Anger can feel like protection until you notice what it’s doing to your body. That’s where we start, with a hard truth and a hopeful one: you can have every right to be angry and still choose grace when you’re ready to stop carrying the weight.

I’m joined by April Garcia, author of *The Room to Be Brave*, to talk about how childhood trauma, family roles, and early rejection shape our adult beliefs about belonging, worth, and safety. April explains her “rooms” framework, where a room can be a house, a school, a state, or a single moment you still remember in perfect detail. We dig into why the brain locks certain memories away, how the body keeps the score, and what it looks like to revisit the past without getting swallowed by it.

We also get real about sobriety and emotional healing. April shares how alcohol worked as numbing and social armor, why shame keeps the cycle going, and the quiet moment that finally made stopping feel non-negotiable. From there, we talk about repair at home, honest conversations with a teenager, “changed behavior” as a real apology, and how forgiveness can include accountability. We close with practical tools like an emotional pain scale, gentle steps for facing fear, and the idea that joy is not a reward you earn, it’s a practice you can start today.

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