Not Loveline with Tana Mongeau & Trish Paytas

Episode: DREAMING BIG FOR 2026 AND LEARNING FROM PAST RELATIONSHIPS

Date: December 22, 2025

Episode Overview

Tana Mongeau and Trish Paytas close out Not Loveline’s year with a reflective, heartfelt conversation about growth, manifesting dreams for 2026, and the lessons learned from their past (and present) relationships. The duo dive into their friendship, personal milestones, audience love, the importance of self-respect, and listener questions—infused with classic humor, vulnerability, and signature “girl’s sleepover” energy.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Celebrating the Not Loveline Community (01:32–06:47)

• Listener Engagement & Gratitude: Tana recounts, “We’re sitting on 17,000 calls right now, which is just insane. Thank you for sharing your lives with us and caring about our lives a lot.” (01:32)
• Both express joy and pride in building a supportive, non-judgmental space for women and anyone seeking advice, emphasizing the depth and breadth of their conversations throughout the year.

2. Friendship & Dreams for 2026 (03:36–07:05)

• The hosts reflect on the strength and impact of their own friendship, describing how it’s inspired listeners to trust and try friendship again.
• Manifesting Big Things: “I am excited for 2026. We’re going to the Forum and Madison Square Garden.” (Tana, 06:48)

3. Milestones & Growth (06:13–15:29)

• Protecting Their Space: Despite offers, Tana is adamant about keeping the podcast authentic: “What we have here, I wouldn’t change a thing.” (06:13)
• Personal Evolution: Episodes are described as periods of “hope core,” signaling a phase where both are focused on being positive examples.

4. Reflecting on Past Relationships—Advice for Younger Selves (15:29–19:03)

• Tana and Trish open up about toxic relationships in their 20s and what they’d tell their younger selves.
  • Tana: “Just living proof that life gets better when you put yourself first… I wish I could have protected myself from so many things... I spent so much of my life trying to make people love me.” (16:28)
  • Trish: “The good is so good—means the bad is so bad. Run.” (17:25)
  • Both stress not settling for relationships that drain you, encouraging young listeners to walk away if things don’t feel right early on.

5. Practical Relationship & Life Wisdom (17:37–19:08)

• If the talking stage isn’t blissful, leave. Don’t wait for things to improve.
• “If this person is not making your life easier and better, why do it?” (18:00, Tana)
• Trish: “They should make your life easier, not harder.”

6. Year Reflections & Manifesting Peace (21:28–25:53)

• Personal Highlights: Tana credits her year’s highlight to prioritizing personal peace and sobriety: “I found out what I need for my peace this year and started really prioritizing that.” (21:36)
• Trish notes deeper self-acceptance and “tapping into witchiness” by embracing rituals for letting go of fears.

7. Inspiring & Being Inspired—Female Friendship (27:05–30:05)

• Tana shares, “Something that happened to me a lot in 2026 was I started surrounding myself with women who really inspire me...” (27:49)
• They discuss how true friends push each other toward positivity, acknowledging growth and support.

8. Loyalty, Change, and Audience Connection (30:05–34:18)

• Both reminisce on initial fears and gambles starting the podcast together, now feeling they've built a loyal "family."
• Tana recalls Lil Wayne’s mantra—“I ain’t shit without y’all”—and connects this to their gratitude for listeners: “Everything I have is because of you. Like, this is an honor.” (33:02)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Moving On From Toxic Relationships:
  “If the talking stage with someone is not bliss, run while you can... It will only get worse.” — Tana (18:00)
• On Feeling Understood:
  “When people ask me about you, it feels like you’re this cool little sister that everyone loves.” — Trish (03:36)
• On Performance and Authenticity:
  “I'd rather protect what Not Loveline is… If it ain't broke, don't fix it.” — Tana (06:13)
• On Audience Connection:
  “You resonated with something that was very close on my heart, which means there are more similarities with us than differences.” — Tana (34:03)
• On Boundaries with Media Appearances:
  (On skipping controversial podcasts) “I would hate to be like, portrayed or backed into a corner.” — Tana (46:24)
• Affirming Each Other:
  “You’re so hard working... I've got to channel a new side because I've gotten to be so inspired. You're so hardworking, you go, you chase your dreams...” — Tana to Trish (27:49)

Listener Questions & Crowd Wisdom

1. Wig Confidence (35:17–38:11)

Caller: Nervous about wearing a wig, feels it looks good on others, but not herself.

• Tana: “Anyone who’s gonna think something judgmental about what you’re doing, you don’t want them on your team anyway.”
• Trish: “Wigs changed my life. No one bats an eye—everyone loves a wig.”
• Shared wisdom: Life is short—have fun, experiment, and surround yourself with nonjudgmental people.

2. Non-Alcoholic Beverages & Sobriety (56:30–59:32)

Caller Dana: Six years sober; asks their take on non-alcoholic drinks.

• Tana: “Whatever works for someone, they should do… I hate non-alcoholic beer, but I love a cute mocktail. Put a flower on that, I’m sold.”
• Trish: Emphasizes celebrating with non-alcoholic options, e.g., sparkling cider (Martinelli’s) as a ritual.
• Both express strong support for everyone's unique sobriety journey and celebrate the listener’s milestone.

Fun Segments & Game Highlights

Heads Up! Collaborator Guessing Game (61:15–66:06)

• The hosts play a classic personality guessing game (e.g., Nora Smith, Bethenny Frankel), showcasing their playful rapport.

2026 Intentions & “Hope Core” (Throughout)

• Both hosts are determined to maintain stability, surround themselves with positive influences, take themselves and their platforms seriously, stop self-deprecation, and give back through charity (e.g., Tana's idea for TanaKan, influencer-led food drives).
• “The synchronicity of stable everything—love life, career, women around us, people taking us seriously, and us taking ourselves seriously.” — Trish (51:35)
• Emphasis on evolving beyond overconsumption, supporting Hawaii and charitable causes.

Community Love & Closing Messages

• Final notes to the listeners:
  “We hope that Trisha and I truly can serve to you that life does get better. I hope we can be your hope core in that regard. We’re so excited for 2026 and love you so, so much, our Not Loveline family.” — Tana (66:49)

[Key Timestamps]

00:56 – Show starts after ads
01:32 – Listener gratitude and community appreciation
06:13 – Panel’s commitment to authenticity
16:28 – Lessons and advice from past relationships
21:36 – 2025 highlights and personal peace
24:20 – On types and what truly matters in partners
27:49 – Women who inspire—and being inspired
33:02 – Audience connection/Lil Wayne reference
35:17 – Wig confidence question & empowerment
56:30 – Listener on sobriety and NA drinks
61:15 – “Heads Up!” guessing game
66:49 – Heartfelt signoff and New Year wishes

Takeaways

This episode intertwines vulnerability and joyous aspiration, offering authentic relationship advice peppered with humor, practical insights, and honest stories. Tana and Trish’s deep appreciation for their audience and for each other shines through, making it a meaningful wrap-up to the year, and a rallying cry to “dream big for 2026.”