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It's Maycember, and we're not okay. This week, Claire and Quinn are back to commiserate about the absolute chaos of late spring parenting, from overloaded school calendars to the age-old debate between fifth and eighth grade graduation parties. Also discussed: Teacher Appreciation Week, Mother's Day logistics, being the "hang-out" house, garage sale slippers, Geometry Dash, and other trigger words. -------------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

This week, Claire and Quinn are joined by AJ Daulerio, He's a dad of three, founder of the recovery community The Small Bow, host of The Small Bow Podcast, and parenting advice columnist for Slate. AJ has been sober for nearly 10 years, and he brings the same honesty and self-awareness to parenting that he brings to writing about recovery. They chat about why AJ is more scared of the internet conversation than the alcohol conversation, sports betting, travel baseball all-star tryout for eight-year-olds, and how sober parenting meetings are really just about not letting your worst self show up when your kid strikes out. ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- Links: Check out The Small Bow https://www.thesmallbow.com/ Read AJ's parenting column at Slate https://slate.com/advice/ask-aj Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

It's a crossover episode! Quinn had the editor-in-chief of The Week Jr, Andrea Barbalich, on his other show The Most Important Question. It was such a great conversation, and so relevant for parents, we thought we should run it on the Not Right Now feed too. We hope you enjoy it! Andrea is the editorial director of The Week Jr., the only weekly news magazine reporting current affairs directly to children, ages 8 to 14. Under Andrea's leadership, it has grown to over 155,000 subscribers. Andrea's got 25-plus years in editorial leadership at places like Child Magazine. She's also the editor of a book called Feeling Safe: Talking to Children About War and Terrorism. We talk about how you explain wars and elections and climate change to an 8-year-old without either terrifying them or talking down to them, why a physical magazine is thriving in a world of 8-second attention spans, and what every parent, grandparent, teacher, coach, and more can do this week to help the kids in their lives become informed, curious, and resilient. ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- Links: INI Book Club: The Golden Rock by Theo Varlet Find all of our guest recommendations at the INI Book Club: https://bookshop.org/lists/important-not-important-book-club Subscribe to The Week Jr Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

This week, Quinn and Claire are joined by Willa Koerner, a creative strategist, writer, gardener, flower farmer, newsletter author, artist residency co-founder, and mother of a very busy four-year-old. They get into unschooling, invasive species, gardening, skincare, aging, and late-stage capitalism. ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- Links: Find Willa at willakoerner.com, her newsletter Dark Properties, and on Instagram @willak Read Willa's piece Skincare At The End of The World Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

This week, Quinn and Claire are joined by journalist and author Fortesa Latifi. She's pregnant, has a toddler at home, and is somehow also promoting a book. Respect. Fortesa has spent years reporting on the world of mom influencers and family vloggers, and the result is her new book, Like, Follow, Subscribe. The gang covers how she got into this beat, why she approaches her subjects with empathy instead of judgment, and what she's learned about influencer kids who are now adults making their own choices about what to put online. Also discussed: the economic reality behind "sharenting", snark subreddits, and some practical options for sharing your kids privately with family. ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- Links: Follow Fortesa @hifortesa Get Fortesa's book Like, Follow, Subscribe Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

This week, Quinn and Claire get into their March Madness brackets, before discussing how the gambling industrial complex is ruining sports, and what it's like to raise kids in the age of the manosphere. Also discussed: vasectomies, testing our knowledge of slang, and what really makes men attractive to their partners (like putting the kids to bed). ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- Links: Louis Theroux: Inside the Manosphere on Netflix New York Magazine piece on women leaving the MAGA movement Evil Witches Baby Barf Bracket Steve's Field Notes commercial Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors

This week, Quinn and Claire are joined by L'Oreal Thompson Payton, a bestselling author, award-winning journalist, yoga teacher, mom to a four-year-old junior bookseller, and the founder of Zora's Place, a Black-owned independent bookstore in Evanston, Illinois. She is also, somehow, simultaneously writing a memoir about infertility while going through IVF again. We don't know how she does it either.We discuss: what it takes to run a brick-and-mortar bookstore (especially when you have a four-year-old who thinks she's the manager), the books we're hiding from our kids, IVF and the stuff nobody tells you about secondary infertility, and how to keep leafy greens fresh longer.-----------Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.showGet all of our episodes at notrightnow.showFind every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth.-----------Links:Check out books and events at zorasplace.com or on Instagram @zorasplace.Order books from the Zora's Place Bookshop storefront https://bookshop.org/shop/zorasplaceRead L'Oreal's books Amanda Gorman: Poet And Activist and Stop Waiting For PerfectL'Oreal's memoir, Infertile Black Girl, is forthcoming from Beacon PressFollow us:Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.comSubscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade.Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/Subscribe to our YouTube channelProduced and edited by Willow BeckMusic by Tim Blane: timblane.comAdvertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsorsMentioned in this episode:Get MillGet Mill

This week, Quinn and Claire are joined by L'Oreal Thompson Payton, a bestselling author, award-winning journalist, yoga teacher, mom to a four-year-old junior bookseller, and the founder of Zora's Place, a Black-owned independent bookstore in Evanston, Illinois. She is also, somehow, simultaneously writing a memoir about infertility while going through IVF again. We don't know how she does it either. We discuss: what it takes to run a brick-and-mortar bookstore (especially when you have a four-year-old who thinks she's the manager), the books we're hiding from our kids, IVF and the stuff nobody tells you about secondary infertility, and how to keep leafy greens fresh longer. ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- Links: Check out books and events at zorasplace.com or on Instagram @zorasplace. Order books from the Zora's Place Bookshop storefront https://bookshop.org/shop/zorasplace Read L'Oreal's books Amanda Gorman: Poet And Activist and Stop Waiting For Perfect L'Oreal's memoir, Infertile Black Girl, is forthcoming from Beacon Press Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors Mentioned in this episode: Get Mill Get Mill

This week, Quinn and Claire are joined by Garrett Bucks, a writer, organizer, recovering white do-gooder, and parent based in Milwaukee. Garrett runs The Barnraisers Project, writes The White Pages newsletter, and is the author of the memoir The Right Kind of White. He also has a son who is very mad that his sister thinks they live in a suburb.The gang gets into why your son talks differently to his sister than to his friends, kids not knowing what the Epstein files are, growing up in rural Montana, how to get work done in between school drop off and soccer practice, and why protests are important AND performative AND boring and worth doing anyway, and how to actually get your kids to come.-----------Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.showGet all of our episodes at notrightnow.showFind every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth.-----------Links:Find Garrett's work at garretbucks.comSubscribe to The White Pages at thewhitepages.netCheck out The Barnraisers Project at barnraisersproject.orgRead Garrett's memoir, The Right Kind of White https://bookshop.org/a/8952/9781982197209Join The Interdependence Relay at jointherelay.orgFollow us:Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.comSubscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade.Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/Subscribe to our YouTube channelProduced and edited by Willow BeckMusic by Tim Blane: timblane.comAdvertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsorsMentioned in this episode:Get MillGet Mill

This week, Quinn and Claire are joined by Garrett Bucks, a writer, organizer, recovering white do-gooder, and parent based in Milwaukee. Garrett runs The Barnraisers Project, writes The White Pages newsletter, and is the author of the memoir The Right Kind of White. He also has a son who is very mad that his sister thinks they live in a suburb. The gang gets into why your son talks differently to his sister than to his friends, kids not knowing what the Epstein files are, growing up in rural Montana, how to get work done in between school drop off and soccer practice, and why protests are important AND performative AND boring and worth doing anyway, and how to actually get your kids to come. ----------- Have feedback or questions? Send a message to questions@notrightnow.show Get all of our episodes at notrightnow.show Find every action recommended in Not Right Now here: whatcanido.earth. ----------- Links: Find Garrett's work at garretbucks.com Subscribe to The White Pages at thewhitepages.net Check out The Barnraisers Project at barnraisersproject.org Read Garrett's memoir, The Right Kind of White https://bookshop.org/a/8952/9781982197209 Join The Interdependence Relay at jointherelay.org Follow us: Subscribe to Quinn's newsletter at importantnotimportant.com Subscribe to Claire's newsletter at https://www.evilwitches.com/ Try a free 30 day free trial of the Important Membership here: https://www.importantnotimportant.com/upgrade. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notrightnowpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel Produced and edited by Willow Beck Music by Tim Blane: timblane.com Advertise with us: importantnotimportant.com/c/sponsors Mentioned in this episode: Get Mill Get Mill