EP 55 - Girl Talk Unfiltered: Building Deep Friendships in Your 40s

Summary

More Than Reality with Adam & Danielle:

EP 55 – Girl Talk Unfiltered: Building Deep Friendships in Your 40s

Release Date: October 23, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this vibrant and laughter-filled episode, Adam and Danielle Busby welcome their very first guests—longtime best friends Mandy and Priscilla—to dive deep into the realities of women’s friendships in their 40s. With Adam popping in and out between school pick-ups, the group explores why their bond is unique, what it takes to keep close connections thriving through the chaos of family life, and offers candid, heartfelt, and hilarious insights on nurturing adult friendships that last.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Introducing the Trimingos

[01:27–09:07]

• Mandy and Priscilla are the Busbys' first podcast guests.
• They recount how their "Trimingos" (Three Mingos) friendship began:
  • Originated from a larger group but naturally gravitated toward each other.
  • The nickname arose from inside jokes and a mix of “three” plus “flamingos” as they collected flamingo-themed symbols and eventually got matching tattoos ("Try" as the wing) [07:27].
• Danielle admits she always tells the wrong origin story, believing it was about flamingos having life-long friends:

  “I actually tell the wrong story every time... so everybody asked me about this tattoo and I was like, well, you know that like, flamingos, they like, have like, friendships for life...” – Danielle [07:46]

2. What Makes Their Friendship Unique

[09:25–18:44]

• Mutual friends often ask what distinguishes the trio’s bond.
• Core values they cite:
  • Truth and honesty, even when difficult to hear:

    “We've always spoken truth to each other, no matter what. Even when you don't want to hear the truth...” – Mandy [11:40]

  • Deep trust akin to family bonds.
  • Shared faith as a foundational value (involvement in church small group).
• Friendships strengthened by weathering life’s hardships together—marital issues, infertility, job struggles, moving, etc.
• Intentionality is essential in maintaining closeness, especially through distance and busy lives. Checking in regularly by calls and FaceTime is key.
• Celebration and support go both ways, in hard times and joyful moments:

  “It isn't just struggles, but rejoicing our happy times too... We're doing life together. That’s ups, that’s downs, the good and the bad, the ugly.” – Danielle [15:40]

3. Vulnerability, Accountability, and Spiritual Growth

[18:44–21:09]

• Group’s openness allows honest conversations about marriage, parenting, and faith.
• They “hold each other accountable,” challenging and supporting each other's spiritual growth.
• Bible verse that represents their dynamic:

  “Iron sharpens iron. ... Nothing better than being able to walk life with, you know, like soul sisters.” – Mandy [18:44]

4. Navigating Changes and Aging with Humor

[21:14–33:43]

• The women riff on the “annoying” parts of aging, including sudden chin hairs, memory lapses, and vision changes:

  “Mine would be the freaking random hair. Like, you don't see it until you get in the car... Where the heck have you been?” – Mandy [21:55]

• They poke fun at each other's outfits, “granny chic” clothing, and unfashionable but comfortable trends (Birkenstocks and socks):

  “Why would you wear socks? ...You wear socks with your Birkenstocks. Those are like sandals.” – Danielle [24:30]

• Lighthearted banter about signature looks and joking “outfit themes” for outings and church.

5. Memorable Friendship Stories

[36:32–41:47]

• Funny stories, including antique shopping mishaps, debating over belt initials, and shopping day antics (“Nordstrom ski coats,” “travel dress,” and Vegas trips).
• The accidental spilling of coffee on a friend's new house wall morphs into a lasting, humorous memory.

6. How Their Husbands View the Friendship

[42:38–45:07]

• The women relay that their husbands appreciate the depth of their connection, seeing its rarity and value.
• The friendship is regarded as a source of replenishment and support that benefits not just themselves but also their families.

Notable quote:

“He loves you guys because of how you love me, and he knows how important you are... I come back a better wife, a better mom, a better woman, better friend.” – Priscilla [43:40]

• Adam joins and reaffirms:

  “It’s something very special that what y’all have, because especially people our age, I feel like not many people have that.” – Adam [48:17]

7. Advice for Building Deep Friendships in Adulthood

[50:23–56:44]

• Practical guidance:
  • Get involved in your community—church, small groups, or activity/interest clubs.
  • Be proactive about initiating contact with other parents at activities, rather than keeping to yourself.
  • Lead with vulnerability:

    “The quickest way to deepen friendships and deepen relationships is to lead with vulnerability.” – Adam [54:35]

  • Prioritize time for deep conversation beyond the superficial.
  • “Be interested, not interesting”—take a genuine interest in others’ lives.

    “Take the time to get to know the other person... Invite them over to your house, have a meal with them.” – Danielle [55:39]

  • Nurture the relationship through consistent effort and reciprocity.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Unfiltered Honesty in Friendship

  “I've never had a friendship before where I felt like I could speak my mind off the top of my head and not have to be careful about how I say it, that I wasn't gonna offend them.” – Priscilla [16:10]

• On Celebrating Life’s Ups and Downs

  “We're doing life together. That’s ups, that’s downs, the good and the bad, the ugly.” – Danielle [15:40]

• On Accountability

  “We hold each other accountable because that's what... true love—that's what we need. We all need that. Women need women like this in their lives.” – Mandy [20:06]

• On Sacred Silly Moments

  “I feel like we can be crying and then two seconds later, we're doing that [laughing hysterically]...” – Priscilla [17:37]

• On Aging

  “My brain is not braining anymore the way it used to.” – Priscilla [22:03]

• On Husband Support

  “I think he loves you guys because of how you love me...” – Priscilla [43:40]
  “I think it's great that at our age, you know, in your 40s, continuing and furthering and deepening friendships are very meaningful, even whenever you do have kids and stuff and family, you know, because usually whenever you get to that age... that falls away a lot.” – Adam [49:56]

• On Building Friendship

  “Lead with vulnerability.” – Adam [54:35]
  “Be interested, not interesting.” – Danielle [55:39]

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Timestamps of Important Segments

• [01:29] — First podcast guests: Mandy and Priscilla introduced
• [06:45] — How “Trimingos” got its name
• [09:25] — Why their friendship is unique
• [13:00] — How hardships and small group bonded them
• [18:44] — Iron sharpens iron: Encouraging faith and vulnerability
• [21:28] — Getting real about aging and womanhood
• [36:32] — Sharing funny group stories and shopping mishaps
• [42:38] — Husbands’ perspectives on the friendship
• [50:23] — How to find deep friendship in adulthood
• [54:35] — The power of vulnerability in building connection
• [55:39] — “Be interested, not interesting”

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Final Thoughts & Takeaway

This episode offers heartfelt testament to the power of honest, intentional, faith-filled friendships in adulthood. Danielle, Mandy, and Priscilla model how laughter, shared vulnerability, and accountability create a safe harbor for personal growth and joy. Adam's supportive perspective highlights the importance of nurturing these bonds even as parental and marital responsibilities loom larger. Their actionable wisdom—get involved, show up, and be real—serves as an enthusiastic call for listeners of any age to build and maintain their own true circles of support.

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Next Episode Tease:
The Busbys and friends are open to feedback on whether this guest-filled girl talk should become a regular feature.

Transcript

[Danielle]

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[Mandy]

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[Priscilla]

Podcast where we dive into all things faith, family and marriage and share that there is so much more than the reality that you see on the surface. Welcome to More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle Busby.

[Adam]

All right, guys, welcome to episode 55, a more than reality podcast. And we have two special guests.

[Mandy]

Our first guest actually. We've never actually had guests before.

[Adam]

We've never had a guest.

[Danielle]

What an Honor.

[Adam]

We've done 54 sides today. We've done 54 episodes but not one guest.

[Mandy]

So we brought two guests today because how do you pick out of you two? Who's going to be first?

[Danielle]

Yeah, it'll be a fight.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, I was gonna say we wrestle right now.

[Danielle]

I'm pretty sure I'd win though.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, I would 100% agree with that.

[Mandy]

So we're bringing in episode 55 and we thought since Mandy here. Well, let's introduce these ladies here. So this is Mandy with dignified home here, also known as best friend Mandy. And she is in from Michigan but also is visiting here. She came down for after the rain event that we had this past couple days and so she's down visiting. So we thought let's do a podcast. And then everybody knows Chia over here, Priscilla, also known from K and K.

[Adam]

Brazilian beach.

[Mandy]

Vintage now very successful if you have it.

[Priscilla]

They're very rare.

[Danielle]

Worth a line.

[Mandy]

It's very hard to find. It's native now that's been the bestie for.

[Danielle]

It's kind of like Elizabeth Taylor. Never gets old.

[Mandy]

Yeah, exactly, exactly. Everybody knows Gia. She's been seen on our daughter too. Falling over ladders sometimes or fences sometimes.

[Danielle]

You just won't let that forget, would you?

[Mandy]

Everybody laughs at that one. So since Mandy's are visiting, we're like the try friends here.

[Priscilla]

You know, we have to always have A day together.

[Mandy]

We always have our Mingo day. And so we thought, let's just do a podcast today, since today's filming podcast day on friendship, because we're friends. So Adam's got to go get the kids from school. So we're gonna say, peace out, and we're gonna have girl chats.

[Danielle]

Sorry.

[Priscilla]

We want Adam to be part of it for a little bit.

[Mandy]

Yeah. But you really do have to go get kids. So he'll come back in. It's gonna be a little bit weird Podcast because he's gonna go, I'm gonna pop in.

[Adam]

Pop out.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Adam]

Whenever I pop back in, I'm gonna have a house full of kids with us. And so this may get really loud.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

Oh, you'll have to warn them. You'll have to warn them because.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, predictable.

[Mandy]

We couldn't fit all upstairs with the setup because it's only fit for me and Adam.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

So now we're downstairs, I would just.

[Adam]

Have to shuffle a bunch of stuff around.

[Mandy]

Yeah, we didn't have to do that.

[Adam]

This was the quickest way to make this happen.

[Danielle]

For those who want a reality TV show, this is your reality.

[Adam]

Well, I was literally upstairs editing another podcast, not our podcast. And Danielle calls. She was just on a lunch date with them. She was spending the day with them. Cuz Mandy's in town and they're like, we're going to do a podcast today on friendship.

[Priscilla]

And I just like, it was crickets.

[Mandy]

L was crickets were probably, like.

[Danielle]

It was an uncomfortable pause.

[Mandy]

We all started silently laughing in the car because it was kind of a joke, but we were like, let's see what he says.

[Adam]

Yeah. As y' all know, I like to process whenever somebody gives me that. And immediately I'm just, like, thinking of all the logistics of, like, how to make it work, like, microphones and lighting and where we're gonna do it and stuff. So, like, I just stop and think.

[Mandy]

And we're like, he's mad.

[Adam]

They thought I was mad.

[Danielle]

Wait for it.

[Mandy]

Wait for it.

[Priscilla]

This idea.

[Danielle]

Sure enough, 50 seconds later, you know, it starts to tell.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Danielle]

Okay, well, let's talk about the mic situation.

[Mandy]

We have mics. We're gonna have to move some lights and set up where we're gonna do it. Blah, blah. Like, well, you think about it and call us later.

[Priscilla]

Adam made it happen.

[Mandy]

Made it happen.

[Adam]

I have to go get Blake here in a few minutes.

[Mandy]

She's about to text you and say, where are you?

[Adam]

It's 3:57.

[Mandy]

I know she's out of school. In three minutes.

[Adam]

So. Okay, I'll ask one question.

[Mandy]

Uhoh.

[Adam]

So you guys call yourselves the Tringos. So is that like a playoff? The Three Amigos?

[Mandy]

No, no.

[Adam]

I always thought it was because you are like, you know, call yourselves that.

[Priscilla]

I feel like we can't even really tell this.

[Danielle]

I don't really remember.

[Mandy]

Oh, I know.

[Danielle]

Is that Tries three. I remember I got that part right.

[Mandy]

I thought.

[Priscilla]

I don't really know. It does make sense.

[Mandy]

It's kind of multiple things.

[Priscilla]

Yes. The way it really started, we can't really say because it would probably make some people feel unhappy.

[Mandy]

Yeah, but some people on the couch.

[Priscilla]

No, no. We used to be part of another group of a larger group of women that would get together every now and then. And then we found ourselves in that group sometimes gravitating toward each other and having conversations. And then we started saying we were try. I can't say the name of this group.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

And then we were like, I actually.

[Danielle]

Forgot about that part.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. And then I was like, we can't say that anymore because there. People might get offended. Yeah.

[Adam]

Oh, we'll say, uh, huh.

[Priscilla]

I'm like, huh. We went to your house one time for a. I think it was one of the quince parties and you had the flamingos everywhere. And we were setting them up and one of the legs came off and so only had one leg. And we were laughing about that. And then we were like, three legs, but the other leg fell off like that. That sticks up. You know what I'm saying? And then we just ended up like, merging the two and we were like, try the try three mean goes. And it just. Flaw mean goes. It became supposed to be, but it shortened to try mingos.

[Mandy]

Yeah. It became funny. And then we'd go on vacation and stuff. And then anytime we saw a flamingo or we try to like move flingos.

[Priscilla]

Or statues or something, we all have our flamingo tattoos.

[Mandy]

Tattoos.

[Priscilla]

And it says try as the wing.

[Danielle]

You can't really read it because there's.

[Mandy]

A lot of stories around.

[Danielle]

So right now it's like so fuzzy.

[Mandy]

There's a lot of stories around all the flamingo and the mangoes.

[Danielle]

No, I gotta be honest. I actually tell the wrong story every time because I didn't know it was about that. So everybody asked me about this tattoo and I was like, well, you know that like, flamingos, they like, have like, friendships for life in their friendship, you know? And they were like, yes, supposedly. And I was like, so that's why we chose that. I thought it had to do with that. And then the Try. Because it's three of us. So try. And then the long term friendship. No, that's penguins. Those are penguins, I'm telling you.

[Mandy]

You want me to look up? I also see, like, flamingos, too, represent, like, how flamingos, like, lose their color when they have.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, the moms.

[Mandy]

The moms lose their color while they're.

[Priscilla]

Because they're giving all their nutrients to their children. And when the children get old enough, they get their color back.

[Danielle]

So we got our color back.

[Priscilla]

We got our color back.

[Mandy]

Get that color back. Except apparently there's a lot of reasons why we're the Trimingos, but that's right. Yeah. So that's it.

[Adam]

I just always assumed it was the three amigos.

[Priscilla]

Oh, really?

[Mandy]

No, we're not.

[Adam]

Like, a flamingo is kind of feminine.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. I mean, it can go that way, but that's not how it started.

[Mandy]

There's Blake. Told you.

[Adam]

I gotta go pick up Blake.

[Priscilla]

Okay, we'll see you in a little bit.

[Adam]

I'm gonna leave y' all to this podcast. So y' all are gonna talk about friendship.

[Mandy]

Maybe we'll talk about you.

[Adam]

Why friendships are important.

[Danielle]

We're going to talk now.

[Mandy]

Oh, my gosh.

[Priscilla]

I want to talk about why our friendship, specifically is.

[Mandy]

Daddy's coming to get you. Call him. Bye. All right. Okay.

[Priscilla]

Turn this off.

[Mandy]

So we're talking about what, Mandy?

[Priscilla]

I feel like we always get questions from other friends. Mutual friends of all of ours.

[Danielle]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

And they're like, why are you guys so bond? Like, what is so unique about your. The three of you? Because they see a difference when they're around us.

[Mandy]

Like, what makes our friendship so different from even other friendships that we have with other people?

[Priscilla]

Yeah, because we have close friends that are not part of this group. But, like, what specifically about the three of us is different? Like, what is different about our friendship, the three of us that other people look at and say that they notice that it's different. They notice it's unique.

[Mandy]

Yeah. Because we have other friends and we have other close friends, but there's definitely a different bond between us that, like, no matter what we feel like we bond differently. Even within distance. Yeah. It still hasn't been broken or changed, really. I mean, distance definitely changes the fact that, like, you can't.

[Priscilla]

The frequency.

[Mandy]

The frequency getting together, like, even moving 20 minutes away or whatever is. It's harder to, like, see, you know, and, like, quickly run to each other's house and stuff, but, you know, so you definitely have to be more intentional. With, you know, how you're checking in on each other and being more intentional with, like, phone calls or FaceTimes or if you don't have those phones, trying to figure out how you're going to do that. But, you know, I think above all, like, I think we maybe each kind of, like, talk about, like, why we feel like our friendships are bonded the way that they are. I think one I would say is that they've started off with truth, and I don't think that they've ever strayed from truth. And we've always spoken truth to each other, no matter what. Even when you don't want to hear the truth, we've always spoken the truth. And I don't find that friends, and especially women friends, are comfortable doing that or want to do that or have or able to receive that well from another.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

Lady friend.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

They don't receive it, and they get mad and shut it down. Doesn't mean that if you tell me something, if y', all, either one of you tell me something, I have this trust factor of, like, just as much as, like, you know, if my husband were to tell me something, I know it's coming out of love if it's something I don't want to hear. So there's a level of I trust y' all just as, like, a family member coming in and saying something, you know, so we trust our friendship, and there's this level of comfortableness and a faith that has molded us together as far as, like, our values and whatnot, where, you know, the friendship is just different. I don't know.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Danielle]

Yeah. I mean, I'd piggyback on that. I would say that truth is what really started bonding us. I'd say even, like, because we started our friendship first. And a lot of people would say, my question I get is, how did Mandy get into.

[Priscilla]

How did I break into this unbreakable bond?

[Mandy]

I know.

[Danielle]

Which is why we started our friendship so long ago, before you friends for many, many years.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

And.

[Danielle]

But we went through hardships together. We went through life together. You know, move, you know, infertility, marital struggles, you name it, all this kind of stuff, and job issues. So to me, us being there for each other and learning about each other during that low phase, like, adults really brought us together. Yeah. Adulting together really brought us together.

[Priscilla]

So.

[Danielle]

And it wasn't until small group when we started getting close with you. And she's our mercy person. She's our mercy friend.

[Mandy]

Explain what small group is in case people don't know.

[Danielle]

Oh, yeah. So small group is like our. It's like a community group that we meet outside of church. You know, you can't really do church. Church can't be there for you throughout the week. So small group is that one time where you can have a smaller gathering of fellowship with people. And our church that we used to go to, or I used to go to, they really encourage you to meet once a week with those groups and do Bible study. Do Bible study.

[Priscilla]

Life together.

[Danielle]

Yeah, Fellowship. And that's how we met. We were in the same small group. So we started getting close with you. And I think. I think it's just organic. I really don't know how else to explain it. It's just organically, we just started being more drawn towards each other. There's no spec. Specific, you know, formula or anything like that. But once that happened, I think that, like, she got both of our personalities very well.

[Priscilla]

And I mediate them.

[Mandy]

Yes.

[Danielle]

A lot of times we would. We would get in arguments or something. Then you would be the one that would be in between.

[Mandy]

It's funny how you're sitting in the mirror.

[Priscilla]

Me too.

[Danielle]

Yeah. Yeah, There you go.

[Priscilla]

I'm like, don't fight. Don't fight.

[Danielle]

So. And I think that once we started developing our friendship, all three of us have really put effort into maintaining that friendship and checking on each other and making sure that we're being for each other during your struggles as well. And also not just. I don't wanna talk about just struggles, but just rejoicing our happy times, too. You know, when I can think of, like, Riley getting a job or Connor graduating.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. Like on Saturday, my son is having his first baby. We're doing the gender reveal, and they're gonna be like, we're doing life together. That's ups, that's downs. The good and the bad, the ugly.

[Danielle]

Yeah. And I think that we've done a good job at maintaining each other informed and what's going on in our lives so that we can be there for each other. It's too hard. Especially, you know, she's really far from us, so. And I've actually. I've told you this. It's been harder this year to maintain it for sure. But we have to be intentional with our time together. Like getting a call once in a while and let's do a call where we catch up and be on the phone for an hour.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. And be vulnerable.

[Danielle]

Yeah. So I think that's been very helpful.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. Yeah. And I agree with the truth 100% because I've never had a friendship before where I felt like I could speak my mind off the top of my head and not have to be careful about how I say it, that I wasn't gonna offend them. And I feel like we can do that with each other and not be afraid of offending because we do know each other's hearts so well. And like you said, we trust each other so much that we're not second guessing or reading into that. We know what we are. We know our hearts. And so you can say, mandy, you were wrong. You should have done this, or you hurt my feelings, or the way you treated your husband wasn't right or whatever it is. Or kids stuff, like the way you're parenting your child. You could do it better this way. And, like, we don't think about this. Yeah. We don't have to say it in a way that we're like, oh, how do I need to say it? Like, we just say it and we understand. And if our feelings are hurt, we, like, go to each other and say, hey, that was rude. Like, I don't like that. I'm mad at you. You know, but we can always come back and.

[Danielle]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

Laugh about it and love on each other, I'd say.

[Danielle]

Even on the funny factor too. Like, we can make some jokes about each other.

[Mandy]

Like, you know when you're on Instagram and you see those reels where it's like the best friends or whatever and they're just doing nothing and they're just laughing and they're like that and, like, peeing, like, that's this.

[Priscilla]

Yes. Yeah.

[Mandy]

We don't know.

[Priscilla]

I feel like we can be crying and then two seconds later, we're doing that. Yeah.

[Danielle]

And that's like, the one thing that I feel like sets this friendship apart from a lot of other friendships is that we can make fun of each other and we'll get on and instead of being like, wait, you're like, let's keep going. And like, that joke just keeps snowballing.

[Priscilla]

You know, because she's high maintenance and.

[Mandy]

She'S selfish and she's perfect.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. Always. But they're all interchangeable at times.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I was gonna say, also, when we get together, we are intentional.

[Mandy]

We know each other is valuable.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. Even if it's a fun time, we always have spiritual, godly conversation. Also, like, we always are like, what do you need prayer for? What's going on in your life? Even if we're having fun, we constantly are trying to build each other up in our faith and Encourage each other. And, and that scripture, iron sharpens iron. That's what these two ladies do for me.

[Mandy]

Yeah, exactly. Yeah. I mean, like, I don't think there's a better example of like a scripture that explains like iron sharpens iron. I mean there's nothing better than being able to walk life with, you know, like soul sisters of like women that you can relate to and you know, have even, even when I say like do life with. They don't even have to live next door. They don't have to live, be at, you know, your.

[Priscilla]

They don't have to go to your church, they don't have to go to church, go to your kids schools.

[Mandy]

You know, sometimes, you know, we did meet that way in those parameters and we're still being able to maintain these friendships. You know, I have another best friend who still lives in Louisiana and don't see her often either. You know, it's hard to maintain, to maintain like long distance friendships. But doing, doing that when you have intentionality and making points to check in or not just do the superficial fun things or skip over the hard stuff or you know, what's going on. How's your marriage, how's your life, how's the kids? How's, how's work? How like what's hard? What, what are you.

[Danielle]

We're holding each other accountable.

[Mandy]

We hold each other accountable because that's what good. Like that's what that is, what that is true love. That is what we need. We all need that. And you know, like, I speak a lot about that. Like women need women like this in their lives because if you're walking alone, like God didn't call us to be alone and you need support in your life and you know, you having friendships, women, friendships in your lives are very different than having your husband, very different than having your kids. Those are all great things. But doing life with other like minded Christian women or even your husband's men, having like minded men in their life, walking life with them is also very important. There's times that we all just need it. Yeah. Women can get women and men can understand men. We'll never understand how men are molded and how their minds work. And same for men, you know, they won't get our hormones and, or craziness. I'm not crazy.

[Priscilla]

I don't have hormones.

[Mandy]

I'm not sweating right now.

[Priscilla]

Are you growing hair on your chest right now?

[Mandy]

Probably on my chin maybe.

[Priscilla]

I don't know.

[Danielle]

Anyway, I was just thinking that earlier today.

[Mandy]

I have a lot of acne. Real like it's either a lot of.

[Danielle]

Acne or hair starting to come out.

[Priscilla]

One of the two.

[Mandy]

Okay, I have a question. What is the most annoyingest thing about you getting older?

[Danielle]

Let me get my list.

[Mandy]

I was like, hold on.

[Priscilla]

Do we.

[Danielle]

Do we need to prepare ourselves for that?

[Mandy]

What's the most annoying thing about.

[Danielle]

I've been waiting for this question.

[Priscilla]

That's the only reason why we're doing this podcast.

[Mandy]

Oh, we have a full list of that.

[Priscilla]

Adam gave us.

[Mandy]

I was going to say about hormones and getting older. Oh, gosh.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

Mine would be the freaking random hair. Like, you don't see it until you get in the car. And it's like, perfect lighting. You're like, where the heck have you been?

[Priscilla]

Mine is the. Looking for my phone constantly, half the day. Where'd I put my phone? Did I sat down over there? Where'd I put my phone? Yeah, my brain is not braining anymore the way it used to.

[Danielle]

Yeah, I can't relate.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

I was gonna say Priscilla's had that for a while.

[Priscilla]

She's so young.

[Danielle]

She has. Actually, I'm starting to have the vision. The presbyopia.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, you were just talking about that.

[Danielle]

Seeing it from close. That's been a little bit annoying. Cause I still haven't gotten glasses yet, so I have yet to bite me.

[Mandy]

Wear contacts.

[Danielle]

Right. But that's far.

[Priscilla]

You need the one.

[Danielle]

I can't see from far, so I wear contacts for that. But then presbyope is when it's like aging vision, so you can't see from close. So really close. I'm starting to have.

[Mandy]

I'm getting old because I can't see up close.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, I like it.

[Danielle]

And it happens like this, too. It's really quick.

[Priscilla]

Do you.

[Mandy]

Do you have problems seeing up close?

[Priscilla]

Not yet.

[Mandy]

Oh, do it.

[Danielle]

But you know what it is?

[Priscilla]

I have contacts for far.

[Danielle]

It's your jeans.

[Priscilla]

Well, my sister can't see up close. My older sister.

[Danielle]

It's your heritage. Your heritage. They don't have a lot of issues with that.

[Mandy]

We know. Yeah. Okay. Okay.

[Priscilla]

And that was one of those things.

[Danielle]

Yeah. You know.

[Mandy]

Yeah, I do know. We know. We know. We know.

[Priscilla]

We know.

[Mandy]

Talk about fun stuff.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Danielle]

Let's talk about your outfits. Let's talk about your outfits.

[Priscilla]

Oh, yes. No Thanksgiving. Danielle.

[Mandy]

No, no.

[Danielle]

We actually feel like you're dressing up today because you're not wearing Birkenstocks and socks and biker shorts and Adam's micro shorts.

[Priscilla]

Biker shorts.

[Danielle]

Adam. Adam's oversized shirts for America that went to donation and went and grabbed it.

[Priscilla]

From the box, dude.

[Mandy]

That's because of it. Most of the time I'm sweating and I'm doing hormonal. Yeah. And I like socks. I wear socks all the time. If I'm gonna run out the house, I'm putting Birkenstocks on. Look, I started that trend like back in the 90s.

[Danielle]

Middle schoolers started that trend.

[Priscilla]

Listen, that was a trend way a long time ago. And everything's just coming back now. They're all wearing the stuff we used to wear.

[Mandy]

I told my aunt Lynette, look, aunt Lynette, you had this trend. And now I brought it back.

[Priscilla]

And then now they're bringing it back.

[Danielle]

Yeah, see? Well, it never came to Brazil, cuz I don't think I've ever seen that before. Nobody wears socks with flip flops cuz it's too hot. Or with sandals. Who does that?

[Mandy]

Nobody's wearing.

[Danielle]

Why would you wear socks?

[Mandy]

Nobody wear socks with flip flops. That's weird.

[Danielle]

You wear socks with your Birken socks. Those are sandals. Those are like socks.

[Mandy]

And Birken socks is different. You're not putting your toe around a noodle.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, I don't like that.

[Danielle]

Still is weird.

[Mandy]

I don't like that visual.

[Priscilla]

Toe around a noodle.

[Mandy]

That's what. Oh, they call it thongs or whatever.

[Priscilla]

They thong the thong. Thong, thong, thongs. Okay, Adam's gonna be mad. We're talking about this.

[Danielle]

So now you're back with your ruffles. Your event night has your.

[Mandy]

Dude, you are more ruffles these days than anything. Look what you're wearing right now.

[Danielle]

Ruffles chic sheet by Ross.

[Mandy]

Chic, chic chic by Ross. You make fun.

[Priscilla]

Sky.

[Mandy]

Harold, you.

[Priscilla]

You just Ross. Ross. Clearance.

[Mandy]

Rosset, Rosset, Rosset.

[Danielle]

It was clearance. You're right. It was 9.99.

[Priscilla]

This one.

[Danielle]

Yeah, I know it's not ironed either, but usually looks really pretty.

[Adam]

You.

[Mandy]

The last couple times I've seen you, you make more fun. Priscilla has always. Priscilla has called me Thanksgiving since this one year at Friendsgiving. I had a flow one year. Every year.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, every year. That's where it started.

[Mandy]

Yeah, that's where it started for. You wore this flowy like muumu.

[Danielle]

She wear a muumuu before she even had kids. That's the weird thing I had. And she really liked mustard yellow colors.

[Priscilla]

Burgundy brown.

[Danielle]

Like your maternity.

[Priscilla]

Your fall thing.

[Danielle]

Your maternity photo shoot. You had a mustard yellow jacket. Like, who does that with the pregnant belly? She's like with the mustard yellow jacket.

[Mandy]

It's like.

[Priscilla]

Somebody out there, their favorite color is mustard yellow.

[Mandy]

I did love that jacket. Sorry. I got it in two colors. Mustard and dark mustard. I'm just kidding.

[Danielle]

Dark mustard. No, she liked Dijon mustard. She liked the Thanksgiving green. Yes, like the really dark green.

[Priscilla]

It was fall, Thanksgiving all year round and everything.

[Mandy]

Look at that painting right there. Those are my toes.

[Danielle]

She just. She just always had hormonal. It's just. She needs like flowing stuff. All they need to be circulating under that dress.

[Mandy]

And I love that. I love granny chic.

[Priscilla]

And then sometimes she. This is spring. She'll send me a video and she'll be like, what do you think of this? I was like, no, ma'. Am. I was like, you can't go.

[Danielle]

And she still wears it. She's still wearing it.

[Priscilla]

And then add some of the chic into granny chic.

[Danielle]

Yeah. There's no chic.

[Mandy]

I love it. I love that painting right there.

[Danielle]

Because I want.

[Mandy]

That means quints are out of Bible class. So Adam has to get them from school. I love it. I know. How awesome is that? They get on Tuesdays they have Bible class after school at school.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. In elementary our kids did that.

[Mandy]

Dude at school. Who teaches that at the school, like.

[Danielle]

But the teachers state like a club.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, our kids did that too. It was awesome.

[Danielle]

That's cool.

[Mandy]

Anyway, I. Out of all the things I have ever worn, nothing has been. I think we're going to find pictures of this.

[Priscilla]

Oh, the travel dress.

[Mandy]

The travel dress. Nothing has been as bad as the travel dress picture.

[Priscilla]

Laura Ingalls shoulder pads and all. Shoulder pads, ruffles.

[Danielle]

Are you talking about my dress?

[Mandy]

Yes.

[Danielle]

Oh, I thought. I thought we were still yours. You're travel dressing you now already? I wasn't ready. I was coming up with stuff for you.

[Priscilla]

Okay. Do you.

[Mandy]

You can't go. You source.

[Danielle]

I do. I'll never give that away. This is most comfortable.

[Mandy]

I need to find a picture of it.

[Danielle]

I found that at Goodwill and I'm very. Thank you to the lady donated.

[Priscilla]

It's from the early 1800s. It really is.

[Danielle]

It's like one of those dresses that.

[Mandy]

My grandma used to make for me when I was.

[Danielle]

It was handmade. It's couture.

[Mandy]

It totally was handmade. From the paper sketches.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, from the patterns that you go to. Like Julian fabrics.

[Danielle]

Very pretty pattern.

[Priscilla]

Yep.

[Mandy]

No, it's not.

[Priscilla]

The material was not grainy for a 12 year old.

[Danielle]

It's very comfortable. It has pockets.

[Priscilla]

We'll find.

[Danielle]

It is the most comfortable.

[Priscilla]

We'll find a picture.

[Mandy]

I'm going to find my Thanksgiving. That is. That was what you're talking about. That maternity photo was not why you called it Thanksgiving. I remember what I had on for Thanksgiving Day. That you.

[Danielle]

A ruffle dress that looks like a turkey.

[Priscilla]

But then she said you also did that turkey.

[Mandy]

I had the quits by then. Maybe I was a turkey. No. Yes, I did.

[Danielle]

That was before. That was before kids. Are you sure? Yes. Yeah.

[Priscilla]

Thanksgiving started when. When I even moved.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, yeah.

[Mandy]

Okay. She should do the dance.

[Priscilla]

Go.

[Danielle]

Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving. Mandy.

[Priscilla]

I'm perfect. There's nothing.

[Mandy]

I know.

[Danielle]

I'm like Mandy's lady boss once a week when we see her.

[Priscilla]

That's true.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Danielle]

Lady boss. Don't mess with her. She's like, I'm usually very easy going, but when I want to, I'm intimidated. The day that she dresses up, I'm intimidated. I was like, maybe I shouldn't approach her today. Cause she's like, usually I'm inside. I feel like she's going to fire me or something. You know, there's an era of like, you're very busy. Yes. I mean, you get dignified as soon as you see her. You get dignified all of a sudden, you know, and then after that, then she goes back to her comfortable self.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, I can.

[Danielle]

So today you're comfortable?

[Priscilla]

Just comfortable.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

But you call me. What?

[Danielle]

Wasn't even that place from Michigan that we went shopping. Remember? It was Meer Meyer.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, she's.

[Danielle]

She's Meyer comfortable. She's Meyer comfortable today.

[Priscilla]

Yes.

[Danielle]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

True.

[Danielle]

With all those shoes.

[Priscilla]

Yes.

[Mandy]

Although Aldo.

[Danielle]

Yeah, she wears Aldo.

[Mandy]

Those are cute. I like how there's ruffles on it. No, it looks like. It looks like doily. How cute is that?

[Priscilla]

It's grandma chic. It looks like doily, but there's more chic than grandma.

[Mandy]

Oh, man. I saw the cutest, like, thing with a doily on it the other day. I don't. I don't want like a doily sitting there. It was like a really cute.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Danielle]

Talk about when she has her hair organic, huh? Naturally.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. Oh, the first time I came in with my curly hair.

[Mandy]

I'm sorry.

[Danielle]

So she's got curly. She's got her. She's got really tight curls. And you never know because she always has the soap put together over here.

[Mandy]

So imagine taking a curling.

[Priscilla]

Well, it's just like a perm.

[Mandy]

A perm.

[Danielle]

And electrocuting it and putting your finger on the outlet.

[Priscilla]

Cause I have so much hair and I don't know how to. It took me many, many years of Being able to tame, like, figure out how to do my hair curly. But I remember the first time I wore my hair curly. I think I met y' all at Panera Bread one time, and I walked in with my hair curly, and they were like.

[Danielle]

I'm like, who's this? I don't even know you anymore.

[Mandy]

Who are you? Who are you?

[Danielle]

Why'd you lie to us the whole time about your hair?

[Mandy]

You're not Mandy.

[Priscilla]

You're like. That's who you are. I didn't even know you had curly hair.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

You never know what you're gonna get.

[Mandy]

You never know what you're gonna get with Priscilla either, because she likes to play.

[Priscilla]

She either looks like she's never. She got dressed in the dark, she just woke up. Or I can't say the. I'm trying to figure out how to save the other one. Or she's going out for a night on the town.

[Mandy]

Yeah, there you go. In a nice.

[Priscilla]

Yes. In Vegas. And then she's got all of her different hair.

[Mandy]

She likes his wigs.

[Priscilla]

And one day it might be blonde and long. One day it might be a long ponytail.

[Mandy]

You forgot the best part. Every outfit has a name. Has a name and a theme.

[Priscilla]

And when we would go out and.

[Danielle]

My wigs have a name.

[Priscilla]

Yes. And before we would go out, she.

[Mandy]

Has a story of.

[Priscilla]

We would text each other, like, you know, what are you wearing? Or whatever. And she's like, the theme is.

[Mandy]

And when you see church.

[Priscilla]

Oh, gosh. What did you say?

[Mandy]

One time in the theme never makes sense.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. It was like two opposite.

[Danielle]

But when you see me, it'll be like. It'd be like, now, that makes you church.

[Mandy]

Church meets bachelorette.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

It's like, what?

[Priscilla]

Yeah. I can't remember some of your descriptions. They're so funny.

[Mandy]

And you see it and you're like, so.

[Priscilla]

But you do look good when you dress up to go out. It just takes you five hours to get ready. Yeah. And four wigs.

[Danielle]

Actually, lately, I've been more low maintenance. Yeah. I feel like I've been doing the same makeup every time. I'm not. You know why? Because I'm getting older now, so it's harder to do the wing.

[Priscilla]

Cause it's.

[Danielle]

The wing now is starting to come down. Because, I mean, like, when you try to do the wings, after a while, it gets down.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

We gotta start doing handstands to smile.

[Danielle]

Yes, exactly. So now I'm starting to give up on the whole crazy, you know, going out. Look like this.

[Mandy]

Whatever.

[Priscilla]

Cat eye.

[Danielle]

Yeah. Cat eyes are not happening after the rain.

[Mandy]

And you told, make it work. You'll give that cat eye. And I'm like, no, don't listen to.

[Danielle]

Make those eyes pop out.

[Mandy]

Do not give me some cat eye.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

Gosh, we're fun. Yeah, we are fun. It's a lot of pressure just sitting here talking like this with y'. All.

[Priscilla]

Well, because a lot of the stuff we can't say.

[Mandy]

I know. That's the hard part. Yeah.

[Priscilla]

We're like, okay, now what are we allowed to say?

[Mandy]

So that's maybe what you meant earlier.

[Priscilla]

Yes.

[Danielle]

Yes.

[Mandy]

What are. Yeah. What might have to be edited is what you said. But now I get it. Yeah, now I get it. Now I get it.

[Priscilla]

Yes.

[Mandy]

But we're going to dinner tonight, so that'll be fun. Then we have the gender reveals for Mandy's grandbaby, which is exciting. She actually knows, which is impressive. She knows.

[Priscilla]

So stressful. I've been for a month.

[Mandy]

I can't believe you wanted to know.

[Priscilla]

Well, I didn't think we were gonna have to wait that long to, like, they have the review, so never.

[Danielle]

How long have you known?

[Priscilla]

Over a month. And I'm also designing their nursery, so it's been extra hard. Cause I'm trying to ask questions of.

[Mandy]

Like, what they want, but are they.

[Priscilla]

Doing a neutral but not giving away if I'm picking, like, one or the other?

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Danielle]

So how does that work?

[Mandy]

She's painting the room tomorrow.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Danielle]

Okay, so the part that's gonna be more sex oriented is only happening after the reveal.

[Priscilla]

Yes.

[Danielle]

As far as the decoration goes.

[Mandy]

Correct. Okay, so.

[Priscilla]

So they gave me ideas.

[Mandy]

Do you want me to go shopping with you tomorrow? Do you want me to help you paint tomorrow?

[Priscilla]

No. Nice try, but they gave me ideas. Danielle, wait for boy and girl. And then I went and got the things.

[Mandy]

What if they went in there and.

[Priscilla]

Then I shut the door, I closed the curtains so they don't go in there. Right. But they're good at not. They're gonna wait. They're this close. It's like a few days away. They're not gonna peek.

[Danielle]

Danielle's not really good at keeping things clean because she always spills things all over. Last time we were at Sierra's house, by the way, Sarah, if you don't.

[Priscilla]

Know this, I just painted that. No, I told them and I. I just painted.

[Danielle]

She just spilled. Was espresso martini.

[Priscilla]

No, it just was coffee.

[Danielle]

We meant to have coffee all over the brand new wall that they just bought that house.

[Priscilla]

It's your fault.

[Danielle]

And Then she starts trying to wipe it. And then the. The paint starts coming off.

[Priscilla]

It was flat. It's flat white paint. So it just absorbed. There's no way to clean it. They didn't have extra paint. And I felt like a child having to go to their parents and say, I messed up and I ruined this wall. And they had just moved in, and I felt horrible. I almost started crying when I told them. And they were like, it's fine, Mom. That's fine. And then just now, we got the paint. That's almost a year later. So I went and painted it.

[Danielle]

It's all fine. Same color?

[Priscilla]

Yep. I blend it in. You can't even tell. But we will always know.

[Danielle]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

It will always be there in our hearts.

[Mandy]

When I go, I'm gonna sign it my name. Real small.

[Priscilla]

Yes.

[Danielle]

Really tiny.

[Priscilla]

You should.

[Danielle]

Okay, so I wanna tell some funny stories about ourselves.

[Priscilla]

Okay.

[Danielle]

Can I tell a funny story about you?

[Mandy]

Oh, which one?

[Danielle]

So it's okay.

[Priscilla]

It's tame.

[Danielle]

It's tame.

[Priscilla]

It's appropriate.

[Danielle]

So we go antique shopping. Were you with us that time?

[Priscilla]

No.

[Danielle]

Holly was with us. Nick was with us. We're going tea shopping, and we're looking all over for different stuff, whatever. And you find this belt. She find his belt. That was not getting cheaper. And it looked really cool, actually, because it was a rodeo belt or like.

[Priscilla]

A western belt buckle.

[Danielle]

A Western belt.

[Mandy]

I wanted a western belt buckle. Just like. But it was a fine, like, one in a. Like an antique.

[Priscilla]

Just a real one.

[Mandy]

Like a real one.

[Danielle]

And it fit her perfect. I mean, it was, you know, it was meant to fit her.

[Priscilla]

Awesome.

[Danielle]

But he had initials in there. What was initials?

[Mandy]

J, H. H. J, H, H?

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

Oh, no.

[Danielle]

She's like, I guess my name now.

[Priscilla]

Is going to have to be, you.

[Danielle]

Know, John Henry Harry.

[Mandy]

I said, look at this. John Henry Henry.

[Danielle]

And it was so cool. The belt was so neat. Look.

[Priscilla]

Who's your ancestor?

[Mandy]

What mother names his middle name Henry. When his last name's Henry.

[Danielle]

Yeah. So then we were, like, looking around. I was like, man, I really love that belt. Like, I want a belt just like this.

[Mandy]

There was another one, and it wasn't.

[Danielle]

And I tried. Y wasn't as cute then. I was like, man, I really want one. Just like. I was like, I'll give you mine, but mine has my initial. It's so cute.

[Mandy]

I was like, I'd let you borrow it, but it has my initials on it.

[Danielle]

She.

[Mandy]

She gives a good laugh.

[Priscilla]

And then you're like, I'm gonna pee my pants. Yeah.

[Mandy]

Oh, yeah.

[Danielle]

You know, the problem is I just keep replaying those funny moments the whole time.

[Priscilla]

Also because half the time she gets it, like, literally a whole minute or two later, and then she. We've already moved on. And then all of a sudden, she'll just bust out laughing.

[Mandy]

Bust out laughing. And she'll be like, oh, God.

[Priscilla]

And then us laugh even harder. And then we're just laughing at. She's like the joke that you told five minutes ago.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Danielle]

I feel like I have some jokes for you, but I'm not sure if I can.

[Mandy]

I feel like one of our epic memories is.

[Danielle]

But those are my.

[Mandy]

I feel like one of our epic memories is Nordstrom ski coats.

[Priscilla]

Yes. Oh, yes.

[Mandy]

Tell them about that. Nanny was embarrassed.

[Danielle]

Wait, you tell them the whole thing? Are you telling about just the ski coat?

[Priscilla]

I can't talk about the other stuff. Just the ski. Those, like, puffer coats. And they go all the way down and then zip up. And I have video of the two of them with them on because we were saying they look like you're in a sleeping bag. And they were sitting there fake punching.

[Danielle]

And we were saying, we're gonna try to try clothes on to go visit you because you had just moved on.

[Priscilla]

To Michigan where it was cold, so.

[Danielle]

Like, we gotta start practicing wearing the long coats.

[Priscilla]

And then they started fighting. Like fake fighting, but actually punching each other.

[Danielle]

No. And the funny thing is that she had just had her hysterectomy, so she's like, wait, you can't do anything.

[Priscilla]

Oh, that's right. But you got. I have video of you gu. Guys punching each other.

[Danielle]

But we had a few cocktails at that point.

[Mandy]

We were adults, too. This was like, how. This is probably, what, six years ago? I don't know. When did you move?

[Priscilla]

I moved five and a half years ago. Yeah, so about five years ago. Yeah.

[Danielle]

Back when we were immature.

[Priscilla]

No. Yeah.

[Mandy]

Those are my 30s.

[Priscilla]

Not me. I'm so old now.

[Mandy]

That was funny.

[Danielle]

How old are you now?

[Priscilla]

I'll be 46 next month. Guys, it's like I'm 50 already. I might as well be 60.

[Mandy]

Shut up.

[Priscilla]

That's how it feels.

[Mandy]

No, it doesn't.

[Priscilla]

What else?

[Mandy]

What other things?

[Danielle]

The hurricane in Vegas. Hurricane. Shopping in Vegas. That's when I feel like the outsider. Because the two of them will go shopping.

[Mandy]

Oh, Priscilla doesn't like to shop.

[Danielle]

They drink a hurricane. All of a sudden, they want to go. Whatever that's called.

[Mandy]

Hurricane.

[Danielle]

It's a 190. Yeah, it's a 190. Shopping day.

[Priscilla]

Hurricane. Hills, Louisiana.

[Danielle]

Yeah. But it's a strong frozen.

[Priscilla]

So we go on a shopping day. Like, it's designated as a shopping day. And Priscilla has a gift card, and she won't buy a watch that was on sale from, I don't know, $75 to $15. She has a gift card. She's like, no, I'm not gonna buy it. And you'll also sit there and Deb.

[Mandy]

Like, an hour.

[Priscilla]

And then you usually don't get it. Sometimes you'll get it, and then later you're like, I'm gonna go return that.

[Danielle]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

After debating for an hour, she'll say.

[Mandy]

I'm not gonna get it. And then she'll go back the next day and say, I'm gonna go get it.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

And even then, she'll still go return it.

[Priscilla]

Yes.

[Mandy]

And then I ended up buying that watch for you as a joke. Yes. And I got it for your birthday.

[Danielle]

I just wore it last night.

[Mandy]

I was like.

[Danielle]

Or two nights ago.

[Mandy]

Oh.

[Priscilla]

So you.

[Danielle]

So I put batteries on it again.

[Mandy]

Wow.

[Danielle]

Actually, Todd did I. He put batteries on the wall.

[Priscilla]

Don't take credit for that. Yeah, I know.

[Danielle]

But. Yeah, that was funny. Or I'll go to H and M, get in a fight, and then not buy anything after.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. Priscilla's the fiery one.

[Danielle]

I really didn't get in a fight. We just joked. I got in a fight.

[Priscilla]

But you are fiery. You're passionate.

[Danielle]

I'm impatient.

[Priscilla]

The Brazilian comes out every night, and you get very passionate.

[Danielle]

Right. Other than that, I'm great.

[Priscilla]

Other than that, you're perfect.

[Danielle]

Yeah, I'm perfect.

[Mandy]

Other than that. Yeah.

[Danielle]

It's just one minor detail.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

So, man, if I ever need a backup, though, I'm calling these two girls, because I would just be like, get them.

[Mandy]

Yeah. This is who you call.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

So we're gonna probably wrap this up, but I know y' all wanted Adam to come back.

[Priscilla]

I know. I figured he would, because Adam's our other. He's our fourth.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Danielle]

He's our mediator.

[Priscilla]

He's like. Yeah, he's our. He likes to. He. He's the one that, like, says something under his breath and he'll make me laugh so hard. Yeah. Because he's so dry.

[Danielle]

He's not. He's not a mango.

[Mandy]

No, no, no, no. What. What is your. What do our husbands think of us?

[Priscilla]

Oh, that's a good question. Do you want to go first? Do you want me to go first?

[Danielle]

What do our husbands think of you?

[Mandy]

Or what do our husbands think of our friendships? Yeah.

[Danielle]

Of our friendships. I think. I would say Todd thinks that, like, it's a rare thing, that it's hard to find. And, I mean, I think he's seen all sides of it. So it's been kind of a cool thing to watch, like, the growth of our relationships, you know, from the beginning, where it's just, like, more fun and more just hanging out to now we're, you know, being loyal to each other. Now we're maintaining. Now we're going through, you know, aging together, whatever it is the case. So I think that. That. I think he. He finds beauty in it, and I wonder if he would love to have something like that, you know?

[Priscilla]

So, yeah, I think Rob loves you guys because of how you love me.

[Danielle]

Aw.

[Priscilla]

Hey, that's my fault is I cry all the time.

[Danielle]

She's immerse. Yeah, I'm not crying.

[Priscilla]

She's.

[Mandy]

You're crying tears for me, too.

[Priscilla]

Yep. I have all the tears for me.

[Mandy]

I already cried once today.

[Priscilla]

But I think he loves you guys. Cause of how you love me, and he knows how important you are. And he, I think, now just really understands that when I say I'm going to have this time and I designate that time, how much that fills me and how good it is for me, and I come back a better wife, a better mom, a better woman, better friend. So I think for him, he encourages that, which is really good. But it's taken learning how to deal with it because we do prioritize each other sometimes, and that can come at a cost sometimes of family or our children.

[Danielle]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

But we have to put ourselves first sometimes.

[Danielle]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

Because we need that refresh, filling up, you know, all of that stuff. So I know he loves you guys, and he's super grateful, but I agree. I think he would love to have that kind of a friendship with some of Some guys.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

Well, now that Adam's gonna come.

[Danielle]

Look who's here.

[Mandy]

We're gonna ask him ourselves. Hey, Ronnie's.

[Priscilla]

Yes.

[Danielle]

I think guys are hard to. They're not as vulnerable, have that kind of. Yeah.

[Priscilla]

An emotion.

[Danielle]

And I don't think they.

[Priscilla]

They don't need it as much as.

[Danielle]

They don't feel like they need it as much as women do. Women seem to appreciate that more.

[Priscilla]

Yes.

[Mandy]

So.

[Danielle]

Hi.

[Priscilla]

Hey, girl.

[Mandy]

Where's Bea?

[Priscilla]

How was school? Good. Adam, we have the perfect. You came in at the perfect time.

[Danielle]

How's your Bible study?

[Priscilla]

How is your Bible group?

[Mandy]

Which one? Oh, it was good.

[Danielle]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

We got a sheep from it. Let me see.

[Priscilla]

What is that supposed to be? So cute. Well, we were talking about this. These, like, sheep.

[Mandy]

Maybe if he lost, like, one.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

He would still look for it, because a wolf might.

[Adam]

Or.

[Priscilla]

Yeah, a wolf might have tinged. But Jesus is going to come after you, and he loves you.

[Mandy]

Yeah, it was something like that.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Danielle]

Yeah, that's cute. That makes sense.

[Priscilla]

I like it. Oh, hey, Blake.

[Mandy]

Hey, Blake.

[Adam]

All right, I'm back.

[Priscilla]

Buzz is back.

[Mandy]

Buzz is back. It's been an interesting podcast. We've laughed a lot.

[Priscilla]

You're gonna have fun editing this.

[Mandy]

It's gonna be fun.

[Adam]

I'm not editing this at all.

[Mandy]

Well, you're either gonna get a lot.

[Priscilla]

More viewers or a lot less.

[Mandy]

So we were asking the question, what do your husbands think of our friendship? So I said, oh, so you're the only present one.

[Priscilla]

So she talked about what Todd thought I talked about.

[Danielle]

Wait, don't tell it yet. Let it.

[Priscilla]

I'm just saying we already told about our husbands.

[Adam]

You speak for your husbands?

[Priscilla]

Yes, we do.

[Mandy]

They're not here.

[Danielle]

Well, we're saying what we think they think.

[Priscilla]

No, I know what he thinks, kind of. No, I know what he thinks.

[Mandy]

So what do you think of our friendship? That's mine.

[Adam]

No, I mean, I think it's. I think it's great what y' all have when it comes to, like. I mean, y' all share. I mean, nine times out of 10, if I see Danielle on the phone, she's on the phone with either one of you where she.

[Danielle]

Not me. She doesn't answer my calls. Must be her.

[Priscilla]

It's just me.

[Adam]

So, I mean. I mean, I think it's great to just have someone to be able to, like, share everything with and that knows you. Like, knows the real you and somebody that can call you out for. You're in the wrong or, you know, to encourage you whenever you're going through something. And, I mean, I just think it's. It's something very special that what y' all have, because especially people our age, I feel like not many people have that.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Adam]

And so I. I think it's great.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

I love that. That's Adam. But you've. As one of the husbands, you've allowed that and encouraged it, and that's part of it, because we know our husbands support us.

[Adam]

Yeah. I mean, obviously.

[Danielle]

Surprise comes with a cost.

[Mandy]

It's hard.

[Adam]

It's hard to. Especially, like, now that you've moved away.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Adam]

You know, anytime that you're in town and you can do something with her, I mean, like. I mean, I'm. I would never say no, it's a.

[Mandy]

It's like, like, you.

[Adam]

You need that.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Adam]

And especially, like, since y' all never. I mean, y' all rarely now get to see each other face to face.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Adam]

You know, it's. It's a necessity whenever you are around, so.

[Mandy]

And it's a necessity when we have to go on a trip together, too.

[Priscilla]

Yes.

[Mandy]

All right, so since you left us with a question, give us some more questions.

[Adam]

I have no clue what y' all talked about.

[Mandy]

You would never ask us anyway.

[Adam]

Really?

[Priscilla]

Yeah. Did you want to ask Danielle why she was wears Thanksgiving clothes all the time? Because we talked about that. I mean, I don't know.

[Adam]

I don't know. Y' all have, like, covered and stuff. You'll probably. Looking at what time it is, you'll probably hit on pretty much everything.

[Mandy]

Yeah, yeah, it helps a lot.

[Adam]

But I think it's great that at our age, you know, in your 40s, you know, continuing and furthering and deepening friendships are very mean, meaningful, even whenever you do have kids and stuff and family, you know, because usually whenever you get to that age, in that stage of life, that falls away a lot.

[Mandy]

Yeah. So how about we end this podcast with what are ways that we can encourage other women to find community? How. How would we tell other people? How do you find friendship? How do you find it these days? I know it's challenging, and I hear this a lot from people. It's so hard to find friends. I mean, when we moved from Louisiana. I'll just give my example. When we moved from Louisiana to Texas and didn't know anybody, new city, newly married, 22 years old. Adam was working in a different city away, didn't know anybody, and, you know, found a job later. But wasn't my, like, age of people that I was working with, but it gave me a sense of being around people. But getting and going to a church and getting in a small group, though the first group didn't work, we did connect in a different group of people that were, you know, of age. That really helped kind of, like set a tone. But I would say whether you go to a church or not, there's definitely different community groups, I think. But I would encourage people to get involved in a church. It doesn't mean you have to jump right into, like, serving or something, but participate in getting into a group. And so sometimes church joining, going to a church can be overwhelming because there's so many people. Right. But they have these groups that are smaller, where you can meet on more of a. Maybe a 10 to 25 group amount of people. So you're, you're meeting at a home or a coffee shop or like wherever they might meet so that you can actually have like more like intimate conversations and relationships with people and, you know, maybe sit with them at church or get to hang out with them on the weekends or whatever.

[Adam]

But also like people that have, you know, kids that are involved in certain things. I mean, just like. Yeah. I mean, like just putting yourself out there. Don't like whenever your kids are, you know, out at practice or whatever, and all the parents are just like either fixated on the kids or like glued to their phones or whatever on the side. Like engage, like meet people, you know, and you may. Obviously it's other people in your same stage of life that are doing the same things that you're doing. You know, those could very well be like great friends.

[Mandy]

You know what? Get yourself involved in a mahjong club because that game is fun.

[Danielle]

I still don't know what you're talking about with that. I've never played that before.

[Priscilla]

I've never played it either.

[Danielle]

Sounds like you're not.

[Priscilla]

Part of your life.

[Danielle]

Sounds like.

[Mandy]

Yeah, no, the lady couldn't do it.

[Danielle]

Sounds like it's an anti Christian thing. We worship the Lord.

[Mandy]

It's American mahjong.

[Priscilla]

My advice, if you already have friends and you're trying and you would like deeper friendship, is to be vulnerable. Because there's no way this would have happened if we didn't share things that were not flattering about ourselves or our struggles that we were going through. Because that opens it up and makes it a safe place for them then to come and talk to you about what they're going through and making sure that that's a safe place. That I know these girls would never tell a soul if I said, don't share this. You know, like, I trust them and I know there's no judgment. So make sure, like you really have to be vulnerable. You're not going to have a deep friendship without that.

[Adam]

Yeah. I mean, that's like a big thing with, you know, like whenever we're getting into like a new church. Small group.

[Priscilla]

Yeah.

[Adam]

You know, the, the quickest way to deepen friendships and deepen relationships is to lead with vulnerability.

[Mandy]

Yeah.

[Adam]

You know, and just like share the hard stuff and just because all it does is set the tone for the people around you to be free to do the same thing.

[Priscilla]

That it's not going to be a superficial relationship.

[Adam]

Yeah. Because if it just stays surface level and you're never willing to Go any deeper. That relationship's never going to go any deeper.

[Mandy]

Yeah, yeah, true.

[Danielle]

I would add, I agree with all those. And I would add also something that I learned from my last mission trip, actually. We talked about be interested, not interesting. So take the time to get to know the other person. Like learn about their life, learn about their kids, go to one of their games, you know, go visit them, invite them over to your house, have a meal with them. Whether you cook or not, you can go out for dinner with them, but you spend time with them and getting to know them. A lot of my closest friendships I've developed and I never thought that I would be friends with them. Even like in our old small group that we had, I mean, I still am super close.

[Priscilla]

We had all ages and all backgrounds and all faith levels.

[Danielle]

Yeah. And we still, we took the time to meet with each other. We still meet today. Our group is not active anymore, but we still meet today. We still get to spend time and know each other on a deeper level. So don't be afraid to. Like you were saying, be vulnerable. But. But make the time, make the effort, Invite them over.

[Priscilla]

Yeah. It takes work.

[Danielle]

Yeah.

[Priscilla]

It's too many street.

[Danielle]

Yes, exactly.

[Mandy]

And that can be.

[Danielle]

You said that. Well, it's a two way street.

[Mandy]

Yeah, it is. You got to put in what you want to be received, you know, and I would say that, that, that is also can be received with couples too. So, like, if you're looking for other people in your marriage, as far as, like other married couples or other, you know, people with young children to connect with or whatnot, like, you have to be able to go out there and connect and do things. You can't just hermit and expect someone to just come find you. You have to go out there and try.

[Adam]

All right. It was a good change of pace for the podcast. I had him get a very, very first one where we've actually had other people. And in our podcast.

[Priscilla]

Yes. Might be the last.

[Adam]

We may never do this again.

[Mandy]

We'll see with them too.

[Adam]

So thank you guys for tuning in to episode 55 of more than Reality podcast.

[Mandy]

Peace out in the next one.

[Adam]

We love you guys.

[Mandy]

Let us know if you want to see them again.

[Danielle]

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