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That's right, we're still on summer vacation (sorry, not sorry!). We're diving into the archives again to bring you another one of our favorites: our expectations about parenting before we became parents vs. the reality. Enjoy! -------------- This week, we talk about the humbling experience of parenthood and how reality shatters expectations. We cover: The gap between pre-parenting fantasies (museum trips and Christmas traditions) versus post-kid realities (barbecue chip crumbs in the car) Why buying your postpartum wife lingerie is a terrible idea How having children affects relationships and identities Parenting might not be what you imagined, but finding humor in the chaos makes it all a little more manageable, even when you're the parent bringing yogurt-covered raisin snacks to baseball that no child actually wants (at least you tried!) ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show ----------- Links: Blue: A History of Postpartum Depression in America by Rachel Louise Moran Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

We're still on summer vacation! Here's another favorite from the vault. Hope you enjoy! ----------- This week, Claire and Quinn dive into the messy reality of all the different ways we cope with parenting, while everything else is happening. From that stomach-dropping moment when your kid asks you "Did you get a call from school?" to balancing mental health with the news cycle, they explore how we all find ways to survive (medication, therapy, weed, wine, exercise, whatever) when our bandwidth is maxed out. ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show ----------- Links: Bird flu podcast episode with Dr. Nahid Bhadelia Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

We're on summer break! For the next few weeks, we're dipping into the archive and replaying some fan favorites. Hope you enjoy. ---------- This week, Claire and Quinn dive into how the show got its name - the eternal parental struggle of "Not Right Now" - from TikTok bans and VPN-savvy kids to fighting for five minutes alone in the bathroom. Plus: the special horror of watching your kids figure out technology faster than you, deep fakes in elementary school, your child calling out your control freak tendencies, and how we're all just trying to parent through gestures wildly at everything while maintaining some semblance of sanity. ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Links: Etsy daily chore checklist for kids recommended by Quinn, that will definitely solve all of your problems once and for all ----------- Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

This week, Quinn and Claire have Kevin Maguire on the pod. Kevin is the dad behind The New Fatherhood newsletter, an executive coach for CEOs and CMOs at companies like Amazon, Netflix, and YouTube, and the author of a book that is very much about dads but honestly applies to anyone who has ever sat down to write a list of the parent they were going to be and then looked back and laughed at themselves. We discuss: reconfiguring your ambition, writing about your kids as they age, and paternal postpartum depression. -------------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- LINKS Find The New Fatherhood book, community and more https://newfatherhood.com/book/ Use the PPPD assessment tool https://checkup.thenewfatherhood.org/ Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

This week, Claire and Quinn have Amanda Hess (NYT writer and author of Second Life: Having a Child in the Digital Age) on the pod. They discuss the summer logistics of having a 3-year-old and a 5-year-old, Amanda's emerging second-book obsession (cryogenics, death tech, and the very human story underneath the billionaire-escape-pod headlines), boy mom discourse, training your Instagram algorithm, genetic testing, shame, and the difference between information that helps and information that just produces unnecessary grief and anxiety. -------------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- LINKS Find Amanda's book Second Life, out now in paperback https://bookshop.org/p/books/second-life-having-a-child-in-the-digital-age-amanda-hess/bf2e85d90457100b Follow Amanda on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/astromwallhess/?hl=en Read Amanda's NYT work https://www.nytimes.com/by/amanda-hess Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

This week, Quinn and Claire are joined by Kaitlyn Teer. She's the senior editor at Cup of Jo's Big Salad, essayist, college writing teacher, and author of the essay collection Little Apocalypses: Essays on Motherhood, Climate Change, And Hope at the End of the World. They discuss green motherhood as yet another impossible ideal, climate anxiety, water bottle hygiene, and their thoughts on an "unstructured summer." -------------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- LINKS Find Kaitlyn's book Little Apocalypses here https://www.kaitlynteer.com/ Check out Kaitlyn's Substack Oh Good https://kaitlynteer.substack.com/ Check out Big Salad https://joannagoddard.substack.com/ Use code EVILWITCH20 will get you 20% off your first month's subscription from Faye. Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

This week, Quinn and Claire are joined by Meghan Murphy-Gill. She's an Episcopal priest, former hospital chaplain, mom, and author of The Sacred Life of Bread. They talk about religion, community, and what we actually want to pass down to our kids. From why Claire sent her kids to Catholic school even as a "faithfully agnostic" parent, Quinn's atheist-but-curious upbringing, and how Meghan went from an Irish Catholic kid to managing editor of US Catholic to Episcopal priest. Also: Pre-Cana horror stories, the Pope's AI stance, collars (Megan has eight or nine in her car), and whether Mary ever yelled at Jesus (obviously, yes). -------------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- LINKS Follow Meghan's work at her Substack God Talk https://godtalk.substack.com/ Check out The Most Important Question's Run For Something series themostimportantquestion.show Check out the It's Called Reality podcast itscalledreality.tv Grab some *Actually* Pro Life merch https://shop.importantnotimportant.com/collections/actually-pro-life Check out Life Finds A Way on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSfAD4O-rQf0M7I77uOFlJSc6t-d_pKOJ Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

Something new from the team behind Not Right Now. It's Called Reality is a podcast about reality TV, and everything it's secretly about. Every episode, hosts Willow Beck and Briana Brown take a show you're already watching and pull the thread on what it's actually telling us about the world. If you listen to Not Right Now, you already know that the culture your kids are growing up in shapes them in ways that are easy to miss until it's too late. Reality TV is one of the most powerful parts of that culture. America's Next Top Model told a generation of girls what their bodies were supposed to look like. The Bachelor has been teaching young women about what femininity and being "marriage material" are supposed to look like since 2002. The Kardashians essentially invented the influencer economy that your kids are growing up inside. It's Called Reality takes all of that seriously, with analysis, humor, and zero apology for loving the shows we're critiquing. If you've ever watched something with your kid and thought "wait, what is this actually teaching them", this show is for you too. New episodes Fridays. Find It's Called Reality wherever you listen to podcasts. ------------- LINKS Listen to It's Called Reality: itscalledreality.tv Follow us: Instagram @itscalledreality and TikTok @its.called.reality Get in touch: questions@importantnotimportant.com -- send us your hot takes, questions, memes, and shows you want us to cover. We read them all. Take action: whatcanido.earth Support the show: It's Called Reality is produced by Important, Not Important. If you want to go deeper on the issues we cover (and get future ad-free and bonus episodes!) consider becoming an Important Member: importantnotimportant.com/upgrade ------------- It's Called Reality is co-hosted by Willow Beck and Briana Brown, produced by Important, Not Important. New episodes on Fridays. If you love it, leave a rating and review!

It's Maycember, and we're not okay. This week, Claire and Quinn are back to commiserate about the absolute chaos of late spring parenting, from overloaded school calendars to the age-old debate between fifth and eighth grade graduation parties. Also discussed: Teacher Appreciation Week, Mother's Day logistics, being the "hang-out" house, garage sale slippers, Geometry Dash, and other trigger words. -------------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

This week, Claire and Quinn are joined by AJ Daulerio, He's a dad of three, founder of the recovery community The Small Bow, host of The Small Bow Podcast, and parenting advice columnist for Slate. AJ has been sober for nearly 10 years, and he brings the same honesty and self-awareness to parenting that he brings to writing about recovery. They chat about why AJ is more scared of the internet conversation than the alcohol conversation, sports betting, travel baseball all-star tryout for eight-year-olds, and how sober parenting meetings are really just about not letting your worst self show up when your kid strikes out. ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- Links: Check out The Small Bow https://www.thesmallbow.com/ Read AJ's parenting column at Slate https://slate.com/advice/ask-aj Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors