Podcast
Not As We Planned
Hosted by Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris · EN
New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon.
Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about.
From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all.
Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid.
If you have a question or want to share your story, email us at notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com
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My Husband Is The Perfect Dad… So Why Do I Think He’s Cheating?
1w ago00:36:31Tap to summarizeA listener tells us about the growing feeling she can’t ignore… her husband seems like the perfect dad, but she’s convinced something isn’t right. Is she overthinking it, or are the signs pointing to something more?We unpack the story, share our honest advice, and discuss whether trust your instincts or give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Plus, we help a listener improve their dating profile, chat about modern dating, and answer more of your relationship dilemmas and listener stories.If you’ve ever questioned your relationship, doubted your instincts, or wondered if you’re seeing red flags that everyone else is missing, this episode is for you.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Transcribe →I Finally Left My Toxic Relationship… So Why Do I Miss Him?
2w ago00:41:39Tap to summarizeYou finally leave the relationship everyone told you was toxic… so why do you still miss it?This week, we unpack a listener’s confession about leaving a toxic partner only to find herself missing the chaos she fought so hard to escape. We discuss why healthy relationships can sometimes feel “boring,” the psychology behind toxic attraction, and whether it’s possible to break the cycle for good.We also dive into another heartbreaking listener story about infidelity in the workplace, share our thoughts on modern dating, and catch up on everything that’s been happening in our own lives.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Transcribe →Why So Many Boys Are Struggling Today & What Parents Can Do with Raising Boys 2 Men
3w ago01:14:40Tap to summarizeBoys today are facing challenges that previous generations never had to navigate, but are we raising them in the right way?This week, we’re joined by Raising Boys 2 Men for an honest conversation about why so many boys are struggling, the impact of modern parenting, social media, positive male role models, and what parents can do to raise confident, emotionally resilient young men. We also discuss the mistakes we see too often, the conversations families avoid, and why the way we support boys today will shape the men they become tomorrow.Whether you’re raising sons, working with young people, or simply want to better understand the challenges boys face today, this is a conversation every parent should hear.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Transcribe →My Best Friend Lied To Me For 10 Years…
4w ago00:43:50Tap to summarizeWhat would you do if you found out your best friend had been lying to you for over a decade?In this episode, we unpack one listener’s shocking story, review another dating profile, help a man navigating struggles in his marriage, and talk about the common mistake people make by confusing emotional unavailability with chemistry.If you’ve ever questioned your relationships or your dating choices, this one’s for you.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Transcribe →He Faked Cancer While I Was Pregnant
Jul 100:51:55Tap to summarizeShe thought she’d finally found her happy ending.After blending their families and welcoming a new baby together, everything seemed perfect… until she discovered the man she loved had been living a shocking double life.This week, we read one of the most unbelievable stories we’ve ever received, hear from a listener trapped in a controlling relationship after 12 years together, and discuss why your gut instinct is often trying to protect you long before your mind catches up.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Transcribe →He Ghosted Me For 5 Weeks… Then Came Back Like Nothing Happened
Jun 2400:37:57Tap to summarizeHe disappeared without a word for five weeks… then came back expecting another chance.This week, Carly opens up about the emotional reality of co-parenting, we help a listener decide whether she’s holding on to someone’s potential instead of who they really are, hear from a woman who discovered her partner’s affair while she was eight months pregnant, and ask one very satisfying question… what happens when your cheating ex gets cheated on?Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Transcribe →My Husband’s Entire Life Was A Lie
Jun 1700:39:39Tap to summarizeA listener discovers that her husband’s entire life was a lie.After 14 years together, two children and what seemed like the perfect marriage, one tiny clue unravels everything.We also hear about a disastrous date involving a murder trial, review another Hinge profile, and help a listener decide whether to break no contact with the woman he can’t stop thinking about.Get tickets for our tour: https://www.aegpresents.co.uk/event/not-as-we-plannedWatch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Transcribe →He Didn’t Forget My Birthday, He Ignored It
Jun 1000:44:59Tap to summarizeTash opens up about her kids being around her boyfriend, the Snapchat message that wasn’t meant to be sent, when a break can help your relationship and the breadcrumbs that keep you there for too longGet tickets for our tour: https://www.aegpresents.co.uk/event/not-as-we-planned/Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Transcribe →He Left Me For a Man
Jun 300:38:03Tap to summarizeCarly opens up about her grief, a story that will remind you that kids really do absorb the environment they are in and after 20 years together he left his wife for a man.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Transcribe →Omg That’s NEW Information…I’m Terrified!!
May 2700:47:54Tap to summarizeYou share the sluttiest things you’ve ever done, we give feedback on the first Hinge profile you’ve sent in, the separation after 20 years and the long-term emotional affair found out on Snapchat!Get tickets for our tour: https://www.aegpresents.co.uk/event/not-as-we-planned/Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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