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Eliza
I was just so scared at the moment. I was just like, I felt like I had my baby shower and I was like, I don't want to lose my baby. Like that was the last thing I wanted.
Alan Heist
What is up everyone? I'm your host, Alan Heist and this is Noche de Pendejadas, your favorite podcast turned talk show. Atus influencers favoritos para platicar y po S acarles al sol. So without any further ado, please help me welcome my guest tonight, Deliza California.
Eliza
Gracias.
Alan Heist
I am so excited. We've been following each other and I actually had reached out to you a couple months back and I'm so excited because I feel like ever since I've been following you, you know, when you were posting a lot, then you went a little Mia. So I'm so excited.
Eliza
Yes, I'm sorry. So happy to be here. I've watched your podcast and your YouTube videos when your intro was so it's an honor to be here. I'm so, so excited when you messaged me I was pregnant, but I was, you know, keeping it on the low, especially because I didn't announce my pregnancy till I was eight months. So when you reached out, I was like, how do I tell him? I'm like, I'm pregnant. I'm hiding it right now. So it's so. I'm so excited.
Alan Heist
I feel like the times work perfectly, you know what I mean? Because I'm so excited you've been so requested on the podcast girlies. You know what's so funny? I don't know if you saw a couple days ago, this girl's like, I've been asking for her. I've been asking for. And I was like, yeah, amigas.
Eliza
I am 20 years old. I've been doing YouTube since 2017. I've been trying to get more on like, TikTok and like Snapchat and stuff, but I've strictly been doing YouTube for the last couple years since, like, middle school, I believe. I just recently became a mom to a beautiful baby girl. Her name is Alalea and I'm now engaged, so.
Alan Heist
Oy. Lle gastes de Arizona Cuenta no pogouito mas de tudia a queora televantastes. How was, you know, your flight?
Eliza
Well, I Woke up at 7 since my baby woke up. And then I didn't pack last night, so I started packing and I had my flight and everything. I was there extra early just because I knew something was gonna go wrong and. Well, it didn't go wrong, but they told me I had a fake id, girl, and it wasn't a fake id. It was just because I didn't have like a little star on my ID or whatever. But the flight was actually really good. It was just a little windy, so it was a little scary. Portolo que sapasando los aviones que san estreando and everything, girl. I was like. So it's actually a little scary and I'm really, really excited.
Alan Heist
So I'm actually. Were you nervous like before you were coming when I want to go pick you up? Yes, I was telling her, you guys. I still get nervous whenever I meet someone, especially before Irma went to go pick her up to the hotel. I was like, Irma, I was like putting on my lash. I was like, I want to little bit more about your story. So quintanos como fueto infancia. How are you growing up?
Eliza
Growing up, I live with my grandparents. My mom was a single mom. So growing up, I lived my whole life with My nana, my tata. And I feel like a lot of people are always like, why, like why did you live with your grandparents? It's nothing like bad or not because I didn't know my mom or anything like that. And nothing crazy, it was just simply. And I loved, love living with them. They made me have the best childhood and so did my mom. Of course. I mostly spent a lot of my childhood in Mexico. I spent my childhood a lot in Mexico. So honestly, I wouldn't have changed it for nothing. I loved, you know, growing up over there and being close with Myos, it's amazing. Like I love them. And my misaela, she's 93.
Alan Heist
Oh, does it feel like crazy to think about it? Like, oh my gosh, she's about to be 100.
Eliza
Yes. It's so crazy. And it's, I don't know, like now that I had my baby, like, I hope my baby, you know, is able to meet her and everything. She's. I love my nana.
Alan Heist
You grew up in Mexico.
Eliza
We would always just to go. So yeah, like my childhood, I honestly, I had the best childhood. I don't really have a lot of memories. It's so weird that I, right now I'm trying to like, okay, what did I experience my childhood. But no, you grew up with a single mom.
Alan Heist
You know, your dad, he went to jail for about eight, nine years. You know, que lo que paso that led him into going to jail. Did you understand that he was in jail and that he wasn't able to be with you guys? Or was it like a very confusing time for you at that age?
Eliza
When my dad got locked up, he was right in front of me and I remember just crying and telling my mom that I didn't want my dad to leave at that moment. They had, they hadn't even told them that he was going to get sentenced to prison. I think my dad's going to jail. And yeah, right after they told him that he was being sentenced, I can't remember a lot, but I remember just, you know, being a little confused of why.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
And my mom would always tell me that he went to jail for a parking ticket that he didn't pay. She didn't want me to know, you know, that he was doing like bad, like criminal, not he wasn't like a criminal criminal and all that. So she didn't want me to know about that. And I don't think I was old enough to understand exactly why he went.
Alan Heist
Cuz you were like three at the time.
Eliza
So when I got older, my mom, eventually she told me and my sister, you know, hey, this is why your dad, you know, went to jail.
Alan Heist
Did it take you by, like, shock?
Eliza
Not necessarily. Cuz, you know, I kind of. When I was growing up, I was like, why does my mom always tell me my dad went to jail because of a parking ticket? And I was just like, I don't think that's the reason. But at the same time I was like, oh, like mom, like, I want to know. Like, I was like, you know what? She's going to eventually tell me why. I think that's the only reason why we even know who my dad is. Because my nana, my tata, will do everything in their power to take me, my sister Leilani, to go see him. Every week, every weekend we were there visiting my dad for visitation hours. Okay, we'll take him food. Because back then, I don't know if you still can, but we'll take him like a whole bunch of food. If he was craving pizza, we'll take him pizza ceviche. Like, we'll take a whole bunch of stuff. And I think because of my grandparents, we know who my dad is. Honestly, I think if my grandparents would have never took us to see my dad. I honestly don't think we would have known him the way that we do. Or, you know, we probably would have known him, but I don't think that we would be looking for him the way that we look for him right now, because we know we have a dad. Yeah.
Alan Heist
During that time where your mom and him still together, when he got locked.
Eliza
Up, they kind of separated my mom and my dad. What I remember is that they were together for a little bit. And then my mom eventually was just like, I'm sorry. Like, you know, it's too many years. I need to start my life, you know, with someone else. And they had a toxic relationship, which I didn't understand when I was little. And I kind of was mad at my mom for moving on. And I was like, no, like, you're supposed to be with my dad. Like, what do you mean that you're going to have another boyfriend? Like, I wanted my mom and my dad to be together. I wanted to live in that perfect household. I was so, so mad at my mom. I remember for years just like always telling my mom, like, no, I don't like your boyfriend. I don't like this new guy. I don't like him. Like, he had his own little family. And I hated his daughters. I hated them. I don't know, I always felt like it was a Competition with them. And that's why my mom and her last boyfriend actually broke up, because me and his daughters would always fight for the smallest little things. So my mom and him eventually broke up, and then she got with my stepdad. And when she got with my stepdad, I was so, so mad. I was like, I didn't want to accept it.
Alan Heist
During that time, like. Like, would your dad kind of talk to him, be like, no, mija, vamosa said, like, that perfect family? And maybe that's why you kind of, like, had that resentment towards your mom, because you're like, my dad is waiting for him to get out. Was that kind of, like, what was going on?
Eliza
Yeah, I think for the most part, I was just mad because I was like, it's not fair that my dad is locked up there, and my. My mom is living her life like, as if nothing happened. I couldn't understand why my left him. And I was. And little me didn't know what a toxic relationship was, and I didn't know what my dad made my mom go through. So obviously, I was mad. I was mad. But now that I'm older, I understand, and I feel like my mom did the perfect choice of leaving my dad, as bad as that sounds. But no.
Alan Heist
In jail for eight years, which entro. Condo que tres. How did not having your dad present in your life, even though you guys would go visit him in very, you know, monumental moments of real life. I'm talking about school plays, you know, all that stuff.
Eliza
Well, for the most part, when my dad was in prison, like, he would always tell me, like, oh, when I get out, I'm gonna take you guys guys to Disneyland. I'm gonna take you guys to the beach. I'm gonna do this with you guys. So I was so, so excited for my dad to get out of jail, and I thought we were gonna keep the same bond that we had in jail, because as bad as this sounds, my dad talked to us way more when he was in jail, like, nos regalava and like, nos mandavacartas drawings, all of that stuff. And I thought he was going to be the same person or even better when he got out. But unfortunately, once he got out, he kind of just went MIA on us, and he got a girlfriend, and a lot of things changed. So I was really, really sad, and I just always wanted to be a daddy's girl, and unfortunately, I never had that. But ogres. Adios. I had my tata, which my tata has played the role as my dad. You know, I love my tata, but as much as I have my tata, I still would. Would have wanted to be a daddy's girl. I would have wanted to grow up with my dad. I wanted my dad to be present.
Alan Heist
To Papa Salid. And what exactly did you feel the moment that you heard your dad was coming out of jail?
Eliza
I was really excited. We actually went to go pick him up in jail. So it. We just went. My nana. I remember it was my nana, my tata, my sister, and me and one of my dad's sisters. He was actually in Phoenix, so we took a drive. And I remember just being so excited, and I'm like, like, yes, like, I'm finally gonna have my dad. Like, I'm finally going to be able to take him to, like, my sister school and, like, for my friends to meet him and everything.
Alan Heist
No. After coming out of jail, he kind of went MIA on you guys. So did he start pulling away very gradually, or was it, like, kind of like a sudden change? Like, oh.
Eliza
When my dad got out of jail, my nana actually, like, offered, like, hey, like, you know, come in and live with us, you know, so my dad moved in with us, and he was living there for maybe, like, three months once he got out. And then my dad and my mom actually got in an argument over the new girlfriend that my mom, my dad had just met. And when I met her, I saw her, and I told my mom, like, who she was, her name and everything. And Tucson's very small, so, like, when I told my mom, my mom automatically. She knew. She knew who she was. And she's like, I don't want you guys around her because she knows that her brother actually took. Took part in my Theo's passing. So my mom was just like, I don't feel comfortable with you guys being around her because we don't know the. The kind of intentions they have. Maybe she didn't know or she does. My mom just didn't feel comfortable. It was also very recently since my Theo passed away.
Alan Heist
Your mom's brother?
Eliza
Yeah, my mom's brother.
Alan Heist
Okay.
Eliza
So my dad got really upset about that. Like, he was like, no, like, if you can start your life, I'm gonna start mine. If you don't want the girls with me, then I'm not gonna see them. And he just kind of got, like. He got his stuff at my grandparents, and he left.
Alan Heist
You know, your dad when he was in jail, this fairy tale story. And then, you know, you see that he comes out of jail, and then this happens, and then he kind of stops being in your life. Como ta? Facto eso en esse momento.
Eliza
When he started backing up, away from our lives, it was hard. And I just didn't understand why he had the things he had done, especially because he had promised us so many things. And I was just looking forward to finally being able to spend those moments that we didn't spend. When I was younger, you know, now that I was older, I would try to text him and no me contestaba or investors. Like, he had my number blocked and he just wouldn't talk to me slowly. I was like, you know what? Maybe it's for the best if I just kind of stick. Stop trying to force a relationship. Because I felt like for so many years me and my sister were the ones looking for him, and now it was time for him to actually want to, like, look for you. I was really sad because at the time that he got out of jail, I was actually going into middle school, so I was gonna have a fifth grade promotion and everything. And he didn't go to that. He didn't go to my middle school promotion and everything, but no me contestada. And yeah, we went like maybe almost three years without talking to my dad. And then we talked to him again. We talked with him for like six months. And then boom, he goes mia. So it really affects me, honestly. And the way that I'm just like, yo simpre. And I'm like, I'm tired. I'm so tired of me always being the one looking for him. Like, sometimes I'm just like, you know what? I give up. But then at the same time, I don't like holding grudges. I don't. I don't like that.
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Eliza
So I'm like, you know what? I need to let go. Like sometimes I just need to let go. But sometimes I feel like I need to look for my dad. I want to be daddy's girl. I want to be daddy's girl so, so bad. I want to be able to, you know, be like, oh yeah, like this is my dad. Like, I love my dad. I have this with him, you know, but unfortunately, like El no Sepresta, it was. It makes it harder for me.
Alan Heist
Do you feel like it kind of gave you like abandonment issues or kind of like daddy issues in the sense that like, even when you were growing up that, like, maybe a friend or, like, a boyfriend or even, like, the people close to you were going to do the same thing that he kind of did to you?
Eliza
Yeah, I think so. I think I've always just been scared of people, like, and I don't know. Or for them to just kind of stop talking to me. So when I would talk to guys, I was like, oh, like, you know, like, I was like, no.
Alan Heist
Do you feel like familia? Because that when you guys went to go pick him up, did you guys kind of lose contact with the family as well?
Eliza
We unfortunately have never really had a relationship with his family. I feel like we never really had an actual relationship with them. And now, you know, how's your relationship with him now?
Alan Heist
Do you feel like you've had a moment where you've been able to, like, sit down with him.
Eliza
For us to, like, sit down and talk? He always brings his kids around or his girlfriend, so it makes it hard for me and my sister to, like, sit down and tell him, like, dad, like, this is how we feel, and we want you to listen to us. Because I feel like he just kind of, like, closes the doors, you know, he just wants. Wants to kind of, like, ignore that. He doesn't really talk to us and just be like, oh, like, we're fine, you know, and no and nothing is fine. And Asuno Sanyos. When we were actually not talking, I had messaged him, and I was like, I wrote him a long, long paragraph, and I remember just telling him, like, dad, like, you know, this is how I feel, and I miss you, and I want to be able to have this bond with you. He can go months without talking to us. He did it. He did. Peron. It wasn't the response I wanted. He just kind of was like, oh, I'm sorry. Like, life is hard for me and I don't have time to see you girls and stuff like that. But I was like, you can make time to see your daughters.
Alan Heist
Was a single mom. Do you feel like because you didn't have your dad, it almost made you and your mom closer or because she was always working? There was also that kind of, like, distance between you guys when you were young?
Eliza
Me and my mom have always had a really good bond. She's my literal best friend. Like, I love. Like, I'm always like, I'm ma. Like this and this and that. She's my best friend, and she's always been the only friend I've always had. So I love my mom. Like. Like, I don't Know what I would do without my mom? She's my whole best friend. Like, she's my whole best friend.
Alan Heist
She like, she's my world.
Eliza
She's my world. No, but yeah.
Alan Heist
And do you feel like your mommy's girl?
Eliza
Yes, definitely. I'm a mommy's girl. Like those are like my best friends. If I had my first kiss, my mom was the first person to know. When I lost my virginity, my mom was the first person to know.
Alan Heist
What did you react to that?
Eliza
I was 16 and my mom kind of already knew because I got like hips and everything, but I was like, so that's why I was so scared to lose my virginity because of that. Cuz I knew my mom and my nana were going to know know and I knew that I was gonna tell them and to tell them, like, hey, this is going on.
Alan Heist
When did you like finally tell them? Like, were you scared or you were like, ah, like I'm gonna tell them.
Eliza
I'm so scared to be a teen mom and I feel like, I mean I still became a teen mom, but no, like I was so scared to be 16 and pregnant. I'm in high school still, like, you know, obviously, like I felt comfortable enough to tell my mom like hey mom, like this is what I'm doing, you know, And I want to get on birth control. So I think that's why I confianza because I was like, mom, I need to get on birth control. And they just, they were crying when I told them. I was like, oh, like I lost my virginity to, well now my soon to be husband. And they're like, oh my God, Eliza, why? Why did you do that? And yeah, my nana was like, I'm like nana. Cuz my nana actually saved herself for marriage. Oh yeah. But she was never like really, like like hard on us, like oh, was.
Alan Heist
That kind of like an expectation though? Like growing up like me gustaria or was it kind of just like ah, just better but I don't care.
Eliza
Yeah, like my nana was always like, try different things, like explore. Yeah, she's like. And I was like. And I was always really insecure about that too. So I think that's why I never really like was like, oh, like I'm gonna go see what I can find. Like, no. So when I did lose my virginity, I told my nana and she was, she wasn't mad or they weren't mad, you know, they were like, we knew it was gonna happen and they were actually glad that les tula confianza, you know, to tell them.
Alan Heist
Growing up Majority of the time growing up. Did you understand? Would you kind of make her feel bad for kind of not giving you the time that you wish you could have had?
Eliza
I think my mom working honestly just made me really independent, obviously. Like, I had, like, homework and stuff, and my nana. My daughter didn't know English, so I would have to do my homework by myself because my mom would work really late or, like, on the weekends, she would, like, go out with her friends and stuff. So obviously, like, I feel like it made me really independent, and I never really. It never really bothered me that she worked a lot because she always had time for us. She always made time for us, no matter what. Like. Like, she would always take us out, even if she was, like, in a bad mood and everything. So, yeah, like, I think her working a lot just made me really independent. I always. Like, I was in kindergarten, I was doing my homework by myself, like, yo me vanya vasola. Yo me plancha. Yo me asia.
Alan Heist
Did you ever see her struggle to, like, maybe pay a bill or just to, like, get through with life where it made you realize, like, oh, like, my mom is barely trying to get by. Like, she's working hard par. Did you have a moment in tun de la vis to where it literally, like, switched to switching you?
Eliza
I think my mom did really good of hiding, like, her emotions with us because I never once saw my mom cry in front of us. Like, while my dad was in prison, I think my mom kept, like, just, you know, a good face, and she was always like, no. And she did. Did everything in her power, too. She had a really good job. So I. Till this day, I'm always like, mom, like, props to you. Like, she really did that. And my mom is one of the strongest persons I know, and she's the reason why I think I'm the way I am today. And I've always been super independent because of that.
Alan Heist
You and your sister, right? And then los de mason cinco.
Eliza
No, but somos say, okay.
Alan Heist
Okay.
Eliza
So Mose and me and my sister Leilani, which I actually make a lot of YouTube videos with her. We have the same dad and same mom. And then my other little brothers, they have a different dad. My mom and my stepdad got together when I was pretty young. I think I was, like, actually in first grade. I was always, like, so mad, like. And I was like. Like, I just hated him. I was like, you're not my dad. Why are you with my mom?
Alan Heist
Like, you try to discipline you, and you would be like.
Eliza
We'Ll go to the store. I'll be like, no, you guys are gonna buy it. You guys are gonna buy it. And I think I was like that because I was always really jealous. I was really, really jealous.
Alan Heist
Did you get jealous when your mom started having kids with him? Like, did you. You feel like she was kind of like, oh, you know, did you kind of felt any type of way when she started having kids?
Eliza
Yeah, cuz when she moved out with my stepdad eventually. So when they moved out, like she asked us like, do you guys want to move out with me? And I was like, no, like I want to stay with my nana, my tata. So when we will go visit my mom, I would just be like, mom, like, why are you not with my dad? Like, you need to be with my dad. Why? She wasn't with my dad, but she saved it, you know, for when I got older. She told me like, hey, like, this is what your dad made me go through and this is the reason why we're actually not together. So. And I was like, you know what? Yeah, like it's okay.
Alan Heist
How's your relationship with your stepdad now? Do you feel like. Or is it kind of still rocky? Because.
Eliza
No, I'm actually glad my mom and my dad are not together because I think that was for the bed. Yes. So I actually love my stepdad now. Like, you know, he started like kind of warming up to me and I was like, okay, I actually love my stepdad. And now he's actually like a second father to me. Like, you know, when I had my boyfriends, I'll be like, like, you know, and it's so weird cuz I can't call him dad.
Alan Heist
I don't have you call him by his name.
Eliza
Yeah, I call him. I'm like, I say sad like, you.
Alan Heist
Know, I think that's a thing though, right? Because even my boyfriend and my, they called stepdad Lis. Like they never call him dad. But they're like, we love him as her dad. Yeah, but they just don't call him dad.
Eliza
Well, I mean my mom started dating him when I was really young. Yeah. You know, I would have been calling him dad by now, you know, but when I present him to like my boyfriends amigos, you know, my boyfriends, I'll always be like, I, this is my dad. And yeah, I'm your dad. Why don't you call me dad? And I don't know, I always tell my mom, like, man, like I want to call him dad maybe. Like, maybe I'm just like, yeah, so I'm like, oh, my God. Like, I want to call him dad, but I. For years, I haven't found the courage to be like, Appa.
Alan Heist
Do you feel like there was a moment specifically where you kind of started seeing him different? Like, where you were kind of like, you know what? Maybe I do like him, or I do like him for my momento specifico que. So I'll go for you, for your siblings. That made you realize, like, you know what? Maybe he's not that bad of a person.
Eliza
I think as I got older, I understood why my mom wasn't with my dad. So I was just happy that my mom was able to find an amazing guy that treated her well, that gave her everything she always wanted, and he slowly started warming up to me. So I was like, you know what? You're not that bad.
Alan Heist
Like, I'll give you a chance. Yeah.
Eliza
I was like, escape with Nimodo. You know, like, and I think it was for the best. And now I actually appreciate that he's in our lives and that he makes my mom happy, and he gives my little siblings everything. And in a way, like, it heals me, because I'm like, I'm glad my siblings are gonna grow up with their dad, and they're going to be able to experience everything I didn't experience as a little girl.
Alan Heist
You're like, if at least I took the loss, they get the win.
Eliza
Yeah.
Alan Heist
You know how it felt like being the oldest? You know, growing up that you guys lived with your grandparents? Did you almost feel like you had to be like a second mom to her? Did you feel like you had to almost be, like, a role model, someone to look up to? What was that like for you growing up?
Eliza
Up. Growing up with my sister, like, I feel like she was always, like, looking at me in the way, like, I want to do it better. I would always try to make sure that I was good in school, that I gave her good advice. If you guys watch my YouTube videos, I actually used to do a lot of girl talks with my sister, and I would always, like, give her advice. I was like. Like, this is going on. So at a very young age, we started making YouTube videos, which that's the reason why my YouTube channel blew up the way I did, because I was always doing girl talks with her. So not only did I give that advice to my sister, but I gave that advice to my audience, and I was the bigger sister to a lot of people. So for my little sister, like, I would always be like, leilani, like, if you're gonna have Your first kiss, girl. Like, do this. Like. Like, do this. And I was like, if you're gonna do, you know, like, if you're gonna do stuff, demon dimmy on me that way, like, if the little kid can condoms or whatever. And then, like, I would always talk about periods because I was like, I wish I had an older sister to tell me all of that.
Alan Heist
Do you feel like your grandma especially, like, for women, like, you know what? You're gonna grow up. You're gonna start bleeding. Was that like a convo? Was that you kind of, you know, you figured that out on your own and you kind of would have that convo with your sister?
Eliza
Yes, my nana. Oh, my God. If you guys would meet my nana, she. I. She's crazy. Let's just say that. Like, it's, you know, she speaks her mind. She's gonna tell you, like, this and this and that. Like, you know, so growing up, my nana has always, like, told us, like, you know, she's always told us.
Alan Heist
You.
Eliza
Know, baver consequencias, you know, so there's a lot of things growing up. My Nana, my mom, like I said, they've always been super open to us. So, yeah, like, we're like. I think the only way that you can say that I kind of, like, had to step in and raise my sister was being there for her and giving her advice. Other than that, like, we've always had everything they done, like, the cooking, getting us ready for school, dropping us off and everything. Now that I'm older, like, I try to step in a little bit now to my younger siblings. Pero we've always just been really, like, united. And, like, we've always just. Just had amazing bonds.
Alan Heist
How do you think growing up, you know, with a single mother? T in la manera queres el, you know, did that have any effect in the way you work, in the way you go about it, in your relationship or just in general? Do you feel like, you know, growing up with the single mom?
Eliza
I think my mom being a single mom actually really inspired me to just be independent in a way. Like, to never rely on a guy just because you never know. You just never know what can happen. So me, my mom, and Senor Muncho. And I think one of the biggest lessons my mom gave me of her being a single mom was the siempres, no matter what, and just keep trying and keep pushing no matter how things. How hard things get, and just always be independent. I think that's why I never really depend on a guy. I don't know, because I have like, my, my dad. Like I never really depended on him. So I've always just liked being independent myself, you know?
Alan Heist
Ye plato. You know, being an older sister, were you the popular girl, the shy girl, the outcast? La pelonera?
Eliza
Well, actually, I was not pelonera, surprisingly. Porque de chiquita siemprenda pele. And okay, my nana would always be like, no, Ted, if they tell you something, stick up for yourself. If they hit you, hit them back. If they're making fun of you, make fun of them back. Summer's here, and Nordstrom has everything you need for your best dress season ever. From beach days and weddings to weekend getaways in your everyday wardrobe. Discover stylish options under $100 from tons of your favorite brands like Mango Skims, Princess Poly and madewell. It's easy, too, with free shipping and free returns in store order pickup and more. Shop today in stores online@nordstrom.com or download the Nordstrom app Eczema isn't always obvious, but it's real. And so is the relief from Ebglis. After an initial dosing phase of 16 weeks, about 4 in 10 people taking EBGLIS achieved itch relief and clear or almost clear skin. And most of those people maintain skin that's still more clear at one year with monthly dosing.
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Alan Heist
Did that. Would that make you feel some type of way, though? Like, did that ever affect you?
Eliza
It did in a way, because I felt like I was like, am I doing the right thing? Like, putting my life out there on social media? Because there's teachers, and they will be like, oh, my God, like, your life is gonna go so bad because you're doing social media. You're gonna have stalkers. People are going to be in your business. And I would always be like, why are they telling me this? Like, I think it was crazy for people to know that you're kind of making a living off social media. So in school, it was always hard for me to make friends because in a way, I feel like a lot of people don't like me because I do social media. They're like. Or, like, followers. But I'm like, no, girl. Like, I have never seen numbers as something like, oh, I like, you know, I'm gonna brag about it. Growing up and having to do social media and going to school has been hard just because I've. I would get hate. There's people making hate pages about me in middle school, and they will, like, edit me and they'll be like, because I have, like, really hairy arms. Arms. And they always, always made fun of me about that.
Alan Heist
Was that, like, an insecurity for you growing up?
Eliza
Yes, it was. I was so insecure that, like, after making sengera, I shaved off my arms. And my nana got so mad at me because she's like. And I've always been super paluda. Like, I had like a mustache. Like, I had a, you know, brow and everything and embrace it like it is normal, you know. But she was like, she would let me shave it off, but, you know, doing social media and having to deal with that hate. I wouldn't necessarily get hate on social media, but I felt like I got more hate in my town for whatever.
Alan Heist
Kind of like discourage you, where you would be like, oh, my God, I've been getting made fun of to the point where I'm like, maybe I don't want to do YouTube. Or do you feel like that would kind of feel a few of you at the time?
Eliza
At the time, I feel like it would motivate me. I'll be like, like, I'm going to do what I like doing. And I'm glad I. I kept doing what I. I'm doing now because now a lot of the girls that used to make fun of me are now, like, all of a sudden wanting to do tick tock and YouTube and I'm like, ah, you. You guys used to make fun of me, and now you guys are doing what you guys made fun of. You know, did you ever get a.
Alan Heist
Moment where maybe the hate turned into like. And, you know, YouTube didn't ever get to that moment where, like, people started wanting to be your friends because they started seeing kind of like the clout you were getting online.
Eliza
It was so weird. But it was actually guys. Guys would always be like, let's do a vlog. Let's do a video. And I'll always be like, why? Like, that's so weird. The girls were always just more of like, there is a girl in my town. And I'll be like, girl, I'm not gonna record you.
Alan Heist
You're like, no. Literally, how would you react? Like, would you ever kind of like, stand up to them or you would just kind of keep on walking?
Eliza
That's my problem. Like, I always say what I'm. I'm what I'm thinking. And I think that has gotten me in a lot of trouble. I was with my best friend Daphne. We were like, at this. Back then, we would always hang out at a car wash. I know. We would hang out at a car wash.
Alan Heist
Okay. No, I'm like, no, we were just.
Eliza
That was just like, literally like a. Everyone who had a truck, and I had just gotten my truck. So this is when a lot of people from my town started like, like. Because they're like, oh, damn, she bought her truck. And I was 16 when I bought my first car.
Alan Heist
Off of YouTube?
Eliza
Yes, off of YouTube. So I bought a 2018 Silverado, and it was like a single cap truck. And everyone was like, damn, you know, like, sorry if my boyfriend is watching this. No, he already knows I had my putita days. No, but I would, like, I would hang out with guys. I would just.
Alan Heist
I've always always, like, gotten along better with guys.
Eliza
So I was like. So we would hang out this car wash, and this girl, like I said earlier, she would always be like, but behind my back, she will talk all this. I don't know where she'll be. Like, we used to go to high school together, but after Covid, she kind of just like, started getting hate to me. There was this one time we're at the wash, and she was like. And I was like, girl, like.
Alan Heist
What did she say?
Eliza
And, like, her cousin or something, I guess. She, like, got mad and she's like. And I was like, yeah, and we're 16. I was like, we were 16, girl. Like, what were you doing?
Alan Heist
And they were older.
Eliza
Well, yeah, they were my age. They were. Yeah, they were my age.
Alan Heist
To get married in Arizona.
Eliza
No. Yeah, they were like, guys, like, they had families and everything. And this girl still flex about it, like, on her social media, like. Like, oh, like yos los.
Alan Heist
Okay, that you being in school, that you graduated being a junior, you know, what was that process like to graduate a whole year early? Did you had to do, like, more work than, like, the other kids?
Eliza
We went back to school after Covid, everything had changed now. We were wearing masks. People had started, you know, dating people that we never imagined. Our friend group just, you know, it split up after coven. When I went back to school, I didn't really find, like, my high school experience. So I was like, you know what? Can I graduate early? Can I get this over with? Can I just, you know, start my life? Because at the time, I was really doing social media. I was like, I'm gonna look into graduating early. So I started looking into it, and it was. It was possible, but it was gonna be very hard. They gave me up to 20 classes, and I was going to summer school. I had done weekend academy. Like, I would go to school Fridays and Saturdays just to be able to graduate as a junior. So it was really hard. I knew in the back of my head is something I wanted, and I was like, I have to do it. Like, it did suck not graduating with my class, but at the same time, I knew that in 20 years, I was not even going to remember half of My class. So I was like, you know what? That I don't care as long as I get my, you know, high school diploma. And I know that I did that. I'm. I'm okay with it. I had just gotten my truck, so I was like, living life, and I was just like, you know what? Like, at that moment, too, like, I was hanging out with my cousins from Mexico, so I was like, I know. Like, So I was like, you know what? The sooner that I graduate high school, the more I'm able to, like, live my life. And now that I look back to it, I'm like. Like, we were such in a rush to grow up. Like, if I could go back, I would go back to high school, and I would do it all over again. Covid really messed it up for us, though. It really did, because we had, like, that weird gap, you know, that we didn't go to school and everything was online. So I wish I could go back and get the full high school experience, but these just were really different after co. So I feel like either way, I wouldn't have gotten it if I would have waited to graduate until my senior year.
Alan Heist
You know, the esp. You know, high school, you go into college with your medical assistant, you know, certificate. What sparked your interest in the medical field? Was college always the plan? And what exactly was, you know, your journey like in school? You know, was it hard? Did you enjoy it? Was there ever a moment where you're like, you know what? La me, I'm gonna stop it.
Eliza
When I was in high school, I was like, ew, no, I'm not going to college. Like, high school. I do not want to go to college. I was like, college is a scam. You need to pay all these loans for you to have a good career. I was like, no, I don't want that. Pero. I always like having a second option.
Alan Heist
Okay?
Eliza
So when I was doing social media, I was like, wait, no. What if someday, you know, somehow this stops working for me? What if it's something I don't want to do? Long run? Like, what If I'm, like, 30 and I'm like. Like, I've been doing it for years? So I was like, you know what? I need a plan B. So that's when I started looking into college, and I. I. I don't know. Like, something just caught my attention of being a medical assistant. I just always love working with people and helping people. So when I saw that that program was only nine months, I was like, you know what?
Alan Heist
Did you ever have, like, Interest in going into like, nursing.
Eliza
I actually was going to go into nursing and the day that I was gonna go take my nursing test to get into the school, I backed out. Because when I was studying for the test, I was like, what am I reading? What is this? Because as someone who's never been interested in going to college or being in the medical field, since there's a chiquita, I was like, what am I reading? Yeah, like, what does ML mean? What is that? Like, I'm like, what's a syringe? What is this? So I was like, you know what, let me take a step back. Yeah, let me try to see if I like the medical field. So that's why I went into medical assisting, because I was like, if I like it, then I can just move up to nursing. And now that I became a medical assistant, I'm like, you know what? I like it here. I'm gonna stay here. Because now that I think of being a nurse, I'm like, I wouldn't be able to do what the schedule. Not like having to work Christmas holidays and stuff like that. And I love spending time with my family. So I don't think that's a good career for me at the moment. Now, especially because I have a baby, I feel like I wouldn't be able to go into nursing as much as I would love it. I don't think it's for me. I think medical assisting is just a perfect job just because it's really flexible. It gives me time to just work Monday through Friday and not have to worry about working on holidays and all these skate, all these crazy night shifts and stuff like that, you know?
Alan Heist
Rita Trabajas in cardiology, cuenta no poquito de. So was that always like the goal? How was your job hunting experience? Was it hard? You know, did you think like, no. Yo in cuentos alga de la. What was that whole process like in that field? Do you enjoy it? Is it something that you're like, you know what? Maybe Because I feel like in the medical field there's always like yes and no's. A lot of people love it and a lot of people like get into it and they're like, no estonu espadami. What's been your experience?
Eliza
Like as soon as I graduated, I thought I was going to be able to find a job like this. Girl, it was so hard. Cuz everywhere I on like my indeed I would like be like, okay, I'm gonna apply to this job, I'm apply to this. And I was like, oh, you need like two years of experience. And I was like, what? Like, I just graduated college. Like, how am I supposed to find a job if no one's hiring a newly grad student? So it was really hard. And cardiology was not even something I was looking into working in. I was looking into pediatrics, like, working with babies. I've always loved working with people, but I was like, you know what? I want to work with kids.
Alan Heist
Like specializing kids.
Eliza
Yes. I want to specialize in babies or something. Cuz when I was going into college, when I was thinking of being a nurse, I was like, I want to work in labor and delivery. That was my dream, like, job, a labor and delivery nurse. When I became a medical assistant, I saw that there is an option to be a pediatric medical assistant. And I was like, ooh, I can work in that.
Alan Heist
Perfect.
Eliza
That I will look into. And that were my dream jobs required so much experience. So I just kind of went into cardiology and honestly, I loved it. I loved, love working with Los Vijitos. Like, I just love. They're so, so sweet.
Alan Heist
What exactly do you guys do? Like, what's like a typical day for you when you go in, clock in? What do you usually do?
Eliza
At my job, I would print out all the lists of patients that we're seeing for the day. We'll see like up to 70 patients a day. And I would do EKGs, which is like, you know, everything's. The rhythm is normal and stuff.
Alan Heist
Right. I've gotten one of those dirt done for weight loss surgery. It's like, yeah, it's a whole bunch.
Eliza
Of wires and everything. Stickers. Yeah. So that's what I actually do. I do EKGs. And I would have to print out the patient's chart and then just kind of review it with my doctor and telling him, hey, like, this is your patient today. This is the last time he came. And then I would print out like, you know, any echoes or EKGs, stress tests, all of that that they would get done before.
Alan Heist
Do you like it? Like, do you feel comfortable there or do you want to like, eventually do the, like the labor and delivery? Is that like. No.
Eliza
Well, I actually, I don't want to say that I quit, but I put in my two weeks since I had my baby because I felt like I wasn't going to be able to work again. I wasn't going to be able to leave my baby. So I'm actually not working no more. But in the moment when I was working, I loved it. And it was an amazing experience that I had. And I hope that I one day I'm able to go back to work, because I actually really liked it. And maybe, just maybe I'll go into nursing.
Alan Heist
Was that, like, a hard decision to take though? El service? I'm gonna put in my two weeks notice. What did, like, the doctor say? Like, did they tell you not to. We'll work with your schedule. What was that like when you finally put in the notice?
Eliza
My doctor actually had left the hospital that I was working at as well. And he was like, telling me, like, hey, come work at this hospital that I'm gonna be working at. And I was like, it's so hard. Like, I don't have anyone to take care of my baby mentally, physically. I don't think I'm able to leave her. Like, right now that I'm over here, I'm like, my baby, Like, I miss her. Like, I felt like I felt like crying when I left her. Like, I feel like I'm leaving her. I wasn't prepared to go back to work, and I was like, you know what? I think this is a good. You know, it's the best decision at the moment. And it did hurt. I felt like I worked so hard for it and for me to just be like, you know what?
Alan Heist
This is it, you know, Poquito e la reyes sociales. Nos cuentas e que tun pesas bien Chamaquilla, right? You started blowing up. You were already making money enough to, like, you know, buy yourself your dream truck. I want to say, during the time you started working, you took, like, a big break from social media. Was there a reason why you took a break? Or do you feel like you were just, like, overwhelmed with, like, so much work? Was there a reason why you took that break?
Eliza
Recently, I actually graduated in November of 2023, and I started working in the medical field in December of 2023. And around that time, I feel like I was posting a little bit on you on YouTube, but I was just kind of like. Like, kind of slowing it down just because I didn't know exactly what kind of content I wanted to be putting out on my YouTube channel. So I was kind of like, in a weird little space where I didn't know exactly who I was or what I wanted to do or what kind of content I wanted to do. So I did take a little break. And surprisingly, I got pregnant a couple months later. And I was like, okay, yeah, I'm going mia And I would try to hide it that I was pregnant. Like, I would post that hey, and noto mando. Like, I would post, post pictures of like months ago and like maybe like, and everything. Girl, I had a big belly by then.
Alan Heist
Why didn't you want to like, show it out, like to the public? Yeah.
Eliza
Yeah. I waited. I literally announced that I was pregnant.
Alan Heist
I think she's like, when I gave.
Eliza
Birth, I think nine days before I gave birth. Yeah. When I got pregnant, I was just like, you know what? I don't know. Is this something I want to put out on social media right away? I was really scared because I was just like, this is my first time being pregnant. I didn't know how my body was gonna handle it. I didn't know, you know, a lot of things could happen. And I was just really scared and all that. So I was like, you know what? I just need to take time for myself. I need to make sure I'm okay, that this baby is okay and just focus on my pregnancy. Not focus on like, because mucha gente, they could be really rude.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
When someone gets pregnant on social media, I knew that people were gonna be like, oh, my God, you're pregnant and you're not 19. You just moved in with your boyfriend and you got pregnant. Like, they don't know exactly how it led up. Like, I literally got pregnant. Birth control girl. I kind of stopped posting and I started posting videos from before, from like December. I was posting them in March and I was already pregnant. Okay. So I had a lot of pre filmed videos. So a lot of people were not really suspecting that I was pregnant. They were just like, are you pregnant? Why are you mia? Like, where are you? You? And I'm like.
Alan Heist
That you lost your virginity with. When did you guys meet? Who made the first move? And how did he ask you to be his girlfriend?
Eliza
I was 16 at the time when I met him. And we actually met in Aruta. Like, you know what, the Razors and everything. We actually met in the middle of nowhere, basically, and Los Caritos and everything. We were having a good time. I think it was the third of July. See, no, the fourth of July when we met and he actually had a girlfriend and was at the moment when I had seen him like, he attract, like, he was so, like, attractive. Like, for me, he was. I got like.
Alan Heist
You got starstruck.
Eliza
Yeah.
Alan Heist
You're like, yo, I want that one.
Eliza
I was like, I want him.
Alan Heist
Him.
Eliza
Where can I buy him on Amazon? Because I've always liked guys like, you know.
Alan Heist
Yeah, you want to have fun with your partner. Yeah.
Eliza
And especially because that's how I am. Like, like, so, you know, I don't really show that side of me, but. Soyendes madosa. So with my boyfriend, when I met him, like, I saw him and he was, like, doing donuts, and I was like, oh, can I get off? You know, he was dancing, you know, he was like. I was like, damn, who is this guy? Where has he been? Where's your. No girlfriend.
Alan Heist
Perfect.
Eliza
Yes. And then he had a white truck. So I was like, oh, he has a truck. Like, I don't know. When I was 16, yes. I fell in love with trucks. And I fell in love with him. Him. I've always loved trucks. My dad has a. My dad is a reason why I've always been into trucks. When I saw that he had a truck, and I was like, oh, your truck will look nice with my truck next to mine. When I met him, he actually had a girlfriend, which I didn't know because we were like. I said we were in the middle of nowhere. Our phone. Our phones weren't working. And he actually was a dj. He had the music. And I went up to him and I was like. And he's like, oh, yo. And I was like. And I got his phone. Well, he basically gave it to me. He gave me his phone. And he didn't have, like, a girl or anything in his lock screen. He had, like, monita. And I was like, I saw no signs of him having a girlfriend. Okay. And to be fair, it's because him and his ex girlfriend were already, like, in really bad terms. Yeah, they were already, like, breaking up. So, you know, I had his phone and actually put my name name on Apple music. And I think that's how he eventually found me on social media after that little ruta that we had there. We got back into my truck, me and my best friend. And my best friend's like. And I was like, who is he? I've never seen him.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
And she's like, oh, you don't know him. You guys are in the same truck club. We were in a truck club together. Sama. Tst. So we had, like, these big banners in top of our trucks. So he had it. So I was like, wait, I've never seen him. So I tell my best friend, I'm like, who is he? Like, I want to know about him. And she's like, oh, he does, like, decals. And I was like, let me look him up on Facebook. I had Facebook back then. So we look him up, and the first thing I see is, like, he has a girlfriend. And I was like, no. Like, I was like, okay. No, like he wasn't being. He wasn't being flirty or anything like that.
Alan Heist
What's the music?
Eliza
Yeah, I was just like. I was the one who was like, oh, who is he? You know? So when I got home, I was just like, oh, what was Nemo? And I just kind of put it in the back of my head. And then a couple weeks later, he actually adds me on Snapchat. And I was like, wait, I remember seeing this name, Ramiro. And I was like, wait, that sounds familiar. So I text my best friend, I'm like, who is he? Like, is this the same guy that was at the route? And she's like, yeah, that's him. And I was like, wait, I thought he had a girlfriend. So then I add him back and I'm like, maybe they broke up.
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Eliza
And I was like, okay, I'mma add him.
Alan Heist
Like, I hope they broke up.
Eliza
I was like praying. I was like, oh. So then I was actually in Kino, Bayino, Sonora, and I was in the beach and I had posted these pictures. They're actually on my Instagram too. I was wearing like a black little bikini to sexy, you know, and I had posted them on my Snapchat and he swiped up and he put hard eyes. I was like, gracias. I was like, like, he always makes fun of me for that. He's like, why did you reply that way? And I was like, it's cuz I didn't know how you wanted to make it known because I was like, I wanted to. For you to know that I found you attractive.
Alan Heist
Yeah, so he can act up because like, like how?
Eliza
See? So then. Yeah, and then he sent me that and I, well, replied. And we kind of started talking. He was like, oh, like, like. And I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. I was like, wait, before anything, like, don't you have a girlfriend? And it's like, no, we actually broke up like before. You know, we saw each other at the Ruta. Like we were. We were already having problems. Like it was a really toxic relationship for him. So he was already kind of mentally leaving the relationship. So when they actually broke up was. He was already. He was already over it. He had. They had been breaking up for like months, like officially. So yeah, when he messaged me and then he told me he didn't have a girlfriend, I was like, okay, I think this is my mom.
Alan Heist
How did he ask you out?
Eliza
When he asked me out, he actually asked me out at my mom's House. He did, like, a sign with, like, Lobos, and then it was a little churro roses with a big heart and everything, and there's lights and everything. It was so, so cute. And when he asked me out, there's a lot of people that were really mad about it.
Alan Heist
Poor Kim.
Eliza
Well, one of his family members just didn't like me just because of my past relationship. Especially one of his family members. One of his family members actually started, like, saying a whole bunch of stuff and saying that I was, like, a really bad person just because of my past. And they kind of started bringing the ex in. Like, they're forcing the ex to just stay in their lives, and the ex, you know.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
And she started doing witchcraft on my boyfriend.
Alan Heist
No way.
Eliza
And it was really early on into our relationship, and it was really, really scary. I never really believed in it. I. My family didn't really grow up, like, believing in a lot of that. She was trying for him to, like. Yeah, she was, like, doing things so we would have sex and, like, you know, for us to break up.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
Yeah. For us. When we noticed, it was because we were always, like, kind of, like, arguing over the smallest things. And me and my boyfriend have never really argued. He's honestly one of the first, like, that I've never argue with. Like, we never, ever argue. We've always had really good communication. So when this started going on, I started noticing that he was being a little different. We talked to his mom, and his mom, like, you know, took him with someone, and she's like, maybe we'll go, you know? And that lady told him, like, they're doing witchcraft, and it was his ex. The lady actually told him, like, hey, like, this is how she looks. This is, you know, like, a description of the person. And automatically he's like, yeah, it's her. He had actually asked for me. He was like, hey, like, is she okay? Like, is she doing some type of her. Yeah.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
And they're like, no. Like, she actually didn't have enough money to do it to her, so she didn't do it to me because she didn't have enough money.
Alan Heist
Were you scared in that moment? Because I'm sure, you know, there's someone doing witchcraft. Did that scare you at that moment?
Eliza
At the moment? It did, because I was like, it's so crazy how evil someone could be just because they can't get over their ex. Like, girl, like, you were the toxic one. You're the one who lay hands on him, and you still want to, like, do all of this. Like, that is not okay. And they're like, I. I hate the ex girlfriend. You know? And she was always doing things. We were. One time we were at a concert and she literally threw a drink at us. Us. She threw a drink. And my boyfriend's like, aa was all wet. And we were like, what the heck? There's been occasions where we're in the same place. She walks by and she pushes my boyfriend. And it's kind of like, girl, when we started talking, she would call him. She would call him and be like, this and this about, like, the Lysa. Like, I know this about her. I know that about her. Like, you don't deserve her. Like this and this and that. And she was always trying to just. Just stay in the family. And she did got. She got. She got her way. No, but one of my boyfriends, Diaz, actually still talks to her. Suprima. And she actually stopped talking to my boyfriend. Like, they don't talk to my boyfriend. I mean, I'm important, you know, I don't want to say type of vibes. It honestly does hurt me a little bit because I see that my boyfriend, he used to be close to those prima Serbanas, and for them just to, like, switch up on him and stop talking to him just because of his ex is crazy.
Alan Heist
Is there ever, like, a moment during that time where you're like, you know what? This is too much for me. Maybe I don't want to be in a relationship. Was there ever a moment where you wanted to cut things off?
Eliza
Yes. And it hurts so much to say that. Cuz, like, I was like, he's such an amazing guy. But I. I was like, this is hard. Like, it was hard having to deal with that crazy ex and trying to, like, be with him.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
Because I felt like at any moment she could just come in and know everything. And she. And that's what sucks right now we are together, and I feel like she knows everything that's going on because she's still some way in the family connected. Yeah. You know, so it does suck. It is hard. And there's many times where I was like, I can't do this. This. I can't be with a person that has an ex such, like, so toxic like this. Like, oh, it's, you know, it's the mom's sister. No, it's because she's married with his deal.
Alan Heist
Oh, okay. Okay. So she's like, she got added in.
Eliza
Yeah, she got added in. So I think I will never understand why they have to be the way they are with me and my boyfriend, and they can't respect our relationship for, you know, for the past four years that I've been with him, they've been throwing indirectas those. Ooh, they dog me so bad at family parties.
Alan Heist
Do you feel ever, like, uncomfortable?
Eliza
At the beginning, I did feel very uncomfortable because I was 16. Mind you, I was 16. And his primar, t, she's already, like, 23, 24, and she was, like, over here making me. And I was like, why? Like, I'm 16. Like, you know, I was really young at the moment, so. So it did, like, in a way, make me feel. It made me feel very uncomfortable. I was like, you know what? If they're gonna do faces, I'm gonna do it back. And now that I get to places, like, my swagger always tells me, like. And I'm like, no, I'm not gonna say hi to them. Why? Unfortunately, at the beginning, it was. We had a really, really, really good bond. But now that I had my baby, things went downhill.
Alan Heist
Does your boyfriend ever tell you, like, it's okay, babe. I don't want you to. Like, does he have your back?
Eliza
He doesn't even say hi to them. He doesn't even say hi to them because for the same reason they made him go through so much stuff, and he's like, I'm tired of it. And I'm like, yeah, exactly. And we understand things how they are. I literally have videos where, like, I'm. We're dancing and I have the video, and. And they, like, point at us and laugh for just dancing, literally.
Alan Heist
I'm sure that's uncomfortable. I'd be like, no, literally.
Eliza
There's been so many times where I want to say stuff. I don't.
Alan Heist
Yeah, you're like, you know, you guys start dating yellow dicio cho anos. You guys move in together. How did that come to be? Was that, like, a convo? You guys would constantly have, you know, being so young?
Eliza
So when we moved out, I was 18, and prior to moving out with him, we already were spending the night, like, every weekend, or I would go to his house and stuff like that. And it was really, really hard for me to, like, actually ask my grandparents, like, oh. Like. But they already knew what we were doing, so they were kind of like, okay, as long as you are being respectful, respect the house and stuff. And the first few, like, weeks, we step with the door open and everything, like, we're like, no. Like, we can't mess this up. So, yeah, we were actually spending the night every other Weekend and then I don't know where we're like spending the night at every single day. And it became a routine that we would switch off. Like he would come and spend the night at my house and then I would go to his house. Yeah, see and at one point he's like, you know what, I think we should just move in together. We're, you know, we're basically living together, living together. Cuz we're spending the night so much, so why not just move in together? So we actually moved into one of his family's houses. It was just me and him. We moved in together and my parents, just my grandparents. I kind of already suspected it. Yeah, my grandparents because they're like, you know. And it became to the point where we kind of had like attachment issues. Like I couldn't leave him because I would get so sad. Like he was my comfort.
Alan Heist
How did you feel moving in, you know, so early with him? Did you ever had people or even yourself be like, oh damn, we're super young, super similar with you. Yo Iminobio. We've been living together. We were nine years together. We've been living literally for eight and a half of those years. We moved in two months after graduating high school. We were always sleeping over at each other's houses. We were neighbors to the point where he was like, you know what? Just. But there was a lot of people that were like, you guys are super young. Like maybe you guys should wait, date. You guys are barely dating. Did you have people kind of comment on that? Like.
Eliza
Yeah, I feel like a lot of people were like, you guys are too young for that. Like you guys don't know what you guys are getting yourself into. And we were dating for three years and they're like, but once you start living with someone, things change a lot. And I think that's one of the things I was so scared about. I was like, you know. And they're like, yeah, like once you move in, like he doesn't like clean the toilet, all his stains and like little things like that piss you off. So when I moved in with him I was like, oh my God, like what am I getting myself into? Like I was really, really scared. I was scared to go back to my grandparents house and be like, oh, it didn't work out. Yeah, yeah, gladly. Everything went good.
Alan Heist
What do you feel like was the hardest part? You know, it is an adjustment that has to be made. Porque you were ra Raised a certain way. He was raised a certain way. When you put two people that are raised Differently and una casa babe. Like bumping heads, which is so normal. You know what I mean? Like you said, like the little clothes. There's like little things that you didn't think of before. You're like, like, get it together.
Eliza
What.
Alan Heist
What do you think were like the hardest things that you guys had to adjust to? You know, when you guys freshly moved in.
Eliza
When we moved in, I. We actually sat down and we were like, hey, these are some house rules that we're gonna have. Have. These are rules that we're gonna have as a couple. That way we didn't have those type of arguments.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
That way it didn't have to come to the point where we would argue about like the littlest things. He knew that I had like freaking ocd, like, yo quero que tose perfect. I clean with like literally gloro and everything because I'm like, I'm a clean freak. So when I moved in with him, I was like, that's how I am. And he knew that's how I was.
Alan Heist
He like a clean freak. Because I feel like guys clean freak.
Eliza
So when we moved in, I was like. And he kind of started adjusting to the way that I was. I never really struggled with him having to like, hey, I don't know where. He does do little things that piss me off, but I just say it once and he knows by the look of my face, I'm like, yes.
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Eliza
When I found out that I was pregnant, I was actually in the bathroom with my boyfriend. And weeks, he yas Manas. He was always like, elisa, you're pregnant. I have a feeling you're pregnant.
Alan Heist
And I was like, did you have symptoms or no?
Eliza
No, I didn't have any symptoms, especially because I was on birth control. I was, was on, I was on the patch and I was like, no. Like, there's no way I could be pregnant. And my boyfriend kept telling me, you're pregnant. I have a feeling you're pregnant. Tmi. But like, I wouldn't let him in me because I never really like to rely on birth control. I've always heard these crazy stories of girls being like, oh, I got pregnant off birth control on Tik Tok. And I'll be like, oh my God, not me. Yeah, I was like. He kept telling me, he's like, like, I think you're pregnant. And I'm like, no, there's no way. Like, he's like, you really trust that little sticker that you have on your stomach? And I was like, yeah. I'm like, with Poquito, you know? And he's like, just take a test. And I was working at the time, so he kept telling me like, just take a test, Eliza, just take one. Like, we actually have some tests there. Because I was throwing him his 21st birthday party. So in the pinata. Like condones and pregnancy tests. So we already had some, so I didn't have to go buy anything. So every morning before work he would be like, take a test today. Take a test. Because you're supposed to take your test in the morning, but it's like 100 accurate, whatever. And he would always tell me, I'll be like, no, no. Like it says local. Like, I'm not pregnant. I feel fine. Like I'm okay. You know, One day after work he just told me, he's like, you know what? Just take a test. My birthday party is coming up. I don't want you to be drinking and, you know, for you to be pregnant. I'm on my way back, back from work and I'm on the phone with him and he's like, you know what? He's like, let's just put our like, mind to ease. And I was like, you know what? Yeah. And he's always telling me and I was like, you know what? I'm just gonna take it. I get home and he has the test ready on the counter in the bathroom and I'm like shaking and I'm like, no, there's no way. But in the back of my head I'm like, what if I am? What if I am pregnant? What am I gonna do? I was 19 at the time. I was gonna turn 20. I had just moved in with my boyfriend not too long ago. So I was like, no. Like I can't be pregnant. I was like, there's no way. I remember just peeing on the stick and my boyfriend's like, I need a pee. I wasn't pregnant. I took a look at the pregnancy test and I saw two lines. I just remember looking at myself in the mirror and like I literally stepped back and I started bawling my eyes out. I was so scared. I was like, I'm pregnant. Like I'm literally pregnant.
Alan Heist
What was his reaction?
Eliza
He was peeing. He's like, queanes. But at the moment he knew that I was pregnant because he saw the way I reacted. And you know, he like stopped and he's like, are you okay? And he just hugged me. He just hugged me and I just was crying and I was like, I'm pregnant. I'm pregnant. I kept telling him I was like, I'm really pregnant. And then we both started crying.
Alan Heist
How did you tell your parents? Was it scary? Like especialment. Was it scary to like tell them scary?
Eliza
And especially because we were in the process of buying our first home. So I was already stressed enough and I was like, I can't have this on top of me too. Like I just found out that I was pregnant. How am I gonna tell my mom? Like, I felt like in a way I had, you know, disappointed my mom. And that was like my biggest fear, to disappoint my mom. And when I told my mom, I was just like, I don't know. Like I was like, I'm sorry, like I'm pregnant. And she started crying. Thankfully we had really good reactions. Everyone was really, really, really supportive, which was really. I was in shock cuz I thought people were going to be like, I know, that's my. What put them at ease was that they Knew that we were trying to, like, buy a house and that we were financially stable. So they knew that it wasn't just like, oopsie, like, I got pregnant. I'm like. Like, I don't have, like, a good relationship. We were together for three years. So at the time, I was just like, no, you know what? Like, everything happens for a reason. And I knew God had sent me that baby for a reason, especially being on birth control. I was just like, what are the odds? Yeah, yeah, what are the odds that this happened to me? And in that moment, you know, it was like everything just fell into pieces.
Alan Heist
How was your pregnancy overall? Do you feel like you had a smooth pregnancy? Did you have any, like, difficulties when it came down to your pregnancy?
Eliza
Gracias. My pregnancy went really, really well. My boyfriend was really. He was. He was everything. He was always making sure kid. Every little anto. He's like, I was working. I worked all my pregnancy. So he was always really supportive and he was always trying to make. Make. Make sure that I was okay and that the baby was okay. I had a really smooth pregnancy. And I think a lot of the times I'm glad that I didn't post on social media because I feel like if I would have posted it on social media, I would have had negative comments, and that probably would have gotten to me because when I was pregnant, I was really, really sensitive. I was like, yeah, if someone would have commented, oh, my God, you got so fat. Oh, my God, you look. You have the pregnancy nose. Oh, my God, you have this.
Alan Heist
Was that something you struggled with? You know, being pregnancy is such a beautiful moment. It takes a lot on the women. You know, your body is changing, your hormones are through the roof. Was. Did that affect you in any way? You know, seeing you, you know, seeing yourself get bigger, even though you knew you were creating life, did that cause any type of, like, insecurity or it made you feel like, oh, like my body is changing comatosen. This is an expectation.
Eliza
In a way, I was actually happy that I was gaining weight because for the longest time I struggled a lot, like gaining weight. So when I started seeing that I was gaining weight, I was so happy. I was like, oh, my God, I look good. Like, I like how I look. And then I don't know where I got really, really big. And I was like, whoa, wait, I got, like, the pregnancy nose. And I think I actually made a YouTube video with my sister and you can tell that I was pregnant. But, like, the camera was, like, up here and everybody was in the Comments like, oh my gosh, she has a pregnancy nose. She's pregnant. She got so fat.
Alan Heist
Did you panic in that moment? You're like, oh my God, they're on.
Eliza
I didn't really panic cuz I was already planning of announcing my pregnancy, but I was like, why do people comment that? Like, if I wasn't pregnant, why would they comment that? Like, I think that's not okay.
Alan Heist
How was your birth? You know, you go through pregnancy, you know, what was that day like about your labor experience?
Eliza
So I had my baby three months ago, and when I went into labor, I actually went into labor on a Sunday. I went in and I was like, I'm having a lot of contractions. I was not feeling well and my mom was like, yeah, just go to the hospital and check it out. Like, see if you're dilating. And I was at 1cm dilated for the longest. So when I went into the hospital, they're like, oh, Nope, you're still 1cm dilated. And they're like, you actually have a UTI. And I was like, like what? I know, like in my back, but supposedly that was just because I was having a UTI and I've always been really sensitive like, like I had the infection, so they sent me back home. They're like, nope, you're not in, in labor. So I go home and the next day on, I think it was on a Monday or Tuesday, I had an appointment or no, it was on Monday. I had an appointment on Monday with my obgyn. She checks my surgery ricks and she's like, you're still 1cm dilated. And I was like, I'm still having like a little bit pain. She's like, that's your uti. You're fine. And at that doctor visit, I had noticed that my blood pressure was a little high and my heart rate was like at 140. I was like, that's weird. My heart rate is actually pretty high. So they retake and it's still high. And she's like, no, there's no concerns. You can, you can go home. You know when, whenever you're in labor, just call us and let us know. We get out of the office and my boyfriend's like, let's go eat something. You know, maybe you just need to eat something that maybe that's why your blood pressure is high and your heart rate. So when we get to this restaurant, we sit down and I start trying to eat the chips and out of nowhere I start shaking like, like it was so, so bad. It was like, if I was having a panic attack, I've never had that ever before. Like, I was shaking so bad to the point where I couldn't talk.
Alan Heist
You started freaking out.
Eliza
Like, patos lados. Like, I was. Was freaking out, and I was like, I don't know if it was because I was having, like, an anxiety attack. Like, I didn't know what's going on. I started getting hot. Like, Cynthia. My chest started hurting. I felt like my chest was gonna, like, explode.
Alan Heist
Yeah. Yeah.
Eliza
And then I looked at my chest and I was like, something's not right. Like, I don't feel okay. My boyfriend calls my mom and he's like, you know, sw. Like, this is going on. Like, what do I do? Like, the lysa doesn't feel good. Like, what should we do? And my mom was like, just take her to, like, an urgent care or like a next care. Maybe her blood pressure or something. And I never had any complications during my pregnancy. So this was really weird for me. And I was really scared because, like, if I was getting a fever, and I always heard that getting a fever during pregnancy is really bad. So the first thing I was like, no, I want to go to the hospital. So I told my boyfriend. I was like, drive to my nana's house. Because my nana. My nana's house was right. Right around the corner. So I told him. I was like, can you just drive to my nana's house and call the ambulance? I do not feel ok. Okay. So we get to my nana's house and I start bawling my eyes out because I just couldn't stop shaking. I felt like I was getting worse. My heart was getting really, really fast, and I was getting really scared. I was like, I'm hoping. I was hoping everything was okay with my baby. Like, I just wanted everything to be okay. The ambulance gets there to my Nana's, and I'm freaking out, and they start doing, like, an EKG on me. They take my blood pressure, they check my heart rate, and it was really high. It was almost at 200. And they're like, like, do you feel like you're having a heart attack? And I was like, no, I just. I don't feel okay. I just remember being in my car and, like, just trying to breathe and just praying. I was praying so much. I was like, yosito, por favor. Like, I just. I didn't even care about me. I was like, just my baby. I want my baby to be okay. Like, I felt like, oh, my God, I'm Going start getting emotional. I was just so scared at the moment. I was just like, I felt like I had my baby shower and I was like, I don't want to lose my baby. Like, that was the last thing I wanted. So I was just scared and I was just like, oh my God. Like, please, like, I don't want anything bad to happen. Not to me, not to this baby. And as soon as they got there and they told me, they're like, are you. Do you feel like you're having a heart attack? And I was like, no. Like, I feel like I. I just can't breathe. I felt like I couldn't. Sorry. I felt like I just was panicking. Like I thought I was having a panic attack. And they're like, no, it's not a panic attack. They're like, you need to get to the hospital right now, especially cuz you have a fever. My fever was like at 102. And that's the moment that, that they told me that, like, I started crying.
Alan Heist
Did they tell you like, oh, you're going into labor.
Eliza
I was not in labor. I wasn't in labor. And there, like, you're not having any contractions, right? And I was like, no, like, I don't feel anything. So I. I was like, yeah, like, I just want to go to the hospital. And they're like, okay, like, do you want your boyfriend to drive you? You can go in the ambulance. And I was like, no, like, I want to get there as soon as possible. So they took me in the ambulance and we get to the hospital, and as soon as I get there, it was like literally like a movie scene. And they rip my shirt. They rip my shirt. And they start doing the EKGs again. Did so many tests and they couldn't figure out why I was shaking. They couldn't figure out anything. They're like, oh, you probably have a uti. And I was like, yeah. I was like, I was just in the ER on Sunday because of uti, But a UTI really makes you shake that way and have a fever and feel like you're having a heart attack. Like, I was like, no. Like, there's no way that. I was like, what is going on with me? That had never happened. So. So they were like, you're gonna have to stay overnight at the hospital. And I was like, yeah, that's fine. Like, they were monitoring my baby. She was okay. Like, her heart rate was normal. Her heart rate did go up a little bit when I was going up, like my heart rate was going up. Hers Was going up a little bit. Doctors were like, we don't think the baby is, like, under any stress or anything like that, but we're gonna keep you overnight to keep monitoring you. So I stayed there overnight, and my boyfriend had to work the next day. So he's like, do you want me to stay or do you want your mom to come? Come. And I was like, no, just tell my mom, like, just go to work. Like, I'm okay. Like, I. I felt safe knowing that my baby was okay and that they were monitoring me in some way. I was at peace. Hearing her heartbeat, I was like, okay, she's okay. I need to calm down. I need to make sure I'm okay to, like, you know. So, yeah, my boyfriend ends up leaving and he tells my mom, like, you know, that he had to go work the next day. My boyfriend's like, yeah, you know, I would just call your mom so she can stay with you. And tomorrow I'll come first things in the morning once I'm done with work. So my boyfriend, he's like, you know what? I'm going to go get your bag from the car. Cuz I already had my hospital back. Cuz I was 38 weeks at the. Oh, no. I was about to be 39 weeks. So I knew that any moment I can go into labor usually qu.
Alan Heist
Like at 40, right? 38, 40, usually. Okay.
Eliza
I had my due date February 18th, so it was a week before that. So I knew that I could go into labor at any moment. So I had the baby's diaper bag and my diaper bag in the car. Everything was ready. So when my boyfriend goes for the stuff, I start having another episode of me shaking. And this time it was really bad. Like, my heart rate went up to 200. And the doctors come in and they're like, are you okay? Like, do you feel fine? And I was like, trying to talk to him, and I couldn't of how bad I was shaking. I kept shaking and I was just like, what. What's going on? Like, this is. This is crazy. And they actually had also told me that I had pulmon. How do you say that in English? Pulmonia.
Alan Heist
Like, is it the, like, coughing? Yeah, Like, I think it's in pneumonia.
Eliza
I'm a whole medical assistant. I don't know.
Alan Heist
I'm like, you're the one that studied.
Eliza
They were kind of just telling me, you either have a UTI or pneumonia. They just didn't know what was going on. There was so many doctors working my case because they didn't know exactly why, but I think they just told me, oh, you have a uti. But I honestly think I was having, like, a panic attack. I think I was, like, getting into my head that I can go into labor at any second, and I was really scared.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
So then my mom gets there, and they keep running tests all night. So I didn't sleep. I hadn't slept, and I was so tired. But they kept doing ultrasounds, heart X rays. They were doing blood work. They had so many things going on. And at one point, it was, I think, around, like, 2, 3 in the morning, me and my mom already settled into the room, and we're trying to fall asleep, and this guy comes in. He's like, oh, I'm gonna do an ultrasound of your, like, ribs. Well, not my ribs. Of my pulmones.
Alan Heist
Okay?
Eliza
He's like, I'm. Do a ultrasone. I was like, okay, I barely slept, like, five minutes, probably. I get up, and they walk me over to the ultrasound room, and when I'm in the ultrasound room, I'm laying down on the bed, and I start getting, like, what, five? How? Like, contraction?
Alan Heist
Yeah. Yeah.
Eliza
When they put me back in the room with my mom, I look at my mom, and I'm like, mom, I think I'm having contractions. And she's like, I know the Lisa. Really? And I was like, I think so. And then the doctor comes in, or the nurse comes in, and she's like, oh, like, how was it? You know, like, you can't finally go to sleep now. We're gonna stop doing tests. And I'm like, no, I think I'm going into labor. And she's like, really? She's like, why now? You're literally, you know, going through all the. This pain, and you're going into labor at the same time. It just happened to be that I went into labor when I was feeling this way. She gives my mom, like, a little notepad, and she's like, count her contractions. So my mom starts counting them, and they were, like, three minutes apart. They're like four minutes. The nurse comes in. She's like, yeah, she's in labor. They take me back to triage room, and they check me. They check my cervix, and they're like, you're three centimeters dilated. And I was like, oh, my God, Mom. I was like, call Ramiro right now. He needs to get to the hospital now.
Alan Heist
Was the hospital far from your guys's house?
Eliza
Yeah, we live, like, an hour away from the. From the hospital.
Alan Heist
So we were scared.
Eliza
I was like, what if I don't know where this baby comes out? You know? So all the nurses already knew me because I was already there for like the whole day. And they're like, oh my God, you really went into labor when you're feeling like this. You're so sick. And they felt so bad. My mom's there and my boyfriend gets there and I'm like just breathing through the contractions. They weren't bad. I honestly, they weren't bad at all. They felt like, like period cramps. Okay. So they, they weren't that bad. And I was able to tolerate them so I wasn't in too much pain. And then they gave me into the labor and delivery room and I decided to walk there cuz I was like, no. You know, so we walked to the labor and delivery room and they checked my cervix again and I'm six centimeters. And I was like, oh my God, this is going by fast. And they're like, okay, do you want the pero or not? And I was like, like, I don't want it. I didn't want epidural because I wanted to experience having a baby naturally. Unfortunately, because I had not slept in those 24 hours, my doctor kept telling me it's better if you get it because the moment that you start pushing. So they're like, we were, we would recommend for you to get the epidural. That way you are able to get a little bit of sleep in. You know, maybe it's like 20, 30 minutes, but at least you get some type of rest. So I got the epidural. So I was like, yeah, that's fine.
Alan Heist
You know, like the actual giving birth.
Eliza
No. And I felt a little bit because by the time that I started pushing, I felt my legs a little bit, but I didn't feel like the full on birth. But when they put the epidural, like the contractions, I was able to tolerate them. Like I felt like I would have been able to do it without the epidural. But the moment that they put the epidural, I took a nap. I like passed out. Yes, I passed out. And. And then I woke up and I was like, I need to take a. I was like, mom, I need to take a. And in the room it was my boyfriend, my mom, my nana, my swagra. And I kept telling them, I was like, I was like. And they're like. And I was like, I need to go. And then my boyfriend's like, no, no, no, no, he's like, the nurse said that when you start feeling like that, it's cuz the baby wants to come.
Alan Heist
You're like, no.
Eliza
And my mom was like, no, you're in labor, neighbor Eliza. I was like, oh my God. I was like, call the doctor. So I called the doctor and I was like, I feel like a lot of pressure down there. I was like, can you come check me? They come in and they're like, you're 10 centimeters dilated. And they're like, okay, we're pushing. I had a midwife who delivered my baby. So the nurses come in, the midwife comes in, and it all happened so fast. Everything was already ready. So they just came in and they're like, okay, start pushing. And I was like, wait, how do I even push? And they're like, just start pushing, pushing. Whatever you feel, just push the pressure you're feeling, just try to push it out. So I'm sitting. I'm basically like laying, sitting. And I'm just trying to push. And I'm like, am I doing it right? Like, is, is it working? And I was like, put a mirror in front because I want to see everything. So they come in with a big mirror and they put it right in front of me and they're like, okay, start pushing. And I just, I'm pushing and I'm pushing and I'm just like holding it in and I take the some big breasts because at the same time I was really tired.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
And I just, I didn't want to like, waste my energy that much. And I would just see, like she had so much hair already. And I was like, oh my God. I could see the hair. I could see that she would come out and she'll go back in. I was like, girl, no come out. And when they broke my water, they were like, o. I guess she had kind of like gotten in, like in stress because of my fever and everything. So that like, really scared me. But they're like, no, she's okay. Like, you know, like, she pooped. Yeah.
Alan Heist
While being in the back.
Eliza
Yeah. And they said that was bad. Like it was really bad. And they scared me when they said that. They're like, oh, she, she pooped. And I was like, oh, no. Like, I felt so bad. I felt like, I don't know, like, I was like, I hope my body, like is able to handle this. You know, I was just trying to take my time really breathing through my contractions and just pushing through it. And yeah, finally I had my baby. And the moment that they put on my chest it was, like, so unreal. Like, I couldn't believe that I carried that baby for nine months and that my body was able to create such a. A beautiful human. I couldn't believe that my body really did that. When I had her in my chest, I was just looking at her, and I was looking at her little hands and her nose and everything, and I was like, my body created a whole life.
Alan Heist
A life? Yeah.
Eliza
It was so unreal for me. And in that moment, like, everything, like, seeing those two positive lines just met everything. Like, I was. Like, I was meant to be a mom. And I know this is what was planned for me. I. I know that in this life, like, although maybe my chapter wasn't written the way I thought it was going to be, I'm glad. Glad, you know, everything turned out the way it did, because I love being a mom. Like I said, I think I was meant to be a mom.
Alan Heist
A lot of women, you know, struggle with postpartum depression, you know, or it's just really hard adjusting to the new mom life. You know, the schedules, you know, the waking up in the middle of the nights. How has the postpartum period been for you?
Eliza
I don't want to say that necessarily. It's like postpartum depression that I know of. But my emotions have been all over the place. There's some days where I'm really mad for no reason, or I'm really sad and happy, and it's just like every day is a new emotion for me. And it's been a little rough trying to adjust to this new mom life and accepting the fact that my body made a whole baby. Like I said earlier, I've always been super skinny. So it's been an insecurity of mine being skinny, but at the same time, now I'm just like, oh, my God, I can't lose weight.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
Like, I want my body back. And I just tried to remind myself, like, you just created a whole life. You carried a baby for nine months. Like, give yourself time. And I think what's really bad is that you see these girls on social media and you're like, I want their body.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
I want to be like them. I want to bounce back as soon as I have a baby. And that's not the case for everyone. Everyone's body is different. I think it took me a while to accept that, because I was like, in my head, I was like, I'm gonna bounce back as soon as I have this baby. Because I see. Seen this influencer be like that. I seen this Person like that. But once again, I try to remind myself my body is different from everyone else's. I carried a baby for nine months, and it was one of the most beautiful things ever. And I have to remember that, you know, I put my body through a lot, and I need to give myself time to not only heal, but, you know, to go back to the way I was and slowly, like my postpartum. Like I said, it hasn't been the easiest. There's days where I just cry, and I miss being pregnant. I have, like, those baby blues, and I'm just like, I miss my baby being a newborn. Now she's three months. So when I look at her, I just cry and I just hold her in my arms at night and I just kiss her and I'm like, oh, my God. Like, you're growing up so fast. Like, why is time going by so fast? I don't want my baby to grow up, but at the same time, I want her to grow up. And I want to give her the life I never had as a baby or as a toddler or whatever. I want to give her the life. Life that I didn't have growing up. I want to give her everything I didn't.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
And when I say that, I especially mean having a mom and a dad together. That's been my biggest goal for now that I have my own kids. I want to be like. I want them to have a mom and dad and for them to grow up and be like my mom and my dad. My mom and dad love each other so much. Like, I want them to have that type of, you know, experience growing up.
Alan Heist
You know, a lot of people around you, let's say your family, your evening, and it's very. And they don't check up, you know, on the women. You know, at the end of the day, you're the one also going through it. You just had a baby. You just created life. You're going through a lot of hormonals change. Do you feel like you've had the support from, you know, your partner and the people around you? If not, you know, who have you felt like has made this, like, chapter hard for you?
Eliza
My boyfriend has been one of the. My biggest supporters ever. I think he's always supported me in everything, you know, social media wise, career wise, what I want to do. And now that we. We are parents, he has been my number one supporter. I really never had anyone coming over to my house and taking care of the baby while I. I slept a little bit. He was the one Doing that, we will take turns and he will help me clean the house. And I think I'm like, I'm forever grateful for the type of partner that God put me in my life. Cuz without him I don't think I would have been able to get through this. Cuz at the beginning was really hard. Like I said, I would look at myself in the mirror and I'll be like, oh my God, like that's not me. Like what's going on? Like at the, the last few weeks of my pregnancy I started getting stretch marks. So that's, that's something that became a big insecurity of mine. And I would see myself and I was like, oh my God, like I have like this mom belly, like how do I get rid of it? But I was barely like a month, you know, of having my baby during my postpartum. My boyfriend has been my biggest supporter and it really sucks. But the people that you least expect, you know, sometimes back away from you. You, you really see who your friends are during postpartum and you really see who family is during postpartum. And I think that's when you mostly need people and they don't realize that now that I became a mom and I'm going through postpartum, I have friends who I wish I would have checked up on. Yeah, I wish I would have been like, hey, you know, how's your postpartum? Because you don't really know what it is. You don't really know what it feels like until you go through it all my mommy friends, I'm like, oh my God, I'm so sorry I didn't check up on you. Like I didn't know it was this hard. My mother in law, I mean, mean, she really hasn't made it any easier. We recently just got into like an argument and it really hurt me because I'm going through a lot like during my postpartum and she made me go through it a lot more. After having the argument with her, she kind of just backed away from us. And then what really hurt me was when she said that she wasn't going to go to my daughter's birthday party if so and so wasn't invited. And that really hurt me. It really hurt me because now that I'm a mom, I understand porque mi mama and I want to like, you know, make sure my baby is around good people and that she's loved and cared for.
Alan Heist
Yeah.
Eliza
And her saying that really like hurt me because I was like, you don't care about my Daughter then she was so excited to be a grandma. It's her first grandchild, so I thought she was going to be over the roof. And she made me go through a lot.
Alan Heist
Now, how does your boyfriend different feel? You know, I'm sure. Which. I'm sure he loves both of you guys a lot, you know, how has he reacted to that? Does he kind of reassure you, like, Miram Yamor, I'm sorry that my mom's being this way, you know, just know that I support you. How has that been with you and him?
Eliza
Yeah, he. He talks to his mom and he tells her, like, mom, like, you know, you need to, like, calm down or you need, you know, he tries to talk to her, but she doesn't really understand. And that's the way she thinks, and that's the way she's going to keep thinking of me or the situation. She doesn't really believe in the way I want to raise my kid. She's like, no, you have to raise them this way or you have to do this or she has that. Like, you need to go through the book, you know, And I'm like, no, I'm going to raise my baby the way I want or how we want, because me and my partner are in this together. And gladly, I'm so glad he understands my point of view. You. And he accepts, you know, the fact that things are going to be the way that we say, not what other people say.
Alan Heist
And I feel like that's the hard part, you know, Yamente, I don't know. I've never been in that situation, you know, where sometimes the sue girls, you know, are two metidos or want to have you raise your kid the way they raised there. But it's like, no, this is my child, and I'm gonna raise my baby however I want to. There's boundaries. I'm gonna put sinos. Well, I'm sorry. You know what I mean? You're gonna have to miss out on, you know, my child's life because you don't wanna, you know, motherhood. It's such an amazing thing. What do you feel like, you know, now after becoming a mother? What do you feel like has been the biggest life lesson you've learned through this whole journey?
Eliza
Becoming a mom has taught me a lot of patience passing. So, like, I would get so mad, I would yell like, I was like, I didn't have patience. I had a little bit of patience. But this baby has really changed my life, like, overnight. It took a 360. It's definitely taught me patience. And I didn't think it was possible to love a human being the way I love my baby.
Alan Heist
Do you feel like life has slowed down as well? Like, obame, you know? No. That you love the desm, the going out. How have you been feeling in ESAs? Has that started to, like, taking effect? Or you're like, no, I'm embracing this new chapter of my life. I want to now be a mom. How has that been for you?
Eliza
Yeah, me and my boyfriend were always, like, clubbing and partying. Las rutas. Like, we were just, boom. Nos ibamos, you know, we wouldn't care about anything. Like, we would get home until 5, 5 in the morning, 6 in the morning. Like, we didn't have a responsibility. We didn't care. So now that we became parents, we're like, oh, my God. Like, our lives change so, so much. But I think it's for the best. I think everything happens for a reason, of course. And now that we have a kid, we have to think about, oh, my God, like, we can't go out the way that we used to. We haven't gone out in three months already since we had the baby, we haven't gone out. And we had, like, a couple groupos come to our house. But I'm always like, okay, I need to get the baby to sleep first. And then she's, you know, everybody. Yeah. But no one has taken care of my baby so far because I'm always like, no. Like, I want to, you know, take care of her. I don't want, you know, anyone else to take care of her but me.
Alan Heist
And I feel like that's super valid, you know, it's a very adjusting period. And, you know, even if you guys have moments where you're like, oh, my God, this is hard. You guys will get through it, you know, Para terminar el tema, the tur elacion de to la morino nos contas esque. You know, you guys bought a house during the same time you were pregnant. Pero literal. Estefin de seman, you became a fiance. You know, how did it happen? How did he propose? Did you catch any hints that he was gonna do it? Was it a surprise?
Eliza
On Saturday for Mother's Day? He was already acting a little suspicious because I had my sheen car. And I kept telling him, I was like, when you propose, I need to be wearing black cuz I look good in black. And I was like, I want a black dress. And I told him I found one on sheen. And I was like, look, this is a dress I want. He's like, just order it. And he's like, you can have it in the closet. You know, you never know when I'm going to propose, but I'm going to know that you're going to propose cuz I'm going to wear the dress. He's like, no you're not. He's like watch, I'm going to do something good. He's like order it. Here's my card. So I order it and it gets here and I try it on. I'm like oh my God, I'm going to look good the day that you propose with this dress. Like you need a. I give you a whole baby and you're. You haven't proposed. I was like this is so embarrassing. A. A baby without a ring. Like, you know, I was not ready for those comments but I knew I was going to get those comments. Everyone's story is different. Everybody's chapter is written differently and the order doesn't matter as long as it gets done. So I knew that he was going to do it but you know, I needed time to heal because I just had a baby, we had just gotten a house so I knew we had a lot of things on our plate. And I was just like whenever the time is right, he's going to do it. And I knew he was going to do it cuz he would always tell him. He's like I want to marry you. I want to marry you and I, I'm going to do it. Just give me time to one be financially good. He got like a really good job now so he, he feels ready to like go all out for a proposal. Of course. So on Saturday he told me, he's like, oh, we're going to go get dinner, we're going to go somewhere fancy. I was like no, like, like let's just go get some tacos. Like no, like I don't want to go anywhere fancy cuz you're so picky with my food. And I was like I'm probably just going to order a Caesar salad. Which I did because I hate trying new food. So I was like no, like let's just go to like get tacos or like I want, I was like, I want doos like I wanted something like super simple. I was like I'll go like, you know chiquito. He's like no, it's your first mother's day, we have to go all out. And I was like no, it's fine. So, so anyways, he convinced me, he convinced Me to get all glammed up. I got my nails done, I got my eyelashes done. And at the same time, I thought he was telling me to get my nails done and stuff because he knew I was coming on the podcast. So he's like, yeah. So he's like, you're gonna be on camera. You needed to look good. So I was like, Saturday comes and I get ready. I get all glammed up, like I said. I started kind of having a weird gut feeling that something was gonna happen. I just didn't know exactly what was gonna happen. Was like, Maybe it's a 5050 that he would propose. I wasn't too sure.
Alan Heist
And you were wearing the dress?
Eliza
I was wearing the dress. I was wearing the heels I wanted to wear. Like, I had my hair done. Everything was ready. I was like, this is exactly how I want to look the day that he proposes. And he was wearing the exact same outfit that he would always be. Like, this is what I want to wear when I propose to you. In a way. Like, I kind of knew, But I was like, no, no. So we go out to dinner, and we're eating and everything. He's trying to buy 10 time. He's like, hey, like, order a drink. And I was like, no. Like, we had kawamas at the house. And I was like, no, I'll just drink a kawama. Like, I'm fine. I don't want this fancy wine. Like, I don't want this. He's like, no, like, get something. Like, trying to kill time, you know? And I was like, no, no, no, let's go home. And then my comad was actually taking care of the baby, and this was the first time that we had left a baby with someone. So I was like, we need to go home with the baby. Like, what if she's crying? Like, what if she doesn't feel comfortable? So he's like, no, the baby's fine. He kept calling her, and she's like, no, the baby's fine. Like, you guys have a good time after that. He's like, oh, my God. He's like, I'm so full. Let's go walk around at the mall. The mall was right in front of the restaurant. So we go walk for a little bit. And he's like, oh, I'm gonna go wash the car now. Let's go wash the car. And I was like, on mother's Day? Yes. I was like, why? We just washed it. And he's like, no, it's been a little dusty. Let's go Wash it. So we go number one. Like, he's trying to kill time. And he's like, oh, I'm gonna go to Total Wine. I'm gonna get some beer, and I'm gonna get this, and I'm gonna get that. And I was like, why is he, like, doing all of this? So he goes and he's like, oh, I couldn't find Red Bulls. Let's go to Dollar General. So we go to Dollar so trying to find freaking Red Bulls. And I was like, he's trying to kill time. I was like, he's proposing. So I was actually vlogging. And I said in the vlog, I was like, I have a feeling he's going to propose. And I was like, I'm pretty sure it's happening today. So we get to my house, and he's like, here, put this blindfold. So I put it on. And at that moment, I was like, he's proposing.
Alan Heist
It's happening.
Eliza
It's happening.
Alan Heist
Oh, my God.
Eliza
I get off the car, and we have, like, rocks in our tereno. So it was so hard for me to walk in my red bottoms. I was wearing these little. Little. Yes. So I kept getting stuck. I would walk and I would, like, m. And I was like, oh, my God, this cannot be happening. Like, I do not want to fall while he's proposing or whatever. So the moment that my mom grabs me and I was like, who's grabbing me? I was like, what the heck? Like, I could feel that it was someone else, not him. My mom puts me in front of, like, the letters. It said, like, marry me. And they take off my blindfold, and I started crying. I couldn't believe it. I. I was like, in the way. I was like, yes. I was like, I knew it was going to happen, but I still couldn't believe that he had gone all out. Like, he had gotten Cheese pass and fireworks works and all this. So it was really, like, unreal. And then when I get to him, he's just telling me, like, he's like, I know that, you know, we had a baby and everything, but I've always wanted to propose to you, you know, thank you for waiting and giving me time. We met, we were really young, and we weren't, you know, he wasn't doing good, like, financially wise. So he was like, gracias. So, like, for always, like, sticking with me. Me and never letting go. Because I know that at the beginning, you know. Yeah, it wasn't, you know, he wasn't in the best situation. The moment he starts talking I'm just like bawling my eyes out. And I couldn't believe that he was actually doing it. He gets down on one knee and I. I'm like, this is. This is really happening. And I was just bawling my eyes out. And he puts on the ring and I'm looking and I'm literally shaking. And it's a big ring.
Alan Heist
Yeah, it's huge. Look at that, you guys.
Eliza
Yeah, I actually had a promise ring. So he takes off the promise ring and then he puts on this ring. And I was like, that was an upgrade.
Alan Heist
This is better.
Eliza
Yeah.
Alan Heist
Have you guys started planning like the wedding?
Eliza
We're gonna get married through the civil. And I'm trying to book that as soon as possible. Just because we're not planning to do a big party just for the Wall City. We're gonna put. Probably just go out for dinner or something simple like that. And then for the actual wedding, we want to do something really big and we're gonna have it in Mexico with all our family members and everything. So for that we don't know exactly yet. Maybe like in a year or two.
Alan Heist
I feel like that's a good time frame, though. Like a year. I feel like usually people wait like a year.
Eliza
I'm very, very excited and hopefully I don't get pregnant again on birth control because I do not want to get pregnant before, you know, getting like, married and everything again. So I'm like, I'm good with the baby that I have right now for right now. And then after the wedding, then we'll plan of having another baby. But for now, I want to get married. I want to have Laos and make it over.
Alan Heist
I love that, you know, Proximo, whether that's career wise, you know, as a.
Eliza
Mommy, relationship wise, definitely married brain. I want to make sure that, you know, I change my last name to Rodriguez and hopefully have another baby. My goal is to have two to two to three babies. Maybe two, maybe three. Maybe. Yeah. You know, I'll be like my mom. No, it's cuz I actually love being pregnant, so I was like, I need to control myself. Like, I love you. I love it too much. I love it too much. I need to calm down.
Alan Heist
Tampoco, thank you so much for being here with us. I will go ahead and link them down below as well as on the screen right here, right now so you guys won't miss any future episodes. And with that being said, thank you so much once again for being with us today. Thank you guys so much for watching and we'll see you guys in the next one. Bye guys. Yay. That was so good.
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Podcast Summary: Noche de Pendejadas with Alannized
Episode: Delayza Naylea Talk All: Dad in Jail, Pregnancy, Brujeria, Getting Proposed, CHISME & MORE!!!
Release Date: May 16, 2025
In this compelling episode of Noche de Pendejadas, host Alannized welcomes Eliza California, a 20-year-old YouTuber, recent mother, and engaged woman. The conversation delves deep into Eliza's personal life, exploring her upbringing, the challenges of her father's incarceration, her journey through motherhood, and navigating relationships both personal and in the public eye.
Eliza opens up about her upbringing, living primarily with her grandparents and single mother. She shares:
"Growing up, I lived with my grandparents. My mom was a single mom... They made me have the best childhood." ([05:10])
Eliza fondly remembers her time in Mexico, highlighting the close bonds with her grandparents and the enriching experiences that shaped her early years.
A significant portion of Eliza’s narrative focuses on her father's imprisonment. She recounts the emotional turmoil of a young child witnessing her father's arrest and the subsequent years without his presence:
"When my dad got locked up, he was right in front of me and I remember just crying and telling my mom that I didn't want my dad to leave at that moment." ([07:40])
Eliza discusses how her grandparents facilitated regular visits, maintaining her connection to her father despite his absence. However, the eventual estrangement after his release left her grappling with feelings of abandonment and unfulfilled expectations.
Eliza reflects on her relationship with her mother, appreciating the strong bond they share:
"Me and my mom have always had a really good bond. She's my literal best friend." ([23:05])
She also touches upon the complexity of accepting her stepfather, whom she initially resented but grew to respect and love over time:
"Now, I actually love my stepdad... he's a second father to me." ([29:38])
This evolution underscores Eliza's capacity for forgiveness and adaptation in her personal relationships.
Navigating her education amid personal challenges, Eliza decided to graduate early to focus on her burgeoning social media career:
"I wanted to start my life... So I started looking into graduating early." ([44:38])
She describes the rigorous process of completing additional classes and summer school, ultimately achieving her high school diploma ahead of schedule, though she reflects nostalgically on missing out on traditional high school experiences.
Eliza's career trajectory is a blend of social media influence and practical employment. Initially skeptical about higher education, she pivoted to medical assisting as a practical "Plan B":
"So that's when I started looking into college, and I... saw that program was only nine months, I was like, you know what?" ([47:30])
Her role in cardiology involved performing EKGs and supporting doctors with patient care. Although she enjoyed the work, the demands of motherhood led her to temporarily step away from her career to prioritize her newborn.
Balancing school and a social media presence wasn't easy for Eliza. She faced bullying both online and in her hometown, which impacted her self-esteem:
"I would get hate. There's people making hate pages about me in middle school." ([40:04])
Despite these challenges, Eliza found motivation in her adversaries' changing attitudes, noting:
"I'm glad I kept doing what I was doing now because now a lot of the girls that used to make fun of me are now... wanting to do TikTok and YouTube." ([41:22])
Her resilience shines through as she continues to engage with her audience, sharing authentic experiences and advice.
Eliza’s pregnancy story is both poignant and tumultuous. Initially reluctant to reveal her pregnancy on social media due to fear of negative comments, she eventually shared her joy after giving birth. Her labor experience was fraught with anxiety and medical uncertainties:
"I was trying to make sure I'm okay, that this baby is okay and just focus on my pregnancy." ([55:25])
The ordeal of dealing with a UTI and potential pneumonia during pregnancy added layers of stress, yet Eliza emphasizes the profound love she feels for her child and the transformative impact of motherhood on her life.
Eliza describes a whirlwind romance, culminating in her boyfriend’s heartfelt proposal during a Mother's Day dinner:
"He gets down on one knee and I was like, this is really happening." ([109:03])
Their engagement represents a new chapter, blending their roles as partners and parents. They plan a simple civil ceremony with aspirations for a larger celebration in Mexico, symbolizing their intertwined lives and shared future.
Throughout the episode, Eliza imparts valuable insights garnered from her experiences:
Patience and Resilience: Motherhood taught her patience and the strength needed to navigate unexpected life changes.
"Becoming a mom has taught me a lot of patience." ([102:35])
Independent Spirit: Her upbringing with a single mother instilled independence and self-reliance.
"I never really depend on a guy... I like being independent myself." ([35:13])
Importance of Support Systems: Eliza underscores the significance of a supportive partner and honest relationships.
"My boyfriend has been one of my biggest supporters ever." ([98:24])
Eliza concludes with a message of gratitude and hope, aspiring to provide her child with the stable, loving family she yearns for:
"I want them to have a mom and dad together... that's been my biggest goal." ([93:39])
This episode of Noche de Pendejadas offers an intimate glimpse into Eliza California’s life, marked by resilience, love, and personal growth. From overcoming childhood adversities to embracing the joys and challenges of motherhood, Eliza’s story is a testament to enduring strength and the pursuit of happiness amidst life's uncertainties.
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