EP 69 - Why Sharing Our Life Online Is Way Harder Than People Think

Summary

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Podcast Summary: More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle

Episode 69 – Why Sharing Our Life Online Is Way Harder Than People Think
Release Date: February 5, 2026
Hosts: Adam and Danielle Busby

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Overview

In this candid episode, Adam and Danielle Busby pull back the curtain on the unseen realities of sharing their family life online. With over a decade in the public eye from their TLC show OutDaughtered to their vibrant social channels, the Busbys reflect on the challenges, emotional toll, and meaningful connections that come from living life under public scrutiny. They address the duality of public sharing—the joy of positive engagement versus the sting of negativity—and offer heartfelt insights on setting boundaries, maintaining authenticity, and cultivating kindness in online communities.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Not Experts—Just Sharing Experience

• Openness about Their Approach: The Busbys stress that they aren't parenting or marriage "experts," instead sharing from experience.
  • “There’s no PhD in this. Experts on anything. Like. But we have a lot of life that we've lived and we've lived under a microscope for many years.” — Adam (00:06, 36:04)
• Surviving Doubt: They mention overcoming obstacles that many doubted they could.
  • “We’ve survived things that people said we would not survive.” — Danielle (00:08, 36:08)

2. Engagement with Friends, Family & Fans

• The Busbys explain they rarely discuss the podcast or TV show with close friends, keeping personal relationships separate from their public life.
  • “Our true friends... we talk about subjects on our podcast with our friends, but we don't talk about the podcast with our friends.” — Adam (02:48)
• Positive reinforcement from friends who listen feels rewarding and motivating (03:25-03:42).
• Both miss the real-time engagement of TikTok lives and discuss the pros/cons of live feedback (04:07-04:33).

3. The Rollercoaster of Social Media Comments

• Reading Comments: Adam and Danielle admit to sometimes reading comments, but feel overwhelmed by volume and avoid replying to all.
  • “Sometimes I read the comments... you just can't get to, like, responding to everyone…” — Adam (05:32)
• Not all comments are constructive; sometimes, even harsh criticisms from strangers grab Adam’s attention.
• Danielle acknowledges the positive shift in her comment section but admits a single critical remark can create a wave of negativity (12:58).

4. Dealing with Negativity and 'Trolls'

• Adam and Danielle discuss the prevalence of hate, especially from anonymous or 'fake' accounts, and the competitive, often critical, nature within 'mom' communities on Instagram.
  • “Instagram moms are the freaking worst... other moms are just, like, so vicious to each other.” — Adam (08:56–10:48)
• Danielle reflects on messages from older followers, balancing sympathy with frustration over unnecessary cruelty (14:26–15:42).
  • “What is wrong with America? Whenever we think that we can just vocally diminish someone by our words?” — Danielle (14:49)
• Adam often deletes or hides hateful comments to shield Danielle, noting he’s more emotionally affected by attacks on her than himself (17:14–19:26).

5. Maintaining Privacy and Boundaries

• Despite being public figures, the Busbys emphasize maintaining boundaries and protecting their family's privacy.
  • “There still is privacy that we have always protected…there’s a level of intimacy in the family and sharing, but wanting to share as much as we can and feel comfortable too.” — Danielle (24:01, 35:14)
• TV only shows a "caricature" of their life; the real story is much broader and more nuanced (25:19–25:36).
• The shift to more open sharing comes with the kids growing up and feeling less overwhelmed.

6. Impact of Comments on Mental Health

• Both reflect on how they process criticism differently—Adam is more affected by strangers, Danielle by those close to her.
  • “You've always been more affected by what people say... I am more affected by something that I actually love and care about.” — Danielle (27:54)
• Danielle asserts that her perspective has shifted; she welcomes honest questions but dislikes digs disguised as curiosity (22:58).

7. Encouraging Positive Engagement

• The Busbys call for kindness and constructive engagement online.
  • “If there’s one thing that you could try...try not to do a hateful comment...see how it changes your mindset.” — Danielle (16:31)
• They stress on not letting AI handle their community; authentic interaction remains important (29:56).
• Feedback and questions from fans are welcomed when offered respectfully (33:01–33:27).

8. A Call for Change in Online Culture

• Adam and Danielle urge listeners and social media users at large to “do it better.”
  • “If the world wants to be better, then someone has to change it. Right? So if you want something to be different, you have to change it.” — Danielle (38:40)
• Ending message: Everyone deserves a protective layer; be kind, constructive, and mindful that there is always more to people than what’s seen online or on TV.

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Notable Quotes

• On expertise:
  • "We're not coming out as parenting or marriage experts on anything. Like. But we have a lot of life that we've lived and we've lived under a microscope for many years." — Adam (00:06)
• On internet hate:
  • “Instagram moms are the freaking worst...other moms are just, like, so vicious to each other." — Adam (08:56)
  • “What is wrong with America? Whenever we think that we can just vocally diminish someone by our words?” — Danielle (14:49)
• On boundaries:
  • “There still is privacy that we have always protected.” — Danielle (24:01)
• On kindness:
  • “Try not to do a hateful comment...see how it changes your mindset.” — Danielle (16:31)
  • “Just be nice. Don’t be a donkey.” — Danielle (38:40)

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Memorable Moments & Timestamps

• The dilemma of strangers vs. close friends’ misunderstanding (02:00–03:25)
• Reflection on the realities of TV editing (25:19–26:37)
• Discussing hormone and health challenges—dealing with sensitive questions and body-shaming (17:36–19:54)
• Danielle’s ‘old lady’ message story (14:26–15:42)
• The importance of comments that invite conversation rather than attack (33:01–33:27)
• Final call for positivity and constructive change online (38:40–39:45)

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Tone & Language

• Warm, honest, occasionally humorous, and unapologetically candid.
• Frequent use of casual, conversational language—admitting struggles, and playfully poking fun at trolls and even themselves.
• Consistent focus on authenticity and encouragement.

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Conclusion

This episode pulls listeners deeper into Adam and Danielle Busby's personal and family dynamics as public figures, revealing the unseen challenges of online sharing. They remind followers that there’s always more to reality than what’s seen online, encouraging listeners to engage with empathy, offer constructive, thoughtful comments, and strive for kindness both on and offline.

Transcript

[A]

And.

[B]

And that's what we're hoping to do here. Like, we're not coming out as, like, parenting or marriage.

[A]

Yeah. There's no PhD in this.

[B]

Experts on anything. Like. But we have a lot of life that we've lived and we've lived under a microscope for many years. And. And we've survived things that people said that we would not survive.

[A]

Change it up to 2026. Like, quit being a butthole.

[B]

That drives me up the wall. That's what I don't like seeing. That hurts me.

[A]

This is More Than Reality podcast, where we dive into all things faith, family, and marriage and share that there is so much more than the reality that you see on the surface. Welcome to More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle Busby.

[B]

What's up?

[A]

Hello. Hello.

[B]

It is. I just realized this was still here. It's episode 69 of More Than Reality podcast. I'm Adam Busby.

[A]

I'm Danielle Busby. And all I can think about is the number of this episode and the Mills making a big deal about that episode number.

[B]

I'm sure they did. I'm sure they did.

[A]

Makes me laugh. Anyway, so we're the Busbys.

[B]

We don't do that.

[A]

Exactly. We don't do that. Exactly. Gross.

[B]

This is. This is a clean podcast.

[A]

So. Random question.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Yeah. Random, random. Would you rather have a stranger misunderstand you or people you know still not listen or listen to us?

[B]

Wait, what?

[A]

So would you have Strange. Like, obviously there's people who listen to this. We're continuing to do it, so clearly people are listening. So would you rather have. Yes, thank you. Would. Do you. Do you rather. Would you rather have, like, all the people we don't know, like, strangers misunderstand things we're talking about or just people, like, in our lives and people we know and love just not listen at all?

[B]

I mean, I don't. Honestly, I don't even ask if people we know listen.

[A]

That is true. It's not like we go around being like, do you listen to the podcast?

[B]

I really. I mean, honestly, I just. I don't talk about our podcast to, like, the friends. I mean, it's just like. I don't know, I kind of equate it to, like, whenever we film the TV show, and I like, our true friends. Like, we, like, we would talk. We talk about subjects on our podcast with our friends, but we don't talk about the podcast with our friends.

[A]

Yeah, I mean, but just like, with.

[B]

The TV show, like, our true friends, like, we didn't sit around and Talk about the TV show.

[A]

Like they're not getting their life from our life updates and walking life with us from the TV show.

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[A]

But I do, I would say with this, I feel like it's a little bit different. Like I love when I get text from like people and friends and stuff being like, oh my God, the podcast, blah, blah, blah.

[B]

I'm like, oh, that's definitely a bonus. Like whenever they just intentionally listen to that.

[A]

And so I do like that. I do think that that's like a reassuring, like just okay. Someone, someone listened because it's like it's, it's like a divided world in a sense because we don't really get to like inter. Interact. Like I want to, like I want to be live.

[B]

We used to do that on TikTok.

[A]

I know.

[B]

We could break out the tick tock lives again.

[A]

Our, our life somehow changed and got drastically different.

[B]

We were doing like, we were doing almost, almost every.

[A]

Oh my God, the girls loved it too. We were doing the. We might do our maybe like once a week or something. Every night's a lot.

[B]

Yeah, that was a lot.

[A]

But anyway.

[B]

And it takes, it just takes up a lot of time and then it just like delays. Which I think that's why, I think that's why the kids liked it so much because it delayed them going to bed.

[A]

Yeah. Maybe we'll have to do. Maybe we could do like a weekend one so we're not like really worried about it or something. I don't know. But I forgot we were doing that for a while. That was fun. And I like that. I like that engagement of like that real time feedback. Yeah. But this is actually going to go into another question that I have. So when it comes to like comments and like social media and stuff, I like engagement and like having back and forth banter and conversations with people and whatnot. And so on social media it's like you can post something or you can say something and yes, you'll get comments, but it's not like you're, it's not like you have to respond right then and there.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And. Or if you're even going to look at it or if you're going to respond. And so that is the question. Like do you read the comments?

[B]

Sometimes.

[A]

Do you read the comments?

[B]

Sometimes I read the comments. Sometimes like I'll like skim through the comments and you just can't get to like responding to everyone, especially if it's like direct messages. Unless it's just like a flat out like you'll, you'll like one just like stops you in your tracks and you're like, whoa, you, you got it all wrong. And then I'll like clarify or like try to clarify. Yeah.

[A]

So that goes back to the first question.

[B]

Yeah, question.

[A]

But I mean, obviously the ones that.

[B]

Like, like, it'll just stop me in my tracks. I'm like, whoa, this person just ain't getting it. Or clearly hasn't been following us for very long and just doesn't. Or either you have and you just choose not to.

[A]

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[B]

I mean, I think those people are probably partly just trying to get a rise out of you and get a response so they'll say something just, like, hoping you'll respond. And so they're going to, you know, it's either super nice or super mean. You're more than likely going to react to something that's just like, oh, you're an idiot. And, you know, you're going to respond back and put them in their place. But.

[A]

But you.

[B]

But also, also, I mean, I'm sorry, but, like, Instagram moms are the freaking worst. This was a dude, okay? People on Instagram are the worst. The photo, it's mostly. It's mostly moms. And it could be a woman saying she's a man, but I mean, because there's a bunch of just fake accounts out there. I mean, I mean, you look at, like, most of the criticism that you get, and then you, like, click on their profile, and then it's like they're following a bunch of people. They don't have any post any follow. They don't have any followers, and it's like a fake photo of something else or a dog or a cartoon character or something as a profile picture.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And so it's like completely a control account. But. But those people. But I mean, whenever I say, like, Instagram moms are the worst, it's just like Instagram moms that are, like, sitting around at home during the day that may have some insecurities or, like. Or, you know, in that comparison trap of, like, seeing other moms on. On Instagram or like that. And. And so in order to make you feel a little bit more validated, you're.

[A]

Going to meeting themselves. Oh, shoot.

[B]

Yeah. I mean, in order to make yourself feel, like, a little bit more validated or just, like, kind of feel better about your own situation, you're gonna, like, go throw some hate at another mom just to, like. Like, it's gonna make you feel better about yourself. And I mean, you just. You see so much of that on Instagram. It's like other moms are just, like, so vicious to each other. I feel like it's crazy.

[A]

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[B]

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[A]

I feel like a lot of my comments when I do take a moment to like go through them, which I am trying to at least like once a week, like kind of just get in there and see just to. Because I do want engagement and I want to be able to talk with people but not. I can't talk with 2 million people. But I, I want, I want there to be like some feedback. But I honestly think that unless it's something super controversial political, which I rarely ever, I'm not a political person.

[B]

We don't talk about politics. We'll talk about like a specific no.

[A]

Matter what it is. I feel like a lot of my comments have turned a key and have become a lot more supportive and more like people who are actually like, like me. But every once in a while there will be something that I want to post because I believe it, I support it, I want to share it, whatever that it just takes one person that's going to make it blow up and in a dog pile. But I would say like it is those one off things. But you know, I'm not opposed to people's different people's opinions. I just don't understand why people have to be hateful. Yeah, like I can open up.

[B]

Yeah, it's okay. It's okay to have a different opinion.

[A]

Listen, I love.

[B]

Fine.

[A]

I love me some old people because you can say you've lived your life and you can say whatever you want and I love that I, I like, I can't wait till I'm that old to just be like, tell people what my mind is more so. But I opened up this one message actually was on Facebook because I posted something on Facebook, the market. And I was like, let me. It said message request, whatever. And I was like, okay. So I clicked on it and it was this. The picture was an old lady. And I'm like, this is going to be fun.

[B]

Here we go.

[A]

And let me see if I can find it literally was just cussing me out over. And it was like multiple times. I've never seen it. Probably over two years. And I'm just like, I don't think she speaks English, but she did speak English really well in her text messages.

[B]

She knows all the English curse words.

[A]

But I was just like, you know, I'm giving you some grace because you've lived your life, but it's the point of what is wrong with America. Whenever we think that we can just vocally diminish someone by our words. Like, we don't. Like, those of you who, who want to choose, hate to comment if you are a mom and, or you have children or whatever. You don't want your children doing that. I know you wouldn't want your children doing that.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I don't think there's a parent that could say, I don't want my child to. I would agree with my child belittling someone verbally texting or whatever on social media. All, all of the above. No parent wants that. But yet you who are doing this is probably a parent.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know, and so it's like, I, it's just beside me, like, people can be mean. Yes. But it's like, what good are you doing? Like, change, Change your ways. Change it up to 2026. Like, quit being a butthole. You know, I mean, it's, it's, it's. To me, it's just certain simple things. It only takes one thing. So if you were that mean person and you're still listening to us because you love to follow us and criticize, by all means, feel free. But I would like to tell you that if there's one thing that you could try today or tomorrow, this week or this year, this month, or this quarter, try not to do a hateful comment. People fast from things. Or like, see how it changes your.

[B]

Mindset better in 2026.

[A]

Exactly.

[B]

Be nice.

[A]

I mean, listen, I can be nice to other people and other things too, but I'm talking about, like, I, I love to watch documentaries I get more.

[B]

I get more upset, upset whenever. Because, like, I have access to your, like, Instagram and like, I'll go and like, if I'm doing like a collab post, I'll go into your account or whatever and like every now and then, like, something will just pop up and I get. I get more irritated and like, furious at people that like, do that to you. Like, whenever it's me, like, I'll kind of engage with someone.

[A]

Totally tell when Adam's in a Instagram.

[B]

Fight, but it's a lot of times it's about her. And that's like, that drives me up the wall and.

[A]

But that's hard for me to understand because I'm like, it doesn't bother me.

[B]

But. Well, like, whenever people like, will leave a message.

[A]

Try to find that while you're talking.

[B]

Like, Like, I just. I saw like one or two like this week. It just like, about, you know, we've talked about this ad nauseam for like the last. Surely the last year. Just like Danielle's like autoimmune disorder and like, kind of messing with like, her hormones and trying to get all that regulated and like, her inflammation and stuff. And like, yeah, there's different things that we're tweaking and stuff like that. So like, naturally, like, you will hold. You will hold inflammation or water like in your face sometimes because of like a flare up or let's be honest.

[A]

It'S not just my face and but.

[B]

Like the things that some women will say, like, about, about you, and then you'll like, click on their profile picture and like, they're clearly overweight. And I'm like, for one thing, you have no reason to talk. And then like.

[A]

But here's the thing, okay?

[B]

If you've. If you've listened to us for any length of time, like, you know, like, this is like Danielle's like, struggle. This is like something that, like, she is on this, like, medical journey for like all this time, you know, and trying. We're trying to, Trying to get to the bottom of it and figure it out. And like her doctor's like, tweaking this and this and this and trying to get like, regulate all of her hormones back from like, being pregnant with the quintuplets. And I mean, it's just. But that drives me up the wall. That's what I don't like seeing that hurts me.

[A]

I feel like I barely rarely ever see that. And usually I.

[B]

Because I usually will like, hide it from you or like, delete it before you have a chance to See to see it.

[A]

I don't need you to do that. I don't need you to do that, because I actually want to see it. I. When people do. When I see something like that, where people are like, oh, my God, like, you look. Your face is. Your face is so fat or whatever, I'm like, cheers to you, buddy.

[B]

And they'll say, like, what happened to your face?

[A]

Yeah. And I'm like, I'm not 20. Who says that? Wait, what did I say in the past? I'm not 20 and malnourished anymore.

[B]

What. What happened to your. Your face?

[A]

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[B]

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[A]

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[B]

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[A]

Yeah. You actually have the nickname Poncho because you wear it so often, but you basically live in your ponchos, and everyone makes a joke of you, like, oh, there's Poncho.

[B]

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[A]

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[B]

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[A]

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[B]

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[A]

Thank you, Poncho. I actually said I just do a very poor job of being open about it. And. And it's because I just am not very good at social media, and I don't have a social media, like, manager, partner. Backup or whatever. I mean, it's like we do our own, and so. And that's okay. But when people do make a comment, if I just remember one time I said something like, hey, yeah, I have. I am. I am different now. I am different whole life. I am different now. But it's okay. Like, it's called, like, hormone. I mean, I'm freaking 42 that I just realized that, like, last week that I was 42 and not 41 or two weeks ago. But it's, It's. It's okay. If people want to ask a question, just ask the question, but don't give a dig with it.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know, I am. I am happy to talk about things, but people don't. People are not asking those questions. They're not asking that. They're just saying. Yeah, they're. They're making a statement or they're saying something like, what happened to your face?

[B]

Yeah. Because like, if they're asking, it would be. It would come from a place of, like, concern or, you know, hey, like, what's going on? Or blah, blah, blah. But it's not. It's like a jab. And that's where, like, okay, that. That draws a line, and that's gonna just make me mad.

[A]

Yeah. So let's see what I was trying to find that lady's ladies post or things. It's like, F kids. F y' all dis this. I mean, it doesn't make any sense, but. Back off, Jack. Some of these. I don't even know what they say.

[B]

Off, Jack.

[A]

She likes the word Jack. F her life. I don't know. Anyway, so that's not even on the rant that I was wanting to go on. It's getting off topic here, but it's. It. This is. This is what's hard of the life, of sharing your life, you know, because if. If we're honest, there still is privacy that we have always protected and in some. In some form or fashion. Right. And I don't really know if you ever could. If, if anyone could ever, ever really be. All in all, they all. I feel like we do a good job of really sharing our life over the last 10 years. And even when we talk about topics on this, I feel like we're honest, but doesn't mean that we're literally, like, talking about a downfall of today or what. What was the issue last week? Like, it can. It can be hit or miss, you know, but this is where it comes in. Like Internet people. Everybody thinks they know us.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah.

[A]

Because what TV show, the TV show.

[B]

You've seen a. You've seen a edited caricature of our life for 10 years, though. Was only about this much of the whole story, but it had. And it was like edited for dramatic effect on television.

[A]

Yeah. And listen, it like, it's fine. But I will say that I'm in a very different position now for sharing life than I was when I was in the middle of wrangling all the young kids, you know. And so now, now it's more free. I feel more like well rounded to be able to talk about things and share things. Because back then I was a total be. Because guess what? I didn't have the man space to.

[B]

Like, like demand space.

[A]

I don't know why that said that, like mental capacity to just function without in. In being able to share something. Like literally. Like those couch interviews that we'd sit on, I could sit there for hours because I would just rant because I don't know what you want. I don't know what we're really talking about. I know, like, because I never could just process. It was the processing aspect of things. But Adam, you've always been.

[B]

I can't imagine like the amount of time that we sat on couches doing interviews for like six hours plus on a couch. And then just to go back and watch the TV show and see like, oh, they pulled like 10 clips of that. 10 sentences out of hours and hours of footage. You say, oh, gosh.

[A]

I mean, but I do know when Adam gets in like a rant on social media, I remember the other day, I was like, who you fighting with? And he's like, I don't know. I don't know.

[B]

But it's fine. Some days.

[A]

Yeah. Every once in a while you get your power fingers going and you're wanting to, like, put somebody straight. And I'm like, where is this even at? I don't even remember what that last one was about. But you, you have always been more. Which is so weird. Like, I guess not weird, but, like, I'm not an emotional person. I mean, maybe now that I have, like, hormones. But you've always been more affected by what people say.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And I think. And I. I think this is also kind of comes down to, like, how people are molded and how you. How you receive, how you communicate, how you love, how you like. I think because I'm more hard, so I take things. It's hard to get across the wall for, like, something to affect me. It's hard to let people in. It's hard to, like, let it in. And. And you're the opposite of that. So it's like, you've always been more affected by what a stranger could say, and I am more affected by something that I actually love and care about. Could say one simple thing, and I could cry for three days because I feel that hurt, you know? But this is what I have loved about when I was. When I did after the rain, you know, all these women come, and I, I get to, like, have these conversations with women face to face. And that makes me so much more excited about being able to have comments with people and people being able to actually meet people. I'm not a people person. I don't like new friends. I don't want to meet a lot of people. But, like, I feel like God calling me and telling me, like, I need to do that. And so when you're in. When I'm in, that, it's good. Right? But from over here, it's like, that's a lot of. That's a lot. That's a lot. You know, but when it comes to the comments, you know, 2 million followers here, 2 million, whatever it is, those numbers, it's. It's. It's overwhelming that you can't even keep up with it. You know, Even if it's 500 comments a day or whatever, it's like, I can't, I can't comment back and forth on that. I might go through my once a week where I'm, like, trying to sit or if in the car rider line, like, trying to sit and play. You know what? Let me take 10 minutes and like, start responding to some people. And in 10 minutes, I might do a couple DMS, I might heart a couple things. I might say thank you. I might like, whatever it might be. But you can't, you can't realistically do it.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know, and I don't want AI being me. It couldn't keep up. Neither one of us reads all the comments. Yeah, but sometimes it is fun to get it spicy in there. Like, sometimes when I'm like, hey, Adam, I think I'm going to make a post about this, and you're like, get ready.

[B]

I know. Or I'm going to get ready.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But I, I mean, also, it's like whenever, Whenever I'm texting, like, I'm very. I'm very, like, just like, blunt and to the point. Because, like, I don't, I don't like to sit there and text. And so, like, I'll, I'll be, you know, I'll just, like, kind of say, like, a very specific thing and don't, like, elaborate a whole lot. And then it comes off as, like, oh, that guy's a freaking jerk. But it's just like, okay, this is, like, I'm saying what I need to say in the least amount of words possible, and it just comes off as, like, super blunt and to the point, and that's it. And, like, very, like, straight and dry and, like, black or white.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But I also. I don't know. I actually do think and talk fairly black and white as well. And like, you, Danielle, will get on to me a lot of how I respond to people because I'll be too blunt or too critical because, like, I'll just like.

[A]

I think the older you get, the more annoyed you get. And your annoyance comes out in your crap shoot. Like, everyone's gone. Like, it's weird because you. The older you get. You're exactly what I said in the beginning. As we become older people, you get more comfortable, like, saying what's on your mind. And. And that's you. You've never been, like. Like, the older you're getting, the wiser you're getting. So your mouth becomes more verbal. And you used to not say anything.

[B]

Yeah. You know, Daniel gets on to me a lot about it, but. But it also benefits me in certain scenarios, like, like, whenever. Because, like, I consult a lot with other different, like, companies or organizations and stuff like that, and they, like, they want me to, like, be in, like, a board position or something like that and just, like, tell them. Tell it. Like, it is, like, just shoot straight with me.

[A]

But you also have to do.

[B]

And that's what they, like, is like, okay, Adam is just gonna, like, it's no B.S. adam's just gonna, like, throw it out there, whether it hurts anybody's feelings or not. And.

[A]

And I will say you have always been a digger. Like that.

[B]

Yeah. Like, yeah.

[A]

Can bring up a couple conversations with other people.

[B]

A lot of Danielle's friends will, like, think I'm a jerk because, like, I'll just, like, say exactly what's on my mind.

[A]

I don't know. I mean, I'm not saying all this to say, like, we don't want people to comment or listen or whatever. Like, we do. I would just say that if you have opinion or whatever that is against or a question, just don't say it in a negative way. Like, just if it's something that you really want to know in a question, make it in a form that we would actually want to answer.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know, I'm more, more enticed to go to a comment or a DM that's actually someone who, like, wants to actually know our point of view. Like, what do we do about this? Or like, whatever that feedback is not because you're ugly or whatever, you know, like, it's like that's, that's just stupid. Like going through your own miserable self commenting.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know, but it's part of, we all know it's part of sharing your life, being public, doing this and that. Like, we get it, we get it. But I would just say that, like, no matter who you're watching on social media, no matter who you're listening to on TV or whatever, everybody still has their own formal. Everybody still has their protective layer.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

To an extent. You have to. You have to. And you know, we do for our kids, we do for each other, we do for ourselves. Marriage, parenting, all the things. So will always constantly be judged because not everybody loves Jesus. But we also feel sometimes I know at times, like, if I'm looking at, like something in the media or. And I'm like, you know what? I wonder what happened with this. And I might go look it up. I'm not just going to go just look at Instagram or Facebook or X or TikTok or whatever it's like, though that is where a lot of, like, your information is coming from these days.

[B]

If I want the information quick, I'll go to like, X. Oh, yeah.

[A]

I rarely ever go on that. But all to say is that we have a right to still be protecting a level of intimacy in the family and sharing, but wanting to share as much as we can and feel comfortable too. And what that means is it's. We're sharing because we have an experience that we can relate to. So it's not like we're sharing something that we don't know that a result of. So therefore it wouldn't be informative. Like, why would I share something about what we've learned? Like, I just had a conversation with a lady at the gym today talking about kids and anxiety. I'm like, I'll tell you my experience. We experienced that.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And I can share this with you.

[B]

Part of it.

[A]

I'm not an expert. And I said, but I'll share you what, what helped us, what worked for us.

[B]

And that's what we're hoping to do here. Like, we're not coming out as like, parenting or marriage or there's no Ph.D. in this. Experts on anything. Like, but we have a lot of Life that we've lived and we've lived under a microscope for many years. And. And we've survived things that people said that we would not survive. And so we have a story to tell, and we have experience, and. And we've learned from things. I mean, some of the things that we've learned, we may not have made the best decision through, but there are decisions and there are experiences, and, you know, if we can all learn something from each other, I mean, like, that's what this whole platform is about, is like, we're sharing our story.

[A]

We listen to other podcasts, we talk to other people in the industry and stuff. And so, like, we. We. We do research. Like, we look on things too. You know, just like, as you probably do yourself. I just know that, like, sometimes it is important to comment back and straighten things out, because sometimes the comments make people believe a completely different story. Because when more than one person might say the same thing, that might not be true.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Then that's the story of what. Something. What happened. Right. You know, so anyways, just this was.

[B]

Kind of all like, Daniel's pregnant.

[A]

That is. I don't even know how to relate that to something. Anyway, so this was just a little bit of a rant about, you know, yes, you know, us, but we also have a level of, like, we still have the right to protect what's important and what's sacred to us. But as much as we, you know, want to share, we do share. I feel like we share as much. But to make. To. To make the podcast more enticing to you, following, you know, sending those dms or questions, like, all that is helpful, like, we want to be able to, like, pour into you who's listening. And the best way to do that is to guess what comment. So it's kind of like a full circle here. But.

[B]

Yeah, but it's just. But it's like constructive comments rather than, like, destructive.

[A]

Yeah, and that's. That's just a part. The whole concept. Like, there is a level of. Of social media and commenting and all these things, but it's like, if the world wants to be better, then someone has to change it. Right? So if you want something to be different, you have to change it. Well, I want you as a listener to change something that you're doing with your commenting. I want you to do it better. And that doesn't apply to just like us. I'm not saying just for more than reality, podcast or debuzz. We are atom bus. Like I'm saying just in general, on social like all your. To all the people, like, do it better. Just be nice. Don't be a donkey. Anyway, we've had enough of this tonight since we're filming the podcast at night and I'm having a hot flash, so I'm ready to call it quits on this episode. So thanks for listening, guys.

[B]

That's a fun one.

[A]

Peace out.

[B]

All right, comment down below.

[A]

Calm down below.

[B]

Comment down below. Bye, guys. Thank you, guys for tuning in to episode 69.

[A]

It's hot in here.

[B]

We'll see you in the next one. We love you guys.

[A]

Sam.