← More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle
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Danielle's like my voice of reason right now with having so much emotions in the house.
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What are other things that people as normal to us that would shock other families?
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So that's not normal to you and we're never going to be normal to you. Like so like don't, don't try to put, don't try to put my family in your box.
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Yeah.
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Welcome to normal life and a family of quintuplets. Plus one.
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This is More Than Reality podcast where we dive into all things faith, family and marriage and share that there is so much more than the reality that you see on the surface. Welcome to More Than Reality with Adam and Danielle Busby.
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Hey guys. Welcome to episode 74 of More Than Reality podcast.
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And Adam, Danielle and Gus.
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You can't really see him but you can see like his tail.
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He's on my lap. If you're listening and not watching. He missed me and he's. We were away for one night and he's was like the end of the
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world and he's like all like flustered and.
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Yeah, he's having a hard time.
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Won't let Danielle leave a room.
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Poor baby. Yep. So he's gonna do the podcast with us today and he's gonna be sitting on my lap the whole time sleeping
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and he's gonna be perfectly still cuz he's scared. If he gets up and does anything, I'll kick him out the room. He's not gonna move.
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No he won't.
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Unless it gets hot. He's gonna make you hot.
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So what's up?
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Ah, not much. Well, we have some connect cards this episode. I Think we're gonna wait until next episode and we'll kind of recap like our little trip to Phoenix. But this episode we're actually filming before we leave for Phoenix, even though whenever this episode comes out, we have already been. But we're trying to batch record some episodes right now so that we can get ahead so that we can be able to do some traveling over the next couple weeks. Leaving in a couple days to go to Phoenix, Arizona, which we will have already been by the time you hear this episode. But then as this episode airs, I'll be in Arlington, Texas for another good, not good ranchers race, another Indy car race, the one going around Cowboy Stadium. It's gonna be a super cool race, so. So we'll start off with some connect cards. This one's for Danielle. In what ways do you think you are similar and different from your parents?
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Well, interesting. Hard to get for myself because one, I don't know. Don't know the other side, the other dad side. So I couldn't compare or not compare anything to that. I think when it comes to my
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mom,
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I don't know. I don't. I think. I think my mom's always been, like, good with kids and like, just people and stuff like that with, like, younger. It's always had a heart for that. I think I. Emma like that, get that from her where we're different and everything else in life.
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That's why I butted head so much.
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That's why we butted heads. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I don't know. I mean, I don't think. I think every once in a while, like, my sisters will be like, oh, my God, that was so Mom. Or I'll say the same thing to Crystal or Ash and be like, that was so mom. You know, you see that, but it's hard to always kind of see it in yourself. But I do know that, like, she always does have. Has always had, like, a good child response and relationship and, like, just adapting to kids and stuff. And so I'm very much like that.
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Yeah. So it's funny. I mean, it happens to all of us. I mean, I know you say it to me as well.
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I do a lot to you. I'm like, that is so your dad.
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Yeah. I'll do things or I'll make a face or I'll say something a certain way. You're like, that is so Philip Busby. But I see it in you sometimes, too. Like, you'll say something a certain way, but you don't ever tell me that it's your mom?
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Like what? Give me an example.
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Like, to. Just the way that. The way. Yeah. Not off the top of my head, but I know I've said it to you quite a few times. It's mostly your sister, though. It's mostly Crystal.
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Crystal. They're exact. They're so much alike.
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She is like, exactly like your mom.
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They're a lot alike.
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All right, so what is one way you think we could best combine our skills to start a business together? Done. Is this another business?
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We're kind of doing that right now. I mean, this is like you're gonna pull another card.
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What is something you appreciate about me but don't tell me enough.
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I mean, I think I probably just don't voice my appreciation to you nearly enough about most things. That's actually like, a topic of, like, our last small group. At the end of the small group, we were talking about, like, gratitude and stuff and making a point to show gratitude to your spouse and it, like, hit home. I was like, man, like, we. We really don't do that enough. And like, even in the group, like, he, like, we had to go around and, like, say, like, one thing that you are appreciative of or. Or have gratitude towards for your spouse. And then, like, I'll Say, like, the one thing that I said that day. Oh, it's like right now, like, Danielle's like my voice of reason right now with having so much. What's the word? Emotions in the house with the girls,
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the start of all them.
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I mean, with Blake. Yeah, we have a full, full fledged teenager. And so at certain times of the month, it's stuff just, like, happens, and you're just like, what. What happened to you? Like, what's going on right now? Or, like, I'll get super frustrated because it's like just like an instant, like, change of emotion for, like, no apparent reason. And, you know, just as like a guy, you just don't understand that. You're just like, what. What the heck is going on? Like, you just. You get blindsided by, like, just like a rush of emotions about.
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Yeah. But even like, with the quints at times, it's not so much like that they're teenagers or anything, but it's just how everybody's just wired.
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Yeah. They just. Girls are just different, overly emotional about, like, something very minor. Just randomly. Minor to you, minor to me. And. But I'll get, like, super frustrated. Like, why are we doing this right now? And, like, because we're either in the middle of something or we're trying to get out the door or we're going somewhere. And Danielle's like, always like, my voice of, hey, you're the only guy in the house right now or period. Right now, you're the only guy in the house, and this is going to happen a lot more. And so you need to, like, be used to that.
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Well, and plus, and just like, learn. Learn to work with it versus, like, there's things that, like, I know, like when I. And when I can tell that the girls are, like, in this mood or whatever, I can vibe with that because I get it. Because I get those kind of moods and stuff too. But with Adam, it can just be, like, totally out of the blue. And I could tell by a girl's look in her face or she'll just something like, was in a tone or whatever. Because, like, I'm a woman and I'm. I'm the same. Like, if Adam were gonna, like, talk to me or say something and it's like, in the wrong tone, and it's like, however my emotions are, however I'm feeling that day, like, it could set me off, you know, but sometimes I have to just tell them. I'm like. I'm like, you just can't. You can't talk like that right now. You can't use that tone. Say it in a different way or, like, it's only the beginning. It's only the beginning. So, you know, it's. It's hard.
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Yeah. So she's helping me right now. Kind of be like my emotional, like, radar in the house.
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Yeah. But I don't have anybody doing that for me. For you. So you have. But you can't. You can't necessarily rely on me to do that for you. I think that you have to learn how to get in tune with certain, like, triggers and things that, like, make us all respond differently. It's. You're already overwhelmed.
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Yeah. It's a real thing being, like, outnumbered, being the only guy in the house and, like, literally seven other women.
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We're not all women yet.
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I mean, the same difference. Yeah. Seven female emotions.
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Yeah. So speaking of that, it's like, things that are normal in our house that would be. Would they be shocked to others in the house, and so that's, like, one of them.
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That was, like, a big one, for sure.
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Yeah. So. So that's the kind of the topic today, like, that are normal in our house, but would they shock other families?
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Probably so. Because, like, once we get, like. We were just in a conversation earlier today with, like, some other couples, and they're just, like, blown away. Like, you just talk about, like, everyday things in your house or everyday things, and they're just like, what.
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They're like, that's crazy. You know? But it's normal. It's our normal. So we don't think anything necessarily different of it. But we. For. We. We just forget. We forget that it's not normal to have quintuplets. And it's not. It's not that. It's. You know, there's a lot of large families and big families have six kids, but, like, having quintuplets and they're all the same, which is very, to me, is very different than just having six kids.
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Yeah. And I think that's, like, one of those things that, like, people just, like, there's, like, a disconnect, especially, like, on social media and stuff, and people. I mean, that's. That's one of the things on our TV show, like, they kept coming up. It was like, a recurring thing that kept coming up is like. No, like, we want y' all to be, like, normal and relatable. Like, as if, like, a family with all girl quintuplets and another daughter is really normal and relatable to anyone, you know, And. But that kept coming up, and we're like, but we're not. Yeah, like, this isn't the norm.
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Yeah.
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And you know, even. Even over the course of, like this week, like, I saw a comment on Instagram, someone. It was another. It was a lady and it was like, criticism for making the decision to put the girls in homeschool co op. And she was like, like, almost like, oh, you know, like, I feel sorry for your girls. Like, why can't you just let them. Like, why can't you just be. Let them be normal and let them go to school, like, and, and be like normal kids? And when I started to think about that, like, but, but that will never be their situation.
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But because they will always be the same grade and the same.
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Yeah, like, we're not like, this situation of like, having, you know, six girls, five of them being the same age, five of them being in the same grade. That's not normal. Like, like, what is normalized? That our normal is completely different than your normal. And like, what is normal to you? That's like the question that I asked her, like, what do you even consider normal? Because, like, our family is definitely not normal compared to most other families. And so, you know, our view of normal is completely different that you probably would never understand.
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Yeah.
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In the way that we have to decisions and the way the things that we have to think about and planning our life and our future and like, the structure of our home and our kids and the way that we do everything is completely abnormal than most people will have to think.
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And it's not even that. It's that they will not even think about thinking about it.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so it's just funny to get, like, criticism from some people that, you know, may only have. I mean, and I clicked on her Instagram profile and it looked like she had one daughter. And I'm like, there's things that we have to think about on a daily basis that you will never have to think about. And so that's not normal to you, and we're never going to be normal to you. Like, so, like, don't. Don't try to put, don't try to put my family in your box.
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Yeah.
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And. And so, like, that's like one of those things. Like, that's what sets us apart. That's what makes us so unique. And that's what makes, you know, us having this unique take on life and parenting and marriage and all this stuff. That's what makes, like, what we're doing right now so unique because it is so different and so outside the norm that we may have these unique and different takes just based off of our life that you could potentially apply because, like. Oh, well, I never thought about, like, things like that. And doing that in reverse for our family may be a lot more difficult.
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Yeah, Yeah. I mean, in. In something. Something like this, I would say yes. We have 10. We have a big van, and within the van, there's so, like, the driver's seat, and then there's three more rows. In our world, you got two, two, and two. Okay, the kids. But it's always. It's always been an argument about who's going to sit where, so we had to come up with assigned seats. But assigned seats gets old because no one wants to sit in the back the whole time. No one wants to sit in the middle. The air is this. So we have to rotate days so people don't think about these things. Like, you know, is that kid always in the back? No, because it's hot back there. We can't hear. We can't understand what they're talking about back there. When we're driving, we can't hear them back there. But we rotate days. So it's like, you know, there's seven days of the week, and basically with the six kids, it works out where. Ava, this is you. You get the front this day on Monday, your baby A. And then you go through the line. And it depends on where they're sitting, because they always want to sit in the. Right behind the driver passenger seat. We call that first class. We call that first class in the van, and that's where they always want to sit. And those are the. The arguing seats. So every day it's like. Every week. Excuse me. Every week is the same. So Monday it starts, and then everything rotates, and it rotates every day till Friday.
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What drives me nuts is it's typically the. The seat that's right behind the front passenger seat. It's the one closest to the door. That's usually like, the optimal seat because
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it's always the first person that gets in.
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Exactly. And that's what drives me up the wall, is whoever is sitting right there that day, for whatever reason, they want
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to be the first to get.
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They're the ones that want to be the first to get in. Every have to. Everybody has to climb over them to get in the car, and it drives me nuts. They always do it in, like, the car. Pickup line.
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Yeah.
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So it's like whenever you're, like, pulling their backpacks and kids are trying to, like, load into vehicles, and it just takes Twice as long. Whenever they're having to climb over somebody, I'm like, why do y' all do this every day? Like, why do y' all do this? Like, yeah, y' all been doing this every single day. Like, whoever's sitting right there, get in last.
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Yeah, and it's something too. Like, I remember, like, when they were little and we would. We would say, like, they had to learn, even as babies in some aspect, to learn a little bit of patience in a way. Because when they would be, like, foon, spoon feeding, and I would put them all, like, in the little boppy bumbo things, little high chair things, and I would feed them, and it was like, I just would make one big bowl, say it was oatmeal. And it was like, ava gets a bite. Olivia gets a bite. Hezbollah gets a bite. Riley gets a bite. Park gets a bite, Ava gets a bite. And so they had to learn, like, it's every fifth bite. You get every fifth bite. So feeding did take a little bit longer until, you know, they could learn to do it themselves. But I couldn't sit down and take 10, 15 minutes to feed one baby and then switch it out. 10, 15 minutes, feed this baby, and then 10, 15 minutes. Like, it just was. You had to be fast, and you just had to go every fifth bite. Every fifth bite. You know, people don't think about that. You don't have to do that. Not a lot of y' all experience stuff like that.
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You know, it was just crazy, like, how fast you would feed the kids because it was just like, scoop, scoop, scoop, scoop, scoop, scoop.
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And then it was overwhelming the amount of, like, oatmeal you would fix, because you're feeding five at one time, you know.
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You know, the same bowl.
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Yeah.
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Same spoon.
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Yeah. Because I tried the different spoons from the. The very first time ever.
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And that's probably why, like, our kids, like, have really great immune systems.
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I remember that.
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They, like, share everything and, like, pass around germs and whatever and. But I remember our kids have always had, like, really great immune systems.
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Keep them. When you start introducing foods and stuff, make sure they have their own spoon. One time. I did it one time. The very first time. How old were they? Six, eight months old, seven months old? However old you are. Eight months old, nine months old. When they first got, like, their first
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baby food, unless they're color coded, like, you're going to get it mixed up anyway.
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And I was like, I can't be doing this. I don't know whose spoon is. Who we going with. One spoon.
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Yeah.
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And they get every fifth bite and they just. Fine.
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But like, all that stuff, like, whenever your people talk about, you know, in the US or, you know, like, probably first world countries or whatever, I mean, you're just talking about, like, like, germs and, like, all this stuff. But then you think about, like, third world countries and, like, they're all eating out the same pot and just, like, reaching their hands in and, like, ain't worried about germs.
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Yeah.
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And like, we're human. We're human. It's just like, them. And so, like. Yeah, like, when you think about, like, you know, hospitals and stuff and, like, how sterile everything has to be, and they're, like, giving birth out in the open in a dirt hut. And, like, they're perfectly fine. Perfectly fine. So.
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Yeah. So some of the things that. So those are. Those are, like, some examples of, like, what is out of the norm that people don't like. It's just, like, simple. Every day, it. I mean, just as simple as, like, what I was just doing before this was cleaning out Friday, their folders. Like, Friday folders. I mean, I should have took a picture of it, but, like, it. So Friday folder comes home, and it's like, us. All the papers they worked on for the week that come home in the folder. And I always go through them, look through them, see, like, where they were on, like, these, you know, projects or assignments or whatever. And I get through, and I'm like, and here's a stack of papers that are gonna go in the trash or whatever. But it is. It's like signing the Friday folders times five. But then they have planners. You gotta sign every day. Every day. And it's like. It's exhausting. Same thing when it comes to what they want to do with their hair. And I've been trying to teach them. I'm like, you're almost 11 years old. You've got to start doing your own, like, ponytails. And, like. But they're just like, you're just doing so much better. And I'm like. And Ava told me other. She goes, I mean, you're like the ultimate girl mom, so of course you do it better. And I'm like, well, thank you, but I think y' all need to learn to do it, too. But this is what gets me. It's when they want a braid.
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Yeah.
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That guys, if it's one braid, I gotta do five braids. But if they want double braids, I gotta do 10 braids. My hands. I'm like, I'm Out. I got arthritis now in my hands, and I can't. I literally cannot do any more braids. So I'm like, if you want to braid, you go in last. Because I don't want the other girl's hair done. So they don't have to ask for braids. But fingernails, toenail clipping.
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I mean, usually that's for me, like, in the mornings. Like, anybody that doesn't require a braid, they usually just come to me while. Mom.
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Yeah. I'm like, can you let Daddy please help with your hair? Can you please go let Daddy put your ponytail in? And half the time they come home from school and they don't even have a ponytail in their hair. They take it out. I'm like, dang it, just leave it down then. But, I mean, it's comical, too. Like, the going and clipping their fingernails and toenails and stuff. It's like a routine, you know, like, sit down and let's get a pile of clippings. It's so gross. So gross. But it's just. It's. Those are our norm, you know. It's very rare that, like, I'm gonna, like, just cut Hazel's fingernails.
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Yeah. If you're doing all their fingernails, I'm doing one.
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I'm like, let's get everybody's.
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That's a hundred fingers and toes in one night. Yeah, 100.
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I need $5 more.
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How crazy is that?
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And I wasn't even.
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My own. Okay, tonight's fingernail toenail night, and we're about to do 100 of them.
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Line it up. Yeah, it's good stuff. I mean, now they're at that age where, if there is one. I'm going to ask you this question. I'm going to see if you can answer it. If there is one thing in this house that we probably have so much of, what is it that. Yes. What is it that we never can find a daggone Brush.
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Brush.
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I'm telling you, I swear, we have 50 brushes.
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I swear, probably at least once a month, I buy another brush.
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Easy. We have. And I don't know where they go. I literally do not know where they go. Every morning, I'm like, this is where the brushes go. I put the brushes in there. I don't know where they go. Because the next day, I don't know. It is. It literally is comical. It's like, where's the brush today?
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Because they'll. They'll grab one and they'll, like, bring it upstairs and bring it to their room or they'll bring it to the van, and then they go to school, and then obviously, that stays in the van, and then they get out in the evening, and it just. It gets lost in the van. Yeah, I probably got four or five brushes in the van.
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I'm sure I just had the van clean on. Go like a couple.
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I guarantee there's a brush in there.
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I guarantee there is, too, because I do like to keep a brush in the van. I do like to keep a brush in there. I don't like to keep five brushes in there. But I am telling you, we have at least 50 brushes in this house, because when we are moving. I know I found so many brushes in. In the playroom and stuff, but, like, we don't have all those toys and stuff anymore. We have very little.
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Yeah.
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And I remember going, there's a brush. There's a brush. And ponytails, too. Adam's like. Adam is like, the ponytail purchaser. Ponytail holders. Every time he goes heb. He's like, and more ponytails.
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I'll grab another pack.
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He grabs another pack. I'm like, we have ponytails out the wall, but we never could find them.
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It's funny because, like, you'll go upstairs to the girl's bathroom, and so, like, if they're wearing a ponytail that day, before they get in the bathtub, they'll pull their ponytail out, and they'll usually stick it right on top of the toilet reservoir before getting in the way.
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And they have an old bracelet or
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at their sink, the old bracelet thing.
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And I had a grace and me. It hold all the bracelets.
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Yeah.
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I went in there one day. I'm like, that's where all the ponytails. They're all on the bracelet holder.
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Yeah. So you, like, go upstairs. You can, like, make a run up, like, once a week and just go through their bathrooms, and it's. You can probably get about 20 or 30 ponytail holders.
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Yeah. That's another thing that's overwhelming, too. The bathroom situation. Just, you know, it. It. I just can't imagine when these girls are actually all, like, wearing makeup and, like, wanting to care about. I mean, like, Blake, like, gets dressed every day. She wants to put her makeup on and whatever, and it's. It's an ordeal. But, like.
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And she goes in the bathroom and, like, locks it to where it's like, okay, the bathroom cannot be used for the next 40 minutes.
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And they keep going, well, that's Blake's bathroom. Like, it's not Blake's bathroom. It's. It's the same Upstairs. But it's Phil. I mean, it is the one that Blake uses. But. But I tell the girls, I'm like, y' all also are using that bathroom, too. But they, like, I just can't imagine the day. Like, they're all like, I need to put my makeup on before we leave, and I need to do my hair before we leave. And I need. It's like, we. We. We won't go anywhere. We'll never make it anywhere. And we think we're always late. Now it's like, wait, like, you.
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B
You think it would get a little bit easier, like, once they start. I mean, they're doing it more and more, like, their own hair and stuff like that. Even for Christmas, you bought them, like, new.
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A
Okay. Yeah. So they wanted, like, hair tools, and so that's a dilemma. It's like, okay, well, you know, and
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B
I'm always paranoid whenever they leave for school and I come up to my office. Like, I always, like, walk through their room to make sure they're not still plugged in.
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A
Yeah. And I went over, like, all the rules. I went and I told them. I'm like, it's easier if you start to do this, and you do it for each other. Like, do each other's hair in the morning, like, if you want to curl it. Because sometimes they will come down, and they'll curl it. And I'm like, okay, good. And. But if I'm like, hey, Parker, do you want to help curl her hair? And the other daughter's like, no, I don't want. Parker, do it. I want you to do it. I'm like, I need help. Y' all work with each other. And there's days that they're just like, let me do your hair. Let me do your hair. Let me do it. You know? So it's just one of those things. It was like, do I get five blow dryers? Do I get. Because, like, Blake has a blow dryer. She has a flat iron. She has a curler. But for them, I'm like, are they.
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B
They're getting to the age where they want to do each other's hair or want to help, but they're.
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A
They don't want to be told.
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B
But they're also, like, really slow at it right now.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And so, like, whenever you're rushing in the mornings to get to school, you're just like, give it to me. Like, let's. Let's go.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Because they're just like, yeah. Or they're, like, straightening each other's hair, and they, like, start Halfway down. And so you just see that you
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A
said that you go. You can't start. Straighten it from your ear down. You got to come up.
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B
Like, I can see exactly where you started. All the way across. Yeah, you're putting a. Ava, you're putting a line right across Parker's hair.
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A
But they are. It is. It is cute to see them when they do those moments. I think I posted a picture of where, like, Parker was putting, like lip gloss on Hazel. And I'm just like, that's right. That's what sisters do, man. That's so cute. It is, it's. It's always. It's always an ordeal. What are other things that people as normal to us that would shock other families? 1. One thing about girls is girls are just loud and they like to scream. They just scream just to scream. Not because they're in pain. It's just like excitement. It's just like. Like, that's just how they are.
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B
I mean, just 30 minutes ago, as we were putting them to bed and Parker and Olivia were in their beds having a contest on who can scream louder into their pillow. And so, like, I'm walking down the hallway and I just hear these, like, really muffled screams. I'm like, what is going on in there?
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A
Yeah.
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B
And they're like, who is louder, please. Let's not just have competitions on who can be louder in this house.
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A
Let's have competitions on who can be the questions. This. The snack. The snack life is especially now in this house. Sorry. Guess this. The snack life is very different this house because we don't have our big, huge walk in pantry that we built. And so like going, I used to go to Costco and like, buy bulk a lot, and it would last for maybe two weeks. And now we don't have room to keep that kind of stuff. So I'll go and I'll like, you know, get it organized. And it literally, I can only do it for like maybe three to four days holding stock for like lunches and snacks. But when it comes to let's restock the pantry or like this, the groceries are here. Let's like deliver them and whatever package them. It's like, these girls are like, ooh, I want. Because let's be honest, if I'm getting a. A thing of chips, let's just say there's 14 chips in there. There's one. What are those, like, white cheddar Cheetos the girls love, but it comes with eight in the pack. So basically you each get one. You each get one. If you get, like. Like, beef jerky things. There might be eight, 10 in there.
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B
You know, they'll, like.
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A
They want to start hoarding it.
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B
They'll hoard them. They'll like. They know that, okay, all of us. It gets at least one, but then there's like, two or three extra. Two or three extra in there. So, like, the day that they get unloaded, they'll, like, grab one and stuff it away somewhere.
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A
Yeah. And I'm like, nope, nope. We don't do that. We don't do that. We love when. I love when I can find something that. These are things that parents will never think of, like, going to the store, and I'm looking for something. I'm like, if something could just be in fives instead of threes or fours, you know, Like, I was in. When we were in Galveston, and I'm, like, looking for, like, things for, like, Easter, whatever. And I was, like, looking for these squishies. And I'm like, wait, this one is a six pack. Hallelujah. You know, it's like, it's such a great thing because it's so hard to always, like, have to count, especially when it's, like, quint things, you know? Do I got to get one box of this? Nope, I gotta get two just so they can each have one.
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B
One thing that's funny is, like, every. I mean, it happens very often whenever I'm at the grocery store checking out, like, the. You know, the. The cashier tries to, like, make small talk or whatever, or, like, makes a comment about, like, what you're buying or something. And so many times, like, they'll make a comment like, oh, you're having a party.
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A
Yes, yes.
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B
No, it's just my family.
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A
Yes, that's what we were the other day. And that girl was like, oh, are we celebrating something today when I took them to lunch or something.
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B
No, it's just a regular Tuesday.
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A
No, no, it was. It was when we went to Floyd's and you went to the bathroom, it was just me sitting down with them. And the lady comes up and she's
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B
like, that was like a birthday party.
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A
Having, like, a. Celebrating a birthday or something. And I said, no. And she's like, well, what are all these young ladies doing today? And I was like, we're just all sisters, and we're just coming to lunch after church. And she's like, what? Like, wait, they all. They're all the same age. And I was like, yeah, we're. They're quintuplets. And, you know, it is. It's so funny. But it's normal for us. Like, if you're gonna go, there's always gratuity in everywhere we go. Because it's a party after six.
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B
Yeah. We always get hit with the mandatory gratuity.
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A
Yeah. Even if we're sharing meals.
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B
Yeah. Like that mandatory 20 to 20% because
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A
it's always a party of eight. Busby party.
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B
So we always have to. Pretty much every time we go to a restaurant, you just got to make sure. Because more than likely they already added the gratuity in there. Because it's like anytime it's like a party of eight or more, they automatically add the gratuity every once in a while. So you have to make sure that. Okay. Like, whenever I go to tip, did they already take a tip out? And I can adjust it from there,
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A
but every once in a while, some of the waitresses or waiters will be nice and be like, I know they're most. But as they're getting older, it's kind of hard to distinguish, but they'll be. They won't do it because they know we're just one family. You know, one thing that I do think is funny is when it comes to discipline, does anybody have to group discipline? Because I feel like we. We. I have to, like, do group discipline at times with the girls with the quints. Like, listen, this is a team. Like, if we don't. If we don't work together as a team and clean the van up and get all the trash or all the shoes y' all left in here, the jackets or the blankets, like, consequences can go across as a team.
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B
Yeah. And I feel like, like, discipline, like, in our house, discipline works, especially if you're trying to get something done quicker. Like, you'll. You'll tell all of them, like, hey, this has to be done. And if it's not done, everybody's getting, like this consequence.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And so they will pressure each other and self regulate each other and then
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A
go help in order.
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B
Yeah. Because I know that, oh, well, if I did it, but then Ava did, Hazel didn't do that, then I'm still going to get something taken away.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And so then they'll go around and
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A
make sure it's like no one's going to jump outside or go to the park or go ride their bikes. All. All the chores or all the picking up our laundry or all the little things that were. Whatever that, you know, we were asking of cannot be done until it's all done. You know? And so I would say most times We've got, like, one to two that usually is. Will just do it. But the other three, it's like pulling teeth, and they'll just wait for someone else to do it. But we have to tell each of them, like, this is group. You all are going. If it doesn't get done, then we all don't get to go. And it sucks for them, but kind
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B
of been a game changer to just, like, get them to police themselves.
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A
Yeah. Yeah. But it also. I tell them, I'm like. Like, when it comes to, like, you know, the dishes and the dishwasher, it's something easy that is easy for them to do, like, unload the dishwasher and then load it. And because it's something that happens multiple times, like a day, and they'll be like, I just did it. And I'm like, that was last week.
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B
Yeah. I mean, that's. That's that even work. That works across the board. Not even just to the quintuplets, but, like, I do it to Blake also a lot.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Where? And then so it, you know, drives her, as the oldest kid in the house, to take some responsibility and, like, you know, push your sisters to, like, finish their chores and do stuff. And so then you have, like, big sister Blake telling me that I need to get this done or whatever.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Because Blake knows that, okay, she's gonna lose her phone or she's gonna do some, you know, if. If something doesn't get done, and so she'll start policing the quins. Yeah. Which helps a ton.
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A
Yeah. And I tell them. I'm like. I'm like, it. I say, think about if you were. If you were mom, me, and it was just me doing all this. I said, but when I have all of y' all and we all work together as a team, it gets done in, like, five minutes. And then. Then everybody's happy, you know, and so just really trying to explain and, like, let those things settle into them and be like, okay. We try to tell them, like, we're a family. We're a team. And I don't like, yes, mom does this. Dad does this. These are our responsibilities. Blah, blah, blah, blah. But also teaching them that, like, you don't just get to do. To do.
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B
Yeah.
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A
You know, but, yeah, it's. It's. It's a different world. I mean, there's the amount of shoes that are constantly everywhere.
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B
Like, that's a. That's the big one. It seems like it never fails. Whenever we're trying to get out the door, somebody's Missing their shoes. And then so you. You find yourself every single day. Like, if you would have taken your shoes off, where we always tell you to take your shoes off, you wouldn't be looking for your shoes right now.
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A
But I did. I put them right here.
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B
Somebody else moved them.
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A
Someone moved them. But.
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B
And that's the easy, easiest excuse in our house.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Is somebody else did it, or like, I did do that. But, like, somebody else in the house moved it.
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A
And it's not a name. It's just someone else did that.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Yeah. But it. When it comes to the shoes, it's like they wear tennis shoes for sure. On days that they know they have PE and then other times, they'll wear, like, their burks or sandals or like, whatever. And so it's like, oh, my. My tennis shoes might be where they're supposed to be, but tomorrow, the next day, I wore different shoes. And then when they came home and they wanted. They had their sandals on. They came home. They're like, I'm going to ride bikes. I'm gonna do this and put my tennis shoes on. And so it's just. It. It's constant. It's constant. Yeah. She's galore. Just like laundry.
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B
Right now, the hardest thing is socks.
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A
Oh, it's a death in me. Socks.
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B
And what's. What's hard, too, is they're starting to take my socks. And I think it's Blake. I need to actually go look through Blake sock drawer, because I think she's starting to take all my songs well,
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A
because guess who sucks.
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B
You know how many socks that I use? So in our old closet at our house, I had two drawers in my closet full of socks. Full of socks. And ever since we moved to this
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A
house, I don't know where your socks are.
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B
So I wash. I use. Typically wash all my clothes once a week. And I'll wash and I'll wash all. Make sure all, like, my socks are washed. And I barely have enough to fill the bottom of the drawer. And I'm like, where are all my socks?
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A
It's probably Blake, because they're too big on the quints. I'll be like, oh, these are daddies. They're too big.
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B
So I. I guarantee you Blake's still on my socks. I even, like, at the end of last week, I went. Bought, like, two more packs of socks because, like, I can't even get to the end of the week, and I'm already, like, losing socks. I have to go, like, wash more clothes because, like, my socks are just disappearing.
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A
Poor Baby, they use all my stuff for the rest of their life.
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B
It's like, the one thing of mine that they can wear, the one thing
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A
that they can have is yours. And you're gonna complain about it, which is very. I mean, besides Blake. Blake fitting in the socks or whatever her. She. I mean, I wear them every once in a while because I can't find my socks because they took my socks. I hate socks. No, actually, I love socks. I'm a sock person. Like, I want to walk around with socks. I know it's hot in here. Guessing, but yeah. So there's this. What other. If There. There's just so many, like, little things that you just. I don't know, trying to think of other things. Like the toothbrushes. Is it like the toothbrush fiasco? I'm like, everybody has their own dang toothbrush. Why do we not know where a toothbrush is? And why. What? Where? Just leave it by the bathroom sink. That's where it needs to be.
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B
It's funny because, like, some of the girls are super particular about their toothbrush and. And certain things. But then we have some other girls in the house that aren't and could care less and will, like, use someone else's toothbrush.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Like, if. If a toothbrush is close by, they'll just use that one.
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A
And I'm like, no. And so that is one thing I will not share.
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B
And so you'll have, like, Riley or Parker, like, come out of the bathroom, like, on the verge of tears. Somebody else used my toothbrush. And that happens a few times a week.
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A
Yeah. Yeah. Fun stuff. At least at this point, we're still. We're still a lot. You know, they all are on, like, the same schedule still. I'll go to bed same time, and that kind of thing. They all kind of wake up mostly around the same time, but they will disperse a little bit. The. The cups, like, their water bottle things, like, for school. Why. Why we lose all the tops. I don't know.
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B
Tops of straws.
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A
The straws. I don't want any other cups that go to school with straws. Like, I'm done with the straws. Just want just a top on it. Just drink. Because then it's my fault, you know? But we don't have any straws. So I would say on a scale of 1 to 10, where do you think. Do you think people are, like, laughing at these things?
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B
They're probably, like, hearing these, and they're like, oh, like, I never thought of that. Yeah, I never thought that, like, Yeah, I. I see why y' all have that issue.
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A
Yeah. I mean, like, like, even.
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B
It's, like, a lot of problems that, like, a lot of parents probably don't necessarily have with, like, one, two or three kids or whatever. I mean, I guess, like, the more children that you have close in age, like, the more similarities there probably are to, like, our issues. But, I mean, I. I would imagine, like, a lot of people are, like, hearing these, and they're like, yeah, never thought of it that way. But, yeah, I can see why you are. That's, like, an issue in your house.
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A
And, like, this is funny because, like, just along with, like, how they rotate the seats in the car and they have, like, their special day. So, like, you know, just like, Ava's on Monday, Liv is on Tuesday, so down the line. So, like, that also is the day of that. Who's going to feed the dogs? You only have to do it once a week, but when it's their day, it's like, it's the end of the world. I'm like, baby, I. I'm just not gonna feed you. I'm not gonna feed you
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B
this week.
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A
The one time you gotta do it this week. And usually, like, on trash day, I'm
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B
like,
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A
oh, Hazel, it's. It's Wednesday. Can you come take the trash out? Because that's her day. And she's. She's always like, yeah, okay, sure. You know, it's like, really. It's really. We ask you to take the trash out more often, but if it's like that day and we're doing chores or whatever, it's like, okay, this is what you get to do today.
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B
Yeah. So not only do you have the premium seating in the car, you have the premium choice of doing the other chores.
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A
Yeah.
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B
To make up for having the good seat.
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A
But you also get to, like, if we're gonna go out to eat that day, you get to pick where we're going.
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B
Yeah.
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A
So there's. There's, like, bonuses to it, too, you know? Or if we're gonna say, like, what movie are we gonna watch tonight? Or what game are we gonna play? Like, whoever's day.
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B
It is your day. You get to pick.
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A
Yeah. You get to pick.
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B
So you get the trump card on the day.
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A
Yeah, for sure. For sure. I don't get a trump card, but most days. All right, well, this was fun. Fun episode. Hope you enjoyed it.
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B
Yeah, it's just like, one of those things. It's like, just like I said, like, a lot of the things that we talked about. You probably never really had to think about it or now that we're, like, voicing it and, like, talking about, like, these annoyances or these issues in our house, it's probably making you like, oh, yeah, I see why that. That's a problem.
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A
Yeah.
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B
But, yeah, it's just like our every day. It's our normal. Yeah.
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A
It's our normal.
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B
So welcome to our normal. Yeah.
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A
And that was. That was just a small, small glimpse.
- [47:33]
B
Yeah.
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A
We haven't even gotten to a lot of shampoo and just soap, toilet paper. So a lot of things. But this was fun.
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B
Welcome to normal life in a family of quintuplets. Plus one.
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A
Yep.
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B
So thank you for tuning in to episode 74.
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A
All right, thanks for listening, guys.
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B
See you in the next one. All right, we love you guys.
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