facts, we're gonna talk about facts. I know the fact. The fact is, is that my trust in God, so my faith. I trust my faith more than I trust the things that I can't control.
Riley Busby
I get.
Danielle Busby
I get it doesn't mean that it's easy, but I have. I know that that's first.
Riley Busby
Yeah, it just takes.
Danielle Busby
You know that too. You just have a harder time, which is so. Which is so ironic because I'm like, the controller, but I can put my faith first. And you're not a controller, in a sense. You are more of the freer, free spirit, in a sense. But when it comes to faith and control, you try to control before you face. So it's weird, like, how we're switched, but it's good stuff.
Riley Busby
Yep.
Danielle Busby
So you need me. Amen.
Riley Busby
I was saying you need me.
Danielle Busby
Amen. So anyway, this was fun. I think a lot of them. I think a lot of these were mostly you hope this. Hope this episode approved. Like, is Riley approved? We'll have to let her. Have to let her listen to some of this and, like, say, see if she approves of the facts and see if she agrees if it was mom or dad.
Riley Busby
All right, guys. So thank you guys for tuning in to episode 36 of More Than Reality podcast. And we will see you in the next one.
Danielle Busby
Yep. Peace out, guys. Love you.
Riley Busby
Love you guys. Sam.
Episode: EP 36 - A Big Family Change Is Coming… But Are We Ready for It?
Release Date: June 5, 2025
In Episode 36 of More Than Reality, hosts Adam and Danielle Busby delve into the impending significant changes facing their large family. Balancing the joys of summer activities, personal projects, and the complexities of managing a household of eight, they candidly explore whether they are prepared for the upcoming transitions. The episode intertwines heartfelt discussions with lighthearted moments, offering listeners an unfiltered glimpse into the Busby family's dynamic.
Timestamp: [03:08]
Danielle and Riley discuss the onset of summer routines, including Vacation Bible School (VBS) for the girls and Blake’s weekly tennis drills. Danielle shares her excitement about advancing her writing projects:
Danielle Busby ([04:38]): "I'm working on a devotional life memoir in a devotional format, and it's almost done. The first book's nearly complete, and I'm thrilled to see it come together with illustrations."
Riley adds insights into her contributions to the children's book series, highlighting the collaborative process with their daughters:
Riley Busby ([04:34]): "The kids series is a series of six books, each based on one of the girls. It's been fun seeing their characters come to life through illustrations."
Timestamp: [10:51]
A significant portion of the episode revolves around the Busbys' contemplation of selling their current home. They discuss the challenges posed by the current housing market and the logistics involved in moving a large family:
Riley Busby ([10:51]): "We’re looking at putting our house on the market. Finding a house that meets all our needs right now is tough."
Danielle elaborates on their strategic approach to ensure financial stability:
Danielle Busby ([14:23]): "We’re considering renting first to give ourselves time to pay off debts and save up, allowing us to jump on a great opportunity when it arises."
They also touch on the emotional aspects of moving and the importance of decluttering:
Danielle Busby ([15:53]): "For me, it's not about the moving; it's about the change. I love decluttering and getting rid of unnecessary stuff."
Timestamp: [16:22]
Riley candidly discusses her struggles with organization, especially pertaining to her workspace:
Riley Busby ([16:22]): "I'm in major need of organizing my office. Every trip I take leaves my workspace cluttered, and I avoid tackling it because it feels like a monumental task."
Danielle shares her perspective on their differing organizational habits:
Danielle Busby ([17:58]): "But that’s what you think about with moving is those things."
Their dialogue underscores the everyday challenges of maintaining order in a bustling household.
Timestamp: [23:06]
In a playful segment, Danielle and Riley engage in a "Who's More Likely To" game, highlighting their parenting dynamics and the personalities within the family. They touch upon topics like emotional responses, discipline, and privacy:
Danielle Busby ([25:38]): "Who’s more likely to accidentally leave a kid at church? It’s me."
Riley Busby ([38:16]): "I try to hold it in, but sometimes I lighten the mood with something off the wall."
This segment reveals their teamwork in parenting, balancing discipline with a sense of humor to manage their six teenage daughters.
Timestamp: [12:44]
A heartfelt discussion emerges as Danielle speaks about their faith guiding them through life's uncertainties:
Danielle Busby ([12:44]): "We feel that God is wanting to change us, shaking up our lives, and we're trying to be obedient to what we find clarity on."
Riley reflects on her approach to faith versus stress:
Riley Busby ([13:25]): "Faith ain't gonna do everything for me. I have to pack up my house and put things in boxes."
Their conversation emphasizes the role of faith in navigating significant life changes and the balance between divine trust and personal responsibility.
Throughout the episode, the Busbys infuse humor into their discussions, making light of everyday mishaps and family antics. From Riley’s humorous take on her tendency to leave things disorganized to hilarious instances like chasing their daughter with a fake cockroach, they showcase the warmth and laughter that underpin their family life.
Danielle Busby ([35:02]): "Who's more likely to give in during discipline because the kid just looked too cute? It's me."
Such moments not only entertain but also highlight the affectionate dynamics within the Busby household.
Timestamp: [53:33]
The episode concludes with Danielle and Riley reflecting on their strengths and differences, reinforcing the importance of complementary roles within their marriage and parenting approach.
Riley Busby ([50:46]): "I get caught up in all the details, but you trust your faith first."
Danielle Busby ([51:04]): "Our differences complement each other’s strengths."
They express gratitude to listeners and hints at future discussions, leaving the audience with a sense of anticipation for what lies ahead for the Busby family.
Episode 36 of More Than Reality offers an intimate look into the Busby family's life as they navigate significant changes. Through honest conversations, humor, and reflections on faith, Adam and Danielle Busby provide valuable insights into managing a large family, dealing with life's uncertainties, and maintaining strong family bonds. Listeners are left inspired by their resilience and the genuine love that sustains their vibrant household.