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EP 40 - Feeling Lost in Life? Here’s How We Found Our Why
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Ever feel like life is pulling you in every direction — and you’re not even sure why you’re doing it all? In this episode of More Than Reality, Adam and Danielle open up about the chaos of parenting, the pressure of providing, and the struggle of...
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Adam Busby
What has been your biggest challenge or burden lately?
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Danielle Busby
I don't think you want me to answer that. I mean, if I'm honest, like, my. I feel like my biggest challenge is you right now.
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Adam Busby
How so?
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Danielle Busby
What motivates you?
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Adam Busby
I feel like a lot of stuff just, like, rests on my shoulders, and so that. That's just more motivation for me to. Just to provide for my family, you know, I don't want. I don't want to let my family down. I don't want to let my wife down. And.
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Danielle Busby
This is More Than Reality podcast, where we dive into all things faith, family, and marriage and share that there is so much more than the reality that you see on the surface. Welcome to More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle Busby.
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Adam Busby
Welcome to More Than Reality podcast.
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Danielle Busby
Hello. Hello.
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Adam Busby
This is episode four zero, episode forty of More Than Reality podcast with Adam and Danielle Busby. And, yeah, I mean, today, like, we literally just got back from tennis courts. We. We had, like, evening tennis session. Blake had two tennis practices today, one in the evening with, like, Riley and also Lily, and we just all went up there as a family and brought out the pickleball paddles. And Olivia and Parker kind of played for a little bit.
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Danielle Busby
Well, they played at the park, and then they came and played for a while.
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Adam Busby
It was pretty hot. I mean, Texas, it's. It's pretty hot right now.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah. But this evening was actually not that bad. It was way hotter in the. This morning. Like, when Blake went For tennis at 10, it was hot. Like, in the morning, I felt like it was really hot, but there was a lot of shade, too. It felt cooler.
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Adam Busby
I don't know how they can do that in the middle of the summertime, like. Like right before noon out there on the tennis courts. But, man, it's. It's crazy, crazy hot. But Ava and Hazel are in Louisiana right now.
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Danielle Busby
Yep. Come back tomorrow.
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Adam Busby
They're with my mom and dad and Lake Charles, and they've been there. What. When did I bring them on? Saturday morning, something like that, or Friday. No, Saturday morning. So they've been over there since Saturday. They've been going to. I think they Were, like, at the children's museum. Mom and dad keep sending, like, little phone photos and video updates and stuff, and all the fun that they're having. It's nice, like, because we try to break them up, you know, during the summer time, and, like, send them two, maybe three at a time so they're not just getting all of them. And it makes it a little bit easier on mom and dad. But they've been. They've actually been playing pickleball in the evenings.
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Danielle Busby
I know. It's funny. Didn't even know they had courts over there. But it is cute watching them play. I mean, they had Collins and Hazel on a team versus Ava and Evan. I was like, that's cute.
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Adam Busby
The two little ones, the two smallest ones are playing against everybody.
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Danielle Busby
Hazel was probably pretty good on it, so with her tennis skills that she's learned with that. But, yeah, that's cute. They're gonna come home tomorrow, so pick them up tomorrow, but they're not ready to come home. Riley's like, when it's my turn, I want to go on a Sunday or a Saturday, and then you pick me up on the next Sunday or Saturday. I'm like, that's a really, like, seven, eight days. That's a long time.
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Adam Busby
Well, I mean, I remember going and, like. Like, spending time with my grandparents and stuff, and they just, like, spoil the heck out of you because you lived.
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Danielle Busby
Literally next door to them.
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Adam Busby
Attention. No, but my nanny, like, lived across town.
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Danielle Busby
You still lived in the same city.
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Adam Busby
I know. Yeah, but I would stay over there, like, multiple nights in a row, and she would wake up and have breakfast for me, and we'd just. I mean, still, like, even. It's funny, like, where both of my grandparents lived, I had, like, cousins that lived, like, right around there. And so it was just fun because it was just. You wake up, have breakfast, go play with your cousins all day. I don't know. It's fun. It's a little. It's a fun little breakup from just being at home, and they're having. They're having a blast. They got mom and dad's full attention instead of having all five of them, and they're being overwhelmed.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah, that's what it's good for. It's good for both sides, like, Nana and papa to get a little bit more intimate time with. To two of them. And then it's better for the. The girls, because then they get to, like, receive, you know, a little bit more attention in those times where we, like, separate them, which we've been doing. This for years. And that's why we like to do like, you know, like day dates or like, you know, two, two at a time here, three here we've never done, which I've kind of been thinking about more recently. We've never done like, like me or you, like a trip or like a night away, which I've had some other like high order, multiple friends talk about how they would do like 2 and 2 and go to here and go in there.
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Adam Busby
Because it's just like me and you take.
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Danielle Busby
I know, like it's three at a time. Three and then three another time.
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Adam Busby
I mean, I just think of like the expense of like. I know, I think it's worth it for sure. But just thinking of the expense of like going away on a vacation and then knowing you gotta do that or a similar vacation. Like, I mean, we'd have to do it probably two to three times at least.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah, well, you do. Yeah.
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Adam Busby
Anyway, I feel like that just add up. So like, if we do, it ain't.
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Danielle Busby
No different than going all together at almost in a sense because you almost could really say like one hotel room versus two hotel rooms at the same time. Like, it's not really any different.
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Adam Busby
So we're going to start off with a connect card and let. Turn these over and shuffle. I keep want to turn them and look at them.
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Danielle Busby
Like there's just a lot of change and a lot of differences in a lot of. I don't know, it's been challenging and it's. It's just a different season of life where like we're having to make a lot of big decisions and it's hard to constantly stay on the same path, like forward in. In a way. But like we are, but we're not in a sense. And I don't think that you're aware of. Of like certain aspects. And maybe I'm more aware because I'm not. Because I am pulled more in like now and it's summer and all the kids are home and. And I don't know, it's just. We're on like a different pace of like work and family life with a lot of change.
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Adam Busby
Well, I think it's just been a big transition with. For one thing, like summer started with. We have a lot of change going on in our life. A lot of that stuff. I mean, when it. How I'm involved, there isn't. There can't be a lot of change because I work during the day and I'm gone a lot during the day. And so like two to Three days out of the week, I'm completely out of pocket, out of the house. And so, yeah, I mean, kids are at home and we have just a lot of extra stresses and stuff right now. But I mean, I can't just put everything else that I have going on on hold because it's just summer and kids are home. And so that's what makes it, I know, for sure, more difficult.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah, I know, but I'm not. I'm just saying, like, it's like it's been harder with you lately because you're you. I don't know. That's a whole nother subject. But that, like, not the first time conversation on the podcast, but it's just that it's been challenging. It's been challenging.
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Adam Busby
I mean, I feel like life as a whole has been challenging, but I mean, the amount. I mean, I know I've taken on a bigger load with work, and I feel like I've poured into that a lot more because of the other changes and stuff that have happened in our life. And so, you know, it's like whenever. Whenever something dips, I have to elevate and. And pour myself more into work and. And then that. That causes disruption and causes chaos because it's something completely different than what we're used to. Whether. And a lot of the stuff that you do, you're doing now from at home and the kids are at home, which makes it way more difficult on your end. So, I mean, it's. I mean, I think we're just in a rough spot right now. I like a. Yeah, like just a lot of holding different directions than we're used to.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah.
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Adam Busby
And it's changed. But I mean, I know it's. I know it's difficult. I mean, I know it's. But.
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Danielle Busby
What was the question? Challenging right now or something?
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Adam Busby
What's been your biggest challenge or burden lately?
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Danielle Busby
Yeah. And I think it's you and I being on the same page and having, like, not being. Not. Not being on the same page. Just making sure we're on the same page.
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Adam Busby
I mean, I don't disagree with that. I mean, I know that there's just a lot of. There's a lot of new in our life right now, and. And it's a lot of, like, figuring out this new season of Grayson B's no more. And then there's a lot of stuff that you're working on in the back end that's like future stuff, but while you're working on that, you're really working on it from home. And right as we're getting into summer with kids, because, I mean, like, what. Yes, I've taken on a heavier workload. With work. We've had like a lot of. I mean, every week now. We've been doing these lifestyle shoots over the summer. And so, like, I mean, one day, you know, I'm at the office from, you know, 8:00 o' clock in the morning till 9:00 clock at night. And so, like, that's the entire day. I'm completely gone and, like, barely be reached. And so, I mean, I know it's. It makes things not easy at home for sure. You know, I just, in a sense, like, whenever. Whenever things get hard, you, like, bet on. You double down and you bet on yourself. And so I'm trying to just make new things happen. And I mean, that's just where we're at right now.
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Danielle Busby
So your question is, what keeps you from acting on a dream you've had for a long time?
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Adam Busby
What keeps me from it? Self doubt. Imposter syndrome. I don't know. I get it. I get in the way of myself a lot. Like, I have higher expectations of myself and just the nature of, like, how I am. You know, I'm an internal processor. I like to completely think something completely through before I start. And, you know, I don't. And then I'm like, slow to start new things because.
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Danielle Busby
I, you know, I.
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Adam Busby
Have this scare of, like, failure, for one thing. Like, I have a fear of failure. And. And so it causes me to, like, delay diving into something new because it's like, yeah, I don't. I don't want it to be wrong from the start. You agree with that?
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Danielle Busby
Yeah, yeah.
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Adam Busby
And then, like, I mean, naturally, I don't know, I mean, I'm sure there are very, like, people out there, they're just like, super confident. But I mean, with me, I am confident in my ability. But, you know, bigger settings, bigger, bigger projects and stuff, like, I sometimes, like, I'll get in my head so much where, like, man, like, I have imposter syndrome. Like, oh, you know, should I really be here? Should I really be doing this? Should I really be leading this? And, like, I kind of like scare myself out of things or it's just that fear of, like, feeling like, am I good enough to do this? And and so, I mean, I think that's why like, I work. I mean, even right now with the stuff that I'm doing, like, that makes me like, want to put more time and effort into stuff to prove to people that like, no, I'm, I'm worth being here. And you know, it was a good decision for me to be here and to be in this room and to, to be picked to do these projects and stuff like that. And so like, like, I'll make up for my shortcomings in like trying to prove to you that like, no, like I'm going to stick through it and I'm going to put in the extra hours and I'm going to do all these things to like, prove to you, like, my worth.
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Danielle Busby
That's a lot.
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Adam Busby
Yeah.
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Danielle Busby
So it's kind of interesting what we were just talking about because, you know, the topic of today is what motivates you and talking about motivation and stuff. And so it's kind of interesting that those questions or that question popped out because it kind of feeds into really the topic.
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Adam Busby
It's funny how that works sometimes.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah.
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Adam Busby
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Danielle Busby
To me it is. I don't.
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Adam Busby
Hit my side of the bed to like full like sleep. It's only seven minutes. And I attribute that to, for one thing, my bed, but also my sheets. Like, you just get in there and I'm like cozy. Like I'm cool. I don't know, like it's, it makes a difference. Like I feel like sheets make a difference for sure.
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Danielle Busby
And I mean like sleep. Sleep has always been a necessity. It's always been a necessity. Our body needs rest. But you know, to be able to sleep well and have good quality sleep, I feel like you have to be comfortable. And I feel like I've learned that over, you know, the phases of life over the last 10 years of walking with Quint and sleeping on the floor to the couch, to the chair to sleep, sleep where you can and when you can. To now really knowing that like I have to have good quality sleep which comes with how I'm going to be responding and how good of a mom and how good of a person and wife and all these things I'm going to be the next day because I had good, adequate amount of sleep. And I totally see a difference of sleeping in our cozy O sheets and I, I literally tell everybody about it. I'm like, I'm telling you it's worth trying these sheets. You get like 100 day trial and you know we are well over past 100 days in our child but like it's, they are worth it.
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Adam Busby
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Danielle Busby
Yep. And wake up not just rested but restored.
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Adam Busby
Yep. So sleep cooler, lounge lighter and stay cozy. Thanks Cozy Earth. All right, so now back to the episode. What? That last question segues into the topic for today.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah. And I mean it, it just kind of, you kind of were talking about like what you do to try to prove yourself. And so like let's look at it the other way. What, what do you do to motivate yourself? So like what motivates you? What drives you? What motivates you? And so what's like if someone were to ask you like what's your why? Like what would you say?
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Adam Busby
I don't know. I mean we, we, we have like a lot of whys. But I mean obviously, obviously the biggest why is like always I kind of just worry about us having six kids and you know, it's just like a, it's, it's a lot and you know, we have, with six kids comes a lot of just like, extra responsibility and stuff and like, thinking about the future, but, you know, and just wanting, wanting things that you do to, to have success and to, to carry on and, and to support your family and stuff. And one of those big things, like, one of the main things that I do is like, just like my photography and videography, media marketing business and, you know, I want to bring value to people. But, you know, my why behind that is like, you know, I want this to be a success because I want to provide for my family. And you know, with that comes a lot of pressure. And just right now, especially like, in the short term, I mean, I know like, we have like a lot of stuff that you personally are like, working for later on this year and stuff like that. But, like, right now it's like, I feel like a lot of stuff just like rests on my shoulders. And so that, that's just more motivation for me to just put in extra time, put in more hours, put it, you know, do all these things because, you know, I feel the, the pressure of just being, you know, the husband, being a provider right now. And, you know, I feel like that's like my biggest motivation and to fall into any sort of struggle or anything like that. So, I mean, that's always been like my biggest worry. Like whenever I talk to friends or just, you know, acquaintances and stuff, you know, whenever they find out, oh, you all have six kids, oh, man, I feel sorry for you because, you know, that's. That's a big burden. That's like a lot of. A lot of weight. That's a lot of things. And then they start listing off all the stuff in the future. I'm like, yeah, I know. I've thought about that.
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Danielle Busby
So, yeah, I mean, I mean, I think that is a very common and realistic, I would say a lot of people, but I think a lot of men have, or they maybe it's not the answer to their why, but it's definitely something that they relate to and like, feel. I think my, my motivation is, is making sure I like, I want to live. Live with a purpose and like, show our girls that, like, this life. I mean, like something super simple today, like, we were talking about money or talk about like, things your kids want. And it's like, dude, those things ain't going to heaven with you. Like, it's. Those are not valuable things. And so it's like, I want to be able to show them that, like, we can survive here in this life and we can trust in God. And I mean, I'm still figuring out how to, like, love quote, unquote, love correctly however you say that. But I just. I want to be able to show them that, like, more than anything, like, living for purpose and loving others and showing that, like, I'm living and trying to live and trying to parent and trying to teach y' all to love God so that the. This life is not one wasted away that you're purposeful with it. Like, everything to me is, like, purposeful. Like, how can this be purposeful? How can this be purposeful? Like, what's this conversation about? What am I showing them this about getting ice creams? Like, what. Like, what is. I don't know. I see everything as what's a lesson we can teach them to better stow, like, their upcoming of like, whenever they need to make decisions on themselves. And I mean, especially because it's. We've got six girls to. To a mom. And, you know, I probably overcompensate that because I didn't have a lot of that. But I would say a big part of mine is just my. Why is because I want to show them that, like, we can survive even though it's not perfect, even though it's not beautiful all the time, even though it's a struggle sometimes. But, like, I want to show that, like, I have to trust in God to have a purposeful life because it doesn't come naturally, it doesn't come easy all the time. But I would say that in the times where I'm, you know, overwhelmed and I've experienced a lot of those over the. Over my life, and that my purpose of what gets me through that or what's next is always my faith. Like, even before I even knew it was faith. I feel like even as younger, like, always thought something else. And so it's. It's interesting to be a Christian today, to be able to, like, really kind of see that full circle of, like, wow, that's. That's not. That's me trying to live through faith with. When I used to not even know what faith was, you know, So I want our girls to obviously grow to learn how to make their own decisions and how to, you know, know right from wrong and all those, like, little scenarios. But, like, I really do. I want us to teach them as parents, you know, God has gifted us with them. Like, I want us to be able to teach them so that they can go off on their own and do the same purposeful life. Like, not same, but, like, live a purposeful life. And that's kind of really that I feel like that is a motivation. My biggest motivation is that, like, it's hard being me as mom who goes through a lot of these ups and downs and, you know, health things here and there. And so hospital, doctor appointments, all these, like, these are things that, like, take me away, that I can't, like, do or be present or, like, all the time. And. And those things, like, like, man, they knock me to the ground. As hard as it is or as easy as it might look to just, like, be out or whatever in bed or like, whatever it is. Like, it's really is a struggle still, even though it sounds so simple and boring, like, it's more struggle to lay there than it is to be active doing something. I don't know if you agree with that, because you're like, you. You probably. You love sleep. And I'm like, I know, but it's. It's different. It's hard for me to not do in a sense, so. But a lot of my motivation comes from just trying to be purposeful. And I think the last probably like five years, that's really become, like, evident to me that, like, God's really pushing that on. Like, is this for the kingdom? Like, then what are we doing? Like, that's kind of like where I. That has become more and more, like, evident to me. Like, this is what I want to live for, and I want our. Want our purpose to be like that. But I mean, it's interesting because, like, motivation can come in different ways. You know, a lot of people have to. If they're going to train for a marathon, there's different steps that they have to take. And it's not always easy to go work out. Not all the time. Do you want to get up when your alarm goes off in the morning and you might want to snooze or. Or whatever, but like, so it is like, motivation can be different and it can look different throughout different things. And that's okay. And that's okay because could I work towards something to have the motivation of getting a reward or like, ice cream or like, even things as a kid you go to the doctor and like, or you. You teach your kids this and you're like, okay, well, all right, let's. Let's get to this point. And then there's a reward. You know, it's like, there's something still that those kids are having to get motivated through. What's. What can you teach them? What can you tell them? And how to motivate Them. But there's not one perfect answer I don't think is what I'm trying to say, you know, And I think even with what you can say is motivation, when I could say is motivation, that's what we feel. But tomorrow we might be in a scenario that might be work or parenting or traffic or like, I don't know what it might be. Rain, weather, I don't know, something else might be something we need to be motivated by. Oh, I don't want to go on a 15 hour car ride. But you know what? I'm really excited to listen to that new podcast about blah, blah, blah. And so I'm going to be excited to like, just be in the car and drive like something like that. Like, small little motivations like that are okay too, you know, But I think it's important when we're faced with life struggles, challenges, obstacles. I mean, if I look at like the. Where we are in like this a phase of like a lot of change, a lot of decisions having to be made a lot. Like, we have to try not to lose the why. And it's very easy to be distracted and to be like, yeah, but we don't have to do that. Like, we don't. We don't. We don't have to sell our house. We don't have to move. We don't have to change this. We don't have to. We don't have to do any of that. Yeah, but what is our motivation and what is the why behind it? And those are things that we have to say forward and face forward of the ultimate why is where. But what is God telling us to do?
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Adam Busby
Yeah.
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Danielle Busby
What is God showing us? What is God speaking to us? And I mean, I say this because, like, I have these conversations, especially with Blake, because, you know, she is part of the one experiencing change with all these scenarios the most because she's a teenager and doesn't want any of those things to change. But I feel like it's very important to have these kind of like, raw conversations when they pop up just in the car at breakfast or like wherever they are, because it gives me opportunities to tell her those whys.
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Adam Busby
Yeah. And you know, and to convey like, you know, you set your, you set your mind on things above and you, you know, he'll. He'll reorient, reorient your desires. And, you know, I feel like we've. We're in that mode right now of him reorienting, like our desires of. I want you. I want you to go. I want you here. And, you know, and he's putting these desires on our heart. He's putting these impressions on our heart. He's. He's moving us in a direction. And God doesn't want you to be still. He wants you to go. And yes, we could, theoretically, we could make some changes. We could figure things out and we could stay here, but that's. We feel like that's not where God wants us to be.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah.
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Adam Busby
We feel like God is, Is directing us out of this space right here and move and moving us because he's changing our desires.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah.
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Adam Busby
And, you know, and a lot of people. And I've seen a lot of comments over the last month or so or a couple months now because a lot of people don't understand it.
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Danielle Busby
They don't. And they, and they.
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Adam Busby
And a lot of people don't get it.
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Danielle Busby
Why would you get rid of that? Why would you lose that? Why step away from your beautiful yard? Why step away from your pool? And, and honestly, when you think about it, you're like, I know. Why would we leave this? It's great. It. It's great in a sense. Quote, quote great. To me, I'm like, God is showing me that there's something more, more better.
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Adam Busby
More, more better. And there's more better over there.
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Danielle Busby
And that to me is. Is better. And I. And I trust that and I believe that. And it doesn't matter what the looks or the aesthetics or what. I trust in that unknown more than anything because I feel the peace about what. What is to come that I don't even know. Like, I don't even know. And so it's good just to remind yourself and always tell yourself when you're feeling not motivated, why am I doing this? Like, why am. Why am I here?
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Adam Busby
Yeah.
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Danielle Busby
And I've had to go through a lot of those. A lot. Those questions a lot of times. Okay. God, like, we've come this far. Pregnancy being fine, out. You're pregnant. Like, what's the purpose? Why are we here? What. Why. Why are we doing this? Why do we have a TV show? Why do we like all these things that are. All these things are uncomfortable. They're. A lot of them are uncomfortable. Yeah, they still are uncomfortable. Even though we're not really, quote, unquote, those people, but we'll always be a part of those people. But it's still okay to ask yourself. And you have to ask your okay, break it all down. When you're feeling overwhelmed and you just got to say, why am I here? And what am I needing to Do God, what have you called me to do in this moment? And slowing down, asking, having silence and peace, quietness with just those two little statements can change your whole day, can change your whole year, can change your whole life. And you have to, I think, learn, especially as someone who's like, likes control, is that the best foot forward is the one that you don't control yourself. You know what I mean? I know that probably doesn't even make sense, but like, there's a lot of times where we're have fear or we're scared. It's so hard to just go. So hard to have like your first public speaking event. It's so hard to get up in front of your class and like, say your speech or raise your hand because you have an answer. It's like, it's so hard sometimes to just make a step forward. Those steps. I think the ones that are the most uncomfortable are going to be the ones that grow you the most. And I feel like we're in such a huge season of, of that, of like, man, we are taking a big step and we're like trusting in God's guidance through this. And something we've been, I've been praying about for years is like, just keep us on the right path. Like, keep us on the path to you. Keep us on the path to you. Because I don't know which way to go and I don't know. And I don't want to make a bad decision, but I know if I follow you, your path is going to lead to holiness, righteousness, wholesomeness and good. And that's what I can. That's what I know. And so you know that statement of like, what do you know? That is what I know. I don't know what it's going to take to get there. I don't know the road it's going to take me, how to do it. All I know is that at the end, if I follow that, it will be good. And that's where I sit today. I follow that. And I know there'll be good. I know there'll be better. I know there'll be more than. More than better. More better.
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Adam Busby
That's good. I mean, I know like with me, whenever I am most stressed and most, I guess, fearful about, like, things that are happening or whatever, I feel like that's whenever I lean into my faith and my prayer time and stuff. And then, you know, I'll, I'll receive guidance, direction, wisdom, because that's like what I'm like just praying for. Praying over praying and. But then whenever I receive that, it's like, okay, I got it. I, like, I know which direction I need to go, and I just start to go, and I lose sight of, you know, that intentionality of, okay, what directed me here, you know, and I just, like, fill that. That void with busyness and, like, action. Yeah. And then. And then. And I kind of push that aside. Okay. Like, okay, God, I got it. And I'm. I'm running in this direction. And, you know, whenever it's up to our own devices, you start to veer because you don't have that compass. I need to focus on that. Of, you know, what. What got me in this direction, what got me, you know, shining that light on my path and showing that next step forward. And, you know, because I'll. I'll get to a point where, like, you know, it's like, in a sense, like, you're. You pray and you pray and pray, and God, like, shines a light. Okay. Like, take a step here and go in this direction, and then you just run out of that light, in a sense. And you're just running into a direction now.
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Danielle Busby
You're like, oh, I saw you shine.
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Adam Busby
This left to right, and then all of a sudden you find yourself standing in the dark again. And, you know, and so I. I fall into that a lot. Yeah.
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Danielle Busby
So what. So what a take of this analogy is that when God shines the light down a path, you don't run through the light. You stay with the light as he slowly.
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Adam Busby
Yeah.
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Danielle Busby
Slowly lifting it. And I agree with you, and I probably falter to this at times, too, but, like, getting absorbed in. Okay, I know why I'm here, and I know what the purpose is. Then you get absorbed in the doing. The doing.
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Adam Busby
Yeah.
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Danielle Busby
And then that's why I'm saying.
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Adam Busby
And then you lose your focus. That light.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah.
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Adam Busby
And, you know, and the real. What God really wants is like, no, like, okay, I'm lighting your path. Stay in the light. And, you know, keep coming back to me. Keep, you know, stay with me. He wants to walk with us, and we're like a child that, you know, you're walking in a dark path or whatever, you have a flashlight, your kid sees something, and they think they know they're going the right direction. They think they know the way, and they just take off running. And all of a sudden, they find themselves in the dark.
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Danielle Busby
Wait, you're talking about you. Because you just said that.
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Adam Busby
I know you're saying it in the chat. That's what I just said. I said we are like children. And I think the Bible even refers to us as children. But we should have, you know, we should have a childlike faith. A childlike faith. Not just like, we should be running around like aimless children.
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Danielle Busby
So just stay. I guess my words of advice would be stay obedient to your why.
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Adam Busby
Yeah. Yes. Be moving forward, but never for a go what your why is and use that as your motivation of, like, okay, this is my why. And to always stay oriented with your why. A needle of a compass is always still connected to that center. And to always know, like, looking back and seeing, this is where I came from. This is why I'm in this direction. And this. This keeps my path straight.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah. And I think that, like, no matter what season you're walking in, whether you're listening to this in your car at home or you're working out or you're watching this on YouTube or whatever, I mean, we are. We all go through seasons and we all go through, oh, definitely trials. To me, that goal is to say, don't stay stagnant. Just, like, keep going. Your story matters, you matter. Your why matters. And you are not just as, not just, just a human being. Like, you are God's child and you know, he loves you and he has a plan for you. And so that speaks very highly to me as saying, like, you know, not walking through life with like, the quote, unquote God, I mean, father figure, to understanding that, like, man, like, even though that was not a type of love that I ever really understood, but. But the father's love, the God's love for me is more abundantly than anything that anyone could ever. I love my children more than anything. But, like, you know what? God loves me more than that. And you too, like, you too, like, no matter. No matter what life is going to throw your way, like, there's always, always a purpose for you and for you to take the next step forward. I do believe that, like, we were made for more. We were made for more meaning not to give us more. We deserve more. It's none of that. It's. It's saying. I'm saying that in a way, like, we were like this life that we have, all these kids and blah, blah. It's like. But there's more to it than this. Yeah, like, there's more to life than this. This.
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Adam Busby
Yeah.
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Danielle Busby
You know, and so I just. I don't know. I hope that resonates with someone. You know, you are worthy. You're enough. God sees you. He wants your heart. If you don't know your why. Ask him. Ask him your why. You know?
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Adam Busby
Yeah. Or if you're sitting there, like, you know, just wondering, like, I don't know if I have a purpose. I mean, do some soul searching and. And find, like, what. What's your why? What's your purpose? What. What drives you? What motivates you? What pushes you to do. To do some soul searching and, like, to really narrow that down and see, you know, and get back onto that compass, you know, because us, we're like children. We, like, easily kind of get distracted or we get. We veer off path and whatever. And then you find yourself in a place and you're just in a dark room, and you don't realize where you're at, and. Because you lost track of what that why was and what that purpose is. And so.
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Danielle Busby
Yeah. Awesome. Well, thanks for listening today.
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Adam Busby
Yep. To episode 40.
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Danielle Busby
40. I can't believe we're at 40 already.
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Adam Busby
More than Reality podcast. And we will see you in the next one.
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Danielle Busby
All right, bye, guys.
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Adam Busby
All right, we love you, Gu.
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Danielle Busby
Sam.