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James Bola Talks All: Bullying, Coming Out, Getting Raided, Jail, Eating 30+ Maruchanes, & MORE!
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Monet X Change
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Alan Ice
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James Bola
Mm.
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Alan Ice
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James Bola
It really, like, broke me because.
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Alan Ice
What is up, everyone? I'm your host, Alan Ice, and this is Noche de Pendejadas, your favorite podcast turned talk show. And in the yo trago atus influencers favoritos para platicar y posiblementes. So without any further ado, please help me welcome my guest tonight, James Bola. Hello. Can we get a proper mood?
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James Bola
Mood, you guys.
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Alan Ice
Hi, you guys. Amigos. Welcome to the pod.
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James Bola
I'm a little nervous, but I got it.
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Alan Ice
I saw your story yesterday. Getting, like, a last minute haircut. What has your week been like? And how did you prepare for today?
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James Bola
When you, like, messaged me, I was like, oh, My God. The first thing I did was take a screenshot of your message, and I sent it to the group chat where my brothers and sisters are at. And oh, my God, I got so emotional because this is something that I've always wanted to do. So I sent it to them. They congratulated me. They're so happy for me. And then I texted my barber. I'm like, hey, I need a fucking haircut, dude. So, yeah, I got a haircut. He came to my house last minute, and I got a haircut. And I'm here now. I know.
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Alan Ice
I got a haircut to our house. I know. Wait, did you like the haircut or what happened? No.
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James Bola
Yes.
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Alan Ice
No.
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James Bola
I mean, I'm trying to get into, like, wearing hats.
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Alan Ice
Okay.
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James Bola
But, you know, just, like, a little.
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Alan Ice
I do think, like, even just here when they, like, clean it up, it makes a big difference, James. And I'm so excited.
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James Bola
I'm so excited, too. This is something that, like, I really manifested, like, in the beginning of the year, I was manifesting it, and I'm just excited to be here.
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Alan Ice
I'm gonna give you, you know, the space and the time for maybe anyone watching at home right now. Que. Not the cones.
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James Bola
Hi, you guys. I am James Sanchez, but I go by James Bola. On social media, I started creating content. I did Shoty BAE videos first. I used to, like, imitate Shoti BAE first. And I kind of had, like, a little viral moment with that. But, like, where it really took off for me was when I started doing mukbangs.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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James Bola
And that's where it, like, really, like, I saw, like, a. A wave of, like, followers and comments and likes and views. Yeah.
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Alan Ice
Super viral.
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James Bola
It was a moment.
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Alan Ice
But did you expect it, though?
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James Bola
Honestly, no. It was just like, I was at work and I was like, I need to film something. I kind of hate that I went viral for mukbang, like, eating, just because, like, I'm a big person. But it happened. I was, like, in the office at my work, and I was like, I need to film something. I need to film something. So I saw the Maruchans right there, and I'm like, fuck it. I'm going to eat five Maruchans. I filmed it. Boom, boom. I gained over, like, 100,000 followers, like, in two weeks.
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Alan Ice
That is crazy, you guys. And I feel like, you know, I think it's so crazy and it's so exciting, too, when it's something that you've always wanted to do. Like, you said you were doing the Shoty Bay videos. You had Beef with SH B. At one point. I remember seeing a little bit about that. Then you were also doing the beatbox stuff and then you did the mukbangs. James sanchez. Because I feel like it's really important to be able to understand of their upbringing, what they've gone through. What type of child were you? Were you the loud one, the quiet one? Where did you grow up and what was the atmosphere that you grew up in?
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James Bola
I was always a happy kid. I was always happy. My parents always gave us everything we wanted. My mom was always there with us, like, siempor Siento. She was always catering to our needs and she was always there with us. She always let us be ourselves. She was never, like, judgmental towards how we were as kids or she let us be ourselves. The one thing that I loved was watching High School Musical. Yeah, Watching High School Musical, Hannah Montana. I mean, I know those are not like hobbies, but those. That's like literally what I love doing. I would watch High School Musical child learn a dance. I would always like record myself too, as a little kid. So it's so crazy that this is like my full time job now is like always being in front of a camera between all, like, my siblings. I feel like I was always like the outcast. Okay. I was always so different. Like, my two brothers were always like the more like, masculine. They, like played outside and they, you know, played with wrestling toys and stuff like that. And I was more of the watching High School Musical and always writing in my notebook or coloring or collecting stickers or I was very much like the feminine, like, type.
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Alan Ice
Did you feel the difference growing up in El Centido? Like, you were like, oh, my God. Like, my brothers are so masculine. They're always doing boy stuff and that's something. Que no me?
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James Bola
Yes, I did because I see my brother, like, asking my mom for a basketball or baseball or he wants to play baseball. And I'm over here at the store buying the folder of High School Musical to take it to school and show my best friends. And I felt the difference. I did feel very, like, apart from them.
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Alan Ice
Yeah. Did they make you feel apart from them, even if they didn't mean.
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James Bola
Yeah, I mean, sometimes they did because, I mean, brothers will be brothers and like, sisters will be sisters and, you know, sedan carria, uno lotro. Sometimes I did feel like they were like. Because I was like, different. But they love me. They love me post. My sister Tamien is like tomboy.
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Alan Ice
So she was.
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James Bola
Yeah, coneyos. And I was more like by myself and like, my mom always, like, supported me, and she always, like, defended me. Like, if some. Someone would tell me something or someone would, like, criticize me, she would always, like, be there to defend me. We would fight a lot as kids, but not, like, over, like, dumb things, like, very, like, kid vibes. Not, like, anything serious.
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Alan Ice
Who was like.
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James Bola
Me. No. Yeah, it was me. And then even to, like, when I was explaining to them, like, one of the questions, like, how were you as a kid? And my. My. My little brother, when I was reading him the question, he's like, you were a snitch. If some. Someone did something to me or if I saw something, I would go, like, tell my mom or my dad. And it did. How do I say it?
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Alan Ice
Like, push you guys apart?
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James Bola
Yeah, it pushed us. Like, not ap. Like, it created conflict. Like, they would always tell me, like, oh, why are you like this? Or, like, why are you telling my mom? I wouldn't really care because I knew I was, like, doing right by telling my mom. Like, one time, my big brother, we shared a room, and he snuck out and he took my mom's car. And I was like, in my head, I'm like, what if something happens to him? And I know, what if he gets in a car accident or, you know, And I woke up my mom and I told her. I told him, like, Sabian snuck out.
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Alan Ice
As soon as he, like, left the house.
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James Bola
As soon as. Like, 20 minutes, 30 minutes.
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Alan Ice
Like, you were thinking about it the whole time?
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James Bola
Yeah, I was like, should I tell someone? I was like, should I tell my mom? Just wake her up. Just wake her up. And I finally got, like, the courage to tell her. I woke her up, and my mom gritando le porte lefno. You better come home right now. And blah, blah, blah. It was just a. Yeah.
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Alan Ice
Did your brother find out it was you?
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James Bola
Yeah, he was upset. Yeah, he was upset. We would share rooms, and sometimes he would, like, kick me out of the room or, like, he would take my stuff out. Me being, like, that type of person, like, always telling my mom everything, it kind of, like, made my siblings think that I was my mom's favorite. Because if I would tell her something, like, she would, like, go tell my brother something, like, oh. And they would tell her, like, oh, he's just your favorite. That's why you're getting us in trouble. He's your favorite. Even till this day. Like a year ago, we were in a group chat, and we got into this big argument, and everyone left the group chat, and it was just me and my mom.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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James Bola
And they were just saying, like, oh, he's your favorite. Que no seque? And, like. Yeah, I was just.
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Alan Ice
You, like. And I am.
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Monet X Change
Yeah.
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James Bola
Do you feel like you are? I've always been, like, a mama's boy. Okay. I've always. Me and my mom have always been so close, and, like, I don't know. Just. She's always, like, protected me.
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Alan Ice
Yeah. That was actually my next question. Quentenas un poquito mas de la relaciones with your parents growing up, you know, nos cuentas that you were a mama's boy. Why you would kind of go more with your mom versus your dad? What was your relationship with your dad growing up? Was it kind of very much like, oh, he's my dad, but I don't feel like we're, you know, super, super close because maybe he's closer to my other siblings. What was that relationship like?
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James Bola
Well, I was always closer with my mom because, I mean, my dad was always working, and he was. He was in very, like, present. Oh, my God. I'm gonna cry.
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Alan Ice
It's okay.
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James Bola
Me and my mom had always, like, had that relationship where she was so protective over me. Always lean more towards my mom because she was always there with us. She would always take us to our school stuff, and she was always making us. If we had, like, a spirit day, like, she would dress us up, and she was always, like, present. Yeah. And my dad wasn't like, he was. I never had, like, that. I mean, he provided for us, and he always made sure that we had, like, a meal on the table. But I felt like I really missed out on, like, that father figure growing up. I had, like, a lot of resentment towards my dad because, yes, he would provide for us, and he. We. We always had everything, like, that we needed, like, to survive, and, like, if we wanted to go to an amusement park, it was, like, provided for us, you know? Like, we weren't, like, living. Like, you guys weren't struggling.
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Alan Ice
Struggling thanks to him.
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James Bola
Yeah. But it was that father figure that was missing growing up. I always had, like, that resentment towards him also, too, because he wouldn't always treat my mom the best.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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James Bola
And I'm so close to my mom that I would do anything to, like, protect her. Hurt to me as well, like. And that's why I always had, like, that resentment towards him, because I would see that he would, like, treat my mom poorly or he would cheat on my mom or. It was, like, a constant thing.
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Alan Ice
Now, as an adult, not having that relationship with your dad growing up, I Don't feel like.
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James Bola
Because I feel like my mom played both roles. I don't want to, like, make my dad seem like a bad person because he provided, like, everything that needed to be provided, like, for us to live. But just that father figure was, like, missing, you know, my mom playing both roles, it, like, really, like, filled that hole that was, like, missing.
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Alan Ice
I want to talk a little bit more about your coming out story. How early on in your life did you realize, like, oh, you know, I feel. And I think I'm a little different than all the boys around me. What was your gay awakening moment?
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James Bola
I was, like, in, I think, third grade, going back to high school musical when I saw Zac Efron. Mm. That was like my, like. I mean, right? Is that what you're asking? Like, what was, like, what made me, like, realize I was okay? Yeah.
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Alan Ice
What about Zac Efron?
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James Bola
I mean. I mean, look at him. What do you mean?
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Alan Ice
Yay.
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James Bola
Yeah. I mean, I would always, like, say, like, if we were going back to school, I would, like, buy high school musical stuff, and I'll make sure Zac Efron was, like, on the backpack or if he had a folder by the folder, and I'll have them. And a lot of people would, like, question me. Like, question me, like, why are you. That's for girls. That's for girls. Why are you buying this? I'm like, oh, no, I just have it because he has a basketball, and I think it's cool. Yeah, I want to be a basketball player. Yeah, I want to be a basketball player. Yeah. Yeah. And. But no, I was. That was checking out Zack.
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Alan Ice
Yeah. Do you remember? You know? Yeah. I feel like, as kids. Me too. When I first had, like, my first gay awakening moment, I would not really understand what that meant. You know, I always would be like, no, I feel like every boy is kind of attracted in one way or another to another boy. Did you understand those feelings? Like, did you think, like, you know what? I think I'm gay? Did you even know what gay met? Or was it something that you were kind of like, let me, like, figure out what these feelings are?
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James Bola
I feel like I. I mean, I did early on know, like, what gay men. Because a lot of people, like, question me. Like, a lot of my cousins or there'd be, like, little comments from my tias or tios or people always saying stuff. That's how I knew what, like, that meant, because people were always, like, throwing that at me. Going back to, like, the poster. I'd be like, oh, no, I'm not I'm not. I don't have it because it's like Troy Bolton. I have it because I want to be a basketball player or I want to. I think it's cool that he has a basketball. I would always, like, make excuses to why I had not a Sonic backpack or a Pikachu backpack. Or I would always try to make excuses why I had the High School Musical backpack because it was considered for girls.
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Alan Ice
Did you ever date any girls?
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James Bola
I didn't, but I did lose my virginity to a girl.
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Alan Ice
No way. Are you comfortable with talking about it? Was it, like, awkward?
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James Bola
It wasn't, like, a moment. I've always been big my whole life, and there is a moment in my life where I lost a whole bunch of weight. People look at you different when you're a certain size and, like, you lose, like, you lose weight, right? Yeah. And when I was losing all that weight, there's some girls, like, you know, trying to get at me. And. Yeah, I lost my virginity to a girl. It was.
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Alan Ice
And at that time, were you, like, almost saying you were bisexual versus being gay or, like, they had no clue.
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James Bola
They had no clue. Yeah. They had no clue that I was. I mean, me, like, when I was a kid. I mean, I liked the High School Musical stuff, and I liked the, like. I knew that I was different, but I never, like, came to terms, like, that I was, like, gay. I never, like, came out to anyone or I never, like, told anyone of, like, me feeling like, oh, this guy is cute. In my mind, I was like, oh, my God. Like, people think I'm attracted because I lost all this weight. So I was, like, accepting, like, yeah. You know, like, oh. Like, I would talk to. If a girl wanted to talk to me, I would accept it. Like, you know, you're like, it. Yeah.
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Alan Ice
Did you ever feel like maybe at one point in your life, you're like, you know what? Let me try. And maybe you were curious. Or you're like, oh, oh, my God. Like, maybe I am gay, but maybe I can be bisexual. So maybe that why. That's why you were doing it. Or was it more because you're like, no, I can't. You're mentioning a little bit. You didn't want to accept the fact that, you know what? I'm gay. Was it more of, like, let me try to hide it, or was it more trying to find yourself?
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James Bola
I think it was more of trying to a little bit of both. Trying to hide it and, like, find myself. It was, like, hard for me because I always, like, had, like, people Telling me, like, in the background, like, oh, my God, like, the way you walk or the way you're talking or the hand gestures or why you move your hand like this. Or there's sometimes my dad would make a comment, like, don't get me wrong. They were always so supportive of me. But why are you moving your hand like this? Or porquies, you know, like, the questions. The questions made it, like, very hard to, like, accept for me to, like, know that I was gay.
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Alan Ice
You really came out. Yeah. At an older age. Yeah. Mass. Later on in your life and, you know, you're telling us right now that it was very hard for you to come to terms with who you were. You know, what do you feel like was the hardest part, emotionally, to suppress those feelings? What do you feel like was the hardest part about being closeted?
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James Bola
Always trying to, like, keep, like, that image. That image of, like, oh, I'm not. I'm not gay. I used to work at Jack in the Box, and there was this one coworker that would always question me. Like, question the hell out of me, like, tell me, like, you're gay, huh? You're gay, huh? Like, all the time it was. And I always told myself, like, if I'm not ready to tell you, why do you. Why do you think you deserve to know? So that part of my life, if I'm not ready to.
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Alan Ice
Or after the first note, why you keep asking.
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James Bola
Even if you are her too? Like, she would always question, like, why are you moving like that? Or why do you. It was. It was always, like, the questions of, why do you talk like that? Why? Porque moises las mano sasi? Or like, you know, when you finally.
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Alan Ice
Came out, did she, like, be like.
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James Bola
Honestly, I haven't seen that person in a long time because I, like, came out, like, three years ago. That was like.
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Alan Ice
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Monet X Change
All right y', all gather round because Monet X changed from sibling rivalry is here with an announcement. This episode of the podcast is brought to you by Google Gemini. Now listen, the girls over at Google said monetization tell the children. So I'm telling you, us college students. Get Google Gemini's Pro plan free for one year. Use the best model in the world for multimodal understanding. So whether you're uploading a video to get feedback on your presentation, uploading a photo of your homework to ask for help, or transcribing notes from a lecture you missed, Gemini 3 Pro can help. And baby, if I had this in college, oh, she would have been unstoppable. Picture it Monet X changed in the library, uploading a picture of my music theory homework like Gemini please to help a diva out, or recording my rehearsal videos for feedback instead of crying at the practice room for three hours. This would have been life changing. Now back to the goods. Sign up to get more access to Google's Most accurate model, Gemini 3 Pro. Unlimited image uploads, pro level image editing, higher limits in NotebookLM, Gemini in Gmail and Docs. Two terabytes of storage and more. You heard me. Two terabytes. That's enough space to store every vocal warmup, drag race look, and every photo your aunt sends you of her plants. Visit Gemini Google students to learn more and sign up. Terms apply four years ago.
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Alan Ice
So if you're watching it, he is.
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James Bola
I'm gay.
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Alan Ice
I'm gay. You know, you tell us that you came out two, three years ago to your parents. Cuenta no son pogo guito mas De esse momento. What made you be like, you know what? I think it's time for me to finally accept it and tell them, where were you? Como les de hes? Como tomara tus papas la noticia. How did they react?
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James Bola
A mom says, like, she always knows. It was always like that with my mom. I feel like I would always have conversations with my mom about, like, makeup. If she was going to a party, she would ask me, oh, what heels or what earrings? Or I would always be the one to, like, help her, like, pick out her dress, and it was always like that. So I feel like my mom knew, but she wanted me to feel comfortable enough to tell her. The moment that I did tell her was when I had finally started social media, and I told her that I wanted to start doing makeup and I wanted to post it. I took her into her room, and I told her I was like, mom, I want to start doing makeup. I want to post it. And I just want to get your approval, because I know family members are gonna start talking and stuff like that. And she told me it was okay. She would even go to the store. If she saw something that would, like, be cute, she would buy it for me. And she was always so accepting. It was never, like, I was so fortunate enough to have her accept me, like, for who I was. And I'm so, like, happy that.
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Alan Ice
How did you tell your dad?
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James Bola
My dad? I mean, I never really had the conversation with him. Same thing. Like, a dad always knows too. Like, I never had that, like, conversation. Like, he would walk in and he would see me putting on makeup, and he never said anything. He never, like, judged me for it. And, I mean, he. I'm pretty sure he, like. I never, like, told him, like, hey, I'm gay. Yeah, but he never judged me.
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Alan Ice
Maybe with your dad, he was more of, like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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James Bola
One thing that I was so worried about, because I feel like my dad's side of the family is so judgmental. He does have a sister that doesn't really like, like me because I am who I am. Like, if I go to a party, if I have a couple of drinks, to me, I'll be twerking.
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Alan Ice
Wait, is that the same thing? I remember you had posted something about, like, her talking about you. How did she react to it?
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James Bola
She was mad. She was so mad. She even made, like, a whole, like, tick tock page about me. She was trying to, like, like, do all this, and it was just the whole, like, well, it was just, I don't want to Talk about her, because I wouldn't want to give her, like, the attention. But it's just. She pisses me off.
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Alan Ice
You come out to your mom and even though, you know and she already kind of knew prior to you coming out, I feel like. Because same with me. I feel like when I came out to my mom, I've said this before. I got caught stealing makeup at Target. So I kind of had to, like.
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James Bola
Tell her.
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Alan Ice
You know, she already kind of knew. So I kind of used that moment to tell her. And she was like, blah, blah, blah. You know, X, Y and Z. And even though I knew she knew, the fact that it came out of my mouth really gave me, like, peace. I was like, I don't have to be hiding it. Like, my mom knows, of all people, if anyone else doesn't accept me, I don't care. Did you have that peace?
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James Bola
I did. I did. There was one. There is a situation that happened where before I even told my mom, I wanted to start doing makeup. And I was gonna, like, put it out, like, into the world for people to see. And, like, all the family members were gonna see it. All my cousins and all that stuff. There was a situation that happened where my mom saw me accidentally. Accidentally saw me do something like. Like on my phone. Okay. Like porn. It was me. It was me. Like, okay, okay.
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Alan Ice
You were doing your thing.
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James Bola
I was doing my thing. Okay. So it was like a. I don't know, a Saturday morning. I don't know. We're gonna go to Ross. Yeah, we were getting ready and stuff like that. And I was looking at my Snapchat and there was a memory that popped up of my little godson. And I'm like, oh, my God, he looks so small. And my mom was in the restroom and she heard me, and she's like. She's like, who looks so small? I'm like, my godson something. She's like, oh, my God, I want to see. So, you know, on Snapchat, if you don't hold the picture, it goes on to the next memory. So I'm waiting for her to come out of the restroom and I'm holding the memory so she can see it. And she comes out and I flip my phone and I show her the picture. But it goes on to the next memory and it's me doing your big one. You're, like, doing your thing? Yeah.
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Alan Ice
What was her reaction? How did you react?
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James Bola
We didn't really talk about it. She kind of just, like, laughed, and she's like, oh, my God. That's all she did. And it was awkward. Yeah, it was awkward. And we just went to Ross and we bought what we needed to buy. And yeah, those are, like, the awkwardest things ever.
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Alan Ice
Back in the day, we used to all share one computer because, you know, if you guys need it for the tarea or whatever it is, You know, they were out with their friends doing their thing. And I remember I used to watch gay porn on there. And back in the day, the viruses, computer viruses were so big. You remember when you would have to, like, go and clean them up, you would have to literally get a professional. Or, like, you would have to buy, like, a CD and then you would have to, like, erase the viruses. No me, cuerdo. And when the guy came to fix our viruses, he starts telling, you know, my mom, like, oh, you know, there was a lot of, like, gay porn. I'm like, who is it gonna be? Like, mom? I'm like, I have a girlfriend.
- [28:44]
James Bola
Literally.
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Alan Ice
Because I had multiple girlfriends in, like, middle school before I came out, you know?
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James Bola
Yeah.
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Alan Ice
So it was. It is very awkward. You know, my mom never, like, sat down with me and addressed it. I feel like she knew. And my mom always knew I was gay, so I feel like she knew. And she was like, this is awkward. Like, I don't know how to go about it as a mom.
- [29:02]
James Bola
So I'm sure your mom was like, I know. No.
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Alan Ice
Yeah, yeah. She was probably wishing she didn't see what she saw. You know what I mean?
- [29:08]
James Bola
When she saw it. And then I looked, I was like, yeah, I was like. And I just, like, looked down. I'm just like, oh, my God. I'm just gonna wait till she walks away. I'm just gonna wait till she walks away. And she's like. She grabs the key. She's like, are you ready to go? And I'm like, like, period. Okay, I don't have to explain myself. Did you see? But I knew she saw because her reaction just.
- [29:31]
Alan Ice
Did she ever bring it up later on in life?
- [29:34]
James Bola
She didn't, but I did it. I did a story time, like, on my tick tock. And she saw it.
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Alan Ice
You know, what piece of advice can you give anyone who is currently struggling when it comes to accepting themselves, coming out because they might feel like their family and friends or their parents might not accept them. What piece of advice can you give them?
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James Bola
Just be yourself and do it when you're ready. If you. If you need to tell someone, tell someone. But if you don't do it when you're ready. Yeah. Don't feel peer pressure. To, like, if someone's telling you or someone's asking you, don't let them bully you into telling them that you're gay. Do it when you're ready.
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Alan Ice
What do you wish families understood more when it comes to having, you know, a gay son?
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James Bola
That they should be treated the same, they shouldn't be looked at different.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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James Bola
Yeah.
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Alan Ice
And I really do want to give shout outs to those loving mothers because one thing I can relate to you. I feel like my mom, tambien yo de za chiquito. I was like, the favorite my mom, but because I feel like they knew, so they almost kind of come o que nos ponen in a, you know, in a glass, like, box. And they're like, amino melona taca amino me lebane y cir nada. And I really do feel like shout out to those moms, dads, just parents, siblings, that no matter what, see their son, their daughter. No different. Because alfinda de amigas, our sexual orientation should not matter that are straight. You know what I mean? So I feel like if you're watching this and you're struggling with how to come out to your parents or you're struggling with like, oh, my God, The most genuine and true version of yourself. Over you. Tell us a little bit more about how was James in school? Were you the popular one, the outcast, the shy one? What was, like, your school life like?
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James Bola
I was very much the. I mean, the quiet outcast. I did have, like, my group of friends. I was a gay kid that hung around a lot of girls. I didn't have one guy friend. I was always with girls. And that's what going back to, like, being, like, people questioning, like, my sexuality. Those questions would arise a lot like, oh, my God, he's hanging out with pure girls. He must be gay. He must be gay because not one guy friend. He's with pure girls.
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Alan Ice
He doesn't date these girls.
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James Bola
Yeah, very much that type of. I was. I was the outcast. There was like five of us.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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James Bola
We would eat our lunch in the, in the, in our classroom. Never, like, got involved with anyone. It was just very much you would.
- [32:23]
Alan Ice
Mind your business, but people would mind your business.
- [32:26]
James Bola
Like, they'd be all up in your.
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Alan Ice
Business that, you know, you suffered a lot of bullying in middle school and high school. How did that, you know, start the recordas the un momento that even now, to this day, you're like, oh, I remember that one person or that one situation. Bullying queoso free. Why would they bully you?
- [32:46]
James Bola
I would get bullied one Because I would hang out with girls and two, because of my weight. I remember the first. The. My. It's like a core memory. I was going to summer school. I was about to go into middle school. I remember walking into the. The campus, and I saw a group of kids pointing at me and the Zagi. It was just, like, always, like, towards me. Like, I don't know if you ever went to, like, through that era of, like, wearing the Elmo shirts and the squared, like, checkered pants and stuff like that. I was that kid. I would wear, like, the red Elmo shirt and orange checkered pants. Yeah, this. They pointed at me and they're like, Yes. And I remember one moment where there was a kid bigger than me. Bigger than me. He started throwing chocolates at me and calling me overweight. He was literally, like, twice my size. And he was an eighth grader. He was throwing chocolates at me, making fun of my weight and all of, like, very much, like, how would I say? Like.
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Alan Ice
Like, almost trying to put what people would put on him on TV to distract them from, like, let's make fun of him.
- [33:59]
James Bola
I would hang out with pure girls, and they would always defend me. And if, like, going back to, like, the gay, like, being gay, if a guy would ask, like, is he gay? And they would be like, why? Do you want his number? Are you interested? They would always, like, defend me. They would always find a way to, like, defend me.
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Alan Ice
Did you ever have a moment where you confronted a bully?
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James Bola
I didn't confront, but, like, me being like. Like, my brother likes to call it a snitch. I went to go tell on the bullies because I was. I remember one day I was by myself. No one was there. None of the girls I would hang out with were at school, and they were bullying me. And I went up to the principal's office and I was crying, and I was telling him, like, they won't stop bullying me. Do something about it. You know, Like, I can't handle this anymore. Like, they won't stop. Like, they. They throw stuff at me. They tell me stuff. Just, you know, like, do something about it. And I remember I was so scared to start middle school because, I don't know, like, in middle school, I don't know how it was for you, but they had, like, a lunch and B, lunch. Or like, some schools would have all the lunches together, and I was scared that the lunches would be together. So I remember the principal telling me, like. And comforting me, like, telling me, like, he's an eighth grader. He's not gonna have lunch. I was so worried about starting seventh grade because I thought we were gonna, like, have classes together and, like, be at the same lunch. And I thought I was going to be going through the same thing of, like, that I went through in summer.
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Alan Ice
School because of going through that bullying at such a young age and not really understanding why these kids were being mean to you or bullying you. Do you feel like it affected, you know, your confidence and the way you saw yourself? Did you ever start, like, let's say if someone was telling you, like, oh, you ain't shit. Like, did you ever get to a point where you, like, almost were believing what they were telling you?
- [35:51]
James Bola
It did. Like, it did. I remember when I had that conversation with the principal. I remember that day. He made sure that he had a conversation with my mom that day, and he made sure that my mom knew what was going on, because my mom didn't even know that I was getting bullied. No one knew that I was getting bullied, like, none of my siblings. None of them my dad or my mom. And he made sure to tell my mom that what had happened and I was gonna be okay.
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Alan Ice
What did your mom tell you?
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James Bola
She got mad at me because I didn't tell her that I was getting bullied, but she told me that everything's gonna be okay. And, yeah.
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Alan Ice
Because of something that I can relate to. Do you feel like, you know, going through all that bullying and people attacking you for how you looked or for who you were? Do you feel like it ever made you have a change of heart growing up? You know, But I've always been the big kid. I would always get bullied for being the big kid. You know, I think at my heaviest in high school, I was weighing, like, at almost £300. Like, I was also a big kid, you know? And I feel like I. The way I kind of masked it, I feel like from all the bullying and from how everyone would make me feel, I was like, chinga sumadre. I'm gonna be the bitch. I'm gonna be mean back. So if you want to come at me, you know, que no me dejo y novas a cremer mercer conmigo. Do you feel like you ever had that, like, change of heart?
- [37:24]
James Bola
I tried to, like, be that person, but I. I'm, like, such a, like, soft, like, person that I couldn't. I couldn't, like, be mean to someone else or I couldn't be like that to someone else. And in my head, I'm like, maybe they're like, going through something, and that's why they're, like, taking it out on me. Or like, I was always like, I don't know, try to be, like, under, like. I mean, that, you know, that sounds stupid. Like, understanding on, like, why they're bullying me. But I'm like, maybe they're going through something at home. Or maybe they're like, you know, I could not. I mean, me, I could never, like, be mean to someone.
- [37:58]
Alan Ice
I love that, though, because I feel like it says a lot about your heart. For me, it was almost more of, like, a way to protect myself. Like, I feel like, for so many years. So I feel like for me, where I'm like, no, no. Oh, he's a. I think where I would rather them think that I was a. Than them have the ability to, like, make me feel less, you know, about, you know, the bullying. What piece of advice can you give anyone watching that is currently getting. Getting bullied, and if anyone that is currently a bullying watching, what's something that you would like to say to them, too?
- [38:36]
James Bola
I'm like, you. You guys. No, I'm just kidding. You know what? Just be yourself and don't ever. Don't ever let anyone bullying you into being someone you don't want to be.
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Alan Ice
Yeah. Oh, that's a good one.
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James Bola
Yeah.
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Alan Ice
No, they can't get the pasa. No, that's a really good one, you guys, because, you know, I was actually gonna say that I feel like, for me now, I'm just like, wow, Like, Which I feel like is good advice.
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James Bola
The bullies. Because me, like, being, like, such a. Like, I don't know, I have, like, such a. Like, I feel like I have such a, like, soft heart that I can.
- [39:18]
Alan Ice
Like, imagine yourself putting someone with what they put you.
- [39:22]
James Bola
Yeah. Yeah. So I mean. I mean, tell the bullies. I mean, try to, like, figure out what's going on, like, to stop hurting people.
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Alan Ice
And I really do agree with that because I feel. Momento que tude bully changes your heart and makes you act like someone you're not. You know what I mean? Pues ganare no tras formas ignor arlos. Go tell the teacher. You know, I love that because that is so real. And I feel like as I've gotten older, like, oh, my God. Like, yo. When I look back about my maybe two high school years, I was like, oh, my God, I was so mean to people. Maybe for no reason, but because I always felt like in attack mode. I always felt like. So I feel like it is really good advice like no, they can kill bullying. And also remember that like you said, sometimes these people can be going through really horrible things which shouldn't be an excuse to like, allow them to dump that on you. Pero they're kids. Abeces lo que les falten casa es amor es attention.
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James Bola
Yeah.
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- [42:08]
James Bola
A lot of people who will give.
- [42:09]
Alan Ice
You money for them. Sell on Depop where taste recognizes taste. You know, in the beginning of like what type of content you started doing. But I want to know a little bit more, you know, what made you one day be like, you know, what were the early, you know, content creating days? Like, like what were you doing before this turned into your full time job?
- [42:47]
James Bola
Before I started social media, I was always like the make my mom like proud kid.
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Alan Ice
Okay.
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James Bola
So I did go to school. I graduated college, I got certified as a medical assistant. I got my bachelor's in health science and I was working for a while. I was working as a medical system for a while. But I always wanted to like do like social. I, I feel like I was put on this like earth to like entertain people.
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Alan Ice
Okay.
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James Bola
And that was always in the back of my mind if I was like, even like my friends like know that I was, I've always wanted to do like this type of work. I started off doing my shoddy bay videos. I don't know what clicked in my mind like when I started like doing those videos. I just went through a drive through. I started talking like her and it just kind of like blew up. But the like viral, viral, viral moment was my mukbangs, my Maruchan videos.
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Alan Ice
I had seen maybe Uno Kyoto of the. The Shoddy Bay videos, but the videos that really, for me, I'm like, oh my God, I'm constantly seeing him on my for you page. Like, how many Maruchanes is he gonna eat now? It right, like around that time. Quentinos a little bit more about that. You know, were. Give us a tea. Were you really eating 20 plus Maruchanes? What was the most you ate? If you were eating them, Quanto how long would it take you to eat them and tell us all the BTs of that?
- [44:17]
James Bola
That's the one question that I get asked a lot. Did I really eat that? Like eat them all? Obviously in the five to three minute video that I post, I'm not gonna show me chewing the food and swallowing it. And I mean, that would take forever, right? Especially for like a tick tock video. But yeah, I would eat it. I would eat it all. I mean, it would honestly take longer making the Maruchanes than eating it.
- [44:43]
Alan Ice
Did you ever felt the pressure? You know, then you started as you started seeing the. The views come in and like the comments, did you ever feel pressure? Like, oh my God, like, maybe I don't want to eat this many Maruchanes, but I have to one up my last video?
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James Bola
Yeah.
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Alan Ice
Did you feel that pressure?
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James Bola
I did, I did. Actually. I was like. My first video was like the 5 and then I did the 8 and then I did 10 and then people just kept commenting, okay, do 12 and then do 15 and then me. Yo, that means so like listening. I kind of hate that I went viral for like eating, but it happened.
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Alan Ice
So with that virality, you also came across a lot of hate. You know, you got a lot of really, really nasty comments. So what were some of the nastiest comments you saw that stood out to you? How did you deal with those comments at that time? Did you felt like you were getting overwhelmed? Did you felt like you were getting kind of anxious because you were getting yes, these views and like people were loving it, but also so much backlash.
- [45:44]
James Bola
You know what? I was trying not to pay like a lot of attention to like the comments, but it was like the people that took their time to like, like go and find my email and email me like a long paragraph saying that I was gonna die, that I wasn't gonna make it to 27, that I wasn't gonna make it to 28, that I wasn't gonna make it to the next year, and stuff like that. That I was, you know, stuff like. Those comments were like the hardest comments to see because I was like, bro, like pork. Like, why tell someone that? Like, you know, like, it's like wishing death upon someone.
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Alan Ice
One. Yeah. Yeah.
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James Bola
And that's, that's one of, like, the comments that like, really like, bugged me. But other than the other comments, I don't care.
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Alan Ice
From your childhood. Do you feel like it would also bug you? Because one thing I saw too, like you said, you can't believe people would take the time out of their day. I did see a lot of people also making their own videos kind of like coming at you almost like, not even just to come, like making a whole video kind of to like almost what they were telling you in the emails. Did that bash you too? Like, where they were creating another space on their account to talk shit on you?
- [46:56]
James Bola
Honestly, I wouldn't like, care either. It would get to me when it was like one specific person, like one specific person, like, would make one video and then there'll make another and then another. I'm like, okay, I get it. You want to use what I'm doing to gain views on your platform. Like, I heard you once. Move on to the next. You know, what did you feel about.
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Alan Ice
The people that were genuinely in the comments? You know, because I'm sure you have a lot of real, like, die hard fans that love you for you that were maybe commenting like, maybe James, you know, maybe instead of 30, ask. Yes. Ah, like a little bit more. How did you feel about those people that were also, like, maybe concerned?
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James Bola
I get it, I get it. Like, it's very con. It's a very like, controversial like, like topic and like content. But I feel like I know. I feel like I know what I'm doing and I know what I can handle. So I. I appreciate like people being concerned, but I feel like I know what I can handle.
- [47:55]
Alan Ice
So Mestavas Contando and a lot of actually us have seen, you know, your picture from when you lost a lot of weight. I think you even had done a video kind of very like, nicocado. Avocado.
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James Bola
Yes.
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Alan Ice
Like, oh, like you guys like plot twists. I'm actually been skinny this whole time. I've been uploading drafts. You know, you had a huge transformation over £150. About that journey. How did that start? Ques lo que sistes? And how did you start feeling at the time when you started dropping down the weight.
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James Bola
It was back, like in 2017 when I, like, committed, like, to losing weight. I was working at Jack in a Box, and, you know, with. Working with, like, fast food, you're eating the fast food, so you're gonna gain more weight. And I remember one of my coworkers, you know, there's always like, that one co worker that's like, your mom at work. Yeah. She would tell me, she's like, mijo, you need to lose weight. Like, you need to, like, get healthy and stuff like that. And I made her a promise. I was like, okay, I'm gonna start losing weight. So I made her the promise. I'm like, I'm gonna. I'm gonna lose weight and watch. Watch me in a year. So this day I started, like, watching what I. I wasn't very, like, commit, like, committed, like, going to the gym. I didn't go hard, like, going to the gym and like, you know, stuff like that. I cut off sugars, like juices, soda, candy, like, little by little. Yeah, little by little. I wasn't eating as much fast food. I was just eating the meals that my mom would make at home. And she would make a mole pincha.
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Alan Ice
Plato de mole protein, though.
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James Bola
Yeah, it's protein chicken. Yeah. And yeah, I would, like. I started off little, and I lost, like, just doing that. I lost, like, 80 to 90 pounds.
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Alan Ice
In how long?
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James Bola
Eight to six months. Six to eight months?
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Alan Ice
Oh, that's really good.
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James Bola
Yeah. But I feel like my body was, like, so used to, like, the fast food and the. And the sugar and like, every time I would get out of Jack in a Box, I would go to 7 11, buy myself candy in Arizona. And Arizona's have, like, a shit ton of sugar. And I feel like my body was so used to, like, consuming, like, the sugars and the fats and all that stuff that once I stopped, I felt like I lost a lot of weight fast.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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James Bola
So it took me like, six to eight months to, like, lose 90 pounds. And I, like, I plateaued. I couldn't lose any more weight. So I hired a trainer. I went to the Camp Transformation center. And right there, where is Where I really, like, started, like, noticing, like, changes to my, like, body. Yes, I lost the £90. Yes, I did. Like, I was. You could tell. You could tell you were thinning out. Yeah, yeah, I was thinning out. But when I started going to, like, the Camp Transformation center, they really, really helped me. They put me, like, on a meal plan, working out, like, like two to three times a day, I would wake up at 4 in the morning, go to the morning class, and then go to the morning morning class, like at 7, and then I would go at night again. I was, like, committed. I was so committed. And, Yeah, I lost 150 pounds. It was.
- [51:12]
Alan Ice
How are you feeling in those moments? Sovia mente, you tell us that you had always been, you know, pretty big, like, your whole life. You lose £150, you start feeling like, oh, shit. Do you feel like your confidence and just the way you saw yourself kind of shifted?
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James Bola
Oh, my God. It was like I was a whole, like, different person. Like, I never experienced, like, again. Like, I said, like, girls wanted to talk to me and I was messing around, and it was just. Yeah, it was like. Like a different, like, life, you know? And when I lost all the weight and I was like, at my lowest, I remember I would have dreams. I would have dreams of looking in the. In the mirror and I had my double chin again. So it was like.
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Alan Ice
Like body dysmorphia.
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James Bola
Yeah.
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Alan Ice
Okay.
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James Bola
I was like, oh, my God. And I would wake up and I'm like, oh, my God. Okay, I'm still skinny. And, yeah, you lose the weight and.
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Alan Ice
You start feeling better. And you even mentioned earlier that people, you know, treated you different, which I feel like is a very real thing. You guys, before my weight loss surgery, you know, I was. I was always the bigger guy, and I was always gaining so much weight. And then I would, like, do an extreme diet. I think I even did. No, not. I think I did hcg, which is like an injection. And it's basically the hormone of la mujerembarazada. And basically the way you lose weight is like, you're injecting yourself this. You're not pregnant. So, like, the hormone starts trying to feed a baby that isn't there. So it starts grabbing your fat and, like, it does jumps it out and, like, you lose weight and, like, you have to be on an extreme diet. So. And I do think, like, once you lose weight, people treat you so much differently. Like, people almost make you feel like.
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James Bola
Like the.
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Alan Ice
Like, have I not been here this whole time? So. Or where were you seeing people treat you differently and that you later connected it to. Like, you know what? They're treating me differently because of my weight. Aside from dating people at work with.
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James Bola
Treat me different family members, mostly my cousins. Like, my guy cousins.
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Alan Ice
They would.
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James Bola
My guy cousins are so, like, judgmental. Like, machistas.
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Alan Ice
Like, oh, machistas.
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James Bola
Machistas, like, very, like, oh, I'm Manly and like, stuff like that, you know, very different, like, very, like a very different vibe. When I started losing weight and like, they would, like, talk to me more and, like, you know, it was. Yeah, that's where like, I noticed that mostly, like, with girls, though, it was very, like, yeah.
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Alan Ice
Did you like the different treatment?
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James Bola
I did, but it also, like, affected me a lot because why treat someone different like, when they're at a different point in their life? And, like, why treat someone like, you know, like, why treat someone different, you know, if it affected me a lot? Because it was like a fear, like, oh, my God, if I gain the weight again, like, are certain people gonna stop talking to me? Or like, is the treatment, like, gonna stop?
- [54:08]
Alan Ice
Or like, you know that after you lost the weight, you had a revote, cambio and tuvida, or did you go through anything that kind of made you shift gears in terms of, like, your health? Did you gain the weight, like, dramatically in, or was it something that you even yourself weren't noticing until you were at a certain weight?
- [54:31]
James Bola
When I started, like, it was obviously. I mean, I'm not going to put the whole blame on Covid, but the gyms were shutting down.
- [54:38]
Alan Ice
No, but let's put the blame on co. Because I gained like 80 pounds during company.
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James Bola
So.
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Alan Ice
Yes, company. Literally, no.
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James Bola
Yeah, Covid. And then I also went back to school, like, during school. I mean, going to school and like, you're always doing exams and doing homework and. And you're in class and you're doing three hour classes and you tell yourself, like, you know what, I'm just gonna grab a quick bite to eat. I'm gonna go through a drive through. And it just from there, just like a constant thing that I was doing. I was going to school, focusing on that, and I gained it back.
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Alan Ice
Do you remember, like, maybe like the first person that noticed it, like, the first person to call you out and you're like, oh, damn, bitch.
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James Bola
My mom, yeah, she told me, she's like, I know that the gyms are closed right now and stuff like that, but you can still work out here. Like, find ways to work out, buy a treadmill or like, you know, but like, she would tell me that you're gaining, you're gaining the way back. I know my mom, like, loves me no matter what, but, you know, health wise, like, health wise, she would always, like, worry about that.
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Alan Ice
Was it something that would annoy, you know, constantly being told that and, you know, you're like, like, get off my ass. Like, girl, like, see, I said yo, like, that's one thing I always would say in my head. Would it ever annoy you when people would comment on it?
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James Bola
It would. And you know what I would reply back? Like, they would tell me, like, you're gaining weight again. And I'm like, I did it once, I can do it again. I would always say that to them and I'm like, now thinking about it, I'm just like, you know, it's just. I don't know, I was just. I would always tell them that, like, if I did it once, I can do it again. But yeah.
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Alan Ice
Do you feel like the gaining the weight back, you know, you lose a lot of weight. You know how it felt to like feel good and, you know, be treated differently and then, you know, you gain the weight back. Did that affect you emotionally?
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James Bola
It did because I felt like I worked so hard. There was moments where I did notice like I was gaining the weight and then there's moments where I'm like, I would tell myself, like, oh, just have the slice of pizza. Like, if you gain the weight back, you can do it again. Like, you know, like the steps, you know, the workouts, you know, you don't know. You don't you. I would tell myself that you don't need to hire a trainer this time. Like, you know, the workouts, you know what to eat and stuff like that. I would tell myself that. I would tell myself that all the time. Like, you got this. Yes, you got this.
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Alan Ice
I also agree. I feel like we've lived similar things. I feel like, you know, I've always, you know, with the coming out stuff and also I've always had, you know, a problem with like, my relationship with food and just like the overeating. Even now I feel like as a gastric sleep patient, like, that's one thing that I'm still trying to like, not do anymore. And even when you get depressed, I feel like there's so many factors and take you back to like those bad eating habits. Like now me dealing with depression. Like, I feel like little by little I've been seeing myself gravitate towards the things that maybe I shouldn't be doing, even post surgery, you know. But one of the things that I feel like is so real is I feel like when you're gaining weight, so like the poquito, poquito. I remember when I would be gaining 10 pounds, I'd be like, oh, it's only 10 pounds. I got it. Like, yeah, let me eat that other pizza and then be 20. Like, ah, but it's not 50. You know what I mean? Like, Because I like to say I have even now. My relationship with food, I feel like, started when I was a little kid. I used to, you know, eat, You know, like, so I feel like even as an adult, I'd be like, I didn't like food going to waste versus my boyfriend. And he grew up very much like, oh, when you're done eating.
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James Bola
Yeah.
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Alan Ice
You know, So I feel like eating habits are so, like, hard to overcome.
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James Bola
Yeah.
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Alan Ice
Do you feel like that's something you've struggled with?
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James Bola
I went back to school, so I was, like, eating whatever was like, easy access. I was also working at Jack in a Box at the time, so making that food accessible, easy access was like, I feel like my downfall because I would. I would grab the spicy chicken or I would grab the.
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Alan Ice
The.
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James Bola
The extra fries, or I would grab the. The chicken tenders or, you know, stuff like that.
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Alan Ice
You have been doing more videos where you're doing, like, you know, I saw you doing salads, doing. At least if you're still doing your. Your big mukbangs, you're at least doing some. Like, you're mixing it up. You know what I mean? Like, you're mixing it up with, like, okay, what has made that shift for you? Do you feel like you're again wanting to eventually get another, like, weight loss journey? Do you ever have a vision of maybe, you know, Semira Munchorita, like, the weight loss surgery? Like, que. Sometimes when it comes to your journey?
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James Bola
I was actually gonna get the gastric sleeve.
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Alan Ice
Really? Okay.
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James Bola
I was gonna get it. I had my appointment and everything. But then three weeks before I was gonna get the surgery, I ended up in the er. I thought it was me. The way I felt. I felt like I was having a heart attack back. I mean, I've never had a heart attack, so I don't know what it feels like. But my chest was, like, hurting, my back was hurting, and those are, like, all indications of, like, a heart attack. I ended up in the er. It wasn't a heart attack. I was having an anxiety attack. Like, a really bad anxiety attack to where my, like, blood pressure was, like, really high. And one of, like, the scariest moments I've ever.
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Alan Ice
Like, you thought you were gonna die?
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James Bola
Yeah, I thought I was gonna die. And my doctor told me. She's like, we have to push. Like, we're not gonna. Like, you're not gonna have the surgery right now. You have to take care of, like, you have to see your primary doctor first. Make sure your Blood pressure is good and stuff like that. And at the time, my parents were going to, like, going through so much. So that anxiety attack had to do with what they were going through.
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Alan Ice
So it was kind of just like a. Like a cause and effect. Like you were dealing with, like, personal stuff, which we'll talk about in a little bit, that, like, led to you, you know, getting anxiety and kind of, like, fucking with me.
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James Bola
And I was. I was very, like, adamant that there was something wrong with me to the point where I would go to the doctor constantly. I would, like. So I ended up in the er and they told me nothing was wrong with me. Your heart is good and stuff like that. The only thing you have to check out your primary doctor for your blood pressure and stuff like that. And I did. He told me that my blood pressure was all good and stuff, but they prescribed me an anxiety meds. I didn't like how they, like, made me feel. I wouldn't take them. So I would always feel like my chest pains, like, shortness of breath, or like I felt like I was going to faint or like, I always felt that. So I always would go to the urgent care or go back to the er. And I even got in trouble by the doctor, like. Like, you have to stop coming back. Like.
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Alan Ice
Like, there's nothing wrong.
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James Bola
There's nothing wrong. Like, he even told me, like, they.
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Alan Ice
All see you walking.
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James Bola
Yes. And then at the time, I was living in Corona, and I remember I went to an urgent care where my mom lives, and they told me, like, nothing is wrong with you. Like, you're good. They did an EKG on me right there. And then I was driving back to my house in Corona. I was feeling, like, that pressure again around my chest. I was feeling sweaty. And I'm like, oh, my God, something is. I'm like, they're missing something. Like, they're missing something.
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Alan Ice
These doctors are wrong.
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James Bola
And in Chinga over there in Corona, I went to an urgent care that same day. Say you go to ER and then you go to urgent care. Like, there's a file.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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James Bola
So he was seeing that I was going to the doctors and urgent care constantly. He's like, why are you doing that? Like, they already told you nothing is wrong with you. Like, just take your anxiety meds. And I told him, like, I don't like how they make me feel. And to this day, I still don't take them. That's why I feel like I'm so bad with my anxiety.
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Alan Ice
Is the surgery still something you want to do?
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James Bola
I do yeah.
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Alan Ice
What's the process on that? Like, do you have to wait off like, or.
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James Bola
Thinking back then I was going through like my insurance, but it, I could pay for it now. So.
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Alan Ice
Yeah, no, I love that though because insurance, you guys, makes you go through hell and back. For me, it was never about like, oh, I want to get skinny. For the people for the comments. It was. It got to a point where like even glamming I would pop a sweat. I hated going upstairs. I have like a two story house and upstairs or mimos downstairs is like the sale. So I only would go upstairs when I would either go upstairs to sleep or come downstairs, like, like from sleeping, you know, because like for anything. And it got to the point where I'm like, what the can I do? Also I was pre diabetic, so I've always been pre diabetic. And when I got really big they were like, hey, Do you feel like you're doing it more because of your health and like you want to be able to do stuff that maybe you feel limited on now or is it more because of the backlash?
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James Bola
I want to do more stuff. Even like going like you said, going up the stairs is like for me it's like. I know, I know it's my fault. I know it's like on me, like I have the power to make that change. Like I'm very like limited on the stuff that I could do. Like even going to the. I mean I can walk around the store and like get my like groceries and all that stuff. But I do get tired. Like I do like, like your everyday.
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Alan Ice
Tasks just become a hassle.
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James Bola
Yeah.
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Alan Ice
Like you said, you don't have any medical problems. Like you've gone to the doctor and you just have anxiety. But it's more of like, no yo que mobilisar, man. Move around and not pop a sweat. Like now. Yeah. But I feel like now my life after weight loss surgery has changed and I hope that you're able to like go through that, that journey, you know.
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James Bola
Like a lot of the like things that pop into my mind, I want to get it. Like I could get it. I've seen so like many videos and like people going through stuff. I mean I've obviously seen like a lot of like you guys like have like success with like. Yeah, even like Jesus Nalgas. And I mean you, Irma, like everyone. But I've also seen like people not have like good experiences and that's what like, like sticks to me, you know, like, what if I'm that one person that like, has the bad experience, but.
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Alan Ice
What if you're not?
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James Bola
I know.
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Alan Ice
Irma, when she got her surgery going, panicking, I was like, but I understand too. You know, it is very scary. You know, she also has her weight loss journey. She's gone through a lot. And my journey was a little bit different in terms of, like, recovery and just how I felt going in. But one thing that I always told myself, like, people would be like, you know, you go into surgery and you don't wake up.
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James Bola
Wait.
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Alan Ice
Because of, like, the habits I'm doing now.
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James Bola
Yeah, I have, like, all that.
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Alan Ice
But thank God my recovery was so easy. And, like, I hope that when you get yours, like, it's so easy because like we said, everyone has different experiences. What piece of advice can you give anyone watching that has struggled when it came to their health journey?
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James Bola
I mean, at your own time, you know, like, you know when it's gonna be time for you to make that change.
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Alan Ice
And yeah, no establishment that, you know, during this time, your parents were dealing with a lot of things, you know, in their personal life. So, you know, your mom was a huge part of your ambibo. She was a huge part of your upbringing on social media. And, you know, for some time now, she's been absent. She hasn't been seen in your videos. You know, I've seen your post that, like, oh, I do it all for you guys. Almost making it seem like they're not here. And people have a lot of questions, questions. They're confused. And I really want to say I appreciate that you're going to be vulnerable with us to share what we're going to talk about today. Where are your parents now?
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James Bola
Well, my parents are incarcerated. My mom is doing three years in prison and my dad is doing five years in prison. I don't want to, like, put all the blame on my dad because no one is going to make you do anything you don't want to do. My dad would always, like, be around the wrong people and always get, like, get involved with the wrong people. They never had that conversation with us. They never put a title to their, like, job or what they would do. We've always lived, like, comfortable. It was always, like, suspect that something was wrong. There was days where they would go to work and we wouldn't hear from them for a whole day and they would come back home, like, really late. There was moments where we had money and there was moments where we didn't. And there was moments where there is random people knocking at my, at our front door because my dad Owed them money. And yeah, I was very much like.
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Alan Ice
Little stuff here and there that made you question, you know, Ms. Tavas, contando that. That you lived the moment that your house and your parents got raided. Cuenta no poquito de se momento. What were you doing when the cops came to your home? What happened and what did it feel when you saw your parents in handcuffs and just everything go down?
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James Bola
It was actually two days after my graduation, and we were planning my grad party the night before we got raided. It was me, my best friend Chris, my mom, my dad, and my brother, my little brother. And we were writing, like, last minute things we needed for the party, like alcohol and all that stuff. That's what we had planned the next day. It was like around 5 in the morning where my best friend Chris woke me up and he's like, I think the cops are in the front yard. I think they're raiding the neighbor's house. We thought it was the neighbors. And I woke up. And as I wake up, I hear my name, like, through it like a speaker. And they're like, james, come out with your hands in the air. If you don't come out, we're gonna send in people and they're gonna handcuff you. They were saying, like, a whole bunch of stuff that I like, vividly remember. The first thing I did was run to my mom's room. And I'm like, mom, the cops are here. I walk into my mom's room, she's not in there. My dad's not in there. I go to my sister's room, she's not in there. So I go downstairs, and there's just lights flashing in my eyes. There's like guns pointed at me. They're like, come out with your hands in the air. And if you don't come out peacefully, we're gonna send in the dogs. So me and my best friend Chris, we go outside with our hands in the air, and they handcuff us. There's like a white van in front of our house. And I don't see my mom anywhere. I don't see my parents anywhere. And I'm like, what is going on? They're walking us to the front and behind the white van. My parents are right there with my little brother, my brother's little girlfriend. She had just gave birth to my godson. They had her in the cop car. Cause my godson was. He was a newborn and he was a preemie. So they had her in the cop car. And it was like a four Hour process. They were raiding, they were checking the house, they were looking everywhere.
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Alan Ice
At that moment, did you understand what was going on or were you, like, in complete shock? Like, what the fuck is going on? Were they already telling you guys? Like, maybe the charges.
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James Bola
I was already old enough to understand. Like, maybe my parents are now telling me, like, something. But I'm not stupid, you know, like, yeah, I already, like, I already knew, you know, And I was just standing there and it was a five hour process. They were searching the house and they confiscated our phones and it was like a whole, like, ordeal. The neighbors were looking and it was just a whole, like, mess. It was the worst, like, thing that I've ever. Yeah, very like, traumatic. I remember when they were finally done, they put us in our front of our house and they put chairs and we were all sitting there and we were waiting. We were waiting for them to tell us what was going to happen. And they found my dad's safe. And my dad's safe was mounted in the wall, like on the floor, kind of like on the wall, but on the floor too. And they ripped out his safe and they kept telling him, like, give us the code, give us the code to the safe. Give us the code or the key to the safe. And. And my dad's like, there's nothing in there. Like, you're not going to find anything. There's nothing in there. Like, we haven't like, done any, like, anything that, what you guys are looking for, it's not going to be here. We haven't like, touched any of that, like, in years. They're like, we're going to rip out the safe. If you don't tell us the code to the safe, we're going to rip it out. And then my dad's like, rip it out, rip it out. You're not going to find anything. So they ripped it out and they opened the save and there was nothing. There was nothing. I also had a safe in my room where I had like, personal stuff, like personal pictures of like, friends, my godson and all that stuff. And they ripped it open and they didn't find anything. But yeah, after they ripped out the safe, they came out and they told us that they were gonna take my mom and dad.
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Alan Ice
Not you guys though.
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James Bola
No, they didn't take any of us. I was sitting there and I'm like, oh, my God, like, what's gonna happen? I'm like, like, I'm the oldest. I'm like, I'm not the oldest, but at the moment present, I'm the Oldest. Okay, okay. So I'm like, oh, my God, what's gonna happen? And my brother, My little brother starts crying and he starts telling the cops, like, can I please say bye to my parents? And stuff like that. And they were ignoring. They were treating us. Us like criminals too. Like, they. They weren't. They were ignoring my little brother. And I told him, please, like, stop talking to them. They don't care. Like, they're here for one and they didn't find what they were looking for, so they're mad.
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Alan Ice
Was that hard for you in El Centido? You know, you also had to be there for your brothers, but also, like, your parents are getting taken away. You almost had to be like, oh, my God. Even if I, you know, break down right now, I feel like I can't really, because I gotta be strong for my siblings.
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James Bola
I didn't really have like that breakdown moment till I had to make a call, but I was telling my brother, like, you could stop talking. Like, they're not gonna let you say bye. They don't care. Like, you know, there is this one cop that told my brother, it's like, you know what? I care so you can say bye to your parents. So my brother got up and he went and gave my parents hugs. And they took him and they took off the handcuffs and everything. They give us what the. What they were looking for and why they raided the house and they gave us all that. And I walk into the. My mom's house and it's flipped us. Flipped upside down. Like, it's just. It's not a home anymore. I remember sitting at the kitchen table, I'm like, what am I gonna do? Like, at that moment, I'm like, me as like basically like the head of the household now. Like, what am I gonna do? So the first person that I call is my mom's sister. Cause my mom's sister, like, if you need her to find an ex telon.
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Alan Ice
C. FBI.
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James Bola
FBI type. Yeah. I call my mom's sister and I tell her, like, they just raided the house and they took my parents and what do I do? She's like, are you serious? Like, what were they there for? And stuff like that. And my parents, yet in the end, like, that, they didn't like work in that anymore. She was at work. And she's like, okay, give me one second. I'm gonna call you right back. I'm at work. So I'm like, what do I do? Like, my mom's house is like. My parents house is flipped upside down. My sister wasn't there, so she didn't know. My big brother wasn't there, so they didn't know. So the next person I called is my big brother and he's a truck driver, so he was, I think in Arizona. And he couldn't get to the house on time. So it was just me. I was just like, what do I do? Like, who do I call? Like, can I go online? Is my parents information gonna be there already? Like, where are they taking them? They wouldn't. They didn't want to tell us what they were taking them. That day when the house got raided, I remember it was a long day. I was just waiting for my aunt to call me back. And I remember she finally called me back and she's like, call this lawyer. And I called the lawyer and right away he wanted to meet with me and my siblings. And he lived in Palm Springs and we live in the high desert. So hesper, like kind of close to.
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Alan Ice
It's like a two, three hour drive, maybe.
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James Bola
Two, three hour drive. So I'm like, oh my God. We have my. My brother's girlfriend that just gave birth is just me, my little sister, my little brother. And I'm just like, okay. So we all jump in the car, we go to Palm Springs, and we're talking to a lawyer. He tells us like, we're gonna sit here and you guys are gonna hire me to be your lawyer. I need you to be 100% honest with me. Completely honest. Don't leave anything out. And we're sitting there and we're just like, like, you're like. I don't even know if I should trust, like saying like, personal information or like stuff about my parents or like. And I'm just like. I'm like. I'm sitting there and I'm just like, looking at my brothers and sisters. I'm like, what do we do? What do we do? Like, do we talk or do we like, you know, and we finally like, give him some information that he's asking for and. And he's trying to locate my mom and my dad and he finally like locates my mom. And it was, I think on a Friday, so the weekend they're not releasing people anymore. He's like, they're probably gonna release your mom on a bond. He tells us like, you guys have to call a bond agency to get a bond for your mom. And we do that and they get the bond for my mom and stuff like that and that. We went to talk to the lawyer, Saliomi mom, but we had to wait for my dad. For my dad. He spent all the. All weekend in jail and he came out on Monday. They opened up a case on them and they were waiting for them to get sentenced and stuff like that. And it was like a two year long process.
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Alan Ice
What was that like, the waiting of getting them sentenced? You know, what was going on through your head? You know, were you thinking, like, oh, my God, how long are my parents gonna be put away? You know, my God, like, why is this happening to us? Like, what was like, your mindset al esperar the whole trial? And what was your reaction to the final sentencing? Like, did you agree? Did you think they were being unfair? Like, were you grateful that, you know, even though three, five years is a lot of years, you know, when were you grateful? It wasn't 20, 25, you know, what was that whole process?
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James Bola
Like, it was just a long process. It like, really, really drained the family. But it also, like, brought us closer to each other. I've always had, like, that resentment towards my dad. Cause he was always, like, cheating on my mom and like, treating my mom, like, not good. And, you know, we didn't have that father figure. And like, I always had that resentment towards him. And I feel like that situation, like, really opened my eyes. I forgave him in a sense. But it was hard. Like those two years, it was so hard because we didn't know, like, what was gonna happen. Like, my mom's lawyer was so adamant that she was gonna get house arrest. And we already knew my dad was gonna do time. Like, there was no questions about it. But my mom, we had so much hopes that she was gonna do house arrest. And it wasn't like, the day of the sentencing, I remember sitting in the courtroom, listening to the judge talk. And I just felt very zoned out, especially hearing my mom talk up there and seeing my mom up there and like, seeing her, like, plead her case and like, her explaining what her involvement was like with the whole situation and stuff like that. It really, like, broke me because. It really broke me because. I feel like my mom doesn't, like, deserve to be where she's at right now because she never wanted to live that lifestyle. It was always, like, she never wanted to live that lifestyle. She was always telling my dad, like, no, no, no, no, let's not do this. Let's get real jobs. Let's start a business. Let's do something else, you know? And it was always like, my dad, like, involving her, like, in his, like, like little, like whatever he was doing. And. Yeah, it was just so hard to see my mom up there, because I knew. I knew, like, I know she doesn't deserve. Yeah. And I feel like she did it, like, everything, like, out of love. Out of love that she had for, like, my dad and, like, for her family. Like, she would do anything for my dad and for her family. And I feel like toya tengoes like, yes, I forgive my dad, but the oya Tengosi, like, how do you say, like, resentment towards him?
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Alan Ice
We wouldn't be in this situation if you wouldn't have made those decisions, type of thing. Okay. Okay.
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James Bola
Yeah. I don't know.
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Alan Ice
No, I feel like it's very valid, you know? And, you know, noas that your mom met so much means so much to you, and, you know, from having your mom being there physically, from one day to another, you know, she's not there. Both your parents are not there. Estano maso. What was it like? You know, the visiting. Have you gone to visit them? And is it just like, facetimes? Is it just phone calls? What is that like? And, you know, how do you feel in those moments when you get to talk to your parents?
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James Bola
I haven't gone to see them, like, physically, but I do talk to them on the phone. And the first phone call was, like, the hardest. It was so hard to hear my mom, like, in that state. I couldn't believe me hearing her through the phone, like, crying and, like. Cause she would do anything for us. Like, you know, like, all she wanted was for her family to be together and her kids to be together and her husband to love her the way she loved it. She loved him, and, you know, it didn't turn out that way.
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Alan Ice
Do you guys call often?
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James Bola
Yeah, we talk to her almost every day. I mean, I talk to my mom almost every day. Sometimes we do FaceTime. I remember the first time I FaceTimed her. It was just, oh, my God. It was seeing her like, oh, my God, it was so hard.
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Alan Ice
How much time do they have left?
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James Bola
Well, my dad turned himself in July of this year, and my mom turned herself in in August.
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Alan Ice
Three to five years, you know, viamente. I feel like it feels so long from now, but, you know, I hope that, you know, these years feel as long for you and your family. You know, what's one thing that, you know, maybe now you're thinking like, oh, my God, I can't wait to have this moment with my parents. What's something that you look forward to when it comes to, you know, seeing them come out of jail?
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James Bola
The one thing that I look forward to is, like, showing them everything that I've done and, like, everything that I've, like, built. Like, I feel like I'm building something here, and I feel like. Like I'm doing it for them, and I want them to be okay when they come out. So, yeah, that's what I'm most excited.
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Alan Ice
To, you know, quiero tomares de momento. You know, to thank you for being so vulnerable and, you know, for getting on here and really saying your truth and telling your story. Because it can be a bit scary. It can be frightening, especially when, you know, you're talking about your truth and you're telling people who you really are and what you've been through. You know, it is very hard. And I just want to. To say thank you. I also want to say thank you to your siblings, you know, for allowing you to share also that moment that is so connected to them. You know, this has been approved, and I want to say thank you to your siblings. I have something for you, El. I'm going to play something for you, and, you know, I hope it makes you feel proud and happy.
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James Bola
I wish. Wishing nothing but the best. And I know this was her dream being in lmi.
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Alan Ice
And I know, I remember you were.
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James Bola
Little, you would tell me, oh, Mom.
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Alan Ice
I want to be. I want to work in the medical field. And you did it. And now look here for podcast.
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James Bola
And I'm really proud of you. And this feels.
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Alan Ice
Know when I get to see you.
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James Bola
Again when I'm out of here, and I wish you nothing but the best. Know your mom has always been there for you. I love you.
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Alan Ice
What do you have to say about that message from your mom?
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James Bola
I just miss her so much. I wish I could hug her right now.
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Alan Ice
Yeah, I love.
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James Bola
I love her so much.
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Alan Ice
You know, go so quick for you. I feel like also, you know, you're. You're starting your career, your. Your life. I feel like tode pasado muy rapido. Within the last two years. Yes. Pero que, you know, you build yourself up and you work your ass off to where those three, five years don't feel, you know, super long. You know, thank you to your siblings also for allowing this moment to happen for, you know, even reaching out, you know, sabel mented, you know, so thank you so much to your siblings watching, you know, that was a really cute message. That was really sweet. You know, the fact that your mom knows you're here and she supports you and she's happy for you. You, you know, para terminar estete may esta platica. What piece of advice can you give anyone watching who is currently going through any type of similar, who currently has maybe a parent, a sibling, or a loved one in jail and is just going through a hard time to never.
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James Bola
Give up and to always stick with your family. La familias todo. Then, yeah, just stick with your family because they're always going to be with you through thick and thin.
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Alan Ice
Thank you so much.
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James Bola
Thank you so much for having me.
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Alan Ice
Literally allowing us a little bit more into to your heart. You know, James Bola, we know where to go, but it really is special when we get to really see the person behind the creator. Are super, you know, wowed and are super glad for the fact that you've opened up, you know, Cinco die es anos. Career wise, family wise, you know, even maybe health wise.
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James Bola
Anyway, I see myself buying a house for my parents and not telling anyone where we live. I see myself doing it bigger than I'm doing it now, and I see myself thinner.
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Alan Ice
Yes. And I know every meta que the tengas way, whether you're, you know, buying a house, becoming a bigger influencer, and also with your health, you know, complete, because you're driving, your mind will take you places that you would have never thought. Like you said, this moment has been something that you've always have manifested and you've always wanted immigration. You know, he did mention to me, you know, he's had other, you know, podcast opportunities, but you never felt ready to, like, really sit down and let them into your life. And I'm really happy.
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James Bola
Thank you so much for having me. You have no idea how much this means to me.
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Alan Ice
Oh, I love you guys. Had all his links down below as well as on the screen, so you can. Guys can go ahead and follow him so you guys won't miss any future episodes. And with that being said, thank you so much for being here.
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James Bola
Bye, you guys.
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Alan Ice
Thank you guys so much for watching and we'll see you guys in the next one.
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James Bola
Moon.
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Alan Ice
You did so good.
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