On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Episode: PARIS HILTON: The REAL Story Beyond the Headlines, Fame, Misconceptions, and The Journey to FINALLY Reclaim Her Narrative
Release Date: January 21, 2026
Guest: Paris Hilton
Host: Jay Shetty
Overview of the Episode
Jay Shetty welcomes Paris Hilton for her highly anticipated return to "On Purpose." The conversation centers on Paris’s journey of reclaiming her narrative beyond the tabloid headlines—diving deep into her experiences with fame, trauma, healing, ADHD, motherhood, and her ongoing mission to uplift and empower others. They discuss her latest documentary, "Infinite Icon," which highlights Paris’s personal and creative renaissance, and address the truth behind her public image, major misconceptions, and the resilience it took to emerge as an advocate and icon.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Paris Hilton's Evolution and the Power of Reflection
Timestamps: 03:10 – 04:13
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Paris reflects on her tremendous growth since her last appearance, emphasizing shifts in motherhood, self-understanding, and her new home [03:10].
"I just moved into my new home. I have just been on this whole discovery journey... I'm just really proud of the woman I am today." – Paris Hilton [03:10]
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Describes her memoir and new documentary, "Infinite Icon," as parts of a healing trilogy documenting her personal and musical evolution [04:13].
"Through my music documentary... I really believe that music is something that saved my life." – Paris Hilton [04:13]
2. Music as Therapy and a Tool for Empowerment
Timestamps: 06:08 – 08:07
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Paris recounts the pivotal role of dance and pop music (e.g., Madonna, Britney Spears) as comfort during her childhood and through trauma [06:08].
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Explains the process of writing "ADHD Thyroisia," a track from her new album, intending it as an anthem for those with ADHD [07:11].
"I've had so many parents come up to me talking about their children... it's now their anthem, and they feel like it's their superpower, too." – Paris Hilton [07:11]
3. Living with ADHD—Stigma, Strength, and Advocacy
Timestamps: 08:07 – 16:06
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Paris reveals that as a teen, ADHD was a source of shame due to lack of awareness and stigmatization in schools [08:23].
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Discusses gaining understanding through her work with Dr. Hollowell and reframing ADHD as her superpower: creativity, drive, hyper-focus [11:51].
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Emphasizes the importance of sharing her story to empower young people with neuro-diversity [13:02].
"I know I would not be the woman I am today or the entrepreneur without it, because it just gives me such drive and curiosity and creativity..." – Paris Hilton [08:23]
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Describes challenges, especially rejection sensitivity (RSD) and being misunderstood or punished for traits she couldn't help [16:06].
4. The Media & Its Lasting Impact
Timestamps: 17:34 – 19:27
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Paris addresses the aggressive and cruel coverage of young women in the 2000s and the fabricated rumors the press spread about her [18:05].
"The media was constantly making up stories, trying to pit women against each other. ... Every day just dealing with, just, I don't know, just, like, annoying rumors...on a global scale." – Paris Hilton [18:05]
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She explains how the media’s negative focus affected her relationships, self-perception, and mental health [19:27].
5. The Importance of Family Support
Timestamps: 20:32 – 22:01
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Paris reflects on her gratitude for having supportive parents in an industry where many don’t, explaining the protective role her family played in her well-being [20:32].
"Having a family that loves and supports you is extremely important." – Paris Hilton [20:32]
6. The Sex Tape Scandal—Violation, Shame & Societal Double Standards
Timestamps: 23:17 – 28:14
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Paris describes the sex tape leak as the “most painful experience” of her life—emotional betrayal, public shaming, and a loss of innocence at 19 [23:17].
"To trust someone so much and then to be violated like that...and have the entire world watching, laughing, talking about it, villainizing me." – Paris Hilton [23:17]
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She shares the lingering effects and how telling her story publicly serves to help others feel less isolated and to advocate for laws protecting victims [26:28].
"That shouldn't define who you are...that's what somebody did to you. That's been a really empowering thing for me to feel." – Paris Hilton [26:28]
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Jay and Paris both highlight the double standard faced by women in the public eye, noting how the victim often bears the shame [27:22].
7. Reclaiming Her Narrative—Healing, Character, and Strategic Choices
Timestamps: 32:20 – 37:16
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Paris discusses her months of isolation post-scandal, and the gradual journey back—including a healing, comedic turn on SNL with Jimmy Fallon [32:28].
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On consciously building the “character” of Paris Hilton as armor—a way to cope by leaning into and subverting the media’s shallow expectations [34:45].
"Everything is...also my career has just always happened so authentically...I kind of was just, like, going with the flow and with life. And also, it was more...easier for me just to...laugh through the pain than actually feel the pain." – Paris Hilton [34:45]
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Describes continued hurt when others assumed the tape leak was purposeful, saying, “That was the thing that was the most painful for me as well, for people to believe that” [37:21].
8. Love, Trust, and Motherhood
Timestamps: 41:41 – 45:52
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Paris says Carter is the first person she's truly let see her real self, only achievable after her journey of self-healing [41:41].
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Talks about the transformative joy of motherhood and her intention to raise her children with openness, kindness, and unconditional support [43:25].
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Paris highlights the importance of making children feel safe to communicate with their parents [45:18].
"If your kid is too scared to say something to you...then bad things might happen because they don't feel comfortable." – Paris Hilton [45:18]
9. Misunderstood vs. Underestimated—and Turning Pain into Purpose
Timestamps: 47:14 – 49:12
- Paris distinguishes being underestimated (“I love proving people wrong”) from being misunderstood (“there’s always been so much more to me”), and finds empowerment in telling her true story [47:14].
- Discusses the power of vulnerability and leading with authenticity and kindness.
10. ADHD & Relationships—Hyperfocus, Boundaries, and Life Design
Timestamps: 53:53 – 58:33
- Paris shares a humorous realization that her ADHD hyperfocus led her to confuse intense attraction for love [53:59].
- Explores how object permanence issues with ADHD can affect relationships and how she and her ADHD-friendly team create supportive, organized systems [55:18].
11. Loss, Community, and Advocacy (Wildfires in LA)
Timestamps: 59:42 – 64:42
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Paris recounts the heartbreak of losing her Malibu home in a wildfire and its immediate impact on her family [60:33].
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She pivoted quickly to philanthropic action—helping families and pets, organizing donations and shelter—turning trauma into purposeful support for her community [60:33].
"Even though...losing our home, I immediately just started thinking about everyone else who'd been affected by it and seeing what I could do to make a difference." – Paris Hilton [64:14]
12. Paris’s Legacy, Iconic Moments, and Ongoing Mission
Timestamps: 66:32 – 71:21
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Paris shares her favorite trends (bling, Motorola Razr, slogan tees) and most absurd headlines (rumors of dating Michael Jackson).
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Full-circle pride: Passing her first federal bill to protect children—a crowning achievement and the most healing and empowering work of her life [69:11].
"Being in D.C. and passing my first federal bill to protect children...has been just the most healing and empowering work of my life." – Paris Hilton [69:11]
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Stresses the importance of kindness, giving, and leading with heart above all [71:36].
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- On ADHD as a superpower:
"I know I would not be the woman I am today or the entrepreneur without it." – Paris Hilton [08:23]
- On reclaiming her narrative:
"I kind of just...leaned into it, like, ‘Oh, you think this about me? All right, well, I’m gonna take it to the next level, and I’m gonna build an entire...brand around it and Empire.’" – Paris Hilton [34:45]
- On the sex tape scandal:
"I was 19 when this was filmed. I was a child and I was in love and trusted someone... and had the whole world...judging me...that is something that will probably haunt me for the rest of my life." – Paris Hilton [23:17]
- On family support:
"Having a family that loves and supports you is extremely important." – Paris Hilton [20:32]
- On kindness:
"Kindness is iconic." – Paris Hilton [71:36]
Timestamps for Key Segments
- Paris’s growth & new documentary: 03:10 – 04:13
- Music & healing: 06:08 – 08:07
- Living with ADHD: 08:23 – 16:06
- Media impact & family grounding: 17:34 – 22:01
- Sex tape scandal—pain & advocacy: 23:17 – 28:14
- Reclaiming narrative & brand: 32:20 – 37:16
- Love, trust, and motherhood: 41:41 – 45:52
- Misunderstood vs. underestimated: 47:14 – 49:12
- ADHD, love, & routines: 53:53 – 58:33
- Wildfire loss & activism: 59:42 – 64:42
- Favorite trends & iconic achievements: 66:32 – 71:21
- Wisdom for life: 71:36 – 72:04
Tone & Takeaway
The episode is deeply vulnerable yet uplifting—marked by Paris’s candor, empathy, and resolve. Jay’s respectful, inquisitive approach allows Paris to reflect on dark chapters with strength and honesty, turning pain and public misconception into purpose, healing, and advocacy. The conversation is authentic, with moments of humor, pain, triumph, and a consistent message: kindness, vulnerability, and staying true to oneself are iconic.
Recommended for:
Anyone interested in Paris’s true story, discussions about fame, neuro-diversity, resilience, healing from trauma, and using platforms for purpose-driven advocacy.
Endnote
"You can survive anything if you have heart. ... Kindness is iconic." – Paris Hilton [71:36]
