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Parenting Matters
Hosted by Rebecca Walsh and Belann Giarretto · EN
Parenting Matters is a brand-new podcast from Early Childhood Matters, hosted by parenting educators Rebecca Walsh and Belann Giarretto. Each episode tackles real questions from real parents—covering everything from toddler tantrums to teen boundaries with warmth, insight, and zero judgment.
Whether you’re in the thick of sleepless nights or navigating screen time battles, Parenting Matters is here to support you with practical advice and honest conversation.
Listen, share, and join the community - because your parenting matters.
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Episode 15: Overcoming Perfectionism: How to Encourage Risk Taking and Growth in Kids
Apr 700:31:05Tap to summarizeEpisode 15: Overcoming Perfectionism: How to Encourage Risk Taking and Growth in Kids Moving from "I Can’t" to "I’ll Try" In this episode, we explore the "perfectionism trap" and how our own praise might be accidentally stopping our kids from taking risks. Questions we answer: - How do I help my child keep going when they want to give up after failing at a physical task, like falling off a bike? - How should I respond when my child refuses to draw or try art because they don’t think they are "good" at it? - How do I re-engage a child who was previously "natural" at something (like puzzles) but now quits the moment it becomes challenging? How can I stop "over-functioning" for my child in daily tasks—like dressing or building—so they develop the resiliency to handle their own struggles? The Takeaway: Whether it's a bike ride or a "potty word" marathon, your child isn't looking for a "foolish" adult who can't be bothered—they are looking for a leader who loves them enough to set a limit. Are you struggling with a "mountain" that started as a "molehill"? Reach out and let us know. We'll try to answer on an upcoming episode! Connect with us: Website: earlychildhoodmatters.com/podcast Instagram: @EarlyChildhoodMattersSF Facebook facebook.com/ecmsf Got a question for a future episode? List it in the comments, comment on our web site, or email info@earlychildhoodmatters.org. We’d love to hear from you! If you enjoyed this episode: Please follow or subscribe wherever you listen. Leave us a rating or review—it really helps other parents find the show Share this episode with a friend or parent group! It’s by word of mouth that our small business grows best!
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Episode 14: Why You Should Never Ignore Behavior That You Don’t Like
Mar 1600:39:41Tap to summarizeParenting advice often says to “just ignore it,” but what message does that actually send to a child? In this episode, we dive into the complexities of responding to challenging behaviors—from tantrums to those small but persistent habits that test every parent’s patience. Learn more about how ignoring certain behaviors can create confusion for children and why our reactions play a powerful role in shaping what they learn. We discuss being present during difficult moments, setting loving but firm limits, and helping children understand boundaries. We also talk about how kids observe adult reactions, why they test limits for reassurance, and how parents and caregivers can redirect behavior in ways that build confidence and emotional security. Finally, we discuss the role of socializing children—teaching them when certain language or behaviors are appropriate and how to navigate different environments. Explore our strategies to help you respond with clarity, connection, and intention—even in the most frustrating moments. In This Episode, We Explore: What message does ignoring a child’s behavior actually send? How do children learn from the way adults react to their actions? Why can setting limits be one of the clearest ways to show love and care? What might children feel when their tantrums are ignored? Why do children test boundaries, and what are they really looking for in those moments? When should parents address annoying behaviors instead of ignoring them? How can redirecting behavior be more effective than simply tuning it out? What does it really mean to socialize children and teach them appropriate language? Why is it important to acknowledge every feeling—even difficult ones? How do clear boundaries help children feel safer and more secure? Connect with us: Website: earlychildhoodmatters.com/podcast Instagram: @EarlyChildhoodMattersSFFacebook facebook.com/ecmsf Got a question for a future episode? List it in the comments, comment on our web site, or email info@earlychildhoodmatters.org. We’d love to hear from you! If you enjoyed this episode: Please follow or subscribe wherever you listen. Leave us a rating or review—it really helps other parents find the show Share this episode with a friend or parent group! It’s by word of mouth that our small business grows best!
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Episode 13: Not listening, not getting dressed and tantrums, oh my! - Our most common parenting questions answered
Jan 2700:33:40Tap to summarizeIf your preschooler ignores you, refuses shoes, or collapses into a puddle the moment you say “no,” this episode is for you. We unpack why these behaviors happen, why they happen even more with a strong-willed child, and share practical strategies to help you get back your confidence and your joy in parenting. In this episode, we tackle three of the most common—and exhausting—challenges parents of preschoolers face: not listening, power struggles over everyday routines, and full-blown tantrums when the answer is “no.” Drawing from decades of professional experience and many personal parenting stories, we explore why these behaviors are not signs of “bad parenting,” but normal developmental phases—especially for strong-willed, spirited children. Through real-life examples like refusing to put on shoes, throwing snack wrappers on the floor, and melting down over yogurt before dinner, we break down practical, compassionate strategies that actually work. We discuss why repeating yourself undermines authority, how to set clear limits without punishment, and how calmly following through builds trust, self-esteem, and emotional resilience in young children. This conversation reframes “choosing your battles,” explains why giving in during tantrums backfires, and shows parents how to stay steady in the face of big feelings—without yelling, bribing, or threatening. Most importantly, it reminds parents that enjoying parenting is not only possible, but essential, even when raising a challenging child. If you’ve ever felt worn down by daily power struggles or unsure how to respond when your child tests limits, this episode offers reassurance, perspective, and concrete tools to help you parent with confidence and calm. Connect with us: Website: earlychildhoodmatters.com/podcast Instagram: @EarlyChildhoodMattersSF Facebook facebook.com/ecmsf Got a question for a future episode? List it in the comments, comment on our web site, or email info@earlychildhoodmatters.org. We’d love to hear from you! If you enjoyed this episode: Please follow or subscribe wherever you listen. Leave us a rating or review—it really helps other parents find the show!
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Episode 12: And Mom and Dad Can Hardly Wait for School to Start Again
Dec 2900:37:40Tap to summarizeRebecca and Belann dive into the complexities of sibling dynamics, especially the everyday challenges parents face around bedtime routines, discipline, and perceived fairness. Drawing on real-life examples and practical strategies, they explore how parents can respond with consistency, calmness, and clarity while strengthening sibling relationships. Throughout the episode, they emphasize the impact of parental presence, preparation, and communication on children’s behavior and emotional security. Covered in this episode: Bedtime has been a total circus lately! One will be going to brush his teeth and then the younger one will decide to do a nudy run and then the older who was originally on task, will follow. They are starting to figure out they can team up against us! My younger sibling weaponizes being the youngest! She screams, gets away with things and I am often at a loss of how to discipline. You never get Rosie in trouble, she’s your favorite-if I did that I would have been in so much trouble-why doesn’t she have a consequence? This episode offers thoughtful insights and actionable tools for parents navigating the emotional and logistical challenges of raising siblings. Connect with us: Website: earlychildhoodmatters.com/podcast Instagram: @EarlyChildhoodMattersSFFacebook facebook.com/ecmsf Got a question for a future episode? List it in the comments, comment on our web site, or email info@earlychildhoodmatters.org. We’d love to hear from you! If you enjoyed this episode: Please follow or subscribe wherever you listen. Leave us a rating or review—it really helps other parents find the show Share this episode with a friend or parent group! It’s by word of mouth that our small business grows best!
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Episode 11: The Gift of Enough: What Children Teach Us About the Magic of the Holiday Season
Nov 2500:29:20Tap to summarizeShort Overview: Rebecca explores the beautiful (and sometimes jarring) contrast between Thanksgiving gratitude and the consumer rush of Black Friday and the holiday season. She reflects on how to nurture a spirit of thankfulness in young children, shares her family’s long-loved gratitude traditions, and offers gentle ways to shift the holiday focus from buying to truly being together. If you’re looking for a heart-forward, calmer holiday season and a thoughtful gift guide, this episode will leave you inspired, grounded, and ready to create magic that lasts far beyond Christmas morning.Rebecca also breaks down her early childhood teacher approved approach to gift giving — including the play-based curriculum framework she uses to choose toys that last, spark creativity, and discourage materialism. From blocks and dramatic play to arts, outdoor toys, sensory materials, books, music, and experiences, she highlights meaningful gift ideas that grow with children rather than overwhelm them. Check out our 'ECM Approved' holiday gift guide here. Full transcript here. Connect with us: Website: earlychildhoodmatters.com/podcast Instagram: @EarlyChildhoodMattersSFFacebook facebook.com/ecmsf Got a question for a future episode? List it in the comments, comment on our web site, or email info@earlychildhoodmatters.org. We’d love to hear from you! If you enjoyed this episode: Please follow or subscribe wherever you listen. Leave us a rating or review—it really helps other parents find the show Share this episode with a friend or parent group! It’s by word of mouth that our small business grows best!
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Episode 10: Sibling Rivalry
Nov 1100:29:05Tap to summarizeEpisode 10: Sibling Rivalry — Rethinking Fairness at Home In this episode, Rebecca and Belann unpack the roots of sibling rivalry and explore why striving for perfect fairness can sometimes make things worse. Learn how to help your kids navigate feelings of unfairness, celebrate their differences, and build stronger, more understanding relationships with each other. They answer the questions: What is the role of the concept of fairness in sibling rivalry and how does it impact children? Why might striving for fairness (in the sense of equality) actually exacerbate conflict between siblings? How can parents help children understand and accept differences between siblings, instead of consistently treating everything as “fair”? How can parents support children in navigating feelings of unfairness—rather than simply trying to make everything equal? To view the equity/equality image Rebeca mentions, please visit our site: https://www.earlychildhoodmatters.org/podcast Connect with us: Website: earlychildhoodmatters.com/podcast Instagram: @EarlyChildhoodMattersSFFacebook facebook.com/ecmsf Got a question for a future episode? List it in the comments, comment on our web site, or email info@earlychildhoodmatters.org. We’d love to hear from you! If you enjoyed this episode: Please follow or subscribe wherever you listen. Leave us a rating or review—it really helps other parents find the show Share this episode with a friend or parent group! It’s by word of mouth that our small business grows best!
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Episode 9: Baby Makes 4 - Navigating the Transition to a New Sibling
Oct 1500:36:21Tap to summarizeConnect with us: Website: earlychildhoodmatters.com/podcast Instagram: @EarlyChildhoodMattersSF Facebook facebook.com/ecmsf Got a question for a future episode? List it in the comments, comment on our web site, or email info@earlychildhoodmatters.org. We’d love to hear from you! If you enjoyed this episode: Please follow or subscribe wherever you listen. Leave us a rating or review—it really helps other parents find the show Share this episode with a friend or parent group! It’s by word of mouth that our small business grows best!
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Episode 8: From Sandcastles to Circle Time: The Summer-to-School Shift
Aug 1700:45:31Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Parenting Matters, the hosts discuss the various transitions children face as they start school, including moving from home care to preschool, changing classrooms, and beginning kindergarten. They provide practical tips for parents to help their children navigate these changes, emphasizing the importance of preparation, emotional support, and fostering independence. The conversation highlights the significance of acknowledging children's feelings while also encouraging them to face their fears and build confidence in new environments. Takeaways Every child transitions differently to school. Creating an experience book can help children adjust. Parents should model calmness to reassure children. Acknowledging a child's feelings is crucial. Bravery is not the absence of fear, but overcoming it. Building a routine can ease morning chaos. Playdates can help children make new friends. Gradually adjusting bedtime routines is important. Children need time to decompress after school. Trusting in a child's ability to adapt is key. Book recommendations: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/08/04/books/preschool-books.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare Other books we love: The Kissing Hand and Lena’s Shoes are Nervous Connect with us: Website: earlychildhoodmatters.com/podcast Instagram: @EarlyChildhoodMattersSFFacebook facebook.com/ecmsf Got a question for a future episode? List it in the comments, comment on our web site, or email info@earlychildhoodmatters.org. We’d love to hear from you! If you enjoyed this episode: Please follow or subscribe wherever you listen. Leave us a rating or review—it really helps other parents find the show Share this episode with a friend or parent group! It’s by word of mouth that our small business grows best!
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Episode 7: Too Young for Sex Ed? Think again - How to start "The Talk" in Preschool with Konika Wong of Girl Power Science
Jul 700:44:21Tap to summarizeRebecca discusses the importance of open communication about puberty and body literacy with children with Konika Wong of Girl Power Science. They emphasize starting these conversations early (preschool!), using correct anatomical terms, and creating a positive narrative around menstruation. The discussion also covers how to navigate children's questions, the role of parents in body education, and the significance of empowering children with knowledge about their bodies and boundaries in order to avoid stigma and shame and to keep themselves safe. The conversation aims to shift the narrative from negative to positive, encouraging a healthier understanding of puberty and body changes. More About Girl Power Science and Konika Wong: Konika co-founded GPS (Girl Power Science) with her daughter to empower girls to navigate growing up with confidence. She is an author, body literacy specialist, and mom on a mission to reframe pubertal changes as superpowers. Based in San Francisco, she has been a puberty educator for 23 years. Her popular children’s books, One in a Million – A First Book About Periods and How to Tame a Tickle Monster – A First Book About Body Safety, are designed for kids ages 4 and up. Konika is passionate about starting these conversations early and breaking cycles of shame by celebrating growth. Definition of Body Literacy: Body literacy is the ability to understand and respond to your body's signals—starting with basic needs like thirst, hunger, tiredness, and bathroom cues, and growing into more advanced awareness around things like screen time, relationships, and intuitive eating. As a body literacy specialist, Konika teaches classes that combine social emotional learning and science on a variety of topics including body safety, friendship skills, body image, and puberty. Questions Answered in This Podcast: When should I start conversations about puberty? My son has seen me in the bathroom when I was on my period and asked if I was hurt and I didn’t know how to respond-he is 3 yrs? I heard that using correct anatomical names for penis, vagina, vulva etc can protect children against abuse but my husband is really uncomfortable with these terms-any advice? In my family periods were a curse for women, there was so much talk about how awful pms was-how do I paint a more positive view for my daughter? How do we respond to How did the baby get inside your tummy in a developmentally appropriate way. I don’t want to show I’m uncomfortable with the topic but don’t want to give the detailed sex ed talk to my preschooler either. Takeaways It's never too early to start these conversations. The earlier we start, the easier it is for kids to understand. Kids can sense our comfort level with these topics. Using correct anatomical names empowers children against abuse. Creating a positive narrative around menstruation is crucial. Parents should model healthy boundaries and self-care. Open conversations help children feel safe to ask questions. Normalizing discussions about bodies can reduce stigma. Empowering children with knowledge fosters confidence. Celebrating body changes can create positive associations. Links: girlpowerscience.com Learn more about Girl Power Science’s children's books here. Connect with Early Childhood Matters: Website: earlychildhoodmatters.com/podcast Instagram: @EarlyChildhoodMattersSFFacebook facebook.com/ecmsf Got a question for a future episode? List it in the comments, comment on our web site, or email info@earlychildhoodmatters.org. We’d love to hear from you! If you enjoyed this episode: Please follow or subscribe wherever you listen. Leave us a rating or review—it really helps other parents find the show
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Episode 6: Everyone in 7th Grade Was Invited to the Birthday Party Except Me!
Jun 2900:51:42Tap to summarizeYou know that gut-punch moment when your kid says, “Everyone in 7th grade was invited to the birthday party… except me”? Yeah — we’re going there.In this week’s episode of Parenting Matters, Rebecca is joined by psychologist and mom of two, Dr. Nina Kaiser from Practice San Francisco to talk about the real stuff: middle school social dynamics, exclusion, and how we can support our kids when things feel rough.We get into:•What to say (and not say) when your kid feels left out• What you can do to create buffers for your child: hint even just one friend, sometimes outside of school, can make all the difference• When it’s time to seek help or get other adults involved and how to do it• How social media or even just group text threads can add fuel to the fireIt’s an honest, practical conversation for anyone trying to help their kids build resilience — and feel a little less alone as a parent too. Takeaways Mental health skills can be learned and practiced. Social exclusion can start as early as third grade. Parents should validate their child's feelings of exclusion. It's important to teach children self-advocacy skills. Having one good friend can significantly impact a child's well-being. Parents should underreact to their child's social mistakes. Social dynamics in middle school can be challenging for both boys and girls. Early intervention can prevent significant social challenges later on. Children need tools to navigate social situations effectively. Communication is key to understanding a child's social experiences. For more info on Dr. Nina Kaiser and PracticeSF: Practice San Francisco website: https://www.practicesanfrancisco.com Other Mothers weekly newsletter on Substack: https://othermothers.substack.com Instagram: @practice.sf and @drninakaiser Connect with us: Website: earlychildhoodmatters.com/podcast Instagram: @EarlyChildhoodMattersSFFacebook facebook.com/ecmsf Got a question for a future episode? List it in the comments, comment on our web site, or email info@earlychildhoodmatters.org. We’d love to hear from you! If you enjoyed this episode: Please follow or subscribe wherever you listen. Leave us a rating or review—it really helps other parents find the show
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