Podcast
Pillow Talks
Hosted by Vanessa & Xander Marin · EN
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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Episode 183: How To Get More Emotional Intimacy From Your Partner
Nov 21, 202400:55:09Tap to summarizeDo you want more emotional intimacy in your relationship? In today’s episode, we’re covering what emotional intimacy actually is, how to get more of it in your relationship, and even what to do if your partner doesn’t understand what you want.Links & Resources:Challenge: Sweet Or SpicyIf you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillowGet started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Episode 182: “Help! I’m Not Into My Partner’s Fantasy!”
Nov 14, 202401:02:35Tap to summarizeWhat happens when you have a fantasy that your partner is just not into?When your “yum” is their “yuck” if you will.We asked our IG community for stories about times when their partner wanted to try something they weren’t into, or vice versa. Now, we’re sharing our best advice on how to handle the differences.Links & Resources:Sign up for our email list: vmtherapy.com/subscribeThanks Cozy Earth. Go to cozyearth.com/pillowtalks and use code PILLOWTALKS for an exclusive discount for up to 40% off.Thanks StoryWorth. Get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/pillowThanks Jack Black. Go to GetJackBlack.com/PILLOW and use code PILLOW for 10% off your order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Episode 181: A Brutally Honest Relationship Check-In
Nov 7, 202401:04:37Tap to summarizeHow are we really doing?We had a plan to talk about a different topic, but once we sat down in front of the mics, we decided to go rogue and talk about what life has really been like recently.In today’s episode, we’re getting extra personal and sharing some of our ups and downs from the year so far. We’ve got details about all the tough decisions we’ve been making about the future of our company, personal updates about the state of our relationship, and even a behind-the-scenes look at the state of this podcast…Links & Resources: Our Courses & GuidesThanks Chewy. Take advantage of amazing holiday savings and shop your personal favorites at Chewy.com/pillows. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Episode 180: Smash Or Pass: We Try The Weirdest Women’s Magazines Sex Tips
Oct 31, 202400:53:18Tap to summarizeIt’s time for another edition of one of our most popular series, Smash or Pass! This is where we try out the internet’s weirdest sex tips, so you don’t have to! (We even recorded audio of ourselves trying out a lot of the tips…)Today’s theme is sex tips from 90’s and 00’s women’s magazines. Do these tips about “driving your man wild” actually work? Tune in to find out!Links & Resources:Guide: The Sexual Mastery PackageThanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow.Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.Thanks Jack Black. Go to GetJackBlack.com/PILLOW and use code PILLOW for 10% off your order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Episode 179: All Your Female Orgasm Questions: Answered!
Oct 24, 202401:00:23Tap to summarizeWhat’s the difference between a clitoral orgasm, g-spot orgasm, and cervical orgasm? What’s squirting? How common is it for women to orgasm multiple times in 1 session?Today we’re taking it back to the very first topic Vanessa became known for - female orgasm (Buzzfeed even called her The Orgasm Whisperer)!In this episode, Vanessa is answering some of the most commonly asked questions about female pleasure and giving you top-tier advice on how to start having the best orgasms of your life.Links & Resources:Course: Finishing SchoolThanks Cozy Earth. Go to cozyearth.com/pillowtalks and use code PILLOWTALKS for an exclusive discount for up to 40% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Episode 178: Tie-Breakers: We Solve Your Relationship Standoffs
Oct 17, 202401:11:11Tap to summarizeWe’re bringing one of our favorite Instagram games to the podcast, Tie-Breakers!We asked our community to share some of the things that they just can’t agree on with their partner. We break the tie for them!We’ve got some interesting relationship stand-offs to dig into for this episode, like who is responsible for chores if only one of you works, if you should charge rent to in-laws, who are living with you, and are you too old for hand jobs?Links & Resources:Book: Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love LifeGuide: The Ultimate Foreplay GuidesGuide: Mental Load WorkbookThanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Episode 177: Why You Should Try Mutual Masturbation And How To Do It
Oct 10, 202400:45:20Tap to summarizeMutual masturbation is one of the sexiest things you can do in the bedroom! But when we asked our audience if they had ever mutually masturbated with their partner, only 36% said yes.in today’s episode, we break down what mutual masturbation is, how to get comfortable and confident doing it, and how to take it to the next level!Links & Resources:Guide: The Ultimate Foreplay GuidesIf you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!Thanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co.Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Episode 176: Is This Cheating?
Oct 3, 202401:00:44Tap to summarizeIs it cheating to keep nudes from past relationships? Have an Only Fans account? Have a “work wife”?For this episode, we asked our community to tell us about a situation they’re in that has left them wondering, “Does this count as cheating?” The answers were fascinating, and we had a blast giving our hot takes.This is a great episode to listen to with your partner, to make sure you’re on the same page about what counts as cheating in your relationship.Links & Resources:Check out our coursesInstagram: @vanessaandxanderTiktok: @vanessaandxanderGo to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.Thanks Flure. Check out the Flure Dating App at www.flure.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Episode 175: “Should I Put Up With This In The Bedroom?”
Sep 26, 202401:06:05Tap to summarizeIs there something your partner does in the bedroom that you’re not sure you should put up with?This episode was inspired by a message we got from a woman whose husband wears headphones and listens to podcasts while they have sex. She wanted to know if it was OK for her to be upset by this behavior.Minds blown, we turned to Instagram to ask people what other confusing or unusual behaviors they were putting up with. In this shocking (and honestly pretty unhinged) episode, we’ll give you our hot takes on what you should and shouldn’t put up with.Links & Resources:Guide: Dirty Talk 101Thanks Zocdoc.Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.Thanks Horoscope Weekly. New episodes release every Monday, wherever you get your podcasts. Just search for “Horoscope Weekly with Aliza Kelly”.Thanks Flure. Check out the Flure Dating App at www.flure.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Transcribe →Episode 174: Ask Us Anything: Addressing All Of Your Assumptions
Sep 19, 202401:02:22Tap to summarizeDoes Vanessa wear the pants in the relationship? Are we skipping out on meetings to have sex in the middle of the day? Are we rich??It’s time for another round of Ask Us Anything, and we’re answering all your nosiest assumptions. We’re covering the most personal topics involving our relationship, our business, and even our sex lives.Links & Resources:Course: Your Best Week EverIf you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow.Thanks Cozy Earth. CozyEarth.com and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKSThanks Chewy. Save $20 on your first order and get free shipping by going to chewy.com/PILLOWSThanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code PILLOW at oneskin.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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