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My friend Nero Feliciano is here. She is a phenomenal psychotherapist from New York, and this is a moment for us to talk about consistency. And she's here to give us some practical tips on how to stay consistent. So many of us can push off and get started, but then we don't keep going. And so we want to talk about consistency. So let me read her bio real quick. Nero is a psychotherapist, bestselling author, and national media commentator. She holds a master's degree from Columbia University and has been in private practice for 20 years. She is author of the Today.com column Is this normal? And you can often see her on the Today show and NBC News now. Nero has also been interviewed by national publications such as the New York Times, Oprah Daily, Real simple magazine, and more, sharing practical tips and strategies around mental health and also parenting. She's the author of a book called this book won't make you happy, eight keys to finding true contentment. And her second book, all is calmish was released over the holidays in 2025. Nero, where are you at? I'm looking at, hey, girl, y', all, this is my Sri Lankan friend. That's Lisiano's because she married a Puerto Rican.
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That's right.
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Welcome, welcome, welcome.
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Dr. Anita, thank you so much. I am so happy to be here. And thank you so much for trusting me in this sacred space. I send Dr. Anita DMS all the time just saying, oh, my gosh, what is going on in your congregation is so beautiful. And I know how much you adore her and I know how beloved she is to all of you because we talk about it. We've texted about it. So thank you for trusting me in this, this space. And what she's told me about all of you is that all of you have big dreams and visions and goals, and God has put desires in your heart. And what we want to talk about today is how do we get from that vision and that desire to actually seeing it come to pass? Because that's the hard part, right? We have all the motivation in the beginning, but then life starts lifing, right? And then what do we do? How do we carry it out? That's what we want to talk about today. Now I'm going to share with you. The funny part of this is that Dr. Anita, you know, there's a lot of things that I possibly could talk about. When Dr. Anita told me, I want you to talk about consistency, I said to my husband, Dr. Anita wants me to talk to you consistency. And he kind of laughed because I'm not really the most consistent person out there. And I thought about it, and that is because I have so many ideas and we only have so much time for all the ideas that we have. And I told Dr. Anita, really, honestly, the only thing I can say I've been really consistent about is how I pursue Jesus, my love for God, my relationship with God. That is really the only thing I can be consistent about. And she, Dr. Anita ed me. She gave me a reframe. She said, hold up, hold up. You have four children, you are married. She talked about the fact that I am a clinician. I've been a clinician for 20 years. I started a practice. I have people who work for me. I've written a couple books. And I said, oh, okay, I guess so, I guess so. There's some things that I've done. And I realized I have been able to do those things. One, because my relationship with God has been my foundation. Right. And I, I believe we do our best and God takes the rest. That's, that's been my, my philosophy since I was very small. But the things that I've actually accomplished, the areas where I've seen growth, the places that I'm proud of, I know at some point in my life they became priorities. And that's part of what it takes to get to that other level when we have to make the things that are important to us priorities. Now, I don't know if you've heard this saying, but it takes 10 years to become an overnight success. Have you ever heard of, heard that saying? Yeah, we, we look at people who are successful, who blow up on Instagram. Right, exactly. And we look at the big moments, the awards, the accolades, who they're with, how they got there, but we never see what they did in the day to day. We never see how they showed up for themselves and how they did the small things. I love that verse. Do not underestimate the power of the small, because there is so much in that. How we show up day to day in the little things is going to be what inevitably leads us to that place where we see that vision come to pass. And consistency is that game changer. And if we don't have the consistency, it's going to be hard to see that vision materialize. I'm a big believer in that. We pray like it depends on God, but we work like it depends on us. We have to put in the work. And I've seen even times where I feel like, God, this is not good. Enough. This is all I could do right now. God knows my life, God knows my struggles, and he knows when I show up, even if I don't think is enough, God will make up that difference. We just have to bring what we have. So one of the things I want to talk about two things today, two categories of thought. One is what are the enemies of consistency? Right. What are the enemies of what stops us from being consistent? Anyone have any ideas what you struggle with? Put it in the chat. What stops you from being consistent? Complexity. Yeah. Oh, distractions. My favorite. Procrastination. Fear. Bad days. Absolutely. Life challenges. Oh, you just said all of them. Imposter syndrome. Oh, my gosh. You're writing the talk for me right now. Thank you for that. Yes. So let's, let's talk about a couple of them. You've named all of them, and some are very real. Someone just put in adhd and that, that's a real factor as well. So number one, I just want to talk about limiting beliefs. Those thoughts that some of them are deep rooted. Some of these limiting beliefs were instilled in us from a time we were very young. You know, we talk about speaking life over ourselves and speaking life over our life, but a lot of times we have a negative monologue going on. Sometimes when I sit with my clients, I say to them, if you talk to your friends the way you talk to yourself, no one would hang out with you. No one hang out with you because we're so critical of ourselves. Do any of these beliefs sound familiar to any of you? I don't have enough. I'm not enough. I don't deserve this. I'm not qualified to do this. I'm not ready. Right. This isn't working. Limiting beliefs. Those are limiting beliefs. And someone put down fear. Fear, fear of failure. If any of you have ever struggled with impostor syndrome, which, by the way, every, almost every successful person as they transition to a new level, can experience imposter syndrome. It goes with the territory of transition. Transition. That's you right there. Yeah, that's a lot of us. And for many people who've achieved anything in their life, they have worked through these obstacles, but fear is a big one. And, and we can get into a lot of fear. Fear of failure. What's going to happen if it doesn't work out? You know, and oftentimes, especially if you struggle with anxiety, we tend to go to the worst case scenario. And one of the quick things that I support my clients with is replacing some of those thoughts. We talked about thought replacement and some of the forms of therapy we do. And instead of what's the worst that can happen? Have you ever sat with the question, well, what's the best that can happen? What if it actually works out? What's my life going to be like if I take this risk? If I trust God with the vision he gave me? What could that look like? Because oftentimes we go to the worst case scenario, but that's not going to motivate us. What if we ask that question, what's the best that can happen? I love how some people are putting in statements in the chat that are cheering themselves on. You know, you got this. How often are we the cheerleader of other people? Can we change some of our internal dialogue to cheer ourselves on? You got this. You know, you're not in it alone. Like, God's got you. He's given you everything you need to carry out that vision. The affirmations. That's correct. And obviously scripture is a powerful affirmation. I know you get solid instruction on that at one. But the other thing that I've often found for people that stops them from moving on when they got these, when they come to a hard day is perfectionism. Does anyone struggle with perfectionism? Yeah. Oh, so many of you. Yeah. And probably it's because you've been good at something in your life and you know what that feels like. And nowadays, I mean, my heart hurts when I see how much we have to display publicly for everybody, our process, our. Our accomplishments. As I mentioned, I have four kids and most of them are teenagers right now, and they're growing up in a world that I never knew, where everything is documented and commented on. Someone just wrote, I have to win every day. I feel like I have to win every day. So there's a saying that you may have heard. It's called good or perfect is the enemy of good. Has anyone heard that? Yes. Yes. And honestly, we have to get to good before we get to perfect. And something that I learned because I did struggle with perfectionism at one point in my life. But I will tell you, four kids will break you of perfectionism. You don't feel like you're perfect at anything. You don't feel like you're crushing it in anything. When you have a job and you have kids. Right. You don't have to have four. Maybe don't have four, you know, but anything. Right. One thing I've learned is to adapt the phrase good enough. And I don't use good enough in the sense that it means mediocre, because I don't think we were called to be mediocre. But I look at the term good enough as two words. Is it good and is it enough? Because oftentimes when I'm struggling with perfection, I ask myself that question, is it good or is it enough? I've learned I like that chat done is better than perfect. Absolutely. Absolutely. You know, I never considered myself a writer, and now I've written two books, and people ask me, how do you write two books? And I said, because I know that that is really not my forte. I was happy with good. And I know writers who are far more talented than I am who never have gotten their first book out yet because they're perseverating and overthinking, and it has to be perfect. And guess what? My books that were good have helped a lot of people. Right? Good can be enough many times, and good can. Can grow us, and good can carry out the vision. I love that. Oh, I love the comments in the chat. I wish you could have a session. Just read those comments. One of you mentioned distraction is the enemy of consistency. And I really want to get into distraction right now. How many of you feel like you. You deal with distraction? Yes. Yep. I do, too. And any of us that are on social media for any reason, all of us who have smartphones, we deal with distraction for sure. One thing I want to talk to you about, because I know many times when I've worked with patients and they're working on a process or they have. They're suffering from low motivation. Maybe you're going through a season where you don't feel like you have motivations. And Dr. Anita will tell you this. Fifteen years ago, when I'd have someone come in the office who was dealing with low motivation, inability to concentrate, feeling anxious, we would start assessing them for a mood disorder. Depression, anxiety, looking at the symptoms now, one of the first things I talk about is how often are you on your phone? Because what we're seeing is this right here manipulates our neurochemistry in our brain. It prevents us from feeling motivated. And I'm going to explain it to you really quickly. And I know Dr. Anita has seen a video I've done on what's called the dopamine deficit. Dopamine. When we have healthy levels of dopamine, it increases our motivation, it increases our creativity. We're able to do things and get things done, and it's very satisfying. The reward centers in our brain light up when we have dopamine and guess what this does, when we get new information, whether it's on social media, it might even be checking emails or texts, it elevates our dopamine to levels that are not physiologically healthy, healthy for our body. And God created our body so perfectly, so intricately, that there are checks and balances in our body. So when our dopamine is that high for that long, the body is saying, this is way too high. This is not healthy for me. I'm going to drop it low and many times when we're on our phones consistently and you can look at your screen time usage, I always encourage people look at your screen time usage because oftentimes we're using it much more than we think we are. Our body is fighting between that high, low state and when we're in that low state, guess what we see symptoms of anxiety, depression, withdrawal, irritability, and low motivation. So distraction is very real, not only because it consumes our time, but because it changes the way our brain functions to be less productive and less motivated. So that's something we have to kind of keep in check. Now, a couple things that I do with students and young people that I work with, they're really quick fixes to help limit your screen time. Has anyone heard of putting your phone in grayscale mode? No. Okay. Some. Yes. So one of the things that give us that dopamine are the colors on our phone. The beautiful colors attract us. So if you just Google how to put my phone in grayscale mode, and what you do if you have an iPhone, you go into settings and accessibility, and then you can look at the display and text and you'll see something that says color filters. And what you're going to do is turn it off. But Google or ChatGPT will give you a good description of how to put it into grayscale. And I'll tell you one thing. When I've had students do this exercise, I have them come back and say, how did you feel about your phone? And they said. One student came back and said, I got really angry at my phone. Like, I found I was getting angry. And I was like, that's called withdrawal because you're missing the dopamine. But they also found they were able to go to their phone, do the thing they went in there for. How often do you go in to do one thing and it's like 25 minutes later. Yeah. And you've done all the other things and you know where someone was that weekend and what restaurant they ate at. You know, when you just Went to send a text. That's what happens. So you end up going in and doing the thing you were there for, and that's putting it in grayscale. Now the other thing I recommend is to take the phones out of your room at night. That is huge. One, it interrupts our rest. Oftentimes we don't shut off notifications and we end up spending time when we're bored. Or maybe we can't go to sleep reaching for that dopamine because it makes us feel good. We scroll. So we found in some of the studies that people get better sleep when their phones are out of their room. It's not the first thing they go to in the morning, which then consumes their time and attention and energy.
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Hold on. So you want me to put my phone out the room?
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Yes.
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I'm just going to express what I know other people are thinking beside tell me you want me to go to sleep in the room with my phone. Not in the room. That's. I have never gone that far. But I'm gonna try it. I think I'm gonna try that tonight.
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Or even if you need an alarm clock, put it right outside your room.
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Yeah. You have to get up, turn it off.
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Yes. Or on a desk, on a table on the other side of you where you have to go back. You know, some people have smart watches, they use that. But, but I often say if you can get an old school alarm, you can put your phone within ears reach. So if someone's calling you, you can hear it. But it's the accessibility to reach for it.
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No, I'm just messing with you. You make perfect sense.
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No, no, no, I, I agree with you. Yeah.
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And we need the rest.
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Yeah. It's a very real concern, you know, where people do it. And I often say, try it for two days.
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All right.
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And see the difference. Try it for two days. That's it. You know, and if there's no buy in, we can do it another way.
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I love it. No, anything that makes us rest better. This is great. I love that you're telling us. It's not always just about trying harder to do the thing. It's what is making me inconsistent. So this is so true.
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You know, we have to troubleshoot what gets in our way. That's the resistance. I really think distraction is one of the, the most powerful tools of the enemy these days. You know, it really is like getting into our thoughts, the noise that it creates when we're constantly distracted and, and especially on phones and screens. So DND at 6pm I love that. Yeah. Your notifications. Do not disturb. Use those tools for yourself, especially when you're in a process. All right, I'm gonna speed through the rest right now. I'm good. Dr. Anita and I talked about boundaries. I love me a boundary. And especially I told Dr. Anita, I turned 50 years old on Saturday and boundaries are now my life. So welcome. I once did an article, an interview for Oprah Daily and they asked me about the five self love languages. How do we love ourselves? And I said, I think boundaries need to be a self love language because as you have taught them before, it is not just about keeping out. Boundaries are not about keeping people out. They're about preserving what's good already. You know, preserving our peace, preserving our compassion. Boundaries enable us to stay in difficult relationships because we're able to guard our compassion and our peace and our mind, our mental bandwidth. So one of the boundaries that I like to talk about one is boundaries around our self care. Because if you're creative, if you have plans, if you have goals, we have to engage in the process from a place of balance and rest. Now Dr. Anita knows this, but when I was writing my second book, I had a child who was really going through a difficult season of her life. And I was constantly stressed. And I found every time I sat down to write, I couldn't write. I couldn't be creative. And part of that is when we are constantly stressed, our brain is in fight or flight mode, we're in survival mode. Our body is literally trying to run from a bear, even if it's a difficult person or a tough situation that's causing us stress. And when our brain is in fight or flight mode, we're not utilizing our sensors of logical thinking, of creative thinking. We're in survival. So guarding our self care, putting boundaries around self care preserves our creativity. It opens our mind to actually think through and come up with these beautiful ideas and plans. And it increases our motivation to do the thing. Thing. One of the things that I always say is non negotiable is sleep. How many of you get good sleep?
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I do pretty good. You do better. But I do pretty good. I love it. I love sleep. So I try to get it.
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I do too. I know, I do too. I. I try. You know me, I'm in the hormonal phase. So we're working on it, but it's getting better. Six to seven hours. Let's go. Oh, who. Four to five hours. Too small, Too little. Not enough.
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Not enough.
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No, no. You need the energy. Your Body needs to fun like a full human being. And that's really hard to do in four to five hours. I would say minimum of seven. We're looking seven to nine. Whoever got 11, pat yourself on the back. That's amazing.
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That's serious.
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Yeah, seven to nine. And if you are four to five hours, we have to look at why you're sleeping four to five hours. Is it stress? Is it a job that you have? Because that you can do that for a season, but not for a lifetime and not when you're carrying out these plans and visions that you have.
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And that kind of sleep deprivation is going to undermine your brain's creative capacity. So then you're now trying to work beyond your biology. I just have to. And you guys know I say anytime just gets into the picture, we're already in trouble because that means you can't think of an actual way for things to be better. So you're Justing yourself. But I love that you have to sleep. Your brain doesn't work. And if you cannot sleep, like she said, more than four or five hours, something's going on.
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Yeah. And eventually will result in physical health problems. We gotta take care of the body, we gotta feel the temple so we can carry out the vision. Right. So the other thing I want to talk to you about, because so many of your creatives is the part of your brain called the DMN network that stands for default mode network. We have a few modes that our brain works in, and one is the process mode, when we're actively doing something, carrying out something. And then there's a mode called the dmn. And I like, even though it says default mode network, it stands for. I call it the do mostly nothing network. And what that does is it's literally brain rest. And that gets turned on at times when you're in the shower, when you're taking a walk, when you're driving, when you're basically on autopilot, not concentrating on something. How many of you have gotten your best ideas in a shower one day? Anyone have you gotten all of a sudden, oh, get an idea. Or you're on a walk, or you're on a hike, or you're walking on the beach or wherever you might be. And that's because it's this other mode of our brain that gets turned on called the dmn. And the DMN is responsible for consolidating memories, for emotional insight, for problem solving. If you're stuck with a problem or a difficult situation, take a long shower, go take A long walk. And there are amazing things that can happen in your brain. That's the time where I feel like I hear from the Holy Spirit the most, when I actually quiet the noise around me and I'm able to receive in those moments. And some of our best, most creative ideas will come when we activate that DMN network doing those things.
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So instead of pushing harder, we need to bring our brain down.
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Yes. If you are constantly operating in the process mode without activating the DMN mode, you are more likely to burn out if we're just grinding and doing those kind of things. So boundaries around self care, boundaries around your energy, your peace, your sleep. That is so important. Now I want to talk about actually carrying out the plan. How do we actually do the thing now? And there are a couple simple things that I want to ask you to do. You know, we. We have these visions, we have these plans. I'm. I'm assuming most of you have written them down, but have you written them down lately? Have you written down the goal, whatever it is or the vision that you have? Yes, I'm saying yes. Yes, we want to. You know, I love that verse in Habakkuk that says, write it down, make it plain, and, and put it somewhere where you can see it. Oh, I love. Not lately. Okay. And someone said, no, put it in writing. Where do you see yourself a year from now? Where do you see yourself five years from now? We're going to back it up to, you know, a week from now and today. But having that vision is so important, and it will serve as a motivator as we run into those days that are tough when we write it down. Oh, someone put it on their notes app or good notes. It's great. Put it on your phone, but write it down. What is it that you want to see happen in your life? And sometimes what I like to do when I have a vision or a plan or an idea, I sit there and I meditate on it. I visualize it. What would that look at, look like? Our imagination is a powerful tool, and the Holy Spirit gives us visions and images. You know, we. We all know the beautiful image Dr. Anita had that changed the world with her tree. Right? So, I mean, that was a vision, and we all have the capacity for that if we're open to receiving it from the Lord. Journaling is great. Journaling is great. So write it down, visualize it. I want you to think about, where do you want to see yourself a year from now? And then back it up a little bit. Where do you want to see yourself one month from now? That's going to help help us determine our steps for today. So when we look at that vision, a lot of times what I will say to myself is, what do I want to accomplish this week? What's one step that I can take that is going to bring me a little bit closer to that vision this week. When everybody, when you think about where you want to be a month from now, a year from now, five years from now, can you all think of one thing that you maybe have been sitting on that you have just, you know, you got to do it, but you have not done it? I see a lot of head nods. Yes. Yeah, A lot of times because that vision is so big, it's hard to get the momentum to start. And we talked about the limiting beliefs, using the affirmations to overcome it, the distraction. I love that you can do it, the things that hold us back from it. But what I want you to distill it down to is what's one thing you can do this week to move closer to it? Then when we look at that thing, we have to make it as easy as possible, because the harder it is, the more resistance there will be to starting it. And what I like to tell my clients is do whatever that thing is for five minutes. We often think we need these huge blocks of time. Okay, I need a day or I need a weekend or I need a. Nope, start that thing for five minutes. You want to write a book, Write the first sentence right. You want to start a workout, you want to get healthy, walk around the block, you know, take the stairs that you're building. What is the one thing? Because when we do that one thing, what happens in our brain is we release a little bit of the dopamine and then we begin to build our motivation to doing it. Do the one.
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I gave them a worksheet in the fear session on smart goals.
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Yes, the smart goals.
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You're reinforcing that perfectly. What are some. You're giving perfect examples. Small things that we can do to get going that make it easy to be consistent. So I'm wearing this, you guys. Not because I just felt like wearing workout gear, but because I am determined to run before I go to bed. So I am dressed now. When these sessions end at 8:30 or 8:00', clock, I'm walking straight out the door. I'm already dressed. That was the small thing I could do to remove an obstacle so I could be consistent. That's a small thing. So those examples she's giving. They work.
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They work. And you look amazing, by the way.
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Whatever. I'm going outside.
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No, you're going outside. And for me, I don't do it at night because this is actually past my bedtime in New York, but I do it in the morning. And what I have to do is I pull out my workout clothes at night, I lay them out, I know where they are because that eliminates that resistance in the morning. Like, ah, I can't find it. What can you do to make that one thing a little bit easier? For some of you, it's clearing off a space in your house that has a ton of stuff and so you have a workspace to write it down. It's sending the one email to that person who you know you need to connect to. It's sending the text to that person you know, that you have to have that conversation with. But I like to say, what's one thing you can do today? Maybe before you get off this call or right when you get off this call, you can say, what's the one thing that I know that I've needed to do? What's the one thing I can do tomorrow? And what's the first step I can take to do it? The other thing I'm going to mention, one more thing, is something called habit stacking. We've talked about habit stacking. So when we're trying to create a new pattern, a new habit, a new practice, we need to kind of develop the neural pathway around it. Atomic habits. Someone wrote that. Yes, James Clear is amazing. But if we stack that habit next to something that is already wired in, something we do without even thinking about it, then it is more likely to stick. So for me, I know one thing, why I've been able to be so consistent with my relationship with God, is because it is the first thing I do in the morning. It is connected to the fact that I wake up in the morning, I have my coffee and I sit and I don't always have half an hour. Sometimes it's five minutes. Whatever it is, do it for the shortest amount of time possible. Because what you want to do, it's more important to build the consistency than the duration of that habit. You know, if you think about, I want to spend an hour writing, just show up for five minutes when you can, because you're building the habit and you're building the neural pathway. You can increase the habit and intensify the habit once it becomes consistent. But developing the consistency is the most important part of sustaining the habit. So Habit stacking is great. What is something you do every day without fail? You don't have to think about it a lot of times. Part of it is we get ready in the morning, we wake up, you know, we brush our teeth. Hopefully, you know, whatever it is, you have lunch, is there anything, or you go to bed at night, you put on your PJs, is there anything that you can stack before or after those things? Any sort of new practice that you want to start, and then it's more likely to stick because those things are already automated. So habit stacking is really important. And then the one thing I will say, because some people mentioned, you know, distraction and also adhd. Have you heard of the Pomodoro method of working? Okay, this is, this is a great technique for people who struggle with starting with motivation with ADHD. And it's a method where you work for 20 minutes and then you take a five to seven minute break. Yep. And you do that for four cycles and the last break you take is more like 15 to 20 minutes. And you do it on a timer. So you will start by setting a timer for 20 minutes. You work as much as you can and then, you know, you have a five minute break and then you do that again three more times. And it sounds like it's, oh, you know, is this gonna. It actually works for people. Yes, it really can be helpful to get going. So I would suggest that if you struggle just with kind of making the time and the motivation, and certainly if you have adhd, this can help tremendously. So two things. One, the things that take us away from consistency, the obstacles to consistency, think through that. What do you struggle with? Whether it's distraction, whether it's the negative self talk, and again about the negative self talk. That practice of self compassion is so important. What would you say to a friend who you loved, who was struggling the same way you're struggling? Those are the words we have to speak over ourselves. You know, we can speak that for ourselves to get us going. So. Dr. Anita, I mean, that's all I have. I'm happy to put it down. I have the outline. I'm happy to send it to you.
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Please.
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People would, would want that if. That would be great.
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Absolutely. They would love that because they're definitely in there. Like, where is this at? So. No, that was super. That was super. We need this pragmatic assistance. And I can see people are already trying the grayscale on their phone. People are already saying they're going to move things around to get their five minutes. So in 20 hours, everyone's going to try something that you mentioned today. So I'm super excited about that.
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I'm so glad that grayscale will change your life. You'll be amazed when you put your phone in grayscale and just know every successful person. I know people who've achieved their goals, they've struggled with all of these things. They just haven't given up. They found ways, just like the ways that we're talking about to. To deal with some of the obstacles. So struggle is part of consistency. It is.
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It is part of it. And listen, I saw a couple people ask more about adhd, so I'm gonna say we cannot dive into what that means tonight. But number one, if you think that you may have a form of adhd, if it's manifesting in your life, please make an appointment, go see a therapist, Go see a psychiatrist, get an assessment. It's okay. You know, I did not get diagnosed with ADHD until I was. Oh, gosh, it was like, 2015, and I knew I had it, but I got a job that was so demanding that I was like, that's it. I got to go get my diagnosis, get my medication, and get it together, because I will blow it at this job that I love that I just got if I don't take care of this. I was at the limit of toughing it out. You guys go get it taken care of. I want all 300 plus of you in this. In this zoom room to have a therapist go see somebody and check on everything. Anxiety issues, depression, adhd. You want to be as well as you can be, and that is not a weakness for you to go and make sure that you're taking good care of your mental health so that you're as strong as you can be emotionally and mentally to chase the things that God has for you. It's a good thing. It's a good thing. So do the things, Nero. Thank you. You guys blow her up in the chat for. First of all, for looking fabulous at 50 and then also and bringing us all this amazing information. I am. I am currently working on convincing myself 100 to sleep with my phone outside my room tonight.
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B
Good. I'm gonna do it for y'. All.
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A
I'm not gonna do it, but I'm do it for y' all on Sunday to be able to say, I did it.
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B
So good old school alarm clocks.
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A
Thank you so much.
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B
Oh, let me say one more thing. I do have a lot of resources.
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A
Okay. Yeah.
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B
On my website, neurofeliciano.com I have one on dealing with distraction. My books are on contentment. So if you're looking for contentment while you're in the process, I've written a couple books on that. And then, of course, I'm on Instagram like, like, like everyone else.
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So I just put your website in the chat so you guys can click on that. And I will. And I follow her. So if you get confused, just look in the people I follow and look for Nero N I R O and get to her. Her books are amazing and her resources are great. You want to stay connected with her. And also, she's just someone who loves the Lord. So we always have that trusted intersection of professionalism and faith.
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B
Thank you. Well, thank you for having me. Thank you so much.
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A
See you.
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B
All right. God bless you. Bye.