EP 37 - We’re Selling the House… But Trusting for What’s Next

Summary

More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle Busby
Episode 37: "We’re Selling the House… But Trusting for What’s Next"
Release Date: June 12, 2025

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Introduction

In Episode 37 of More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle Busby, hosts Adam and Danielle delve into a significant and emotional topic: the potential sale of their long-time family home. This episode offers an intimate look into their decision-making process, the impact on their family dynamics, and the role of faith in navigating life's uncertainties.

Celebrating Milestones and Family Gatherings

The episode begins with Adam and Danielle celebrating Adam's recent birthday. They recount how the family came together to mark the occasion amidst their busy schedules:

• Adam (02:15): “We've been in full-on house mode the past few weeks now trying to tackle all these little projects.”

• Danielle (05:21): “We did cake and I smoked a brisket. That’s your love, what you love to do as a 40-year-old man.”

This celebration serves as a backdrop for the broader discussions about their home and family life.

Facing the Decision to Sell the House

A significant portion of the conversation centers around the contemplation of selling their house—once envisioned as their forever home:

• Adam (03:04): “We're potentially putting our house on the market...”

• Danielle (13:04): “We have to make the overall decision what is best for this family.”

They acknowledge the emotional weight of this decision, considering factors like ongoing house projects and the challenges of coordinating a move for a large family of eight.

Communication Styles and Decision-Making

Adam and Danielle explore their differing approaches to processing decisions, highlighting how these differences can lead to conflicts:

• Danielle (15:12): “I can make a decision quicker than you on a lot of things because you analyze and process and then we get in a fight because you don't answer my questions.”

• Adam (15:52): “I like to fully think something through rather than just act on it.”

Danielle identifies herself as a verbal processor who benefits from talking through decisions, while Adam prefers internal processing, leading to challenges in aligning their decision-making timelines.

Parenting Challenges: Blake’s Transition to High School

A central concern in their discussion is their daughter Blake’s upcoming transition to high school, especially in the context of a potential move:

• Adam (33:28): “Blake is going to be starting a new school next year, and that's what we've been struggling with.”

• Danielle (36:00): “We want to take her out of what she’s built here and whatnot. However, we as the parents have to make the overall decision what is best for this family.”

They express anxiety over how the move might affect Blake’s social life and academic experience, emphasizing the importance of making decisions that support her well-being.

Faith and Trust in God’s Plan

Faith plays a pivotal role in their approach to uncertainty and change. Both Adam and Danielle discuss how they rely on their spiritual beliefs to guide their decisions:

• Danielle (25:44): “I'm telling you this to hopefully encourage you to find peace too with the decisions that we're making as a family.”

• Adam (29:30): “Strengthen yourself in the Lord and, you know, He will carry you through.”

They recount a moment of spiritual affirmation at church, which reinforced their trust in pursuing what they believe is God’s plan for their family.

Coping with Change Together

The couple emphasizes the importance of partnership and mutual support in facing major life changes:

• Danielle (22:34): “We are bonded through marriage and this is your companion, and you are to do life together.”

• Adam (42:27): “He's like our helper. He goes before us through those times.”

They discuss overcoming the natural resistance to change by leaning on each other and their shared faith, fostering a united front in decision-making.

Role of the Church and Community Support

Their church, One Life Church Houston, provides them with additional support and guidance during this transitional period:

• Adam (43:56): “The series right now is called 'Family Legacy,' and it’s been really good for us.”

• Danielle (35:57): “We've been super blessed by this series... His messages have been exactly what we've been wrestling with.”

The hosts highlight how the church community and its teachings offer them reassurance and practical advice, reinforcing their resolve to follow their faith-based convictions.

Conclusion

In this heartfelt episode, Adam and Danielle Busby candidly share their family's contemplation of selling their home and the myriad emotions that accompany such a decision. Through honest dialogue, they reveal the complexities of balancing personal processing styles, parenting responsibilities, and unwavering faith. Their journey underscores the importance of communication, partnership, and spiritual reliance in navigating life's unpredictable paths.

As they conclude the episode, they leave listeners with a sense of hope and encouragement to trust in their own journeys:

• Danielle (44:35): “We hope this spoke to some of you. Thanks for listening.”

• Adam (45:13): “Thank you guys for tuning in, and we will see you in the next one.”

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Notable Quotes:

• Adam Busby (05:30): “I picked up a brisket, put it on the smoker for like 17 hours. That Traeger makes things so simple.”

• Danielle Busby (22:34): “God created woman as a helper. So as the man in the role... we have to come together.”

• Adam Busby (29:29): “He wants you to come to him.”

These quotes encapsulate the blend of everyday family life, personal passions, and deep-seated faith that define the Busby family's reality beyond their public persona.

Transcript

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[Danielle Busby]

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[Adam Busby]

What's up, guys?

[Danielle Busby]

Welcome back.

[Adam Busby]

What episode is it, babe?

[Danielle Busby]

37.

[Adam Busby]

This is more than reality. Episode 37.

[Danielle Busby]

Boom.

[Adam Busby]

Good job.

[Danielle Busby]

My brain fog is getting better and better sometimes.

[Adam Busby]

I was about to ask you in the intro. I'm like, no, I'm gonna put her on the spot. And I didn't feel like muting the mics on the intro.

[Danielle Busby]

What's up? So happy birthday, Adam. His birthday was yesterday?

[Adam Busby]

Yep. I told Danielle. She's like, what do you want to do for your birthday?

[Danielle Busby]

He's like, nothing. I'm like, that's lame.

[Adam Busby]

I'd rather be low key. I feel like we've just been so. We've made. I guess, like. No, I mean, it's kind of been about the same, like, we've been in, like, full on, like, house mode the past few weeks now trying to like.

[Danielle Busby]

I love how you, like, look like you jump on a mic and you just like, I'm just gonna tell all.

[Adam Busby]

No, we've been. I mean, we've been looking for a while seeing, like, what the options are.

[Danielle Busby]

Then I think we have a serious conversation with you. I just need to sit you with a mic, do stuff like not recording.

[Adam Busby]

Been doing stuff, like, around the house just to get our House, like ready to show and stuff like that. And like all the odd jobs and stuff that just from traveling and stuff you just don't get a chance to do. And so ever since coming back from May, trying to tackle all these like little projects and like stuff that like stands out, like, oh, I've been meaning to do that but hadn't had a chance to do it, especially like looking down the road in pretty much the very near future, potentially like putting, putting our house on the market and stuff like that.

[Danielle Busby]

And whoa, drop the bomb. Like you're just bringing it straight out there.

[Adam Busby]

I mean, I feel like we said.

[Danielle Busby]

That last week, last episode. I remember you kind of bringing it up and I'm like, whoa, we can't talk about that yet. We haven't shared with the family.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, we did have a conversation and.

[Danielle Busby]

Then we had the family conversation.

[Adam Busby]

Saturday. Was it Saturday, Saturday, Friday, Friday or Saturday? We had the whole family over.

[Danielle Busby]

It's gotten so hard to just like do like get together. We were like every week we used to have like family dinner with my sisters and kids. And it used to kind of was like a routine of like Sunday evening, like Sunday, late afternoon or whatnot. We used to kind of always get together or find a Saturday. But I mean, I feel like it's getting harder as all the kids are getting older because they're getting more like separated in like the sports. Life is like real, like as you get older, I guess it's more intense. I don't know.

[Adam Busby]

But I mean, it's just summer. So, you know, during summer that's like a lot of that stuff picks up a lot. And so it's just harder to get together and coordinate as a family because there's like so many other things on schedules and stuff that you have to have to navigate with. And so, you know, we finally like, hey, everybody's free this one night. Let's get together. And it just happens to be like a few days before my birthday. And we're like, well, you know, let's just go ahead and make it like kind of celebrate Busby, a birthday thing just because like, okay, when are we.

[Danielle Busby]

Not gonna see it all on Tuesday? There's no way.

[Adam Busby]

So we did that. We did like cake and I smoked a brisket.

[Danielle Busby]

Real. That's what, that's your love, what you love to do as a 40 year old man. Smoke meat. Yeah, I mean, I feel like you need that on a shirt or something.

[Adam Busby]

40.

[Danielle Busby]

Smoke meat.

[Adam Busby]

Smoke meat. Yeah, it was good. Picked up a brisket, put it on the smoker for like 17 hours. That Traeger makes things so simple. Just because you can just set it and go to sleep.

[Danielle Busby]

Set it and forget it.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

Isn't that a commercial?

[Adam Busby]

Just make sure it's full of. Full of pellets and just makes it nice. You just wake up in the morning, it's right where you need it to be. Woke up in the morning, wrapped it up, put it back on the smoker for the rest of the day. And it was like. I think I planned the timing almost perfectly so that. I mean, like, with meat and stuff. Yeah. Like, the cook is important and the smoke is important, but, like, letting the meat rest is very important also.

[Danielle Busby]

I'm so glad you're sharing this with.

[Adam Busby]

So I have like a little. I have like a little sleeping bag for my meat.

[Danielle Busby]

Oh, my gosh. That's what that thing was.

[Adam Busby]

Insulated sleeping bag so it can rest does.

[Danielle Busby]

Man, you're. You really love this meat.

[Adam Busby]

I mean, a lot of people will stick it in an ice chest. I don't want my meat sitting in an ice chest, though. And then I don't want my. No, not cold. But. Yeah, because like, like, my yeti ice chest and stuff will keep things cold or hot. It'll just. It just insulates. But like, I don't want my ice chest smelling like meat. Because if you put like, ice and stuff there, you know, to eat with.

[Danielle Busby]

Like, you have meat flavored ice.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, I don't have just like, I always consider, like a throwaway ice chest for just like, hey, let me rest.

[Danielle Busby]

I don't think you know how to throw anything away.

[Adam Busby]

I mean, anything that just sits in the garage, though, it's like Texas heat just gets to it after a while. And so I ended up throwing it out.

[Danielle Busby]

I'm looking at Gus laying outside this door.

[Adam Busby]

He's like, rub my belly.

[Danielle Busby]

Rub my belly. But the girl, a little blue bear in his arms, and it looks like he's hugging it.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. So this weekend, smoked, smoked a big brisket, came out perfect. And then we celebrated birthday. And then we did it again last night. And just like out of the blue, like, I went to the gym and I'm like, huh? Like, what can I throw meat?

[Danielle Busby]

Can I smoke today?

[Adam Busby]

What can I throw in the smoker just to have it ready for tonight? So I did some beef dino ribs, because those are, like, just so simple.

[Danielle Busby]

Is anybody grossed out about ribs besides me? Like, I don't like the fact that it's a rib. Like, it's gross. So when you took all the meat off the bone, and you got the. Rid of the bone. I was like, okay, now it looks like a brisket.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

But it was good. I like the brisket better.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. But I was gonna give the bones to the dog, but I just don't like them smelling like, well, also, we don't want beautiful. I know.

[Danielle Busby]

Having diarrhea all over the house.

[Adam Busby]

Bo has tummy issues.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

And takes after his moment, so we have to pay attention to what he puts in his mouth.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. Gus, on the other end is. He thinks everything Adam cooks is for him.

[Adam Busby]

Oh, my gosh. Like, you do anything in the kitchen, like, go to open. Like, it's just like, a random, like, Ziploc bag. Like, you get something in the mail, and he's like, oh, food treat. He just comes running. He's such a mooch. Yeah. Or you touch the. You get near the microwave, and he comes running.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. He's like, this is for me.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. Because the girls trick him, and they'll.

[Danielle Busby]

Like, so do you.

[Adam Busby]

He. He thinks that he. He's not allowed to. It's almost like he's, like the submissive one between him and Beau, and so he. He doesn't like to eat while Beau's eating, and so he'll just sit by his dog bowl and wait for Beau to finish and whimper. And so the girls will try to entice him to eat faster. And so they'll. They'll trick him.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

And they'll. They'll go up. They'll. They'll put his food in his bowl, and then they'll walk up to the counter and then grab, like, a spoon and act like they're putting something in the bowl, and they'll stick it in the microwave for, like, two seconds.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

And then he's all excited about it, and they walk up, like, dang it, I've been tricked again.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. All right, so you're 43 now. What is your. What would you like to see happen this year in 43 years?

[Adam Busby]

I mean, just, like, in the same vein of, like, what we're. What we've kind of been wrestling with. Wrestling with a change and stuff, and just, like, getting more into that, like, what this change is in our life and our family potentially, like, our location, like, where we end up just to get, like, settled and get into a routine and a new location potentially, and, like, kind of focus on, like. Like, purpose and stuff. I mean, it's always, you know, wrestling with something new. Like, I just. I want it. I want to get so much new fast. Forward to, like, okay, it's real now. We're here, we're settled. Like, what is this new life look like in a sense and get settled into this new chapter. You know, I'm looking forward to that. Not looking forward to all the stuff that needs to be done in order to get there, but, you know, I'm excited about it. It's kind of put me in this, like, weird. I mean, maybe that's why I wasn't Samsung Galaxy S25 con Galaxy AI por Quenta.

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[Adam Busby]

Wanting to, like, do much for my birthday, I just feel like, man, there's so much and, like, rolling around in my head that I feel like needs to be done. Like, I don't want to just do something.

[Danielle Busby]

Hey, do you remember, like, a couple months ago when I came in here and I was like, hey, I think we need to sell the house. And you're like, get out of my office. We ain't selling.

[Adam Busby]

We ain't. Get out of my office. Get out of. Get out of here, woman. You're, like, working on, like, hey, you're freaking crazy.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah, you look like you're crazy. We ain't selling this house and then look where we are.

[Adam Busby]

I mean, it has been.

[Danielle Busby]

Thinking about probably trying to wrap our minds around.

[Adam Busby]

Like, probably haven't wanted to admit it to you, but it's been in my mind for a while. Like, I feel like this is. But, like, I wrestle with that in my head of, like, man, in order for this to happen, like, I'm just not. I don't look forward to, like, all the stuff that needs to be done in order to do that. And so, like, I'm just like, oh, no, I'm not. I don't want to think about it.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah, I mean, it's been.

[Adam Busby]

And then I just kind of like block it out. But like, it's been like stirring in me that this just isn't the place for us right now. And you know, I did envision this house being, you know, for a while like our forever home. And you know, whether it was like making the changes to this house that we needed to or whatnot, just eventually we would do get to that. But like, now it's just like, okay, I don't think this is where.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

So, you know, accepting that. Yeah, just accepting it. I don't, I don't really like change.

[Danielle Busby]

I mean, who really likes change?

[Adam Busby]

So I just realized that's why it's like darker in here.

[Danielle Busby]

Oh, man. I. I like have a headache. So I was enjoying like the dimmer light. I definitely wasn't going to say anything.

[Adam Busby]

It was like shooting past us.

[Danielle Busby]

Do we look so much better now?

[Adam Busby]

Still didn't push it back far enough.

[Danielle Busby]

Man, we look so much better now.

[Adam Busby]

All the way back in the corner.

[Danielle Busby]

Maybe that's why I said, did you move the chairs? Because I felt like that was like over.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. So, yeah, I, I think, like, I don't think anyone really loves change, but I know that like, I feel like, if I'm honest, like, there's a difference between like discernment and like a feeling of a step forward that I receive faster or quicker than you. And I can make a decision quicker than you on a lot of things because you analyze and process and then we get in a fight because you don't answer my questions.

[Adam Busby]

I like to fully think something through rather than like just act on it.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah, but that might take like 14 months and sometimes we don't have enough time for that.

[Adam Busby]

I mean, our life is so fast paced.

[Danielle Busby]

You don't take time to put enough focus on constantly you dwell, you dwell on it, but you don't try to overcome the. What could the change look like and how would you get there? And I'm the opposite where I'm like, you know, I work better under, like, I can make decisions quick, work better under stress, like high level. And I can make like quick decisions that are normally pretty healthy decisions. But I also feel that like in times when I. So like, if we're talking about this whole change and moving and how like whatever is next, I just get. I feel like I'm. I stay more in tune with my spirit quicker in looking for where I've learned over this last year to like really trust in my, like my, the spirit to kind of like, guide me and lead me. And I think, as I look back at months ago when that popped in my head, and it was something that just came up to me on my phone, and it was, like, it started. I see that as, like, a God moment. Like, hey, I would have never, ever thought about us, like, moving or selling, but, like, I'll get, like, a vision or, like, see something. Be like, we should possibly process this or talk about this. And so I bring it to you really impromptu times that you're ready to focus on.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. But we found, like, a couple houses that would look, like, really good, and then they, like. Right.

[Danielle Busby]

Whenever we hold on, I'm saying things.

[Adam Busby]

Like, kind of fall through the crack or, like, not fall through the crack.

[Danielle Busby]

Things don't pan out.

[Adam Busby]

Like, once we start, like, kind of seriously processing it, all of a sudden you get a call like, oh, they have an offer, or it's under contract.

[Danielle Busby]

And you're like, okay, well, listen, I'm bringing that up, the fact that we process and think and discern differently, because I know that there's a lot of relatable couples that can understand that.

[Adam Busby]

Well, I mean, with me, I feel like. Like, I try to focus on, like, the here and now and present, because especially with, like, everything that happened with Grayson B. I feel like there's so much more that I like, more weight that falls on me, that it's just. It adds a lot of pressure. And so I'm. You know. So then it becomes, you know, with me thinking about a change, I'm thinking about, oh, but I still have to continue to maintain all this other stuff. And so it just seems so overwhelming to me because, like, I get. I get really overwhelmed or worked up about, like, yeah, this needs to be done, and then I'll end up talking myself out of it because I'm like, well, but I got to still keep all these other balls in the air, and it just, like, I get really overwhelmed, like, with all the other things that need to be done. I don't know. It's just. It. It falls. I feel like there's a lot more weight on, like, everything that I'm doing right now.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. And that's where. That's where we talk about, like, how we process and think differently and communicate differently and. And how I can. Like, how I'm a verbal processor, so I need to, like, hear myself talk and talk through things. And you're an internal processor, so you internalize that. And the communication of not wanting to communicate is more natural to you where. So it's more of a challenge for you to one, process it in a fashion that, you know, could lead to a decision maybe sooner than it needs to be or maybe not, you know, but then the communication of, you know, as you're getting older, since we're talking about your birthday and whatnot, like, you really got to focus on, like, when I'm feeling these ways or when I'm feeling these overwhelming thoughts, I have to share it with my wife because she can help with quicker discernment and decision making and those things. But so I'm saying this to say, like, the people who are listening, who can relate to our communication styles opposite. We process differently. We can't. Like, it's just a fight. It's just a struggle constantly throughout things. And there's a lot of things that we do really well together that we partner well when it's parenting or discipline or, like, a lot of things. But when it comes to the high level of, like, when you overall look at, like, this umbrella of, like, our life, that's overwhelming. But you just got to, like, dissect it and say, like, okay, let's process and talk about this one part.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

Not think of all of it, like.

[Adam Busby]

As husbands, you know, husbands, fathers. There is. There is an element of, like, we carry heavy things, you know, as a man, as a provider, as the husband. Like, we carry heavy things that we don't want to burden our wife or our family about. And that's why we, like, kind of, you know, I think it's, like, across the board with, like, a lot of men in general. Like, you. You know, you're more stoic. You. You keep things to yourself because you don't want to overburden, you know, with all the things that you have to be responsible for and think about. Like, you don't want to. I don't want to overburden you. I don't want to put that on you, you know, so I just hold it in. And.

[Danielle Busby]

And that's a. And that's it.

[Adam Busby]

Keep it tightly.

[Danielle Busby]

That's a you thing. That's a male thing.

[Adam Busby]

That's, like a provider thing. That's, like, you. You know, it's our responsibility to, like, carry, like, shoulder those heavy things and those burdens. And. And you don't want to, you know, unload. And. And so, like, I do it very, in a sense, like, strategically. Like, I don't want to just, like, unload on you because I don't want you to feel that. But God created woman as a helper.

[Danielle Busby]

As a helper. So. So as the man in the role. And I agree, a lot of men are like this, feel like they have to carry that burden, but God gave you a helper, and God gave you a wife to carry those things with, because you can't. You can't do this life alone. I can't do this life alone. And we've been placed together to walk this life alone. So what you carry, I carry, and what I carry, you carry. And so it's. It's getting to a level of like, how do we. How do we carry it together? Instead of Samsung Galaxy S25 Con Galaxy, AI por quenta. Being overwhelmed, because I don't want to overwhelm you. No, if you're overwhelmed, I'm going to be overwhelmed. And we're going to. And we're going to work together, because now we're a team. We're a team to accomplish this next task together. Because you can't make all the basic decisions for the family, and I can't either. We have to come together. And that's why when we look at, like, parenting and discipline stuff, like, we. We know that those are all new things as we approach level. And so we're just like, hey, hey. Like, we come to each other. But why. When we look at the overarch of, like, the family, we may struggle to say, like, yeah, but that, or, yeah, but that. I don't want to tell him. I don't want to tell her. I don't want to tell him. It's like, really, we're putting that on our own self. When God says, you are bonded through marriage and this is your companion, and you are to do life together, and that means carrying each other's weight. So whenever. I mean, we talked about this in our whole family series at church, you know, like, we. We walk when. When you hurt, I'm gonna hurt. And when I hurt, you should be hurting, because we're gonna hurt together, and we're gonna be happy together, we're gonna cry together, and we're gonna have joy together and blah, blah, blah, all the things. But it's a. It's that stigma of, you know, and we've talked about this in the past, too, like, how we grew up in, like, you know, Southern life, and, like, you men hold their lives together and they're strong, and it's like, come on. Like, the. The. The more. I think the more vulnerable that a husband can be, the more. The more connect, the more deeper connection, which causes more of, like. What do you call that word?

[Adam Busby]

Like.

[Danielle Busby]

Drawing A blank.

[Adam Busby]

But.

[Danielle Busby]

So here's an example. Example of what attracts a woman to a man. What attracts a man to a woman? There's this level of what I think is. There's some form of confidence. There's a level of confidence of who I am, who I am in Christ, who I am in my work, who I am as a spouse, who I am as a parent. And those things come as a confidence because when. When. When you can use those and say, like, I'm confident in. In that. In my weakness, I still know that I need you. And there's something that's so attractive about that, knowing that, like, I can come to you in a vulnerable state and not be ashamed of that. And so, like, changing that world of, like, how do you. How do. How do men get comfortable doing that? Because men don't need men, but they need relationships of people encouraging and lifting them up. And that's. That's community. Like, we all need that. We've talked about that a lot, but, you know, it is definitely a relatable topic that I think a lot of marriages can relate to. If, you know, one is A, one is B, and we're not going to do anything unless we're a B together. And to me, that's the beautiful part of marriage. And, like, how do you keep that together? And all the. The things that we've walked through in the almost 20 years of marriage, it's like we've always had, like, this. This one. One bond. And that's been the center of, like, keeping Christ in the center. And even whenever you don't want to fight or even when you don't want to push forward and go, like, there's like, a conviction and like, this. This overwhelmingness that, like, we know that's not what God wants for us. And that is something that you have to think outside of yourself. Like, it's not just about me and my feelings. It's about how do I feel this way and how are we going to deal with it going forward, you know?

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. I mean, I think just a, you know, a big part of that is just getting into, like, the stress and the worry of the burden of the hard things, you know, in those times, you know, like, strengthen yourself in the Lord and. And dive deep into, you know, like, in order to be able to discern better, you know, I think that's like, our calling, you know, to. To show our wives, like, our strength through that and, you know, just getting. Getting stronger in. In the Word and in your walk and in your. Your. Your Prayer life through that, you know, that's gonna. That's gonna bring confidence because, you know, in that, you know, God has showed us, you know, what he is capable of. I mean, you look at all the stories of, like, things that God has carried people through, and look in your own life of, like, what God has carried me through and like, you know, the insurmountable things in our lives that we thought were terrifying and scary and stuff like that. And looking back on it, you're like, man, that was like such a great time. Like, look what God did. But in. In the moment, in that it was terrifying.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

And. And just instead of dwelling on, like, the fear and, you know, the anxiety of what has to be done and. And getting caught up in just, like, the worry and fear and anxiety to, you know, lean into the faith and look at the promises that God has given us. Given us, you know, in those times, I'll never leave you or forsake you. Strengthen yourself in the Lord and, you know, he will carry you through. He's. He is like our helper. He goes before us through those times. And, you know, and nothing is too big or too small for him. And I think a lot of times, you know, you get caught up. I know I do personally get caught up in, you know, this. I feel like I'm selfish. I'm being selfish by worrying about this or asking God for something because, like, this is something probably so small and insignificant to God. Like, with all the things going on in the world, all the things going on with everyone else, like, why. Why would he care? It's almost like, I don't want to burden God. Make God mad at you for, like, worrying about something so insignificant, significant. But, you know, that's not what the Bible teaches. That's a lie. You know, he wants to know, like.

[Danielle Busby]

He wants you to come to him.

[Adam Busby]

He wants you to cast your cares on him. You. You know, and. And bring those things to him. Bring them your burdens. You know, he's close to the brokenhearted, and, you know, people that are struggling and stuff. And I think it's just in those times, you have to remind yourself, you know, no, nothing is too insignificant for him. You know, he wants you to draw near. He wants you to depend on him. And I think, you know, a big part of, like, our journey over the last months is just he wants to grow, like, this sense of dependence on him and to show, like, look what I can do for you. And, you know, in these scary times, in these tough times and in this. In these Seasons of doubt where, you know, you. We may feel like, oh, well, you know, we. We did this and we tried this and we failed. You know, the devil and, you know, the enemy wants you to doubt yourself and to doubt, like, what you're capable of. And, you know, and that's just. That's just a lie.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

And so.

[Danielle Busby]

And it's hard to. It's hard to get yourself by yourself out of those seasons of. When you're feeling anxiety and fear and weighted with, like, something heavy. And I think there's nothing more beautiful than, like, you know, finding someone to talk to, whether that is a good friend, someone sound Christian, or someone at a church or a therapist, like, whatever it might be, like, helping process those thoughts, really help ease your anxiousness. And, you know, God can bring peace amongst any situation. And, you know, I just walk through and, like this past weekend at church and just feeling an overwhelming sense of peace about this change, of moving. And I just. I. It's been kind of, like, looking at all these different options, and then God just, like, totally, like, hounded in and was like, you know, because I think I've been mostly worried about, like, Blake starting high school and, like, is she going to have to switch schools?

[Adam Busby]

I mean, so much. Like, a change is so much easier with the quints because they always have each other.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

You know, you start a new school or whatever, there's more than likely there's going to be at least one sister in the class with them. And so, like, they always have each other. They're like this little wolf pack, and, you know, they're always going to be able to walk through this. And, you know, if they're feeling down or whatever, they can always go back to their sister because they're just right there. I mean, even yesterday, like, two of the girls are at one friend's house, two of the others are at another. Hazel was with another friend, and they ended up like, the. The four, you know, ended up spending the night somewhere. And then Hazel, you know, they. They were out all day and did a bunch of fun stuff. And then. But they. She wasn't spending the night. And then she came home, and, like, I was in my office working. Whenever she got home, and she comes to me, she's like, I'm bored. She's looking around. She's like, I don't know what to do because she's used to having her sisters there. And, you know, that brings, like, this sense of comfort. And, you know, there's always something going on with them that keeps them Occupied and stuff. But then you have Blake that is, quote unquote, the other one, you know, that's set apart from them. And she's going to be starting whether. Whether we were moving or not, she's starting a new school next year, and that's what we've been struggling with. It's like, you know, this move is pretty inevitable. I feel like God is moving us to a different location. A different location, which we would be going to different schools. And, you know, just battling with that. You know, do we buy a house? Do we rent somewhere? Do we rent here? Do we rent there before finding some, you know, a potential home over there? And then just like, wrestling with that of, like, we want this process to be as easy on Blake as possible. Even though it's going to be hard, you know, she's going to have to put herself out there. She's going to have to make new friends in a new location and a new school. But next year, whether she's here and we're still in this house or still in. In this town or in another, she's still starting a new school. Yeah, but we don't want to. You know, if we're gonna do this, you know, we need. We would prefer to do this before school starts next year where she can start school in a new school with.

[Danielle Busby]

All the other new kids starting that school.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, because in high school, you know, you if feeds in and it funnels in all these other middle schools around the area, and, you know, that circle becomes very much bigger, and the same thing's going to happen whether she's here or there. And, you know, so she's going to be starting school with all these new kids. We don't want to start school at one school. And she's having to get used to that change. And all of a sudden, we then uproot her and put her in another big location where she's doing that all over again. And so we've been wrestling with that and struggling with that, and I know she's struggling with that just because, I mean, she's a teenager.

[Danielle Busby]

She.

[Adam Busby]

She doesn't. She isn't seeing very far. She's, you know, thinking with her emotions, for sure.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

And, you know, just worrying about, well, my friends are here and like. But, Blake, you know, anybody we talk to that has moved a lot as a child or parents have moved them. You know, they look back on that like, oh, well, I moved, you know, when I was in middle school, or I moved multiple times whenever I was in high school. And you know what, I look back on that and everything was fine. But as a kid, like you don't, you don't see that right now.

[Danielle Busby]

Like that's why we as parents, she.

[Adam Busby]

Just worries about her friends right now and like, well, my friends are right here.

[Danielle Busby]

And this is what's hard as a parent is that we, we don't want to upset our children. We don't want to like, you know, we don't necessarily want to take her away from what she's built here and whatnot. However, we as the parents have to make the overall decision what is best for this family. And we can't base it off of six girls opinions. You know, it's like we are superior. God is giving them to us and we have to steward and show them and guide them and lead them. And we, we look to the Lord to, to, to guide us, which therefore is how we're going to lead our children. And it's very hard to tell your kids no or this is what the change is going to be. And we're not quite sure yet. But you know, this is what we feel like God's like telling us to do and what change we need to make. And it's hard. But I did tell her about, you know, how I was emotional at church and like how I just really felt this sense of peace and like God like audibly telling me like, like it's going to be okay. And that was just like, I mean, I lost that kind of like overwhelming sense of, of peace and like those words being like spoken to me like, like literally, like someone told me in.

[Adam Busby]

My ear, you're wrestling with that. I know it's a burden.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah.

[Adam Busby]

And then he just like spoke that. Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

And it's, and I, I'm telling you, like, I just feel so much better about knowing that whatever school she's going to go to, she will be okay. And so I shared that with her to tell her, like, you know, a lot of times we have to lean into our faith to make a decision, even though it might not be the decision we want. I said, but I'm telling you that like, I'm telling you this to hopefully encourage you to find peace too with the decisions that we're making as a family. Because I have a piece about it right now and I know that, you know, God's not going to lead us into destruction and you know, we might have trials, we might have a change, we might have a, you know, have to make new friends or adjust something. But like I'm telling you Because I have peace with this. I want to encourage you to know that, like, you are going to be okay. And I believe that it's going to be better than what it is right now. I believe that. And, you know, but it's. It's. As a parent, you know, we. We have to try our best to make the hard decisions, even if our kids don't agree with us. And it's super, super challenging to deal with what the outcome of your children's responses might be. But as the parents, and knowing that, like, we. We are the leaders of the family, like, God is leading us to lead these children into, like, teach them into, you know, if we need to make a change for the family, like, this is not something that, like, you know, and I tell the people that know about this. We tell them, like, do you really think this family of eight wants to get up and pack up everything and move? Absolutely not. But we really do feel like this is something God has spoken to us and, like, is telling us, like, hey, it's. It's time to. I don't know what the word is. Like, it's time for a new. And I'm taking you away from what you've created here in this house. This isn't the forever place for y'.

[Adam Busby]

All.

[Danielle Busby]

And we have something new, and we don't. We. We are literally leaning in on faith because, like, we don't know what that is. Yeah, we have some things that we're working on, but, like, it is a very scary. A very scary place to, like, sell everything, sell your house, move somewheres, not knowing if we should rent or buy. And we're just looking at all options and just praying like, okay, God, if this is what it is, then we're going to trust that this will pan out. And that's what we're doing. And it's hard to be. It's hard to have it together and to be mom and dad, to still do this with a bunch of little girls and, you know, they have questions, all these things, and it's. It's very difficult. But we're trying to prepare them and bring them in on, you know, this is hard. We don't necessarily want to do this, but we really feel like, you know, God wants this for our family, and we're just going to continue to follow that path, whatever it might be. We don't know what's next, and we have to accept that. And we believe that if we follow the path that God leads us down, and then that's the path that we will lead to, you know, the beauty of more than we could ever imagine. And we've walked that path a little bit in our life and have to remind ourselves of our own testimony of being able told. No, you're not going to make it. No, you can't have these children. No, they're not going to survive to just say, hold on, like, our God is bigger. And like, we're going to, we're going to take a chance and step into our faith and say we're, we're gonna try.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah.

[Danielle Busby]

And you know, the outcome has been beautiful.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah. Like our, our church that we go to here in Houston, it's one life church Houston. They have a really good series going on right now that's been, it's been such a blessing to us because a lot of the things, a lot of the feelings and thoughts and direction, I feel like that we've been wrestling with ourselves. It's been almost like confirmation, like, of God just like, hey, you know, and like every message over the last few weeks has just been like such a blessing to us because it's like, man, this is like exactly what, you know, we've been wrestling with the things that we've been struggling with and, you know, just worrying about, you know, the, the series right now is called like Family Legacy. And just like what that looks like, you know, we've been, you know, just super blessed by, you know, this series that's going on. And I mean, we can possibly like link it in the show notes or whatever because they put it in podcast form. So if you guys are, you know, thinking about stuff like this, along those same lines, it's like what we're dealing with, like worrying about like your kids and your marriage and like what, you know, this, what is family?

[Danielle Busby]

Like, how do you, how do you, how do you have like a strong.

[Adam Busby]

Marriage, strong family and, yeah, family and you know, that whole structure and you know, the things that like the Bible teaches about families and like what we should be focused on most, it's just been really good. It's been really good for us and good confirmation for the, the thoughts and the, the things that we've been wrestling with. And so, yeah, yeah, it's been, it's been really good. Feel like God's just been working and moving and speaking to us and, and confirming some of the things that we've been wrestling with ourselves and yeah, it's just been perfect timing, really.

[Danielle Busby]

Yeah. I mean, happy birthday. Adam just went on a little good chit chat about family and change and how we deal with, you know, making decisions. And, you know, sometimes we can make quick decisions, sometimes we can need time to process and think about it. But ultimately, we want to lean into our faith and pray and ask God to, like, reveal, you know, what is best for us and how do we how do we follow that journey? And so hope this spoke to some of you. And thanks for listening.

[Adam Busby]

Yeah, this is episode 37 of More Than Reality podcast. Thank you guys for listening, sticking around, and just, like, hearing our thoughts. And hopefully, you know, you picked up something that, you know, spoke to you through this and help helping you through whatever you're dealing with right now. So thank you guys for tuning in, and we will see you in the next one.

[Danielle Busby]

Bye, guys.

[Adam Busby]

All right. We love you guys.