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Welcome to the no Bullshit Leadership Podcast. In a world where knowledge has become a commodity, this podcast is designed to give you something more access to the experience of a successful CEO who has already walked the path. So join your host, Martin Moore, who will unlock and bring to life your own leadership experiences and accelerate your journey to leadership excellence.
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Welcome to Moments with Marty, your short, sharp shot of leadership insight to help you to stay on track between our weekly episodes of the no Bullshit Leadership Podcast. Every leader likes to think that they're highly resilient, but many of them lack basic composure in high stress situations. Unfortunately, they also lack the self awareness to admit it. I came up with some fun categories for leaders who show a lack of resilience. First are the landmine leaders. They're really calm when the going is good, but they explode under the slightest pressure. And anyone who's unlucky enough to be around is collateral damage. Then there's catatonic leaders. They tend to freeze under pressure, they hesitate on decisions, and they avoid any situation that might force them to face up to their reality. Catatonic leaders are easy to spot because in a crisis, they'll be the ones hiding under their desk in in fetal position. And finally, there are Teflon leaders. Nothing sticks to a Teflon leader. When they're under pressure. Their instinct is to blame and deflect. They blame other people and of course, anything else they can point to that might be beyond their control. If you don't want to be one of these leaders, then of course you have to be able to regulate your own behavior. But the real acid test is whether you have the mental, emotional and psychological strength to support your team so that they remain as calm as you do. Every truly great leader is demonstrably resilient. And it's important to understand the difference between just acting strong and actually being strong. Acting strong is that suck it up, don't show any emotion, just get on with it mentality. Even though this might be enough to get you through a crisis, you're operating from a place of fear rather than a place of composure and control. Real resilience is incredibly calm. It comes from within. It's about genuine, deep confidence. And this is totally different to superficial bravado. When you're genuinely calm, that's grace under pressure. Confident and controlled all the way to your core. There's no disconnect between what you feel and what the people around you see. You control your mental, physical and emotional state regardless of the situation you're in. The only way to build your resilience and to eventually acquire grace under pressure is to willingly do hard things. If you do, you'll become incredibly comfortable in tough situations and supremely confident that you can handle anything that gets thrown at you. Hard things come in all different shapes and sizes. So rather than talking about those, I'm going to give you four mental frames that you can use to push yourself to do hard things, even when they're easy to avoid. Look outside yourself. If you focus on yourself, your own feelings and fears and doubts, you'll find it difficult to step into hard situations. Instead, focus on other people. What would it mean to them if you had the courage to do something that you didn't want to do? The second frame is think of the bigger picture we're conditioned to short term thinking. What's best for me today will always override what's best for me in five years. If you can develop your long term focus, you're way more likely to face into today's challenges. The third frame is align your actions with your goals. Think about where you ultimately want to be. If you have ambitions of having genuine impact and career success, you know deep down that it's not going to just happen. You know what actions you need to take to reach your goal. So if you focus on the goal, the actions tend to follow naturally. And finally, frame number four, get comfortable with the price of success. Anyone can be successful if they're prepared to do hard things. There's no success without hard work, sacrifice and risk. If there was, hey, everyone would be doing it. This is pretty simple. If you want to become more resilient, make a choice to do the hard things that you face each day. Don't shy away from the inner turmoil and struggle. Don't be afraid to put your feelings, your image or your likability at risk. This turbocharges your resilience, accelerating your journey to grace under pressure. And after that, you'll start to find that the obstacles most people live in fear of just melt away. If you want to take a deeper dive into how to use resilience techniques more effectively, have a listen to episode 228 of the no Bullshit Leadership podcast, Resilience Myths. We'll leave a link in the show notes. I really hope you enjoyed this moment and that it gives you that extra little spark to be a no bullshit leader.