Podcast Summary: One Broke Actors Podcast – "REAL TALK: Relationships with Creatives - Our Husbands Share What It’s Really Like"
Release Date: March 21, 2025
Host: Sam Valentine
Guests: Caleb Ellis, Corey Gainey, and Gabrielle Binlass
Introduction
In this heartfelt and candid episode of the One Broke Actors Podcast, host Sam Valentine delves deep into the intricacies of maintaining relationships with creative partners. By featuring her husband Caleb Ellis and Gabrielle Binlass along with her friend Gab and Gab's husband Corey Gainey, Sam provides an honest exploration of the joys and challenges that come with being in a partnership where both individuals navigate the demanding world of acting and creative entrepreneurship.
Meet the Partners
Sam Valentine opens the episode by introducing her co-host Gabrielle Binlass and her husband Gab, alongside Caleb Ellis, her husband, and Corey Gainey, Gabrielle's husband. The dynamic is set to explore how these couples balance personal relationships with the often unpredictable nature of the acting industry.
Notable Quote:
- Sam Valentine (00:05): "If this sounds a little weird today, guys, that is because we are recording in Zoom Audio... everyone has seen Gab through my eyes..."
Social Media and Its Impact
A significant portion of the discussion revolves around the impact of social media on their relationships. Sam, an active presence online, contrasts with Corey, who prefers to stay off social platforms. Gabrielle shares her experiences of integrating Corey into their social media presence, highlighting the adjustments and challenges faced.
Notable Quotes:
- Corey Gainey (03:04): "She has a thicker skin than I will ever have... How to navigate the Internet is just amazing."
- Sam Valentine (04:51): "Caleb has always encouraged me to build out more online coaching... but Caleb doesn't want to do it."
Balancing Creative Careers and Communication
The couples discuss the necessity of effective communication in supporting each other's creative endeavors. Corey and Caleb emphasize the importance of understanding the unpredictable schedules and emotional toll of acting. They share personal anecdotes about auditions, self-tapes, and the emotional resilience required to thrive in the industry.
Notable Quotes:
- Corey Gainey (10:55): "It's definitely made me a better communicator."
- Caleb Ellis (15:13): "Just stick to grammar and just read. Don't try to act it."
Challenges of Working Together
Recording auditions together is both a bonding experience and a source of tension. Gabrielle recounts their initial attempts, where differing emotional expressions caused friction. The discussion highlights the fine line between professional collaboration and personal relationship strain.
Notable Quotes:
- Gabrielle Binlass (17:35): "But also, we were taping on some type of timeframe as well."
- Caleb Ellis (18:03): "She did have every note to give her."
Supporting Each Other’s Growth
The episode underscores the importance of mutual support in personal and professional growth. Caleb and Corey reflect on how their partners have inspired them to improve and adapt, fostering an environment where both individuals can flourish despite the inherent uncertainties of their careers.
Notable Quotes:
- Corey Gainey (26:05): "I have to really try to work. It's been really cool for me over the years to just be supportive."
- Caleb Ellis (28:00): "Celebrating the wins... seeing her progress in her auditions."
Financial Dynamics in Relationships
Money management emerges as a critical topic. The couples share their experiences of navigating financial disparities, the emotional strain of inconsistent incomes, and the strategies they've employed to maintain financial harmony. Sam and Caleb discuss their approach to separate and joint finances, emphasizing transparency and planning.
Notable Quotes:
- Caleb Ellis (45:11): "A lot of it was just responsibility and understanding that."
- Sam Valentine (46:21): "When we bought this house... it was very different dynamic."
Personal Growth and Lifestyle Changes
Both Sam and Caleb discuss lifestyle adjustments, such as sobriety and fitness routines, and how these changes impact their relationship. They explore the balance between personal well-being and professional demands, highlighting the support systems that help them maintain their individual and collective health.
Notable Quotes:
- Caleb Ellis (35:24): "The gym culture that I have grown up in... learning more about it."
- Sam Valentine (37:13): "I don't want to hear about it. Do you remember that?"
Advice for Partners of Creatives
Towards the end of the episode, Caleb and Corey offer valuable advice for partners of creative individuals. They stress the importance of patience, validation, and understanding, encouraging partners to support without overstepping and to maintain their own boundaries to preserve the relationship's health.
Notable Quotes:
- Caleb Ellis (38:16): "Be patient and make sure you get the tape right rather than just like checking the box."
- Corey Gainey (39:05): "Know your role, stick in your lane, be supportive and listen."
Conclusion
The episode wraps up with a reflection on the shared experiences of the couples, emphasizing the strength and resilience required to maintain relationships amidst the chaos of creative careers. Sam thanks Caleb, Corey, and Gabrielle for their openness, highlighting the importance of transparency and communication in overcoming relationship challenges.
Notable Quote:
- Sam Valentine (53:23): "We are definitely at time, so we should let these boys go. Thanks, guys."
Final Thoughts
"REAL TALK: Relationships with Creatives - Our Husbands Share What It’s Really Like" offers a raw and insightful look into the lives of actors and their partners. By addressing topics such as social media, communication, financial management, and personal growth, the episode provides valuable lessons for anyone navigating a relationship with a creative professional. The inclusion of personal stories and expert advice makes it a compelling listen for actors and their significant others alike.