Podcast Summary: Benny Soliven Talks All – Noche de Pendejadas with Alannized

Release Date: September 26, 2025
Host: Alannized
Guest: Benny Soliven
Language: Spanglish
Full Episode Title: Benny Soliven Talks All: Arrested at 15, Fatherhood, AlondraDessy, Music, Grief, CHISME & MORE!!

Episode Overview

In this candid and engaging episode of Noche de Pendejadas, host Alannized sits down with creator, musician, and father Benny Soliven for a deep-dive into his upbringing in Stockton, brushes with the law, the reality of influencer life, fatherhood, his relationship with AlondraDessy, tackling grief, his creative journey, and lessons learned along the way. The pair blend nostalgia, humor, and honest chisme in a conversation that touches on family, personal growth, fame, and social responsibility, providing listeners a multi-dimensional portrait of Benny and his story.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Breaking the Ice: Getting Benny on the Show

• Alannized discusses his nerves around inviting straight men, but Benny has "always been chill" (00:56)
• Mutual anticipation for Benny's appearance due to fan demand (01:49)

2. Benny’s Background & Upbringing

• Born and raised in Stockton, CA, to young, separated but present parents (06:18)
• Stockton’s environment: "Drug, gang violence is very present... I was surrounded by it." (06:18)
• Raised primarily by a strict, hard-working mom
• Pressure and normalization of drug use among peers (07:50). Narrates memories of classmates taking pills casually at 15
  • Memorable quote:
    "If that was my son doing the things I was doing back then, I'm whooping his ass." — Benny (07:50)

On Avoiding Negative Influences:

• Benny was "scared of not being in control" and, more importantly, of his mother finding out (09:43)
• Admits to the allure and normalization of risky behaviors, but credits his mom for keeping him out of trouble

3. Arrest Story: Tagging at 15 (10:02)

• Shares in detail the story of his arrest for graffiti at 15:
  • Trying to fit in, family influence, tagging during the day due to strict curfew (10:39)
  • Details the police sting, getting caught, handcuffed, fined ($3–5k), community service, and the impact on his mom (13:32)
• Notable moment:
  "He started driving around as we're in the back of the squad car... Even things I didn’t even do." — Benny (13:21)
• Emotional aftermath: More fear of letting his mom down than cops (14:38)

4. Family Life & Struggles

• Parents had him as teens, raised him while balancing school and work (22:05)
• His mom's sacrifices, including secretly using Benny’s Christmas money to pay rent (24:12)
  • Quote:
    "Turns out, years later, she couldn't pay the rent that month." — Benny (25:02)
• Holiday struggles splitting time between parents, but overall a close and loving family

5. Sibling Relationships & Giving Back

• Step/half-sibling dynamics, close bond with younger sister featured in his early YouTube (27:49)
• Describes emotional moment gifting his sister a car through a brand partnership (Interview about SeaGeek, inspired by David Dobrik) (28:51)

6. School Days & Fighting Stereotypes

• Benny describes his rebellious high school years: skipping class, fights, being jumped "by like three guys" at 15 (32:07)
• Social pressures, dress/fashion tied to local cholo culture, and being checked for "where you from" (33:32)
• Realization that appearance alone could escalate conflict

7. Dropping Out to Pursue YouTube (35:15)

• Started social media at 23/24 after working various jobs (Amazon, Italian restaurant, videography)
• Dropped out pre-nursing program to pursue YouTube; mom was supportive but wanted him to have a Plan B (36:42)
• Discussion of the leap of faith required for social media success and the risks involved

8. Creative Process & YouTube Success

• Benny credits his unique editing style for his viral growth ("I would spend 12 hours at least on vlogs" – 38:55)
• All self-taught via YouTube tutorials
• Struggled delegating editing as his channel grew, feeling fans noticed drop in quality with editors (40:54)
  • Quote:
    "It's impossible... when I get it back, I still feel it needs this, it needs that." (40:56)

9. Influencer Dynamics & Social Media Pressure

• The importance of friends in the industry, e.g., UsAlways, for motivation and accountability (42:08)
• Pros/cons of online fame:
  • Initially unbothered by hate, but feels it more acutely when directed at loved ones, especially AlondraDessy (43:58)
  • Navigating backlash when involving others in content; evolving to become more considerate (44:42)
• Advice for creators:
  • "Don’t care what people say, and just do it." (45:40)

10. Music: From Freestyles to Viral Hits (48:06)

• Started music as a joke/fun in vlogs, audience encouraged serious effort
• First song "Broke," then collaboration with Alondra ("Put You On") that went viral (49:21)
• Describes slow writing process and collaboration with friends/writers (50:34)

11. Fatherhood and Family

• The birth of his son transformed his priorities and outlook (51:24)
  • "I'm obsessed with being a dad... I love being a dad. That's my number one thing." (51:24)
• Describes struggles and growth in his relationship with Alondra adapting to parenthood (51:51)
• Discusses striking a balance between couple-time and parent mode, the importance of maintaining 'self' (75:31)

12. Alondra & Benny: Relationship Beginnings and Internet Fame

• How they met: Alondra followed Benny after he included her in a "Smash or Pass" video (54:26)
• They became inseparable following an influencer trip to Montana (55:48)
• Navigated the transition to public relationship status and the pressures of being an "it couple" online (56:12)
• Early "honeymoon phase," handling public scrutiny, monetization, and support from viewers and peers (59:40)

13. Pregnancy and Overcoming Complications

• Alondra’s pregnancy was complicated by hyperemesis gravidarum (severe morning sickness), leading to multiple hospitalizations and IVs at home (65:17)
  • Benny describes the emotional toll of feeling helpless: "It was alarming... I did not expect pregnancy to be like this" (65:45)
• Difficulty balancing supporting Alondra, his own mental health, and professional obligations (71:17)
• Shared the bittersweet joy of becoming parents and the emotional transformation of fatherhood

14. Grief and Advocacy: The Loss of His Cousin

• Benny details the devastating loss of his cousin Junior to fentanyl poisoning (77:12)
  • Their close family ties, shock at his passing, and how grief hit him: "It was the first time I've ever experienced the loss of someone close to me" (81:09)
• The family formed the Joél Foundation (FentanylDestroysAll.org) to promote education, prevention, and support for those affected (85:37)
• Mission: distribute resources, Narcan kits, education, support groups; breaking stigma that fentanyl affects only “hardcore addicts”
  • "There's no face to the drug... it's affecting everyone. Babies, teenagers, it's everywhere." (84:02)
• Empowering others to seek help and building community as a vital tool for healing (89:14)
  • "You're not the only one out there. Always reach out, speak to someone..." (89:14)

Notable Quotes & Moments

• On overcoming his environment:
  "I wanted to let the people know that it's not just that, you know, and let also other people know in Stockton that there's more to life than this city." — Benny (20:17)

• On fatherhood:
  "I'm obsessed with being a dad. I love being a dad. That's my number one thing I love being." — Benny (51:24)

• On social media pressure:
  "Nobody in person tells me the [stuff] that I see online." — Benny (46:09)

• On grief, loss, and community:
  "It was the first time I’d ever experienced the loss of someone close to me. I didn't know how to really handle it." — Benny (81:09)
  "That kind of made me want to grind harder for him... it gave me another purpose in life." — Benny (81:49)

Standout Segments & Timestamps

• Arrest & Tagging Story: 10:02 – 15:38
• Buying His Sister a Car: 28:51 – 30:06
• Viral Editing and YouTube Grind: 38:29 – 41:17
• Hate Comments & Creator Advice: 43:58 – 46:25
• Music Career Beginnings: 48:06 – 51:09
• Meeting Alondra & Relationship Launch: 54:26 – 57:58
• Pregnancy Complications & Early Fatherhood: 65:17 – 76:51
• Losing His Cousin to Fentanyl & Foundation Launch: 77:12 – 89:14

Conclusion

This episode paints a full, multifaceted picture of Benny Soliven beyond the highlight reel. He opens up about real-life struggles, from getting arrested as a teen to losing loved ones, the challenges and joys of fatherhood, and adapting to a fast-changing digital landscape. Through vulnerability, laughter, and reflective advice, Benny shows resilience, the importance of family, and the power of turning pain into purpose. By the end, listeners gain insight into not just Benny’s journey, but also the critical issues of community, grief, and substance abuse facing many today.

For resources and more info on fentanyl awareness:
FentanylDestroysAll.org (Joél’s Legacy Foundation)

Follow Benny Soliven:
All socials linked via episode description and on-screen.

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