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No Bullsh!t Leadership

Episode: Moment 179 – "Why You Keep Avoiding the Hard Thing"

Host: Martin G Moore
Date: June 28, 2026

Episode Overview

In this bite-sized "Moments with Marty" episode, Martin G Moore tackles the universal struggle leaders face: avoiding difficult but essential tasks. He explores why even the most ambitious people rationalize away the hard stuff, outlines a simple, actionable four-step process to get started, and stresses that long-term success is built on stepping out of comfort zones. With practical tips and relatable anecdotes, Marty aims to give leaders the push they need to stop avoiding—and start doing—the "hard things" that drive career momentum.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. The Temptation to Avoid

Leadership requires confronting difficulty:
“Leadership might be hard, but there’s nothing you can’t master with application and discipline. This is why the toughest challenge is often just convincing yourself to start.” – Martin G Moore [00:46]
Rationalization is human nature:
Marty notes how skilled people are at talking themselves out of doing hard things, convincing themselves there’s always a good reason to delay.

2. Why Avoidance Hurts Careers

Ambition alone isn’t enough:
To stand out and get promoted, doing the hard things is essential. Persisting with just the comfortable routines is a dead end.
Hope is not a strategy:
“There’s no point just hoping that you can continue to do what you’re doing and somehow you’ll make it to the level you want. Hope is not a strategy.” – Martin G Moore [01:39]

3. The Personal Struggle—Even for Experts

Everyone hesitates, including high-performers:
Marty candidly shares that despite years of experience, he still finds himself hesitating to start tough tasks—from taxes to winter workouts.
Doing hard things is more rewarding:
“I know from experience that actually doing hard things is 10 times more rewarding than any comfort I might have by avoiding it.” – Martin G Moore [02:10]

4. A Four-Step Process to Tackle Hard Things

Example: Speaking up in important meetings
Many leaders miss opportunities because they’re afraid of looking foolish in front of senior people.
Step-by-step breakdown:
1. Choose your meeting wisely:
  Pick a setting where you’re confident with the subject matter.
2. Plan your comment:
  Do the necessary reading and identify where you can add value.
3. Memorise your lead-in phrase:
  Prepare a “safe” opener, e.g., “I’m not sure if this is relevant, but one thing that occurred to me is…”
4. Commit to action:
  Promise yourself you’ll contribute, no matter what.
Key message:
“There are many more examples that I can give where the simple process of preparation and commitment can push you to take action.” – Martin G Moore [03:39]

5. Baby Steps Lead to Mastery

Success is impossible without tackling big challenges:
Everyone must begin somewhere, and small steps repeated over time build expertise.
Further resources:
Marty recommends episode 337 (“How to Do Hard Things”) for a deeper dive into breaking inertia with small steps.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On Rationalization:
“I never cease to be amazed by human beings’ propensity for rationalisation. We are so good at convincing ourselves of all the reasons why we shouldn’t do something hard.” – Martin G Moore [01:30]
On speaking up:
“If you want to be in a senior leadership role, you’ve got to get over that. I don’t care if you’re an introvert or if you get anxiety. This is about doing the things that will help you to realise your long term career ambition.” – Martin G Moore [02:51]
Takeaway on discipline:
“You’ve just got to believe that baby steps lead to mastery.” – Martin G Moore [04:14]

Timestamps for Key Segments

00:46 — The lens: Why the hardest challenge is simply starting
01:20 — Introduction to the avoidance problem; rationalization explained
01:39 — The "Hope is not a strategy" insight
02:10 — Marty’s personal experience with hard things and continued hesitation
02:40 — Four-step process detailed (especially for speaking up)
04:14 — The importance of baby steps and recommendation for further listening (episode 337)

Episode Style and Tone

Martin G Moore’s delivery is direct, practical, and no-nonsense—echoing his podcast’s “No Bullsh!t” branding. He combines candor about his own imperfections with hard-earned insights and refuses to accept listeners’ excuses, instead focusing on practical techniques anyone can apply right away.

Summary Takeaways

Almost all leaders avoid hard things, but rationalizations hold you back from growth.
Career advancement requires embracing discomfort and doing what others avoid.
Consistent, small steps coupled with preparation and self-commitment break the cycle of avoidance.
Use specific frameworks (like the 4-step process) to start, and remember: starting is the scariest step—but also the most essential.

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Leadership might be hard, but there's nothing you can't master with application and discipline. This is why the toughest challenge is often just convincing yourself to start.
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Welcome to Moments with Marty, your short, sharp shot of leadership insight to help you to stay on track between our weekly episodes of the no Bullshit Leadership Podcast. I often say that leadership is hard. And it is. There are no silver bullets, just a bunch of habits and disciplines you need to acquire to constantly hone your craft. Often the most difficult step is the first. Pushing yourself to start something hard can be challenging. If you're like most leaders, there's probably a key area that you're struggling with, or even worse, not struggling with, because you've decided to avoid it altogether. I never cease to be amazed by human beings propensity for rationalization. We are so good at convincing ourselves of all the reasons why we shouldn't do something hard. So let's work backwards. You're ambitious and you'd like to be promoted. To get promoted, you have to stand out. To stand out, you have to perform better than the leaders around you. There's no point just hoping that you can continue to do what you're doing and somehow you'll make it to the level you want. Hope is not a Strategy. In episode 337, how to Do Hard Things, I focus specifically on how to take those first difficult steps and stick with them until they become habits. Over my 64 years I've proven to myself over and over that I can do anything I set my mind to, no matter how difficult it might be. And I know from experience that actually doing hard things is 10 times more rewarding than any comfort I might have by avoiding it. But still, I hesitate to start something that I know is going to suck, whether it's doing my taxes or going out to exercise in Boston when the wind chill is minus 20. Just let me give you an example of a four step process to help you to start something difficult. How about speaking up in an important meeting when powerful people are there? A lot of leaders miss these prime opportunities to showcase their talent because they're afraid they might say something stupid. But if you want to be in a senior leadership role, you've got to get over that. I don't care if you're an introvert or if you get anxiety. This is about doing the things that will help you to realize your long term career ambition. There are four steps for speaking up. Choose your meeting wisely. Pick a meeting that you know will allow you to shine because it covers a subject area that you're comfortable with. Plan your comment if there's any pre reading for the meeting, study it and work out where you can make the biggest contribution. Then do the pre work to frame your question or comment. Step 3 Memorise your lead in phrase to put yourself and others at ease, you can pre prepare a phrase to start your comment. I would often lead in with something. Look, I'm not sure if this is relevant, but one thing that occurred to me is X. And finally, number four. Make a commitment to yourself that you'll attend a meeting and raise your point no matter what. There are many more examples that I can give where the simple process of preparation and commitment can push you to take action. It's impossible to be successful unless you do some hard things and everyone has to start somewhere. You've just got to believe that baby steps lead to mastery. If you want to really get stuck into the psychology of taking that first small step to mastery, have a listen to episode 337 of the no Bullshit Leadership podcast, How to Do Hard Things. We'll leave a link in the show. Notes. I really hope you enjoyed this moment and that it gives you that extra little spark to be a no Bullshit.