Podcast
Pastors on Porn
Hosted by Vern Tompke · EN
Pastors on Porn is a podcast providing hope, healing and help for those who know the call of God on their lives but also struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors
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Ep. 98 - Running Dirty Running Scared
3d ago00:18:00Tap to summarizeAre you in a position in your ministry where you are running dirty or running scared? Using a few different analogies, Vern discusses the cost of ongoing porn use and the affects it has on our ministries.In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's free Circle Platform. For confidentiality sake simply use your first name and last initial or vice versa.in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about talking to him about your sitiuation, get personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group of just Pastors you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
Transcribe →Ep. 97 - That-L Preach! - Walking Into Temptation
Jun 3000:18:21Tap to summarizeThere is a saying that says - That-L Preach! Something that immediately you want to share. The following is something from my morning quiet time that I think has real relevance to our recovery journey.In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's free Circle Platform.in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app). You can use your initials (first or last) to provide you with a greater sense of privacy.https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
Transcribe →Ep. 96 - Garrett Kell - Stepping into the Light
May 9, 202500:36:27Tap to summarizeGarrett Kell is a pastor who knows what it is to struggle with pornography. In this podcast he speaks about his experience with stepping out of the shadows into the light. Garrett has written a book called "Pure in Heart" and is the current pastor of Del Ray Baptist Church in Alexandria Virginia. In this podcast he also references some articles he has written which links are below...https://www.9marks.org/article/does-pornography-use-disqualify-a-pastor/https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/pornography-and-church-disciplinehttp://garrettkell.com/should-i-tell-my-spouse-about-my-struggles-with-sexual-sin/In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's free Circle Platform.in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
Transcribe →Ep. 95 - The Numbers Don't Lie
Mar 6, 202500:22:26Tap to summarizeBack in 2016 the Barna Research group did a study around the use of pornography in society and in the church. 9 years later Barna (working with Pure Desire) did an expanded version of this same study. We now can have an accurate and real time look at what is really going on in the lives of people regarding porn and also get a current view of the effect it is having on their individual lives and marriages.If you want to get a copy of that study you can purchase one athttps://puredesire.org/shop/beyond-the-porn-phenomenon/In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's free Circle Platform.in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your phone you need to first download the circle app)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Finally if you want to connect with Vern to connect with him about personal coaching or joining a Finding Traction Group you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
Transcribe →Ep. 94 - Talk for Youth and Young Adult Pastors
Feb 6, 202500:44:59Tap to summarizeIf you are a youth pastor or work with young people in their teens or 20's you know that porn is a big challenge - for both guys and girls. Recently I did a talk in Brazil (and later at our church) that talked about how the enemy uses addictions in our lives to rob from us - including porn. More importantly, I also talk about how to walk free as a young person! Below is the information on how to sign up for circle where you can find a downloadable powerpoint presentation of this talk. (under the Pastors on Porn section) If you want me to talk to your young people life or by zoom reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2We are starting a brand new group for 2025! This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course. Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern. If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.care
Transcribe →Ep. 93 - Dave's Big Reveal
Jan 27, 202500:31:37Tap to summarizeListen to my friend and pastor Dave talk about his big step to open up to his wife and church about his struggle with porn!If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2We are starting a brand new group for 2025! This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course. Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern. If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.care
Transcribe →Ep. 92 - The Hospital Church with James Reeves
Nov 1, 202400:45:55Tap to summarizeHow do you transition your church from a "shiny" facade to one that truly is a hospital for hurting broken people. James Reeves has done it and shares some of his insights with Vern.James is the author of the TwoFearless Video series - one for men and one for women which deal with healing from emotional wounds and trauma. They can be found here:https://fearlessresources.org/James is the Author of the book Refuge: How hospital Church ministry can change your church forever. It can be accessed on AmazonIf you would like to contact James you can do so by the followinemail: jamesreeves68@gmail.comphone: (817) 938 4562 (text first)
Transcribe →Ep. 91 - Sam Black on Church Culture
Sep 27, 202400:36:53Tap to summarizeSam Black works with churches at one of my favorite companies - Covenant Eyes. In this free ranging conversation we talk about why he joined Covenant Eyes, his book "The Healing Church" and what sort of churches provide a safe place and a safe process for healing.We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life. We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2You can link up to some some of Covenant Eyes resources by going to www.covenanteyes.com/church (tools for churches)www.strive21.com (a 21 day porn detox plan)www.covenanteyes.com/arise (for women struggling with porn)
Transcribe →Ep. 90 - Not Even a Hint
Sep 23, 202400:20:58Tap to summarizeEphesians 5:3 Says this "but among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality, or any kind of impurity"Some of us have heard this verse as sort on an unattainable standard that makes us feel that we can never live up to God's standards. Today I share my thoughts on this verse that has brought a new motivation and energy to my desire to walk in sexual purity.We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life. We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2
Transcribe →Ep. 89 - Delight and Desire
Jul 15, 202400:15:50Tap to summarizeToday Vern explores how 2 words - delight and desire can go a long way in giving us immunity to the outside pull of porn and other distractions!If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you are looking for more free resources you can also check out the websitehttps://bandofbrothers.care
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