Not Loveline — "HE WETS THE BED!! + AM I A BAD MOM??"

Hosts: Tana Mongeau & Trisha Paytas
Date: November 3, 2025

Episode Overview

In this lively episode, Tana and Trisha challenge themselves to a "relay race" of listener calls, aiming to answer as many questions as possible on love, dating, self-worth, and life’s wild surprises, all with their signature blend of unfiltered honesty and hilarious banter. The duo discusses everything from tattoo exes and sober milestones to toddler TV guilt and boyfriends who wet the bed—no topic is too taboo or too trivial for their unique comedic wisdom.

Main Discussion Points & Insights

1. Podcasting & Podcast Networks: The Unwell & Alex Cooper Discussion

[00:30–04:30]

• The hosts reflect on the evolution of the podcast industry, expressing admiration and friendly envy for Alex Cooper ("Call Her Daddy") and the Unwell network.
• Trisha discusses loving being noticed by 'the popular girl' and the aspiration of doing bigger productions, even envisioning a live Netflix dating show together.
  • "It's just inspiring. It's very cool to see... another woman succeed in the podcast field regardless of any. It's just inspiring." — Tana [03:33]
• They riff on matching merch, influencer culture, and the power/fun of controlling their own brand.

2. Setting Dating Standards & Tattoo Regrets

[13:37–16:59]

• Caller 1: Dating a guy with his ex’s zodiac sign tattooed on his chest—how to address discomfort.
  • Trisha: “Dump him!” [14:05]
  • Tana: Suggests asking him to cover it up or laser it, but also shares her mixed feelings from her own history dating guys with exes' tattoos.
  • General consensus: Having clear boundaries and expressing your discomfort is valid—and tattoos for partners are a risky business.
  • Trisha: “I'm pro tattoo for other people. I just... cannot do it for me.” [15:43]

3. Celebrity Stories & Tom Sandoval Debate

[18:12–25:44]

• Caller 2: Wild story about accidentally infiltrating Tom Sandoval's inner circle at a show—then realizing it was embarrassing, but also unforgettable.
  • Tana is inspired to request more celebrity encounter stories.
• The hosts discuss Tom Sandoval’s reputation, cheating, and public shaming of Ariana Maddox.
  • Tana: “On national television, I would let Ariana Maddox step on me… How dare you on her.” [20:10]
  • Both support holding men accountable for bad relationship behaviors, but also acknowledge people can grow and change (albeit with skepticism).

4. Sober Celebrations & Milestones

[27:07–33:45]

• Caller 3: Struggling with staying sober at major events like her own wedding and bachelorette.
  • Tana gives an in-depth, heartfelt answer (one of the episode’s standout moments):
    • “How cool is it that you're actually going to be able to remember every moment from your bachelorette party?... Just remind yourself all the reasons why you are sober. And girl, do it.” [29:00]
  • Tips: Mocktails, embracing new types of fun, focusing on gratitude rather than deprivation.
  • Trisha emphatically supports Tana’s advocacy and suggests they pitch a “Tana Mongeau is My Sober BFF” reality show. [32:41]

5. Toddler TV Time & Parental Guilt

[34:24–39:32]

• Caller 4: Feels like a 'bad mom' for letting her toddler watch Ms. Rachel all day to get some peace.
  • Trisha reassures: “If yours is just Ms. Rachel to find peace, I think you're actually doing a pretty good job... Anything you can to get peace is fine.” [35:25]
  • Tana and Trisha both watched lots of TV as kids and turned out creative/ambitious—no guilt!
  • “If you're even worried about being a bad mom, that means you're doing a good job.” — Trisha [37:54]
  • They discuss educational TV's benefits and reject mom-shaming from social media.

6. Raising Your Dating Standards Financially

[41:08–46:43]

• Caller 5: Now earning six figures, wants to date men at her level—not “fund a grown man’s life” anymore.
  • Tana supports her new standards and says it’s fine to demand more.
  • Trisha: “Maybe find someone who can give equal value... Sometimes equal value is more important than equal amounts of money.” [43:46]
  • They warn about controlling "high earner" men, but affirm everyone's right to look for ambition, support, and real partnership.

7. Relationship Anniversaries & Communication Games

[46:53–53:38]

• Caller 6: Wonders if she should test her boyfriend by not mentioning their anniversary to see if he remembers.
  • Both: Instead of playing games, directly communicate expectations/desires—don’t expect mind-reading! Send hints, links, or straight-up requests.
  • Tana: “...some of the best advice I've ever received is like, sometimes you just have to tell a man what you want and not get mad at him for not reading your mind.” [49:11]
  • If, after communicating, he lets her down—call back for less gentle advice.

8. He Wets the Bed—What Do You Do?

[53:38–57:32]

• Caller 7: Her boyfriend wets the bed every time he drinks hard liquor.
  • Trisha: “I have nothing to say, sorry to this man, we're moving on.” [54:23]
  • Tana shares a funny story about a friend who drunkenly peed in someone’s makeup drawer.
  • Verdict: If it’s a medical problem, help him address it; if it’s just from drinking, lay down boundaries—futon, tarp, adult diapers, or abstain from drinking.
  • “You can't be pissy pants McGee when you’re blacked out like that.” — Tana [57:11]
  • If the relationship is new or he refuses to fix the issue—consider leaving.

9. Burnout, Career Changes, & Choosing Peace

[61:08–68:05]

• Caller 8: Healthcare worker struggling with PTSD, mental exhaustion impacting her marriage; wants advice for choosing peace and being a better partner.
  • Trisha, Tana: Express enormous gratitude for her selfless career.
  • Advise her to make small gestures of love/effort, but also seriously consider a career change if her job is poisoning her spirit.
    • Tana: “Sometimes things run their course and it served you for that period of time, and you got to help so many people...” [64:10]
  • Suggests making a 5-year plan, exploring ways out, finding little rituals of connection (sticky notes, special meals, jokes, etc).
  • “Just do what you can. Don’t feel married to something you once wanted if now it’s not serving you.” — Tana [67:48]

Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Podcast Jealousy:
  • “I used to hate on Call Her Daddy... I could have been more jealous that these two girls were making such a killing... I was doing it first. Why not me?” — Trisha [01:03]
• On Sober Milestones:
  • “You'll never regret it being not drunk. You will always regret being drunk, you know...” — Tana [30:35]
• On Mom Guilt:
  • “If you feel like a terrible mother, that means you’re a good mom. Because bad moms don’t worry about being a bad mom!” — Trisha [37:54]
• On Relationship Standards:
  • “I just don’t want to fund a grown man’s life anymore.” — Caller [41:34]
• On Bedwetting Partners:
  • “You can’t be pissy pants McGee when you’re blacked out like that.” — Tana [57:11]
• On Trying to Read Minds vs Communicate:
  • “We get upset at people for not reading our mind... it's so good to talk it through. You got this.” — Tana [52:51]
• On Value in Relationships:
  • “Maybe find someone who can give equal value. Sometimes equal value is more important than equal amounts of money.” — Trisha [43:45]

Timestamps for Key Segments

• [00:30] Opening banter, podcast business, Alex Cooper envy
• [13:37] Zodiac ex tattoo dilemma
• [18:12] Tom Sandoval/Night of Celebrity Intrigue
• [27:07] Sober wedding advice & heartfelt sobriety message
• [34:24] TV guilt & motherhood
• [41:08] Dating with six-figure salary; raising standards
• [46:53] Anniversary games & the value of direct communication
• [53:38] “He wets the bed!”—bedwetting boyfriend advice
• [61:08] Healthcare burnout & relationship self-care

Episode Mood & Tone

Playful, irreverent, deeply supportive, and fully unfiltered—Tana and Trisha effortlessly balance real talk with comic relief. Their chemistry shines as they move from raucous storytelling and gentle pep talks to loving roasting—always rooting for self-acceptance, personal growth, and friendship.

For Listeners Who Missed the Episode

This episode is packed with candid advice, memorable stories, and the reassurance that, whatever your struggle (weird tattoos, bedwetting partners, or toddler TV guilt), you’re not alone—and sometimes, laughter is the best medicine.

If you loved this episode, call in with your wildest celebrity stories, let Tana and Trisha know what dilemmas you want unpacked next—and remember: communicate your needs, don’t be afraid to set standards, and absolutely crack the whip when needed (especially if your boyfriend’s pissing the bed)!