Not Loveline — THE LIFE OF A FORMER CRAZY GIRL + MOMENTS WE WERE WRONG

Podcast: Not Loveline
Hosts: Tana Mongeau & Trisha Paytas
Date: October 27, 2025

Episode Overview

In this vibrant, candid episode, Tana Mongeau and Trisha Paytas reflect on personal growth, friendships, finding positivity, and the journey from "crazy girl" eras to their current, more peaceful lives. The duo recount funny and heartwarming stories of public outings, celebrity encounters, embracing women-supporting-women energy, and the lessons learned about accountability and gratitude in relationships — both romantic and platonic. The episode wraps with meaningful advice to a listener struggling with a best friend’s betrayal.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. From "Crazy Girl" to Calm: Reflection on Growth

• Both hosts open up about their messier, drama-filled early twenties, recognizing they "were the reason their life was so crazy" (00:59, 42:25). Now, they focus on protecting their peace and manifesting positivity.
  • Tana: "I was doing exposed videos and drama and crying, and then the universe gave me more drama to cry over. You know what I mean?" (01:09, 42:51)
  • Trisha: "At the same time too. In my early 20s, I'd be doing all the crazy and I'd be like, why is my life so crazy? And it's like, you—you are why your life is so crazy." (00:59, 42:25)
• They acknowledge personal responsibility in patterns of chaos and emphasize accountability, self-work, and shifting mindsets.

2. Manifesting Luck & Positivity

• There's a recurring theme on the power of language, mindset, and "lucky girl syndrome"—the trend of affirming yourself as lucky to attract good things.
  • Tana: "You should think you’re so lucky... The lucky girl center one's like, I'm the luckiest girl in the world. Like, everything I want comes my way." (43:43)
  • Trisha: "It's so true... focus on the good. No matter how anecdotal the good is... more will come." (45:23)
• Simple joys—a kind makeup artist, kind strangers at the pumpkin patch and Chili’s, hyping up and being hyped by other women—are highlighted as sources of happiness.

3. Celebrity Encounters & Starstruck Moments

• The hosts share moments of bumping into celebrities at pumpkin patches (Ali Wong, Bill Hader, Nick Cannon).
  • Tana: “It doesn't matter what celebrity I see, I get, like, weirdly starstruck... I get so excited for some reason.” (02:47)
  • Trisha: "Nick Cannon's also a funny one... I met him, though, honestly. I just remember... we prayed together.” (04:21)
• Trisha recounts being a guest on Wild 'N Out and performing improv, highlighting supportive, sweet celebrity experiences (Nick Cannon, Timothy DeLaGhetto).

4. Women Supporting Women: A New Era

• Both hosts passionately praise the current energy of women hyping up women—whether at influencer events, on social media, or among their friends.
  • Trisha: “We are in such a women hyping up women era... Like, everyone was hyping me up. I'm hyping them up. Like, I was like, I love women. I'm gay. Like, this is everything.” (15:49)
  • Tana: "All women give us so much hype. It's... really a different time." (14:50)
• Influencer events and pop culture moments (Victoria's Secret fashion show) are discussed with admiration for mutual support.

5. Halloween, Costumes & The Joy of Shared Experiences

• Highlights include Trisha and Tana’s joint cheese-pull (mozzarella stick) costume for Chili’s, the fun of dressing up together, and the supportive, hype-filled energy around it.
  • Trisha: “Today was one of my favorite [costumes] I've ever done in my entire life.” (12:22)
  • Tana: “Chili’s had DM’d you and... everything just, like, aligned that day.” (13:07)
• They remark on memorable, happy days being made better by good company, fun activities, and spreading/receiving kindness.

6. Gratitude, Friendship, and Finding Chosen Family

• Reflecting on the importance of chosen family and gratitude, especially for those who felt alone during the holidays.
  • Trisha: "You can create your own things that feel like family and feel like love... your life can expand and grow with you." (27:10)
  • Tana: "You’re so lucky to have found, like, people that just, like, you love and that love you.” (27:30)
• Details about their friend circles, planning birthdays, and casual hangouts that bring warmth.

7. Personal Anecdotes: Relationship Growth & Accountability

• Both share vulnerable stories about fighting with partners (Moses and Makoa), being self-aware about their own “crazy” moments, and the continuous journey to being better girlfriends and partners.
  • Tana: “I got mad at him for not cooking the steak fast enough to get before sunset so I could eat outside...” (60:04)
  • Trisha: “I started being, like, kind of rude. I was like, just pick one.” (55:57)
• Communication, apologizing, compromise, and appreciation are all discussed as key relational skills.

8. Mental Health, Growth, & Setting Boundaries

• Honest talk about working on anger, letting go of defensiveness/gossip, and fostering healthy off-camera habits.
  • Tana: “You can grow and, like, really, like, help your mental health but... mental illness will always be there for me.” (62:48)
• The importance of boundaries in friendships and romantic relationships is recurrent.

9. Listener Call: Dealing with a Best Friend’s Hurtful Drunken Outburst

• [73:00] Listener asks if she should reach out to a best friend who got drunk, said “the worst things,” and hasn’t apologized after several days.
• Advice:
  • Trisha: “People should be held accountable for their actions no matter what... If I cared about them, eventually I’d be like, hey, we have to talk.” (75:49–78:13)
  • Tana and Trisha: Suggest evaluating if this is repeated behavior, the underlying issues, and weighing forgiveness versus boundaries. Life is long, new friends and better eras will come.
  • Trisha: “That is not what friendship is. Like, people do have to be held accountable for the things that they say to you and the way that they treat you. Friendship should feel like light and easy and lift you up for the 99%.” (75:49)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “[Protecting peace]... realizing that I can be my own worst enemy and the quality of my life when it comes to my mouth.”
  – Trisha Paytas (41:55)

• “If you find some joy, some happiness, it’s like, oh, you want more to be joyful. You want more to be thankful for. You want more good things to happen to you. Like, just keep talking about the good things.”
  – Tana Mongeau (43:03)

• “We are in such a women hyping up women era.”
  – Trisha Paytas (15:49)

• “Focus on the good. No matter how anecdotal the good is... that just—and more will come.”
  – Trisha Paytas (45:23)

• “Life is very long, and there are friendships that I had end that I thought would be the end of my life.”
  – Trisha Paytas (80:13)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Reflections on chaos and responsibility: 00:59–01:09, 42:25–43:18
• Manifesting luck/gratitude: 43:43–44:26
• Pumpkin patch stories & celeb encounters (Nick Cannon, Ali Wong): 02:47–04:35
• Wild ‘N Out & Nick Cannon experiences: 04:35–06:53
• Costume/Chili’s Adventure: 12:21–23:09
• Empowering women & event experiences: 14:50–15:49, 17:42–19:29
• Building chosen family: 27:10–28:43
• Relational self-awareness & apologies: 55:57–62:47
• Listener Call - Betrayal by Best Friend: 73:00–80:47

Tone & Vibe

Genuine, fun, a bit chaotic but full of positivity, humor, accountability, and warmth. The conversation stayed open and self-aware, blending relatable real-life struggles with lots of laughter and optimism.

Takeaways for Listeners

• Embrace self-accountability; the chaos you attract is often the chaos you create.
• Mindset matters—affirm you are lucky, focus on the good, and more good will come.
• Value and nurture friendships/relationships, but protect your peace with boundaries.
• Forgiveness is vital, but so is honest communication and holding people accountable.
• The best days are sometimes the simplest: be around good people, wear silly costumes, and have gratitude for small moments.

For those who haven’t listened—this episode is a masterclass in messy-girl-refinement, real friendship, and learning how to move from drama to comfort, with laughs and memorable stories along the way.