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Violet Myers Talks All: Dad in Prison, Grief, Adult Star, Toxic Relationships, Chisme & MORE!!
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- [00:00]
Evan Ross Katz
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Violet Myers
I'm thinking like, my mom might be pregnant or something. I'm like, what's going on? Like, why is the whole family coming to my house? It was on a Monday too, I remember. And then my mom told me my dad passed away in prison.
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Alan Ice
What is up, you guys? Hey, guys, I'm your host, Alan Ice, and this is Noche de Pendejadas, your favorite podcast turn talk show, and on the Yote Trigo at Two's favorite influencers. So without any further ado, please help me welcome my guest tonight. Violet Myers.
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Violet Myers
Hello. I'm so excited to be on.
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Alan Ice
I am so excited to have you here today, you guys.
- [01:41]
Violet Myers
Hi, I'm Violet Myers. I'm in the adult industry, but I'm also a content creator. I do YouTube, I do TikTok, Snapchat, literally everything. I have all my eggs in every basket in social media. I'm also a Fleshlight girl, if you guys don't know, it's a sex toy company. And that's a little intro about.
- [02:10]
Alan Ice
This has actually been a long time in the making. I'm not even gonna lie. I really thought this was never gonna happen. I was like, you know what? She's probably pushing it off, pushing it off. But when you texted me, you were like, you know what? I'm ready. I can do it. Because you did tell me that you were kind of pushing it off because you were going through, like a skin journey. You got on Accutane, so you were like, let me go ahead and heal from that so we can make this happen. How did that journey go? Wow.
- [02:40]
Violet Myers
So, like, I was on Accutane. That was my skin journey. I started that in June, so I didn't want to be on camera. And this is. This podcast is so important to me. Like, I'm a viewer just like everyone else that's watching, and I wanted to look my best and feel my best and feel confident to be on camera with no, like, crazy filters, you know? So that's why I wanted to just, you know, when the timing was right and then When I felt, like, confident enough to come on the podcast, that's when I was like, I wonder if he forgot about me.
- [03:08]
Alan Ice
I didn't forget you guys. So when you texted me, I was like, you know what? Let's make this happen. You really haven't opened up too much. With childhood. Because I feel like it's very important to really understand, like, a human being based on their childhood, what they've gone through. How was Violet Myers growing up?
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Violet Myers
A lot of people would assume that something might have happened to me when I was a kid to the reason why I'm in this field or whatever, but I'm here to, like, kind of, like, change the narrative, because that's not the case. Like, I grew up super normal. I grew up in Northeast LA and East la. So I grew up LA my whole life. My family's from Mexico. I was just a normal child. Like, growing up, I wasn't really, like, athletic. I wasn't really a scholar. All I knew is that I wanted to be famous. I didn't know what I was going to do or how I was going to get there. The reason why for that is because I just really wanted to help people, you know, like, famous people. I always seen them as, like, you know, once you get to that status, you get, like, all these deals, and people can help you get to that point. So those were my goals. Help people and be famous. When I was a kid, for the most part, you know, I didn't have my dad up until, like, four years old, but then I had a stepdad, too, so I did not have a dad. I had a dad. It was different for me because I was more emo, dark, like, emo and goth. So I feel like because of that, I wasn't able to fit in with a lot of kids, you know, especially growing up in an area where it's like, cholos and, you know, or the nerds. It's either the cholos or the nerds. And, like, I was like, I couldn't fit in, so I would try to fit in, but I was just like, all right. I fit in with more, like, the smart people in the class because they would help me, like, pass or, like, study together. So that was, like, my childhood into teenhood. So I was, like, a virgin for the longest. I was, like, not interested in boys. I was going through that phase where I was like, a one direction.
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Alan Ice
Like the cooties.
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Violet Myers
Yeah, yeah. Like, I didn't like boys like that because boys didn't like me.
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Alan Ice
So.
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Violet Myers
So I was just like, whatever. I'm going to have this fantasy of like celebrity. So I was like going through this phase where I was like, kind of like how the K pop fans are right now. But like for boy bands back then, my favorite boy bands, One Direction. Oh, I was a directioner. You know, I was a directioner. And that was. That took like a lot of like my crushes away. I felt like I had a chance. So that was kind of my child. I was just more like not boy crazy, but I focused more like on grad, trying to graduate high school, be the first in my family to do it because I am the oldest, in case no one knew. I'm the oldest. I have two brothers and one sister. And I did grow up with my cousins. So I have one boy cousin and three girl cousins. I want to say it's from like elementary to fifth or sixth grade. I was living with my dia and that's when I grew up with my cousins. It was, you know, we were a little, I wouldn't say poor, but we didn't have a lot. But we were still, you know, we still had a roof over our house, our head. We had money to pay for food, so we were able to like, still be fine. And then my mom, that's when she met my. My brother's dad, which is my stepdad. And then we moved from, from my tias until like 16 or 17. I was just like normal. Like we had like a normal, like a. Like a family, you know. It was nothing bad. My mom would like, have me clean the house. She was just teaching me responsibilities because I was the oldest one. But also my mom was going to school for what she does now because she was. She went to medical school. It was difficult having my mom go to school while I was going to school. That kind of made me feel a little rebel.
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Alan Ice
Rebellious in what way?
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Violet Myers
That's why I feel like I was going like, more towards like the rocker route, you know, because I was just like, well, my mom's not really home a lot, so then maybe I could like do after school things with like, people and friends, like, socialize because, like, I grew up in a strict household. So then once I got to like middle school and high school, I had more freedom because my mom wasn't home. I was able to like, do after school programs, join clubs, and kind of figure out what my route is. It wasn't until like I was like 4, 15 or 16 when they broke up. My mom and my stepdad, it was just my mom, my two brothers and my sister and I. That part was a little difficult, you know, because I was just like, okay, he was still there, but he wasn't living with us. So then.
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Alan Ice
So it's like a big shift for you.
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Violet Myers
It was a big shift, yeah. Because then I went to a new school, I met new people, so I was kind of like starting all over again. That was when I grew up in Northeast LA instead of east la. And it was like, different crowd. I wasn't as bullied. I had a great experience. I was in bands, I was in choir. So I was able to kind of like change my direction of what I wanted to do in life. Because I was going to a performing arts school. I really wanted to do theater and acting, but then I did music. So then, yeah, that was my life. I was pretty normal. I was really artistic as far as like, musical and like screenwriting. Like, that's what I really want to do. And then obviously I graduated and then like, things change.
- [08:09]
Alan Ice
Things change, you know? You know, your dad was put in prison. That led him into getting, you know, put in prison. How did you find out? Who explained it to you at just 4 years old? And at that time, did you realize what going to jail meant for you? Or was it something that you kind of, you know, over the years in time you kind of were like, oh, shit, my dad really isn't coming back?
- [08:35]
Violet Myers
Yeah, that's a good question. So I was about four years old when he got sent to prison. I was kind of too young to understand. This was like around the time when like the three strike laws were going on. I think it might still be going on, but not too sure. But that's from what I remembered. He was like not a good person, you know, in the streets. He grew up with a single mom. You know, there's no excuses. But I feel like if you understand that lifestyle, you know that you're trying to find a family in the streets instead of like maybe in school or with friends. So like, for him, he had his like direction go somewhere else. So it was like me and my sister and it was like 4 years old. And I remember that day too, because we were at the courthouse and I remember just like waving bye. Like I didn't know what was happening. And it wasn't until, like, I want to say first or second grade where I seen kids with like their dad and I was like, huh, where's my dad? You know, it was hurtful. I think I remember for like the longest I would fight my mom and be like, you're the reason why that I don't have a dad or just, like, kind of making her feel bad. When I was just, like, I was too young to understand, because now that I'm older, I'm like, it's not even her fault. It was his mistake. And he was there for a long time. How my mom explained it to me was I would get a lot of letters. You know, I would do phone calls with my dad. So I knew he was there. He was still present, but he wasn't there physically. So, you know, it was.
- [09:50]
Alan Ice
So you would have, like, a lot of questions to your mom, like, why is he there?
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Violet Myers
Why is he writing letters? Like, why is. You know, it took her a while, I want to say, until like, 15, when she told me, like, hey, this is what happened. I was just kind of like, oh, okay. Like, I understand it. And then I. It made me closer to my grandma. But then, like, she passed away from cancer, and that was like, the only bloodline to connect us. I feel like that brought us closer, you know, my grandma passing away. But it was just really tough. I didn't want to, like, see him in jail. Like, a lot of kids, they'll see their dad in jail, but for me, it was really tough. Like, I was kind of embarrassed to know that my dad was in jail just because all the kids would have their parents in their households, or. I feel like I was different. Even looking back, I'm like, I wish I did, but, you know, things happen for a reason. I remember my dad would send us photos, too, you know, oh, that's how my dad looks like. Or, you know, just. I still had him there. I also had my stepdad, too. So, like, it was kind of tough, too. Navigating, kind of like having two dads and sometimes where it was like, you're not my dad, you know, And I feel bad, too, even, you know, growing up, too, because I was just so mean to him. Because I just was like. Because I had my dad, but he wasn't there.
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Alan Ice
Like, you didn't want to accept your stepdad as your father figure?
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Violet Myers
Kind of, yes. But looking back, he, like, put me onto some, like, really good music and all that. So, you know, I had a father in my life, and I had two. You know, I was very blessed and lucky, and I came from, like, very strong women household. So I feel like that helped, you know, not having a dad in my life.
- [11:25]
Alan Ice
What was it like, you know, growing up? Nos cuentas that you were embarrassed, but how do you feel like having your dad incarcerated for a big majority of Your life growing up, how do you feel like that affected, like, the little girl you were growing up?
- [11:38]
Violet Myers
I want to say it definitely affected me in a way where maybe I didn't get to know what it felt like to. To be loved by a man. That's my dad. I feel like, as a man and that has a daughter, it's so important to have that relationship so you can teach her how to be loved, how to be taken care of, how a man should really treat you. Now, looking back at that, I'm just like, if I ever have kids, like, I have to make it work, and I need my kids to have that. Because. Not saying that I have any issues or anything, but it would have been nice, you know, to know what it felt like to have that, you know, love from a dad. So then, you know, when I went through my relationships in the past, I would have not gone through that.
- [12:21]
Alan Ice
Do you feel like it has kind of affected, like, your dating life kind of almost how girls say, like, the daddy issues, like, oh, my God, you know, maybe la guanto muncho or like, I allow things to happen because, you know, why? You don't really know what, like, a loving father is. Has that happened to you?
- [12:36]
Violet Myers
Oh, yeah, 100. And that's psychological. I think a lot of people that don't have their dad, even men, too, Even men that don't have a dad either, can experience that where they didn't teach them how to be a man. Yeah, my mom is obviously have. Has the man and woman role, but it's different when you have a man to kind of, like, structure you and teach you, like, this is how a man should treat you and you shouldn't deal with this BS Because I was in a relationship for a long time where, you know, I didn't love myself. And I thought the way that he was acting and treating me was. Was appropriate. And I accepted it because I felt like that's what you needed to go through. And no, you don't. You don't need to be beat up or yelled at or talked to a certain way by your partner. That's not healthy at all. And I didn't know that. And obviously my mom definitely taught me, like, that's not healthy, and that's not okay. But, you know, it would have been different if my own dad was more strict about it.
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Alan Ice
Do you feel like it took you a while to understand that? Especially in this relationship where you're like, you know what? Like, maybe I tolerated it for so long because I didn't know, but Was a moment where you're like, you know what? Like, I don't need to be, you know, sufriendo esto, or going through this because this isn't real love. Did you have a moment where you're like, switch?
- [13:51]
Violet Myers
Oh, yeah. I had an epiphany at the grocery store where he was, like, literally yelling at me in front of people because I was pushing the car, and I hit his foot by accident, and he was yelling at me in front of everyone. And then I was like, why am I dealing with this? Like, why is a man talking to me like this in public? Imagine in, like, private. So that's when I knew I was like, all right, I'm not meant to do this. I remember I was, like, praying to God, like, please help me get out of this situation. Then he broke up with me, and I was like, okay, perfect. God is real. For real. Like, you know, not that I didn't believe in him, but sometimes you kind of have to go through your own experience to build that relationship with God. And that was when I really was like, okay, he's there. He's really, like, here for me. Because I would cry a lot to my mom about that relationship. It really traumatized me in a way where that's where I wish I had my dad to beat his ass, you know, like, my dad can beat your ass. That's when I was like, I wish I had him. But also I had the strength and the courage to leave. And that was when I was like, okay. You know, I remember I would talk about it with my dad, but I wouldn't go too into detail with it, because my dad was in prison. But he had homies.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
And I didn't want anything to happen to him. He wasn't there. But he was always very protective. And that's why I wouldn't really tell him that much, because I. I knew he would, like, go to war for me.
- [15:08]
Alan Ice
You know what's so crazy? You mentioned something that I feel like is super universal for, like, daddy's girls. Like, that's something that I feel like a lot of people might relate, like, when you get a boyfriend. And it's funny, because a lot of girls growing up, they're like, oh, my God, my dad's gonna tell you something. Or sometimes girls get a little bit embarrassed by, like, oh, my God, my dad's about to tell you. Like, you better take care of me. But it's something good to have, because, like, your dad's telling the partner to be like. And it's crazy that you like say that because you didn't have that and maybe that's why you allowed him to treat you like that because he didn't probably think, oh yeah, it's great to have a security. Yeah.
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Violet Myers
You know, because even if you were to like not work out with that person, you still have your dad and he'll still show you like, hey, this is how you're supposed to be treated and stuff like that. And that's very important. I think every man should know that, like especially with your son and your daughter. Just be there for their yes to a bueno.
- [16:09]
Alan Ice
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Violet Myers
For for them. For that reason keep them away from like men like that, you know, or women like that. Because women are crazy too that a.
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Alan Ice
Year ago your dad passed away. So you know what happened that led to passing Como Terraces and how did his passing affect you?
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Violet Myers
I was not expecting that. That wasn't on my bingo card for last year. You know, right before he passed he was having issues with my mom. You know, like him and my mom would go back and forth and I wasn't liking, you know, I'm older, my frontal lobe is developed. So I was just like, I don't like the way you're talking to my mom. You know, I don't like the fact that you said that when you get out you're gonna do this and that I don't like it. So I'm. I'm gonna still put money in your books but you know I'm not gonna talk to you. You can talk to my other sister but. And my DX mighty I was close to him too. That's about it. I'll take care of you, but I don't want to hear nothing from you until you apologize to my mom and he never did apologize to my mom. That was where we left off. I get this family meeting. I'm thinking, like, my mom might be pregnant or something. I'm like, what's going on? Like, why is the whole family coming to my house? It was the week of, like, my first ever. It was, like, a big, important scene in my career. I was going to be in this really big movie. It's actually nominated for a bunch of awards right now. It was on a Monday, too. I remember. And then my mom told me my dad passed away in prison. It tore me apart because I was like, damn. Like, I couldn't. Like, I should have apologized. Maybe I should have talked to him, like, said one goodbye or whatever. It's just, like, a lot of resentment towards that because we could have had a conversation before he passed away. And we ended on bad terms. And it was tough. I was crying a lot. And also the week of that scene, too, I was just like, I. I can't do it mentally. Not there. I don't feel like it's right for me to do something that's, like, major in my career while that's going on because I'm not gonna be able to focus. And it was tough. It was tough canceling work and then dealing with that. I don't think I even knew how to process, like, losing a parent, because now I'm like, I can't really. I don't know nothing yet about my, like, that side of my family. I just know, like, I'm Turkish, Salvadorian from him. That's all I know. I don't know anything about my grandpa. He doesn't even have any siblings. So I was just like, damn. Like, I have nobody from my dad's side. So it was tough. It was really tough. I know my mom, like, took it really hard, too, because she felt guilty.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
That she kept us. She thinks, you know, I don't want her to think, like, she kept us apart. But obviously I chose my mom's side.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
Because she was the one that was there for me. So it was tough. It's still really hard at the process, not having him. I think it's normal to, like, you know, cry, feel that pain. I still pray to him. I still talk to him. You know, I have. I haven't got. I don't have those powers to, like, have him come to me or reach out to me, but I always wish him well. And, you know, now I have a reason to have, like, a, you know, Dia de los Muertos and celebrate him and take Care of him and my grandma too. So, you know, it's really tough. But also having my mom be mom and dad has helped me also heal from that.
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Alan Ice
Was it something that he was like struggling with for a while now or was it like, very different?
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Violet Myers
I don't think I want to know. You know, I told my mom, like, just don't tell me, you know, I'll have his ashes, but I'd rather just kind of like not know. I'd rather take that to the grave. I'd rather just, you know, assume the best. Because if it's like something bad or negative, I wouldn't be able to process that and I'd probably have a lot of anger.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
So I think it's best I tell my mom, like, just like, don't tell me, you know, can you handle it for me?
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Alan Ice
It's also good for like your mental health. You know, I had my grandpa and I feel like everyone grieves differently, you know, like you said you had to cancel one of the most important shoots of your life because you couldn't handle everything that was going on. How did you handle grief? You know, te lo cuento porquello. When my grandpa passed away, one of the things that I felt like, helped me, you know, go and cope, cope through my grief was work. You know, the day that I got the news that he passed away. Yes. Okay. We were very close. I had a filming day for the podcast and I had flown the person, they were from Arizona and I was very close to canceling, but I was like, no, I gotta go show up. My grandpa would have wanted me to go and do what I do. And that's kind of how I've coped ever since. Kind of just be like on flight or fight mode. Like just keep it going, keep it going. Be sad because like, I keep myself very occupied. What do you think helped you cope with the loss of your dad? What was it like, you know, almost grieving someone that you didn't have physically with you? Did you feel like you had to grieve the man he was or like the dad you wish he was?
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Violet Myers
I feel like I grieved the man I wish he was. Now that we were talking about that, I definitely have like moments in my head where like, oh, this could have been him, cuz he was almost going to come out and I know, I remember he was like telling me, like, I'm gonna come out next year. You know, I was gonna help him kind of get back on his feet. Just kind of like build that trust and relationship with him again that I didn't get to have physically. And how I dealt with it was just kind of like I isolated myself a lot from people. But that was, like, around the same month I had to go to Japan. So I remember I just kind of, like, put that in the back of my head, and I was like, all right, right now I gotta, like, experience this other country with people that I'm gonna experience a new memory with. Let me travel and fly and kind of distract myself. But there was times, though, where, you know, I was by myself and I would cry because I'm just like, I'm here in the best place in the world, and I'm just, like, grieving this person that I. That wasn't there physically. But, you know, I have this story in my head of how I wanted him to be. And it. That's where I keep fighting myself, because I'm just like, what it could have been.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
It's the same with any relationship. Like, what could it. What it could have been? And that's where I'm like. I fight myself with the guilt.
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Alan Ice
Do you feel like it's like.
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Violet Myers
Yeah, it's guilt for sure. But I think even talking about it heals myself from that. And then having, like, a great family and, like, great friends, that also can relate to that, because I have a lot. It's pretty common. Like, everyone has lost one parent. Not everyone, but everyone that's also parent can relate to that. So it makes me feel like, okay, I'm not the only one.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
And that's what makes me feel better.
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Alan Ice
How are you dealing with grief today? You know? You know, time heals. Do you feel like it's made it easier as the time has gone by or because you felt like you kind of had to put it in the back burner? You haven't really had a chance to really take it all in. There's still moments where, like, it gets to you on a deeper level.
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Violet Myers
Oh, yeah. I feel like it definitely gets to me still. But then I just think about how amazing my mom is and, like, how she raised me. And I know my dad is protecting me. I know that. 100. So that's what makes me feel better. Like, I know he's there, but he's not there. So that's kind of like, my way of coping with it, just knowing that he's there, but. And he's watching over me and, you know, I know. 100. He definitely wishes that he was that dad because he would always tell me, you know, he's Like, I'm gonna get out of here. I'm gonna be the. The dad that you always wanted. And that him telling me that always kind of, like, helped heal me in a sense.
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Alan Ice
Like, the little girl in you.
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Violet Myers
Yeah. Yeah. Because it's not his fault either. You know, we all make mistakes. No one's perfect. How I heal is just kind of like praying and talking, you know, to him. And I know for a lot of people, they can probably relate to that too, with a family member, you know, that they were really. Maybe not as close to, but wish they were.
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Alan Ice
I think it just sucks. I feel like grieve is, like, one of those things that you don't really know how to navigate till you're there, you know, even right now. Recently, on New Year's Day, you know, we were celebrating New Year's Eve, and then we get a call the next morning at, like, 8 in the morning. Dos crudos, tos pedos. And it was my swagros telling us that my swag brother had passed away that morning. And it was so crazy because, you know, we were just talking to him last night, like, the day of New Year's Eve, like, when it struck 12, we were taking shots for him. He had cancer, so we knew he was bad, but we didn't think it would happen, like, now. And even seeing my swagra, how she kind of is reacting to everything, you know, tiempo really does heal and lets you understand things. Because even me, you know, my grandpa was two years already. I don't even know, you know what? I've lost track of time. He might be even three. Like, on Christmas, I was like, is this our third year without Grandpa? And they're like, no, it's two. And I'm like, oh, okay. Like, you know, when you get so caught up with stuff that it's not that you don't care, but it's like, sometimes you do really put things in the back burner to, like, keep you going. Because I even told my swagger, like, you know what? It sucks so much, but, like, she was there for, like, two, three days. And then, you know what I mean? Like, life really does continue. So that maybe is what happened to you. You know, you were grieving, but then you had this Japan trip that, like, you said it was gonna be an amazing experience for you, but you kind of get stuck in the middle of, like, oh, my God, how much can I enjoy? If I enjoy too much, is that bad? Am I gonna feel guilty later? Is that something you sometimes, like, struggle with?
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Violet Myers
Oh, yeah, I definitely feel. I. I felt guilty that trip, too, because even my family and, like, my friends around me were like, are you okay?
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
Like, you know, you're not. You're not. You're not depressed as much as you were. Like, you kind of just, like, cried for two days, and you kind of snapped back to. To normal, and I was just like. I. I rather. I don't. I'm the type of person that doesn't like to pour my feelings into people, because I'm that type of person where people can talk to me about their problems, and I'm, like, a great listener, but when it comes to the opposite, I'm like. I feel like. I feel guilty, like, telling you how I feel, because I don't want you to, like, feel my pain.
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Alan Ice
I go home with that and then.
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Violet Myers
Think about me, and I'm like, no, I'm okay.
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Alan Ice
Promise I'll get through it. Yeah. I feel like you're like, me. Yeah. Yeah.
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Violet Myers
So I'm the type of person that just likes to kind of do it myself.
- [29:46]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
I don't even talk about it. I. I don't even think my mom. I'm pretty sure she's gonna watch this and be like, wow. Like, I wouldn't have never guessed that she's dealing with that. Yeah. Just because I don't. I feel like I don't want to burden people with my problems. And I'm not saying that's a problem. And it's probably really bad.
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Alan Ice
You know, it's a problem for us. Like, it sucks for the people that, like, don't want to burden people with their phones, because then you bottle it all up, and then you're like, esplotas.
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Violet Myers
But I will literally go into my closet, talk to myself, cry, take a bath, and then I'm back. And I think I'm my own best therapist. Me talking to myself and, like, kind of, like, letting it out is the best, because I don't want to hear other people's, like, opinions or, like, what they think I should do to grieve or whatever. Like, everyone has their own ways, and I think for me, it's just being by myself, talking to myself, crying, and then going back to normal.
- [30:34]
Alan Ice
Yeah. That's how I literally feel because, oh, my God. I'm like, we're all relating, and I feel like there's a lot. Like I said, there's a lot of ways people grieve. And I'm very much like that because I don't. One, I don't like to Bother people with my thing, with my things. I don't want people to, like, stress over. Like, oh, my God, is Ellen okay? Like, I'll be fine. Like, I'll get through it. Like, I've gone through so many things, but it's very much. I think it's like the mentality we have and just like the way our brain works. It's like, no, let's keep it moving. Like Yoda to 5, 10 minutes. Yeah, wrap it up. Like, that's how I feel. Like, my grandpa recently on the 26th, the day after Christmas, and I had not cried for my grandpa in months. In months. Like, I'm talking about, like, not one tear. And. And the day of his birthday, we were going to the store to get, I think, like, some things for, like, his little pastelito quiliwonza ser. And I put a specific song that always makes me, like, remind me of him. And you know what's so crazy, you guys? I had just gotten, like, a new phone. Why not? Not just gotten it. Like, this year I got a new phone and for some reason, like, my music wasn't linked. Like, my music played. So even that. That's what I'm telling you. It sounds so bad. Like, I had forgotten the name of the song. Like, I knew the lyrics, but I'm like, oh, my God. What the name of the song. Like, I'm like, oh, my God. I'm like, horrible. Like, oh, my God. I felt bad. Like, how can you forget the song that reminds you of your grandpa? Found it five minutes later. And then I was like, crying.
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Violet Myers
Yeah.
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Alan Ice
And then did my little two, three tears. Wrapped it up and continued going. You know, what piece of advice can you give anyone watching that is currently grieving or going through the loss of someone so important in their life and maybe feels like it won't get better for them?
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Violet Myers
How I see it as is, you're going to have someone else protecting you in the other. In the other side. And you're going to always have someone there, you know, that you can talk to, like when you're by yourself. And they're going to be there, not physically, but in the spiritual world. And you will get through it. I know it'll take time. Everyone's time is different. But just know that you also have, you know, people that are around you that are also alive and that also want to see you do good and go for your goals. And don't let this stop you from getting to where you want to be. Like, obviously, greed, feel that pain, but don't be afraid to like not talk to someone about it if it really hurts you that much. And just know that they're gonna be protecting you. And you will get over. You will get through it. Not over it, but you will get through it. And there's that memory of them. But just know that that's how I go through it. It's just that they're gonna be looking out for you. Like little do you know.
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Alan Ice
And I think that's like the best way to put it. Like I always tell people, like it's so easy to get into depression. It's so easy. And it's valid. You a parent, a grandparent, a brother or you know, a partner. It's so valid. But just remind yourself that this is not what the person that you lost would have wanted for yourself. And it's okay to grieve. Perono de jarte Quedarte en este lugar on destastriste all the time where you're crying all the time. You know, I want to talk a little bit more about growing up with a single mom. What was that like growing up? Was there ever moments you saw your mom get overwhelmed with like bills or like maybe sometimes you saw her like, oh my God, like maybe my mom doesn't have enough to pay rent. What was it like for your mom? Juggling being a mom, a single mom, also going to school, going to work. What was all that like growing up?
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Violet Myers
My mom, before she had my brothers, I was very spoiled. I had like a great child. I remember I'd be like, mom, I wanted a little Barbie Jeep. She buy me a Barbie Jeep. I was just really lucky. She had a great career before she went into school. Also my stepdad helped a lot as far as like even now too helps my mom too with my brothers. So I didn't really ever have a point where we were like, I want to say like struggling. But there was a point too where it was like around prom time and I needed like a dress and my makeup, I needed my grad night ticket. I remember my mom for her. I didn't know this until I got older.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
So my mom would have to. My mom was asking like her co workers and you know, just people that she was friends with at the time, you know, for money for. To help me for this special night. And I didn't know that cuz my mom really like just kept that like low key and secret cuz she didn't want me to have to stress out about that day. Cuz, you know, I was graduating first one in the household to graduate from high school. And it was tough. It was tough even knowing that as I got older. Yeah, it makes me really sad to think, like, my mom was really, like, struggling to. To find that for me for that night. I would have never guessed. And it makes sense now because I was like, damn. Like, I wanted this dress, but she was like, no, this one's, like, in our budget. I was like, okay, you know, but it's ugly. I was like, okay, whatever. You know, I got it at Windsor. And, like, I remember it was, like, 100 bucks. It was a beautiful orange dress, you know, like, my mom still made it work. I think that was, like, the moment where I was realizing, like, okay, maybe, like, I'm not as wealthy as I thought I was. I feel like that really, like, just fueled me to want. Want to do more and help people, to relate it to that. Now what I do now is I give back to my school and any kids that have any issues, like, similar to me, where they need a makeup artist or they need prom dresses, tuxes, or they need people to pay for the grad ticket, I'm doing that. Yes. I. I give back, and I donate money to the school I go to. And I've been doing that now for, like, four years. And it just, like, makes me really happy to know that, because I remember when my mom went through that, and I can't imagine how other parents feel now. Like, that happening really just made me, like, want to do that for other parents, too, and help other people.
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Alan Ice
Do you feel like also seeing your mom being a single mother also, like, motivated you in the sense of, like, independence to where you're like, you know what? Like, I gotta work or I gotta do something to get what I want in life. Did that kind of also alter the way you think when it comes to, like, independence? Oh, yeah.
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Violet Myers
100. I remember when I was young, my mom would be like, never depend on a man because he can just up and leave, and then you'll have nothing. It's a good and bad thing. Like, obviously, it's a great thing because I'm able to take care of myself and do all these things. But it's also kind of bad, too, because now when I try to find a partner in a relationship, it's like, I'm too independent. Like, all right, I'll book my own flight. When I. When I can't let a man just be a man in the role, you know, because I'm the man and the woman.
- [37:09]
Alan Ice
Or it's like, I don't need you.
- [37:11]
Violet Myers
Exactly. And it's so bad. It's almost to a point where I feel like that has affected relationships, too, because it's like a power dynamic where it's like, I don't need you, and men want a submissive woman. Yeah. So definitely. It's definitely affected my relationships. But it's also a good thing, too, because I set an example. Like, hey, she's a woman. She did it without a dad. And, you know, I can do it too. Like, it's great to have both parents, but it's also great to have, like, one parent that's just there for you and pushes you to be a better person and to get to your goals.
- [37:45]
Alan Ice
To end this conversation about single mothers. So what's a piece of advice you can give to any single mom watching right now? And also to any kid of a single mom that maybe is having a hard time, you know, understanding porques and las cosa las mamas or why they're in the situation they're in? What piece of advice can you give both of them?
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Violet Myers
The best advice I can give is for the kids is. Is appreciate your parents while they're still here. They may not be the best or the perfect parent, but they're still trying. They really want to see you succeed in life. And the ultimate goal is obviously, like, to give back to our parents. So there's always a goal with that. And then for single mothers, I know it's tough. I can't imagine what my mom went through as a single parent. But just be there for your kids. I mean, it's great to be a parent, but also try to listen to them, and if they're being rebellious, kind of try to maybe therapy. I remember my mom put me in therapy when I was in high school because I was rebel feeling so much. Do you feel like it helped? Oh, yeah, it did. 100. It helps having someone to talk to. I feel like that's what made me and my mom closer, is because I was able to talk to someone else and get their opinion to, like, why my mom was acting a certain way. I'm not a single parent, but I had a single parent. And you're gonna be raised just fine. You know, you're gonna get to where you want in life. Don't let that stop you or make you feel like, oh, I need both my parents to succeed in life. And that's not true. You can. You can literally do it with either no parents or parents. Just remember what your goal is and what you want to do in life and just know from their mistakes what to learn and not to do.
- [39:16]
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Alan Ice
That you used to get bullied? When did the bullying start over? What and how did it affect you? Growing cleaned up?
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Violet Myers
Oh yeah, my bullying journey, huh? That's interesting because it started when I was elementary. It was for multiple reasons. Like, one was like, my, my mom was always giving me lunchables, so the kids would try to take my lunchables and they would bully me to take my lunchables. Then I moved schools. And then another one was because I had boobs. I, I'm like, I can't believe I'm getting bullied because I had boobs. You know, I was, you know, I was young to understand, but now it's just like they were in videosas you know, high school because I was different emo. And if anything, I feel like it really made my character development and prepared me for the real world. Because now when I get bullied online, it's like, okay, whatever. I'm like used to this.
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Alan Ice
Like, been there, done that, girl. Yeah.
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Violet Myers
Honestly, like, I really, I feel like that was just kind of like a part of the journey to get to where I'm at now. Because now it's like, okay, whatever. Like, I've been through worse. And that was in person.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
Online I just block and I could.
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Alan Ice
Delete or not look at the, or.
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Violet Myers
Not even look at it, you know, or just have like somebody delete it for me. It prepared me for now, but back then it was hard because I remember there was one incident, like, it stays in my head forever because I'm just like, wow, I can't believe they did that to me where they try to nominate me for like best dressed in school. But it was, I went to a school that had uniforms and I would do like, cool little uniforms. I would wear like, like tie dye jackets. I'll put like little spikes on it. I would do dark lipstick, red lipstick, and I had like the crazy emo bangs. Like, I would accessorize, like, suit. I was so cute.
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Alan Ice
I look back. Yeah.
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Violet Myers
But they made fun of me for that, they were like, oh, wow. Like, you know, let's nominate her. So, like, trolling you on trolling me?
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Evan Ross Katz
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
And I was like, wow. And then when I. I remember you were all excited. So you know what I did? I joined yearbook club. And then all those bullies, I put them in the yearbook. I made their quotes tiny, and I chose the ugly photos of them.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
So I was like, that's what I knew. I was like, I have the power and control if I want to. I still think about that to this day. Because I'm like, why? I can't believe I petty back then.
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Alan Ice
No, but I think it's, like, normal. Because even me, too. Like, that's something I used to be petty as growing up, you guys. Like, you know, when you were getting bullied, did you ever take it personal? Or did you ever think like, oh, you know what? This person is just coming from, you know, a hurt place? Or was it something that maybe at the time you didn't understand that hurt people, hurt people. And you would be like, oh, my God, something is wrong with me. Like, the way I dress maybe is too much. Or like you said, maybe at the time when you were getting bullied over the booze, maybe you're like, oh, my God, I don't have boobs. Was it, like, something you would take personal at the time?
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Violet Myers
The boobs? Yes, I took that personal. I took the boobs personal. I was like, what? Like, that's not my fault I have boobs. Like, I wish I didn't have that.
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Alan Ice
Was the bullying only coming from, like, girls or guys, too?
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Violet Myers
Well, you know what? There was boys, too. Where they'll be like, achoo, can I have a tissue? Because they thought I stuffed my boobs. Yeah, I remember. That was in middle school. Like, I'm telling you, it's in my brain because I'm just like, wow. Like, kiss. Where that means. And then in high school, it was just like, wow. Like, because I, like, you know different things than you. Like, that's so dumb.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
Like, because I was old enough to understand, like, wow, that's, like, really dumb. Best dress. That one did hurt. That one did hurt. But everything else, I was like, I don't even care anymore.
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Alan Ice
Would you ever confront them?
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Violet Myers
Oh, yeah. I think one of them even said, My DMS. One of my bullies in my DMs. I was like, all right. He was like, you remember we used to go to school? I was like, no, I don't remember you. I mean, I remember you bully me. I Used to bully me. But I don't like you because he was trying to like slide. You know.
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Alan Ice
Actually I loved your booze.
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Violet Myers
No, no.
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Alan Ice
The hell does that happen a lot? Like maybe people that made fun of you especially now you know that they see you online. Like people that made fun of you like for XY and reason back then, like where they're like trying to slide in.
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Violet Myers
Oh yeah. All the guys.
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Alan Ice
Has any of them ever apologized or.
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Violet Myers
Yeah, they just act like they don't. Like they just like remember we went to school together. I'm just like, I, I want to go to my reunion, you know, and like just face everyone. Not even to like brag or anything like that. Just be like, remember you guys were mean to me and look at me now. I mean I'm no better, but I mean I'm in a different position where I can finally kind of just confront them confidently and be like, wow, like look at you guys. Like you assumed this of me and look at me now.
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Alan Ice
What do you think changed in terms of like the way you dress? Do you feel like there came a point where you're like, oh, maybe I'm like falling out of love with like this whole email phase? Or was it something because of the bullying where you're like, oh my God, they're doing too much bullying that maybe I should change. What made you change? Like maybe like your whole aesthetic growing.
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Violet Myers
Up, like transitioning to emo.
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Alan Ice
No, no, like after the emo phase.
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Violet Myers
Yeah. Oh, I feel like the emo phase never died though. I still feel like I am that emo girl.
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Alan Ice
You are though, because you are still very kawaii. Yes. A lot of like I've seen your post. You do like to like dress up.
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Violet Myers
I love cosplay.
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Alan Ice
Cosplay, yes.
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Violet Myers
Oh my God. I was watching anime. Anime before. I really loved like J pop, K pop rock music. It was different. Like everyone liked back then. Like what was like with trending popping back then. But for me I was like always like on the outside. I was like, you guys are going to eventually like get love this.
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Alan Ice
Yeah.
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Violet Myers
You know, cuz I grew up with a lot of rock music from like my stepdad said. So that's how I got into it.
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Alan Ice
What piece of advice can you give anyone watching that is currently getting bullied and maybe feels like, you know, it won't get better for them.
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Violet Myers
It's gonna get better first. And remember the people that are bullying you, just remember in a couple years it's not gonna be better for them. Karma is that karma is like my biggest thing, it's like karma's a bitch. Just think about it like that. And it's temporary. Just stay strong. Just remember this is part of your character development. It's a part of your journey. It's, you know, it's not right. But just think about it. It's making you stronger for what's about to come come and it's about to make you a better person. And the people that are bullies, just remember who you're bullying because that person could be someone important in that you might need in your life. And be nice to everyone. Just remember you are who you. There's a quote my mom has always told me. Like, just, just always be nice. Cuz you never know when you might need someone and your name goes far.
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Alan Ice
So really just act out with your heart. And if you're a bully watching this, a abaja in certain ways that like even though you might feel so high and powerful when you're doing the bullying, but life will, like you said, karma will get you and make you feel so little because then you'll feel like a shitty ass person. Like then you'll see how much the bullying has affected other people. And then, you know, today you're one of the most successful adult stars. It was not always like that. How did you get introduced, you know, to, to this industry? What were you doing before that and what made you be like, you know what, let me go ahead and try it out, I'm good. Or not. How did all that start? Yes.
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Violet Myers
So I just got out of that toxic relationship and I was going into two years of college. I was studying clinical psychology. Like I said, this is a different path. I was not expecting to do this. My main goal was to open up a clinic in like low income areas, help people diagnose with their mental illnesses. Because I had a sister that's bipolar schizophrenic and we would have caught that earlier if we went to go get checked. So that's literally what made me want to go into psychology, specifically clinical psychology. And I was going to school for that. And then I met this guy on Tinder. You know, I was freshly single. I was like, I kind of want to go outside, like see what my options are, you know, he's not the only man on this earth, that boy. I hooked up with him and he was like, have you ever thought about, you know, doing videos? I was like, no know, actually never thought about that. He's like, you're really good at this. Like, you know, we should do webcamming together. We should do couples cam. So we did couples cam on Shatterbait. Him and I, like, together.
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Alan Ice
His camera together. Okay, okay.
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Violet Myers
Yeah, we were doing together. He wasn't showing his face, but, you know, his, like, his little pee pee, you know, was there, and it was me and him. It was good money. I'm not gonna lie. As a broke college student, that financial aid was not enough. So, like, that 200 back then, then, you know, that was. That was helping me with my books, snacks, him, and, like, you know, him in his school. So it was helping us. And then we broke up. You know, I was like, damn, the money's good. I really want to continue this, but it's just for school. Just for school purposes. I didn't even think, like, wow, like, this could affect my future or anything like that. I was just like, the money, that's another thing, too. I want to give advice, too. Like, before you even enter this space, make sure you do your research. Because remember, whatever's on the Internet stays on the Internet, unfortunately. So I was like, okay, I'll just do webcamming in school. Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. Fridays. And that will pay for my school. My mom was super supportive. She. She's like, look, she's going to school. Like, this is helping her. You know, out of sight, out of mind. Like, just don't tell me about it. And I really wanted to grow my room. So your chatterbait room is like your own room where you stream from. In case you didn't know, that was when I was doing my research on the adult industry. I was like, well, maybe if I do videos that can. I can do, like, a couple videos and then quit and then bring. Bring that. Bring all those fans to my room, and I can make even more money and I'll still be in school. I don't have to worry about all that, like, the porn star lifestyle, whatever. I didn't want that. And then I flew to Florida, and I was like, I want to be a porn star. I kept tweeting it every day. Then an agent from Miami was like, hey, are you serious? And I was like, yeah. We got on a phone call, I think for two to four hours with the agent and the manager. Manager that was helping the agent recruit girls. Super safe. My mom wanted to just make sure, like, hey, this is not. No, like, sex trafficking. Like, I want to make sure you're okay.
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Alan Ice
Were you scared at first? Like, oh, yeah, you got that message.
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Violet Myers
Oh, you know, I was scared because after that phone call, he's like, well, you have to fly tomorrow. And, you know, it's either you fly tomorrow or you don't do it. And I was like, like, I, I, you know, like I was on summer break. I was like, I'm gonna just take summer off from school, just do this temporarily, and then come back to LA and shoot in LA day. No, that didn't happen. I flew the next day. I still have like the vlogs on my phone. I recorded everything and I stayed there for 30 days. I was like, okay, we're gonna make this work. I'm gonna build my brand, build my room. You know, I did two scenes and I. The money was nice and I was like, wow, this is more than what I make in like a day streaming. Let me just stay and like, see what's gonna happen. Yeah, I went viral. A meme went viral. It was like me and my agent, I was taking like a little selfie and he was in the back. He looked like a pervert. It went so viral. It was like on Instagram, Twitter, like, everyone was like, who's this, like, sugar daddy? That's like her creepy uncle. And then I gained like 10,000, 20,000 followers in one day.
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Alan Ice
She like, damn, I'm growing this little chat room.
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Violet Myers
I was like, I was not expecting this. I was like my manager at my agent at the time, who's my manager too, he was like, are you serious about this? Like, do you really want to do this or do you want to go back to LA and back to your normal life? And I was like, no, I want to do this like full time now. Like, I actually want to be a star in this and like make a name for myself. And it was tough cuz I was thicker, I was a little bit more chubbier. I guess there wasn't like that many, like, Latinas that were like, big at the time. It was a lot of white girls and it was and like petite. So me, I already stood out. It wasn't until I did one scene and people were like, who is that? She looks like Mia Kali Khalifa.
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Alan Ice
I was literally about to mention yeah. And yeah, so you're like the Mexican Mia Khalifa. Like, they were like kind of pinpointing that. How was that, you know, maintenance, that your mom was very supportive. But what was telling your family and friends? Like, you know, they found out or how did they find out? What did you tell them? Like, hey, you know, I'm gonna start doing this. What was your reaction? Did you have any friends or family that kind of judged you or kind of even Friends that maybe stopped being your friends because, like, the decisions you were making. What was that like?
- [52:04]
Violet Myers
So my college friends were totally okay with it because they were all older, so they were like, okay, go for it. You know, they're like, we'll support. Yeah, like, you actually did it. You know, my family, so my mom was super supportive. My tia was super supportive. The kids were still kids. They didn't understand. They were like under 15. Like, they were really, really young when I did this, so I didn't have to explain it to them. But my cousin, my older cousin, he was like, like, if that's what you want to do, you know, like, I'm not going to jud. But just know, like, what you're getting into is, you know, it's gonna change your life.
- [52:38]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [52:38]
Violet Myers
For the good or bad. But he was like, go for it. Like, if that's what you want to do, like, I'm not gonna judge you. So the only reason why I bring up my cousin is because I'm really close to my family. And, like, him and I were the oldest too.
- [52:49]
Alan Ice
It was just that you grew up with.
- [52:50]
Violet Myers
Yeah, so he's like my brother. My grandma was. She didn't know for the longest. She thought I was just modeling in Miami until we had a town her, and that was tough.
- [53:03]
Alan Ice
How did you tell her she was.
- [53:04]
Violet Myers
She's Catholic. My grandma's super Catholic and religious. Like, my grandma got married, white dress, virgin, two kids, like, very by the Bible, traditional. So for her, it was really difficult. I remember at one point, like, her and I had got into an argument, and she's like, I don't want this bag, cuz. You got it, cuz what you do for a living. And like, through the bag. And I was just like, so hurt, you know, because I was like, wow, grandma, like, you don't have like, the cleanest, like, past either. So even now she doesn't want to know. Like, just. Just like for her, she's just like. Like she doesn't want to think about.
- [53:42]
Alan Ice
It because she acts like that's not what you do.
- [53:44]
Violet Myers
Yeah, like, almost. Yeah, because she's almost in a way, like, not disgusted. But she doesn't want to assume that thing like this. She doesn't want to assume that of me. She still sees me as like that innocent girl that was going to college and wanted to do better for her life, but now, like, I'm able to take care of them. So she just stays quiet and just lets me take care of the whole family.
- [54:07]
Alan Ice
What was it like at the Beginning. Was there ever moments, you know, when you started getting into the industry and you really started seeing what it was like? Was there ever moments where you're like, you know what, maybe this isn't for me. Maybe I should have done more research or oh my God, in kmit, did you ever have moments like that? If someone. So tell us a little bit more about a moment like that.
- [54:26]
Violet Myers
There was a point where I was about to start shooting because I was only doing things by myself, like solo stuff. And I was. My agent's like, well, you can't keep doing this your whole career. Like, you need to shoot with guys. And I was like, okay, well can I shoot with guys who don't have big dicks? And he lied.
- [54:42]
Alan Ice
You didn't like big dicks or why?
- [54:44]
Violet Myers
I was scared.
- [54:45]
Alan Ice
Okay, okay. You're like, it's gonna hurt. Yes.
- [54:47]
Violet Myers
No, because I've only had like maybe like two or three or three guys after, you know, I mean, before I joined. So I had no experience. And to be fair, I didn't really watch a lot of straight porn.
- [54:59]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [54:59]
Violet Myers
I watched a lot of lesbian or like just blow drop videos. I wasn't really like thinking like, oh my God, like that's what I want.
- [55:06]
Alan Ice
Because I feel like the blow jobs are cute.
- [55:08]
Violet Myers
You're like, oh, I'm just learning how to please my man. He laughed in my face and he was like, good luck, sweetie. There's no way you're going to be able to make a name like that.
- [55:17]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [55:17]
Violet Myers
And he was like, you have to do this, this, this, this. And I was like, I'm not ready for that. I was like 21, 22. Like, imagine I look at my little sister now at my like her age when I joined. I'm like, you're still a baby.
- [55:30]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [55:31]
Violet Myers
Like, why are you doing all that adult stuff? You know? But at the time, I really felt like I was. Cuz I'm the oldest. I felt like I was old enough to handle this situation, but looking back at it, I'm like, wow, I really put myself through that and. And no regrets. But I remember I was scared and I was like, I already signed up for this. Like, I have to mentally prepare for this whenever that happens. But he said, whenever you're ready, you can do it. He didn't force me or anything, but he's like, at some point, like, if you really want to be a big name, you kind of have to do those things. So he already planted that seed in my head. So. So I already prepared to, you know, to do that in the industry. It's not everyone's journey, everyone's different. But for me and the name I wanted to create, I knew I had to do that. And there was no backing out. So that's when I was like going hard in the gym, building my brand, building my personality. I was also doing Twitch too. I was really big into anime. So that's when I started to be more of showing my personality online instead of like being as sexual.
- [56:37]
Alan Ice
Yeah. Like, it was more like, you're getting to know Violet a little bit more for what she likes, what she's into, versus then just that little video.
- [56:44]
Violet Myers
Build that fan base.
- [56:44]
Alan Ice
Yes.
- [56:45]
Violet Myers
Build that relationship with the audience.
- [56:55]
Alan Ice
Like what was that like? Or even when you're filming, like you and your partner, it's different. But then I'm assuming you've even been in situations where it's like lights and like, like cruise and like they're getting in like with the camera angle. Was that scary? Like the first time you ever did that? What was that experience like?
- [57:12]
Violet Myers
Okay. It was so scary. I remember the first time it was like with a guy and he was big. I was looking into the camera and they were like, don't look in the camera, don't look in the camera. Like I remember this director was like, I've seen, I've filmed a bunch of scene. I filmed a million scenes. Like, this is not new to me. Just perform, just have sex, have fun. And that was when I was like, okay, it's not as bad as I thought it was. Just have sex, just have fun. You know, that's what it is. You're putting a performance for people to enjoy and watch. And I was really scared. I still get nervous, actually, believe it or not, as long as I've been in it, I still get nervous because like there's sometimes where it's like only two people or 20 people. It's like a real production.
- [57:53]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [57:53]
Violet Myers
It is kind of awkward sometimes because sometimes I'll be in a scene and I'm like looking around and I'll make eye contact and I'll be like, never mind. You know, in a scene. But.
- [58:02]
Evan Ross Katz
It'S just more.
- [58:03]
Violet Myers
The more you do it and the more experience you gain from it, the better you get at it. But I was really nervous and scared because I didn't want to mess up because it's on the Internet forever. Yeah.
- [58:12]
Alan Ice
And you're like, I have no control. Like I can't edit this myself. Cuz I'm assuming they edit them too, right?
- [58:17]
Violet Myers
Oh yeah.
- [58:22]
Alan Ice
What is that like, you know, the first time maybe you saw yourself where you weren't in control of the video or like the concept, was it like, oh my God, I'm nervous to even watch myself back. Was that something that you would constantly do, like get nervous for that?
- [58:34]
Violet Myers
Yes, especially when I get a script where it's like taboo. I'm like, I don't feel like this is right. But I mean, you know, this is someone's fantasy so I should create it.
- [58:45]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [58:46]
Violet Myers
Now being in it for so long, I can say yes or no. But back then it was a little bit more difficult to kind of say no to things. Cuz I. I have a questionable scene pass where I'm like, why did I do that?
- [58:58]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [58:58]
Violet Myers
But also I. Not that I was forced to do it, but back then if you said no to a specific scene or shooting with a company, you were blacklisted. So you kind of almost had to say yes to everything. So it was really difficult to do certain roles and have to perform and become those characters. But then I also realized too, like, it's not real. I'm getting paid to do this and I can later on decide if I want to do it or not.
- [59:28]
Alan Ice
What's like the craziest scene you've done and what has been the preparation for that? Is it something that you have to prepare mentally, emotionally, or even physically? What has been that moment for you?
- [59:39]
Violet Myers
Yeah, I think the hardest one was my first gang bang. It's funny saying that out loud, but no, it was like 10 guys and just me. I remember I had a. I was like, this is my last meal before I have to prep and clean. So I had a chicken sandwich and little did I know the chicken sandwich was gonna give me food poisoning. I had food poisoning and I still had to prepare.
- [60:04]
Alan Ice
Right.
- [60:05]
Violet Myers
I started to prep and clean. So I get to. It's the day of. I'm still not feeling good because I. I didn't eat anything the day before because I had to clean out. And I was cleaning out, it was black stuff coming out. It was really scary and. And they had poured like thousands of dollars, like thousands of dollars into this movie. And I had to perform and still give it my best, even though I wasn't there physically. And it could have been a better performance. But for me that was like mentally challenging because I couldn't open up because I like, I had cleaned up too much to put to the point where black stuff comes out. And that's like the dangerous part, the of about doing too much, too many anal you know.
- [60:50]
Alan Ice
Oh, so you were doing it through anal and that hurts?
- [60:54]
Violet Myers
Yeah, I had to do it and I was able to still do it, but I wasn't able to do it like as long as I wanted it to be. That was tough.
- [61:04]
Alan Ice
Did you like tell the, the directors what was going on? What, what happens when like, especially in a production like that, like you said, there's times where it's not just one director, there's like multiple people in the room. What happens when you tell them like, hey, you know what, I'm deal this or I don't feel that great. Is it hard or is it scary to even like communicate that to them? Like in Amonetta you're like, oh my God. I hope that they don't like get mad or I hope that they're like, oh my God, why the are we wasting our time with this girl? Like, does that ever happen in your head?
- [61:31]
Violet Myers
Yes. I think that day too I was really embarrassed to really tell the director that because everyone's depending on me to, to perform and bring this movie to life. And I was in a contract with Vixen, so it was really hard for me to explain to them. But at the end of the day it is my scene.
- [61:56]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [61:57]
Violet Myers
And the director is, okay, like if you can do it, do it. No pressure. But if you can't, we'll do this and we'll make it work. And that was like the great thing about that situation. I was able to do one position in that, that. But after that we were like, okay, let's make it work. Let's do something else to kind of like distract people and make it still a great performance. But it is kind of nerve wracking. Cuz you, in the back of my head I'm just thinking like I, I feel really bad that this is, that I'm going through this and I'm wasting people's time. Yeah, that, you know, that's how I feel. And everyone on set has been through way worse. They've been through so much to the point where it's like, this is normal. Like if you can't do it, you can't do it. We're not going to force you to do it. It. That's up to you if you want to do it, but we're not going to tell you to do it.
- [62:39]
Alan Ice
But I feel like a lot of women, you know, or even males will go into this industry thinking that they're going to find, you know, quick success or even be successful at it and it really doesn't Work out for everyone. What do you think is like the key to your success and to why you're so popular and so successful at what you do?
- [63:00]
Violet Myers
Great question, because I didn't even think I was going to get this far. I had so many doors closed, you know, cuz I was curvy, I'm Hispanic, I'm Latina. So those opportunities usually don't happen for us as much as it happens for like the white girls. So for me it was about building my fan base and my audience and that's like the number one thing. Because you can be thick, curvy, tattoo lose, and companies wouldn't want to book you, but if you have the fans, they're gonna be like, well, you know, people, we want, they, they're requesting her, we want to book her because she has the fan base. So that was my number one thing, was to build my audience and to build my fan base so that I can get these opportunities. And just being myself, that's like the number one thing. A lot of people like will try to fake a personality or fake things they like just for views and things like that.
- [63:58]
Alan Ice
For the, the Kinks. Yeah, but you' what I do and what I love.
- [64:02]
Violet Myers
Yeah. For me it was just being nerdy. Like I, I say I'm like a horny nerd.
- [64:08]
Alan Ice
I love that.
- [64:08]
Violet Myers
I, I say that.
- [64:09]
Alan Ice
And the guys go crazy. Huh.
- [64:11]
Violet Myers
Because they relate too. And I, I also too was when like one of the first few adult stars to really talk about anime, go to anime conventions, just be so vocal about that community instead of like always about porn. Yeah. And that really made them feel connected to me. I'm also like really nice, super chill, approachable. I never, never once talk down on my fans or make them feel bad or anything. So that's what I feel like really draws them to my fan base. And I think that's what really gave me that leverage to be who I am today. Because, you know, my performance is great too. I really do it for the love of the game. I don't do it for the money. That's another thing too. You could tell who does it for money and then who does it for. Because art of it for the art of it.
- [64:54]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [64:54]
Violet Myers
And I'm just, I, I love everything about it. I love how far I've come. I don't have anything negative to say about the industry and I think a lot of fans really respect that.
- [65:04]
Alan Ice
What was it like the first time maybe someone approached you like, oh my God, I love your movies. Right. Love your videos. Like Was it awkward at first, like, oh, my God, like, they've seen me in this position? Or like, what went through your mind the first time someone kind of recognized you and told you something like, oh, my God, you're my favorite porn star. I love your videos. What was was that like?
- [65:23]
Violet Myers
I was never expecting that. I was never expecting to have any fans because I really didn't think there was fans in that. In the adult industry. I was like, there's fans in music and television, but no, there is a fan base for that. And I was a little, like, taken back. I was taken back. Yeah, you took those words out my mouth. I was taken back. So I was like, really like me. You could watch everyone. I really believe that men liked, like, the fake. Yeah, like the fake bodies, the. The. The bimbo look.
- [65:54]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [65:55]
Violet Myers
And I'm just natural. So I was just really shocked that someone actually liked me for my natural body. And so that kind of like, made me feel more comfortable because I remember back then I would watch, like, adult videos and I never saw girls that look like me. Yeah, they always had, like, the fake boobies or, like, the fake butt. And to see, like, someone like myself, like the natural, natural be that representation for someone that is looking for a video that looks like them, it makes me feel good.
- [66:19]
Alan Ice
And then I also do feel like it must feel good for you because, you know, I feel like a lot of. Because porn, like, I'm sure everyone has consumed porno, but I feel like porn is like one of those things. Like you said, you never thought people become fans because it's like something that a lot of people do on their alone time behind closed doors. Like, you're not gonna be out shouting like, oh, my God, my favorite porn star is Violet Myers. Unless you really love the person, like, for you, like you said, these people watch you not just your porn videos, they also watch, like, your social medias. They love, like, the type of content you create, the anime, the stuff. So it must feel good where you're like, oh, my God, I didn't think people would want to actively love me out loud. But you're like, they love what the you do.
- [67:00]
Violet Myers
And I really wanted to make that statement of where you don't have to be horny or sexual 24 7. Like, you are a person. Like, I clock in just like how everybody. Everyone does. And I clock out. I go to work, and then outside of work, I'm a different person. So I really wanted to make that a part of my brand and make that a thing where people can See, like, I'm. I'm a different version of a typical porn star.
- [67:27]
Alan Ice
What do you think is, like, the biggest misconception when it comes to the industry?
- [67:31]
Violet Myers
That we're all dirty and have STDs and that we all the time. And I mean, for some people, yeah, there I. I have some girls, or I'm like, I'm like, go, do you, girl. Like, they need it all the time. But for me, my, miss my. That's like the biggest misconception. Not all of us, like, some of us, like, it's cool to do it on camera because we're really bringing our fantasies to life as well. But that's not. Like, we get tested every two weeks. Like, I just got tested, like, on Sunday. We're super clean. The testing protocol itself is, like, hardcore. Like, we get our blood drawn, our throat, throat swabbed, but swabbed, like, before.
- [68:09]
Alan Ice
You even show up to, like, production.
- [68:10]
Violet Myers
Oh, you can't show up unless you have a clean test by two weeks. I get tested sometimes even once a week just because I, I. If I work a lot. Like, I just want to make sure that I don't give anything to anybody. Our sexual health is so important. Like, we take, like, tons of vitamins. We have to watch what we eat. We have to be in the gym because we have to keep up with that stamina and our appearance. So, like, that's like, a big misconception. I would feel like a lot of people would assume that we're just dirty. And it's so important to know your test results just because, you know, if you're active, you just never know. You would want to figure that out now.
- [68:46]
Alan Ice
What's it like dating as an adult start. Do you think that's become a problem where guys are like, oh, my God, I don't like what you do, or, like, you need to quit. Has dating been hard because of it?
- [68:55]
Violet Myers
In the beginning, it was very hard because I didn't know how to navigate my career or how to tell someone about my job because I had no experience. I was still new. And a lot of guys were like, I can't date you because you do this and that. And then now I feel like it's so much more easier because I'm an adult. I know how to communicate and talk to my partner about, like, hey, this is just my job. If I wanted to, I really could just quit right now and not do it anymore if I really wanted to. But I think I have a lot of options now than I did before because I Wasn't as big.
- [69:32]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [69:33]
Violet Myers
And it was a risk, I think, for a lot of guys, like, hey, if I bring you to my mom's house, like, you know, but now it's like, I'm already out there. I have a personality. It's easier to communicate to people, like, hey, this is what I do. You either take it or you don't. And most guys want. Yeah, like, a relationship. They like it.
- [69:48]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [69:49]
Violet Myers
Yeah, they like it. And also makes me feel uncomfortable because I'm like. Like, Violet is not like Violet all the time. I'm actually. Actually like the girl that goes to all the anime conventions and dresses up in cosplays. I'm always with my family, so I'm like, the complete opposite. And guys like that. They like the freaky, but also, like, the normal girl.
- [70:08]
Alan Ice
Yeah, the normal. Which is like, they get the best of both worlds. Has ever been a situation where like, maybe like, a guy takes you home and like, someone at a party like, oh, my God, I know you. Is that awkward?
- [70:19]
Violet Myers
Not awkward. I'm just like, hey, hello. They're like, oh, shoot, like, she's here. Like, what the heck? But I mean, me and my partner are open, like, like about talking about our relationship because he works a normal job and his co workers know who I am. And for him, that's like, they don't question it.
- [70:38]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [70:38]
Violet Myers
For me, the outside world, it's a little bit more difficult to be open my relationship because I also want to protect him, but protect our relationship from social media because we've gone public and I've had people. People bully and harass him, and that's not what I want. He's strong. He's older. Actually. He's older than me, so he's able to understand. Like, those are just little boys. They're just jealous trolls. They're like, they're just jealous. I have you. Like, you know, so being in a relationship in the adult industry is. Can be tough just because of the fans. I don't want them to think, like, hey, Violet is being taken away from me.
- [71:12]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [71:13]
Violet Myers
My partner has to know that, hey, I'm sharing my person with them, the world. And it's a. It's. It can be a lot for a lot of men, but for. For some guys, they actually like that. They like that. Well, yeah, you're watching her, but I'm with her.
- [71:25]
Alan Ice
You know, I'm going home with her.
- [71:26]
Violet Myers
Exactly. No, but my partner's super cool with it. Actually. He. Him and I started dating when I started to blow up and he's been there throughout the whole journey, and he's super supportive and he understands that it's just work. There is. You can find love in the industry. A lot of people feel like they, they, they can't. It's just about finding the person that can mesh with you in your environment and that likes that rush and fast. It's like dating an influencer, but just.
- [71:54]
Alan Ice
Some men can't take it. But I'm glad that you were able to find one. Get that, saved that, and that understands what you're doing. You know, talking about your career, you recently also launched your very own sex toy for women. It's the first sex toy by a man sex toy company. Tell us all about that. How did, like, the opportunity come to you? To you? What was your reaction when it came to you? And what was the process like of creating your own sex toy?
- [72:19]
Violet Myers
Okay, so I'm a Fleshlight girl and I. It's. It's amazing to have a toy for men or for women too, because, you know, couples, they share it. And I really wanted a product that can. As a content creator myself, I don't want to use, like, penis dildos all the time. I want something cute and fun that I can play with with. And I was looking in the market, and that was something I couldn't find. It was always like, either glass toys or just something that was like, super stiff and uncomfortable that I was just like, I can't. I can't do more than five minutes with this. And that's when I created this toy. I want to say, like, a year ago, I had this idea. I was like, okay, I want something that's fun and that people would never guess. It's a toy. Like, you could have that on your counter and people would never assume that.
- [73:04]
Alan Ice
Honestly, when you came in, you guys, I'm going to take. Take B roll after so we can put it on the screen right now. It really doesn't look like an actual sex toy.
- [73:12]
Violet Myers
No.
- [73:13]
Alan Ice
I thought you brought those, like, big Paletas, you know, like the. The little Paletitas. It literally looks like that.
- [73:19]
Violet Myers
That's what gave me the inspo. And at the end of the day, too, in this industry, it is a business. You know, you're. You sell yourself. But also I created this name for myself. I was like, what else can I do with it? I really want to create a product. I really wanted to break generational curses. I really want to be that first one in my family to be a millionaire and be the one to, like, take care of My kids, where they can go to, like, a nice school and, like, do. That's my. That's how I think. I think in the future. So I was like, what. What else can I do? I can't just live off my name for the rest of my life. I got to do something with it. And that's when I wanted to create a sex toy. And I came up with the concept. I was kind of, like, shopping it around with a few people, and I was like, it doesn't feel right working with someone that's not flesh eyed.
- [74:02]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [74:03]
Violet Myers
And I'm one of their top sellers on Fleshlight, and they actually approved of it. They're like, this is genius. Like, we have. We've been wanting to do sex toys for women, but we never really knew how to navigate or what we should do. So the fact that I even gave them that idea, they were, like, on board. They didn't even doubt it. I. They were just like, I'm here for it, and I believe in you. Let's do it. I chose the silicone mold. Mold. I chose the model. I chose the colors. I. I did everything I still have. We're still gonna make more too. We're doing different types of concepts. This was just the starter launch.
- [74:37]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [74:38]
Violet Myers
And that's just how it came about.
- [74:40]
Alan Ice
And I feel like that's actually really good because, like you said, you want to also build longevity. You know what I mean? Like, you don't want, like, maybe in the future. Is this something that you want to keep doing, like, forever? Not the sex toys, but, like, the actual, like, porn or, like, are you saying more? It's like you want to build something. Something by the name that you made to be able to give you, like, that, like, income without you maybe having to do things in the future, Right? Or. No, Both.
- [75:04]
Violet Myers
Yeah. I don't really see myself doing this for long. Wherever the wind takes me. I feel like I really just want to be prepared because you never know. You can be popular one day and then fall off the next. Not. I'm not claiming that energy, but I also like to. I'm that type of person that likes to be prepared for any type of situation. And I don't see myself being a performer forever. I definitely want to keep using my name, whether it's being a director or, you know, more toys or helping girls create careers that can get them. To get them to the path where I am right now. So that's kind of like why I really wanted to create longevity for my. For myself and also open doors for other Latinas in the industry too. Because a lot of us get shy, shined down. Yeah. Or they try to put us in categories that we're not. Like, I know so many of my friends that they're not even categorized as Latinas. They're categorized as white. Because it's just. I don't know how to explain it. Like if you understand, it's like the same in any work field. You know, it's really tough.
- [76:03]
Alan Ice
It's like a man dominated world. So they kind of get a choose like, ah, no, you look more like this.
- [76:08]
Violet Myers
Yeah.
- [76:08]
Alan Ice
People will find you more if we say you're this. Is that like a thing that happens?
- [76:12]
Violet Myers
Yes. And they even try to do it to me. Well, I mean, and I'm half a Mexican and then Turkish, Salvadorian, but they really try to run with the narrative that I'm Arabic and Middle Eastern. And I'm like, no, I mean, I'm half of that. But I don't know too much of that side of me. I just, I'm more Mexican. So for me it was just more really important to create doors for people because now that I actually launched my toy, now other girls are like, I want to do the same thing too.
- [76:38]
Alan Ice
Yeah. Or how do you do it?
- [76:39]
Violet Myers
Yeah. And I'm like always open and giving everyone advice. I'm not the type to gatekeep. I love to just give advice, advice freely. Just because I really, I'm the type. I want to see everyone succeed. I want to see everyone take care of themselves, their family, and not depend on this industry forever.
- [76:54]
Alan Ice
Where can they find the Violet Pop?
- [76:56]
Violet Myers
Violet pop is@fleshlight.com Violet Myers or just fleshlight.com I love it.
- [77:01]
Alan Ice
You guys, you stay. That you're very proud of being Mexican. Ac Poco. You know, there was a clip going around where people test kind of almost saying that like, oh, she looks like she's ashamed of being Mexican. Like, oh my God. Like, is she ashamed? Tell us a little bit more about that video. Tell us the bts, what really happened and how you felt in that moment.
- [77:28]
Violet Myers
Honestly, when I first saw that, I was like, what the heck? Like, I didn't say that because if you watch the video, they like chopped up clips from Duno's podcast. I did his Duno's podcast and I was talking about my experience in growing up in east la and I was bullied a lot for, for being mixed and being different. Because I didn't, I never said I don't look mixed. And I said kids told me I didn't look it because I, you know, I'm mixed and I know I look mixing. Like I wanna, I wanna, like I don't really care. I don't know. But it really, it really bothered me when people were assuming that because I'm so vocal, like I have the flag in my bio and it's just something that I really wanted people to know. Like you. It's so easy for someone to create a clip on the Internet and make it look like it's something that it's not. And that's scary.
- [78:23]
Alan Ice
It is, it is. Especially nowadays. I feel like clippers will put like the craziest titles and then you watch the video, you're like, nada. Like, where the fuck are you getting this fucking title? With this clip. Yeah, yeah.
- [78:35]
Violet Myers
And that's what they wanted. They got the attention they were wanted the person that posted that. But it honestly, it really affected me mentally because I struggled a lot with my identity.
- [78:46]
Alan Ice
Yeah.
- [78:46]
Violet Myers
Growing up especially because my dad was telling me like, you're Turkish Salvadorian. And my mom was telling me I'm Mexican. So I was like, wait, I, I didn't know about mix. Like, I, My mom never taught me, like, you're this, you're this, this, this.
- [79:00]
Alan Ice
And then at school you were getting bullied for it. So you're like, what the.
- [79:02]
Violet Myers
I'm like, what am I? Like? I didn't know. I was just like, I thought was I. I was like normal. I didn't grow up to be raised where it was like black, white, Asian, Hispanic. Like, yeah, my mom was just like, you're Mexican. That's it. Like, you know, that's all. So that was tough because that triggered something in me that I reminded me when I was bullied as a kid. And if people actually watch the clip, they can see that. I didn't say that. I just said like growing up, a lot of kids said I did. I didn't look hispatic. And that affected me to the point where I, for the longest, I didn't want to go to Mexico because a lot of kids would scare me. They'd be like, don't go because this and this and this and this. But obviously people don't want to do their research. They don't want to really even just kind of like sit down and watch the actual podcast or listen to me or even like do any research. Cuz if they actually do their research, I've done plenty of interviews and podcasts talking about my roots.
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Alan Ice
Yeah. I feel like that's what it is. I feel like you said, it's so scary, especially with the clippers nowadays days. And it's so easy for people. People are so gullible too. Like to the point that they can literally see a clip of like, oh, Alan is faking being gay and they'll run with it and they'll swear that I'll be faking. I mean, they've never said that, but.
- [80:18]
Violet Myers
I like to say that.
- [80:19]
Alan Ice
But it's so easy seen I said their own research. Like even they can clip something even from this podcast or maybe from the podcast you were talking about where it's like, you didn't say that, but they'll clip it and then people will really be like, oh, yeah, yeah, that's true, that's true. It's like, go watch the actual episode. Go watch and see the context. Go watch and have you ever seen any other things online that like a cheese mail rumor made up about you that you're like, that is not true. If so Desmient Lorita.
- [80:51]
Violet Myers
Yeah, first there was a rumor that I was dead. I'm alive, I'm here. You know, that was like a crazy rumor before. But never believe what you see on the Internet. That's why we have amazing podcasts like Alex Lens, where the, like, where we can come on and talk about things and you could see a different part of us and you could choose whether you want to engage with it or not. But also, don't believe everything you see on the Internet because sometimes people will do things for clicks and views. And then once you realize that people do things for, for attention or to gain followers, that's when you're like, okay, well, not everything is real.
- [81:31]
Alan Ice
It's all freaking. What is it called? The hologram. I'm not even interested. Literally, no. But I really have loved this interview. Where does Violet see herself in the next five to 10 years?
- [81:50]
Violet Myers
I see myself in five years in career wise or relationship wise family. I definitely see myself still in the industry, whether that's being a performer or not. I see myself also having a beautiful family. You know, I would love to be a mom, whether it's adopted or my kid or surrogate. Ten years, definitely having real estate, being, you know, productive in that and saving and investing my money into things like that, helping continue to help more people and just help more people in my industry to really just create longevity and money for themselves.
- [82:36]
Alan Ice
Maybe even in three years, maybe next year, you guys. But I really have had a great time talking to her amigas. Make sure you guys go ahead and follow her. I'LL leave her links down below as well as on the screen so you guys won't miss any future episodes. And with that being said, thank you so much, Violet.
- [82:57]
Violet Myers
Thank you, Alan.
- [82:59]
Alan Ice
Thank you guys so much for watching. And we'll see you guys in the next one. Bye, guys. Yay. You did so.