Modern dating can be tough. Between apps, ghosting, and the uncertainty that often comes with meeting strangers outside our social circles, the whole process can be seriously activating — and all the more so for those with anxious attachment patterns.

In this episode, I share three key mindset shifts to help you approach dating from a place of self-worth rather than scarcity, pessimism, or the need to be chosen.

When you date from a grounded place, the focus shifts from seeking approval to assessing alignment—and that change alone can transform your experience of dating.

In this episode, I cover:

Why modern dating can be particularly challenging for people with anxious attachment
The importance of getting clear on your non-negotiables and deal breakers before you start dating
Why tolerating situationships and ambiguous connections keeps you stuck
The difference between scanning for red flags and looking for green flags
How fear-based dating advice can increase anxiety and erode self-trust
Why cultivating your own vitality and wellbeing changes the energy you bring to dating
How shifting from “please choose me” to “are we aligned?” creates healthier connections
Why it’s sometimes wise to take a break from dating apps if the process feels draining

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