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What is up everyone? I'm your host, Alan Ice and this is Noche de Pendejadas, your favorite podcaster and talk show. And on the Yotrago a tus personitas. So without any further ado, please help me welcome my guest tonight. Melody, How has your week been? I know you've been traveling and you got back home. What has Melody been up to? What has your day been like? Quintanos.
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Okay, so I just got back from Monterrey yesterday. I was in Monterrey with my family and the twins for like a week and we drove back. Cuz I don't have the baby's passports yet but I'mma get it, they're barely four months. So I got back like around 6pm and then I had a flight to come here like at 5am so. So I was just taking care of the twins and feeding them. So I was very tired. But I did get to nap. So I'm very recharged for this podcast which I'm so excited to be on by the way.
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What time did you guys lounge in LA?
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8:30, but like it's two hours back here. So like we left 7:29 over there and then landed 8:30.
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Did you guys have any like problems checking in? Okay, that was a good thing because I always. You know what's so good about that hotel that I always book my guests in whenever I go on vacation or whenever I check into hotels?
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No credit card?
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No, not even that. The check in after three. Oh yes, yes, that's What I thought you guys were gonna have a problem with. That's why I was like,
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I caught as soon as I landed because I was so tired. I caught and I'm like, can we please check it out? He's like, yeah, you come at 10. And I'm like, perfect.
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No. You know what's so funny, you guys? Okay. But it was funny because originally I had texted you and I was like, you know what? Well, I had texted both of y' all and I was like, okay, let's go ahead and start with Andy first. How long do you take to get ready?
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Like two hours max, literally.
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Because I know she takes like as much as me. I was like, you know what, maybe she's going to be like jet lagged. Maybe she's going to be like checking in and then on top of that having to get ready. No, you got to.
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But I was actually on time.
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Yeah, you were actually. You were very, very much on time. Even earlier.
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We got to the hotel like around maybe 11. Yeah, like 11 in the morning. And then we ordered food and we went to sleep. So at 3pm I got up, showered, and I just started getting ready, period. Hi guys. My name is Melody, also known as CM Femelody on all platforms. And I do social media content like Mukbangs because I'm vegetarian. I do like vegetarian cooking videos. Mukbangs. I recently just had twins, so I started posting a little bit content at that. I go to the gym and I do a lot of content with my best friend Andy. I know y' all see our duo page. We do like a lot of dancing videos and stuff like that.
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Wait, I didn't even know you were vegetarian.
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How long? It's been five years.
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How did that start?
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Okay, so actually it started because I'm Mexican, right? So like I used to live in Mexico for like seven years. And you know Mexicans, they eat like barbacoa tacos and all of that. So I used to eat a lot of that. And then I remember one time like Merden, I don't know, tacos. And I was eating them good as. And I went to sleep. I was 12 and bro, literally like in the middle of the night, like my stomach, stomach was hurting, but it wasn't like that I gotta use the restroom type of her. Like it felt like a stomach bug.
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Yeah.
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So I went to the doctor like at seven in the morning and I went. The doctor was like, ah. Or like a stomach. No, but I was. I'm 12 years old, so I'm like What do you mean? And she's like. He was like, oh, no. It's actually very common when you eat meat, bro. Since then, I'm like, y' all got that?
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Wait, did you turn vegetarian?
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Well, no, no, no. My sister, she's vegan.
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Okay.
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So, like, we both were vegetarian at that time, and then she went full, like, fully vegan. But I stopped eating beef. I still kept eating chicken. I stopped eating, like, meat fully in 2021, in July, because the same thing happened to me with some chicken tacos. So I'm like, I'm not about to go through this again because you throw up so much. And when the doctor told me, like, it's very normal when you eat meat like that, you can get sick, I'm like, I don't ever want to do this again. Like, I'm just traumatized.
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Imagine myself doing that. Girl, do you ever miss, like, me? Like. Like, you never see, like, your friends out. When you guys are out in the restaurant, you're like, damn it, say pinchi. And this is touching on pinchita.
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I never really liked beef anyways. Like, chicken, I did. But after a while, like, you train your body, it doesn't crave it anymore.
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Okay, okay.
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So you're just kind of like, is
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that different from, like, seafood? Because that's like, what, like a pack of steak?
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I never like pescatarian, but no, I never like seafood. I used to eat, like, tuna, but not really,
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Because I really do feel like to get to know someone or to really understand who they are,
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I think so.
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So I want to go ahead and start with your childhood, Melody. Growing up. Where did you grow up? How would you describe your personality?
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Okay, so I was actually born in Houston, Texas, but I was literally just born here to have papers. My mom had me here, gave birth to me when I hear in Houston, Texas. And then we went to Monterrey right away because our whole family lives over there. So I lived in Monterrey up until I was seven years old, and I went to school over there for, like, a year or two because I think you only do, like, pre kinder, right? I had already got so, like, used to being in Mexic. I only knew Spanish. I would be with, like, my grandma, my tias, and my mom used to work. So one day she's just like, oh. Because my dad used to live in Houston, right? And I was like, okay, we had a house over there, but we also had a house in Houston. So I was like, okay, like, let's go. And literally, I kid you not, guys, not even trying to trauma Dumb. She left me in the US and she left to Monterrey. Yes.
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Okay.
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Like her. But like, I was so attached to my mom and I was only 7, so I'm like, okay, like, I don't mind going to a different country because I'm coming with you. But she just left me. Like, she basically was like, okay, yummy boy. And I was like, okay, well, I'm coming with you. She was like, no, like, you have to go to school here. And I was like, no. Like, I don't know English. Like, I'm scared. Like, I don't want to. And obviously I was with my dad, so it was okay. But it's like I wanted both of my parents with me, you know? So I'm like, okay. She was like, no, like, you're just gonna go to school, like, everything's gonna be fine. And then all the breaks and summers, you're gonna be with me. That's literally what happened. So I came to the US and I didn't learn English until, like, I was in fourth or fifth grade is when I started understanding it. But I didn't speak it fluently till I was in seventh grade.
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Okay.
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Because I always had an accent. And like, you know, people make fun of you when you don't really.
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Was that hard for you?
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Yeah, Like, I would be in the Spanish classes up until, like, fourth grade. You know, you. You're around people that speak Spanish, but then when you're about to finish elementary, they're like, oh, well, you need to know English for middle school.
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Like, is that ELD classes over there?
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Something like that, Yeah. I didn't know English and I was like, I don't think I'm ever gonna learn this language because it. Look, it just. Just. It was so hard. But I eventually learned it. And yeah, like, I speak both fluently now. But yeah, it was very hard because I did not like the US at all. I was so used to being in Mexico with my family because Mexico is very family orientated. And here it was just like, I've always seen Houston as like, work, school and work. And I was very smart, like straight A's, honor roll, always. I even graduated with like a 4.2 GPA in high school. Like, I've always been very about school. Yeah.
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What was like your typical day in Mexico before you came to the States?
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I remember I did go to school. It was like pre K or something. I would wake, then my grandma would make me breakfast. Like, migas. She used to always make me that. And my mom would buy me Like a humix and like, you know, like little snacks. And then I would take a bus to go to school. So I would go to the bus and I would go and it was like so cute, you know, I was like, I have the perfect life. And then she's like, okay, we're going to go to Houston now. And I'm like, it's like everybody in Houston was just so rude and mean. Like I don't know, the energy is so different in Mexico. I feel like everyone's so family oriented, homie vibes. And then you come to Houston, everybody's like, like mamon. Yes, literally, like yes, literally. They're very like that. And then it'd be your own people judging you because you don't speak English. And to me that's always been very weird because I'm like, yeah, because I
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feel like Mexico, it's like. And like, like you're safe, Old. What did you feel? Did you have a relationship good at that point with your dad?
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It's really weird because I grew up thinking this was normal. Like I thought it was normal for my mom to live in Mexico and my dad to live here. But I now as an adult, like I see they were doing it cuz they wanted to give me a better life. It just kind of sucked cuz I was already so accustomed to being in Monterrey. But she never really left me. Like she left me here for school. But every summer, Christmas, every holiday, even birthday, she will come pick me up and we'll go spend it over there. So literally my whole life growing up has always been Monterrey, Houston, Monterey. Houston. And like now I've always gotten told this growing up, how do you go to Monterrey? Like it's been Pelly Rosso, it's so dangerous. But it's like that's my home, like that's my.
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It's like a very like narco city, right?
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Yeah, well, I don't really know about that stuff but like people just naturally say that about Mexico, period. They're like always so dangerous. But like, like it's been like that my whole life. So me personally, I don't see it like that, you know, like you were saying, like of course, you know,
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in the most secure place. So you know you're going back and forth. That first time that your mom left you with your dad, during that whole time, did you ever at the time before understanding why your parents were doing what they were doing, did you ever like hold any like grudge, like oh my God, like why would my mom do this? Like I Want to be, be back in Mexico with her. Like, I don't care the reason or the why or the buds. Did you ever have any resentment growing up?
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So, yes, actually, my mom left me and like, I remember I begged and I cried and I'm like, please, I don't want to be here. Like I want to be with you. You know, kids are always attached to their mothers. But she left and then I was with my dad, which is cool. Like I love my dad, but you know, you're. I'm a mommy's girl. Like I love my mom eventually, like she was just like, just do really good in school. She's very disciplined. So I was always very like that. Like, okay, like if I get good grades, like she's going to be proud of me and this and that. And this is going to sound weird to say, but even though my mom lived in Mexico, I was closer to her than I was to my dad.
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Really?
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Because my dad was a very transactional dad. You're hungry? Doordash. He gave me and my sister like a chase card when we're like 13. And I. I used to be emo. Like I used to be into like rock bands and all of that. So we used to go to Hot Topic and I used to just be like, oh my. Like, so I could buy like a shirt, like little stuff. And he was very like that. And my mom was more like, even though she wasn't here, like she was very attentive. She would call me mean.
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Like more emotional.
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Yes, more emotional. And my dad was more like here, here, here, you know?
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Would you ever take advantage of that as an adult?
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Yes. Cuz I feel like when I was little, like it just seemed normal to me. But it does affect when you don't have like an emotional relationship. But this got all fixed. I do want to say, like, I did resent my mom for years. I used to be really mean to her. Like I used to resent her, you know. And then I think when I was like 15 or 16, my mom moved with us when I started high school and her and my dad like separated. And then my mom started living here fully. That's when I really realized our relationship was so we would argue every single day at the house. Like it was so bad. We were arguing every day. Like it was very toxic, you know. And me and my dad didn't really talk. Like I would talk to him from here and there. But like I said, he was a very transactional parent and I resented my mom for what she did. So I would just do whatever I wanted. But I was always very, like, still smart, doing what I had to do. Like, so they kind of didn't care, you know, they were like, as long as you're good, like in a good track, like, we're good. And my sister too. I have an older sister which is five years older than me. And I was very close to her because I feel like she's the only other person that experienced what I did.
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She came?
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Yes, she was 12 because she's five years older than me, you know, So I feel like it was a little bit. Well, I don't know. It impacted us differently though, for sure.
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You know, you start going back and forth from the States to Mexico from 7 and then at 15, You know, like, we're finally going to be together, like full time. Do you remember how you got told the news? And then how long, long after did your parents divorce?
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When I was about to be 15, you know, I had a quintanara and everything. You know, every Mexican does. I had two quintaneras, by the way. I had one in Mexico and one here, but yeah, it was always back and forth. And my mom, one day, she's like, okay, well, like, you know, you've always wanted to come to Monterrey with us, so let's go. But I had a boyfriend, so I was like, no. Like, I'm not leaving my man to go all little. I was all little. But, like, I had someone I was like, dating. So I was like, no, like, that's not fair. Like, I'm not going to break up with them just because now.
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That was your whole world.
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Yeah. I was like, now you want to, like, take me. Like, I don't want that no more. And I'm like, plus, I'm building something here. Like, I have friends. I have really good grades. Like, I was all into college already. Like, I went to a school that was very like, college prep. I was like, no. She was like, okay, well, if you don't come, Imma move here. So she comes. And then like, I don't really know her and my dad's relationship. Like, they were still together this whole time, even though they lived in different countries. But it obviously didn't work out. They broke up. But they were. I will say this, they never argued in front of me. They were never toxic. And I never really felt the separation. They've always been about me and my sister, which I feel like it's hard. There's a lot of people that have, like, friends that I've had that if Their parents get divorced, they start being petty or there's toxic and arguments. Luckily, I never experienced that. You know, my sister was about to go to college cuz she graduated. So I think that's why she came because she was like, I don't want to leave you with your dad by yourself because I feel like you're going to fall off track, you know. So she was like, I have to come and be here with you. So I resented her for years, bro. Like, I'll be so mad at her. I'm like, how are you going to tell me what to do if you left me and this and that. But she always looked out for me. She was the only one taking me to school, buying me stuff, like when I needed stuff. And as an adult now, and now that I have kids, I see that, you know, like she was just trying to do her best work and take care of us. So we did start going to therapy when I was like 18 years old, I went to therapy, like family therapy for me, my sister, my mom and my dad. And now we're like really, really close. So I definitely think therapy is crucial within, you know, if you grew up in a toxic household. Because I love my mom, she's literally the best. I don't judge her at all. She's. Close your eyes, exhale. Feel your body relax and let go of whatever you're carrying today. Well, I'm letting go of the worry that I wouldn't get my new contacts in time for this class. I got them delivered free from 1-800-contacts. Oh my gosh, they're so fast. And breathe. Oh, sorry. I almost couldn't breathe when I saw the discount they gave me on my first order. Oh, sorry. Namaste. Visit 1-800-contacts.com today to save on your first order.
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Literally, like such an amazing woman. She's been through a lot and she pulled through it all, you know. And same with my dad. Like, you know, they were just doing their best because it's their first time living too. So, yeah, like to me, therapy was very important because now I'm very close to her. I got close to my dad. You know, eventually me and my sister told him, like, we want to have an emotional relationship with you too. Not just transactional. Because I remember one time he called my sister, he was like, like melody. And my sister was like, well, that's how you would do, you know, you would just be like, here, here.
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That's how, you know, you train her like that.
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So it's like. But it's not like that anymore, you know, now it's like, whatever he wants. And we'll go out to eat from here and there, you know, like, we're very close.
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Did their divorce or separation affect you emotionally at that time? Because, you know, To my mind, you're like, oh, my God, we're going to be a happy family. Like, oh, my God, everything I ever wanted. Things aren't working. Me and your dad are gonna go our separate ways. How did that, in that point in time, affect you growing up?
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Well, actually, I'm the one that told her to leave my dad. So it wasn't like a shocker, you know, I just felt like she came over here and they had things that they didn't agree with. I'm not gonna say, like, somebody was right and the other person was wrong. Like, you know, you just. I would see her, like, in pain and I'm like, maybe you should just leave him. You know, like, she was like, I don't wanna leave him because of you. And I'm like, I'm gonna be okay as long as you're okay. So it didn't really hit me. I just kind of wanted both of them to be happy, to be better parents for me. But I also never really grew up, like, as a family, because we had that when we were Monterrey, like, the four of us. But when he moved here and it was a whole back and forth, it never felt like that. Like, I would be with my dad for school and then my mom for Christmas and everything. So it was very weird because I literally thought it was normal. And it's not normal at all, actually.
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Did that affect the way you grew up in the sense of, like, you know what? This is, I think, a normal relationship. Most relationships with work like this. And did you ever have a moment where, like, oh, you know what? What? I'm seen as normal? Is it really normal to, like, everyone else?
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Yeah. So I started noticing because I've always been really good at having friends. You know, I'm so grateful for all my friends. But literally, like, I remember it would be like Christmas or Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving is a perfect example. Mexicans don't celebrate Thanksgiving. That's not a thing in Monterrey. So when I first heard of Thanksgiving, I'm like, queso, you know? And everybody's like, what do you mean? You don't know what that is? And it's like, oh, it's the last Thursday of November. Like, we cook turkey and this and that. But my family doesn't do that because that's not a Thing. Ye. Yeah. So that's when I asked my dad, I'm like, what's Thanksgiving? She's like, oh, cuz my dad's brothers do live here, but we're not close to them. Like I'm closer to my mom's family. They raised me. So I remember we would go for Thanksgiving break to Mexico, but I always just saw it as a regular break. So I remember I went back and I was like, well, I want to celebrate Thanksgiving. And she was like, okay, well we'll just cook you like tamales and stuff. You know, they didn't even make turkey. It was.
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Yeah.
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They're so loving. I love them so much. But I remember there will be times where I'm like, damn, like I want to celebrate Thanksgiving here in the US So I would always go to Andy's house. House when I was like older, you know. Every time there's like events like that, I usually go to his family or like other people's families because my family's not here. That's when I really started noticing, you know, it is kind of weird that my family's not here. And if I do want to get that family feeling, I have to leave. Yeah, to Monterrey. That's the only thing. Or when I started noticing it.
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Do you feel like as a first gen with that, do you think that came with a lot of pressures of like succeeding? Like you saw your parents relationships and their sacrifices growing up where you in your head you're like, you know what? Nothing to like really get my shit together, succeed in Los Cuentas, that you were really good in school. How do you think those pressures showed up in your life? Did your parents constantly pressure you or was that something that, you know what I have to make everything my parents are doing. My little.
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I saw my mom work a lot, you know, she was very hard working woman. We obviously didn't come from a lot of money, but my mom always found a way, like she always figured it out. Everything I wanted, she would find a way to get it. You know, she wouldn't spoil me obviously, because she'd be like, I remember when I was in high school I really wanted to join the dance team. And every time you're a dance, it's really expensive. And I remember they were like, oh, you need like a thousand dollars for like your starter kit. I auditioned and I remember I told them I was gonna audition and they were like. And I'm like it, I'll call my dad. And I'm like, I need a thousand dollars dollars. And he Was like, like, you know, cuz he's like, how are you gonna go from asking me for $40 to like a thousand? I've always been very blunt. Like if I want a certain amount of money, I just ask with him. And I honestly, I don't know if it's a good or bad thing to have because I do this with like, I'm very like, I don't give a. But I think it's my dad's fault. Why? Because he would just be like, well, what do you want? What do you need? And I'd be like, okay, well I need a thousand dollars. So I talked to my parents and they were like, we're gonna figure it out. You just go audition and like do your best. So I went hoping you didn't make it. Yeah, we're not even going to need to word. But I did, I made the team. And I'm like, okay, Well I need $1,000. But they did offer fundraisers and everything. So I used to sell like chips and candy in school. So I basically made most of the money. They put in the rest. So like I said, we always figure it out. It was never a no. It was just like, well, we don't have it, but we can get it. I do have that mentality of like, you may not have it right now, but you're going to get it. And I see life that with everything. My parents just wanted me to go to college and graduated. That's all they wanted for me. My sister graduated, my mom graduated. Everybody in my family has a degree except me. I dropped out. Out at two years because I was more focused on like making money. Like I want financial freedom for us. I don't want us to work. Like I want to have money just to be at home and be present with my kids and my family and build like a family that's not like basically I don't want to be back and forth. Yeah, like how she was, you know, there's nothing wrong with that. But I want to do things different. Same with my daughters, you know, like right now they'll always be with my mom or their dad or like a family member. But I do want the financial freedom to be present at home with them.
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You know, I feel like that should always be the goal, to be able to work smarter, not harder. What was it like for you? You know, you have this pressure of your parents growing up always telling you like, What was it like when you're like, you know what, I'm dropping out, I'm no longer wanting to pursue my education. Como selo de heistes. How did they react?
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Like I said, I like school. I love school. I was very smart. I enjoy doing homework, like actually. And I was always like in. In dance and step team. And I had a job. I used to work. I used to be a hostess at Doc Coffee shop. And I was always. I literally just worked there just to get my nails done, to have money to go out with like my friends, you know, like little stuff. Everything really changed for me cuz I was class of 2020. Y' all know, 2020 was co. Co. Yeah. That everything up for me. Like I was. Was so ready to go leave the state to go to university. Like bros, literally. And the university I was going to go to, they were like, everybody got this. You can go, but all your classes are going to be online. And I'm like, what am I paying all this money for if we're just going to do it through a computer? So I'm like, I'm just going to go to U of H, University of Houston, main campus in Houston. So I applied for Bauer, which is their business school, which is really good. Got rejected 14 times, but I got in the 15th time because my SAT score, I think I had like an 1100 and I needed like a 1350. But I'm like, they canceled. Canceled my retest because of COVID So I don't know what you want me to do. Like, they're not offering a retest. So I was really bugging them because I'm like, I'm not gonna get off track. Like I'm just gonna go to college. I don't give a. Like, I have to. Like my mom, everybody, you know, everyone's depending on, like, everyone wants me to go to Harvard. And I always say this because I do want to go to Harvard eventually. What did. But yeah, you know, that's for like your. What do you say? Your masters.
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Yeah.
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I told her, I was like, well, I'm gonna go to U of H. And my mom was like, like, you know how Hispanics are. They'd be like. And my sister, like, they all caught it. They were like, she's not gonna finish. Cuz they knew, like, I like school, but I was also very smart worker and a hard worker. And everybody in my family is a hard worker. So I work hard, but I like both.
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During that time, did you want to prove them wrong? Like, no, they're. They're thinking I'm gonna quit or fail.
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I was trying to prove them wrong because even all my teachers I used to take AP classes. They would see that I was the type of student that if I had like an 89 I would go up there and be like how can we get this to an id?
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Okay, okay.
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And they're like melody, you can't do this. Like this is not gonna work in college. I'm like I don't care, like what am I gonna do?
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But it's gonna work.
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Right now I'm like you need a research paper. And eventually they would always be like okay. You know, like I'm very convincing. I negotiate everything. You should negotiate everything in life. Literally just ask. The worst thing that can happen is people tell you no. That's when I kind of started realizing I want to be an entrepreneur and a business owner because I enjoy negotiating and talking about people and making money. So I'm like I'm going to go to school for that. I went to school for business and I wanted to prove them so bad cuz they were like. But I'm like yes I am. I promise. So I went to college. I went to U of H. I went for like two years but I had to pay my own school because I don't know, like my dad was having financial problems and my mom obviously wasn't making enough to afford school. I think each class was like $2,000. So I started working at the club. I became a bottle girl at 19 and I was making so much money so I was a full time bottle girl, full time college student. I used to work at Vape City. You know that.
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Is that like smoke shop?
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Yeah, it was when like vapes weren't really that in. This was back in like 2020 when
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they were barely coming up to be.
B
So I started working there and then I was working two jobs and in school like I was really hustling and I'm like everybody like I'm going prove everybody wrong. Like I'm a finish. But then I got so deep into the night life cuz I was making so much money that I'm like why am I going to college? Like I'm going just save up money and start business. So I think I, I finished the first semester and second semester I didn't go back. I was like I'm going to take a, a gap year. Don't do that. If you take a gap year the chances of you going back are very very low. Like you're probably not going to go back. I remember I wanted a car. I didn't start driving till I was 19 cuz in Mexico like your Husband drives you everywhere. So my mom, I want to work. Like I want to get this and I want to get that. I ended up buying a cash car the first month that I worked at the club for like seven, eight thousand. Yeah, it's good money. I think it was like $8,000 dollars. So the first month working there, I was working like at a hookah lounge. First I was a cocktail waitress and I was just hustling bro. It was like me and two other girls and I was the youngest one, they were like 25, 27. I was 19 and I had a plan. I was like, I'm gonna buy a car and I'm a dip. But then it's like, you get the car. I'm like, oh, and I want this now. I want that and this, this and that. So then I just started saving money. But while I was at the club, you know, there's a lot of people I got a lot of hate for working at the club, obviously because people are like, why are you there? Like you're wearing these Family or like from friends? Well, I want to say like friends. Yeah, my family members too. Cuz both of my grandparents passed away in 2020. Right. I feel like I didn't feel comfortable working there until she passed away. Cuz I would have never done that if she was alive. She been like, you know what I mean? Like. So I was like, yeah, I'm not going to do that. So after I think her death too really me up a lot. Like you know how everyone's like, oh, my biggest fear is my grandma dying.
A
Yeah, like you were not the same after that.
B
No, hell no. Like I, I was so depressed and I was drinking every day. Like I was so bad, bro. Like I was just doing the most. This is how I started working at the club by the way. I was drinking a lot every day with my friends, trying to forget like how hurt I was. But then I remember I went to the club one time and I was sober and I was just looking at everybody and I'm like bro, like this is such a waste. Like I'm literally getting drunk for no reason. Like cuz I'm like heartbroken. And then I seen a bottle girl and she's like, she looks so pretty. And I was like, oh. And she was like, do you need anything? And I'm like, yeah. I was like, are you hiring? And I didn't tell nobody I was gonna apply. I was just like, are you hiring? She was like, yeah. She was like, come with me. So she took me to the manager, she was like, come tomorrow for an interview. So there was a friend that I had at the time who I was really close to. His name is Miguel, Rest in peace. He passed away. But like he was one of the person that I used to always vent to. And we're like, oh yeah, we're gonna get money together. We're gonna do this and that, you know. So he drove me to the interview. Like me and him went. And I'm like, wait for me outside. So I pull up and. And these girls are all pretty extensions. Bbls A little bit, yeah. But then I'm like, you're gonna be drinking a lot, you might as well get paid to drink. So I put up, I got the job and I was like, okay, period. I was like it, like I'm do it. So that's when I started working. And honestly after that, like all I was worried about was making money about
A
that, you know, Because I do know that, you know, the nightlife, especially for girls that are in that nightlife, you know, atmosphere, environment, it can become a little toxic, you know, Especially you know, ye gaztula nueva bonita on the block. What was that like? You know, what was that environment like for you? Do you feel like it got chaotic? You know, do you feel like it got petty? If so how?
B
My goal in the nightlife was always to be more. So I started as a cocktail waitress at a hookah lounge. They didn't want to put me in the club cause I wasn't 21. Eventually they let me in anyways. So I was always just. Just focus on my work ethic, getting money and don't the customers Because a lot of women do this and it's okay, like to each their own. But I was not on that. Like a lot of women will see how many spenders go to you and they get jealous because they're like, I want that. So they start him, they get the bag for like a week and then he drops you for another. So that obviously because they want new.
A
Yeah,
B
they're gonna look.
A
Because men are men.
B
Yes, they're lustful. Like I did have friends that like camera came, got a man and left. You know, they came and got a husband for the most part. A lot of women would just, you know, they like getting tricked on and they just like to each their own, like I said. But me, I didn't want that. I was like, this is not gonna be my forever. I just need like a quick come up money until I can start a business, until I figure myself out. I Did this for what, for like, two years? At 21, I opened up my own promo team, so I had my own bottle girls, my own bartenders, and a lot of my friends supported me. So, yeah, I think our first night did really good. And I partnered up with, like, two other people. People. But, yeah, I will say you only get in drama if you are like, a man or something or like you're taking someone's man or someone's husband. Like, then, yes, but for the most part, everybody was very sweet. But that is the thing, though. Like, it's like, oh, another batter person comes in, they get a bbo or they're blonde, or literally, it's the little things that you wouldn't even think. So I feel like being in that environment kind of makes you, oh, I want to get my boobs done. Oh, I want to get my body done. Oh, I want to do this. Which is fine. You know, there's nothing wrong with that, but I can see how it can with people's head, you know, especially being that young. I do recommend for you to be at least 21 when you go into the nightlife, because you can get sidetracked very easily. You know, there's nothing wrong with getting your body done or nothing like that. I just want to make sure y' all do it for the right reasons. Don't do it for a man or because you want to look better than someone. Most of these customers that go see you, they'll like you today, and then they're gonna want somebody else tomorrow. And then you're gonna look at yourself and be like, like, why did I do that? You know?
A
So am I not enough?
B
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And it's never that. So make sure you do it for you. I think the only thing that really affected me is that I was overly drinking. Like, I was overly doing it. And my parents literally sat me down like, two, three times and were like, you need to stop drinking or you need to quit. Cuz I was too young, you know, so those customers. Yeah, cuz take a shot, you make more money that way. They'll be like, I'll buy another bottle if you take a shot with me. Or they be like, I'll tip you 100 if you take a shot with me, period. And I'm like, it. Yeah. I'll be like, it. Yeah. Very dangerous. Don't do that.
A
The nightlife can sometimes get out of control and crazy, especially when people are drinking and they can't handle their liquor. What do you feel like was the craziest customer interaction you had?
B
Well, something that would happen a lot is like a lot of people get drunk and just start fighting. They start shooting outside. Like they just want to feel bigger than everybody. Obviously it never happened like inside, but fights were very common. Or like, I don't know, like a lot of people will pull up with other people's husbands or baby daddies and it will be like a whole thing.
A
It's like, would you get scared during those times?
B
No, because it's very like, I don't know, like, I guess it's normalized. But I think that's the only bad thing I will say though. One time this girl just got a whole like, attack at the club. I don't know if it was the lights were her up. She got like a.
A
Like an episode.
B
I don't know if it was like a panic attack or something. Like white stuff was coming out her mouth and like the ambulance had to come, so they came and picked her up. She was fine afterwards, but it was because of the lights. So I got scared because I was like, I didn't even know it was possible for this to happen. Like, I was like, oh my God. Like, this isn't even my club and I'm already bricks after that.
A
Do you feel like once you quit school because you wanted to pursue and you were making all this money, did your parents kind of were like, no.
B
Like when I started making money because I didn't know how I was gonna do it, you know, My mom was like, once she started seeing how much money I was coming in because obviously I would help her. I will help around the house. My dad wasn't making as much, so we were kind of living off my money. She was like, okay, like, you'll see. Like, I know you can make it happen, you know, But I didn't want to do forever. I was like, no, like, I'm gonna start a business and this and that. And my mom has always been my number one supporter. So she was like, okay. So I started my own promo team, which is why I started working at the club too. Because I always wanted to be a business owner. And I'm like, I'm gonna just open up a club. Cuz Houston is really good money for the nightlife. If you're from Houston, then you know, you know. And like, I'm so grateful for everybody I met and everything that I experienced because it taught me a lot. I started my promo team, I quit and I was like, I don't know what I'm gonna do. I'm Gonna figure it out. And then I. And the opportunity presented itself to me and we did really good the first time. And then it kind of started going down because the business partners I feel like I was with weren't the best. You know, like, we all started together and they left it all to me. And I'm like, dude, I'm 21. Y' all are like 30.
A
Yeah.
B
And I'm competing with 34 year olds. Like, I remember Houston has Washington Avenue, which is dead now, but it used to be really popping back then. And it was like all these bars and clubs. And I had the location. I'm not gonna say the name, but I had a location. It was like a pink bar. I started there by myself without them, and it was doing really good. Andy was bartending for me. Like, my friends were bottle servicing for me. Like, it was going so good, but obviously they were doing better, you know, Like, I think the most I made in one, I was like 15,000 in
A
one hour or one?
B
No, no, it's like four hours, like, but obviously they're used to making like 15,000 an hour. So they're making like hella bread.
A
That's crazy.
B
But to me, I don't compare myself to other people. You know, I was like, every night I had a minimum. Once you meet that minimum, you get your check. I was doing really good, but I was also doing it alone. So I wanted to grow. But I feel like that avenue was so competitive. There was literally other business owners who came to the owner that hired me and was like, how are you going to hire her and you're not going to hire me? I can offer you four times what she's making. So that's basically what happened. So more people started coming into the venue I was at, and I was like, I don't care. Like, that's not my problem. You do you, I'mma do me. But obviously, if you're used to making more money, they're going to go with whoever making more money. So they. I think the last month they ended up not paying us. They still owe me a lot of money to this day, but they went broke because they weren't able to pay other people. And that kind of discouraged me because I feel like, damn, I gave everything up. And I worked so hard for this. And my workers too, like my bartenders and bottle girls, like, they didn't get paid for their last check. So I felt bad. I don't know, I was like, I failed basically, you know, And I was like, it. Like it wasn't My fault. Like, I tried my best. Like I'm just get off the scene. So I got out of that area because it was very competitive. I don't know why Hispanics are like this. I feel like, like we would make more money if we just collaborated instead of always trying to be better, you know. So I got at the scene and I started working with someone else and I made all the money back. And even more so I feel like it paid off. It did teach me a lot. You know, I eventually do want to go back to the nightlife, open up my own club again, or my promo team again. Cuz I basically just started doing private events, you know, like private bartending, private bottle service and stuff like that. After that, I was just like, I'm going just take a break from the night life. Cuz we lost a lot of money. There's always five guys. There's so much competition. So I'm like, I'm gonna just take a break and just do something else.
A
I feel like you did for being so young when you started it. I feel like you did a good job because I feel like, you know, first of all, I feel like Esun mundo very dominated by men to start
B
off with a big thing too. Yeah.
A
About you in school. Conosistes Enla. You know, your best friend Andy. You guys met in high school. Are you like, oh, that's why I met. So I want to know all about that. What was your first impression? Who made the first friend move?
B
I actually love talking about this and if y' all watch us and y' all know. But when I was a freshman in high school, I had this friend named Aaliyah, right? She was like my best friend through like elementary. And we kind of fell off in middle school school because we went different schools. But she came to my high school again. So we were hanging out and one day she was like, just go out with us. And I was very shy. Like I was insecure about my body and I just wasn't as comfortable, you know. And I had just learned English in seventh grade, so I was like, not as talkative with people that didn't know Spanish. So one time she was like, oh, let's go out. And I was like, okay, bet. So we go out and I get in this truck and it's like, Andy's there, right? But I'm not really thinking anything of it, mind you. I was not on social media back then. I just had like Facebook. But I guess he will be on Twitter. Like, I don't know. He. He's been famous. Well, not. Not that much back then. You know, this was back in. It was like, 2017. 2018, right? So we go to this house party, and everybody's just, like, lit drinking for locals and MD2020s. And I don't know where all these girls, like, come up to Andy. They're like, oh, my God, I love you so much. And I was like, it's tax season.
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B
What the. I remember this cardi b sound was going on. This is red bottom.
A
This is bloody shoes and yellow at the time.
B
Yes. And he was, like, singing the of the song. I'm like, oh, he's lit. And all these girls were like, oh, my God, I love you, Andy. Like, you're so funny. This isn't that. He did not go to my high school yet. That's how I met him. So that was my first time meeting him, right? And then one day, he just pops up in my high school. I was like, oh, my God. Hey. And he's like, hey. And he's like, oh, my God. Can I borrow $20? He asked me for $20, but I'm like, bro, I've only seen you, like, one time.
A
Yeah. You're like, yes.
B
But I'm like, yeah. And I did have a boyfriend at the time, and I think my high school boyfriend went to middle school with him. So, like, he told him, what's up? And then he was like, oh, can I have $20 dollars? And I'm like, yeah. And I literally had 20. So I gave it to him, and he's like, okay, bye. I'm gonna pay you back. He said he needed 20 for gas for his car because he used to drive. So he's like, I need to put gas in my car. My mom's gonna get mad. I'm like, okay, bet. So I gave him the $20, and he just leaves. And then I'm like, damn, I might never see those $20 again, you know? And I'm like, what the. Like, I don't even know who this is. Like, I've only had one interaction with him, and I think after school, we hopped on FaceTime, and we were just FaceTiming every day since. And he would always be like, you're so funny, funny. And no one has ever told me that before because I don't think I'd be funny. I'd just be talking. But he would laugh at everything I would do and say. He's like, bro, like, you're so funny. Like, I like you this and that. And we would just, like, talk every day after school.
A
Did he ever give you back the 20 bucks?
B
No. But wait. But wait. So, like, back then, he did come to my high school for, like, a little bit. He would come to all my games, and because, you know, I was in dance, he would come to all my games. I was always supporting me. He was, like, in there for a year, but my whole freshman year, I did not see him. But sophomore year, it was, like, half a semester, so I seen him then. And then he moved schools. I always tell him this. I think you only came to that school to meet me. Yeah, Like, I.
A
There was a purpose.
B
Yes. Like, your point for coming to. To that high school was just to meet me. Literally, after that, we just stay talking. We'll go to parties every weekend, and it would be like a friend group. It would be like the four of us. And he used to be best friends with my friend Aaliyah, and I was best friends with her. So, like, we were all friends.
A
It's like a trio.
B
It was like another person, too. My friend Jelly. So it was like the four of us, and we would just always go out and do stuff. But then my friend Jelly got pregnant at 16, so, you know, she got a little distant. And then me and him just got closer. We had friends, but I feel like all the friends we had, it was always just me and him. So over the years, it was just always like, that. Like, we would be cool with people. They would all fall off, and we're like, oh, well, now it's just me and you.
A
Do you remember the time you were like, you know what? Like, we know each other. We're friends. Friends. But, like, I feel like this moment was the moment we became best friends.
B
I think I considered him my best friend when I think we stopped talking to everybody that introduced us to each other, like, it was just me and him. And at that point, it felt like, okay, I think it's just me and you now. Like, they're not coming back, you know, like, it's just gonna be us and we just stuck through everything. Like, we start our own business together. At 18, I started selling lashes, and he started selling sunglasses. And even though he went to a different school, he would always make efforts to hang out with me and see me and come to my games. He didn't even go to the high school. He would come anyways. Like, who's gonna do that for you? You know? Like, that's the best.
A
But he's putting in the effort.
B
Yes.
A
Have you guys ever had any, like, fallouts during, you know, maybe high school? Petty fights? What's been, like, the pettiest, most stupidest fight you guys have stopped talking for? How did you guys resolve it? Quintanos.
B
Okay, so I think we've had one really big fight. Okay, we had two. We had two big fights. I think it was junior year, right? Right. He had a guy best friend, and I started talking to the guy. Right. But he had a crush on that guy. But the guy wasn't really gay, So I don't know. It was weird, I guess. He wouldn't really admit to me, like, oh, I have feelings for him. But he'll be like, no. Like, it's not like that. And I'm like, oh, okay. But I felt like it was, you know. I'm like, I know you. But then I'm like, okay, whatever. But then the guy said he wanted to talk to me, so. My dumbass. I'm like, oh, okay. Like, we started talking. He was very cool with all of us, you know? Like, we were always hanging out, doing stuff in that friend group. And I started talking to him just because we would hang out. Like, literally before we started talking, Andy would have us hanging out every day. So I think that's what made me comfortable with him, too, you know? So we were always hanging out. He had a girlfriend.
A
Okay.
B
And I didn't know, but Andy knew. So that's the thing. Like, he knew he had another girlfriend, and he was talking to me. He didn't tell me, but I was like, damn. You know? And I guess in. In a way, he was like, I told you he wasn't. I don't know why you're talking to him, you know? So we argued over that because once we realized that he was very toxic with the both of us, like, trying to ruin our friendship. Like, he would come to me, try to be messy about him, and come to him, trying to be messy. Like, I feel like he wanted to break our friendship up. That's what he wanted to do, you know? Because he was like, I don't want you being friends with him because I want to talk to you and he's gonna tell you that I'll be around. So y' all can't be friends. That's what it is. So it was petty and stupid. The relationship didn't really go anywhere. So me and him became friends again after we realized all the lies. Guys. Yeah, but to me, it was petty. Honestly, me, I valued our friendship more than him. So I literally told him. I was like, I think it's very clear he doesn't want us to be friends. We should just say him and just continue our friendship. Like, what are we doing, bro? We've been friends for so long, it's not even worth it. So that's basically what happened online.
A
And you guys are like a bestie duo. When did that start becoming a thing? When did you guys be like, you know what, we're so funny. Like, why don't we just start recording ourselves like our pendejadas? Because I feel like we people might like it. And when did you notice, like, oh, you know what people actually do with us? Let's make this a whole thing. Because you guys do. Aside from your guys's like individual content, you guys have a whole account where you guys post like content together. How did all that happen?
B
I don't even remember. I think it's because, well, he blew up on Tik Tok first. You know, I was more in the club and I was making money like that. He started making money off Tik Tok. When we were friends, we would have a whole friendship. But Tik Tok didn't really know that, like they knew him and I, I was his best friend. But unless you were around us, you didn't know. And he was very funny. You know, he was going viral early, like in 2021. And I wouldn't really be on Tik Tok like that. I'll be more on Instagram. I'll be on Instagram. And I think when I quit the club and really settled down like years later, and I was like, I'm going just start doing social media more. I would already hang out with him. I would go over for every reason and cook and eat and like we would just hang out cuz we were friends, you know, we wouldn't even post. And I remember one time I was like, oh, we should film a mug mukbang. Because I started doing like vegetarian mukbangs, you know. So I was like, let's just do a mukbang. So we would go live and eat ramen and like, people just. I think it was one live. We went live and it had like three, 400 viewers.
A
Damn.
B
And I was like, damn. Like, I think they really with you, you know, like, and we're just eating ramen. So I was like, let's just start filming. And I would post little videos on my page, and he would post little videos on his, and they would do numbers together. Like, we would do numbers alone. But when we were together, like, like
A
you, it was more.
B
Yeah. So I'm like, oh, like, we should start a duo page. And we thought about a YouTube channel first. But, you know, YouTube is so complicated. So I'm like, no, like, let's just be cute. Let's just do little videos. And literally, it started in September when I was pregnant with the twins. I was eating a lot.
A
Wait, so that just started for some reason, I thought you guys had been doing that.
B
No, it actually just started, like, in September.
A
Okay, okay.
B
September. We started making videos. I was just like. Like, we would make videos in each other, each other's page. But it wasn't like how it is
A
for one dedicated page.
B
Yeah. Like, we didn't have a dual page. So in September, I was like, like, we just started making. I like dancing. Tick Tocks. P. Don't. But I'm like, let's just do it, you know? And they would do numbers and like, we would go shopping and cooking. And now it's like, people really do love us. And I think it works so well because we've been friends before Tick Tock even existed.
A
You know, you guys are just showcasing your friendship.
B
Yeah. Like, this is really how we are. Like, this is real life.
A
Like, it's not like you're like, oh, you know, what with an influencer. Hopefully we mesh together. And it. People love us together. It. Let's do it. It was like you guys had a genuine relationship. How do you feel like your guys's friendship, you know, secondos in the high school? And I feel like sometimes, you know, a lot of people say, you know, after high school or don't get too close to people because after high school, things change. What do you think has kept your guys's relationship still so strong? Because I know when you were pregnant, he. She was very present. With your whole, you know, pregnancy, how do you feel like the relationship has changed or remained the same over the years?
B
I'mma be honest. I think it's because we put God through everything. You know, we both pray together. And literally it's very important if you want to have a long Relationship or friendship with anybody, it should be through God. Because for example, the fights that we would have, it's not me versus you, it should be us versus the problem. And it's like when you're dealing with people that that's ego is very big. They don't care about you, they'll just be like, it like, I don't give a. Like you. But a person who believes in God will be like, okay, well let's talk it out. Or like values you or values your friendship, right? So we would have little fights. But another main thing that like, was like, okay, this is my friend. When I did used to work at the club, I used to drink a lot. So you meet a lot of people that you're very cool with when y' all are drinking and smoking. But once you stop those habits, a lot of people stop with you because there's no connection. Me and him still had a connection. Like I wouldn't drink, we would hang out during the day, like we would cook, we would eat, and at night he would go out and I would go home. We still managed to have a friendship outside of doing anything toxic, you know, so that's when I knew. I'm like, this is a real friendship because we have a genuine connection. Like we could be in the same room and we're not gonna get bored. Versus you can be in rooms with other people. And unless y' all are drunk, there's nothing to talk about.
A
When you got pregnant because pasa muncho, you know, especially, oh, I'm scared because I'm pregnant and my best friend is not going through the same things as me. Did you ever get scared like, oh, what if he gets distance? Or what if my life that I'm about to start living isn't like something, you know? So did that ever cross your mind?
B
So I did think that actually, because everyone always tells you this, once you get pregnant, everybody's gonna cut you off. So I'm like, it. If that's the way it's supposed to go, it's not the first time a lot of people cut me off at once. And I had to deal like being alone. I'm very good with being alone. And as long as you have God in your life, you're gonna get through everything. So I'm like, if that's how they're gonna be, then it. But I was very confident in him and all my other friends. Cuz we've been friends for like six plus years, so never did I really think, are they gonna cut me off no, but they did show out for me more than I expected. Like, I did not expect that much support from them because I'm having twins and I don't know, like, when you get pregnant, you're very vulnerable, so you're like, damn. Like, no one's gonna with you. Like, you're pregnant, you overthink, you can't go out and do certain things. Like, I remember he had an event in LA and I couldn't go with him, so I felt down. I'm like, damn. Like, never did I think, like, you're gonna replace me though. Like, you know, because we've been friends for so long, I knew he was gonna stick through it. But I think it really surprised me how supportive he was. There was times where I would cry because I wasn't working for like four or five months. And he would just send me 200, $150. He'd be like, here, you understand? I'm eating so much and I'm throwing it all up, so I'm wasting so much money. I'm. I'm not working. But you love me enough to see that and be like, here.
A
Do you feel like that also made the relationship even more serious in the sense of like, you're like, you know what, like says your friends leave you, but you're like, no, this motherfucker is still here supporting me. Like, I actually see this person not just being in my life, but now that you are mom, you're like, I see, see this person being in my kids lives, you know, almost like a second deal. Like did that kind of reconfirm everything
B
for you during that time? I honestly, like I said, my friend show way more than I expected. But yeah, it showed his true colors for real. Because I'm like, bro, everybody cuts. Not everybody, but a lot of women experience this. Like, people cut you off because now y' all can't go out and drink. But like I said, me and him always had a genuine friendship, so I was never worried. But yeah, like, him looking out for me and then was very helpful. My other friends, friends too. Every time they be like, let's go out to E. They would always pay. They never let me pay for any food. They were always taking care of me, buying me things, like, I don't know, they were just so supportive and how can I complain, you know, Cuz I'm like, damn, having twins is a lot. But he told me, like, if you ever don't make it, like, I'mma take care of you and the babies. He always tells me That I love that.
A
I feel like everyone needs an Andy250 right now.
B
She's literally one of a kind bro. But like I will say pay because I feel like a lot of people there, we do get comments where oh, you just always haven't pay for everything. That love is reciprocated. If he ever wants something or needs anything, I match that. So I feel like that's very important in any friendship. You need to be able to reciprocate what you receive because then it's a dead relationship. Like you're just draining the person. So every birthday we buy each other stuff. Like we'll be like what's our budget this year? Oh, I want this. Okay. We'll buy each other within the same budget. You know, I love that.
A
That's literally what we'd be doing too.
B
Like think it's fair, you know, like if we're like oh this year I didn't really make a lot, let's just do 400.
A
I love that, you know and I really do see that genuine friendship. Because they go when I see your guys's tick tocks, it's so funny because it's like you guys, I feel like have a lot of like the same personality but I feel like you guys are also so different and that's what makes you guys mesh so well.
B
One thing that I was just talking about to one of my friends is that he likes small talk. Like you know those people that you go to the airport and and they're literally talking to the stranger next to them. I don't do that. I'm very reserved. It's very hard for me to open up to anybody so I just be like on the sidelines. But when we go to events together it works because he can do all the talking with strangers and it's not awkward. I hate small talk. Like I have to know you or be comfortable with you for me to talk this much. Like how I'm talking to you. I think I'm so comfortable cuz I already met you at U and it just flowed well, you know. But it's really hard for me to like open cuz I'm very big on energy. Like I can feel people's energy and everything. And if I don't like someone, like I'll tell him we would argue cuz he's so friendly with a lot of people which is okay, you know. But I'm not like that. Like if I feel like oh I don't like her energy, I'm not going
A
to talk to Them, you know, you being a mom. Before we get into, you know, you finding out you're pregnant, your delivery baby daddy. What was the relationship like at first? And, yeah,
B
Okay, so I met the twins dad when I was, like, 15 or 16 years old. One of our friends was having a quintanera, okay. And she asked me to stand in it. It was like, me and other girls and, like, him and other guys. So they basically put us in, like, a line, and it went by height, and they assigned me to him. So that was my first time meeting him.
A
Okay.
B
And I remember at that time, obviously, I didn't drive, so he was like, oh, like, we're gonna be in this Quintana together. Like, I'll pick you up and drop the you off from all the practices. I did have a boyfriend at the time, and he did have a girlfriend, so it was always very just, we're just gonna send the kint. But we got really, really close because, bro, like, we were seeing, you know, if you're Mexican, Quintanas take up a lot of time. And we, like, taught each other how to dance. He was always picking me up and dropping me off, and sometimes we would all go out to eat, like, the crew. So that's who. We just got closer over time. After that, he went to my school as well. He went to my high school. So when I would see him, I'd be like, oh, hey, you know, like, because we had already met. So then I would bring him around, like Andy and me, you know, my friend group. And he was always just with me. And my dad was always like, just uber to school. He would take me to school and pick me up and do everything. Like, literally everything I needed. Yes, the twins dad, he'd be like, oh, like, I'll pick you up from practice. I'll take you to work. Like, in high school, he was so generous.
A
But at the time, you guys weren't
B
like, no, no, no. We were just friendships. So, like, we basically grew up together. Like, how me and Andy are. Me and him are like that, too. I value our friends friendship a lot, you know, but it was never nothing. And I think when I graduated high school, we kind of fell off a little bit, and I went my own way, and everybody went their own way. You know, after high school, you're gonna go find yourself. And we rekindled our friendship when I was, like, 19 years old, when I started working at the club one time, I think he just hit me up and he came to see me at work. And then two, when I was a bottle girl. He was always supporting, always coming, buying and everything. And we were always just friends. But it wasn't until July 2023 when we were a d. Adults. Yeah, like we just went on a date and it just flowed. Well, you know, and things happen, you
A
know, later on you find out you're pregnant. So how did you find out you were pregnant? What was your initial reaction? Were you scared to tell your parents?
B
Okay, so basically when we started talking in 2023, we talked for like a little bit. And then in 2024 we broke up. We had a really big break for like six months. Months. And I remember when I had hit 100,000 on Instagram, he, he called me, he was like, what are you doing this Friday? And I was like oh nothing. Cuz I had broke up with him, you know. Well, it was like mutual but he wanted to get back together. And I was just like, I just think we need time away from each other. Like you need to do you. I'm going to do me. Cuz I'm very like that every time I go through. I want to be alone. So he calls me, he's like what are you doing? And I was like oh nothing. And he's like okay, like I want to take you to dinner. And I was like oh, okay. Yeah. Cuz he was like oh, like I want to take you out. And he's like so where do you want to go? And I'm like well, well we can go to like Joey uptown. Cuz that's where our first day was, you know, so that would be like our spot. I was like yeah, like let's go. And this is so crazy cuz I was just like, I've known you so long that I'm not like awkward with you.
A
Yeah.
B
We go to dinner and we're like talking and he's like telling me he wants to get back together. He's like oh, like I'm going to do this and I'm going to do this different. And I'm like oh okay. And when we're about to leave, literally I go to the restroom and then the server comes with like a cake and a big ramo that says 100K, which I did not expect. So I'm like all like, like you know, I was like, oh, you do want to get back together, you know. So I'm like you're trying, all right. And I was like okay, you're trying. I'm like yeah, but I want to keep it off the Internet cuz I feel like the Internet ruined a lot of our stuff. But I was like, if we do do this, I want it to be off the Internet. Once we feel like it's for sure, we can announce it. But right now I don't want to do that cuz I have a lot going on. Like, I don't want to do that.
A
So was he okay with that at the beginning?
B
Yeah, cuz he agreed, you know, like, you know, he had a lot going on. So it was more like, I care more about real life life. I don't really care about the Internet. Like, as long as we're happy and we're good in real life, what the Internet thinks doesn't matter. So then in December 2024, we were like so in love with each other and he was buying me gifts and we were just being together every day. He had got a house, so I was with him all the time. And I was like, oh, okay. Like we're finally living the life we said we wanted. Around December, since we were like on our peak is when we started not using protection. So I'm not saying he wanted to have a baby, but we were not. Yeah, like, we were more like, okay. Like, this is love.
A
Yeah, you're like it.
B
So I was more like, okay. I was taking Plan Bs and I did not like taking plan B. So I was like, I don't want to keep doing this. So I'm like, please be really sure about what you're doing. But like I said, our relationship was at its peak, so we were like it, like, we're fine. So then January 2025 was my birthday month and we got in a really big fight and he broke up with me. So I was like it like, I'm done. Like, this is the sign I did for a week after my birthday, I did try try because I feel like when he would break up with me, he would go out his way to get me. So when it was my fault, I would go on my way. So I tried for like a week after and it still wasn't working. So I'm like, okay, like I'm gonna just let you go and wish you the best. But I told him, I'm like, it's all love. I wanted us to end on good terms because I feel like when you end up bad terms, y' all are gonna talk again. Yeah, I will say me and him never had sex when we were broken up. I would only sleep with him if we were together. So the last time we had like, slept together was after my birthday. So we Broke up and I was very heartbroken. But I was like, maybe this is what God wants. Like, you know, it's done. So I let it go. So that was the beginning of February. Then March comes around and he calls me again and he's like, oh, like, I miss you. Like, you know, back to like our toxic cycle. And I'm like, oh my God. Like, I do love you, but like, we gotta do better, bro. Like, this is not. Obviously I'm not what you want and you're not what I want. So I think we just stuck to it because we had love for each other from growing up together, you know, and always having each other's back no matter what. Like, I'll be so mad at him and if he needed something thing, I would still answer. And it was the same for him. So I was like, maybe we're just meant to be friends. Like, we should just stay friends. So he calls me and like a month later he's like, oh, like let me just take you out to E. And he took me to like a 24 hour flower shop, got me a Ramo, went out to E, you know, like, yeah, yeah. And I'm like, okay. Like I love you, but I don't think this is the best. I'm like, it's 2025, I have goals. Like, I want to do this, I want to do that. And I feel like I already gave us so much energy and time and energy. It's just not working. And even off the Internet, the relationship was out the Internet. So I'm like, I don't even think it's them. Like, I really think it's us, you know, so I'm like, let's just let it go. A week later, he's like, I'm having dreams. I think you're pregnant. And I was like, you're like, honestly, my first thought, I'm like, bro, he's just saying whatever he can so we can get back together. But he was like, bro, like, just trust me. Like, just go get a test, like. And I'm like, okay, were you scared or you're like, I thought you said no. But then I'm like lowkey. Because. Because like I said, we stopped using protection. And honestly, I think we did it about nine times. So I'm like, one of those times is, you know. But I'm like, but I'm like, nah, I don't think so. Cuz, bro, it's so funny because right when I had told God, like, I'mma really leave him alone. Basically he calls Me. And I'm like, okay, well, I'm supposed to get my period next week. So I'm like, I'mma just wait. But I honestly didn't think he was for real. I thought he was just saying whatever so he could get back with me because we were very like that.
A
Yeah.
B
Like always trying to get back together.
A
Like he just wants an excuse to talk.
B
Yes. So next week comes, I don't get my period. So I'm like, damn. Like, you know, so then.
A
Right?
B
Yeah. So then I'm like, damn, bro. And I'm like, well, I didn't get my period, but I caught Andy first. I was like, okay, like, I'm gonna take a test. But I didn't even think of calling him or recording it because I didn't think it was gonna come out positive. I'm like, bro, like, it's not even. Like, I already know this is.
A
Just let me just get it out the way.
B
But no, I did it and it came out positive. And I was like, I caught Andy and I was crying, cuz I'm like, I promise, y'. All, Like, I was really done this time. Like, I really was. Was. So whatever. I cried it out for like two hours. Then I call him and he's like, oh my God. Like, I don't know. Like, I don't know what to think. Like, he was like, I'm like, nervous and scared, but I'm happy. He's like, I'm gonna come over. So he comes to my house and we're talking and I'm like, well, what are we gonna do? Cuz we're not together. We were broken up. I was like, I don't know what I want to do. He was like, I'm gonna support whatever you want to do. So you make the decision, let me know. I kind of didn't want to do it, but I also was not gonna get an abortion. Cuz I had an abortion before. And I was like, I promised God I was never gonna do it again. And I know deep down down I wasn't having sex without being without him. The sex was having. We were in love together. So it's not like it's just a random. Yeah. So like, if I was around sneaky linking with you when I shouldn't have. Okay. Then I'd be like, okay, that's my fault.
A
Yeah.
B
But we were doing this when we were together in 11. We thought we were going to be together. So it was more like, you know what? Like, I'm gonna keep it, you know, like I Want to have this baby. And he told me the same thing too. He came and he was like, okay, like I'm so excited. And this and that. We had went shopping and we were like just looking at babies stuff and whatever.
A
And at this time you didn't know you were having twins?
B
No, no, no, I didn't know I was having twins. So then I go inside and I tell my parents, cuz they were like, oh, are y' all really done this time? So I'm like, okay, we're going to try getting back together. Cuz he was already trying the week before. So I was like, are you still going to want that now that I'm pregnant or are you going to switch up? You know? But he said, no, like, yeah, like, let's try being a family and being together. So I went inside and told my parents and they were like, okay, they supported me. But like I said, if our relationship's not meant to be, it's just not going to be. Like, we were arguing a lot again, like over little stuff. So I'm like, bro. Like. And now that I was pregnant, I had less patience, I will say. At that time I was in real estate school and he paid for my course. He was like, which I really appreciate. You know, we tried it for like a week or two weeks. I remember one time I came home from real estate school and I was like, oh, like, you want me to pull up on you? We can eat. And he was like, yeah. So we pick up pluckers and I don't know, we started fighting over something so small. I was like, I'm not doing this, bro. Like, I'm pregnant. We argue when I wasn't. And I have no patience right now. I'm irritated. I just had a long ass day at school and I'm like, I'm gonna go home. And he's like, no, you're not gonna leave. Like you're gonna stay. Like, we're gonna talk. And I was like, I'm leaving. Like, I don't want to deal with this, bro. Like, I was like, I don't care if we're together or not. Like. And he's like, no, we have to be together. Like we have a baby. Well, we're gonna have a baby. And I'm like, I just want to go home. Like I don't want to be here. But I think it's. It came from me. Every time I go through something hard in life, I like to be alone. Yeah, I don't know why that is
A
to deal with it.
B
First type thing, Yes. I just wanted to be alone. We were arguing a lot, but he was still supportive, you know. We pulled up to the ultrasound because I wanted to see how far along I was. I was like, what time that we did cost this. How far along am I? So we go and they're taking longer than usual. So I pull up. I went to Planned Parenthood. Very rude, by the way. Planned Parent was so rude. And it was just. No, I don't want any woman to ever go there and experience how weird they were being. The energy was so bad. I pull up and we're there together. And we're like not talking, you know, because we were like arguing a lot. But he still showed up, which is. Is what matters, you know? And I'm on the table and he's like, there. And she's taking really, really long. And I'm like, is everything okay? Like, what's going on? She was like, oh, I'm sorry. It's because I'm seeing multiple pregnancies. And literally his neck was like. And I was like. I started laughing in the doctor's face. I'm like, what?
A
Like, like, you're tripping.
B
No, like, I literally couldn't believe it. I'm like, what do you mean? She was like, yeah, like I think you're having twins. And I was like, oh my God. And he like, me him looked at each other and I was just laughing, bro. Like, it was like, you know, cuz I'm like, damn.
A
Like, like, were you laughing also, like in shock? You're like, what the am I getting?
B
That's so random. Like, I was like, there's no way. I literally felt like I was in a movie.
A
Cuz I'm like, there's no twins in your family?
B
No. Apparently, like now that I have twins, Mya told me, like, my dad's mom, they had a twin sister, but they died when they were one.
A
Okay.
B
So all their granddaughters had twins. And I guess I was the one to have it, but nobody ever told me that. So I was just like, what the. So I laughed and we talked about it. He caught his family and they told them like, do we have any twins in the family? And I think he had some too. So it could have been for me or him, I don't know. But even yes. Cuz I'm like, I always wanted twins growing up. So I was like, this is like a dream come true in a way. But I was kind of sad cuz I'm like, damn, we're not together, you know? Like we're not going to be together. But like I said, me and him have always had a very good friendship. Anyway, anyways, so I never doubted that we were gonna make not the relationship work, but like the co parenting. The co parenting work. So I was okay with that from the beginning. Obviously. I had a really rough pregnancy. I had HG, which is hyper ever Mrs. Garum. I think that's how pronoun.
A
Yes, yes, yes. Who had that? I think Alondra.
B
I think her video talk about it.
A
Oh my God. Did you get really bad too? Cuz I knew she was like down bad.
B
Yes, I was like that for five months. I had to go to the hospital every week just to get water in me, iron infusions, like just to get food. Cuz I couldn't eat anything.
A
Were you ever scared? Like, oh, like what if my babies don't make it?
B
I thought I was going to die. Another reason why I didn't want to tell the Internet cuz a lot of people were like, oh, you don't want to tell us is cuz a lot of twin pregnancies, they're already at high risk. I had HG and I was like, damn, what if I miscarry? What if I don't make it? I don't want the world to laugh at me or be like, you know, cuz a lot of people, they're weird. They enjoy people's miseries. So I don't know if it was because. Because I was having a girl. Cuz now I know I was having girls or because I was pregnant. But I hated him. My whole pregnancy, I did not want to be around him. I remember he'd be like, oh, give me a kiss. And I'll be like, like broke. At the end of like, I don't know what, what it was, but I feel overstimulated. I'm like, I already have two of you in here. Like get the away from me. But it was never like that. Like I said, it's always been all love. Even if we're not together, we always look out for each other and take care of each other either way. But we didn't really talk. Like it was always just those doctor's appointments because I didn't want to talk to him and he didn't want to talk to me. And I just didn't really want to talk to anybody for the first five months. I think things got better after the HG went away, but for the first five months I was miserable. It was so bad. Like I was throwing up Three to five times a day. And even if I didn't eat, I would throw up. Like stomach acid.
A
Yeah.
B
And I remember when I was 16 weeks, I had to go to the urgent care because the medicine wasn't working. And my mom, I told my mom, like, not gonna lie, like, I don't think I'm gonna make it. I was like, if next week I don't stop throwing up. I was like, I'm not gonna do this. I've always been a very healthy person. Being ve to you don't really get sick. So I was not used to being sick. Like, this was so weird to me because I'm not like this. I don't even drink sodas. I don't eat candy.
A
So it was like tripping you out.
B
Yes. Cuz I'm like, bro, I'm such a healthy person. They were like, no, like, it should go away. But I remember the doctor told me, she was like, well, honestly, since you're having twins, you might experience this all the way through. And I was like, no. I'm like, y' all got me up. And I was so miserable. I was so depressed. I wasn't crying, but I was just in a lot of pain. I had headaches. It's like basically imagine yourself waking up up with a hangover every day for five months, and you're not even drinking and you can't even eat. So it was so bad. Luckily, though, I prayed. I prayed so hard. I'm like, please, Lord, like, I don't want to do this no more. Like, it's so bad. I got through it. He came to every appointment. He would take me to my iron infusions and everything. He was always there when I needed him to be, you know, how did
A
the pregnancy affect you emotionally? Being pregnant, such a beautiful thing, but also, you know, seeing your body change throughout the whole process, does that ever be like, oh, my God, like, what did I get myself into? Like, I feel insecure or whatever it was. Did you feel like that at any point?
B
Once I found out I was pregnant, I was like, I really hope I'm one of those moms that doesn't really get a belly, you know? But when you find out you're having twins, that's out the window. Like, you're naturally gonna be big as because you're having two babies. So I remember I didn't start getting a belly belly until the HG went away because that's when I finally started eating. So like five months, I got a little belly, and me and the dad will Talk about it, because he will be like, mel, you're gonna get really big. Like, I don't think you understand. And I'm like, I was in denial. I'm like, okay, but like, it's okay, you know? But I guess it wasn't really hitting me. It wasn't until like maybe I was like seven months that it just got too much. It was too heavy. I couldn't even sleep. Like, and I had stretch marks everywhere. And I will post, post like little vlogs and like people be like, ew, why the does your stomach look like that? But I'm like, a lot of mothers experiences, like, why are we trying to be taboo about reality? Like it's normal, especially if you're having twins. And it's like, you know, I used to work out a lot and I'm very healthy. So the body that I did have, I worked for it. So I feel like people seeing me without that, especially moms. This is why I do it. Because I always post very uplifting videos about body, you know, positivity with your stretch marks. And a lot of people get mad, but it's like, it's normal. We don't need to hide it. We don't need. I did have a maternity photo shoot. I. I had like three and one of them I had told her, can you edit my stretch marks? And I posted it, but then I deleted them because I'm like, I don't want to promote like some fake image. Yeah. So I'm like, no. I was like, I'm not ashamed. This is very normal. It's okay. So I just post my stomach even now, like, I don't care, you know? But I do get a lot of hate. A lot of people are like, oh my God, like, why does your stomach look like that? Like, hey, I created lies, but I don't know. I'm not a lustful person. So I'm not here. Like, my God, nobody's going to want to me. Like, I'm not thinking about that right now. Like, I just want to be with my babies. And even if I'm not with the dad, I don't know. To me I'm like, I'll worry about that in like a year or two. Right now I'm still postpartum. I want to go back to the gym. Cuz I also couldn't work out. I thought I was going to be able to work out during my pregnancy. No, when you have a twin pregnancy, it's very risky. So the doctor literally told me I
A
couldn't so you were like bed bound.
B
So I was a little sad. Cuz I feel like I work out mostly for mental health. So when I was told I couldn't go to the gym, I'm like, oh my God. I like feel, feel like the lowest and most vulnerable I've ever been. But I also know God is very rewarding when you create life. He rewarded me in so many ways and came through for me in so many ways. Through my friends, through my family, like through social media. Social media was very supportive. I know there was a lot of people hating on the pregnancy, but it was more love than hate that I was like, damn, God is so big. God is bigger than whatever we think in our rooms. Sometimes we get in our head about stuff. And I feel like God really rewards those who create life, women. And he makes it possible. Because if you really think about the whole process, it's crazy like how you're able to create lives but two lives at the same time. And I did get told a lot like, oh, you're probably going to have to get a C section or your body's going to change. But honestly I wasn't really worried about my body. Like I was more worried about trying to eat today or trying to drink water. Like that was the least of my concerns. I had a last minute baby shower which I didn't even want to have because I was so tired of everything. And after my baby shower I went home and two hours later my water broke. And literally I'm like, I called my mom and everybody was drunk from the baby shower. Andy, the dad, everybody was drunk. So I'm like, oh my God, like, like who do I call? So I called my mom and she was like, okay. She was like, go shower. So I shower, I go to the hospital. Luckily it was empty, nobody was there. And I just kept getting contractions, like cramps and cramps and cramps. And I was like, oh my God, like this is so painful. It was really, really painful. But luckily, literally my birth and labor was so smooth. When you have twins they might have to do an emergency C section. So you have to automatically. They had like so many doctors. They have to be ready and prepared for like if they do have to cut up your stomach. But I mentally knew that I did not want to do that. I wanted to do them both naturally. So the first baby, I go into the room at 8:30, first baby comes out like 20 minutes later. Second baby comes out 20 minutes later. So literally it all happened in 45 minutes.
A
So, so it wasn't Like a crazy birth for you?
B
No, but it was painful. I was just, I wanted the pain to end that I just did it fast. Like I just did everything they told me. They were like, just push and this you do need like endurance and like be good with breathing and all. So I just did it. And then they had to take out the placentas too. That was kind of painful.
A
Did you eat those? Because I know they do like the pills and everything.
B
I was on live on tick tock and people were like, oh, did you eat your placenta? I'm like, I didn't even know that was a thing because apparently it's good. But no, I don't even know what happened. Honestly, I've seen a lot of girls,
A
a lot of my friends actually have done like the placenta pill where it's kind of like the SAS vitaminAs that were like going to the baby to really recuperate. What was it like? You know, you give birth, it was a smooth delivery, painful but smooth delivery. And you're like, wait, Like it's different. I feel like, yeah, yeah. Like maybe your, your pregnancy overall was like a lot, but now you're like, oh, like what the hell? Like I have two babies crying. What was that like for you? What was it like adapting to motherhood? Did you have help and what do you feel like was the hardest thing to becoming a first time mom?
B
Okay, so if I'm being honest, I didn't even have a couch in my house yet. I got my house in October and I gave birth November 8, so I was barely moving in. And I was very pregnant and big. So my house was not all together yet. But luckily when I was in the hospital, one of my friends, she brought me the two car seats because I also didn't have the car se. Yeah, we had ordered them, but they weren't going to come in. So she brought me to car seats and her and her baby daddy went and built the couch on my house. So when I got home, that's where I had the babies. Then I started building like the bassinet and stuff and slowly. Me and their dad had already did the crib. So we just put one of the cribs in my room and it will be like me, the dad and the babies will sleep in front of us. We were not together. We have not been together since we broke up. But he was very helpful with everything, I think mostly because it was very hard for me to do physical time things. So like he would come around and will be like, bring me water from downstairs or help me do this or you know, like little things. So in the very beginning it would be him and my mom doing everything. Like him and my mom would change the diapers and feed them. Cuz after I gave birth, I clocked out, like I went to sleep.
A
I'm done, let's go.
B
I didn't want to do nothing. Yes, I was like, I'm done. And him and my mom were doing everything, which I'm so grateful for. My mom got two weeks off of work so she was there helping me and him, you know, they were really mostly helping me cuz I was still recovering. Vaginal birth is so painful. You're bleeding so much. And I was in a lot of pain. Still had energy to go do a newborn shoot though. Cuz one thing about me, like I'm still going to get up and do what I have to do, you know. But yeah, like he was driving me everywhere for like a week because I couldn't drive. My mom was cooking for us. Like you know, she was really, I'm honestly really grateful and blessed. Like even though we didn't work out as a couple, he was still there for me and I honestly didn't expect him to come through for me the way he, he did.
A
Like, do you feel like the co parenting was easy because of that?
B
I think the co parenting is easy because we've been knowing each other for so long. But I think it's most because we created babies together and he already had a baby so he kind of knows. But twin pregnancy is new for everybody. Unless you're a twin parent, you're not going to understand. Because in the beginning, the hardest part was that the twins were not in sync because they're fraternal twins. Okay, so let's say I would feed the baby. You know, newborns eat every two to three hours, hours. So we would feed them but they were not eat at the same time. So I would feed one baby. One hour later you have to feed the other one. One hour later you, you have to do it again.
A
Yeah.
B
So I'm like, damn, we're not sleeping, we're not resting. We have to figure it out. My mom was helping us. Eventually we found something that worked for us. And at first it's like he would watch them all at nights and I will have him during the day. Once the 40 days were over and I fully healed, you know, he was helping me, my mom went back to work. Then I started doing everything on my own. I, I do take care of myself. I pay my Own bills, my own car and everything. So like no one helps me financially. He takes care of them in his way. But me, like I take care of myself. So I still have to work and film and do all these things. I feel like people look at me and they're like, oh boy, it's cuz you don't have it hard cuz you don't work. Like they probably assume somebody's taking care of me. Like, no, bro, like I take care of myself and if anything, I take care of my mom as well. Like me, my mom and the babies and the dad takes care of himself what he got going on and buys like he does his part with the twins, but him taking care of me, no. And I feel like a lot of people assume that, but no, it's always been like that though. Like I always take care of myself. They help me. Like if like for example, right now that I'm like, well, I'm going to go out of town so the baby's not going to stay with him for like two, three days, you know, which I'm very grateful for. I do wish that things were different. Like, I feel like it's really hard to get adjusted to twins though. Like we'll find a routine that works. And they're like, we don't want to do that no more like, let's try something else because it's really hard, you know, like, yeah, they were four months yesterday. So I hope that like in the future we get something that works better. Because my job is all over the place. His job is all over the place. So it's like, it's hard to stick to a routine when things come up. But I do enjoy what I do to be able to be at home with them. I enjoy being home with them. But it does get tiring, like when you don't sleep at night. I did have like, what is it called? Like the baby blues.
A
Oh yes. Uhhuh. Like postpartum depression. A little bit.
B
Yes. I think I did get that. Cuz I would just cry for no reason. And I don't understand why. Like I would have a really good day, be with the babies, make good money, and then I'm like crying. I did talk to my therapist about this. They do keep up with you. And she was like, it's very normal. But she was like, if it ever gets bad to where you feel like you don't want to clean or you want to. You don't want to take care of your babies anymore, let us know.
A
Yeah.
B
And it hasn't got to that point, so that's why I feel like I have it. But not as bad. What helps is you getting up every day anyway, keeping busy. Like you have to do your hair, do your makeup, get ready, go run errands, go to the gym, do whatever you can to be in a good mood. And if you're surrounded by people that are triggering you, don't be around them, don't read negative comments, don't interact to drama. Like if people do something to you to get a reaction out of you, don't feed into it. And honestly I don't really do a lot. I just be at home. I think if you, you can maintain that peace, you'll get through it a lot faster. I think it's harder when you're surrounded by negativity or money's not coming in, you know, like little things like that. But no, luckily and all grace to God, like he's been making it happen. I've been good, but yeah, there's times where I just feel sad and cry for no reason and I don't know why.
A
And I feel like it's very normal because like you said, your babies are four months at, so you're gonna go into like a lot of, you know, the, the emotions you're going to feel a lot. And I'm glad that you're keeping yourself busy to not really let all those emotions sink in and bring you down, you know, about being a first time mom. What piece of advice can you give anyone watching that is a first time mom trying to adjust to motherhood.
B
A lot of people be like, oh, your kids come first because they do. But you need to pour into yourself as well. There's nothing wrong with you wanting to, want to have days for yourself where you want to go get a massage or you want to do things for you. It's very important because your kids need you. If you're surrounded by people that don't believe in that, maybe don't be around that because I think it's very important for me to have days off or for me to do things for me or just to sleep. If I just want to take a day to sleep, that's okay. Don't let people tell you, oh, you're, you're supposed to be at home suffering every day. No, because then if I'm burnt out, who's going to take care of them? One advice I do give is definitely, definitely wait. I would always advise to keep the family together if there's a way. But if it's too Toxic. And y' all work better away from each other. Then do what makes y' all happier. Because at the end of the day, the kids need happy homes. And there's always the same people say, like, I'd rather have two happy homes than one toxic one.
A
I applaud you, because I feel like a lot of the time people are very much with, like, let's keep the family, like, regardless of what's going on, regardless. Regardless if we're toxic, like, our baby needs the family together. But you don't realize. But it's good that you and him, you're like, you know what? We work better off as parents, not as a couple. Like, let's go ahead and, like, tag team this to where, like, our babies are being raised by loving parents and not parents by parents that are not seeing each other eye to eye, you know? And I love that you know. That, you know, you started not too long ago doing social media, you know, so how did you get started? And what made you be like, you know what? And also, what do you feel like are the pros and cons of social media?
B
I was more on Instagram. First. I would post pictures. I would use it to promote, you know, me selling bottles at the club. I like to take pictures a lot. I like to get cute, go to dinners, and get followers like that. Then I seen how Andy was, like, blowing up on Tik Tok, and a lot of people were blowing up on Tik Tok. And I think it wasn't until, like, 2023 or 2024 that I was like, I want to take social media serious. But it was more because I really wanted to leave the club. I was like, it's a very toxic environment. I just want to do more. Like, I feel like I'm done doing this. I would just start eating on the phone or cooking, and people were like, oh, my God, you're vegetarian. Like, I care. Like, let me see her. I want to do this, and I want to see you do that. And it really just started like that, and then, like, make up, you know, being a girl. And then I was like, I would see a lot of creators would blow up for being toxic, being in drama or degrading other people. And I never thought that was a good route to take. So I was always like, okay, if I ever do become a creator, I want it to be a strong foundation. I wanted to be something healthy and something that can motivate and influence, like, actually influence people to be better. I always tell people this. I would influence my friends To Naimi, you know, I want y' all to be healthier and be vegetarian, but to each their own. But, yeah, so I was like, maybe it'll take me a little longer because I'm not addressing drama or I'm not degrading other people or bad.
A
I feel like you're really good at that.
B
Yes. I think everything that's done to people comes back down. Even so I don't like to react to it. It's not good for you.
A
Has it ever affected you? You know, we can be like, you know what? The comments, the hate. But then there's that one comment or that one false narrative that you're like, bitch, I want to, like, say something.
B
So I have experienced, like, false narratives of me going around. But God sees everything. He will handle it before you even have to. And if you're patient enough to let him handle it, it the first leap of faith you take by not addressing something, you don't even care about it anymore because you know the truth. You don't have to prove it to anybody. And anybody who's around you that believes false narratives about you, they never liked you from the start because they're believing things that are not true. They don't even care to hear your side of the story. And you don't need to tell your side of the story. It'll play out over time. So I noticed that a lot of people go viral for being, like, toxic or negative. And I'm like, that's not the type of creature creator I want to be. Because I feel like that doesn't last. Like, they're always going to wait for you to do something negative again, and
A
then once you don't have.
B
Yeah, like, that's not fulfilling to me. So I'm like, you know what? Like, I' ma just hold it down, be true to myself, and then just see what happens. And I think that's the best way, honestly, to just be true to yourself. Be good to the people around you. If there's people that put you on, be very grateful, always show love, and just be yourself.
A
What do you feel like are the pros and cons of being on social media?
B
The pros and cons? You meet a whole different side of yourself that you don't know. Because you may be surrounded by people you love in person, but social media will attract people that relate to you.
A
Yeah.
B
So sometimes they can advice you. Like, I would always be like, oh, what helps me with stretch marks? And there's hella people that. Or like twin moms. I Don't know any other twin mom in real life. So like I meet a lot of people that will leave me messages and it's very helpful cuz it's like thank you. You attract people that are going through the same things that you're going through which can be very hard, helpful. You can get advice that you didn't even know you needed. Obviously the money, you know, the money's good. It gives you like that freedom to do whatever you want and to like showcase that. The negatives I would say is the negative. Hate comments. Cuz just as good as it can be, it can be just as bad. You know when people get canceled it can get really bad mentally. Like it could be really bad for mental health. I always say this. Social media is not a physical job, but it's a mental health job. If you're doing good mentally, so will your content and so with everyone else and if you're bad mentally, it'll translate. Yeah, yeah. So it's like I would say just don't feed into the negativity. Be good with God every day. If you have God in your life, pray to him. If you have a problem before you go to sleep, be like can you handle this for me? Because I don't want to do it. And that's literally what will happen.
A
Career wise, family wise, personally wise.
B
I think five years from now, right now I have a business. I hope I have more. I hope I'm like way bigger on social media. Married. I do want to get married. Yeah, I don't know, I think I just want to be really successful business wise cuz I am a business person first before anything and grow on social media. Just have, I don't know. I honestly can't wait to see how, how social media is going to be in the future. Cuz I feel like it's evolved a lot, even just recently. So I'm excited to see that. I want my daughters to be, you know, oh my God, they're going to be five. They are going to be five. But yeah, like I think I'm just going to be more about my kids honestly. More like being a mom social media wise and then still be a businesswoman first before anything. So I hope in five years I have all that.
A
You know what I love about my podcast, you guys? Oh yeah, we've been following each other and we know who we are. But I feel like it isn't until I really sit down with my guests to where I'm like oh my God, like I really get to know you because you know, like all the time, you know, it's like, oh, Abes are for you. Paige Nostration. No. So I really do enjoy when I sit down with my my guests and get to really know them. I know you're a go getter and I know and I'm so excited. In the next five years or even less, Make sure you guys go ahead and follow her right here, right now. I will leave all her links down below as well as on the screen so you guys can go ahead and follow her so you guys won't miss any future episodes. And with that being said, thank you so much for being here.
B
Thank you guys so much for watching and thank you for having me. I love this. And yes, make sure to follow me. Siempimeli on all platforms, period.
A
Ilos, Viramos and El Proximo Amigas. Bye, guys.
B
Yeah.
A
You did so good.
B
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Episode Date: March 13, 2026
In this raw, funny, and refreshingly vulnerable episode, host Alannized welcomes rising social media creator and twin mom Melody (aka @siempimelody) for a no-holds-barred conversation. They dive into Melody’s bicultural upbringing between Monterrey, Mexico, and Houston, her journey through family dynamics, dropping out of college, finding herself in the nightlife industry, friendship goals, the realities of twin pregnancy, body changes, co-parenting, and the highs/lows of influencer life. Spanglish, laughter, and chisme flow freely as Melody details her life transitions with honesty, humor, and wisdom.
On learning English and cultural duality:
"I didn't speak it fluently till I was in seventh grade...I did not like the US at all. I was so used to being in Mexico with my family because Mexico is very family-orientated." (07:34–09:05)
On navigating family separation:
"My dad was a very transactional dad...my mom was more attentive—even though she wasn't here, she was very attentive." (12:05)
Therapy and Healing:
"We went to family therapy—me, my sister, my mom, and my dad. And now we’re really, really close.” (16:23)
On leaving college for entrepreneurship:
“If you take a gap year, the chances of you going back are very, very low… Why am I going to college? I’m making so much money.” (25:38)
Navigating Nightlife Drama:
“I just need a quick come-up, money until I figure myself out. Did this for like two years. At 21, I opened up my own promo team, so I had my own bottle girls.” (29:36)
On self-worth in nightlife:
"Most of these customers that go see you, they'll like you today, and then they're gonna want somebody else tomorrow. And then you're gonna look at yourself and be like, why did I do that?... Make sure you do it for you." (31:05)
Best Friend Energy:
"He would always make efforts to hang out with me and see me. Even though he went to a different school, he would always come to my games… That's the best." (40:29–40:58)
Twin Pregnancy Reality Check:
“Literally, my birth and labor were so smooth. When you have twins, they might have to do an emergency c-section…but I mentally knew that I did not want to do that. First baby comes out, second baby comes out 20 minutes later. It all happened in 45 minutes.” (70:01)
On hate and body changes:
“A lot of mothers experience this—why are we trying to be taboo about reality? It’s normal, especially if you’re having twins.” (66:12)
On what real support looks like:
“If he ever wants something or needs anything, I match that. That love is reciprocated.” (49:46)
Tough love to new moms:
“There’s nothing wrong with wanting to have days for yourself… Babies need happy homes, not toxic ones.” (76:33)
Spanglish warmth, laughter, deep vulnerability, constant self-reflection, and a refusal to sugarcoat tough experiences. Melody’s story is marked by resilience, “figuring it out” on her own terms, and a desire to foster genuine connections—both in life and online.
“Be good to the people around you. If there’s people that put you on, be very grateful, always show love, and just be yourself.” (80:43)
Follow Melody at @siempimelody and catch future episodes of Noche de Pendejadas for more authentic chisme and insider realness.