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2024 JPMorgan Chase no one's really judging you for that long because they're judging themselves more. No one's really criticizing you that much because they're criticizing themselves more. Give them and yourself some grace and compassion. Leave that self consciousness that blocks you behind. The Number one Health and Wellness Podcast Jay Shetty Jay Shetty the one, the only Jay Shetty hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose. I'm your host Jay Shetty and I can't believe it's the end of another year. Doesn't it feel like every year just gets faster and faster and faster and time truly does travel in a way that we can't comprehend. And I think when it comes around to the New year, a lot of us are thinking about New Year's resolutions. We're thinking about new habits and those are all great. But one of the things I've realized over the years is that in order to make space for new habits, new ideas, new routines, new skills, new abilities, we have to leave things behind. We have to make space by letting go. We're not always going to be able to find new patterns, new routines, new habits if we still have old ideas, old mindsets, and old thought processes. One of my favorite stories told by the Buddha is about a person who is on a journey. And on their journey, they come across their first obstacle, just like you and me. They have a challenge in their way. Their challenge happens to be a fast flowing river. And this person knows that if they dip their toe in, they'll be swept away with the current. So they decide to craft a raft. They find bamboo, they find some wood, they find some rope, they tie it together, they lay it down, they even make themselves an oar. And then they paddle with all their might and all their energy just to get to the other side. And finally, after lots of paddling, lots of pushing, they make it to the other side and they think to themselves, this raft saved my life. I always want this raft to be with me. I can't leave it behind. So they strap the raft to their back and continue to walk. Now, just like all of us have more than one challenge in our life, this person too comes to their next challenge. And their next challenge isn't a fast flowing river. It's a tall, wooded forest with trees dotted at every other step. As they're trying to maneuver and move through the forest, the raft that's strapped to their back is getting stuck, it's getting chipped. They're trying to navigate and they're trying to shift and move, but the raft keeps getting damaged and they keep falling back. The Buddha says that this person has an important choice to make. They either hold onto the raft and struggle to get through, or they put down the raft and walk through freely. The Buddha says that we also have the same dilemma and choice in life. We can either hold on to old mindsets that helped us in the past, old ideas that served us in the past, old habits that may have made sense in the past, and we can struggle to move forward, or we can recognize that we can always rebuild that raft, put it down and walk through freely, developing new skills, new mindsets, new ideas. The Buddha said that on this occasion, this person put down their raft and walked through freely. This is what today's episode is about. What am I letting go and leaving behind of in 2024, if I truly want 2025 to be a new year, what old parts of me do I have to leave behind? If I truly want to build a New Year's resolution or habit, which old ones do I want to leave behind? And if I truly want to create a new life, which old mindsets am I willing to leave behind? And so I wanted to talk about this in the hope that you'll also reflect on what's something that you realize no longer serves you? What's something that isn't helping you to move forward, push forward? What is it that is actually holding you back? As the famous Zen saying goes, what's holding us back is what we're holding on to. What is your raft and how can you leave it behind? Number 10 as to what I'm leaving behind in 2024 is avoiding making mistakes. This is a world and a culture that favors people who take risks. Those risks can be personal. For example, deciding, as my wife and I did around eight years ago, to upend our lives and move to a new country, a new city, they can be professional, like deciding to launch a small business or write the screenplay you've always dreamed about writing or experimenting with a new hobby, whether it's learning how to play the guitar or learn Italian or become a bird watcher. But often what gets in the way of our taking those risks is our fear of making mistakes. More specifically, our fear of future regret. We tell ourselves that if we make the wrong decision, it will be with us for the rest of our lives and we'll lose all respect for ourselves, and so will everyone else. I'm here to tell you that's just not true. If you look at any life or any career or anyone who has ever taken a positive risk that paid off, you will find that the pavement they walk to get to the place is literally littered with mistakes. Mistakes are a part of life. I don't know about you, but I've never been 37 years old before. So of course I'm going to make mistakes, just as I did when I was 27 and 17. Let's also remember that some of the greatest inventions in history, most of them, in fact, came as the direct result of mistakes and accidents. Velcro, potato chips, pacemakers, the microwave oven. In 2025, more than ever, I want to let go of the idea that mistakes are bad things, and instead lean into them. As Alexander Fleming, the doctor who discovered penicillin by mistake, said about his discovery, one sometimes finds what one is not looking for. What I found is that anyone who moved fast. Anyone who grew fast made mistakes. And if we didn't make mistakes, it means we were moving too slow. And chances are we weren't happy with that pace of growth. You will make mistakes. You can't avoid mistakes. The biggest mistake is to try to never make a mistake. The biggest mistake is to be so scared of other people's judgment that you don't try something new. The biggest mistake is to let go of your dreams because of how you think other people will think about you. You will make mistakes. Start that podcast anyway. You will make mistakes. Write that book anyway. You will make mistakes. Start making content anyway you will make mistakes. Move cities anyway. You will make mistakes. Do it anyway. Because if you try to avoid making mistakes, nothing will change and nothing will happen. Number nine I want to leave self consciousness behind and take forward consciousness and awareness. We live in a world of our own construction, a kingdom that lives inside our own heads, so to speak. We don't see the world as it is, someone once said. We see it as we are. Realize that everyone around you is wearing a lens that determines and influences how they see the world. Yes, we can all agree on certain things, a concept known as consensual reality. But most of the time, the lenses of others will in no way resemble yours. I say this because when we go to the supermarket or go shopping for a new outfit or go on a bike ride, our very human tendency is to believe we are the center of the world and the center of attention, and that all eyes are on us. Which of course makes sense since we are the center of our own attention. Well, guess what? No one's watching or judging you with as much focus or in as much detail as you're observing yourself. Another example of consensual reality is that despite the glasses each of us is born wearing, other people are a lot like us in the sense they're focused mostly on themselves and wondering what you think of them. Which is why I'll leave any traces of self consciousness behind me in 2024. The best part? No one's going to notice but me. See, what I mean by this is you are fearful because you're scared of what people will think. You're not chasing your dreams because you're scared of what people will think. You're not pursuing your passion because you're scared of what people will think. You're not listening to your inner voice because you're concerned about everyone else's noise. And when you think about that, you realize that that person thought about you for two minutes. Maybe once a year, maybe two minutes once a month, maybe two minutes once a week, maybe two minutes once a day. But most of their time was spent thinking about themselves. No one's really thinking about you because they're thinking about themselves more. No one's really judging you for that long because they're judging themselves more. No one's really criticizing you that much because they're criticizing themselves more. Give them and yourself some grace and compassion. Leave that self consciousness that blocks you behind because it's not serving anyone. The number eight goes to the belief that busy is good. Have you ever called up a friend or a colleague and asked them how they're doing or how their day is going? Nine times out of ten, they'll tell you that they're busy, that they have virtually no time to themselves, that they're juggling a bunch of different projects, and have 125 unread emails in their inbox. If you're expecting to hear the word I'm fine, Jay, thanks for asking. What about you? Odds are you won't. Or maybe a quick text message. Instead, you will most likely hear the word busy. Busy in today's culture has become a badge of honor, a flag of sorts. It communicates to the world that we're popular, in demand, and more indirectly, probably extremely good at what we do for a living. Now it can also make us feel like that's how we feel. Value. Hey, I'm busy. I've got lots on. And that's how we define our own value. It says that we're plugged in, connected, and on the fast track in our careers and professions, or that we've just got an overwhelming amount of stuff to do, that we want some attention, we want to be seen, we want to be heard, and there's just too much going on. When asked how you are, do you say busy? I fear that a lot of the time, without thinking about it, I do. And it's a response and a concept I'm eager to leave behind in 2024 for many reasons. First, busy isn't everything. In fact, busy is oftentimes misused. Busy can be a defense, a form of sublimation, a way of ignoring other things you should be thinking about, like your happiness or your mood state, or your mental or physical health. Finally, what does it say about us as a culture that when someone asks us sincerely how we're doing a personal question, we reply in a professional capacity that we're busy? And what about you? Are you busy too? In 2025, if someone calls to ask how I'm doing. I plan on giving them a straight, honest answer in the spirit of how the question was asked, one that has nothing to do with what's on my desk or in my calendar. Try it for yourself. You might be surprised by the words that come out of your mouth. I think one of the biggest things I've seen here is that it's about how we believe we're valuable. So I would encourage you to all think about that. Do you feel you're valuable? Do you feel your day is effective and your day is a success because you're busy? Or do you actually end the day and realize that a busy day was not a beautiful day? A busy day maybe didn't even lead to the achievements and the effectiveness you wanted to have. And so really, really take a moment to think about it. Really, really take a moment to figure out what do you want the answer to that question to be? It may be like, I've got a lot on, but do you have a lot on? Because you think having a lot on is the right way to think about life. Now we all have a lot to do. We all have a lot going on. But actually, are you just very organized? Are you prioritized? Are you being effective? Are you being productive? What's the language that you want to use that creates a healthy relationship with yourself and the idea of being busy? Now, number seven Turning down the noise. When you think about it, noise surrounds us. We wake up in the morning to traffic sounds, maybe a leaf blower or a lone mower coming from the neighbor's house. We hear the drip of the coffee maker, a dog barking, the sounds of children later meeting a friend for brunch in a local food spot. We're surrounded by the clink of silverware, the clash of plates and bowls being set down or whisked away, the murmur and squall of other people talking. Music plays overhead, constantly. It sometimes seems that wherever we go, a clothing store, a gas station, a coffee shop, a restaurant, a gym, a song is playing, as if the riskiest thing in the world is for any of us to be alone with our own thoughts. But when I talk about noise, I'm not just talking about what comes in through our ears. I'm also talking about what is consumed by our eyes and our attention, and how the culture we inhabit seems intent on fragmenting the information we absorb, dividing it by 2, then 4, then 10, then 100. It's the opposite of depth, the opposite of learning and remembering. Instead, this kind of noise focuses on the surfaces of things. We scan headlines, we glance at our favorite websites, we scroll through photos and advertisements, we text instead of a call and call instead of a meeting. What is noise if not a soundtrack to our lives that interferes with what we should really be doing, which is to say being attentive to ourselves and those around us One thing I want to leave behind in 2024 is the role I have allowed noise to play in my life. Noise refers to everything that is distracting, alluring and diverting, the blinking silver bells of technology and the pressure it puts on me not to walk but to skip, to skim, and to speed read, a process deliberately designed to leave me and all of us wanting more and always playing catch up. Eliminating noise is one of the things I plan on leaving behind in 2024. Sometimes life can seem challenging and overcoming problems can seem impossible. But when you focus on your problems, it can keep you from seeing the good in your life. One thing that helps me when I need a change in perspective is acknowledging the small wins in life. I encourage my team to pay attention to small wins because it helps them see positive outcomes and the steps that they are achieving on the road to a bigger goal. Use the power of small wins to shift your outlook and you will start to see positive changes. State Farm is also there to help you find personal wins and celebrate the small things in life. The State Farm Personal Price Plan helps you create an affordable price just for you. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Prices are based on rating plans that vary by state. Coverage options are selected by the customer. Availability, amount of discounts and savings and eligibility vary by state.