Not Loveline Podcast Summary — "TOXIC TIPS, DOUBLE DATES, AND CATCHING A CHEATER!"

Hosts: Tana Mongeau & Trisha Paytas
Date: September 29, 2025
Episode Theme:
Tana and Trisha dive into the messiness and fun of love, sex, dating, friendships, and online scandals. With recurring themes of apology culture, toxic dating behavior, and wild personal stories, this episode is filled with candid advice calls and the hosts’ trademark irreverent humor.

Episode Structure

• [00:55–08:10] – Catching up: Set redesign, personal updates, and style obsessions
• [08:11–18:40] – Friendship, shopping, and old YouTube culture
• [18:41–21:59] – Live events & SeatGeek mention
• [21:59–25:19] – Apology culture, double standards for men vs. women online
• [25:20–37:51] – Social media drama, TikTok opinions, and viral internet moments
• [37:52–43:47] – Friendship, sexuality, TikTok trends, and beauty standards
• [43:48–61:16] – Listener calls: double date stories, navy sheets, toxic tips, and catching cheaters
• [61:17–77:59] – Infidelity, being the side chick, weird food quirks, KitKat eating, dealing with abusive relationships
• [78:00–end] – Closing remarks and shout-out to supporters

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Set Upgrades & Bed Talk

• Tana and Trisha reveal plans for a new podcast set modeled after a giant, decadent bed, inspired partly by comfort needs and wanting a sleepover vibe.

  “We should just have, like, this giant bed, which would be so cute. And then, like, change this so it looks like a window looking out of the LA nights.” — Trisha (03:30)

• The conversation spirals into partners’ handyman skills and the sexiness of someone who can build furniture.

  “If you’re handy yourself, I really think you should find a partner that's very handy.” — Trisha (05:31)

2. Social Media, Friendship, and Design Obsessed

• Recap of their recent friend outings: Pilates, Cheesecake Factory, and Claire’s (which, they joke, they could "save" from bankruptcy).

• Leopard print as an ongoing motif, inspired by YSL and current fashion trends. Tana discusses her new lip kit collab with tarte — the extensive process and genuine enthusiasm about her beauty line.

  “I truly was, like, I'm not settling for something that I won't wear every day until I die.” — Tana (15:49)

• The story of tarte’s founder Maureen is highlighted, celebrating female entrepreneurship:

  “Hats off to, like, an ingenuitive woman who doesn't take no for an answer and does it all by herself.” — Tana (15:07)

3. Apology & Cancel Culture

• The hosts reflect on the double standards in YouTuber apologies: men often get praised for quick, unemotional apologies, while women receive criticism for tears or emotional responses.

  “All the comments are praising them... And then if a girl did that, it’s like, you don’t care.” — Trisha (22:41)

• Tana shares on the pressure to perform sincerity, and how time is the only true measure of growth:

  “There’s nothing when someone does something wrong that they can come online a week later [and show growth]. It’s about time and showing growth.” — Tana (26:32)

• Ms. Rachel’s social media controversies are used as an example of how even the most wholesome creators get criticized.

4. Internet Dramas & Personal Anecdotes

• Discussions about influencer drama, the viral Crumbl Cookie CEO apology, and the “navy blue fitted sheet” as the telltale sign of a basic dude.

  “The navy blue fitted sheet is... a staple in a man who's going to play you’s, like, starter pack.” — Tana (50:20)

5. Listener Calls – Real Talk & Toxic Tips

Double Date Success

• [47:15] A listener calls in sharing that Trisha and Tana’s ad inspired her and her roommate to double-date — making new connections in college.

  “The excitement of meeting someone... Even if it is a hookup or just friends or whatever you’re doing on Double Date... the excitement of meeting someone new is so cool.” — Trisha (49:01)

Toxic Tip:

• [55:23] A listener confesses to tricking her husband by parking outside a bar after a fight — “to scare him a little”.

  “Just like, sometimes a man pisses you off and you gotta stoop to that level.” — Tana (56:27) “The toxic part of me... is so not against scaring a man a little into acting right.” — Tana (57:11)

Catching Cheaters

• Discussing wild tech-fueled stories: tracking men’s heart rates via Apple Watch to catch cheating, guys lying about “liking everyone’s photos”, and the infamous ‘she’s just my cousin’ coverup for a side chick.

  “Have you seen women catch men cheating because on their Apple Watch their heart rate was raising in the middle of the night? Like, cardio. Like, they were having sex with someone.” — Tana (58:33)

  “I'd rather just be like, I'm not into you... being caught sounds so scary.” — Trisha (58:58)

Abusive Relationships

• [72:56] A caller asks for advice on helping a friend with an abusive ex still living with her. The hosts offer empathy and the importance of persistent, supportive friendship — plus a mention of sharing domestic violence hotline info.

  “Empower her to leave... be the rock that's like, hey, when you're ready for this, like, we got this and you got this, you know?” — Tana (75:38)

  “Just insist that they stay with you... take their keys... something so extreme. If it was someone I really loved, I’d have to do something so extreme.” — Trisha (75:25)

Notable Quotes & Moments

• On the infamous “navy sheets”
  “The minute I woke up [with navy blue sheets], I’m like, I feel like I’m at a boy’s house.” — Trisha (50:28)

• On relationship double standards:
  “But that double standard doesn’t apply. Like we were saying... It’s just not the same thing. Like, you can. Yeah, but he can’t be on his phone.” — Trisha (51:55)

• KitKat Debate:
  “The break up of little one? What? You see all three of you do not break off the Kit Kat stick?” — Tana (53:36)

• On weird food combos:
  “I love pickles and peanut butter. That’s pretty weird.” — Tana (54:16)

• On self-deprecating humor about cheating:
  “I feel like guys always cheat on, like, the pretty girls... I’ve never been cheated on. I look like an ogre. So maybe you just gotta be ugly.” — Trisha (61:08)

• On math fails:
  *“12 times 12 is 49. That one’s easy.”— Tana (64:07)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Bed Set Dreaming & Set Design: 02:32 – 04:45
• Tarte Collab Backstory: 14:02 – 16:18
• Apology Culture & Internet Double Standards: 21:59 – 25:55
• TikTok Gossip & Snackolator Segment: 30:11 – 32:49
• Listener Double Date Call: 47:15 – 49:16
• Navy Blue Fitted Sheet / Cheater Tells: 50:20 – 51:55
• Toxic Tip Caller: 55:23 – 57:31
• Apple Watch Cheating Stories: 58:28 – 58:54
• Abusive Relationship Caller: 72:56 – 76:14

Tone & Style

Unfiltered, hilarious, deeply personal, always a touch self-deprecating, and supportive (especially towards listeners calling in). The show’s signature is its blend of wild confessionals and genuine advice — with the hosts embracing their “not an expert, but been there” status.

Episode Takeaways

• Friendship and shared experience, whether in drama or healing, are recurring strengths for Trisha and Tana.
• Recurring themes include “toxic” dating behavior (whether to fight it, accept it, or just meme it), the wild inconsistencies of internet culture, and the power (and limitations) of apology.
• Listener calls keep the podcast grounded in real-world dating and friendship drama, from wild dating app stories to the serious realities of abuse.
• Both hosts are open about flaws and past mistakes and encourage others to embrace growth and support networks.

For Further Support:
If you or a loved one needs help in an abusive relationship, consider reaching out to a local or national domestic violence hotline. The hosts mention the importance of supportive friendships and seeking resources and help when needed.

Summary compiled for Not Loveline listeners seeking the gist, the laughs, and the real talk, all in one.