Jesse Lally: Setting the Record Straight - Not Skinny But Not Fat

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Amanda Hirsch (0:00)

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Jesse Lally (1:45)

The following podcast is a Dear Media production.

Amanda Hirsch (1:49)

Welcome back to the Not Skinny but Not Fat podcast. I'm your host, Amanda Hirsch, and I still can't believe that I get to chat with some of my favorite stars on my very own podcast where you'll feel like you're just talking with your best friends in your living room. Hey, guys. I. I don't know. I think the return of my period after 10, 11 months has just thrown me off because I was raging before I got it and then I forgot how it is. It's like you have that week before your period where you're psycho and you're achy and you're gross. Then you have the week of your period that your psycho aching gross. And then you have the week after your period that your psycho aching grows. And then you have like one week where you're Maybe not one of those things. So I'm loving it and breathing it, but at the same time, I do. I know it's so annoying to put things into perspective, but when you do complain about your period and there are people, people who are, like, going through perimenopause or menopause or whatever, they're like, I wish I got my period. And you're like, I get it. I get it. Because hormones suck when they change. So I get it. So I'm not going to complain. Also, I did want to get my period back because it felt like a long time. And it did feel like something is in balance. Like, if I'm not getting my period, even though it's completely normal, especially if you're breastfeeding, it did feel like, wait, my body's like out of whack still. Like, it needs to get back in line.

Summary

Podcast Summary: "Jesse Lally: Setting the Record Straight"

Not Skinny But Not Fat
Host: Amanda Hirsch
Guest: Jesse Lally
Release Date: May 27, 2025

Introduction

In this episode of Not Skinny But Not Fat, Amanda Hirsch welcomes Jesse Lally, a prominent figure from the reality TV show Vanderpump Villa. The conversation delves deep into Jesse's personal life, his portrayal on television, and the controversies surrounding his relationship with his ex-wife, Michelle.

Jesse Lally’s Background and Early Career

Jesse begins by sharing his journey from Boston to New York, where he initially worked in the insurance industry before transitioning into modeling and acting.

Jesse Lally [12:20]: "I did a little bit and then I did that job with Anna Nicole Smith and the rest was history after that."

He details his experience with Anna Nicole Smith, which significantly boosted his visibility and led him to pursue acting more seriously. Jesse trained at the William Esper Studio in New York alongside notable personalities like Amy Schumer.

Jesse Lally [12:46]: "I think you guys are friends."

Eventually, Jesse relocated to Los Angeles in 2006, seeking further opportunities in the entertainment industry despite the challenges posed by the 2006-2007 writer strike.

Relationship Dynamics and Reality TV Portrayal

A significant portion of the discussion centers on Jesse’s tumultuous relationship with Michelle, which has been a focal point on reality TV. Jesse addresses accusations of cheating and his portrayal as a villain on the show.

Jesse Lally [18:25]: "Something I've been working on is taking that pause considering the repercussions on my daughter, on my relationship, on my friendships."

He reflects on his past behavior, including using derogatory terms towards Michelle, and expresses regret over his actions.

Jesse Lally [20:01]: "I don't believe in cheating. I think cheating is a quitter mentality. I think it's a victim mentality."

Jesse emphasizes his efforts to take accountability and improve his behavior, highlighting his work with a coach to manage his triggers and anger.

Jesse Lally [22:07]: "I'm wildly authentic and I just never wanted to worry about it with me."

Current Relationship and Co-Parenting

Jesse discusses his current relationship with his girlfriend, detailing how they navigated entering a new relationship amid ongoing media scrutiny and their shared responsibilities as co-parents to their daughter, Isabella.

Jesse Lally [38:41]: "We started dating in February. So it was about, what, six months after."

He elaborates on their co-parenting schedule, ensuring that Isabella maintains a healthy relationship with both parents despite the complexities introduced by reality TV.

Jesse Lally [61:39]: "We are doing every other weekend and then two days on, two days off during the week."

Interactions with Other Cast Members

The conversation touches upon Jesse’s relationships with other members of the Vanderpump Villa cast, including Kristen and Luke, fostering positive connections despite previous tensions.

Jesse Lally [54:03]: "Shockingly, probably Kristen and Luke."

He also addresses conflicts with Janet and Brittany, emphasizing his intent to maintain amicable relationships despite challenges on the show.

Jesse Lally [56:35]: "I see that play out with a lot of people throughout the season."

Financial Management and Lifestyle

Jesse addresses accusations regarding his spending habits, particularly concerning wine purchases. He clarifies that his expenditures are often misrepresented and highlights his genuine passion for wine, alongside his disciplined approach to finances.

Jesse Lally [63:30]: "It's a way to control a narrative to, you know, it completely one sided."

He recounts significant purchases, such as high-end wines and memorable trips with his family, asserting that these investments were made to create lasting memories.

Jesse Lally [66:25]: "I don't regret any dollar I spend on my family."

Handling Public Perception and Media Narratives

Jesse reflects on the challenges of being portrayed negatively on reality TV and his strategies to counteract the narrative. He emphasizes his commitment to authenticity and transparency, distancing himself from the scripted image often crafted for television.

Jesse Lally [76:10]: "It's very Team Jesse."

He notes the surprising support he has received from fans, attributing it to his genuine approach and willingness to take responsibility for his actions.

Personal Reflections and Future Outlook

Throughout the episode, Jesse offers introspective insights into his personal growth and the lessons learned from his experiences both on and off the camera. He expresses optimism about future seasons and the possibility of further resolving past conflicts.

Jesse Lally [75:50]: "I think you'll be very surprised. I think, you know, it's there, there."

Amanda encourages Jesse to continue his path of self-improvement, highlighting the importance of accountability and genuine relationships.

Conclusion

Amanda wraps up the episode by thanking Jesse for his openness and forthcoming discussion. She expresses anticipation for future developments in both Jesse’s personal life and his ongoing narrative on reality TV.

Notable Quotes

Jesse Lally [20:01]: "I don't believe in cheating. I think cheating is a quitter mentality."
Jesse Lally [22:07]: "I'm wildly authentic and I just never wanted to worry about it with me."
Jesse Lally [63:30]: "It's a way to control a narrative to, you know, it completely one sided."
Jesse Lally [76:10]: "It's very Team Jesse."

Final Thoughts

This episode offers listeners an in-depth look at Jesse Lally’s side of the story, providing context to the controversies surrounding him. Jesse’s candidness about his mistakes and his efforts towards personal growth present a more nuanced perspective than what is often seen on reality television.

For those unfamiliar with Jesse or the Vanderpump Villa drama, this episode serves as a comprehensive introduction to his character, motivations, and the complexities of balancing personal life with public scrutiny.