Podcast Summary: Noche de Pendejadas with Alannized
Episode: Delayza Naylea Talk All: Dad in Jail, Pregnancy, Brujeria, Getting Proposed, CHISME & MORE!!!
Release Date: May 16, 2025
Introduction
In this compelling episode of Noche de Pendejadas, host Alannized welcomes Eliza California, a 20-year-old YouTuber, recent mother, and engaged woman. The conversation delves deep into Eliza's personal life, exploring her upbringing, the challenges of her father's incarceration, her journey through motherhood, and navigating relationships both personal and in the public eye.
Family Background and Childhood
Eliza opens up about her upbringing, living primarily with her grandparents and single mother. She shares:
"Growing up, I lived with my grandparents. My mom was a single mom... They made me have the best childhood." ([05:10])
Eliza fondly remembers her time in Mexico, highlighting the close bonds with her grandparents and the enriching experiences that shaped her early years.
Father's Incarceration and Its Impact
A significant portion of Eliza’s narrative focuses on her father's imprisonment. She recounts the emotional turmoil of a young child witnessing her father's arrest and the subsequent years without his presence:
"When my dad got locked up, he was right in front of me and I remember just crying and telling my mom that I didn't want my dad to leave at that moment." ([07:40])
Eliza discusses how her grandparents facilitated regular visits, maintaining her connection to her father despite his absence. However, the eventual estrangement after his release left her grappling with feelings of abandonment and unfulfilled expectations.
Relationship with Mother and Stepfather
Eliza reflects on her relationship with her mother, appreciating the strong bond they share:
"Me and my mom have always had a really good bond. She's my literal best friend." ([23:05])
She also touches upon the complexity of accepting her stepfather, whom she initially resented but grew to respect and love over time:
"Now, I actually love my stepdad... he's a second father to me." ([29:38])
This evolution underscores Eliza's capacity for forgiveness and adaptation in her personal relationships.
Education and Early Graduation
Navigating her education amid personal challenges, Eliza decided to graduate early to focus on her burgeoning social media career:
"I wanted to start my life... So I started looking into graduating early." ([44:38])
She describes the rigorous process of completing additional classes and summer school, ultimately achieving her high school diploma ahead of schedule, though she reflects nostalgically on missing out on traditional high school experiences.
Career Path: From YouTube to Medical Assisting
Eliza's career trajectory is a blend of social media influence and practical employment. Initially skeptical about higher education, she pivoted to medical assisting as a practical "Plan B":
"So that's when I started looking into college, and I... saw that program was only nine months, I was like, you know what?" ([47:30])
Her role in cardiology involved performing EKGs and supporting doctors with patient care. Although she enjoyed the work, the demands of motherhood led her to temporarily step away from her career to prioritize her newborn.
Social Media Challenges and Bullying
Balancing school and a social media presence wasn't easy for Eliza. She faced bullying both online and in her hometown, which impacted her self-esteem:
"I would get hate. There's people making hate pages about me in middle school." ([40:04])
Despite these challenges, Eliza found motivation in her adversaries' changing attitudes, noting:
"I'm glad I kept doing what I was doing now because now a lot of the girls that used to make fun of me are now... wanting to do TikTok and YouTube." ([41:22])
Her resilience shines through as she continues to engage with her audience, sharing authentic experiences and advice.
Pregnancy and Motherhood Journey
Eliza’s pregnancy story is both poignant and tumultuous. Initially reluctant to reveal her pregnancy on social media due to fear of negative comments, she eventually shared her joy after giving birth. Her labor experience was fraught with anxiety and medical uncertainties:
"I was trying to make sure I'm okay, that this baby is okay and just focus on my pregnancy." ([55:25])
The ordeal of dealing with a UTI and potential pneumonia during pregnancy added layers of stress, yet Eliza emphasizes the profound love she feels for her child and the transformative impact of motherhood on her life.
Navigating Relationships and Engagement
Eliza describes a whirlwind romance, culminating in her boyfriend’s heartfelt proposal during a Mother's Day dinner:
"He gets down on one knee and I was like, this is really happening." ([109:03])
Their engagement represents a new chapter, blending their roles as partners and parents. They plan a simple civil ceremony with aspirations for a larger celebration in Mexico, symbolizing their intertwined lives and shared future.
Conclusions and Life Lessons
Throughout the episode, Eliza imparts valuable insights garnered from her experiences:
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Patience and Resilience: Motherhood taught her patience and the strength needed to navigate unexpected life changes.
"Becoming a mom has taught me a lot of patience." ([102:35])
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Independent Spirit: Her upbringing with a single mother instilled independence and self-reliance.
"I never really depend on a guy... I like being independent myself." ([35:13])
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Importance of Support Systems: Eliza underscores the significance of a supportive partner and honest relationships.
"My boyfriend has been one of my biggest supporters ever." ([98:24])
Eliza concludes with a message of gratitude and hope, aspiring to provide her child with the stable, loving family she yearns for:
"I want them to have a mom and dad together... that's been my biggest goal." ([93:39])
Final Thoughts
This episode of Noche de Pendejadas offers an intimate glimpse into Eliza California’s life, marked by resilience, love, and personal growth. From overcoming childhood adversities to embracing the joys and challenges of motherhood, Eliza’s story is a testament to enduring strength and the pursuit of happiness amidst life's uncertainties.
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