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Dr. John Gottman has spent the last 4 decades studying what makes marriages succeed or fail. Through his research, he discovered 4 specific behaviors that, if left unchecked, will result in the destruction of any marriage.These 4 behaviors are known as The Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse.Today, we're going to share with you what the Four Horsemen are, how to recognize them, and what to do about them if they're present in your relationship.If you want to learn more about Dr. Gottman's work, we recommend his book, The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work. It's fantastic!

The concept of Boundaries is not something we talk about in Sunday School. It's not a merit badge, or a young women's value. But without boundaries, our marriages will not flourish and thrive like we want them to. So, today we're going to give you an introduction into the concept of boundaries. What are they? How do they work? Why are they important? How do we set them? And how do we enforce them?

Did you know there are actually two types of conflict in marriage? Some conflict, like what to eat for dinner tonight, is resolvable conflict. The rest of our conflicts - 69% to be exact - are unresolvable conflicts, like what to do if you're an early riser, and I'm a night owl. Or if you're fastidious and I'm cluttery. If you try to solve an unsolvable problem, you're just going to get more upset and frustrated. (Each type of problem requires its own skillset.) So, today we're going to talk about those two types of conflict, and how to handle them differently.

How do you create a marriage that can withstand any trial? And let's be honest, we want to do more than merely survive... we want to THRIVE, even amidst the struggles of life. God didn't give us marriage to endure. It's to enjoy. And that's what we'll show you how to do today.

This episode is a recording of a live marriage preparation class Angilyn and I taught as part of our calling with the YSA Ward. This week's lesson was on the purpose of your marriage... ie: why we get married. The answer might not be what you think...

There are tons of really stupid, damaging marriage myths that we get told growing up. If we try to act out on those marriage myths as if they are true, they do SO much harm. Today we're going to talk about some of the more common marriage myths, and how to avoid falling into their trap.

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Join us for another awesome conversation with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife! In this episode we delve into questions about exploring what arouses you, dealing with conflicting desires, and frustrations around female orgasm. We hope you enjoy the conversation!

Kory Fluckiger and Heather McKinnon are work from home, school from home, and birth from home kind of people. Kory is an artist. Heather is an artist, social worker, and stay at home mom. They both volunteer for the American Red Cross High School Leadership Camp and would love to tell you about it!

We need to have more compassion and understanding in our marriages - for ourselves and for our partner. There are a lot of things that enter our relationships from our pasts. We need to realize that it is going to take some time to perfect this dance. Sometimes they’re going to step on your toes, and sometimes you will step on theirs. When we do that, let’s try to give each other some feedback and support. It can quickly turn to blame and anger - ‘you stepped on me and that really hurt!’ Most often there is not malicious intent, yet people still get injured. We get hurt and our expectations get betrayed. There is a lot of emotion and discomfort and fear. It’s here that we need to start from a place of, ‘my partner is probably doing their best even though they aren’t a great dance partner yet. Maybe I’m not a great dance partner yet either! I thought I had all the moves and I don’t. How can we learn how to dance together?’ — Dr. Cameron Staley