Podcast Summary: Noche de Pendejadas with Alannized

Guest: Lourd Asprec

Episode: "Lourd Asprec Talks All: The Philippines, Toxic Household, Coming Out, Breakup, CHISME & MORE!"
Date: September 12, 2025

Episode Overview

This emotional, unfiltered episode of Noche de Pendejadas features viral comedian and content creator Lourd Asprec. Host Alannized invites Lourd to discuss his journey from Manila to Houston, his tumultuous family life, immigrant experience, coming out as gay, online career, toxic relationships, and much more. The conversation, filled with heart, humor, and honest “chisme”, delivers rare insight into the person behind the viral wigs and skits, offering advice to listeners and fellow creators.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Lourd’s Upbringing and Immigrant Journey

[02:34–13:51]

• Childhood in the Philippines:

  • Raised by his grandparents while his mother struggled in the U.S. to give her children a better life.
  • Childhood surrounded by cousins and siblings; strong Filipino family values and culture.
  • Learned respect, manners, chores at an early age.
  • “I was really close with my family to the point where… I didn’t really hang out with like friends outside of school.” – Lourd [03:48]

• Mother’s Sacrifices:

  • His mother migrated to the U.S. for work after discovering Lourd’s father’s infidelity and substance abuse.
  • Opened up about learning the truth as he matured.
  • “She wanted to sacrifice herself for us... I cried when she was talking to me about that.” – Lourd [06:14]

• Reuniting in the U.S.:

  • Describes the anticipation and obstacles of immigration and his emotional reunion in Casper, Wyoming.
  • Major life changes: snow for the first time, language barriers, and leaving his sister and beloved grandparents behind.

• Adjusting to American Culture:

  • Struggled with learning English and adapting to a new way of life and food.
  • Maintained Filipino traditions like Catholicism, though religious routine faded over time due to his stepfather’s indifference.

Family Challenges and Toxic Household

[19:29–38:22]

• Estranged Biological Father:

  • Maintained contact in secret, as his jealous stepfather discouraged his relationship with his dad.
  • Witnessed and intervened in his father's struggles (drug abuse and a suicide attempt).

• Life with Stepfather:

  • Stepfather’s possessiveness, favoritism towards his own kids, and strict, sometimes emotionally abusive rules.
  • Felt unwelcome, forced to hide his identity, and performed chores for validation.
  • “Living in there was like a jail cell—and going to school was my only escape.” – Lourd [33:43]

• Financial Manipulation:

  • Revealed his mother and stepfather covertly used substantial amounts of his influencer income to support the household, even use for car payments and saving for a house without his consent.
  • Felt like a “walking bank”, describing manipulative guilt trips and lack of emotional support.
  • “It hurts me because… it sometimes can be too much. You don’t even ask how I’m doing.” – Lourd [48:57]

• Sibling Responsibility:

  • Immense responsibility for his younger siblings' well-being, orchestrating moves and legal guardianship to protect his sister and give his siblings a better life outside of the toxic household.

• Advice for Listeners in Toxic Environments:

  • “It’s not your fault… With time, it’ll pass… It’s more of like a character development.” – Lourd [34:06]
  • “If you’re in that situation, just be patient and you’ll get there.”

Coming Out, Filipino & LGBTQ+ Identity

[53:36–67:54]

• Discovering His Sexuality:

  • “My gay awakening was strolling through Walmart… seeing the Fruit of the Loom boxers.” – Lourd [53:38]
  • Found freedom expressing himself with his gay uncle in the Philippines.

• Coming Out Story:

  • Came out publicly on Instagram during Pride Month before telling his mother.
  • “If I don’t do it, who’s gonna do it?” – Lourd [56:04]
  • Mom supportive; stepdad denied, minimized, or forced Lourd to hide.
  • Online and at school, encountered both support and significant rejection, notably losing former male friends. Built stronger bonds with a supportive circle.

• Advice to Closeted Listeners:

  • “Come out at your own pace… You don’t have to announce that you’re gay… If people don’t like it for who you are, then fuck them.” – Lourd [66:35]
  • Host reiterates: “There’s nothing wrong with you… Live out your full truth.” – Alannized [67:54]

Social Media Career & Coping with Hate

[71:10–76:20]

• Content Creation Origin:

  • Skits became an emotional escape from his turbulent home; started during COVID with borrowed phones since he didn't have one.
  • “It was a way for me to really escape my stepdad… If I’ve seen a comment saying, ‘oh my gosh, your videos are so funny’, that to me would make me instantly happy.” – Lourd [71:33]

• First Viral Moments:

  • “Spider in the toilet” video and others built an audience craving his creativity.

• Building Community:

  • Describes his fans as a family; finds meaning in helping others struggling with depression.
  • “Growing up, I didn’t really have that. It felt like I had my own family on TikTok.” – Lourd [73:54]

• Handling Hate/Negativity:

  • Learned to focus on positive feedback and ignore haters, even celebrating their attention.
  • “If you don’t have any haters, you’re not doing anything right.” – Lourd [77:02]
  • Refuses to block trolls: “I want you to see me thrive.” – Lourd [77:01]

Love, Breakups, and Healing

[78:46–103:14]

• Breaking Down the Breakup:

  • Discusses his first love: a manipulative partner who exploited him financially and emotionally, including paying for a truck and supporting the ex’s family.
  • “I was breathing life to this man… I didn’t know he was manipulating me and gaslighting me until after I realized everything.” – Lourd [82:40]
  • Details heartache, legal battles, and impact on self-worth.

• Dating Again:

  • Hesitant to open up after trauma; recently met someone new—guarded but hopeful.
  • “If only you knew what I went through, dude…” – Lourd [93:56]

• Relationship Wisdom:

  • “You can’t change a person who sees nothing wrong in their actions. Don’t take it upon yourself.” – Lourd [100:49]
  • Emphasizes self-love and the importance of healing before seeking another relationship.

• Self-Worth Message:

  • “You’re the treasure here. You’re the prize, the main attraction.” – Lourd [102:28]
  • “If a guy don’t like you, well, at least I like myself.” – Alannized [103:08]

Future Dreams & Personal Goals

[104:12–107:21]

• Supporting Siblings:

  • Continues to financially and emotionally support siblings through college and life milestones before planning his own next steps.

• LA Career Ambitions:

  • Aspires to move to LA one day to expand his career, but committed to caring for family first.
  • “You’re the star, not LA. Wherever you go, you’ll flourish.” – Alannized [107:21]

Notable Quotes & Timestamps

• “She wanted to sacrifice herself for us… I cried when she was talking to me about that.” – Lourd [06:14]
• “Living in there was like a jail cell—and going to school was my only escape.” – Lourd [33:43]
• “It’s not your fault… With time, it’ll pass… It’s more of like a character development.” – Lourd [34:06]
• “Come out at your own pace… If people don’t like it for who you are, then fuck them.” – Lourd [66:35]
• “If you don’t have any haters, you’re not doing anything right… I want you to see me thrive.” – Lourd [77:02]
• “I was breathing life to this man. I didn’t know he was manipulating me and gaslighting me…” – Lourd [82:40]
• “You can’t change a person who sees nothing wrong in their actions… Don’t take it upon yourself.” – Lourd [100:49]
• “You’re the treasure here. You’re the prize. You’re the main attraction.” – Lourd [102:28]
• “You’re the star, not LA. Wherever you go, you’ll flourish.” – Alannized [107:21]

Flow & Tone

• The episode is a blend of playful Spanglish banter, heartfelt storytelling, candid vulnerability, and unfiltered insight, true to Alannized’s “chisme” brand.
• Lourd’s warmth, wit, and self-awareness shine through as he balances humor and gravity in sharing hard truths.

Key Timestamps

• [02:34] Lourd starts sharing about his upbringing in Manila
• [06:14] Mother’s reasons for emigrating; discovery of father’s infidelity
• [13:51] Maintaining Filipino culture in the U.S.
• [19:29] Relationship with biological father and stepdad’s possessiveness
• [33:43] Describes home as a “jail cell”; school as refuge
• [34:06] Advice for teens in toxic households
• [48:57] Feels like a “walking bank” for family
• [53:38] “Gay awakening” in Walmart underwear aisle
• [56:04] Coming out publicly before telling family
• [66:35] Advice to LGBTQ+ youth about coming out
• [71:33] Skits as emotional escape and start of TikTok
• [73:54] Building a supportive online “family”
• [77:02] Not blocking haters: “I want you to see me thrive”
• [82:40] Details of toxic relationship/breakup
• [100:49] Post-breakup advice: “You can’t change a person who sees nothing wrong in their actions”
• [102:28] On self-worth after heartbreak

Conclusion

This episode provides a powerful and intimate look at the realities behind an internet persona. Lourd Asprec’s story is one of resilience, self-discovery, and the power of loving oneself and others despite adversity. His journey from Manila to Houston—through family trauma, coming out, social media stardom, and heartache—offers wisdom and comfort for anyone facing similar battles, all delivered with the signature humor and candor of Noche de Pendejadas.