Hello!

I am so excited to share this podcast episode with you. Jasmine Lu is a mental health therapist and a mother of two. I met her during the start of our second year in NYC when Michael was pursuing a master’s degree. Jasmine’s husband was just starting his first year of medical school. She is still knee-deep in supporting her husband through his now last year of residency in Manhattan. She is a light, and brings great strength through adversity with her background and all around gifts as a person.

In this podcast episode, we talked about how to take the day-to-day approach to a big program that she and her family have tackled.

As a mental health professional, she has amazing tools for higher and efficient communication, burnout and resentment prevention, and how knowing your family member’s love language can lift the general happiness in your relationships.

We talked about comparison and that the grass isn’t really greener on the other side. Have a happiness journal and write down three things that made you happy that day.

She has learned how to fill her own battery. You realize that you can’t rely on another person to do it. As an extrovert married to an introvert, she mentioned the importance of helping each other with goals through companionship inventory. Companionship inventory is a sit-down time to talk about what is going well, things you appreciate about each other, and what you can help your spouse with that week. This can be great to get feedback before things boil over. While there can still be arguments or hard times, this can be preventative as you work on it as often as you can. Kids can also give us feedback on how we can do better. We definitely aren’t perfect.

We need to keep our expectations in check, and sometimes lower our expectations and communicate them as well or else resentment can build.

Chuggin’ and pluggin’ is her motto right now!

This podcast has SO many tips, that it will give you the tools you need to take your life to the next level. Especially with the relationships you care deeply about.

While relationship and personal improvement is something we all need, please also share this with anyone you know that is staring medical training (or residency) this year, or especially if you know someone jumping into a new life in NYC.

You can find the YouTube link below to watch, or listen to the podcast audio at the top of this blog article. It is posted also on Apple and all podcast platforms.

Thanks for listening!

Celeste

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