Vincent Zhou on How to Make Your Gold Medal Dreams a Reality | 588

Summary

Passion Struck with John R. Miles – Episode 588: Vincent Joe on Making Your Gold Medal Dreams a Reality

Introduction

In Episode 588 of Passion Struck with John R. Miles, host John R. Miles delves deep into the inspiring journey of Olympic gold medalist Vincent Joe. This episode not only chronicles Vincent's ascent in the world of figure skating but also explores the profound themes of resilience, mentorship, and the creation of meaningful communities. Additionally, the episode features Kirk Spahn, founder of the Institute for Civic Leadership (ICL), who discusses the importance of leadership and character development in shaping the next generation.

Vincent Joe’s Journey: From Childhood to Olympic Success

Vincent Joe opens up about his early beginnings in figure skating, driven by an innate competitiveness. Reflecting on his childhood, he shares:

"I was a really competitive kid. I had to win at everything... Put me on the ice, I'm gonna try and skate the fastest." ([09:00])

His passion was ignited at a young age during a whimsical birthday party at a local ice rink, which led his mother to enroll him in group lessons. Vincent's dedication bore fruit as he progressed through the ranks, becoming the youngest junior champion ever and making history as the first skater to land a quadruple lutz at the Olympics.

Overcoming Adversity: Injuries and COVID-19 Withdrawal

Vincent’s path was not devoid of challenges. At age 12, he underwent knee surgery that sidelined him for two seasons, a period marked by isolation and doubt. The most significant setback came in the 2022 Olympics when he contracted COVID-19 the day before his event, forcing him to withdraw. Vincent poignantly describes this moment:

"After years of dedicating my entire life to preparing for that one moment was just taken out of my hands." ([38:40])

The emotional toll was immense, likening the experience to grieving the loss of a loved one. However, Vincent emphasizes the importance of having a support system to navigate such devastating times.

The Importance of Mentorship and Community: Introduction of Kirk Spahn and ICL

Transitioning from personal struggles to broader community impact, Vincent introduces Kirk Spahn, founder of the Institute for Civic Leadership (ICL). Kirk elaborates on the mission of ICL:

"The ICL was really fundamentally built about teaching character and leadership to youth... It's about having that passion and it's about having a purpose." ([48:08])

ICL focuses on building a supportive community for young athletes and driven individuals, emphasizing that success is not just about personal achievements but also about the legacy and character one builds along the way.

Leadership and Character Development

Kirk and Vincent discuss the symbiotic relationship between athletic excellence and character development. Kirk highlights:

"At ICL, we teach perseverance and personalization through perspective, helping students see that hardships can mold them into their best selves." ([54:37])

Vincent adds, underscoring the role of mentors in shaping not just athletes but well-rounded individuals:

"Legacy is built through character and mindset and impact in multiple areas." ([54:15])

The Impact of Digital Isolation and Building Real Communities

A significant portion of the conversation addresses the challenges of digital isolation faced by today's youth. Vincent shares his own experience of loneliness during his recovery from knee surgery:

"I had nowhere else to turn. But the problem was with things like social media, online forums... When it's time to close your screen and turn to the real world, you will be let down." ([67:05])

Kirk emphasizes the critical role of real communities in combating the mental health crisis among young people:

"Having a supportive community around you, you get less anxious... We're trying to build that community that will impact them forever." ([60:30])

ICL bridges the gap between digital interactions and real-world support, fostering environments where young individuals feel valued and connected.

Resilience and Legacy: Turning Setbacks into Strengths

Vincent reflects on the culmination of his Olympic journey and the subsequent gold medal awarded two and a half years later:

"The gold medal feels symbolic of the journey. It encapsulates everything that went into it." ([46:21])

He credits his resilience and unwavering grit for overcoming setbacks, reinforcing the episode’s central theme that true success lies in the journey and the legacy created along the way.

Final Thoughts: Redefining Success and Building Meaningful Lives

As the episode wraps up, John R. Miles encourages listeners to introspect on their definitions of success and the importance of balancing ambition with well-being. He poses thought-provoking questions:

• How do you redefine success beyond external achievements?
• What does it mean to balance ambition with well-being?
• How can you use your own experiences to inspire and uplift others?

Vincent and Kirk’s insights offer a roadmap for listeners to create intentional, meaningful lives grounded in resilience, community, and purposeful leadership.

Key Takeaways

1. Redefining Success: Success is not merely about accolades but about the impact and legacy one leaves behind.
2. Resilience: Overcoming adversity requires unwavering grit and a supportive community.
3. Mentorship: Leaders and mentors play a crucial role in shaping character and guiding the next generation.
4. Community vs. Digital Isolation: Building real, supportive communities is essential in combating the mental health challenges faced by today’s youth.
5. Legacy through Character: True legacy is built through enduring character, mindset, and meaningful contributions to society.

Notable Quotes

• Vincent Joe on feeling lost post-injury:

  "When you've been passion struck your whole life and all of a sudden you step into the familiar arena, but you feel nothing. You feel nothing. It's terrifying." ([01:13])

• Kirk Spahn on the essence of ICL:

  "It's about having that passion and it's about having a purpose. And so much of Vincent's journey was not your typical experience, right? It's so much about character." ([51:40])

• Vincent Joe on digital isolation:

  "When it's time to close your screen and turn to the real world, you will be let down over and over again because they will not be there." ([67:52])

Conclusion

Episode 588 of Passion Struck with John R. Miles serves as a powerful testament to the importance of passion, resilience, and community in achieving meaningful success. Vincent Joe's remarkable journey, coupled with Kirk Spahn's insights on leadership and mentorship, provides listeners with invaluable lessons on creating lives that truly matter. Whether you're an aspiring athlete, a leader, or someone seeking personal growth, this episode offers profound wisdom to help you unlock your potential and live intentionally.

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Recommended Listening

For those inspired by Vincent Joe’s story, consider exploring previous episodes featuring other Olympians, thought leaders, and changemakers who embody the spirit of living with passion and intentionality.

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Transcript

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[Vincent Joe]

I just remember the feeling of stepping.

On the ice and not knowing what.

I was doing there.

And that's a really scary feeling because.

When you've been passion struck your whole life and all of a sudden you step into the familiar arena, but you feel nothing. You feel nothing.

It's terrifying.

It feels like you question everything. You don't know what's happening, you don't.

Know why it's happening.

You realize it's probably up here, but.

You start trying to find physical reasons.

To turn it around because that's something.

You can tangibly change in the moment.

But at the end of the day, that's the wrong reason.

So you end up seeding more doubt.

And more doubt into your mind. It's just a negative spiral.

[John R. Miles]

Welcome to Passion Struck. Hi, I'm your host, John R. Miles, and on the show we decipher the secrets, tips and guidance of the world's most inspiring people and turn their wisdom into practical advice for you and those around you. Our mission is to help you unlock the power of intentionality so that you can become the best version of yourself. It's if you're new to the show, I offer advice and answer listener questions. On Fridays, we have long form interviews the rest of the week with guests ranging from astronauts to authors, CEOs, creators, innovators, scientists, military leaders, visionaries and athletes. Now let's go out there and become Passion Struck. Hey, passion struck fam welcome to episode 588. Whether you're a longtime listener or joining us for the first time, I am so ecstatic you're here. You've turned into a movement dedicated to unlocking your potential, living with intention, and making what truly matters matter most. Before we dive in, let's take a moment to reflect on the powerful conversations from earlier this week. On Tuesday, I sat down with Nir Eyal to discuss how we can break free from distractions and master the art of deep focus. Then on Thursday, Ann Marie Anderson joined me to explore the intersection of storytelling, leadership and performance and how we can show up more powerfully in every area of our life. If you've missed either of these, I highly recommend going back to listen. They're packed with insights that will help you elevate your mindset and reclaim your time. Now let me ask you this. How do you redefine success when the world sees you as a champion? What happens when you've reached the pinnacle of your sport yet still face adversity, setbacks and personal transformation? And how do you take all of those experiences and use them to shape the next generation? That's exactly what we're diving into today with Olympic gold medalist and figure skating trailblazer Vincent Joe. Vincent's story is extraordinary. He made history as the first skater to land a quadruple lutz at the Olympics, became a two time world bronze medalist and helped Team USA secure gold in the 2022 Winter Games. But his journey hasn't been without struggle. From battling injuries and mental health challenges to having to make the painful decision to withdraw from his Olympic event due to COVID 19. In today's conversation, we explore the mindset of a champion and what it takes to perform under pressure, his fight fight for clean sport and the long road for finally receiving his Olympic gold medal. We go into how Vincent balances life as an elite athlete and his academic journey at Brown University. And lastly, we go into his passion for mentorship and how he hopes to shape the future of figure skating. 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I am so honored today to have Vincent Joe on Passion Struck. Welcome Vincent.

[Vincent Joe]

Hey John, thanks so much for having me and pleased to be on this podcast. Can't wait to have a great conversation, talk about what drives us and hopefully we'll have some interesting conversation that will.

Be really useful to everyone listening.

[John R. Miles]

Well, thank you so much and it's such an honor to have you here today. And I think maybe for our audience the best beginning point is often the starting line. So maybe we should just start there. And what drew you to the ice when you were 3, 4, 5 years old?

[Vincent Joe]

Oh, I was a really competitive kid.

I had to win at everything.

If you put me at the starting line of a race, I would cry if I didn't reach the finish line first. If you put me on a soccer field, I would try my dang hardest to score all the goals against the boys who were twice as old and twice as large as me.

Put me on the ice.

I'm gonna try and skate the fastest. I had a lot of energy. My parents couldn't contain me at home, just bouncing off the walls. So they put me into a lot of sports and figure skating happened to be one of them. That stuck with me a long time and I sure am glad it did. But the first exposure was actually through a birthday party. Had a lot of fun at the local ice rink, outdoor ice rink. There was this bubble machine that would blow bubbles. It was all whimsical and there would be jolly music playing and I just remember racing with my friend Albert from elementary school and trying so hard to win.

Next thing my mom signed me up.

For group lessons and off I went.

[John R. Miles]

Ice skating has been a passion of mine since as long as I can remember. Similar to you, I grew up not on the west coast but in the middle in the mid portion of the country. Part of that was in Rochester, New York and then Cleveland and then Chicago and then Pennsylvania. So always cold weather climates where we could skate. And I remember some of my favorite moments were skating on ponds when I lived in Pennsylvania during the winter months and it was so fun just going out there with my friends. We didn't do as much figure skating. We were always out there trying to play hockey with each other. But when I think about figure Skating, I just don't even know how you guys do it. It's such a different type of sport because to me, to do some of the jumps you have to do, there's just this innate knowing that you're going to wipe out a whole bunch of times before you get that right.

[Vincent Joe]

Well, every jump lands backwards, so you learn that very early on. If you land forward, there's a huge toe pick there that typically tends to stop your.

Stop your motion if you land on it.

Landing forward would probably result in some really unfortunate accidents.

We learn very on, usually the hard.

Way, not to land forwards.

[John R. Miles]

Well, I understand when you were around 8, your parents gave you the choice between soccer and skating. What made you commit to figure skating?

[Vincent Joe]

I still can't come up with the.

Perfect answer to that question.

But what I do know is that.

From the start figure skating felt like it had a very tangible learning curve.

That kept me motivated. It kept me motivated and kept me reaching for the next big thing. And when I was eight years old.

I was still doing a couple other activities.

I was playing piano, I was playing soccer, and I was swimming and swimming. I didn't spend enough time on it.

So it didn't occupy as much headspace.

And I think I was able to.

Dismiss it more easily. Soccer I did spend quite a bit.

Of time on, but I was just.

Too small in size compared to the other boys in my league.

And I couldn't keep up with them. I couldn't run as fast no matter how hard I tried. I couldn't out jostle them on the field. I was good at scoring goals because I had innate grit. But.

But soccer didn't end up being the.

Channel through which that grit manifested.

That ended up being skating.

Because from a young age, skating requires long early hours and lots of dedication. And I think that just cemented it.

From very early on.

So when my mom sat me down in the office to ask me the.

Question of which one do you want to choose? She basically said, vincent, you're starting middle school. You won't have time anymore to do all these things.

You have to pick one. And eight year old me was sitting in my office in big office chair like tiny.

I was just spinning around and around.

And my mom asked me the question and I stopped, sat straight up and said, my heart is with skating. And from that moment on we just went all out.

[John R. Miles]

And I remember as I was doing research on you that you used to spend hours and hours watching skaters videotapes and trying to understand how they were doing. Their programs were There certain skaters that you emulated and wanted to be like when you were that age?

[Vincent Joe]

Oh, absolutely. I watched.

I watched pretty much every single. Every single. Every single video of skating I could get my hands on.

If you showed me a clip of.

Someone doing a jump, I could probably tell you the exact. I could tell you the skater, the competition, the program, the music name, the.

Score they got for the program.

I could probably tell you everything. I think my memory is a little faded now from all of that, but I had a lot of inspirations.

The biggest ones were probably Brian Boitano, 1988 Olympic champion.

There was the infamous battle of the Bryans at that Olympics. Also Evan Lysacek, 2010 Olympic champion. Patrick Chan, who was multiple time world champion. First skater to break 300 points in a domestic competition. Incredible skater Yuzuru Hanyu, who. It's funny because a lot of these.

Skaters I grew up idolizing.

And then a couple years later, before I knew it, I was competing on the same sheet of ice as them, against them. And that. That's such an incredible feeling.

It's almost surreal. It's wow, like, we made that happen.

Like, those people were untouchable at one point.

[John R. Miles]

It's got to be similar to Patrick Mahomes playing in the super bowl against the quarterback he idolized, Tom Brady. Similar to you having to compete against these people you idolize.

Did you find that was difficult?

Was there a mental block that was in your head, or did you go into these events knowing that you could beat them?

[Vincent Joe]

That's such a great question.

I think that the later on it.

Became in my skating career, the more.

I realized I had to start coming into my own image as a skater.

It's a wonderful thing when you're young.

Ambitious, and have a long way to go to have idols and try to emulate them. But as you mature along your athletic career, you need to develop your own.

Style, because you don't want to be.

Known as, like, person number two. You want to be known as your name number one. And so I started to realize, like.

I should stop trying to necessarily emulate them. Move for move, style for style. But there's still great qualities in their.

Skating that I can draw inspiration from.

And, of course, their character, their image.

Them as a person. There's still so much to really respect and revere there.

But in terms of. In terms of having, like, a technique.

Or skating, like, style kind of idol, I think that kind of fades as your career goes on.

[John R. Miles]

Yeah, I find it really interesting that you bring all that up because it's not just the figure skating world. I. I remember when I got in the podcasting space, before I decided to do it, I had done this intense research on different podcast hosts, similar to the research you were doing on all these skaters. And I remember when I first started the show, I was emulating a lot of the people who I had studied. And I realized early on that one of the things about the podcast world, similar to anything, is people don't come to the show necessarily because I have Vincent Joe on the show, although I will probably get more. Just because of who you are, but they come because of who the host is. And if you're not being yourself, you're not gonna. You're not gonna have the audience find you. So it's a very similar thing.

[Vincent Joe]

And there's a reason they say standing on the shoulders of giants and not like, occupying the same space as a giant and trying to stretch upwards to them, if the metaphor makes sense.

[John R. Miles]

One thing I know in your sport is that it's something that you have to travel a lot for. And there's also a ton of sacrifice of having to get up way early in the morning or whenever you can get out. Ice time. So it's one of those sports that puts a tremendous amount of pressure on the parents to support their children who are in it because of that. Were there moments where you felt pressure to succeed because of the sacrifices your parents were making?

[Vincent Joe]

Absolutely.

And I think this is larger than.

Just parents, figure skating, parents that have.

To do things for their kids. I think part of it is also cultural, where it's a lot of immigrant parents who come to the US with nothing but the clothes on their backs, just like my parents did in 1992. They pass on this idea to their kids that we gave up everything to give you a chance at success in this new land and got to make something out of that. Got to stay humble and work really.

Hard and try to make something out of this life we gave you.

There's always been that element of sacrifice and respect for that sacrifice in the background. But at the same time, and at the same time, it's also true that figure skating demands a massive sacrifice. And, you know, when I was 8.

Years old and I said, my heart is with skating, my mom quit her job, she quit her career. She was a software engineer in the.

Bay Area, had multiple software patents, very hard worker, very good at what she did, and she quit her career to support my skating. The craziest thing to me is when it happens, like when she did It. I wasn't even good at skating yet.

All that was there for her to.

Work off of was I mentioned I had having that grit, that competitiveness. That was it. That was it. I had nothing to show for it yet. And my mom took that and always believed in me.

She always believed in me. And there were many difficult moments together.

Many times we very nearly gave up. Many times we did give up. Many times where I saw the.

That her belief began to waver. And it's just been a crazy journey.

But it started with my mom believing in me. If she hadn't made that sacrifice to. To leave her career so that I.

Could move away from home, to train.

400 miles away in an entirely new world, just sacrifice everything for a sliver of a dream, I wouldn't be here talking to you today. It's insane, I think.

[John R. Miles]

Well, I'm glad you brought that all up because skating is more than just competition, and the skating community is really a family. And this year, that family suffered an unimaginable loss with the tragic plane crash that took over 28 skaters, coaches and family members traveling to Washington D.C. and it hit me personally, because I also lost a friend and naval academy classmate in that accident when something like that happened. Vincent, how does the skating world come together? And what do you think about carrying forward the legacy of those we've lost?

[Vincent Joe]

It's devastating. Skating is a small world. Skating is a small world. And those kids were the future. I've been on the ice with a few of them. I'm very close with some of their best friends, very close with some of their. Some of their parents. After the news broke, I. I was.

Reading up on them and I saw.

That some of them. I'm not trying to make this all about me by any means, but I saw that some of them followed me on social media and that completely broke.

My heart because I know what it's like to be in their shoes, to.

Be young and ambitious, to look up to people, to dream of making the Olympic team, to dream of being like them one day. And in a moment, all of that is gone and there's nothing you can do about it. Almost doesn't feel real. That just broke my heart. I remember the parents of Maxime, Nomov, Evgenia and Vadim. They were so kind, so supportive when we competed together. They're so sweet.

And I'm close with.

I'm close with a couple of Maxim's best friends and spoken to them a little, and it's just heartbreaking, man. So how do You.

[Kirk Spahn]

Yeah.

[John R. Miles]

It is so heartbreaking. And how do you think that changes the intermediate, novice and junior levels right now going forward in. In the United States world of skating?

[Vincent Joe]

Well, it's interesting because you, you always see the impacts of things that happen at the top level trickling down, inspiring younger skaters. And then a few years later, you see the younger skater coming up and it was like, wow, that's crazy.

I knew those names from years ago.

When they were still developing, and I knew they were good. Who knew they would be this good? I've experienced that feeling many times over and it just sucks knowing that now there's just a gap there.

They were coming back from the developmental.

Camp at the US Figure Skating Championships. And that camp is one of the most exciting things for people on the developmental team of their lives. I was just talking to some people from US Figure skating earlier. I remember my first time at my own developmental camps when I was still up and coming. That was honestly almost even more exciting than going to the Olympics for the first time. It just represented like everything that I'd ever dreamed of. And that's where these kids were at. That's where these kids were at. And the loss is just. Has just shaken us so deeply. But we have come together, the whole community, everyone has coalesced very quickly too. And the world's World Figure Skating Championships are going to be in Boston in about two weeks from now, less than two weeks from now. And we're going to come together again. There's to remember them and everyone else who was on the flight. I would love to hear about how you were impacted too. I understand you had a friend on board as well.

[John R. Miles]

Yeah. Well, thank you for sharing all that.

Yeah.

My friend, his name was Brian Ellis and when we were at the academy, he was the backup quarterback and then became the starting quarterback and had not even been into that position very long when he had kind of a career ending injury. I remember him walking around for a while with his mouth taped shut as a result of some of the injuries he sustained. But he went on to become a Marine and ironically a Marine Corps helicopter pilot.

[Vincent Joe]

Incredible.

[John R. Miles]

And had gotten out of the service and was working for one of the big four consulting firms and happened to be on his way back from a work project he was on when he was impacted as well. And I know for us as a class and for many of his especially football teammates, it was especially hard because he had been one of those guys who had always been a major support to his teammates and had uplifted them and so I think similar to you, it was just such a shock to hear of his passing and of the loss and the void that it now brings to his friends and his immediate family.

[Vincent Joe]

I can definitely relate to that.

Even in individual sports, non team based.

Sports, the community you build is so strong because everyone faces challenges together. And that unites you. It unites the way you think about things, the way you approach challenges. It builds respect for each other's character. So I'm sure he was a man of incredible character and integrity. And I'm sorry for your loss.

[John R. Miles]

Thank you. Well, I want to go back to your journey and you being these kids age because you talked about earlier, your mom gave up everything, and at that time you weren't very good. But in just a few short years, you won titles at the intermediate, novice and junior levels, becoming the youngest junior champion ever. What do you think gave you an edge so early on in your career? And was there any type of defining moment where you felt like you truly stepped into an elite level of skating?

[Vincent Joe]

I think that environment is so important. You can have all the right ingredients in a person to build greatness, but.

If they're in the wrong environment, it's never going to catalyze, the chemical reaction is never going to take off. You gotta have the right environment. And I think that for me, moving to Southern California, being able to train.

Under a world class coach, switching from.

Physical school to online school, basically allowing me to dedicate ample time and resources, and allowing my life to start converging around, maximizing my performance on the ice every day. I think that's all it took because.

The rest of the baseline ingredients were already there.

Grit, curiosity, willingness to experiment, willingness to learn, willingness to go at it over and over again. My coach didn't have to tell me to work harder. She had to tell me to stop. I remember getting yelled at so many times because I was doing too much. And she was afraid that I would hurt myself.

Not only from doing too many reps.

Of things that I already knew how to do, but also from trying new stuff, harder stuff. Actually, I have a funny story about that. Later on in my career, when in the middle, around the middle of my career, when I was learning quadruple jumps, which are jumps with four rotations in the air. At the time, there were only two other people in the world doing quadruple luts. And I knew I had it in me to try it, to do it successfully. I wanted to prove my theory correct. But I know that I knew that my coach would probably disapprove So I.

Waited until one afternoon when she was.

Gone golfing and then I I tried it on an afternoon session and I landed it on my third try.

And for reference, it takes people years.

To learn a single axle, which is one and a half rotations. It takes, it usually takes years, even.

I would say months, for even the.

Most talented skaters to learn triples. So landing the quadruple luts on my third try, on the first day was a testament to, like, how I scientifically.

Approached how I scientifically approached my jumps. And, and that was like an exclamation.

Mark on my belief, my belief that.

All this sacrifice, all this passion is.

Going to pay off. I knew it was going to pay off. I knew it was going to turn into something great, and I was determined to make that happen.

[John R. Miles]

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[John R. Miles]

Well, I want to go there in a couple moments and explore more about that mindset, but since we were just talking about the quad lutz, you made history at the 2018 Olympics as the first skater to ever land a quad lutz in Olympic competition. And just to give the listeners some perspective in case they don't know your background, my understanding was at that Olympics you were the youngest member of the US Team, as I understand it at the time, were you aware of how historic that moment was?

[Vincent Joe]

Well, this is how I recount it, right? The only reason I'm the first one to land a quad lutz in Olympic history and not someone else is because my starting order was earlier, because my world ranking was lower, because that was actually my first year competing as a senior internationally, so I hadn't accumulated world ranking points yet.

That moved my starting position earlier than.

Other skaters in the competition who are also doing the quad luts and also did it successfully in the short program. I think it's just you call it luck or whatever that I ended up taking that title. But I think the true story of the quad lutz has to go back.

A few years when I and a.

Couple others around the world were actually starting to try it. Because you see, at the time, people didn't really think quad lust was a thing. It was like, I don't know. It's. It's like humans have always had the.

Capability of innovating certain things earlier in time.

It's just that nobody was really aware of it, so they didn't do it.

But they had. They technically had the ability to. Right?

That's how I see it.

And that's that doesn't make it any less impressive, because if anything, I think.

Overcoming a mental barrier is even more difficult than overcoming a physical barrier. So for me, I'd always had this idea that lutz was like the cool jump. It was the cool jump to do. And basically, in skating, there's six types of jumps, and the axel is a.

Bit of a special case.

So we'll rule that out for now.

Excluding the axel, the lutz is the.

Hardest jump, the highest scoring jump. So I'd always had a special thing for a lutz. I used to do it hundreds of times as a kid, to the point.

Where I got better at triple lutzes.

Than any other triple. And before I had learned my quadruple luts, I learned a couple of other quadruples. So I was like, if I can do those other quadruples and my luts.

Is better than those jumps, then I.

Should be able to theoretically do a quad lutz even more easily than my other quads. So. So that's what I was saying earlier about wanting to test my theory but not really being allowed to because it.

Was too out of the box.

So, like I said, I waited until my coach was gone golfing, and then. And then I tried it, and I was right. And that was the moment when I realized before that that I was already a member of Team usa. I was up and coming.

I knew that my career had potential.

To go somewhere, but that was the moment where I told myself that I could change history. And I started trying it in competition shortly after, I landed it at a local competition. I landed it at first international competition in 2017. I was throwing it on practices even a year before that at international competitions. And then 2018 just happened to be the competition with the most spotlights on it and that special Olympic title attached to it.

That's the way I see it.

But I think it's. I think it. That kind of.

That mindset of not caring what other.

People think is impossible.

Has taken me.

Really far and hopefully will continue to.

Because it's a very applicable mindset to.

Many things, not just.

[John R. Miles]

Well, I want to go into mindset just a little bit more here because as you talked about earlier in the interview, figure skating is notorious for its intense training demands. The amount of time that you're on the ice, how you have to learn to push, balancing your limits with protecting your body. But some of these techniques that you're doing, you're constantly trying to push the limits, because that's what everyone in the sport is trying to do, is to get Technically sharper and sharper. When you think back upon it, like, how did your mind go there, knowing that some of these things are going to be dangerous, that some of these things haven't been done before? What gave you that wherewithal to say to yourself that I can do this?

[Vincent Joe]

It's always just been this willingness to experiment. It's hard to do it justice in words, but I can see it just even by looking at other skaters. The reigning world champion, Ilya Malinin. I saw that willingness to experiment in.

Him years ago, years ago. And now he was the first person to ever land a quad axel. Now he's doing things that even I could only dream of. Part of me is like almost smug in a way, because I'm like, I saw that coming years ago, like I told you.

It's the same with Yuzuru Hanyu, who's.

2014 and 2018 Olympic champion, one of the most legendary figure skaters in history.

Back in 2012, 2013, when I saw.

Him break out onto the junior stage for the first time, I knew he had something special because I could see.

He wore it on his sleeve.

I could see his grit in the.

Way that he got up from his falls.

I was like, that guy has something special. And I looked up to him very early on. I knew he had something special. And then he went on to become one of the greatest of all time. I can't really describe it perfectly, but I can sense it. It's just like this unspoken way of approaching things that shows that you don't believe in the impossible.

[John R. Miles]

I want to talk to you about unforeseen events. So they have played a major role in your career for a long time. At 12, you had knee surgery that kept you out for two seasons. But when I think about myself and the emotional roller coaster, it would havoc on me. Injuries like that, when you're young, you have time to recover from. But in the 2022 Olympics, you were faced with a different type of situation. These were supposed to be the Olympics you broke out. These were likely going to be that time when you had a chance to get a gold, silver or bronze from an individual standpoint. And out of nowhere, the day before you're supposed to perform, you come down with COVID and had to withdraw from that event. I can't even imagine it. I watched your video and saw the emotion you were trying to process. But for someone who's listening, and I just want to take him to that situation, because here you have trained up to that point your entire life for that moment, and then in an instant, it's taken away from you. What was the hardest part of that experience? Was it missing your shot? Or was it more feeling like the circumstances were out of your control?

[Vincent Joe]

I think it was not having the opportunity to even try. Not having the opportunity to even try. Yeah.

After it happened, I felt almost like I. Someone I loved had died. Something that always been with me my whole life.

The singular thing that drove me for 21 years was the idea that I might stand on an Olympic podium one day. And the day before I had the chance to make it happen, after years of dedicating my entire life to preparing for that one moment was just taken out of my hands. And that was like losing a longtime companion or a loved one almost. I was almost entered like a grieving process. After there, of course, the first bit was just like disbelief and trying to adjust. I remember so that it was the night before the short program that I got the news.

And the same night sent me off to isolation in some hotel 45 minutes.

Away from the village. And I got into this room and my whole body and my mind was just like, screaming at me like, you're.

Not supposed to be here.

You're not supposed to be here. It's like mind, body, disconnect almost. And I still had.

I still had my Alarm set for 3:40am the next morning because that's when.

I was going to wake up for the morning warmup.

And I turned my alarm off.

I turned my alarm off. It's one of the saddest things I've ever done. I turned my alarm off.

And then the next morning, with no alarm, I woke up at 3:40am sharp.

I jolted awake. My body was, like, fired up. I was ready to do it.

I was ready to, like, make my dream come true.

And then I was like. And then I looked at the ceiling and I looked at the window shades and I was like, this. This is wrong. I'm not where I think I am. I'm not where I should be. And yeah, I'll never forget that feeling. It was just one of the. One of the worst things I've ever felt.

[John R. Miles]

Well, I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine that position. I have faced certain things in my life that are similar in nature but don't compare to that amount of emotion you would have faced at that time. But for someone who might be listening, who has prepared for something really hard and had it taken away from them in your situation, what would be your advice to them on how do you.

[Vincent Joe]

Move Past this, I think everyone's situation is unique. And I guess also, that being said, I don't think it's fair to necessarily compare losses. You know what I mean? I read a little bit about your background and the things that you've experienced, and I'm absolutely sure they were just as difficult for you. I think everyone's perspective is. And relative frame of how they experience those things is equally valid. So I wouldn't necessarily say what I went through was harder or more difficult or more emotional or anything. But to answer your question, for people who, you know may be going through something similar, I would say try to have something else that drives you in the background. When you lose all sense of direction, you need something new to. To keep you grounded, something new to.

Keep your head anchored.

Because it's like being lost at sea.

And even having the tiniest light in.

The distance is going to help you understand relatively where you are. And even though you may not have.

The strength to start swimming at the.

Moment, at least you'll know where you are. At least you'll know where you are. And I think that's. I think that's really important.

[John R. Miles]

Thank you so much, Vincent, for answering it. I know those aren't easy questions for anyone to have to address, and I'm gonna just let Kirk know that I know he's there. I want to ask you one other question, and then I'm going to dive into bringing him on, so he knows.

[Vincent Joe]

Awesome.

[John R. Miles]

So, Vincent, at that same Olympics, you did get to make history, although it took you a while to get the final result that you had won a gold medal, which took two and a half years later. Did winning that gold medal bring closure for you? Or did it make you reflect on everything you had to endure for those two years before you received it?

[Vincent Joe]

It's a combination of everything.

Every time some update came, I ended up mentally reliving everything all over again. Did lots of advocacy on the situation. I was quite outspoken about the need.

For justice to be served.

And I did. I wrote quite a few lengthy Instagram.

Posts and media releases on it.

And every time, I relived the journey, relived every moment. And when it all finally came to.

A close, I absolutely felt like closure.

It finally felt like I could start looking beyond what happened and trying to. Trying to pivot to thinking about, how can we prevent this from happening again? How can we prevent this from happening again? Because without proper consequences, history will repeat itself. History will repeat itself.

And so I want to make sure.

That no athlete who has spent Their entire lives working for even a chance at making the Olympic team or whatever team and fulfilling their dream has to have that taken away from them because of people who, because the results are decided before the competition even happens.

It's a slap in the face to.

Clean sport, to fair competition, to the.

Pillars that the Olympics were founded on. Sportsmanship, brotherhood, integrity, sisterhood.

Brotherhood, sisterhood, integrity.

And all the virtues of clean sport.

[John R. Miles]

Absolutely. And I know even days before you got the medal, there were still appeals up in the air that were finally released. So it, it really took you down to the final hours to even realize you were getting on a plane to Paris. As I understand it, we didn't know.

[Vincent Joe]

We were flying out to Paris until.

I think the date was August 7th.

And we were going to fly out. We were going to fly out August 12th. Hastily packed my bags and went. It was very funny. At the start of the internship I had, I, I was doing a summer internship in New York at the time. At the start of the internship in.

June, I had told my boss, hey.

There, there might be a chance that I have to finish early to go to the, the 2024 Paris Olympics, but I don't know. I'll keep you updated when I know. And the whole summer I was just.

Waiting to tell him.

I was just waiting to tell him like, like the good news. Hey, I gotta leave early.

I was finally able to tell him.

A couple days before, so.

[John R. Miles]

Well, congratulations. You achieved that gold medal that you had set your heart on for so many years. So such an incredible and rewarding experience. And in many ways, I think the way you got to receive it out of COVID with your parents and coaches and everyone there in front of the Eiffel Tower, may have been worth the wait.

[Vincent Joe]

I think that's a great way to put it.

And also the gold medal doesn't even.

Feel like a gold medal for the.

Event that it came from.

It feels symbolic of the journey. It feels like a symbolic bookend to just all the crazy things that happened. We, we talked about the sacrifice that my parents made, the, the, the injuries, the times that we gave up, everything, all the impossible to predict twists and turns. It feels like just a bookend on all of that. And I think it's almost like a feel good Disney movie ending or something.

[John R. Miles]

Vincent, throughout your career, you've had incredible coaches and mentors like we've talked about who've helped shape you not just as an athlete, but as a leader and a role model. And now you're in this position where you get to do the same for the next generation. And I know giving back is something that's really important to you, whether it's inspiring young skaters, advocating for the clean sport like we've just been talking about, or even thinking about a long term goal of opening your own skating school. But this idea of mentorship and leadership is at the heart of the work that's being done by the Institute for Civic Leadership icl, which has built an incredible network of champions, entrepreneurs and change makers who are committed to guiding this next generation. And to expand on that, I'm going to bring on the founder of the ICL with us now. But Kirk and Vincent, I would hope you guys could both talk a little bit about the icl, and Kirk why you founded it, and Vincent why it's so important for for you to be a part of it. So I'll turn it over to you. Kirk, welcome to the show.

[Vincent Joe]

It's great to see you, Kirk.

[Kirk Spahn]

Let's see. Hey guys. First of all, Vincent, so great to see you to hear your journey again. John, thanks so much for having us on. There's so many things just your podcast, right? Passion struck. It says a lot right there. The ICL was really fundamentally built about teaching character and leadership to youth. A lot of it by sharing these stories like Vincent really struck a chord when he spoke to all of our students and families at orientation. And it really has nothing to do with what sport you're competing in, what your passion is. It's about having that passion and it's about having a purpose. And so much of Vincent's journey was not your typical experience, right? It's so much about character. And what Vincent was amazing at is relating both academics, the sort of physical, mental, emotional, academic, spiritual side of trying to achieve your best. That's something you're passionate about. And it's not the end result, right. It's not the gold medal. It's a signifying what the process was and how that passion is stoked. And then so many you think that I like something, it should come easy, I should just be good at it. And yet what really these mentorship and what world champion mentors are all about is saying, actually here's my journey, here are things that I learned along the way. But what ties in is it's not just a one track goal of trying to win that gold medal, right. Vincent is an incredibly for being so passionate and giving so much time to one sport, he's incredibly well rounded when he talks about his academic pursuits and integrating math and physics into what he does that's part the next generation doesn't really hear that. And there before I founded the icl, I was a tennis player and I didn't reach the heights of some of our champions and Novak Djokovic's and Monica Selles and didn't get that medal. But I understood the importance of that working hard, that building character. And if we could instill that into the next generation, that would really make an impact. And then we were able to integrate it. It took about 15 years and we realized that these striving athletes needed an outlet, they needed a school, they needed an academic environment, but really more a community environment. Because so many times, and I think Vincent alluded to it, you feel like an outlier sometimes when you're at regular school and you're training at five in the morning and other kids don't really understand that. So to build a community of kids that are skaters, skiers, tennis players, golfers, performers that are driven to pursue their dreams and are making sacrifices and have that. It's never really been done before on the scale that ICL is doing. And if you think about the name, the Institute for Civic Leadership, civic is almost like a. It's an old school word. But if you really think about it's been left out of school, like civic responsibility, giving back to others, having an impact in your community. And that's really what the end goal is about. It's not personal glory or wealth. It's that journey that continues on. And so I think that Vincent is a perfect example of what our mentors do. He's sharing his story.

[Vincent Joe]

He's.

[Kirk Spahn]

He's available, he's been through it, he's relatable, and then actually shows that there is a connection between academics and academic excellence with building great character and pursuing your dreams. So he's an amazing example of that.

[John R. Miles]

And Vincent, I just want to ask you a little bit about that. Maybe through this, if you could go back and design a perfect support system for yourself as a younger skater and athlete, knowing that ICL is now here and available, what would that look like?

[Vincent Joe]

First of all, thanks for the introduction and the kind words. Kirk. I don't know if I can top what you talked about, but you built icl and so far the results have been incredible. I'm honored to be a part of it, honored to help in any way I can. And you're right, absolutely. I love being able to give back and pass on the things that I've learned and experienced to anyone who might benefit from it. When I first heard about icl, I looked it up and I was like.

Wow, this is incredible.

This looks like everything I could have wanted when I was a kid. And I was looking for resources to help balance a rigorous training environment with rigorous academic needs. And the more I get to learn about it, the more I have respect for everyone involved. And it's just incredible to see. When I look at the students in icl, I don't see students. I just see, like, shadows of my younger self. I see people who. John, we already talked about this. Like, seeing myself in the younger generations. I see kids who are ambitious and motivated and love what they do and are hungry that. It's like Steve Jobs famous speech. Stay hungry, stay hungry. It's like they want to.

They're curious, they want to learn.

They want to take in all the.

Sources of inspiration and information that they can. And that's something that you can't really teach.

That's something that you just have to have. You have to embody. And that's the sort of character that Kirk that you're talking about, I think. And that carries not just into skating, but into everything, throughout academics, throughout your sport, throughout your professional pursuits. And I think that's also how we.

Remember the greatest of all time.

It's not just excellence in one thing.

It's legacy.

Legacy is built through character and mindset and impact in multiple areas. And I think it's just so incredible that ICL is. Has the vision and the right people to do this for kids all over the country. Like I said, really honored to be able to contribute in some way to the vision.

[Kirk Spahn]

Well, it inspires, right? We have a cycle at ICL which is inspire, educate, impact, right? So you have this idea that people get inspired and they're passionate, but then creating that purpose. And we call it our six P's to take passion to purpose. But then you need the right process to follow. Right process is so important. And then it's people who impact you because you can't do it alone. There's just no way. Even though we're talking about individual sports, tennis, skating, it is not. It is a whole group of humans that help you along the way in order to have the next P, which is perseverance, because nobody, as you heard Vincent's story, it's not a hockey stick. It never is. So the idea that when you can show that grit and resilience, ultimately, if. Then the last P is personalization, and you gain that personalization through perspective, and you can look back and say, wow, those hardships, what felt like the worst can actually mold you into becoming the best. And those are things that sort of normal school doesn't give you and to each person, a unique journey. But when you hear enough similarities. So whether it's Vincent talking or Steve Nash or Novak Djokovic, it doesn't matter, right? Like that growth, mindset, that ability to want to be the best, what you can reach. Bode Miller says it like he doesn't count winning World cup races or his gold medals. It's him pushing his body to what he can achieve. And Vincent talked about, I'm going to get it wrong, but his marquee move, I call it like a triple Indy from back to school, like Roddy Dangerfield, but it was actually to see what your body is capable of doing that someone else might not be able to do. Those are the things that end up in life. It makes you an entrepreneur. You can go into business, you can go into service, you can go into anything because you've laid it all out there, because you've literally put your life on the line. We had a bunch of tennis players. When Vincent's talking, doing flips, and you can land on your head on the ice, you're. It's so incredible to hear these stories, but that everyone takes a little piece of that and. And John, you're doing the same with the podcast, right? Finding out passion, what drives people, what is it all about?

[John R. Miles]

Kirk, as I was listening to you talk about that, it dovetailed so incredibly well with the book I released last year titled Passion Struck. But I really explore how passion, the components of grit, as Angela Duckworth has laid out, and intentionality lead to this life that I call of being passion struck, which you just did. Basically a great demonstration. It's how Vincent has lived his life. It's being so passionate about a goal that you want to achieve or a problem that you want to solve, that you're willing to do whatever it takes and risk it all to get there, whether that's risking injuries, risking your opportunity to have a childhood like a normal person would have had. Whatever it takes, you're willing to go for it, to achieve the goals that you set out. But I think you brought up something that's really important and that is our value, our characters, our individuality play a huge role in doing it, because it's got to be something that is innate to. To you and what lights you up inside, or else it's not going to matter in the same way. Thank you for sharing that. So I wanted to ask you both this Question. And Kirk, I'll let you go first. And in a world that sometimes feels increasingly individualistic, why do you believe mentorship and leadership through service are more important than ever?

[Kirk Spahn]

That's a great question. Which leads into. I believe that community is actually so important that while we're being driven in this world, not just in sports as individuals, but the digital world. Right. It's being more isolating and yet if we utilize this the right way, I think the concept of building a community is more important than ever. What we're trying to do at ICL is to build a global community. So when I was younger as a tennis player, I knew the tennis players in the northeast. Then as I got better, oh, I met people from California. Then when I got even better, I got to go to South America. Vincent would probably talk about what I hear about going to the Olympics. What's so amazing that impacts people is meeting these like minded community of incredible athletes from every country around the world. It's such a unique thing and I think sometimes parents and kids get focused on that individual side. And yet that community aspect in sports, it's the basis of the foundation of sport. Right. Was actually building this community around activities and non warfare, trying to build this. And I think that we have a mantra at ICL that says respect tradition, embrace tomorrow.

[John R. Miles]

Right.

[Kirk Spahn]

That how do we embrace this digital age? Because people think online education like oh, that's a computer and it's a robotic and I'm just going to be isolated. And yet we've had huge conferences in New York City that capped at 500 people. When Vincent spoke, he spoke to nearly a thousand people. And then it lives on. You can record it. People have watched it in classes. So the ability to use technology to actually build community is a pretty, it's a pretty powerful tool. And all about how you look at it because yes, I can make the argument that in a bad way it's too individualized and people are focused on just them. But we're trying to open that up. And I think as a non profit and a foundation, yes, we want to support individual kids on their journeys and we provide monetary support and academic support. But overarchingly, it's about how we build out that community that will impact them forever.

[Vincent Joe]

Yeah, absolutely.

Yeah. Some of the hardest times that. Some of the hardest times of my life were in large part because I had no community to fall back on.

When I had knee surgery at 12.

Years old, I was isolated in a.

Room with my leg on this stupid.

Movement machine for a couple months. Just unable to do anything, unable to skate, unable to walk normally, unable to.

Go up and down the stairs without.

Sitting down on my butt and didn't have friends to talk to, didn't have family to talk to. And it's one of the most lonely experiences of my life. And I only wish that I had a community like ICL students do. And that's again why I said, I think it's so incredible that you got people with the right vision and the ability to make this happen for those kids. It's invaluable to them. It's invaluable to them. And again, so much respect to you, Kirk, for building this and being able to impact these kids lives in the way that you have and will continue to.

[Kirk Spahn]

You are amazing. I feel like we're just talking what Vincent said, so many people were impacted because sharing those experiences, kids hear, oh, that's how I feel. And to know that you can overcome it, to know that as you break through that the ability to even have support from teachers. And so you probably felt it. I certainly did in tennis where my teachers like, oh, why are you missing school again? I'm like, I'm going to nationals. Like instead of being happy about it, it's almost like, well, you're missing class again. Whereas at icl our teachers actually attend nationals, like they want to go watch it and share a story from last week. We have, we had players playing in a, in the BMP Parabola, but a Masters 1000. So we had 17 year old girls competing on Stadium 2 and then their classmates in the front row cheering them on. And then they were playing that next week in the junior event. And just to see that sort of pump up, like not just your coach, your parents, but to have community around you, I think it's going to be a game changer. Because when we really look at what ICL is, the mental health crisis in our youth is real and it's happening in real time. And you hear about the anxious generation and cell phones and what I've learned is there's not a silver bullet to stop it. There's nothing. But what does prevent that is community. I think that when you have a supportive community around you, you get less anxious, right? You're there when someone's low, you're there to help support them. When they're at a high, you celebrate with them. And I think that takes away a lot of that pressure cooker environment that kids are now ingrained to feel that isolation even in normal school. I've been reading books and the studies are shocking about how these kids are feeling these days. And I think that community sense, and even knowing that people like Vincent, like Novak Djokovic, like Monica Sellers, like Bodie Miller are actually there and care about them. Right. They're not there because they're being paid for an appearance to support something. It's. They're opening up their own stories, they're opening up their hearts, their journeys, and listening to the kids and saying, hey, I was there. I got you. You can get through this. And that's a really powerful tool.

[John R. Miles]

It absolutely is. And not only have I had Olympic athletes like Vincent on the show, I've had Paralympians as well, such as Dan Canasson has been on the show, Oksana Masters has been on the show. And just hearing what they have had to go through and to pick themselves up and to go out there and perform, given how much pain at times they have to go through, just to be able to suit up and get out there, makes you realize that anything is possible when you put your mind to it. But nothing is possible if you don't have a community that's helping you and cultivating a sense of mattering inside of you, that you're seeing that you're valued, that you're appreciated, and that your voice carries weight. And I think that's what a lot of this Gen Alpha that's coming up, and also Gen Z, which Vincent and my kids are experiencing, have been missing in their lives. So I'm so glad that's part of what you're doing with ICL as well.

[Kirk Spahn]

Thanks. And that is there's some real bigger issues. Right. You can go from micro to macro or macro to micro, because we're still small and relatively unknown. There's so many exceptional nonprofits. You mentioned Angela Duckworth and Teaching Grit. But I always find that part of the reason we start with these high profile, whether it's athletes, dedicated kids, is that there's your easy feeder system is something bigger. Because to make an impact in our education system today is very difficult.

[Vincent Joe]

Right.

[Kirk Spahn]

It's just really tough to break in. You've had billionaires try and it's complex. Again, no silver bullet, no finger pointing at anyone. I come from a family of educators. I worship teachers. Part of my goal was to make great teachers. I always say, why are there celebrity chefs that are in the kitchen? Why are there not celebrity teachers? Because everyone had them. And that's always been a passion and a purpose of mine. But it mixes in with these mentors, right? You'd love to see Vincent's picture next to a great math teacher who inspires them. And we all go back to movies like Dead Poets Society. There's so many examples of that, but I think that they need to be highlighted more. And the trade and craft of being a great teacher needs to be up there and, and recognized with these great athletes because they're, they're all impacting youth, they're all helping to shape it.

[Vincent Joe]

Kirk, I want to go back to.

Something you talked about real quickly, which.

Is like the anxious generation and the digital exposure that's making everyone somehow feel more lonely. How can that be right? It's supposed to be that digital social media and digital access broadens our connections, right? Why is this generation getting more lonely? And I think it is this. When I was 12, I had surgery for the first time.

I.

Well, the first and only time, knock on wood.

And I was shut in that room for months.

I ended up turning to a lot of different outlets to try and make contact with someone. I just wanted to talk to someone. And I ended up finding online education forums and various things like that. And a lot of those communities ended.

Up feeling like home for a long time because I literally had nowhere else to turn.

But the problem was with things like social media, online forums, online communities.

Yes, there may be like minded people.

Yes, there may be people you consider.

Your friends, even close friends.

But at the end of the day.

When it's time to close your screen and turn to the real world, you will be let down over and over again because they will not be there.

Standing in front of you. When you're alone at night, struggling to sleep and craving some sort of somebody to talk to.

They won't be there. They won't be there.

It's an escape.

And it can feel like home for.

A moment, but when you look out the window, none of it is real. And I think ICL is so incredible in bridging that gap because when, even when you bring in speakers virtually to.

Talk about something, it's still real to the kids. They can open their eyes, go to.

Practice the next morning, and what the.

Speaker said is still real.

It's still in front of them. And I think that's the big difference, right, is with a community like this.

Those kids aren't going to be let.

Down over and over again when they.

Close, when they turn off their screens.

And open their eyes. And I think that's, I think that's the right way to do this. That's the right way to leverage digital technology. And connectivity. So I just, I just wanted to say that because I was thinking when you were talking and I had this realization like yeah, that's it.

[Kirk Spahn]

So no, but you're so right. And this is a different generation and how we bridge that and give that support what we try to teach at the end of the day for our students. One of my mentors, John, you probably know is Dr. Jim Lair and a partner and he's the original Human Performance Institute. But he talks about being your own coach, like how to be your own inner monologue that two sides like who you are is so important and the earlier you can address those. And I always go back in my head like the poem if right. If you can treat those two imposters just the same. I feel like you motivate yourself. But then having those outlets, those real people that are supporting you, trying to do more project based work, working in courses like performance psychology or leadership or the business of sport, like making you feel outside of just the ice, you don't want one thing is you don't need your identity to be Kirk the tennis player, Vincent this the skater. It's part of who you are, but it's not your whole. And I think that this community building, this generation is looking for that identity. Who am I? Where do I fit in? And this they should probably rename. It's not really social media because you're not as interactive. You're. It's fantasy, right? Like all these pictures you can post. And we all as adults, we realize how fake it is that it's actually like the opposite. The more people post something amazingly glamorous, it's probably not that reality. But for kids it shapes them. And I think that it's important to teach what shapes you should be in here and in here and to lead with. That's why we call ICL Passion based learning in through an impact learning model like the word impact at all levels, how you go through that, how you can see an impact is so important. Important.

[John R. Miles]

Well, thank you both so much for going through that. And I think Vincent, what you brought up is something that my kids are 21 and 25 right now. And it's something I hear from them all the time in how they've been growing up and what they have been longing for. Vincent, I wanted to close with a question for you. You have navigated a ton of transitions even in your young life. From from child prodigy to elite skater, from Olympian and Ivy League student to now competitor to advocating for others. What's been the hardest transition for you.

[Vincent Joe]

That'S the first time I've been asked that question. And it's a very difficult question because.

How can you compare?

Right? And there's also a present bias in thinking about because the recency of the experience also determines how well you remember.

The intricacies of what made it difficult.

So I think one of the most difficult transitions was going from my 2019.

World Championships, where I won my first.

World medal and I was on top of the world. I was continuing my upward trajectory from the 2018 Olympics to doing a semester at Brown. The story is that I applied to Brown to begin in 2019, even though.

I wasn't planning on retiring from skating.

Yet because my standardized test scores were about to expire. Jokes removed the standardized test requirement the following year, but I didn't know that would happen. So I applied then, and my plan was to request three years of deferral so that I could fully focus on skating through the 2022 Olympics and then start.

But Brown gave me two and a half years.

Other schools gave me three. But I liked Brown so much that I took their offer anyway. And I knew that I just had to get this semester done. The earlier the better, because closer to the 2022 Olympics would be. Would mean more disruption.

So in fall 2019, I did a.

Semester on campus, and I'd been to. I'd went to online school from the middle of fifth grade through high school graduation, with the exception of junior year. And then after graduation, I took two more gap years to focus on the 2018 Olympics. So I'd spent a long time away.

From a physical classroom environment.

And I didn't have.

I wasn't so lucky as to have.

Something like ICL around me. So my experience was probably very different. I did not belong whatsoever.

I had to learn to be a beginner again almost.

You get so used to being a master at your craft that your mind almost forgets the pathways that it takes that it has to utilize to learn from scratch all over again. And that's one of the challenges I.

Faced coming into the semester at Brown.

But on top of that, I was.

Still trying to train and compete at the same time.

So it was constantly switching, flipping the switch back and forth.

And unfortunately, Brown's athletic department was not particularly supportive of my training needs.

So I ended up trying to commute to Boston five days a week to train. And I was going to Boston from Providence during rush hour in the morning and in rush hour in the afternoon coming back.

So Normally it's a 45 minute to one hour commute. I was spending up to two hours each way, up to four hours on.

The road each day, five days a week while trying to take classes and train full time for at the top level. So very quickly I burnt out. I just remember the feeling of stepping.

On the ice and not knowing what.

I was doing there. And that's a really scary feeling because when you've been passion struck your whole life and all of a sudden you step into the familiar arena but you feel nothing. You feel nothing. It's terrifying. It's terrifying. It feels like you question everything. You don't know what's happening, you don't.

Know why it's happening.

You realize it's probably up here, but.

You start trying to find physical reasons.

To turn it around because that's something.

You can tangibly change in the moment.

Is like your effort or your technique or something like that. But at the end of the day that's the wrong reason. So you end up seeding more doubt and more doubt into your mind and it's just a negative spiral. Long story short, that semester was extremely difficult. I withdrew from all my competitions, I.

Quit skating and I had almost convinced.

Myself that I might as well give up on the 2022 Olympic dream and just start my academic journey full time. I was fully prepared to come back.

To tell Brown I'm not doing the.

Two and a half year deferral, I'm just coming back full time the following semester. Fortunately, Brown does a thing called Thanksgiving break. And during Thanksgiving break some people that I, who are very dear to me.

Asked me to visit them up in.

Toronto, Canada and I flew out to see them, just to talk with them. And they convinced me that I needed a fresh start, I needed to move somewhere new. I need to move somewhere new after the semester ended.

That would give me a chance to.

Just start over and for the right reasons, to skate for myself, to skate.

In an expectation free environment. Because they knew that if I stepped.

Foot in an old environment I would.

Immediately face the same pressures and the.

Same idea that I had to immediately return to my old self, the state that I was at before. And they were right. Being free of that was a complete game changer for me because they did convince me. I ended up moving to Toronto after the semester ended. And that was I. I had been.

Off the ice for months.

I, when I got on the ice again, I couldn't even, I could hardly do a clean triple jump and nationals was in two weeks and I didn't.

I wasn't even sure if I was.

Going to compete at nationals, but I knew that Olympic qualification. And just in terms of your whole journey as a skater, you really can't afford to be missing big competitions like.

That, because not only does it impact.

World ranking, it impacts your whole standing in the landscape.

That was in the back of my head. What was in the front of my.

Head was that grit that's always been there that when it comes down to it, that you can't give up.

If you have the chance to try.

You have to try. You cannot let the opportunity slip away. I've always believed in that.

And that's resulted in some of the.

Most incredible turnarounds in my career. And that was one of those moments because I believed that going to nationals was the right move, no matter how poorly I did. And I was fully prepared to get a score that I won't even say.

Because it's so embarrassingly low.

And then the practices happened, and, you.

Know, the day before the short program, I suddenly landed a clean quadruple for.

The first time again in months.

And then the next morning in practice, things were clicking again.

I was feeling like Vincent Joe again. And the competition came, and I don't know how, but I skated two clean.

Programs with two quadruples.

And just everything that I had set out to do that didn't even seem possible just two weeks earlier and came away with a medal and a result that I would not have thought possible even a couple days before that was named to the World Team. And, yeah, even though that was probably one of.

Ironically, that was.

That was one of my lowest podium finishes at a senior competition yet in the US yet. It felt one of my biggest wins.

And at the end of the day.

That'S what I took away from it. It was one of my biggest personal victories.

[Kirk Spahn]

I'm ready to watch this move, by the way. I'm ready to buy popcorn and watch this. I feel like we're. I feel like we're absolutely going through. This is, again, why this power. Right. And this is. But this is not different from entrepreneurs. Right. You read about every company, whether it's Google, they're three weeks away from shutting the doors, letting everyone go. That's this life, and that's that grit, that resilience that, like most people probably would have stayed at Brown and said, you know what? I'm ready to move on. It just seems like this super daunting task. And that's those elements. It's those moments. Right. But you just. And you did that.

[Vincent Joe]

Yeah.

[Kirk Spahn]

And I can understand why that feels like bigger than some of the podium. Other ones. Because you know that where you were and where you had to get to in such a short amount of time, that internally for you, that makes all the difference and that's what will persevere and go on for your life.

[Vincent Joe]

Yeah.

Yeah. So when you talk about grit, that's grit, passion, those are the most important things.

Because when everything's going smoothly, you said.

Earlier, Kirk, it's not always going to be a hockey stick.

That's true.

When things are going smoothly, it's going to feel like it's a hockey stick. Things.

Things will.

If you zoom in the.

If you zoom in the camera, sometimes.

It'S going to look like a hockey stick. When it's easy, like when everything's going smoothly, it's easy to be great, it's easy to be passionate, it's easy to have grit.

When everything.

[Kirk Spahn]

It's expected almost right. You have an expectation of yourself.

[Vincent Joe]

But the moment adversity arrives, the moment some variable changes, the moment an injury.

Comes knocking at your door, the moment some factor out of your control changes and you got to deal with it, what happens? The. The rough patches are what grit and.

Passion get you through.

Because somebody without grit and passion, they'll just turn around and head home. So that's why it's almost a backhanded compliment when people say you're so talented, because that implies that you just had.

It all and you never had to deal with the rough patches.

That's so not true.

[Kirk Spahn]

People say talent's the enemy of greatness. Right. There are a lot of talented people, but.

[Vincent Joe]

Yeah. So def. Just want to re. Emphasize. I cannot over emphasize the importance of grit and passion, because when things aren't looking up, when it's looking unlikely that you're going to achieve your goal or make the next target, that's what's going to get you through, and you're going to look back and be so grateful that you did. Keep your head down and keep going.

That's what makes all the difference at.

The end of the day.

[Kirk Spahn]

Well said.

[John R. Miles]

Well, Kirk, I can see why you have Vincent as a mentor. And that last bit was such a great learning segment for anyone who's watching this podcast or listening in, because I think you just showed so much there, Vincent, about. Sometimes it's not about where you place. It's the effort and that going deep to take that next step that will then lead you down the path of where you long to go that is so important. And to look at moments like that and appreciate them for what they are and what you accomplished.

[Vincent Joe]

Yeah, yeah. And that's why people say the victories, the medals, the titles, whatever, it's representative of the journey. It encapsulates everything that went into it. It's not just I came to this competition and I did well for I.

Did my job for four minutes.

It's I did my job for two decades.

[John R. Miles]

Well, Kirk, if someone wanted to learn more about icl, where's the best place for them to do?

[Kirk Spahn]

Any families for the school side of things, if they have a youth that's interested in joining ICL Academy, it's www.iclacademy.org. and for those that want to be involved in our foundation, it's the iclfoundation.org and I really appreciate you having both of us on and letting you know me. Share alongside Vincent what we're doing and we're so aligned. In fact, our. Your logo passion struck our part of our logo is that as well is to really be able to do that. So I thank you so much, John, and thank you, Vincent, for allowing me to be on here.

[John R. Miles]

Thank you, Kirk, and thank you, Vincent, so much for coming on. It was an honor to have you both on the show.

[Kirk Spahn]

Thanks, Vincent. See you soon. Thanks, John.

[Vincent Joe]

Both of you take care.

[John R. Miles]

Well, and that's a wrap. What an incredible conversation with Vincent Joe. His journey from history making Olympian to a passionate advocate for clean sport, mentorship and personal growth is nothing short of inspiring. Vincent's story reminds us that success isn't just about medals or external achievements. It's about resilience, reinvention, and using our experiences to uplift others. From navigating the highest levels of competition to balancing life as a student at Brown University, Vincent has shown us what it truly means to persevere through uncertainty and lead with purpose. As we close out today's episode, I invite you to reflect on a few key takeaways. How do you redefine success beyond external achievements? What does it mean to balance ambition with well being? And how can you use your own experiences, like Vincent is doing, to inspire and uplift others? If today's discussion resonated with you, please take a moment to leave a five star rating and review one of the best ways to support the show and helps us bring conversations like this to even more people. And if someone in your life could benefit from Vincent's wisdom, share this episode with them. Because a single conversation can spark transformation. For all the resources we discussed, including Vincent's insights on mentorship and the Institute for Civil Leadership, Visit the [e-mail] and if you want to go even deeper, be sure to watch the video version of this episode on my John R. Miles YouTube channel, where you'll find even more enriching conversations like this one. While you're there, hit subscribe and join our growing community. And if you're looking to bring these transformative insights into your organization OR team, visit johnrmiles.com speaking to explore how we can work together to create intentional change on my next episode of Passion Struck, I'm joined by authors Wes Adam and Tamara Miles, where we'll be diving into their new book titled Meaningful Work. They make a powerful case that meaning at work drives employee wellbeing, high performance, and even profit. This next conversation will be packed with powerful insights to help you operate at your best and thrive in both work and life. So make sure you're subscribed One of.

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