Not Loveline – Episode Summary

Episode: I’M THE TOXIC EX! HELP! + BF CAUGHT FILMING OTHER GIRLS
Hosts: Tana Mongeau & Trisha Paytas
Release Date: October 13, 2025

Overview

In this candid and chaotic episode of Not Loveline, Tana and Trisha reunite after a short break to answer listener calls and dispense relationship, self-love, and life advice—always with their trademark mix of humor, oversharing, and self-deprecation. Listeners call in with vulnerable questions about toxic relationships—one admitting to being the “toxic ex,” another discovering her boyfriend filming other women at the beach. The conversation weaves in commentary on celebrity culture, personal growth, struggles with maximalism and materialism, their friendships, influencer drama, and hard-won lessons in sobriety and self-awareness.

Main Topics & Discussion Highlights

1. Reunited Vibes, Friendships, and Life Updates

• Relatable Banter: Tana and Trisha open with nostalgia and affection, talking about missing each other, romanticizing simple pleasures, and commiserating about dietary struggles—especially Tana’s new gluten-free journey and health woes.

• Personal Growth Reflections: Both hosts discuss how their lives have shifted out of “party” eras into more peaceful routines—involving self-care (Trisha’s “Pilates, glam, and sushi” days), mindfulness, and minimalist aspirations.

  • Quote:
    “Now I have like a really expensive coffee, and I just feel like I’m on my work break with my bestie—just, like, having coffee.” —Trish (01:57)

• Sobriety and Change: Candid conversation about Tana’s one-year sobriety milestone—how substance abuse once changed her personality, and how peace is her new priority.

  • Quote:
    “Once you taste peace, you want to protect it at all costs.” —Tana (23:06)

2. Celebrity Culture & Internet Drama (06:00–13:00)

• Discussing Cheating Scandals: Tana and Trisha rehash the Ned Fulmer “rock bottom” saga, celebrity cheating, and how public figures gaslight partners even under scrutiny.

• Pop Culture Tangents: They riff on Adam Sandler, Jeff Goldblum, Addison Rae, Alex Warren, and the crossing of influencers into mainstream.

  • Quote:
    “You really can’t think someone is so perfect for years, and then they’re doing something like that.” —Tana (59:37)

• Social Media and Accountability: Tana brings up the “Surviving Lila Gimney” TikTok trend, discussing empathy for those struggling with substance abuse, public accountability, and the public’s appetite for downfall narratives.

  • Quote:
    “I love you for your potential. Like, you could be this amazing person and this activist and funny...” —Tana (20:04)

3. Minimalism vs. Maximalism & Material Culture (09:00–15:00)

• Shopping Ban Failures: Both admit to failed attempts at shopping bans, falling for designer items, and seeking instant gratification from purchases.

• Minimalist Aspirations: Tana finds value in living with less while in Hawaii, considering downsizing even after recently buying a large house—a signal of shifting priorities.

  • Quote:
    “I’ve been such a maximalist for so long, and my Peppa Pig collection takes up half a bedroom!” —Tana (11:58)

• Funny Observations: Trisha romanticizes the idea of living in NYC with only a handful of outfits, embracing forced simplicity.

4. Listener Calls and Advice Segments

Caller 1: The "Toxic Ex" – Admitting Past Abusive Behavior (45:57)

• Situation: Caller confesses to being the abuser in a toxic relationship and struggles with heartbreak and guilt.
• Advice from Hosts:

  • Acknowledge own accountability and do the inner work before pursuing new relationships.

  • Remember: Sometimes two people simply bring out the worst in each other.

  • Don’t romanticize the past; keep sight of why the relationship ended.

  • Quotes:
    “Sometimes two people can just not be good for each other... brought out the worst in me.” —Tana (46:13)
    “At least you know going forward what you did was wrong. ... Start fresh.” —Trisha (46:48)

Caller 2: BF Caught Secretly Filming Other Women at the Beach (58:47)

• Situation: While napping on their anniversary beach trip, caller learns from strangers that her boyfriend was secretly taking videos of other women’s bodies.
• Hosts’ Reaction:

  • Zero tolerance: advise immediate breakup, highlighting this isn’t just “a wandering eye” but a deep breach of trust and privacy.

  • Empathy for being blindsided by someone you thought you knew.

  • Encourage not letting this experience destroy the caller's belief in love or willingness to trust.

  • Quotes:
    “You have to leave that man in the dust right now—I think you should send him to prison. ... That’s so much more than cheating or a wandering eye. That is morally sick.” —Tana (59:16, 61:07)
    “It’s not anyone’s fault. People just don’t show their true selves... You just never know.” —Trisha (59:45)

  • Empowerment:
    “Don’t ever let this change you or your idea of love—you deserve someone good and real.” —Tana (60:12)
    “This wasn’t a waste of your time. ... We all need those relationships to learn and grow.” —Tana (63:06)

5. Listener Q&As: Dream Blunt Rotation (38:31)

• Celebrity wish lists for “blunt rotation” include Addison Rae, Alex Warren, Barack Obama, Martha Stewart, Wiz Khalifa, Bill Nye, Jennifer Coolidge, Donny Osmond—offering comedic relief and insight into their pop culture tastes.

  • Quote:
    “My number one? Barack Obama.” —Tana (42:17)

Notable Moments & Quotes

On sobriety and self-awareness:

• “Substance abuse is so sad because there’s extremities to the levels of it. But, like, people become people they are not.” —Tana (21:39)

On letting go of toxic relationships:

• “You need someone who keeps your nervous system calm. ... Do the inner work before you date.” —Tana (46:36)

On discovering betrayal:

• “That can’t be the father of your children. ... If you were to stay, it would just eat you alive.” —Tana (61:50)

Mantra:

• “Rejection is protection. ... The universe is protection.” —Trisha (64:16)

Fun, Lighthearted Highlights

• Shopping stories and minimalist goals: Tana’s attempt to downsize her life, the perils of being a maximalist.
• Bathroom humor and vulnerability: Tana’s bathroom woes throughout the episode become a recurring self-deprecating theme, adding to the episode's intimate and real tone.
• Celebrity encounters: Stories of meeting Demi Lovato and Paris Hilton, and musings on how normal celebrities are in real life.

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 00:33 – Reunion, Hawaii stories, Trisha's daily routines
• 06:16 – Pop culture: Ned Fulmer drama, sobriety, public accountability
• 09:09 – Shopping, minimalism, maximalism confessions
• 19:00 – “Surviving Lila Gimney” TikTok & substance abuse discussion
• 23:00 – Tana’s growth post-sobriety and peace
• 38:31 – “Dream blunt rotation” question, celebrity picks
• 45:57 – Caller: “I was the toxic ex—how do I move on?”
• 58:47 – Caller: “BF caught filming other women—what now?”
• 63:06 – Reflection on heartbreak as growth, “rejection as protection”

Tone and Atmosphere

The episode blends Tana and Trisha’s signature blend of wild humor, chaotic tangents, and honest vulnerability. Their chemistry is palpable—ranging from mutual support and playful roasting to earnest, heartfelt advice. They oscillate from silly pop culture hypotheticals to deeply personal insights, all while maintaining authenticity and relatability for listeners grappling with messy relationships and self-image issues.

In Summary

This episode is a testament to real, unfiltered conversation—offering both chaotic entertainment and genuinely thoughtful advice on everything from healing after toxic relationships to embracing change and rejecting shame. Whether reminiscing about wild pasts, reflecting on personal growth, or counseling callers through heartbreak, Tana and Trisha leave their audience feeling both seen and thoroughly entertained.