No One's Home
Trauma is powerful. In one moment, the shock of terrible news, betrayal, loss, scandal, embarrassment can push us out of ourselves to witness our attempts to cope with the turmoil from a 3rd person point-of-view.
Yes, I am talking about out-of-body experiences. Not like the ones we normally talk about, but the real ones where we have the ability to escape from the pain, and go somewhere else for a while, and hope the time that passes will fix the mess.
In reality, it doesn't.
If we view our bodies and our minds as our "home" or the permanent house we live in, these experiences we have can almost be the same as abandoning a physical house and letting time and nature take it over. Eventually, what once was full of life will become dilapidated, decayed, and downright depressing to look at. But unlike a physical house, leaving it doesn't mean we can get a different one in its place.
Many of us encounter trauma and choose to just let the elements of time run its course, in hopes that we will magically be better if we ignore the pain for a while. In reality, the damage of the traumatic event doesn't go away, but often becomes a "trigger" and an eternal obstacle we cannot move around until we deal with it. The sting of betrayal doesn't leave us when we look the other way. We either have to forgive and reconcile, or set boundaries and abide by them. The tragedy of the miscarriage stays with us every time we see another mother holding her child, unless we deal with the envy that takes root in our hearts.
No one is immune to pain in life. We all experience trauma. When we encounter the pains of life, we have a choice - we can choose to take steps to restore our home, or we can abandon it altogether and become an unwelcome squatter in someone else's finished house, deceiving ourselves into thinking we will experience the fullness of life there.
When someone comes to "tour" your house, what will you show them? Bitterness, envy, resentment, and an altogether empty and eerie set of four walls? Or will your choices of paint color, curtains, and decor point to all you overcame and be a welcoming environment for those who get to know you?
You choose.
Welcome to No One's Home.
This podcast is a Creatives Club podcast, hosted by Cicily, where she uses her own personal struggles as ways to encourage listeners to get the help they need to overcome everything they encounter. Featured on another podcast, 'LIGHTS, CAMERA, SMILE!', Cicily uses both her professional and personal life examples to relate to those who find themselves in similar places and in need of encouragement, tools, advice, and community to continue to pursue the fullest and exhilarating life possible.
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