← Motivate Me; Inspirational Speeches
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A fake email cost me my dream home. After I sent my personal information to
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your suffering in life has nothing to do with willpower, motivation. It's all a lack of understanding. But, but I, I think we're just not taught how to understand ourselves. Young men who are like, I'm so tired. How do I increase my energy? How do I increase my energy? And what they don't realize is like, if you think about tiredness, tiredness is a signal from the brain. Tiredness is not always low energy. Tiredness is your brain's way of telling you that this is not worth doing. And the interesting thing is there are a lot of things that we do need to do that we will feel tired for. But the real solution to that is sometimes is to force yourself to do it and kind of get yourself out of it. You know, there are some studies that show that exercise is equally effective to an ssri. So there's a value to that. But I think what a lot of people are missing is their conception of the thing is what's making them tired. You know, if you think about something thing that you haven't done before and you're like, oh my God, I have to do this thing. And then when you do it, you're like, oh, it's not that bad. And then you procrastinate on doing the thing, even though it's actually pretty easy to do. So changing your understanding of what you are tired to do is the fastest way to be able to do it. But the problem is we don't teach what's going on inside them, right? We don't teach them about their emotions. We don't teach them about motivation. The most important part of it, which is that look at how you get shaped and look at the person that you carry into your next thing. Almost like learning. So if you sort of look at every experience that you have, you learn something and you carry yourself forward right into the next experience. Into the next experience. That's what we call learning. So one of the biggest challenges that I have as a psychiatrist, my job is not in teaching people things, it is in helping them unlearn. So if you look at what trauma is, if you look at ambition, if you look at ego. So if you look at literally what happens with the human psychology is we accrue these micro traumas as we go through life. We accrue associations. I had a patient who was absolutely traumatized, so was dating someone, engaged to a dude, okay. Discovered that her fiance had been lying. So he was in med school, failed out for two years. He pretended to go to class every day. Then when he graduated, he got a job. He didn't really graduate. Here's the scary thing. So he would leave in the morning, drive to his parents house, spend the day there. Parents would deposit money in their account. He went to his parents house and she saw him there. And so she is just like, like, what are you doing here? And then, then she discovers not only him, but her parents have been depositing money into their account every month. And so she discovers this betrayal. When you're about to marry this person, it leaves scars. So then what happens is she goes into relationship and she has an immense amount of distrust, is paranoid about her next partner. Next partner didn't do shit. And this guy is getting like. Like there's so much paranoia, right? So if you look at life, life is a series of like bad stuff that happens to us. And then we adapt. But the way that the human mind adapts is the same way that the human body adapts. Because if something is. If we get really damaged, we get a callus, we get scar tissue. Scar tissue is not functional. It's protective, but it's not functional. So most of our ADAP adaptations become maladaptations later on. Okay, so this is what a Samskara is. So it's like this emotional energy that lingers with you and shapes the way that you see the world. If you look at your mind, stuff pops up, right? Have you ever wondered why certain things pop up, right? Have you ever thought, like, why aren't you interested in the scent of a rose? Like a certain. Like it's so weird like our, our mind just generates thought. The things that your subconscious mind puts into your conscious mind, you can control. Okay, so in the case of trauma, all kinds of weird stuff gets put into our subconscious mind. Like, I can't trust people. Then what happens is that floats to the surface. In my patient's case, every time, her second fiance, she doesn't know where he is, she's like, maybe he's scamming me, right? Like that's what she thinks. So I don't know if that makes sense. That's a thought in her conscious, which is being born out of something in her unconscious. We in neuroscience call this learning, right? So we're learning certain things. So in psychotherapy, we try to get rid of that bad stuff. But let's understand how stuff goes in, because if we can understand how the mind is programmed, and this is, it's so simple, the first thing is the one pointedness of the mind allows things to sink in. Now this is how trauma works. So when we, when you are intensely emotional, it actually focuses your mind.
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I cashed out my entire 401k thinking someone stole my identity.
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A fake email cost me my dream home. After I sent my personal information to
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a scammer, my AI agent wired thousands to an account I'd never seen.
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Someone at home trying to figure out, okay, how do I connect with my true self? Like, this idea of, like, being, like, impervious. So how do you become, like, psychologically impervious? When someone dislikes what you do, you think about them and not you. That's the opposite of ego, right? So if we take someone who's very narcissistic and they receive a criticism, they say, no, no, no, I'm great. Some people are going to like what you do, and some people are not going to like what you do. That's on them. So if we want to step away from the ego, we have to understand that don't take it personally, like, literally. That's the colloquial phrase.
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But it's hard to do so in academia. People are really good at detecting other people's vulnerabilities. And they go for the nuts, right? That's what they do. Like, psychologically, they go for the nuts. Poison dart, right? What they're doing, the reason it's so effective, they are figuring out where your weak point is, and they're. They're attacking that weak point. It's not about the size of the missile, it's about the precision. So it is when someone has a high anger attack, okay, this means their amygdala is through the roof. So they are thinking in black and white. Their attack is in black and white. A black and white attack is easier to repel because it's not nuanced. Okay, so like when someone is angry, you're right. It is easier to dismiss their anger. The other thing is, so when someone is not angry, they are not black and white. If they're not black and white, it is not easy to dismiss. Just because it's not black and white, that doesn't activate your anger. It doesn't activate your black and white thinking. Right? So when someone is coming at me angry, my empathic circuits are going to activate my own amygdala. I'm going to get angry back. You did this. No, I didn't. Right, so the most psychotic denial. Psychotic or delusional? Denial. That's a better word. The most delusional denial that you'll ever hear is when someone's angry, no, I didn't do that. I never did that. I never did that. I never did that. I never. And they can believe it because that's what happens. The amygdala makes your thinking black and white. You know, when we have adrenaline collapsing or running through our system, it collapses. Peripheral vision down to a 30 degree cone. So we can only see this thing. So this is the first element of why heat seeking missiles work. When they come at you angry, you're going to get angry. If you're going to get angry, it doesn't matter if they're right, doesn't matter if they're wrong. You're going to say no, it's, it's incorrect, doesn't matter. The truth of it. So this is the first element of it, right? So is that they don't approach you, they approach you in an articulate way. When they approach you in an articulate way, doesn't activate your amygdala. It does in a different way. But then, then the issue is their finesse. Poison dart. Really interesting imagery. It's something that hurts a little bit and then flows through your veins. So I can even imagine when they said that problematic id, your first thought was, not a big deal, I know my shit. And then the poison goes into your mind. Well, maybe I don't know my stuff. Oh my God, what if there is a paper that I missed? What if there is something that I. And then that, that injury will grow in your mind. And so all of your. And this is the stuff, right? Like the stuff that hurts us when people insult us. What hurts are the things we believe about ourself. You know, we all have these doubts because we're not perfect human beings, because we make mistakes. And when someone figures out, oh my God, this is, this is this person's weakness point. And the really scary thing is that humans have evolved to do this. All you have to do is go to any recess in the fifth grade and kids will figure out what hurts and then they will say it to you again and again and again and again. But I think it's really important to remember, you know, if something hurts, that's your own insecurity and insecurity. Remember if you say I am a loser or I am fat, I am ugly, those are all part of your ego. So there are certain things that you can do. And this goes back to the. What is that voice on the inside? So this is where you know, in the Eastern system, there is a self beyond the mind. So the mind is not what you are. The mind is an organ that you can observe in the same way that you can observe your hand in the same way that your hand can change, your mind can change. Your mind changes every day. The best way to observe your mind is actually psychotherapy. You'll get better insight into your mind there. But if you want to move beyond mind. What I mean is that if you look at your experience of existence, there is more to you than thoughts, emotions, and ego. And so if you want to get to that and step outside of your ego, meditation is the best thing for that. And there are lots of studies that suggest that meditation shuts off the default mode network. Default mode network is our sense of like self. There are also many studies that show that you can predict the therapeutic benefit of a psychedelic trip based on an ego death experience. So if someone has an ego death experience when they're using psychedelics, there is a greater likelihood that they heal from it, which has to do with deactivation of the default mode network. I cashed out my entire 401k thinking someone stole my identity.
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A fake email cost me my dream home. After I sent my personal information to
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a scammer, my AI agent wired thousands to an account I'd never seen.
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When billions of people feel unsafe, that's no longer a security problem. It's an economic one. At Jen, we're building the trust layer for a more fearless planet with products and technologies from our global brands, Norton, Lifelock, Avast, and Money Lion. See it in action at gendigital. Com.