Andy Talks All: Absent Father, Coming Out, Sister's Passing, Grief, CHISME & MORE!

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Podcast Summary: Noche de Pendejadas with Alannized

Episode: Andy Talks All: Absent Father, Coming Out, Sister's Passing, Grief, CHISME & MORE!

Date: March 20, 2026
Host: Alannized
Guest: Andy

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Episode Overview

In a deeply personal and emotional episode, Andy joins Alannized to discuss his life story—unfiltered and honest. From growing up with an absent father, the complicated layers of coming out and processing childhood trauma, to the heartbreak of losing his sister and the journey through grief, Andy holds nothing back. The conversation covers family dynamics, identity, healing, and the realities of life as a social media creator. With signature chisme, humor, and moments of vulnerability, this episode offers listeners both catharsis and community.

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Key Topics & Timestamps

1. Introducing Andy & Early Career Hustle

[01:09–06:39]

• Andy introduces himself, sharing his real name (Andres) and background.
• Recap of previous jobs: “I’ve been a hustler, y’all… I’ve had a lot of jobs.”
  — Andy, [04:28]
• Security guard, receptionist, Target, Best Buy, and working his way into social media.
• Nostalgic Target videos and TikToks led to his online following.

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2. Family Dynamics & Growing Up Without His Father

[06:39–15:19]

• Andy describes being the only boy among sisters, emphasizing his close bond with his mother and female family members.
• Absent biological father: “The most fucked up moment that my dad pulled on me… He tried to bribe my mom into leaving us, like, just leave the kids.”
  — Andy, [08:25]
• Painful childhood memories and processing the absence of a father figure.
• Stepdad eventually stepped in: helped him learn “manly things,” but Andy admits often bumping heads due to differences and internal struggles with masculinity and sexuality.

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3. Coming to Terms with a Traumatic Childhood Experience

[16:12–24:39]

• Andy courageously recounts an incident of childhood sexual abuse by his sister’s boyfriend: “He made me grab it… He made me feel like I came onto him or something.”
  — Andy, [16:29]
• He shares how this shaped his early understanding of sexuality and led to confusion and shame.
• The relief of finally telling family members about the abuse years later.
• Advice to others: “If you see something, say something.”
  — Andy, [24:12]

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4. Realization of Sexuality & Coming Out

[27:12–36:04]

• Lively stories about Andy’s “gay awakening” in middle school, school crushes, and early signs of being different.
• First conversations about sexuality with his mother—a mix of fear, humor, and family acceptance:
  “She was upset for like… three minutes. And then she was like, ‘I love you, mijo.’”
  — Andy, [31:44]
• Navigating makeup, experimenting with style, and eventually realizing, “Yeah, I’m gay, but I’m not that gay.”
• No major bullying or negative experiences after coming out, acknowledging his mom’s loving and supportive nature.

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5. Advice for Those Struggling with Identity and Coming Out

[36:20–38:47]

• Andy and Alan discuss coming out “to the girlie you trust.”
• “Embrace who the fuck you are. Like, who gives a fuck?... Be confident of who you are. Don’t let no one take your shine from you.”
  — Andy, [38:07]
• Alan relates with his own experience and the two offer encouragement to listeners about embracing their authentic selves.

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6. Losing His Sister: Love, Conflict, and Grief

[41:30–58:58]

• Emotional remembrance of sister Giselle: “She was so fucking funny. We had the most amazing childhood.”
• The complexity of sibling relationships: youthful closeness turned to conflict and growing apart, exacerbated by growing up without a father figure.
• The night of her accident and hospital vigil:
  “I just remember, like, gasping so hard… Her face was so swollen.”
  — Andy, [48:22]
• Guilt and regret: reading messages on her phone after her death about her struggle with self-worth.
• Grief and coping: “After that, like, I was never the same… A big part of me was just taken away from me.”
• The family’s process of grieving together, electing for a private memorial, and the lasting impact on Andy’s outlook.

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7. Healing & Finding Joy Again

[59:42–61:28]

• Andy discusses how grief altered his behavior, initially turning to alcohol for numbing, but eventually finding healthier outlets:
  “I love video games now… I write music, I journal, I go on walks. It’s important to reconnect with yourself.”
  — Andy, [60:25–61:04]

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8. Life as an Influencer & Friendship with Melody

[63:32–76:58]

• Andy describes his entry into content creation, viral moments (“tell me why I shouldn’t throw this drink in your ass face”), and the realities of being recognized.
• Relationship with best friend Melody: “She’s like literally my sauce, I’m her pepper bro.”
  — Andy, [72:19]
• The friendship’s ups and downs, their ability to maturely communicate, and keep their bond strong.

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9. The Pros and Cons of Social Media & Andy’s Future

[75:29–77:56]

• The “free stuff,” community, and widespread positivity are the best aspects of social media; the worst are judgment and negative comments.
• Future aspirations: more peace, perhaps life off social media, closer relationships, and escape from negativity.
• “I want to be peaceful, at peace, maybe on an island somewhere or back at home with my family and all my cats.”
  — Andy, [77:01]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “I think I’ve grieved someone who’s still alive.”
  — Andy on his absent father, [14:35]
• “If you see something, say something.”
  — Andy, [24:12]
• “Embrace who the fuck you are… Be proud of who you are.”
  — Andy, [38:07]
• Intimate memory of seeing the red moon and hospital vigil the night of his sister’s accident.
  — [46:34 – 48:22]
• “After that, like, I was never the same… her dying, like, oh my gosh, Alan, it fucked me up.”
  — Andy, [52:12–53:15]

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Advice & Takeaways

• Coping with an absent parent: Seek love from those who support you and work towards forgiveness, if for nothing else, your own peace.
• On childhood trauma: It is never too late to speak out. Telling someone can be freeing and healing, even years later.
• For those struggling to come out: Start with a trusted friend, embrace your true self, and remember you’re not alone.
• Grief: Healing is nonlinear. Foundational self-care (hobbies, creativity, connection, time alone) is key. Grieve in your own way, and seek support when needed.

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Tone & Style

The episode is deeply personal, raw, and honest with doses of humor and Spanglish camaraderie. Alan’s support allows Andy to be vulnerable and real, providing an authentic look into the struggles and triumphs that define his story.

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“Be proud of who you are. Embrace that and have confidence. Be confident of who you are. That’s very important, that you don’t let no one take your shine from you.”
— Andy, [38:07]

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Transcript

[Andy]

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[Andy]

Foreign.

[Alan]

What is up, everyone? I'm your host, Alan Ice, and this is Noche de pendejadas, your favorite podcast turn talk show. And on the YoTrego, atus influencers para platicar y post. So without any further ado, please help me welcome my guest tonight. Andy

[Andy]

Love for the queen. I'm good. How are you? Thank you. Thank you.

[Alan]

I am so excited, But I really did want to give you guys, like, your individual episodes because I feel like at the end of the day, amigos, at the end of the day, people really do love you guys together online. I want to get to know you guys individually. What's your week been like? You know, I know you guys flew in yesterday.

[Andy]

Well, I don't know. Like, my life is kind of boring. I don't know. I don't really do nothing. No, I do. I don't know. I didn't really do much this week. I was kind of nervous to come over here because I hate flying. Like, I have so much flight. Do you have flight anxiety or. No, I'd be so scared. But I'm not gonna lie. I've flown, like, a couple places, so, like, now I'm getting used to it. But I was looking forward to this. But I'm like, I. Like, I don't want to go no more.

[Alan]

Like, you were clubbing the night before, though.

[Andy]

I wasn't, because I was like, you know what? Like, I have a flight in the morning. I don't want to be in the house just overthinking about the flight. So I'm like, you know what? Let me go have a little drink or something. So I just went to go have a drink because it just eases my mind to, like, have a shot in on my flight and Then we're taking off. I'm just like, so did you go

[Alan]

straight from, like the club to the flight?

[Andy]

So what I did was like, I went to the club if, you know, you know, I had a lot of my viewers text me like, oh my gosh, if you're at the club. I'm like, and it was on a Sunday, this Sunday, I went to the club. And then I was like, you know what, let me get some shots. And after I went home and I told Melody that I was packed. The fuck. Like, I lied. Like, I didn't have everything packed, so I had to go back home, officially pack everything. And then my gay boyfriend's mom was like, oh, like, come to after hours with me. I'm like, you know what? I could do a shot. So I was like, you know what? Fuck it. We went, got a bottle and then fuck, I went to the airport hammered. Like, I was a little hammered, I'm not going to lie. But that's what I wanted because, you know, I wanted to, like, It made me feel a lot more easy that I.

[Alan]

You know what it is? When I saw your story. Porque mig in quanto yom historia? I'm like, oh my God. I think they have their flight very, very early. Like the next day. I missed my flight.

[Andy]

Oh, I really want. I could not miss this flight. No, this is so cool, honestly, because, like, I remember thinking about, like, damn, it'd be so cool to be on here and look at me now.

[Alan]

Who you are and what you do.

[Andy]

Well, I mean, a lot of you know me, so. No, I'm just kidding. Well, I'm Andy. That's my Internet name. Ok, okay, let's get that out of the way. My name is Andrew. And a lot of people don't know this, but literally, I think Melody is the only one who'll be outing me because she's always like, Andres. And I'm like, bitch, like, the Internet does not know that that's my name, but I'm not even Andrew.

[Alan]

You're Andres?

[Andy]

Well, yes, but growing up, like, everybody called me Andy. I just turned 24. I'm gonna add my favorite color's green. I like, no one gives a fuck. I do social media for work full time. But for the real bitches who have watched me for a long ass time have known that bitch. I used to have a lot of fucking jobs. Like, baby, I've been a hustler y' all talking about. No, I'm just K. No, I'm not kidding, bitch. I've had a Lot of jobs. I worked at Target, Best Buy. Used to be a receptionist at several places, actually. When I started getting on social media, I've been on social media. I thought it was pretty cool. But I'd be bored at work, and I would want to, like, post me at work as a security guard. And a lot of people know.

[Alan]

Well, you used to work as a security guard?

[Andy]

Yes, bitch. Like. Like Quince Halls, you know?

[Alan]

Okay, okay.

[Andy]

You know, I'm, like, standing there, like, I'm like, period, like, five bucks. I started posting, like, videos of, like, me as a security guard. And that got a lot of, like, recognition. Like, a lot of people be like, what the fuck? Because I would only be a security guard at night. My regular job, I would go be a receptionist, you know, and then I went from being a receptionist to working at Target, and I would still post on social media. So a lot of my OG followers, y' all know who y'. All are. Them bitches know that bitch. I'm a hustler. My Target videos have gone crazy. Like, those were insane. Like, if you know, you know which

[Alan]

one was, like, your least favorite job.

[Andy]

I think Best Buy was just kind of lame. I feel like they paid good, but, like, nah. Yeah, it was kind of boring. I mean, I did test for, like, a fucking week. Like, baby, let me get the fuck up out of here. I've been a social media manager, too, as well. Being a security guard was pretty cool. I mean, I thought it was so cool to, like, just stand there and just, like, I would get bored, you know? But, like, they paid so good. They used to give me, like, 20 an hour. I actually was unlicensed. I didn't have the right permits to do all of that, which was kind of crazy to me. But I was young, and I was like, you know what? Money is money. I mean, maybe I've been hustle. I was like, you know, come on, let's do it. After being a security guard, I was. What did I do after that? I don't even know in, like, chronological order. Like, what jobs exactly. I had basically. To summarize it, I think after. Not going to lie, I worked at Best Buy for, like, a day or, like, not even a day. Like, it was just a very short time. I think Target was my favorite because I've. I've seen, like, a lot of feedback about working at Target and how it was, like, very shitty and, like, a lot of people didn't like it. I had a ball.

[Alan]

I feel like we have to start from the beginning with your Childhood. How was Andy growing up? What was the environment you grew up in? How would you describe your personality growing up?

[Andy]

I will say first, I am the only boy in. I grew up around nothing but girls. So I think that played a big part of, like, who I am today. As in, like, you know, me being a little homosexual, but I mean, homosexual. I'm a mommy's boy. My mom fucking loves me. My mom will fucking kill for me. I didn't have a dad growing up, so I think me having that support system from my mom and my sisters was really good. My mom would always put me first. I don't think I struggled as much as my older siblings did. We stayed at this house in Pasadena, Texas. If you know, you know, it was very hard because my mom was working a job, you know, on her own, taking care of all of us. It was really hard. But I think, like, growing up, it was just amazing to, like, wake up and go to and just get ready with my sisters to go to school. Like, I miss those times. Like, those are times I will never get back again. Like, just growing up, getting ready, seeing my sister, spending time with my family. Like, those were one of one moments. And I miss those. Those moments so much.

[Alan]

Was your mom like a single mom growing up? Yes, like, the whole time. She never remarried?

[Andy]

Well, no, it was really hard for her. I'm like, fuck, mom. I don't want to out you. She was single. But I did have a father figure who did step into the picture very early in life. I always personally seen it as, like, just us in my childhood, just growing up. Me, my sisters and my mom.

[Alan]

I mean, yeah, you know, of the absence of your dad that, you know, growing up, your dad was out of the picture from an early age, you know? You know, do you remember him being no longer in your life? How was his absence explained to you?

[Andy]

Dang. It really sucks to talk about this topic because it's like, I don't have nothing good to say about him because of how absent he was in my life. But I'm like, I'm glad I got this opportunity to talk about you. I don't think you'll ever see this, but, like, I think the most fucked up moment that my dad pulled on me, my biological father, by the way, I know he had money because he worked for the government. And I remember one of the first times I seen him, he tried to bribe my mom into leaving us, me and my sisters, which was really fucked up. And my mom's such a real ass bitch. I fucking love her, that's literally my rock. She's like, one of my best friends. Melody's like, who? Ah. I remember we were at a McDonald's park and we were in the backseat. I was so little. My little sister was a baby. My older sister was. I think she was at school. And I remember being in the backseat. We were in this McDonald's parking lot. And my dad literally tried to bribe my mom into leaving us. Like, just leave the kids. Like, come with me. Like, basically wanting to abandon us, which that's something you're never gonna forget. Cause who the fuck does that, you know?

[Alan]

Like, did you understand at the time?

[Andy]

Later on, it came to my head, like, oh, like, I see what you were doing. Like, you know? And my mom was like, no, I'm not gonna leave my kids. Like, I would never. Like, those are my babies. Of course my mom rides for us, and that's why I fucking love her. After that, the only time I would hear from him was like, oh, Social Security checks hit, like, here's your money for the month. Up Until I turned 18, the very last time I spoke to him, I was, I think, in fourth grade. My mom was, like, on the phone with him, and she was like, oh, your dad wants to talk to you. I'm like, oh, maybe I haven't heard that word in a minute. I'm like, let me, like, okay, like.

[Alan]

Like, let's see what this is.

[Andy]

Yeah. I was like, what the fuck do you want? So I was on the phone with him, and then he's like, who's this? And I'm like, your son. And he was like, this isn't my son. And I remember being so upset, and I was like, like, you don't even remember my voice. You don't even know my voice anymore. Like, I didn't tell him, but I was like, I have nothing else to say to you. I was just like, mom here. I was very disappointed in him because as a father figure, who the fuck does that to their kids, you know? Like, it's fucked up. You, out of one other person, play a huge fucking part in their life, and you're just gonna abandon them like that? It's overstayed, bitch. Ah. No, but I mean, I'm not. I'm not really upset at you because, I mean, I kind of want to thank my biological father for le me, because I think if he was still in my life, he would have shaped me to be a completely different person. I'm a very big believer in God, and I do think that everything happens For a reason. So him being gone is like, you know what? It's not so bad without you in my life. I don't need you. And I'm glad I seen that through my own eyes. I don't need you anymore.

[Alan]

Did you ever have, like, some resentment towards your mom or even yourself where you blamed yourself for his absence?

[Andy]

Like I said, my mom is literally one of my heroes. So her being in my entire life till this day since I was born replaced that father figure. Like, I didn't need a dad, like you said. You know, maybe I've seen other kids with both of their parents at school, in elementary, and I wouldn't want, like, a dad. I didn't want it, like, because my mom, like, filled that spot in for my dad. I was like, you know what? Like, dad who? I was like, I don't need a dad. I have my mom. Growing up, I had a father figure who came into my life who is to me today, my stepdad. And I grew up with a lot of women, like, sisters, you know, so many sisters. So there wasn't a man around the house to do certain things up until my stepdad came into my life. So whenever it came to an age for me to, like, mow the lawn or, like, you know, go outside to play with friends, I wasn't looking for guy friends. I was new to everything. I mean, trying to mow the lawn or something. I was like, what the fuck is this? You know, like, what am I doing? I don't know what the fuck I'm doing. I did have a stepdad who did help me a lot, you know, into, like, teaching me to play football and soccer and, you know, do manly things. The person I am today, I think, is because I had a little bit of both. I did have. Have my mom. I feel like my mom was, like, more making me more girly, you know, and my stepdad made me into, like, be a little bit more masculine. Like, oh, you can't be such a. I mean, I will say, yeah, I'm gay and stuff, but I don't think I'm that gay. That's a little controversial, but, I mean, I don't think I'm that feminine is what I'm trying to say. I still do, like, a lot of manly things thanks to, like, my stepdad, but my mom definitely made me a little bit more feminine.

[Alan]

Did you ever have moments on the tele Rebeld to stepdad 1,000%.

[Andy]

I mean, and I will say, because of how feminine my environment was, I wasn't used to doing anything manly. So when it came down to doing manly things, I wouldn't want to do it. So when it came down to, like mowing the lawn or like, you know, just doing manly things, I would complain. I would complain and I'd be like, ah, like, I don't want to do this. And then I would bump heads with my stepdad. And then, you know, my mom would come in and be like, why are you making him do something he doesn't want to do? And he would tell my mom, well, I mean, he has to do, you know, manly things. But he didn't know how I felt, sexuality wise, you know, So I didn't want to grow up and be a man because of, you know, how I was what you were dealing with internally.

[Alan]

Yeah, exactly.

[Andy]

So I did bump heads with my stepdad a lot. And it would cause a lot of family drama. I mean, I would be the reason for a lot of family drama. Like I said, I'm the only boy, so I was like the mini king of the house. Like, I always got what I wanted. Everything was like, if I wanted it, I'm very spoiled. He doesn't want to do something, don't fucking make him do it. And then it would turn into, oh, well, what the fuck this that, you

[Alan]

know, and where your sisters get mad at that? Because, like,

[Andy]

yes, my oldest sister had a very bad relationship with my stepdad. Her and him have had like, their personal moments of bumping heads. But I was probably like. I mean, no, I'm not probably. I was, I was the reason. I was like, am I the drama? No, I was the reason that they would bump heads so much. And like today they have a good bond, you know, they're. They're good now, you know, because we're all adults now. So I was definitely.

[Alan]

Sisters kind of tell you shit off for. Because you were always like, your mom's favorite.

[Andy]

No, my sisters would always be on my side, you know, all the time. I mean, there would be some scenarios where like, okay, come on, you gotta, like, do better, you know, do something. Someone else who's like, wrote for me, like, really hard was my oldest. And I don't, I don't know if I should say her name. Shout out to Bridget, I know you're watching this because she's always proud of everything that I accomplished. She's someone who has rode for me like, a lot too. So I think me not wanting to do things and then me being a crybaby and going to her, like, bro, like, I feel like I'M being picked on and she would, you know, she would defend me. So she would, like, bump heads with my stepdad and it would turn into, like, just family chaos, you know?

[Alan]

Rey LESANDO ALTEMA de to biological dad. You know, now that you're an adult, has he tried reaching out? If not, if he were to reach out to you, how do you feel like, you know, you would take him reaching out?

[Andy]

I think I've grieved someone who's still alive already. I think if my biological father reached out to me today, I wouldn't be so mad at him. Because I think later on in life I've learned to be forgiving, to be kind. It's like, if I seen him, I don't have hate in my heart for you. Like, you were absent, you know, you did what you did. There's nothing I can do. I wouldn't be mad at you. I mean, I would love to catch up with him, but I think the last time I asked about him, he was in the hospital. And, I mean, he may be dead. I don't even know. Or he might be really sick or really old. I don't even know. I wouldn't be mad at him if he contacted me. I mean, I'd love to, like, catch up with him, but honestly, I wouldn't be interested in talking to a stranger. Who are you? I don't know who you are.

[Alan]

What piece of advice can you give anyone watching that is currently or has struggled with, like, the absence of a

[Andy]

parent from experience growing up, filling that hole with love. I mean, I had my mom to do that for me, so I didn't really need to seek closure from him or anything like that. But I will say I think it gets a lot. I think. I do think everything happens for a reason. So if your dad or your mom are absent, I hope you find the love that you deserve. I. I can't recall what I've done to feel that, you know, I mean, I. I can just think of my mom, really. I know it's hard. It's really hard. I mean, if you've grieved someone who's still alive, it's very difficult. But I will say it does get better. And stop trying to seek or wait for, you know, a message or a call from them or, like, you. You don't need that. I think it's like. Like if they don't want you, then, you know, find something that does, or find something that will. Will fill that. That hole of emptiness for you.

[Alan]

When you were very young, What happened Immediately after the first time, were you shocked, scared, confused? Did you understand what was happening at that time?

[Andy]

I've had a lot of people ask me, he, do you think you were born gay, or did something happen to you for you to be introduced to something, you know, like that. Like your sexuality so early in life? And this is a very sensitive topic, a very sensitive story for me. I think I've told, like, a couple. Like, a couple. Like, literally. You might be, like, the fifth person I've ever told this. I remember when I was very, very young. I just remember being very little. One of my sister's boyfriends at the time, he was babysitting me and my sister. I remember on this particular day, my sister wasn't home, and he was taking care of us, and we were watching a movie. He told me to come sit next to him, and I was like, okay. So when I did, I was so little. And when I did, he pulled out his penis. And I remember he made me grab it. I didn't know what was going on. I was confused. I was like, why am I doing. I was. I was little. I didn't know anything. You know, I remember being very curious about what he was doing. I was like, what am I looking at? What am I doing? And I remember him looking at me after he made me, you know, grab him. And he looked at me like. Like. Like if it was my fault. He made me feel like I came onto him or something. Like, he. You know. I remember, like. Like wanting to know more about that. I was like, what the fuck was that? I remember not telling nobody. I didn't tell anybody, obviously, like, what am I gonna tell? I don't know. I didn't. I didn't know nothing.

[Alan]

So I didn't even know how to explain it.

[Andy]

Like, what did I grab? I don't know, like, you know, a couple years later. I've always had that story in my head because of when I grew up after, you know, elementary into middle school. It's like, oh, you know, I am gay. And it's like, why am I gay? Well, because I've had, you know, an experience that was very traumatic at a very young age. So I remember this one day, my sister took me shopping for school because I was going back to school in middle school. And I was like, you know what? Like, I wonder if my sister has any questions of, are you gay? You know, I remember we were eating at Panda Express. I remember, like, telling her, like, hey, like, I've never told you this, but, like, one of your ex Boyfriends. Like I had this experience with him and I remember her being so hurt and like her being like why didn't you ever tell me that? Like And I was like I didn't know anything. I didn't know nothing about what was going on or like what I was doing or you know, later on in life when I, when it did come to my head, like oh okay, that's what happened, you know. I remember like thinking to myself like damn, it's so fucked up. How he would try to make me like feel like it was my fault. And I remember telling her everything and it made her very upset. Not at me, but at him. And it, it made her angry and it made her like feel so many emotions that I mean of course, you know, my, my mom didn't even know. I didn't tell my mom till years, years later. After that I didn't tell nobody because

[Alan]

was it just that one time or like did it escalate?

[Andy]

Well, it was just that one time. It wasn't like something that was continuous, thank God. Cuz I feel like that would have traumatized me even more, you know, or made me into a different person. Being introduced to that very early in life was life changing. Very, very life. Definitely life changing. Look who I am today, you know, sexuality wise.

[Alan]

Did you guys confront him?

[Andy]

I never confronted him. I never told him anything. A couple later after that experience at a young age, I do remember seeing him at like Chuck E. Cheese. I don't know what he's doing today. I don't know where he's at. I don't, I don't want to talk to him or bash him or anything. I don't, I wouldn't, want, I don't want that. I would want to be away from that. But I just remember that had a lot to do with me becoming who I am today.

[Alan]

Was he so much older than you at the time?

[Andy]

I think he was senior in, in high school when I was. Yeah. Cuz he was in the same class.

[Alan]

You were what like maybe like first, second grade?

[Andy]

I was little, I don't remember. I think it was like first grade. Yeah. But he definitely knew what he was doing and that was, was very crazy for me. I didn't tell my mom about this experience until actually a couple years ago. My mom, same way, she was so hurt. I remember my mom telling me like I would have killed him if I would have known about that. And I remember telling her like mom, I'm so sorry. It just made me so uneasy. It made me like I Don't want to think about that. Like, I don't want to go and go down that lane. Like, okay, this is what happened, you know, and relive it. I don't. It made me disgusted with myself. Like, it made me feel like ill. Like, you're discussing for, like, especially because

[Alan]

he was making you feel like it's your fault. Like, you came on to me. You sat down next to me with the grabbing. Even though he initiated, you know, obviously, obviously. Prior to telling your parents about what had happened or your sister, How do you feel like carrying that secret affected you mentally or emotionally? Do you feel like it was something that you would constantly replay, like, where you were? Like, oh, my God, Like, I think I should tell my family about what happened, but then I'm scared. What if they don't believe me? What if, like, they give him the right of reason, whatever it is. Like, was that something que could I remember?

[Andy]

Trying my best to forget about it? I wouldn't want to remember. I would, I wouldn't want to bring it up or talk about it. So keeping it a secret, I don't think it did much to me because in the back of my mind, I just, I pushed it back, like, okay, there's no need to relive that, rethink about it. So I don't want to prioritize it. I mean, you know, I, I, I just wanted to forget about it. I didn't try to let it, like, get to me so much. I, I literally would put it in the back of my head, like, okay, that happened. To this day, I forget about it, you know, with everything that I do and my everyday life, like, I, I don't remember. It's not something I think about every single day. But it wasn't really hard for me to, like, oh, my gosh, I have to tell somebody, or I have this on my chest. I have to get it off because I didn't want to relive that. So I just pushed it in the back of my head and I would keep it pushing. Literally just live my everyday life. It definitely made me skip a big part in, you know, life. I feel like it made me a little bit lustful, actually. Like, I mean, I think a lot of people are lustful, you know, like, what is lustful? Exactly, Exactly. But I do think seeing that at a very early age or experiencing that at an early age, it made me experience lust very early in life. I feel like he took something away from me that I didn't get to experience. I mean, it's Not. Not. Maybe not something that, you know, everybody wants to experience, but life is life. And, you know, when the time is right, you know, to, like, lose your virginity or, you know, do something sexual with someone, like, that was something that was like, oh, like, I already know about the. That because of that experience. Yeah.

[Alan]

How did opening up about what had happened to your mom and to your sister, how do you feel like that helped you heal? Do you feel like it felt like a weight lifted from your shoulders where you're like, you know what? Like, I'm glad I was able to share. And how did their reaction also help with, like, the coping and the healing from that experience?

[Andy]

I know they definitely had some questions of, you know, why I would, you know, wear makeup or why I was so girly. And I know they probably were like, why is he like this? Like, did something happen to him? You know? So I. I do think that me opening up to my mom and my sister about it and my other siblings, I. I think it did, like, like, answer some of their questions, like, oh, so, you know, that's what happened. That's why he's the way he is today. And it did make me feel like, h. Like, okay, I finally let that out. We're not nudes. Why I am the way I am today. Because now you guys know. Know what I've been through behind closed doors. I don't have to explain myself to you anymore, because now, you know, like, this is the reason I've had a lot of friends ask me that too. You know, like, oh, were you. Were you born gay? You know, and I wouldn't really answer it. I remember, actually, I would say to a couple friends, like, I definitely think, like, it's something that has happened, you know, at a young age. So I'm glad that I've let this out, and today, I'm glad I let it out today. To everyone watching this who does support me now, everyone knows that. That, you know, that happened. That was the reason.

[Alan]

You know, what piece of advice can you give anyone watching that has gone through a similar traumatic experience and are scared to, you know, speak up or that are scared or that are trying to heal from that traumatic experience?

[Andy]

I think you should say something. I mean, it's not healthy to keep it gobbled up in your head. I mean, that with you, it really does. So tell your parents, or if you don't have a parent, tell a loved one or someone who supports you, because something like that is very serious. Like, it's not okay. If you see something, say something.

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[Andy]

brains around me, bro. Oh my gosh. Middle school was, was so crazy. I. I think middle school was so fucking fun. I was, I wasn't. I was a bad kid in middle school. Oh my gosh. I remember in middle school I had a guy best friend named Jose. Jose, if you're watching this because I follow him on Instagram. If you're watching this, like, I'm so sorry, but I had the fattest crush on Jose in like 8th grade and I was like, what the fuck? Like I'm gay. I remember knowing like, oh bitch, you're gay. In the sixth grade when I had all these fucking homegirls and I would see all these guys, like, oh, like, you know, like, I have a crush on her. I have a crush on her. I don'. Like, hold on. Like, y' all are not me. Like, y' all guys are not me. Like, hold on. Being popular in middle school made me realize how many girls were around me. Like, I had so many girls around me, and I was just like, hold on. Like, this is cool. And I'm just like, bro. Like, I think I'm gay. Like, I think I'm gay. Like, I actually. I, you know, seen some guys. I was, oh, like, he's cute. But, like, I remember having a girlfriend in elementary and middle school, too. Obviously, nothing crazy, you know, it was just like a little crush. Like a little, Little girlfriend I had only at school, right? And I remember feeling masculine with the girl. I remember her name was Daisy A. I'm like, hey, girl. The girlfriend I had in middle school was obsessed with me. Like, obsessed isn't even the word. I remember she would ball over me, and I'm just like, like, I wasn't early in middle school. I'm like, bro, I didn't even like you. Like, I like him. I think that's so funny. I had so many gratitude at me. I'll be a little ho. No, just playing. Going into high school, though, I remember my sexuality getting serious. Like, you know, like, you know, there's guys like that you see that you actually find very attractive. And then, you know, going into high school, I played a little bit more with my sexuality. I think, like, I got more into, like, you know, wanting to do makeup and stuff. Like, oh, I see girls wearing makeup. They're so cute and makeup. Like, you know, obviously, a lot of girls. I mean, back in my day, like, back in, like, 2014, 2015, in middle school, you know, a lot of girls didn't wear makeup. So when I seen makeup in high school, I was like, you know what? I kind of want to try that, you know? Like, I mean, yeah, I'm gay, but, like, I was a groupie in high school. I was a nobody. I was like, you know what? Like, let me go on the trend, you know, Let me. Let me follow everybody. Like, let me see what's up with makeup. I did have an era. I would use my mom's makeup, and I'd be like, oh, like, let me play with this and, you know, do this. I tried so hard to like it. Like, I remember, like, oh, like, you know, everybody likes this. You know, typical. Like, high, like, freshman high school, like, kind of, you know, like, student experimentation. Like, I remember, like, you know, like, you gotta like this.

[Alan]

Like, everybody likes.

[Andy]

So know you going to go to school, everyone's going to like you. The boys are going to like you. Like, please.

[Alan]

Like, all ugly.

[Andy]

Like, bro Queen. You're like, what the. That was horrible. Like, I did not know what the. I was.

[Alan]

They're all giving you the makeup wipes. Like, take it off.

[Andy]

Ah. Like, here, babe. And they're all pretty.

[Alan]

Like, I feel like that's so real, though, because when I started doing makeup. And people would talk shit and I would think they were haters, but now when I look back at the pictures, I'm like, oh, shit, I did look crazy.

[Andy]

Like, fuck. Wait, we did look. I was. Oh, my. I was like, oh, my gosh. Let me take this shit off. I remember, like, it got to a point. Oh, my gosh. Actually, before I say this, I remember wanting to come out to my mom. I'm like, bro, like, how am I going to hide? Wanting to, like, wear makeup and, like, you know, be all gay and be a little bit feminine and how the fuck am I going to do this and hide it? Like, I don't want to fucking do that. I was like, you know what, Emma? I was like, I need to say something.

[Alan]

Were you scared, though, before telling her?

[Andy]

I think deep down, if you know your game, of course it's scary. Like, okay, you know the most important people in your life. Like, bitch, I gotta tell you.

[Alan]

Yeah.

[Andy]

Especially someone who's taking care of you. Like, my mom. I'm like, like, I gotta say something. It was this one day. I was very sensitive and I was very emotional. And I remember telling her, like, like, mom, I have to tell you something. And she's like, what? What? And I'm like, I don't know. Like, I'm scared to tell you. She's like, okay, you're scaring me. Like, like, what? Like, did something happen? Like, you know. And I was like, mom, I think I'm gay. And I remember her, like, she panicked a little bit. And she was like, you. I think Christian moms, you know, what's up? Like, I think in the beginning, the very beginning, when I first told her that day, she was very like, no, like, you can't be gay. Like, you know, God gave you a dick and bar.

[Alan]

Like, you gotta be a man.

[Andy]

You know? And I was just like, oh, my gosh. Like, what the. Mom, like, all train. I'm like, what's up? Come on.

[Alan]

Were you, like, not expecting that response?

[Andy]

I think I was because of how she Was at the time, I was that environment. I wasn't so little anymore. I, I think in that environment, we were struggling, oh, my gosh, so much. I think she was like, you're gay. Like, this is the last thing we need.

[Alan]

Like, we need some money.

[Andy]

Yeah. We need a construction work. We need a man. No, but she's like, here's my makeup. Like, I gotta go get more makeup now. That's why she was all mad when I came out to, to her. She was very upset for, like, I promised you, like, three minutes. She was upset. Like, I said, she's very loving. My mom is, like, very forgiving, very loving. So I think she literally came to her senses and was like, you know what? No, I, I, I love you, mijo. Like, no, it's okay. Whatever you want to. And she comforted me and told me, like, it's okay. Like, you know, like, whatever you want to be, I'm here for you. Like, she was like, like I said, my mom is literally my hero. She's just maybe shocking. No, literally, like, I can't. She was like, wait, fuck this, dude. Just sound like, I. Like, you can't kick him out. Imagine she's, like, thinking about, like, oh, okay, what are we gonna do with him?

[Alan]

Were you scared of that?

[Andy]

Like, because it happens a lot. A thousand percent, bitch. I was. I was scared of, like, what her decisions were gonna be. Like, I don't know if she did want to kick me out or, like, you know, but after her becoming so caring about it. Like, I remember the next day, I was like, I'm gonna wear makeup to school. And she was like, okay. Like, that's okay. She was like, go ahead. Whatever you want. I'm here for you. I'm. I'm gonna support you, bitch. I remember, like, going to school in makeup. And I was like, okay, this shit is fucking lame. I'm like, bitch, what the fuck am I doing? I remember going back home like, mom, I'm not gay no more. No, bitch. I literally was like, oh, hey, mom, yes, I'm gay. But I think she was a little bit worried about how feminine I was, bitch. Like, I think she was like, fuck. Like, my makeup. No, I'm just kidding. No, I really think she was like, damn. Like, I don't want you to wear makeup. And honestly, after wearing makeup, bitch. I remember like, okay, you don't need makeup. Like, I remember going home like, okay, mom, let me backtrack a little bit. I'm not that gay. Literally was like, have you been seeing

[Alan]

people online wearing Makeup that maybe you

[Andy]

were like, yeah, I will say Daisy Marquez. Yeah, bro. Daisy. Yeah. I used to always watch her, literally, during lunch. I would just sit there, like, with a colorful look. I was all loser just by myself. Like, oh, my God. It's like, oh, cool. Oh, it's so cool how I've met her, too. I think that's really cool. I literally remember, like, going back home and, like, literally, Mom. Like, I don't even like the makeup. Like, I'm sorry. Like, all, like, all this for what? Like, making her upset. Like, I was like, you know what? Like, I'm not that gay. I'm like, yeah, I'm gay. But, I mean, I know it's a little controversial when I say that, but I don't need makeup. I was like, that's, like, a thing.

[Alan]

I feel like my mom, when I first came out, because when I came out, my mom caught me. I was stealing at Target Makeup. Yeah. And I got caught stealing. And, you know, she was like, who the is all this for? Like, I would put, like, a chair on the door so, like, she wouldn't be able to open it or if she was gonna come in, Like, I would get, like, that aggressive, like, pushing. And I think, you know what it was?

[Andy]

I feel like, for a parent.

[Alan]

No, literally, I feel like for parents, it's very, like, confusing because there was a time where my mom was like, okay, like, you just came out that you're gay. You're wearing makeup. Like, do you want to be a girl? And I'm like, no, I just like doing the makeup.

[Andy]

When I realized, like, okay, I don't need makeup, I thought it was. It was so much more easier for me. Like, I felt more comfortable with life, period, now that I didn't have, like, oh, my gosh, you're gay. Nobody knows. Like, I don't give a fuck. Who cares? Like, my mom is someone. Like, I was like, you know what? Like, I think she deserves to know, obviously. So I think, like, her after me telling her, I was like, oh, bitch. I feel so relieved. Like, like, now my mom knows what I like, and I don't give a fuck what anybody else says. Like, if she accepts me, especially after, like, putting on makeup and say, okay, it's not that serious, Mom. Like, she sees it. Okay, you know what? Like, you're gay, but you're not that gay. Like, I'll fuck with this. You know? Like, I'll stick with this. Like, I think my mom was, like, a little bit relieved, too. Like, like, okay, you're not that Gay, you're fine.

[Alan]

Did you have people in your life, friends or family, that maybe didn't support it or would bully you about it?

[Andy]

I'm not gonna lie. No, I've really. No. Never. Never. At first, I will say my stepdad is the only man in my life who I actually care about. Cause I call him Pops. You know, he raised me. You know, I have never told him, like, I'm gay. Those words have never came out of my mouth to him. I'm pretty sure he's suspected, though. Like, you know, like, I think he does. And I'm not gonna lie. I think I asked my mom once and she was. And she was like, yeah, you know, I think he suspects. Whatever. Who cares? Like, I don't give. And I'm like, you know what? You're right. I pay my bills. My bills are great. Like, that's all that matters.

[Alan]

I really do feel like it's like, one of those things, like, straight people

[Andy]

don't gotta come out.

[Alan]

Why do gay people gotta come out?

[Andy]

That's true. I have never had a person like, bro, why the fuck are you gay? Like, bitch. I have never had a friend tell me that. And honestly, if a friend were to tell me that, it's like, well, today I be like. Like, who gives a fuck? Like, who literally, who cares? Like, my body, my life, my choice. Like, I don't. I don't fucking care what you think, you know?

[Alan]

Piece of advice can you give anyone watching that is currently, like, struggling with coming out, which that are currently, like, scared to, like, open up to a parent, to a friend about their sexuality because of how they're going to react? What piece of advice would you give?

[Andy]

Oh, my gosh, I don't know. Because, fuck. Like, I've always kept it, like, a secret within me. Like, that is something that I always kept to myself. So, fuck, I don't know. I will say, like, you know who your girlies are. If you're gay, you know you're gay and you're really close with that one homegirl. Bro, tell that. Like, she gonna support you. I promise you. Like, she'll support you. Maybe not to your mom, because she might get all mad at you for using her makeup like mine. I would come out to, like, a very close friend. Right? I do. You agree? Like, I think coming up to a close friend is like, hell, yeah. Like, someone who can hold my mom. You came up to your friend?

[Alan]

Yeah.

[Andy]

Like, yeah, I think it's like, have someone that you.

[Alan]

You can trust.

[Andy]

Exactly.

[Alan]

And then from there, you Kind of build up because I really do feel like my piece of advice, like what we were saying, come out to a friend, someone that you know isn't going to judge you and you know that they're. They love you and they all kind of like suspect it. Because when my homegirl told me, like, hey, you're gay.

[Andy]

Huh?

[Alan]

Like, I swear, I swear to God, we were at the riverbed, like, we're just like sitting down there and she was like, hey, you're gay. Huh? And I was like, like, that was like. So, like, now I want you. Please, I'm no bro, I'm g. Try to get out. No, but I, I really do think, like, come out you guys, because I know it can be hard sometimes.

[Andy]

It's really hard.

[Alan]

It's really hard. But I really do feel like once you really like, and you really, like, tell the world or people around you, like, you know what, I'm gay. Life just gets easier. Or if it gets harder, you guys, it's gonna happen eventually.

[Andy]

So it's like, get out the way. Start your journey, you know, because as a gay boy, you're going to have to experience that as the gay boy coming out. Get it out the way, you know. But I will say, like, be proud of who you are. Embrace who the fuck you are. Like, who gives? I mean, it might be hard for some people, I will say that. But be proud of who you are. Embrace that and have confidence. Be confident of who you are. That's very important, that you don't let no one take your shine from you. Fuck that. Find yourself. You know yourself. Find that. Let that out. Let everybody know. Like, who gives a whole. Really gives a fuck. Like, be you.

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[Alan]

Before we get into, you know, her passing away, quiero platicaro un poquito mas de la relacion que tenas con to hermana. You know, what are memories you remember about her the most? What type of person was she?

[Andy]

Okay, this is very, very sensitive for me. And I might cry. I must say that right now. No, for a lot of people who wonder this too, because, bitch, every time I go live or like, you know, there's her memorial in my house in the background. They're like, who's that? Who is she? And I'll be like, oh, that's my sister. And it's like, I mean, I think a lot of my followers know, like, who my sister was and what happened to her. I have a sister named Giselle who, I mean, blood, like, that was obviously my fucking. We grew up together. We had an amazing childhood. I never bumped heads with her as a kid. Me and her were playful as fuck. She was fucking hilarious. My sister was so fucking funny. We had the most amazing childhood that I could remember. Countless memories. Like words can't even explain how fucking amazing mine and her life was growing up. Actually, yesterday marked two years and 10 months that my sister passed away. So my sister Giselle, before I get into what happened growing up into teenagers and young adults, we bumped heads a lot. I mean, I think a lot of siblings bump heads. If you have a brother, if you have a sister, you're gonna bump heads with them, obviously, bitch. Like, but I remember it would get very toxic and like, you know, growing up into being young adults, mine and her fights would get very serious. You know, a lot of alcohol would be involved, you know, and I do blame my dad for that a thousand percent, because, you know, a father figure is very important. I think my dad not being in the picture for both of us made me and her bump heads a lot. And growing up into being young adults, she would, you know, wander off into, like, doing her own thing, obviously. And I think at a point in life, she got very stuck on, you know, what am I going to do with life? Or, you know, what am I going to do when I grow up? I, like, she was very confused and very lost me doing what I wanted to do, which was like, you know, my own job, making my own money. And then, you know, growing into doing social media, I took our fights. I took that to be like, whatever, I'm do me. Like, you know, like, yeah, other things. I'm like, yeah, you're my sister. Like, duh, I love you. Duh, obviously I love you, but I'm going to go do what I want to do. You know, I would take. Take our fights, like, a little personal. Like, bro, whatever. Like, it was like, it was kind of, like, credit with her. Like, you know, we would get in a fight and be like, okay, whatever. Like, you're giving me another reason to not want to talk to you. You know, a couple years ago, I moved into a new house, and she did, and she came with us as well. But it was one less room, you know, because she was growing into being, you know, at the age of, you know, getting her own stuff. My mom always prioritized her always, like, oh, my God, this is my daughter. Like, of course I'm gonna be here for her. Us going into that new era of life, her not having her own room made her feel a little excluded from the family. And then on top of that, me and her always fighting would make me like, you're my sister. Like, I. Of course I love you, but, like, whatever, go do your own thing. Like, handle your business. I'm a.

[Alan]

Like, I don't got to with you. Yeah.

[Andy]

Like, you're always going to be my sister. A week before she passed away, I was like, oh, my gosh, I'm going to Miami. I'm super excited. Whatever. And I remember being in such a, like, very happy place in my life. I was like, you know what? Like, I'm traveling finally for the first time for someone who literally comes from nothing. Like, I'm excited to, like, you know, explore the world and stuff. So I don't know if maybe she's seen that. And, like, damn. Like, you know, my Little brother is surpassing me in life. You know, he's doing things that I could have or should have been doing. And this one day, I was in bed. I want to say this. This is one of the craziest stories that I've ever experienced in my life. This is, like, something I will remember till the day I die. I remember literally laying in bed and going down my for you page page, and, like, seeing videos. What happens when you die? It was videos of, like, this is what happens when you die. And I remember being so hooked on that video. I'm like, why the am I watching this? And I remember just, like, skipping and then another video about, this is what happens, like, when people pass away. I remember in the moment, I was like, what the? Like, this isn't my for you page. I watch funny stuff. Like, I was like, what is this? Like, okay. The car that my deceased sister was driving at the time time was under my mom's name. I think it was my little sister who came in my room and was like, I just got an emergency call that mom's in the hospital. I literally get up. I'm like, what? And then she's like, yeah, but mom's in the living room. And I was like, what the. So I'm like, oh. Like, I don't know. Whatever. Like, I get back to bed. I'm like, I'm watching Tik Toks again, right? My mom comes in my room, and my mom was like, we have to go to the hospital. Like, I got a message saying that I'm in a critical condition right now. Right now, but I'm right here, so obviously it's just out because, you know, the car's under her name. And I'm like, oh. She was like, do you want to. She was like, are you gonna go with me or not? And I was like, no. Like, you can just text me, like, because, you know, like, we were always bumping heads. I was like, whenever you didn't think

[Alan]

it was gonna be that serious, I

[Andy]

was like, she's fine. Like, it's okay. My little sister was like, you should come with us. I'm like, okay, whatever. So I get in the car. My mom was just praying, like, so bad, and I was like, okay, wait, maybe I should take this more serious. And I was like, being, like, so brushing it off, you know? Like, I didn't care. Care. And I was like, damn. Like, what the. So I remember, like, just waiting on my phone, just chilling on the way to the hospital, and I look up at the moon and the Moon is red. It's red. As they announce stuff like that on the news, they tell like, oh, make sure to be outside for the. You know, the moon, it's going to be red. And it was red. As they hadn't announced, bro, no, nothing. And I was like, what the hell? And after that, I had a really bad feeling, and I was like, okay, wait. Like, I'm getting kind of scared. What's going on? You know? Because what are all these signs that I'm seeing? And I'm like, okay. Like, I'm getting kind of paranoid. So we get to the hospital, and they were like, okay, one person can come up right now. And I'm like, okay. So we're in the waiting room. I'm waiting again for, like, another hour. And then a person comes down, and they're like, okay, all of y' all can come up. And I'm like, what the fuck? So we go up, and I just see my mom, like, rocking back and forth. I'm so sorry. I'm gonna.

[Alan]

You're good.

[Andy]

And she was rocking back and forth. Like, I've never seen her, like, so isolated. Like. And I sat there like, oh, my gosh. Like, what the fuck is going on? And my mom didn't say nothing to me. Like, I didn't even ask her what was going on. She looked down and she was just sobbing, like, crying her fucking eyes out. And I was like, what the hell? So the doctor had called me to go back there, and it was like, a separate department of the hospital. Hospital. And I went. I went back there, and I just seen her, like, on. On her deathbed, and her face was swollen. Her face was, like, so up. And I remember just, like, looking down, and I was like, what am I, like, walking? And I'm like, what am I about to expect? What am I about to look at? What am I about to see? And I looked up at her, and I was like. I just remember, like, gasping, like, so hard, and I was like. And I just remember close. Like, I closed my eyes and I just seen her face.

[Alan]

Face.

[Andy]

Her face was so swollen. And I feel like it was so bad seeing, like, my sister like that because, like, especially because of how, like. Like, before, like, I was like, yeah. Disregarding it, you know? And did you recognize her, like, or.

[Alan]

She was.

[Andy]

Her fees was doubled. It was like. Like, it was. It was. It's so hard to even remember it, bitch. Like. Like, this part of her face was, like, like, so huge. And I just remember, like, being so in shock. Like, I. Like, I I was like, what the fuck? I didn't know what to say. I didn't know what to think. I was like, what the fuck am I looking at? And I was like, oh, my gosh. Like, I felt bad.

[Alan]

Yeah.

[Andy]

I was like, oh, my gosh. Like, I was like, bro, that's my sister. Like. And then my other two siblings came in, and they were just crying, crying. And they were just. They were devastated about what they were looking at. And I was in my head about, like, what the am I. What am I seeing right now?

[Alan]

Like, you like, is this real?

[Andy]

I literally. I didn't know what to think. I was in shock. And I remember the doctor, like, pulling us into, like, a room. I'm just sitting there, and I'm literally in shock, and I'm just like, what the. Like, And I looked at my sisters, and they're just crying. They're fucking crying. And the doctor said, okay, I need you guys to listen up. Obviously, you guys know your sister was in a car accident, and she's in critical condition. And my mom was in there, too, like, sobbing her ass off. And the doctor was just like, look, like, it'll be a miracle if she makes it, but we can keep pumping medicine into her and keeping her. You know, there was a machine, like, in her. She was basically. She was on life support. They were, oh, we can keep pumping medicine into her up until, like, her body gives out, her heart gives out, but it's gonna be a miracle if she makes it. And I sat there, and I was just like, what the fuck? We went back over there, and we were just all by her, just holding her. And my mom was like, no, keep giving her medicine. She can't die. And I felt so bad. I was like, mom, I don't want to see her like this. And I remember telling my mom, like, and if she does make it, then what? Like, she's gonna suffer for the rest of her life. And the doctor was just like, okay, like, you need to make a decision. And I was like, I don't want to decide. Like, I don't want to. I don't want her to die. Like, that's my sister, you know?

[Alan]

So sorry.

[Andy]

No, it's okay. And I just remember holding her, like, by her foot. And her. Her pelvis was broken. Her legs were broken. Like, her. Her brain was fucked up. And I was just like, I'm sorry. Like, I have. Like, I can't talk to you no more from here. I was like, if you can hear me, I'm sorry. Like, so sorry. Like, And I just. Just everything, like. Like me sitting outside with her when we were little, like, playing with the water hose, like, going to school, like, all of that just played in my head and I was just like, like, what the fuck, bro? Like, and I was there for hours and I was so tired and I was like, I'm gonna go home. Like, I'll come back. Because my little sister was. My little sister was tired too. She kept falling asleep. So we had went home and I couldn't rest and my sister was like, I'm so hungry. We ordered food and we didn't even eat because we didn't have an appetite. We were like sick to our fucking stomach. And then I just got a message from my older sister and all she said was, she didn't make it.

[Alan]

How did you feel in that moment?

[Andy]

I was just stuck. And I looked outside and it was raining so hard. I felt like I was in a movie. I went outside and it was pouring. It was pouring so hard. The sky was just fine. And I. I've never seen it pour and rain. My house was dark. No one was home. My sister was asleep. I was lost. Like a part of me left. It was so bad. And I. After that, like, I was never the same. Like, that's my blood, you know. A big part of me was just taken away from me. And her last months of living, I felt like. Like it. It made me like realize like, damn, like you could have been a better brother.

[Alan]

Like, like, do you have of guilt?

[Andy]

Yeah, I. I, like, I felt like. And I was like, damn, like I kind of blamed myself for like a really long time. I was like, damn, like maybe she needed you. And you never like said anything after that. Like her phone was up. Her phone was really messed up. And I remember we got it fixed and we went through her phone and she. She would just say like, I think I'm going to kill myself. We thought to ourselves. Cuz I remember she would ask me like, can I have some money? And I'd be like, okay, fine. Like, I would give her money. She would tell me like, I got to fix the call car. I felt like, damn, like, did I not help her fix the car? Like, did the car crash because could

[Alan]

I have prevented it type thing.

[Andy]

Okay. And then like going through her messages, like, just hurt me seeing her, like, say, like, oh, like I'm gonna kill. I think I'm just kill myself. Like I have. I'm worth nothing. And after that, that made me feel like that, like I felt like her dying. Like, like like, oh my gosh, Ellen, it me up. I mean, obviously guys, but oh my gosh, that shit was so bad.

[Alan]

What was grieving like afterwards? You know, what did the next weeks or months look like for you? Were you constantly crying? What were you doing to feel better about what was going on? What do you think helped you cope with the loss of your sister?

[Andy]

I do want to say, like, thank you to everyone who supported my GoFundMe when I made one for her because we didn't know what we were going to do. And my older sister offered, you know, to like put in a big sum of money. And I was like, no. Like, I'm going to ask social media to help me with this GoFundMe. And my mom didn't want a funeral. She was like, I don't want none of her fake friends. So like. Or I don't want people to like, come up out of nowhere and just people who didn't fuck with her, like, oh, it's like I want to, you know, come to the funeral. So my mom wanted to keep it very exclusive. So what we did was we cremated her and we just basically had like a personal memorial memorial of just me, literally none of my friends. But Melody, like, was there. We just let go balloons and we cremated her and have. We have her in an urn now. We have like a small place of just like, you know, the Crocs she would wear and like all her favorite stuff just sitting there. That fucked my mom up. My. My sister passing away. Oh my gosh. My mom was going through so much emotionally. I. I think her, because she's such a big believer in Christ, she prays every single day. Her faith, faith is humongous. You know, she even questioned like, where did she go? Like she was so lost, like we all were. And I have so much to say. Like, it's words can't even explain, bitch. Like, how close our family got when she, when she left. Like that really put the foot down for all of us. Like, we need to be here for each other. We need to talk to each other. We experienced that as a family. We were devastated. We grieved altogether. We couldn't see a curly headed Latina without crying. Like, it was so weird. I remember the first night after she passed away, I was like, let's go to Wingstop. I'll get all of us some food. Because all of my family came, my family from out of town, like, drove all the way over there and I didn't want to speak to nobody. I just remember wanting to be to myself and, like, calling Melody, like. And that's why I love her, because she was there for me, like, the entire time. If I needed something, she'd be like, I'm here for you. Like, she. She cried with me. Like, she felt like she felt pain. Yes. Like a th percent. I don't know what to feel. I remember waking, like, just waking up after finally being able to sleep and seeing, like, my phone was just blown up by people. Like, I'm so sorry. And I literally felt like I was in a movie. And I'm like, damn. Like. Like, my sister's dead. I'm like, she's gone. And I remember just literally feeling like I was in a movie, Alen. Like, I was, like, reading all these messages and I didn't want to. To, like, answer them. I was just like, whatever. Like, I'll answer them later. I did feel like, the love, but every time I seen my phone, I would just cry. I would look in my room, I would cry. Everything I looked at, I thought about her. Like, my heart was shattered because of, like, you know, my. My. My sister, you know, the first night after, you know, she had passed away, I remember offering my family. I was like, I'll get all of us dinner. Like, let's go to Wingstop. I'll get, like, you know, the cater, whatever.

[Alan]

Yeah.

[Andy]

And I got a whole bunch of us wings. And I remember, like, before I was getting off, there was a girl in the car next to me, and, like, she was like this. I'm. I'm, like, right here, right? And, like, she. It, Like, I was looking at her, and, bro, it looked just like my sister, like, with curly hair. And I looked at my sister, and she was like, what? And then I looked at the girl, she goes, bro, that looks like Giselle. And I was like, I know. And I just thought about, like, all these signs that I don't know, like, if it was God telling me she's always with me or like. Like, you know, I think it's really

[Alan]

hard losing someone, you know, And I feel like, you know, once you lose someone so close to you, I feel like it really does change the person you are moving forward. Do you feel like that loss impacted you in a way where maybe now you see family, friends a different way? Like, you know what? Like, every day can be your last day. Let me go ahead and live life to the fullest. Let me be there for the friends and family that are in my life. Let me maybe not get into too many fights with my family. How do you feel like that loss

[Andy]

impacted you because of how much of a I was to Giselle. It made me realize, like, I am never gonna be mean again. I don't want to be mean anymore. Like, I don't want to actually, like, say something and mean it, like.

[Alan]

Or to hurt.

[Andy]

Yeah. Because we would fight really bad. You know, we would get in physical fights. Like, we would talk so bad about each other, and then we would come together. Like, I'm sorry. And you know, what changed of me? What was like, I was just more kind. I was just like, no. Like, you're talking to your sister when you talk to, you know, someone mean. Like, I don't. Like, no remember how, you know, that might have changed her and impacted her. It made me more kind. I wanted to be more there for people. I wanted to be more aware of, like, people's, like, feelings. Like, you know, if someone is crying for help, it's important to be there for them. Yeah. Especially when they're not crying for help. Like, you know, there's always signs, and it changed me in that way. I will also say that grieving was very, very hard for me. I've always been a party person, so me going, like, out, it wasn't the same. I mean, I like to go out to, like, you know, go drink, just to have a genuine, genuinely have a good time. I know that, like, me going out with friends after my sister passed away, of course they were there for me. Of course everyone was there for me. Like, I'm so sorry, you know, but, like, me drinking wasn't the same. I didn't drink alcohol after to have a good time. It was more so to numb my

[Alan]

pain, like, to cope.

[Andy]

Yes. Like, I was abusing alcohol. I didn't want to feel, like, my pain. Like, after a while, I was just like, no, like, you don't need that. You know, I. I found people who. Who love me. And I'm not going to lie, the Internet is, like, very sweet to me, you know, like. Like today I have that support system. Like, I don't need to abuse all of that, you know, to clear my head. And I'm. I'm so happy that I've healed from a lot of that. However, grieving, if you've grieved over someone, you know, like, it's weird. Grief is so weird. It comes and goes. And I. I mean, I do still cry over my sister to this day, but, like, that era of, like, my sister passing away was. Was horrible and disgusting, and I just don't wish that upon my Worst enemy. Like that feeling of death. And then, you know, what I went through to find myself again.

[Alan]

I think it is very hard, you know, when you're grieving someone you love so much and it really does alter your whole life, you know what I mean? For you, it was your sister, you know, and I can relate in that way too. You know, when I lost my grandpa, you're never the same person again because. But it is very one of those things where, you know, you have to keep going. You know, it's sad, it's the reality. But I'm sure your sister is very, very happy seeing you accomplish everything you've accomplished in the last couple of years. You know, what piece of advice can you give anyone who is currently grieving the loss of someone they lost and feel like it won't get better?

[Andy]

I don't want to say that it does get better because, you know, everyone grieves differently. But I will say ways I have stopped, you know, being so abusive on myself. Playing video games. I love video games now. Like, I love video games, bro. Melody knows I do not. Get off that damn game.

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Game.

[Alan]

What game do you like?

[Andy]

I love Overwatch, bro. Like if, you know, you know. But I play a lot of video games now. I listen to a lot of music. I write music actually that I don't, that I actually want to eventually put out there. But I talk to a lot of my friends, I talk to my family a lot more. I journal, I go on a lot of walks, runs sometimes, like I'm like, like they're not working out, but basically like reconnecting with, with myself. The way that I like though, I mean, you know, if you like to draw, then, you know, draw. But it's important to, you know, be quiet, you know, be to yourself. Like heal, meditate. Like those are, those, those things are very important, you know, find yourself, you know, and it's, it's okay to, to be upset and hurt. Like that's, you know, the point of grieving. But eventually finding yourself is very important.

[Alan]

And like you said, really not staying in that place, you know, because I've mentioned this so many times, I feel like for me, one of the things that helped me was staying busy, doing things that I know fulfilled me, doing things that I knew my grandpa would be really happy of me doing. You know what I mean? Cuz I really did document like how much my grandpa's death affected me. And I feel like a lot of people were like, alan, slow down. You got to feel what you got to feel. You Got to cry it out. And I feel like for me, the way Allen I function is like, I don't know, it's. It's. It's bad to say. And maybe this is like. Like you said, everyone grieves differently, but for me, the first, you know, obviously I cried a lot of days, but, like, I really didn't allow myself to stay in that hole because to me, I was like, you know what? I know I'm hurting. I know I'm grieving, but I know my grandpa up there would not have liked to see me this way. You know, my grandpa would have liked me to keep it going, to keep, you know, going for my dreams. And if you're watching this, you know, it's okay to be sad. It's okay to, you know, be down for a week, You know, and, you know, just remember that. That, you know, the person that is no longer here with you today would love to see you thriving, would love to see you happy. You know, even after so many years, you can still be feeling these feelings and have these thoughts. But. Thank you so much for opening up about, you know, your sister and grief. All over social media. But it wasn't always that way. What in your head was like, you know what. What were the early content creating days like for you?

[Andy]

Oh, my gosh. So I will say I've always loved. I don't want to sound like an attention whore. I've always liked, like, the attention. I remember like, like after high school, even during high school, I was always on Snapchat. I was always posting the dumb. Like, literally what I wanted to post, I would post it, like, the dumbest ever. Like, literally I had a couple viewers back then. Like, I think like 500, 600 viewers was a lot to me. You know, I remember just always propping my phone up and literally speaking my mind. And every time I posted on Snapchat, a lot of people would slide up like, bro, you're funny. And I'm like, I wasn't trying to be funny. Like, I mean, like, it's just me, you know? So I remember, like, after high school, a lot of people told me like, oh my gosh, you should get on Tik Tok. And I was like, like, okay, I've heard of it. But like, I don't. I don't know, because I used to be on musically a lot. You know, I wasn't. I wasn't on Famous back in middle school, but I ended up like, you know what? Like, I'm gonna actually, it. I'm gonna get on TikTok, you know, like, I. I'll make some videos. Like this one day I was in Walmart and I made like a little, like, skit video. I was like, you know what? Like, I told my friend Aaliyah, I was like, I'm gonna bump the card into you, turn around and be like, watch where you're going, badass. And because, like, I thought, like, you know what? That'll make people laugh. And it's a skit. So I was like, fuck it, let's do it. So we did it. And I remember, bitch, that video did some numbers on TikTok. And I'm like, hold on. Like, what the fuck? All these comments, all these likes. Like, this is pretty cool. Like, I kind of like this. So that one video encouraged me to make even more videos. Whether it was a skit, like, get ready with me's weren't really a thing back then. Back in, like, I think 2021, 2022. So, like, when I continue making videos, I strictly just wanted, like, attention. I was like, ah. Like, ah, this is so cool. Right? I feel, like, hot with, yeah, 40,000 followers. And I mean, that is a lot of people, don't get me wrong. But, like, at the time, I literally was, oh, like, like, this is so. Like, do they call me? When those first couple of videos blew up, nobody knew me. You know, it was just more of like, oh, a one hit wonder kind of thing, you know. But eventually I was like, thinking, like, you know what, maybe you should make some skits of like, you know, just. You were like, strictly keeping it, you know, a little bit exclusive of just me, you know, basically wanting to build my profile, you know, So I was like, you know what? Let me, you know, let me get on that. I started creating the most random videos. So mind you, I was not monetized. So that's how, you know, I actually did it.

[Alan]

Yeah.

[Andy]

To, you know, make people laugh. I was like, you know what? It also makes a lot of people laugh and making other people happy, that. That puts a smile on my face. One of my first eras of, like, I guess the rise of fame. I mean, a lot of people would say that is like, when I started doing tell me why I shouldn't throw this drink in your ass face. Have you seen those videos or no? You're like, no, you're nobody ass bitch.

[Alan]

You know which ones I like? When you did the one of.

[Andy]

I've done a. Okay, you've done a lot of videos now. Like, I've had a couple viral moments and it's like thinking back onto like, the beginning, I think it's pretty cool how, like, I didn't think I would like, you know, make like, come come up with like, a lot of these trends. I, you know, we've had like, the tell me why shouldn'torious drinking your ass face. And that was like the very first one that like, got me a lot of recognition, got me to hang out with like, a lot of influencers, you know, I've hung out with. You know, I'm not gonna say their name, but oh, like, I thought, I just thought it was so cool. Like, I've also had a moment of the red bird from Rio.

[Alan]

Yeah, that's what I was really gonna say. The red.

[Andy]

That one was my, my most recent viral moment. That one, like, went fucking crazy. I was like, oh, my God.

[Alan]

You know which one else?

[Andy]

Oh, my God, which one?

[Alan]

The one where you're with like, your titty. The meme. Yes. You know which one I'm talking about. The titty meme.

[Andy]

Like, I'm not going to lie. I still get sent that to this day, bro.

[Alan]

You know, it's so funny. Oh, my God. Tmi, I'm going to expose Danny. Whenever I film with people, like, he's always like, oh, who are you filming with today? Right? And either he'll know them or he's like, oh, oh, yeah, I've seen them, whatever. And I told them about you guys. And I was like, no way. And I was like, yeah. And I was like, he has like a sticker.

[Andy]

Ah, like, yes, a lot of people have stickers. That sticker. Yes, I'mma send it to you. Trust me, I've seen it. You don't got to send it to me. No, but oh my gosh, yes. Melody gets so mad when I. She's, ah, put them titties up and I'm like, okay, I don't do that anymore. But that's meme goes way back. It's like two years old. But it's been resurfacing recently. Actually, I watched a lot of influencers even before I became one. I watched a lot of big ones to this day. I remember following. Obviously I had all these influencers that I loved watching. Been followed them. I've always followed them. I thought it was really cool having my blowing up moment and then seeing these people follow me back and I'm just like, what the fuck? I never would have thought they would ever see my fucking face. So I thought it was really cool that I ended up like, having to meet These people and, like, actually becoming friends with them, you know, and, like, now they don't like me. I just, you know. Yeah, I had my own, like, my experience with, you know, people I used to watch, and, like, we just don't talk.

[Alan]

Have you had a, like, bad experience? You don't have to say names, but, like, have you had a bad experience?

[Andy]

Maybe not.

[Alan]

You're like, you to me.

[Andy]

Maybe not bad, but I've had, like, my own personal opinion. Yeah. Like, I'll put it that way. I'm like, you. You. No. Yeah, but I wouldn't, like, bash anybody, but, like, yeah, like, maybe it's just not the person that I used to watch, you know, I think it was pretty cool, like, coming up and then, you know, actually becoming like, I'm like, fuck it. Let me not try to boost my ego too much, but, like, I mean, I, you know, always, like, seeing my numbers get bigger and bigger. I've never wanted to go down the route of, like, you know, Ashley Trevino, like, being all cocky or, like, just. Just not humble. Like, I, you know, my mom has always told me, too, like, I, you know, was raised, you know, right with her. She's always like, you know, have some respect, you know, so I've always, like, wanted that, like, be humble, you know, be nice. Don't let numbers change you. It doesn't matter how many followers you have or, you know, I think it's important that you always remember where you come from, you know, Like, I was just, you know, a. Nobody has. And I'm like, now I have all these followers and people who support me, and I think that's so cool that, like, I think in my head, like, in Houston, like, I'm. I'm a pretty big influencer, and I think. I think. I think that's really fucking.

[Alan]

And I feel like you should give yourself those flowers because it is a lot of work. Like, you know, even though social media, I feel like a lot of people don't really take it as, like, a real job, there is a lot of effort, time, and dedication that you have to put into it to really make not just a living out of it, but, like, make a career out of it.

[Andy]

That's something I've wanted to. Like, I was like, you know what? Like, I think I can actually do something with this, you know, like a job. Exactly. And now I'm doing it, and. And I'm still doing it, and every day I keep growing, and I think it's amazing. I think it's really cool.

[Alan]

Melody, you know, you guys are the iconic best friend. Was. What was your first impression of her? Like, the Cayobier. Oh, my God. Like, think of your mind.

[Andy]

What was that vibe on, bro? Me and Melody. I. I don't want to say. I know I'm not g. Me and her were so ghetto in high school. Nah. No, I mean, if you were to, like, look back on it, like, we were, like, we were young. We were youngsters. You know when I remember meeting Melody for the first time, like, bro, I remember because she stuck out to me because of how funny she was, bro. Like, we were at some high school party, and, like, we were playing beer pong, right? We were at some random ass party out of nowhere. Like, the guy. Guy that she was playing against, he was like, oh, like, you know, move your cup. And Melody was like, like, bro, she was so funny. She was like. Like, you barely made. Like, no. Like, that doesn't count. And then she was like, fine, whatever. And then, like, I remember he tried to, like, call her out again. Like, oh, no, you got to move that one now. And she was like, you're full of. And, like, went off on him, and I busted out laughing, like, okay, who the is this people? Like, this bitch is hilarious. Like, and then a lot of. You know how I asked for $20 for some gas? I didn't tell her what gas it was, but damn, those $20 went a long way, cuz. Look at us now.

[Alan]

Did you ever, like, because Melody knows before you guys obviously became really close to the fact that she, like, forgot that you owed her money. Like, before paying her back, were you like, my God, I hope this don't remember. Like, I honestly, like, should I pay her back?

[Andy]

I actually have 20 bucks of paying her back. Like, no, but, like, I don't know. I remember just, like, just asking her for those $20, and I was like, is she gonna ask it for me back? Like, am I gonna talk to her tomorrow? Like, is she just gonna be any other, like, girl in this high school? I'm like, no. Like, I'm like, she's the one. Ah, look at us. No, I mean, this friendship is amazing. She's like, literally my sauce. I'm her pepper, bro. Like, literally, that's my. Nah, I wouldn't say sister, babe.

[Alan]

Would you say sister?

[Andy]

Hell no. I'm your best friend.

[Alan]

That's.

[Andy]

That's it.

[Alan]

Now, what's your guys's favorite memory together?

[Andy]

I'm not gonna lie. I think when I first met her, bro, that laugh was, oh, my gosh, so funny. Or like, I don't know. I don't know, bro. Oh, my goodness. Like, can we roll the clip? Ah, no, I have. Oh, my gosh. This one time we were in Miami and. Oh, my gosh, I've never. I've never heard this laugh so hard. Melody was literally, like, laying in bed and she was like. Like, we were in the Airbnb laying in bed. We were. We were just, like, calling people, and she was like, oh, like, okay, be careful. But she meant to say, be safe and be careful at the same time. So she said, be safeful. And she caught herself and she was like, be safeful. And she started cracking. Oh, my gosh. I've never heard her laugh so hard like that.

[Alan]

It wasn't that fun.

[Andy]

I was dying. I was like, like, bro, Melody. Like, bro, I have a clip, baby. Can I put the clip in there?

[Alan]

Send it to us.

[Andy]

Literally. Look, roll the clip of how hard she was laughing. Literally. Top three of my most favorite moments with her,

[Alan]

which I feel like is very normal for friendships. You guys see and you guys have not resolved, aside from the moment she told us, what has been another moment where you're like, like, she tried me. We stopped talking. And how did you guys make up in the beginning?

[Andy]

You know, I will say it was just like, you know, a regular, you know, best friendship, right? But I think because I've known her since, like, high school, since we were youngsters, I've gotten to, like, know, like, so much more of her and, like, I've gotten to know, like, more patience with her because. Especially because we're both very big believers of God. We both believe in the same things. So, of course we've had arguments. I mean, who doesn't have arguments with their parents? Best friend? But me and Melody have had, like, a lot of very big disagreements where, you know, it gets it, you know, sometimes goes very far to where we'll, like, stop talking, you know, like, we'll like, oh, like, I'm never going to talk to this again. We've had several fallouts, I will say that. But every single time we've fallen out, we come together again and we grow even better. And I think the most recent time that we fell out, after that, I want to say it was like, I think two years ago, that was our last fallout. I think after that was like, oh, okay. Like, we've had so many fallouts that, like, you know, it's almost like a building being broken down to become reconstructed. Like, it's like we understand each other to where, like, okay, we don't need to fall out no more. Let's talk about it. Let's communicate. Let's. We don't have to rekindle nothing because we can sit here. Let's talk about it. Let's apologize. And we're, I think, because we're, I mean, we're growing so much together, we have a very healthy friendship and I, I love that for the both of us.

[Alan]

I'm glad that you guys were able to, like, work through that and be like, you know what? At the end of the day, this is my girl and I really want this shit to, to work. We got to talk out like adults and come to an understanding.

[Andy]

She's so smart and educated too. So it's like, she's not, like, she's not childish. She's not going to be petty. She's not going to like, you know, like, oh, you don't want to be friends, okay? And then make. And then give me another reason to like, oh, I'm really not going to talk to you. Like, we're both mature enough to, like, rekindle when we did have those fallouts. And I'm, I'm so, I'm so grateful for her.

[Alan]

I love that. And I love the fact that you guys, you know, are still friends. Uste Liz, Encantas juntos. You know, sociales. What do you feel like are the pros and cons of social media?

[Andy]

I'm like, I love the free shit. No, but I mean, pros of social media is. I think, I love that, like, you have the, the opportunity to put yourself out there, you know, like, social media is very powerful. And I think, like, if you really do want to become somebody and you are given that chance through social media, I think the pros are like having those followers or having, know, that personality to, to put yourself out there. That's. I think it's, it's dope as that. Like, social media is so powerful that, you know, the world gets to see, like, who you truly are, you know, and the cons are like, you know, a lot of people are very judgmental. You know, maybe the hate comments could get to you at first. I've always been like a m. I don't care what no one says. But I have had some moments to where, you know, some comments have gotten to me and it makes me, you know, see myself different. Like, you know, their comments, like, you know, know, hey, just like, like, you know, oh, you're fat or like, you're big. And it's like, I personally don't care. But it's like those comments sometimes get to me, but also back to the pros. You have supporters who are there for you and they remind you that you know them. You don't need to be reminded of negativity. Like, that's, it's not healthy for you. I hate and love social media, but I mean, I think, yeah, the, the route I'm going down is very, it's very good. It's pretty healthy. Yeah, I love it.

[Alan]

Whether that's career wise, personal wise, part

[Andy]

of me wants to start getting off social media. I don't want to leave social media completely. I think in five years, I see myself with not my dream car, but a decent car, a nice house, living comfortably, happily with no negativity. Because I think the negativity that I, I don't deal with much, but the negativity I deal with today, it's like, that is something I am definitely on a route to get the out of my life. I want to be peaceful, at peace, maybe maybe on an island somewhere or back at home with my family and all my cats.

[Alan]

And I'm so excited. I really have enjoyed today's interview. Ahead and follow him. I will leave all his social medias down below as well as on the screen so you guys don't miss any future episodes. And with that being said, thank you guys so much for watching. Thank you so much for being here.

[Andy]

Thank you, Alan. I'm like you, she made me cry. Yes.

[Alan]

I loved it, though. I think you really did get real, which I love it in the sense that people really are getting to, like, really see you for you and being vulnerable and being real. And I feel like that's what I love about the podcast. So thank you.

[Andy]

Thank you so much, Alan. Thank you guys for watching and tuning into this episode and we'll see you

[Alan]

guys in the next one. Bye, guys. Yay.

[Andy]

You did so good. Oh, good.

[Alan]

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[Andy]

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[Alan]

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