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My guest on the podcast this week is Anaitha Nair. Anaitha spent the first 8y of her life in Saudi Arabia. Later she moved to Bombay where she became an actor. Fully supported by her parents Anaitha did a whole bunch of movies over a period of 6 years, a fun ride. She was also a singer and used to compare a lot. With a can-do attitude and a firm belief in what she could and couldn’t do. Anaitha is by profession a creative, currently a hairdresser in Hong Kong and a believer that one’s life should never be limited to being defined by what we do. In the podcast we go in detail how Anaitha assists her clients by providing an intimate environment whilst working with her clients to enhance their hairdressing experience and results. A big believer of sharing life experiences, especially ones that make us vulnerable. Anaitha believes that when we experience vulnerable difficulties in life we share a common thread of experience. We can’t have success without setbacks and they are they are the only recipe for growth.Timing 3:54 I spent the first 8y of my life in Saudi Arbia… before moving back to India…moved to Bombay as an actor…4:38 Acting was something that tickled my fancy… did a whole bunch of movies, ads… for 6 years…7:38 I have wonderful parents… acting is what I wanted to do … they supported me… It was a fun ride…12:06 With a can-do attitude…have belief in what you can and cannot do… be honest with where your skill sets lie…13:08 The stories that stay with me today … were more the rejections… the movies I missed out on… 14:31 I was also a singer… I used to compare a lot…15:33 Moved to Hong Kong… taught for a while…16:04 Hair was something I enjoyed…I decided to give it a shot…. the best thing that could have happened…17:36 [Assisting people]… With hair there are two parts… a tangible result… an intimate environment… intimacy…19:19 I’m exposed to women from such different walks of life… ages… stages…I become a part of their story…21:49 My empathy levels are high… the beauty of human experience is it is shared… people share their experiences…25:00 I have never been ashamed of my mistakes, never been embarrassed to be vulnerable… sharing often elicits a response… 27:08 One of the greatest things about pain or hardship is there is so much growth that comes out it…28:01 I think growing has a lot to do with what stage of life you are in…28:40 Two of the most pivotable experiences…my parents getting older and unwell…growth moments… it rewires your brain…30:48 Today I am able to have an objective relationship with clients and their stories… I am not invested in it…31:31 [Changes in last 14y]…social media, more informed… aspiring to have instant glamour… need to be realistic… 35:10 I don’t like to say no…anything is achievable… with options…explaining the science …make an informed decision… 37:54 [Insecurities]… It is wrong to feed insecurities… important is to support self-love…41:02:47 [Being the best version of oneself]… You have put yourself out there … live through the journey… when you are afraid of something just do it… you have to start…45:11 [Challenge and how to overcome it] For me the hardest ones are the mental ones… accept the situation you don’t want to face… 48:02 [Setbacks] You can’t have success without setbacks… explaining it to oneself… the only recipe for growth…49:56 [Key Message]…Gratitude and acceptance… Contact AnaithaIG: https://www.instagram.com/anaithanair/FB: https://www.facebook.com/search/top?q=anaitha%20nairContact VincentNewsletter: https://vincent1cd.substack.comPro Coach: https://procoach.app/vincent-hiscoxEmail: vincent.hiscox@outlook.comLinkedIn: Vincent Hiscox

Aaron grew up in Hong Kong later he went off to study and work in Sydney. Following various roles in ecommerce and digital agencies he returned to Hong Kong in 2011. He is married and lives in Hong Kong with his wife and their two young sons. Aaron has over 18 years of leadership experiences with a coaching background leading teams across companies including Microsoft, Deloitte, EY, Korn Ferry Hay Group and Lalamove in Asia Pacific.He is a 3-time author having published a parenting guide, a digital transformation guide for companies and a self-help book for personal development. His latest bestselling book, "Unstuck: Think Like a Kid and Free Your Mind" Aaron is the founder of Transformative Purpose. He also hosts his own podcast, also called Transformative Purpose which was recently voted worlds' Top 25 Purpose podcast in 2024. In the podcast Aaron shares stories from his growing up. How he learnt resilience. Aaron shares how micro habits are important – making those 1% improvements that compound over time. He emphasises what we say and what we do to others are our most powerful tools. Timings 04:39 I grew up in HK and at 18y I went to Sydney to study… I worked and did a masters …returning to HK in 2011…9:25 The pivot into marketing… I had to work on myself15:06 In 2011 I got into HR consulting… Hayes Group… working on people advisory… Later I went into leadership coaching and training17:29 Growing up has always been a survival instinct…17:58 [At school]All my energy/outlets were with basketball and sport… using sport to escape…18:48 [High school story]… deep down I was upset… I decided to fit in more20:49 [Resilience] – 2 Ps – Pivot and Perservere…look at the underlying root cause rather than the symptoms…22:25 The wonders of having a child like mindset… and having a scientist mindset – what’s working what’s not…23:47 [Micro Habits] Those 1% improvements…24:21 I’m not longer being so judgmental… on myself …OK with uncertainty…25:42 I tend to have a solution orientated mindset…26:12 When you look past the accolades, the companies I worked for …. There were a lot of mental struggles…26:49 [2 questions] Is that issue in my control? Is there something I can do about it?27:55 Habit is a big thing…28:20 [People who have lifted themselves up] 1. Clear purpose, 2. Strong mindset, 3. Having Habits, (Self Care) 4. Having a holistic system…34:24 [Story – Aaron and his dad]… I’m so proud of you… 35:46 If you want to go beyond the service level …it’s great to unpack what is that made you the person you are today…35:59 [Client story] Public speaking … 36:47 [4A framework] 1. self Awareness 2. Asking questions 3. taking Accountabilty 4. Taking Actions…40:31 What we say and what we do to others are our most powerful tools…42:28 [Transformative Purpose] An inspirational platform for everyone who wants to change…corporate professionals… 44:32 [Motivational Speakers] Why are self help motivators predominantly from the West…45:45 [Life lesson] 5 years ago, April 7 2019…. My son … I started reflecting on existential questions… why don’t I spread positivity…49:05 In Transformative Purpose we have three circles – 1. Passion… 2. Becoming a better self… 3. How do we help other people… who do we serve…52:44 Key MessageContact AaronLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aaronpang/https://www.transformativepurpose.com/Books: Unstuck: Think Like a Kid and Free Your MindContact VincentNewsletter: https://vincent1cd.substack.comPro Coach: https://procoach.app/vincent-hiscoxEmail: vincent.hiscox@outlook.comLinkedIn: Vincent Hiscox

Jo Lodder is an entrepreneur with a number of business’, a property agent, an ultra runner and an advocate for helping people with disabilities through his “Run for Freedom” movement. He collaborates with organisations including but not exclusively STOP Trafficking of People, Ark Eden, TAILS Lantau, 1st Steps Association and SENsational Foundation. In the podcast Jo goes into detail on how he started his fitness journey with the intention of helping others. Jo uses sport as a vector for helping others. The theme of giving back comes up several times in the podcast. Jo grew up around horses, he was very sporty competing in petathalons, he also boxed and later became a jockey riding professionally for eleven years before an accident curtailed his riding career. Jo has six children, all grown up now. He moved to Hong Kong 15 years ago and keeps a close relationship with them. We discuss in detail his choice to stop drinking alcohol and to become vegan. His journey to becoming the Jo of today. Sharing many insights on the journey and the lessons he has learnt and continues to learn. How he works on habits – all the time, how he sets weekly goals not daily goals allowing himself the space to have an off day. How he sets his yearly goals like being happier, doing fun activities and to give, all through the year, to have appreciation and to learn something new.Timing 04:12 Today I am very different to how I was… I’m an entrepreneur with a number of business…4:53 I classify myself as an ultra runner… the first person to run HK 5 trails in 5 days… 2.5 times up Everest… also an advocate for helping people with disabilities… using sport as the vector….6:52[Giving Back] I’m a huge advocate for this…7:13 [Deciding what I needed to do – story]… I’ve got to start giving without receiving…8:57 [Ark Eden story]… How can I help them? … the start of my fitness journey… to help others11:29 We talked about happiness… happy people live longer…14:45 Everything is a habit… a big thing for me was giving up alcohol…18:53 [Wedding story]…19:50 [Alcohol and temptation]… Never …not at all…20:24 [Habits] I work on habits all the time…21:12 [Going vegan story]… I’m quite determined…18:54 [Growing up story]… aways around ponies and horses…boxing…professional jockey…24:18 I’ve got 6 children – all grown up now…they’re amazing… I moved to HK 15years ago… it was a great thing…26:04 I put on so much weight… I met my wife… COVID came … I started moving more… the quickest way to lose weight... eat better food and to move more… 29:25 To lose the weight took 3 years… I moved more… I became vegan …giving up drinking was massive…32:50 We weigh ourselves all the time … the worse thing you can do … we should talk about losing fat… consistency… it’s not easy… just add a bit more…36:52 [Your blood work] I had one 6 weeks ago … I’m a marmite eater…39:59 Being a jockey… I weighed myself 4,5,6.10 times a day … it’s so much more important to look at your fitness levels… I started walking…44:11 [Being unfocussed] My goals are weekly goals not daily goals… I’m allowed to have days when I struggle… I don’t fight it…41:37 [Morning routine] I’m very good at waking up… I get up at 5:00am… I eat a regular breakfast… my head is much clearer…48:50 [Key Message] 3 things I do every year… 1. Something that is major – this year to make myself happier… 2. Six fun activities… The other day I went to a rave… 3. To give… and to have appreciation… learn something new… Contact Jo Website : jolodder.comContact VincentNewsletter: https://vincent1cd.substack.comPro Coach: https://procoach.app/vincent-hiscoxEmail: vincent.hiscox@outlook.comLinkedIn: Vincent Hiscox

Dr Benita Perch is a Naturopathic Physician, a Homeopathist and a Corporate Wellness Speaker. Benita has a wide and a deep expertise in optimising health and wellness including but not exclusively, work life balance, infertility and associated treatments, hormonal issues related to menstruation, PCOS, pregnancy and menopause, child health, teen health, mental health, digestive disorders and auto immune diseases In the podcast Benita shares her story of why she chose Naturopathic Medicine and she describes herself as being like a General Practitioner that uses Natural Medicine. Benita also shares how she helps a lot of clients to get pregnant, sharing a story of how she assisted a client in their journey to becoming pregnant, emphasizing her holistic approach. We also discuss what Benita sees as the five big causes why her clients’ health gets out of balance and how its not usually just one but is often a combination of causes. Benita emphasizes that we can help ourselves by paying attention to our hydration, nutrition, movement and she emphasizes the importance of sleep and getting some exposure to sunshine. Bringing wellness into everyday life is a key goal. Benita is passionate about wanting to make people well and the world a better place. Please enjoy the podcast.Timing3:40 [Why I chose Naturopathic Medicine] … The best decision I ever made in my life. 7:25 [How do you help people]… I’m like a GP except I use natural medicine….I’m always trying to bring the body into balance…10:25 I spend a full 70-90 min with a patient…11:15 [Client Story] I help a lot of patients get pregnant…16:08 [What causes most people to go out of balance] 5 big causes – Stress and Emotions, Toxicity, Gut Issues, Food that you eat, Chronic viral illnesses… It’s not usually just one of those… 20:05 [Time period for treatment]… it takes about half the time you have been ill …Reason, Season or Lifetime …22:46 [Checkups]… 23:54 [Time to move from Instability back to Stability] It is age dependant… however it’s never too late… you can reverse so much… there is always something you can do…28:06 [How can you help yourself] Hydration… Nutrition…Move… Sleep… Getting some sunshine… and it’s all free…31:10 [Evolution of the Business]… Going into corporations…Policies… Bringing wellness into everyday life… Shifting corporate mindset…36:23 [Staying on top of things] Homeopathy, supplement regime, very clean… drink minimally, sleep, exercise, surrounded by efficient women, community, children, reading, meditation, pause…39:05[Passions] I really want to make people and the world a better place… I love to travel… 42:50 [Apparent setback that became a success]… I got really ill in US… I left an Ivy League education … It led me London, then further study in US …45:34 [Key Message] You always have a choice… look deeper Recommended BooksThe Way of the Peaceful Warrior – Dan MillmanThe Celestian Prophecy – James RedfieldMany Lives, Many Masters/Only Love is Real/Same Soul, Many Bodies - Dr Brian WeissMark Hyman – WTF Should I Eat Contact BenitaHttps://www.imi.com.hkEmail: drbenitaperch@gmail.comContact VincentNewsletter: https://vincent1cd.substack.comPro Coach: https://procoach.app/vincent-hiscoxEmail: vincent.hiscox@outlook.comLinkedIn: Vincent Hiscox