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Not Gonna Lie with Kylie Kelce
Kylie on 1 Year Postpartum with Finn, “Are You Trying For A Boy?” & Crazy Delivery Room Stories w/ OBGYN | Ep. 60
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Kylie Kelce
Not gonna lie. We're gonna discuss something in this episode. It's like my dirty little secret here. Wait for it, wait for it, wait for it. Are any of these the length of my actual hair? You guessed it. No. Let's get this podcast started. Welcome to our one part of episode of Not Gonna Lie, a Wave original brought to you by CVS Health. I'm your host, Kylie Kelce. In a few days, I'll officially be one year postpartum, which also means our youngest, Finn, is celebrating her first birthday. That's up. Generally, I'm okay with boogers. Not what I'm currently dealing with. And this week I turned. No, I'm not saying that. I turned over a new leaf. And I think I'm going to curse less on the podcast. Can you believe it? Yep, that's right. I did get this lovely gift from. For no reason whatsoever. From. Actually from. For a reason. It's. Where is it?
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Dr. Joan Devine
Where is it?
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Kylie Kelce
Where is it? Where is it? Happy first birthday. It's for Finny. Mind the two and the four. That's silly. They're not. They're not. I really appreciate the gift, though. And Queen Emma also brought this. Don't mind the candles. I may or may not have turned 24 yet. We're ignoring that. You're an asshole. You're such an asshole. Happy birthday, Kylie.
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Kylie Kelce
No, fuck my birthday. This is an ultimate chocolate cake. If you haven't had it, you should have is from Wegmans. This is the best chocolate cake on the market. You can't convince me otherwise, but that's. Thank you so much, Queen Emma for that sweet gift for Finny's. For Finny's first birthday. Okay, I. No, I don't have birthday plans. No, I am not a birthday girly. No, I didn't do anything for my birthday. Now let's move on.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Happy birthday girl.
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Kylie Kelce
No.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Love you.
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Kylie Kelce
Coming up on today's one year postpartum special, I'm gonna get honest about this past year as a mom of four. How I'm recovering a year after giving birth to Finn. Plus we'll check in on the girls relationships with their baby sister and what Finney has been up to recently. After that, I'm going to be joined by one of my favorite people ever. I talk about my love for my ob GYN team constantly. Emphasis on team. So it was about time I had one of the stars of the show on to talk about postpartum and what it's like dealing with me in labor. This is gonna. This is gonna be exposing and more importantly, what Jason's like during labor and what other people are like during labor. Hipaa. But like let's ask the hard hitting questions, you know. But before we get to all that, let's start with a quick NGL announcement reminder, real ones. This upcoming Tuesday, March 31st, you're getting the newest episode of FAFO. And like I said before, we have a big, well, actually small reveal coming. A cuddly fuzzy new Kelsey. And you're just gonna have to watch it on YouTube this Tuesday to find out more. I will say we shot this at the PSPCA Mainline animal rescue and met so many sweet animals. I cannot wait for the real ones to see it soon and also for you to see some potentially adoptable animals get in there. All right, now let's get to our real one comment of the week. Just from a quick glance, it looks like Queen Emma got another burner account. Good God. So with the 60th episode coming up, are we going to get a cool 60? This absolutely was you. I don't need to prove it. The proof is in the pudding. And the pudding is this comment. You did this note from the desk of Queen Emma. Wow, girl. 60 episodes. Congratulations. What a milestone. I don't know about you, but celebrating with with a cool 60 for episode cool 60 sounds pretty classic to Me. And we love that numerology. You're a jackass. K. Let me know. Hope you like the balloons. Love you. Okay, thanks. Bye. And then she chanted, fan vote. Fan vote. Fan vote. Fan vote. Who said that? That's what she typed. I'm not saying that. I'm saying that's what queen. I'm a typed. I have seen comments of people saying that they enjoy a 45 minute episode. And by 45, I mean 48. Because we have to fit in the ads because. But our queen Meg is doing her job.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Yeah, there's probably one of those comments. Maybe two of thousands.
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Kylie Kelce
Okay, we can put it to a fan vote. We can put it to a fan vote then.
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Dr. Joan Devine
We did it, guys. Fan vote. I can't wait. All right, cool. 16 is.
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Kylie Kelce
She's catching me on a down week. But be cool, guys.
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Dr. Joan Devine
And the winner is a cool 60. Great job, everybody. We did it.
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Kylie Kelce
All right, now that that's been handled, let's get right into this one year postpartum edition of Can I Be Honest? And today I'm kicking things off by getting honest about an entire year of being a mom of four. Starting with an update on one of the biggest questions I had this time last year. How are my older girls adjusting to their new baby sister? Well, let me tell you, Ellie and Finny are best friends. Ellie actually told me. Oh, no. Benny told me the other day. This is a big deal. Big deal. Benny told me the other day that her and Finnie were going to be best friends. Now, it was a. Were gonna be best friends. So it is a. It's future tense. And so I. From that. I think we're not quite there yet. But she has figured out how to make Finn laugh. And as with grown adults, it's the same with children. When they can make a baby laugh, they feel as though that is an accomplishment as it is. And they've been doing an outstanding job doing that. Now, Wyatt likes to be in charge. Nothing new. So she likes to be given jobs like, hey, put Finny back in the gate when Finn escapes from the living room. Benny only wants to really make her laugh or pretend that she's a baby doll. We're working on it. There's been a lot of things put on Finn's head. And by that I mean headbands, ears, hats, dresses. And I said on her head. I didn't say on her body. Because Benny thinks that she can dress Finn and so she'll just put the dress over her head and then Finn's sitting there with like, a dress covering her face going. And, you know. Yep. So it's going pretty good. I would say that Finn has an affinity for Ellie right now, but I say right now because it's ever shifting. I will say Finn is not speaking a lot. I'm not going to be that mom that's like my kid says, blah, blah, blah, this many words. No. But I will tell you, one of the things that she likes to do is call for Ellie. And Ellie is sweet enough that Ellie will typically call back. So Ellie will stand in the other room and go, Finny. And Finn will sit in the other room and go, a. And it's very cute. And she doesn't always do both syllables and it doesn't always sound like Ellie, but she does try to yell back to Ellie, which is a very cute practice that I encourage a lot. So, yeah, it's. It's going well. They have accepted that she is a human being and not just a blob, which is great because now she is sort of toddling along a little bit and trying to get involved is very sweet to watch her, which we've seen this with every child Ellie on that they just want to be involved. And so to see them sort of crawl into the mix is just very heartwarming. And then when their older sisters actually tried to involve them, it is so sweet. Now, that would be like the Instagram version. Okay. When they crawl. When she crawls in and she tries to get involved, and then their sisters hand her a Barbie or a toy and try to let her get involved. The real life version, which is. I would say the majority of the time is when Finn tries to crawl in and get involved and then she gets yelled at and try. They try to, like, edge her out and push her back so that she can't touch the perfectly framed house that they have put together and strategically place the characters that are playing. So just let's manage expectations here. I'm not saying that my kids play nicely all the time. The biggest difference from going from three kids to four kids. There was a moment, there was a while when we were choosing to try for what is now Finn, where I kept thinking that I had forgotten a child like that one was missing. I think it had a lot to do with the age that Benny was and the progression, because it just felt like I didn't have a baby with me anymore. Either way, I. It feels very comfy and whole. It feels very balanced. I love even numbers. I've said that on the show before, something I often get Asked about is age gaps at this point after having Y, I was already pregnant with Ellie. That's bananas to me. The idea I still, oh, I still can't fathom that. I got pregnant less than a year postpartum. That is crazy bananas. I, when people tell me that they've gotten pregnant, really, I would say, I would say within the first year postpartum, I just want to wrap them up in a little burrito and just like just rock them. I want to rock them because as much as you are excited about it and it's amazing. Whoa. Because getting a year out, I was just thinking this the other day. Getting a year out feels more stable and I don't know if it's just the hormone flush or your body going back or your organs being back where they're intended to be or your joints feeling more stable or maybe just like sleep is probably better by a year out. All of these things that come together to just make you feel like a year out has been my threshold of where I feel like if I start working out again, seriously, that like I might feel strong again or that I might feel like my body is stable. A two year age gap just feels reasonable because you've given your body time to adjust but you're also not getting so far out that you feel like why would I start over? That's I. Guys, I've told you before, if my last kid gets out of diapers then, then I'm. The shop is closed. If you catch my draft, I will say Finnie is still just cuddly enough that I do not have an urge for baby right now. Let me just say that I like to leave it open ended because I don't want the universe to hear me or my uterus. Nobody's talking to you. But I do think four feels good. And that's it for can I be honest. Moving on, let's get to a segment that's back for another year by popular demand. This time with some updates presenting the do's and don'ts of talking to postpartum women one year after giving birth. First up, gotta start with the good old fashioned. Don't. Number one, don't ask her if she's back to her pre baby weight yet. Better yet, don't ask her about her weight at all. But I'm going to tell you right
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Dr. Joan Devine
now,
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Kylie Kelce
pre baby weight Kylie. Pre baby Kylie. Let me say that again. Pre baby body of Kylie. I don't know her. She doesn't live here. My body built a whole ass human being. Okay, and you're going to look at me and you're going to tell me that I'm supposed to get back to pre baby weight. Okay? If I'm going to get back to pre baby weight, then you tell my stomach to go back to looking the way it did when I was 24. No. Not going to happen. Well, then you've got your fucking answer. How about that? That's ridiculous. Number two, do ask how she's feeling a year after giving birth. This is such a great question. Let's check in. Let's care about her thoughts and feelings. Let's ask her how her body's feeling, how she feels a year after birth, how she feels that she kept a tiny human alive for one whole year. Good job, mom. Number three, unless you are particularly close with mom, don't ask when the next baby is going to be on the way. Oh, I'm so serious. And speak for myself here, don't you dare ask if we're going to give it one more try for a boy. I swear to God, I swear to God, don't ask me that. Also, let's just put this into perspective. If you look at me and you say, number one, are you going to have another one? Or number two, are you going to try for a boy? You are looking at a woman who has had four children. Four children in, what was it, six years. How are you going to look at a woman who has had four children and be like, are you going to have another one soon? Are you going to try for a boy? So suck my ass. How about that for asmr? Suck my ass. Number four, don't ask mothers of one year olds if they're worried about their baby not reaching certain milestones. Ladies, if you are still losing sleep or letting milestones of children rule your thoughts, I'm gonna need you to cut that out immediately. I need you to cut it out now because I'm gonna tell you right now for children later, the one thing I can tell you that I've learned, that I've told you a million times, they're all different. I'm telling you that within a kid, a group of kids whose gene pool is the same, it's the same gene pool and all their shit's been different. Okay, so how are we going to compare our kids to the neighbor's kids? Or your nieces and nephews or your friends kids? That is some bull. Also, if you look at the thresholds, the range at which these children are supposed to be hitting these milestones, why is it so wide. What? That's right, because every kid is different. We got there together, so please don't do that. And also make sure that we're not putting pressure on anyone else, okay? Sometimes we can say what we want to say. We can be proud of our kids. Wyatt was an early talker. She was. She wanted to chit chat. Ellie. That child didn't utter words. I mean, she's said a couple words here and there. She did not speak to us until she was probably 18 months old. Okay? Like, speak to us. Like, really be like, oh, this can help me. Okay? She had words, but she didn't. You know what I'm saying? They're in the same house. They have the same parents that raised them the same way. Very close together, mind you. They were 17 months apart. Okay, guys, cut it out. Don't let those comparisons steal the joy of the amazing things that you are watching your kids do. And in that same breath, if your kids are having delays and. Or are not meeting the thresholds, that's okay, too, okay? Because there are things in place to help you support them and. And sometimes they're just not fucking ready. Leave them alone. That's it for Do's and Don'ts of Talking to postpartum Women, One Year later edition. And now a segment that's as fun to say as it is to do. You know what's fucked up? And in honor of this special episode, you know what's fucked up? People still believe that postpartum only applies to the first six weeks after giving birth. That's crazy. I literally just said it takes me until I am typically a year out of giving birth to feel like I am more myself. This is fucked up. Because if you read studies about when you're healed, like truly healed, it isn't even close to six weeks. You go in for a post birth checkup six weeks after giving birth. That's typically when you go in for your postpartum appointment. That appointment is there to make sure that you don't have any postpartum immediate complications. Six weeks is not when you're done being postpartum. That's not how that works at all. Not even close. Don't do that. I've already banned the phrase in a past episode. Bounce back. We're not bouncing back in six weeks, okay? You're not even cleared for strenuous activity until six to eight weeks. That's. That's like lifting large things. Guys. You're not even allowed to have sex for six to eight weeks. Okay? This is not like the she's not ready because she's not healed. And I'm going to tell you right now. For anyone who has experienced sex postpartum Are we doing this? We're doing this. I'm talking about it. For anyone who has experienced sex postpartum specifically, I can only speak to after a vaginal birth. There might be. And now I've had varying experiences, different for every kid. It's not all fun and games, guys. It's not all fun and games the first couple times, if you catch my drift. We can't be out here like no, that was, that was, that was great. What a human just exited that door. That's it for you know, what's up. I'll be right back after these messages from myself. Postpartum anxiety can sometimes creep in for women after having a baby. Luckily, the CVS Health app is a single place to handle all of your healthcare needs. 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You know there isn't much I'm afraid to talk about, so let's talk about one of the most universal postpartum truths. Poop. The first one Terrifying. A fear I cannot even begin to explain. The first postpartum poop is, I mean, wow. Scary. And if you're a Type C mom, I'm gonna assume that remembering to take stool softeners or supplements isn't high on the list of priorities during this particularly stressful time, especially with the lack of sleep. If I have to remember to take it, it very well might not happen. But Olipop. I remember that because I actually want it. Olipop is delicious, refreshing and has 6 to 9 grams of prebiotic fiber to support your gut and help keep things moving. It's not a health drink you should have, it's a soda you want to have because it's delicious and it comes in 18 different flavors. You can get a free can of Olipop when you buy any two cans of Olipop in store and they'll pay you back for one. Shop at Walmart, Wawa, Whole Foods and thousands of other retailers near you. Some sign up@drinkollipop.com NGL and we're back and so is Doomscroll the week Postpartum edition. First up on this postpartum themed doom scroll. I've mentioned mom showers before on the show, and as a mom of four, this is basically just a glimpse at my everyday life. The clip, please. Queen Emma says, point of view. Trying to take a shower as a mom. The mom is in the shower and there is a tiny baby face with a pacifier peeking around the corner of the curtain. Let me tell you about this. Queen Emma wants to know how many times a week does this happen? Anytime I get in the shower. Literally anytime I am not in their view, they want to know where I am. Let me explain. I go in the shower. We have a glass door on the shower. I will go in the shower. Kids will come up. I can hear them run into our bedroom because they sound like a herd of elephants. One child will sound like a whole herd of elephants. They run into the room, they come into the bathroom, and typically they go, mom. And I say, yes, and they go, mom. They say, you yes and they say, mom. I say yes, and they say, what are you doing? Well, I think I'm showering. And then they proceed to try and wipe the glass on the outside. And then they yell at me when they realize they can't wipe off the condensation and that I have to wipe off the condensation in the inside. And so then it turns into mom, mom, mom, I can't see. Mom, I can't see you. Mom, I can't see you. As if I want them to see me. Last scroll. It's good to know I'm in good company with my ridiculous postpartum baby hairs situation. Let's see this clip, please. Queen Emma. Oh, it says them all. You're a year postpartum. Me? How did you know? She has, let's call it, 3 inch hairs on either side of her head sticking straight out as if she has a handlebar mustache, but it goes out from both sides of her ears. And I say that in a loving way. Okay? And I got a shout out To Tillietodo's caption, it says, love my horns. C. Here's. I always. I always try to look at the positive here, okay? And that positive is that she can tuck those behind her ears. They've gotten long enough. The couple of baby hairs that I have, I really did get them today. I got them today. Fuck you guys. I got them. I'm talking to my hairs, by the way. I have. It's this spot here. Mostly this side, my right side, and sometimes this spot here, but always dead center top. Okay? They just. I don't know what happens. I will. I will touch them this way and you will see the quickest tip I have for you. Chapstick. That's it. That's the whole sentence. Chapstick is the tip. You gotta put some chapstick on the baby hairs because it will weigh them down. And then if you look at other episodes of this podcast over the last. Let's call it six months, you might decide not to take my advice about baby hairs because. Yep. Well, you have eyes. Okay. All right, that does it for doom scroll of the week. Next up, I've been excited to share this one with the real ones. I've literally been talking about this idea for months. I have a go to postpartum gift for new mothers in my life. I feel strongly about making sure that people around me get the things that I found to be super important, either that I purchased for myself for my postpartum recovery or that other people purchase for me that in the middle of the night or on a random day. I thought to myself, oh, you know what? I think I got that for my baby shower. And so I would like you guys to consider that this is. These are things that I found helpful in my postpartum experience. Presenting my personal postpartum gift guide. And I'm going to go through these rapid fire style. Okay? Number one, tux, witch hazel pads. And an alternative for that is witch hazel spray that's going on your lady bits. Okay? It's as simple as that. It's going on your lady bits postpartum. Don't worry. Your angel of a postpartum nurse will tell you exactly what to do. Okay? Number two, dermaplast. Every single time. Hear me out. Every single time. Every time. Pee. Or two. One or two. Okay, Spray that before you go to the bathroom. Don't go to the bathroom without spraying the dermaplast. Icicle pads also numb that up. Okay? You pop the pad, you shake it, you put it right down there. Then you're gonna lay your little tux. Pads. Next. Number four, adult diapers. Let's be clear. Nobody really wants to go to the store and buy adult diapers. It seems it's an experience. Here's the deal. Take that off their plate. The sizing is easy enough. You can guess it. I know you can. Adult diapers. I loved postpartum because I had significantly less leaks with bleeding. This is so. I'm so. So many people have left at this point that I feel like we. We're just off the rails. And I'm saying it because that's what we do around here. You have less leaks, more coverage. They're honestly really comfortable. Number five, Dulcolax. Because they're going to tell you you need it when you leave the hospital. And they're dead serious. You need a stool softener. Okay, I said what I said. One of the scariest things you're going to do. Your first poop after giving birth. Okay? It's just. If you don't believe me, that's fine. I'm happy for you. Don't collect because you're going to. You're going to have to stop at CVS or send someone to CVS to pick it up for you. If you don't already have it. Now you're going to have it. Number six. A five pack of onesies or a multi pack. Any multi pack of onesies. And this is very specific. You want to get the cheapest ones, and you want to get probably zero to three months, okay? And what you're going to tell that mom is, is how cheap those onesies were. And you're going to emphasize that if that baby has a blowout, that they are to throw it in the trash. And right in that same camp. Number seven, puppy pads. You know why? Because if it's really bad, you. You put a puppy pad down, okay? You change their butt. You roll up the puppy pad with all the mess inside, throw it in the trash. You know what it got on? Nothing. Because the puppy pad had your back. Number eight, baby Tylenol. Because it's something that months after I had given birth, I thought to myself, I need to give this baby Tylenol. And I found it in the drawer because I had not personally purchased Tylenol because it didn't even cross my mind that I would need it in a pinch. And then I was in a pinch, and it was there. Same thing. Gas drops. Are they a hoax? I'm unsure. Does it make you feel better about giving it to the baby when you're really going through it probably. Number 10, a baby thermometer. Because again, you need it when you're in a pinch and sometimes you're in a pinch at 2am Baby thermometer. Number 11, baby nail trimmer. Okay. If you want to do the little dremel one, some people feel better about that. If you want to do the little trimmer, some people feel good about that. Whatever you feel in your soul, get that one. But mom doesn't want to look like she came across Wolverine. Okay, so get a baby nail trimmer. Number 12, snacks. I feel like that one's pretty straightforward. Number 13, an adult beverage. If they enjoy that. And if they don't enjoy that, get them whatever non adult beverage they enjoy so that it can be crispy and delicious and they can have it whenever they want. Number 14, butt paste. I prefer Desitin because I like to spackle their asses. Okay. Just thick as can go on. That's what I'm bringing in. That one. You think it's for a baby? It's not. Because if you can avoid a diaper rash, your life is going to be easier. Number 15, nipple cream. Pretty straightforward. If they are choosing to have a breastfeeding journey, it might be soothing. Number 16. And this one I'm very serious about pacifiers, but as many different kinds as you can find. You want to find just. I'm talking five different options. And number 17, hand sanitizer for mom for in the middle of the night when you change diaping and you know it's dark and you're not 100% sure what got on your hands. Just hand sanitizer and hand soap that you guessed it is for the guests who want to visit your baby because the first thing they're going to do when they walk through your door is wash your hands. Wash your hands. And that's it for my postpartum gift guide. Let us know what your go to gifts are for the moms in your life and what I should be adding to this list by tagging us GL with Kylie. I'll be right back with my OB Dr. Divine. It's the end of March and you know what that means. The procrastination has almost reached its limit and it's now time to finally get your taxes over with. Luckily, the easiest way to do it is with Taxact. I can't remember to do a single thing I tell everybody. I push my brain out when I pushed out my kids. 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Kylie Kelce
She's been with me through all of it, aka all four of my labors with my children. She's an OB GYN with Axia Women's Health, the McConnell Division Dr. Joan Devine welcome to Not Gonna Lie.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Hello everyone. Hi Kylie.
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Kylie Kelce
Now, we've known each other for a very long time and and I'm basically a regular in labor and Delivery. At this point, I feel like if I had a punch card, I'd be getting the next one for free for sure. But we. I have been a patient of the practice since before I got pregnant the first time. I always express, especially on the podcast, how much love I have for not only the team of obs that we have at the office, but also the labor and delivery nurses, the recovery and care that we receive as patients. There have been times where I've called and I just wanted to talk to Diane, the nurse in the office. I'd be like, is Diane. Could she call me back? It is such a personal experience, not only your pregnancy, but the process of trying to get pregnant, your health, overall health and well being as a woman, that it's so personal. And so to have a team of doctors and an office staff as a whole that you feel comfortable calling, going to, asking for help, asking their opinion, calling, even when it's something where you're like, I think I'm wasting their time, but I know that they will tell me that I'm not right. That is. That is something I have found super, super valuable in my relationship with everyone there on the team. Now, what makes for an awesome ob, and particularly an awesome OB in pregnancy, right?
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Dr. Joan Devine
I mean, you want someone who really likes and is passionate about women's health and pregnancy and delivery. And, you know, what helps is, you know, you'll know that, you know, hey, are there people, other people there going, you know, are they someone who lights up when they talk about, you know, hey, this is what the next steps are going to be. This is what the pregnancy is going to be like, you know, giving that anticipatory guidance, you know, just, hey, you're going to be okay. And you're going to feel, you should feel like your doctor is interested and, you know, not just going through the motions.
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Kylie Kelce
I will say, whenever I have talked people into coming to the McConnell Division of Axiom Women's Health, I've always told them that every single time a doctor, not only you, but Dr. Dempsey, Colleen, Brooke, Dr. High, anyone who comes in, they always sat down. And so that to me was the sign of, like, you have my time. And so that in, in terms of, like, experiencing that as a pregnant woman who is like, okay, what have I thought about for the last month that I'm like, that I need to unload right here so that I can make sure I get all of my answers to my questions. And for anyone who has experienced pregnancy in particular, you know that you get some funky symptoms. So to walk in and to have someone sit down and be like, how is it going? And for you to be able to be like, I'm so glad you asked. Let me tell you about what happened last week, right, with this weird thing on my leg. You know, at no time have I ever felt like anyone has ever looked at me and said, like, that's so weird, or that's like that strange or, or given you sort of like that judgmental moment. It's always like, you know what, that happens.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Right.
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Kylie Kelce
You know, and to not feel alone feels great.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Right? Right. Yeah. You never want to feel dismiss. And one of my mentors who started the practice, Patty McConnell, she, I remember, she said, no matter how busy you are, Joan, sit down. You only have five minutes, but if you sit down, your patient's gonna feel heard.
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Kylie Kelce
Now, as you know, this is our one year postpartum special. So I have to ask, when you saw me do the podcast 48 hours after giving Birth, were you surprised?
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Dr. Joan Devine
You know, not really. You know, I'm just like, of course she's doing that, looking great. And you had Finn with, you know, it was your fourth. And so I find moms who have more than one, you know, each one, it gets a little bit like, hey, this kid just has to come along.
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Kylie Kelce
Yep. Now, as a doctor, do you not recommend doing that?
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Dr. Joan Devine
I would, I would say, please do not pressure yourself in doing anything but taking care of that baby and yourself.
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Kylie Kelce
Now, I also thought we could just go straight to the source about what I'm really like in labor. And by that I mean Queen Emma wants to know the, the hard hitting facts here. How would you describe me as a laborer?
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Dr. Joan Devine
You know, you are no nonsense and you have a plan. There's no sugar coating necessary. This is the plan. We're going to have a healthy baby and a healthy mom and really, that's it?
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Kylie Kelce
Yeah, I, I've told everyone. I tell everyone that. I mean, even when they don't ask, I'm like, my plan is to get in there, is to get induced to get an epidural, then get this baby out.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Right. And you get down to business.
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Kylie Kelce
Yep, that's it. What do you remember? Do you remember anything in particular about any of our birth experiences together?
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Dr. Joan Devine
You know, I. Yes, I do. I mean, I remember, you know, Jason just kind of being relaxed on the couch and. But when it's time to push, he was really a great supporter for you of both coaching you and physically helping you push that baby out.
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Kylie Kelce
Seriously, I. That's one of the things that I've talked about that I think people are thinking I like. And I think even he has. I think we talked about it on the other podcast. I think he thinks I'm kind of blowing smoke up his ass. Like, I'm trying to give him credit, but I've explained to him, like, when he gets up behind me and helps me crunch forward, I'm like. Then I feel like I'm locked in my core muscles. They. They're a mile apart. At that point, they're not doing too much. And so when he helps me get forward, I'm like, yeah, I can do this. This baby is coming out, right?
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Dr. Joan Devine
Yeah.
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Kylie Kelce
It's great, right?
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Dr. Joan Devine
And, you know, for you, I think you. I could tell you're uncomfortable at times, but you're. You're, you know, your normal self. Of course, you're not going to be cheery happy the whole time, but. No, no.
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Kylie Kelce
Especially when I feel nauseous, I'm like, no. Yeah, but that's. I'd like, yeah, you guys fix that really fast. So it's really nice.
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Venmo Advertiser
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Dr. Joan Devine
Yeah.
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Kylie Kelce
Now, is there maybe anything funny that's happened during labor? I will say, I do think you were there for the. I. I always. I have to clear myself up here. Wyatt, you were there for Ellie. You were in an emergency c section. So Dr. High, Brooke received her, which was very funny because I've never seen someone shift their tone so quickly. She was like, let's do a test push. And then I did a test push. And she was like, hey, let's not do that again. And all of a sudden, her hair was up, she had a gown on. I was like, is it go time? And then, Benny, you were there, and I think Finn, you were also there with Colleen. Is that right?
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Dr. Joan Devine
Yeah. And Finn has the same birthday as my son. My oldest.
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Kylie Kelce
Yes. Yeah. So I will say you were there for. When we were mid. I believe, mid push. And Jason, I said, well, what's her middle name? And Jason's. Oh. We were debating whether or not he could go down and look. Yes. And you said, do you want to come down? And I said, you're not allowed down there. And he said, I think I'm going to go down there. And I said, you can go down there if you tell me what her middle name is. And that's when he picked Elizabeth for Wyatt. And that was one of those moments where I was like, do other people typically have this conversation in the middle of pushing? Right.
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Dr. Joan Devine
You know?
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Kylie Kelce
Yeah.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Husbands or partners, you know, say all
- [48:20]
Kylie Kelce
sorts of funny stuff.
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Dr. Joan Devine
In those moments. And so, yeah, you know, some people do want to go look. Some people are, like, totally hands off the real ones.
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Kylie Kelce
And fans of the other podcast, love the clips that I've shared of Jason in the delivery room over the years, most notably the one with his fan.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Yes.
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Kylie Kelce
And as an expert on the matter, how high on the list of important items to pack is a fan, would you say? Right.
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Dr. Joan Devine
You know, I think a fan for. For the patient, a lot of people bring the little fan, clip it on the bed. Sure. But a fan for the spouse of that size, I don't usually see.
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Kylie Kelce
It's. He felt very strongly about that fan. Yeah. He loves that it's his. It was his training camp fan. It was like a com. I think it was like his, like, security blanket fan. Really?
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Dr. Joan Devine
Yeah.
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Kylie Kelce
Now, what's the strangest thing that you've seen come in to the delivery room?
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Dr. Joan Devine
You know, I think it might not. Some people bring in a lot of candles, battery operated candles, to set the mood, and I think that's not strange, but I'm just like, oh, wow, we thought of that. It's.
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Kylie Kelce
Yeah.
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Dr. Joan Devine
You know, and then I enjoy playlists, so they're so interesting and can be so different, but, you know that I feel like that's adorable. Right. There's a thought into there, and I get to see what kind of music they like, and that kind of thing.
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Kylie Kelce
Is that common? It's fair.
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Dr. Joan Devine
The playlist, fairly common with a first baby.
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Kylie Kelce
Are they. With the first. Are they bringing a speaker?
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Dr. Joan Devine
Sometimes, yeah.
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Kylie Kelce
Okay. Is there, like a. Is there a sound limit that is placed?
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Dr. Joan Devine
I mean, not really.
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Kylie Kelce
Have you ever had to tell anybody to turn? I have. I have, yes. Yeah. I can only imagine that, like, if you're really trying to lock in, you might not notice how loud your music is. Right.
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Dr. Joan Devine
You know, you're just in it. And if that's what they need, that's great. But, yeah, there have been times where we're like, we need to turn that down.
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Kylie Kelce
I. Yeah. I don't have the organization to think to put a playlist together ahead of time. Right. And af. And it's funny you say your first child, like the first child they typically do it for. Because every birth after Wyatt, I have taken the opportunity to, like, watch adult shows, not get argued with about what I'm watching on my phone. Jason and I will usually start, like, a new series in recovery. Like last. I think this last time we watched the Great British Bake Off.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Yeah.
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Kylie Kelce
For, like, a full season worth. Because it's really Like a nice little
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Dr. Joan Devine
getaway, Some peaceful time.
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Kylie Kelce
Very much so. Now, we oddly made headlines three years ago with my super bowl birth plan, which involved me bringing both you and Colleen, Dr. Dempsey to Arizona for the game, just in case. Now, luckily, we didn't have to. It was. It was smooth sailing. She stayed in. Benny was cooperative. Potentially the only time in her life that she's been cooperative, but she stayed in. What was your honest reaction when we first talked about this? Because I remember talking about this when I was maybe, like, six months along. We talked about it fairly early and very vaguely because we didn't want to jinx.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Right. And I, I remember thinking, oh, I, I, you know, I, I didn't want to jinx it. Right. I didn't want to put too much thought into it. So it kind of put it out of my mind.
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Kylie Kelce
Yep. And then, yeah, we circled back. We circled back when necessary. Right. How did you feel when. When we officially had a plan of you coming not only as, like, a doctor and focused on that, but also as an Eagle Smith.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Yeah. You know that Sunday night when they won the game, I looked at my husband on the couch and I was
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Kylie Kelce
like, I don't know.
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Dr. Joan Devine
And then, of course, I saw you the next day for a visit. And that's when it all started. You know, it was a whirlwind, and it felt exciting, of course. And I had one night that I was asleep, sleepless night, where I started to think about, okay, what if something happens on the plane? It's the plane ride where I was. You know, that's what we were there for. Those. Yes to and from plane rides. And so I couldn't sleep one night and walked through every scenario and thought about exactly everything I could pack to be prepared. And I think once I got through that night, I was, like, just super excited to get to experience this as an Eagles fan. Be there for you.
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Kylie Kelce
We actually went so far as to connect with a doctor in Arizona. We said, obviously, we know that you guys cannot practice out there, but that you guys would then become my support team people and be able to advocate for me on my behalf if we were to be in a labor and delivery situation in Arizona, because obviously Jason would be tied up. Right. So that was our plan on the ground. But, yes, very much. Our discussion beforehand was, if I have to give birth on this plane full of Eagles family, how do we make it the least intrusive?
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Dr. Joan Devine
Right. Traumatic, maybe?
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Kylie Kelce
Yes. That's the word for everyone. Yes. Now, is this. Was this the craziest lengths that you've gone to for a birth plan.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Yes.
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Kylie Kelce
Or a potential birth plan.
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Dr. Joan Devine
100. Yes.
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Kylie Kelce
I'm so glad we could.
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Dr. Joan Devine
I know we get to do that together. Yeah. And, you know, we. I did talk to that physician in Arizona and I remember him saying, you know, where he was going to be during the whole weekend. And, you know, then he said at the end, you know, you know, nothing bad can happen here. Yeah, I know.
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Kylie Kelce
Yeah. That's why I'm here right now. I talked about this a little earlier in the episode, but I would love you to weigh in with your expertise. First of all, it's a common misconception that the postpartum period is six weeks and then it's over. Why is that wrong?
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Dr. Joan Devine
Right. Because it lasts longer. Right. It's just like we have one postpartum visit. It's not enough. Right. Women need support much longer. But really, the postpartum time frame, depending on what you're reading, it's really three months. Right. Like those 12 weeks. And anything in that first year after having the baby, we'll. We consider it can be related to the postpartum experience.
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Kylie Kelce
Now, what are some other common misconceptions about postpartum that you'd like to set the record straight on?
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Dr. Joan Devine
I mean, I think that women need to know you're not going to be doing it all. And it's okay to ask for help, it's okay to accept help. It's also okay that you're not going to feel great. You're adjusting to being tired, a fatigue you've never known most of the time. And you know, things that you used to do, like exercise, you know, intimacy with your partner, these things aren't going to feel great for a while and that's okay.
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Kylie Kelce
What are some of the most common questions you get from women throughout their postpartum journey?
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Dr. Joan Devine
Sure, sure. You know, real common ones are, you know, if they're bleeding, hasn't stopped, you know, is this normal? A lot of women want to talk about when they can think about the next pregnancy and timing of that.
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Kylie Kelce
What is the recommended. I'm not asking for myself. We've already had this information. What is the recommended distance with. Between pregnancies?
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Dr. Joan Devine
Sure. You know, with a normal birth. Right. Not a C section. You know, it's. Someone could start to think about it when their baby is six months. So six months to a year with the C section, you really want to have at least 18 months between the two deliveries.
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Kylie Kelce
That's an important difference because that's a wide gap right now. How Much should women care about the age 35 when it comes to pregnancy? Because there's been a lot of talk about the term geriatric pregnancies and that sort of 35 threshold. What. What do you have to say about that?
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Dr. Joan Devine
Right. You know, and I think we're seeing so many more women have children in that age range, like 35 to 42. And so we are less, you know, nervous about it because we see it more commonly. And so there are some risks, like some increased risk of things like high blood pressure in pregnancy or diabetes in pregnancy. And so they may have some more visits, some more ultrasounds, but we feel confident, typically in that age group. And I don't really tend to tell my patients to worry too much about that.
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Kylie Kelce
I cannot thank you enough. It is an absolute pleasure to get to see you on a random day, but also to have you on the podcast. I will forever sing your praises until the end of time. Dr. Devine was. I'm not gonna cry. Maybe I will. Who knows? Dr. Vine was the doctor that helped me through my miscarriage. Oh, hold on. I'm not gonna do it. I'm gonna believe in myself. And I truly don't think that I would have had the courage to try again so quickly had you not handled that with such care. And I'm sure that as an ob, it is something that you have to help women deal with on a very regular basis more often than I think any of us would like to have happen. But that experience and the way that you handled that and the way you helped me through that was something that, like, has. Has helped me go on to then have four kids, because you made it clear that it was nothing that I did. You were gentle in the way that you delivered the news, obviously, the way that you, very rationally, because you knew how I was as a patient, laid out the options and said, you don't have to decide right this minute, gave me all the information I needed, and then helped me by basically saying, like, you can walk right out of the office. You don't stop at the desk. You just keep going those. I. And, like, Jason wasn't there, and so you were. Oh, no. You were my support person. And so till the end of time, I will have, like, the deepest love for you.
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Dr. Joan Devine
It's so hard. Those moments are difficult for us. We feel it for each patient, and it's. Yeah, you're right. He wasn't there with you, and that was hard, and that's. We see that, you know, and I think you're right. It's so difficult, and I'm glad I could be there for you on that day.
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Kylie Kelce
I hope everyone finds their soul OB the way I have found my soul obs. They're my soul obs because they're mine and I love them. But I truly like that experience could have been so much more traumatic. And I still remember not crying in the office and you looking at me like, you can cry now. And I don't know that I did until I got outside, but I. The way that you handled that situation was something that made it as if I didn't already know even more clear that I was in the right hands to go through the process of building our family. And it. I mean, going from that experience to going through four birth plans with you has been like, just affirming all the way through. And it makes me feel for women who don't have this incredible of a support system in their journey. But I am very, very, very grateful for you and the rest of the team. Like I said before, I'm gonna say until the end of time how much I love my obs. And Dr. Joan Devine is top tier. And I'm gonna keep coming to visit you even if I don't have any more kids.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Oh, Kylie, thank you so much. You know, it's been such an honor to be, you know, here for you. And I mean, never could I imagine some of the fun things we've been through.
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Kylie Kelce
Right. It's silly. It is, yeah. Let's do more.
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Dr. Joan Devine
Sure.
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Kylie Kelce
Sounds not necessarily kids, but like, we'll do more. Yes. Okay. Thank you so much.
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Dr. Joan Devine
You're welcome.
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Kylie Kelce
And that's a wrap on our one year postpartum special edition of Not Gonna Lie. You can find even more clips from our longer episode taping on my YouTube channel on More Shit Monday reminder Fafo comes out this upcoming Tuesday, March 31st. I'll be back with a brand new episode on Thursday. Follow us on social media at NGL with Kylie for more clips throughout the week. Listen and subscribe wherever you get. Your podcast. Not Gonna Lie is a wave original brought to you by CVS Health. Thanks again to the real ones for tuning in.