Podcast Summary: Noche de Pendejadas with Alannized
Guest: Josie Alesia
Episode: Josie Alesia Talks All: Childhood, Parent's Divorce, Engagement, Chisme & MORE!!
Date: August 29, 2025
Episode Overview
In this heartfelt and unfiltered episode, Alannized welcomes back content creator Josie Alesia for a deep-dive conversation three years after her initial appearance. The pair explore Josie’s journey through her tumultuous childhood, challenges faced during her parents’ divorce, navigating online fame, body image struggles, sibling dynamics, family chisme, and her newly engaged status. Through humor, vulnerability, and a whole lot of chisme, Josie opens up about her evolution, fame, healing, and what’s next.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Podcast Changes and Josie’s Growth
- Alan highlights how much Josie's life and the podcast itself have changed since her last appearance.
"Your interview was what, like 30 minutes?...I feel like our podcast can now go anywhere from an hour to two hours." (01:15)
- Josie discusses feeling more mature and ready to reveal more of her authentic self as compared to her earlier, "ditzy" persona.
"I feel like I'm more mature now. I feel like before I was just like, so ditzy and so yay" (02:28)
2. A Day in Josie’s Life
- Josie shares she's a self-described homebody focused on fitness, content creation, and her fiancé.
"Honestly, I don't do much. I'm just gym. Like, I'm literally just an IE girly. I go to the gym, clean, film at home..." (02:52)
3. K-Pop Fandom & Tattoos
- Reveals her deep love for K-Pop since grade school, BTS concerts, and a BTS lyric tattoo.
"I have K pop lyrics added on my back. It's not a phase." (07:26)
"It says like an echo in the forest, the day will come back around..." (07:55)
4. Childhood, Struggles & Family Dynamics
- Josie recounts growing up with financial hardship, experiences of homelessness, and how her parents worked to shield her from hardship.
"We were homeless for a while. We were sleeping in my parents car and then sleeping at my dad's shop...they made sure that I wasn't aware of anything." (10:20)
- Talks about being spoiled as the first daughter and shares wild childhood stories, including her mom once calling the cops during a tantrum.
"She did. So I'm sitting there looking at the front door while she's yelling at me...Cop gets here, and I'm like, oh, my God, if I run, is he gonna arrest me?" (14:52)
- Expresses how these moments shaped her view on gratitude.
"Just goes to show how spoiled I was." (16:21)
5. Siblings and Relationships
- Josie speaks about her complex sibling dynamics, the closeness that grew from sharing tight living spaces, and classic fights over car seats.
"We had a fat moment where we were close...There was nowhere to go." (25:38)
- Describes her evolving relationship with her sister Tessa, including moments they've grown closer as Tessa matured.
"I think it was when she started doing her makeup...She would ask me, like, oh, should I wear this?" (28:09)
6. Parent-Child Dynamics
- Confides about always being closer to her mom, sharing everything with her, and how her relationship with her father was more distant.
"Growing up, my dad was never really home...I automatically kind of glued to my mom. And...I just, like, looked up to her." (30:01)
- Shares how, with maturity, she learned to appreciate her mother’s strictness and protectiveness, especially after a dangerous early relationship.
"As a kid...He was just like mentally and physically abusive. And she through that. And...my mom was just like, you are going straight to the car after school when I pick you up..." (32:24)
7. Divorce: Upheaval & Responsibility
- Josie details both the lead-up and fallout of her parents' divorce, emphasizing her role in encouraging her mom to leave, stepping up as a provider, and feeling emotionally blindsided.
"I was actually the one who told my mom to leave my dad...I wasn't scared of my dad. I'm like my dad. I like to argue." (38:11)
- Describes the emotional and financial strain, especially as she took responsibility in helping provide for the family.
"Now it literally just rent, bills, and that's all I'm worried about...It made me be like, okay, now I'm...mental age...I'm so much older in my head..." (43:43)
- Josie stopped speaking to her father after the divorce, feeling let down by his lack of prioritization for the children and ongoing drama.
Notable Quote:
“I did stop talking to my dad for a little bit after the divorce because I was just so mad at him. ...you're doing everything but prioritizing your kids...over here trying to take my money, like, as a threat to scare me." (46:05) - Offers heartfelt advice for anyone navigating parental divorce:
"Just don't blame yourself. Honestly, this sounds so corny, but you really do have to just take it day by day. It's not the end of the world." (49:50)
8. School Life, Bullying, and Early Social Media
- Loved school, was academically ambitious but also a target for bullying, particularly over her body developing early.
"I loved school so much. School, I. That was all I looked forward to...I think what was it called? Like, gate...middle school, all honors classes except math..." (53:35)
- Shares the emotional toll of being called names like “Airpod” and being accused of having a boob job in grade school.
“I was...the only one...felt like I was doing stuff on purpose...even to the point in high school...I feel like I'm being a whore just because I have boobs." (58:39)
- Recalls her entry into social media starting in eighth grade, making internet friends, and her transition from fan to influencer.
"I always had a...For, like, the Internet...my eighth grade yearbook, it literally just says, bye, famous Josie. Famous Josie, will you talk to me again?" (62:44)
9. Fame, Family Content, and Realities of Life Online
- Explains the challenges and benefits of family-based social media: authenticity, bonding, but also public scrutiny.
"When you work with other people that aren't your family...with it being my family, it's just like, we're in this together...more authentic..." (73:33)
- Discusses body image struggles, rapid weight gain, and handling public commentary about her appearance.
Notable Quotes:
“I feel like even before I had gained weight, I knew I had...body dysmorphia...Even being so skinny, I was like, 'Oh, I need to go to the gym.'” (76:13)
"I think I got on...birth control...I stopped going to the gym...and just not thinking about how much I was eating...my weight gain, like, boom." (77:29)- Notes how criticism came from all angles and couldn’t win either way.
"There's no winning with it...It was annoying that it was something that was so talked about when it really shouldn't have been." (79:24)
- Notes how criticism came from all angles and couldn’t win either way.
- Offers thoughtful advice for those struggling with body changes:
"Your body is not stuck...At the end of the day, it's about you and how you feel comfortable with yourself." (83:14)
10. Relationship & Engagement
- Reveals her fiancé was found on Hinge after several less-than-ideal dates, describing their bond as instant and natural.
"We met on a dating app, we met on Hinge...The way we were texting, it felt...so natural. Like, I was just like, whoa." (84:40, 86:25)
- Talks about keeping the relationship private, wanting to avoid being a “social media couple product.”
"I was just tired of the, like, 'oh, what are we?'...I had talked to my mom, and she was just like, if you guys like each other, I don't get why you aren't dating." (89:32)
- Explains the rationale behind a private, intimate engagement without online spectacle.
Notable Quote:
"If you were to propose, I want it intimate between us. I think it was perfect for us...We're so opposite, but...we're both socially awkward." (93:32)
11. Future Plans & Aspirations
- Josie hopes to have kids before 30, continue creating content, and simply be happy and healthy.
"I don't have, like, a specific goal for me in that amount of time besides being happy, mentally happy." (100:38)
Notable Quotes & Moments
- On her parent’s divorce and childhood trauma:
- “This is all I knew. Like, even though they wouldn't get along, we would still have our family days. So I was just like, okay, now what?” (41:17)
- On bullying for her appearance:
- "I was just like...in middle school...I felt like I'm being a whore just because I have boobs." (58:39)
- On growing up fast and responsibility:
- "Now it literally just rent, bills, and that's all that I'm worried about...I feel like I'm so much older in my head." (43:43)
- To those dealing with family or body struggles:
- “Just don't blame yourself...you really do have to just take it day by day.” (49:50)
- "Your body is not stuck...it's about you and how you feel comfortable with yourself." (83:14)
Timestamps for Key Segments
- Podcast & Josie’s Growth: 01:15 – 02:28
- K-Pop Obsession: 07:09 – 09:27
- Early Childhood Struggles: 10:20 – 16:21
- Sibling Relationships: 24:38 – 26:56
- Mom/Dad Dynamics: 30:01 – 34:49
- The Divorce & Its Aftermath: 38:11 – 49:50
- Advice on Divorce: 49:50 – 50:23
- Bullying, School & Growing Online: 53:35 – 62:44
- Family Content & Public Scrutiny: 73:33 – 76:13
- Body Image and Advice: 76:13 – 83:14
- Relationship & Engagement: 84:40 – 93:32
- Future Plans: 100:34 – 101:17
Tone & Style
The conversation is casual, candid, emotional, and at times hilarious—fully embracing Spanglish and the playful banter typical of Noche de Pendejadas. Josie is refreshingly honest about family hardships, insecurities, and her evolution out of the spotlight, while Alan brings empathy, humor, and relatability throughout.
For New Listeners
This episode is a deep and authentic look at the realities behind influencer life, Mexican-American family dynamics, and the messy but beautiful process of growing up. Josie’s journey from hardship to healing—and her ability to discuss difficult topics with grace and humor—offers valuable insight and comfort for anyone navigating similar roads.
