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And you have just been such a supportive friend across this. And even just, you are one of the people where, when I really think about the fact that I'm sober now, I'm like, I'm so happy I can be sober to show up for Trisha in, like, the best way. And it's just, I. You have been a big part of my sober journey. Journey, just almost like, unknowingly. You know what I mean? Like, I don't just. It's very amazing. So with that being said, first of all, that is so crazy. Like, the spiritual realm. And just like, that, like, that is so. That means so much to me. Like, that is so cool that, like, a version of me almost is, like, meeting you, like, I will never forget this call. Like, that is. That is so cool that I am like. And I am like, you know what I mean? We might not know each other personally. I always tell people, though, people, when they come up, they'll be like. Like, we're so parasocial. I'm so parasocial to you. And I go, but how parasocial is it when I am really bearing my heart out there and, like, you have saved my life. You know what I mean? Like, it's so. It's not parasocial to me at all. Like, truly, like, I am there for you and I. It's really cool that you feel that. And I love you. With that being said, to answer your question, first of all, I just want to say I'm so proud of you. And I struggled a lot with this where. A lot with this where I was like, the big moments of my life are no longer going to be fun because I'm sober and no one else is. And like, oh, my God, my first Thanksgiving that way, my first Christmas that way, my first Coachella that way, my first. I had to do my first New Year's that way, like, was. I thought it would all be so hard, each thing. Like, just whether it was Christmas, whether it was New Year's, whether it was Coachella, I would be coming up to it. And I was like, oh, my God, like, I don't want to do this sober. And my birthday, a lot of my relapses were at the fault of this thought and this mindset where I'd be like, I can't do that sober, so I'm just gonna drink. And then I'd find myself blackout drunk three months after the big event. And I'd been drunk every day since that thing that I convinced myself that I needed to have alcohol for. And I'd be like, wow, I'd find myself at another rock bottom and I'd be like, oh, my God, I wish I didn't get drunk for that birthday or for that event or for that whatever. Because all of these things transpired that were negative from it. And as I continue to conquer these new events and milestones sober, I've almost turned over this insane level of gratitude because how cool is it that you're actually going to be able to remember every moment from your bachelorette party? How cool is it that you're going to be talking to all your girls and, like, so thankful for them and taking photos and, like, looking good and all of the things and like, just glowing and like, the. That's. That's so sick. And facilitating alcohol for people who can have it, like, that was my other thing too, you know, where I was just like, oh, my God, I wish I could have it, but it's like, I can't. So you have that glass of red wine for me. Cuz you can stop, like, you know, like, you have that wine to celebrate for me. Like, I don't. And like, I'm sure that even a part of your sobriety journey maybe might be like, wow, I want to be the best wife. You know what I mean? I want to be the best. I want to be present in My marriage, I don't want to, like, sing and do things that are going to embarrass me. So I think that it. If you are. Because it seems like with her placing this call, she really wants to, like, lead with that, like, be sober. But it's like these events, like, if that's what you want, just remind yourself all the reasons why you are sober. And, girl, do it. I think that you try, and I think that you'll end up being like, wow, I'm so happy I did that. Because imagine the hangover and imagine saying and doing the things that you don't want to do on your special day. And imagine, you know, up relationships and just different. There are negatives and there are reasons why we go sober, and I think you got to really focus on those and find the new fun, you know, because that's what it is. It's like you. You go sober and you think you're never gonna have fun again in the ways that you were. And then you find all the new fun things. Maybe you're going to bed a little earlier. Maybe you're spending that night, like, writing a letter to your partner. Maybe you're like, there's just so many great good things that you can do. And I'm gonna say, go for it. I'm gonna say push yourself, because you won't regret it. You know what I mean? You'll never regret it. Being not drunk. You will all like, at least me, I will always regret being drunk, you know, so. And I know that maybe your bachelorette is also different. Maybe it's, like, more brunch oriented or more like, I know that my bachelorette party, well, I'll probably go to Vegas, but that's because I'm from there. But I just mean other than that. Like, I don't know, like, I will do wholesome daytime things with my friends for my bachelorette because, like, there's no point in getting drunk and, like, being. I'm like, dude, that's not my life.
