
Renowned director Rob Reiner and his wife, photographer Michelle Singer Reiner, were found dead in their home over the weekend. What we know so far about their deaths.
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Colby Ekowitz
From I'll have what she's having to you Can't Handle the Truth. Rob Reiner's films gave us some of the most iconic movie moments of all time. He directed more than 20 films including When Harry Met Sally, A Few Good Men and the Princess Bride. On Saturday afternoon, Reiner and his wife Mary Michelle Singer were found dead in their Los Angeles home. He was 78 and she was 70. Late Sunday night, their son, 32 year old Nick Reiner was arrested on suspicion of their murder. He's now being held in an LA Correctional center without bail. The Reiners were Hollywood royalty. He an actor, director, her a photographer and a producer. They both were influential in Democratic politics and causes. And the news of their deaths have devastated both the entertainment and political worlds. From the newsroom of the Washington Post, this is Post Reports. I'm Colby ekowitz. It's Tuesday, December 16th. Today we speak to Post features reporter Sonia Rao about the death of Rob Reiner, his cultural and political legacy and how President Donald Trump responded to Reiner's passing. Sonia, thank you so much for joining me.
Sonia Rao
Hi, thank you for having me.
Colby Ekowitz
So Sonia, I mean when I heard about the details of the death of Rob Reiner and his wife Michelle Singer Reiner, it's tragic and difficult to fathom. You and I were talking Tuesday morning. What do we know at this point about what happened?
Sonia Rao
So we know that Rob Reiner, the filmmaker and his wife Michelle Singer Reiner, a photographer and producer, were found dead in their home in Brentwood neighborhood in Los Angeles. They were found Sunday afternoon Pacific time. We don't know exactly when their murders happened at this point. And I say murders because police are investigating this as a homicide.
Colby Ekowitz
Right.
Sonia Rao
In the immediate aftermath of this news spreading, it wasn't clear who the suspect was. There were rumors flying around about a disturbed family member perhaps. Now we do know that the Los Angeles authorities are looking into their son, actually Nick Reiner, who has struggled with substance abuse issues in the past. That has definitely put a strain on their relationship and they've been very open about that.
Colby Ekowitz
Yeah. Tell me a little bit more about Nick's relationship with his parents. And I don't know if there's been a discussion of motive.
Sonia Rao
There definitely has not been a public discussion of motive from him, at least in terms of what they, you know, both parents and son have talked about publicly in the media. They made a film together. Rob Reiner directed. Nick co wrote the screenplay for it based on his own experiences.
Colby Ekowitz
Being Charlie, right, is the name of the movie.
Sonia Rao
Being Charlie is The name of the film. They've had a very tumultuous relationship, starting from, you know, his teen years. Nick was using. He was in and out of rehab facilities. He's been open, even sitting next to his father in interviews about the fact that he didn't always feel like that was the best treatment for him. One of those interviews was with Access Hollywood in 2016.
Nick Reiner (clip)
I was like, okay, I'm pretty bored of this. It wasn't like, I want to go back to be well. I was like, I'm sick of this cycle. This using drugs, it being so temporary, the fix, then going back into a place for months on end, then getting out and just, you know, rinse washes, just being my life.
Sonia Rao
Yeah, I think it built some resentment at times. But they would make up, right? They would make up, they would fight, they would make up again. And I think that, you know, a lot of people who are familiar with addiction and substance abuse issues can relate to that relationship. And I think that's part of why they were so open about it. You know, it's not an easy ride, especially not for the parents and not for the person using. And so I think they were trying their best to take care of their kid. And so I think this was really shocking both to the public and those who knew the Reiners as well, because.
Colby Ekowitz
When they did their movie Being Charlie Together, which was about a famous person and his son's drug addiction, they talked about how it was healing in many ways to work on that film together. Cause it opened up a lot of those. A lot of the, you know, the conversations that maybe they hadn't had about how Nick felt, that, you know, maybe the therapies and the rehab weren't the best course of treatment, that he wasn't maybe getting the support that he needed at the time. Yeah.
Sonia Rao
And I think there's a line in the film that both the Reiners, you know, both father and son, kind of narrowed in on, especially Rob Reiner when discussing this film. I'm paraphrasing here, but it amounts to, you know, I'm sorry that I only listened to the people with the medical degrees who told me they knew was best and didn't listen to you. My son.
Nick Reiner (clip)
I'm sorry. Every expert with a desk and a diploma told me I had to be tough on you. But every time we sent you away to another one of those programs, I saw you slipping further away from us.
Sonia Rao
And I think, again, that's just a story that I'm sure resonates with so many families. I think Nick was saying, you know, my parents didn't know what to believe. They didn't know whether to believe me or to believe these medical professionals saying I was manipulating them. And it's just. It's such a difficult situation to hear people talk about. And they put it out there. You know, they did that in a movie.
Colby Ekowitz
Right. And I know that you said that we don't know specifically what the motive was, but there has been reporting that Rob and his son had an argument over the weekend. What do we know about that?
Sonia Rao
Yes, there have been multiple sources stating that they had some sort of argument that was audible to others at Conan o' Brien's Christmas party, which is an annual event, I believe. And so that was the night before their bodies were found. That was Saturday of this past weekend. That's all we know. I don't think there are any details just yet on what they were talking about, why the fight escalated to the point where others were aware of what was happening.
Colby Ekowitz
But.
Sonia Rao
But, you know, there was an indication that maybe their relationship was not in a great place right now.
Colby Ekowitz
Yeah, I mean, Rob Reiner was a legend. And I wanna spend some time with you talking about the impact that he had on our culture on moviemaking. I mean, When Harry Met Sally, which is one of my all time favorite movies, Same is considered one of the best romantic comedies of all time. Right. I mean, he set the tone for maybe every romantic comedy to come. Let's walk through, you know, his cultural legacy.
Sonia Rao
Yeah. I mean, I think it's. It's almost hard to pick titles when you talk about Ralph Reiner, because, I mean, I think you can say it starts with Spinal Tap.
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Sonia Rao
And you look at the mockumentary genre, what would that look like without this rock band mockumentary. Right. Spinal Tap. And this is the 80s we're talking about. And there's been so much since that's been influenced by him. But even before that, you know, Norman Lear, who made all in the Family with Rob Reiner as an actor, he was a big reason that Spinal Tap got made in the first place. So we're talking TV legacy, we're talking comedy legacy, we're talking film legacy. Right. The West Wing would not exist if not for the American President, which Rob.
Colby Ekowitz
Writer is also one of my favorite movies of all time.
Sonia Rao
Exactly. So I think, you know, there's his works, there's A Few Good Men, there's Stand By Me, of course.
Colby Ekowitz
Yes. The Princess Bride.
Sonia Rao
The Princess Bride. There are these incredible iconic titles. And then there's also his legacy, which shows up in other people's work. And I think a huge part of Rob Reiner's legacy is that, you know, there are a lot of folks who speak to the fact that they met him once, they met him twice, and they were impacted. You know, they were changed. I was actually just thinking about his appearance in the Bear, which happened this year.
Colby Ekowitz
That's right. Right.
Sonia Rao
He shows up. I didn't know he was showing up. And I went, what? Rob Reiner's on the show? Yeah, but, you know, I was on Instagram yesterday and Iowa Debris was posting about him saying, you know, I only met him briefly on this set, but this man influenced me in an immeasurable way. You know, he's why I wanted to do comedy. He's why I wanted to do this.
Colby Ekowitz
It's so true that he did kind of have cameos in so many things from Sleepless in Seattle to Curb youb Enthusiasm to New Girl with Noe Deschanel. Like he. He played her dad. Was that his reputation, that he just kind of would agree to come on and do these things for other people in the industry?
Sonia Rao
I mean, I have to imagine there was some sort of interest vested in the characters he was playing, but he did, you know, by all accounts, just seem like a guy who wanted to support other people's art.
Colby Ekowitz
Yeah.
Sonia Rao
And you know, you can see that in the interviews, in photographs of him always smiling, almost always beaming in photographs. He comes from a family in entertainment, so.
Colby Ekowitz
Right.
Sonia Rao
Of course, in some ways, you know, the son of Carl Reiner. Yes. Maybe he was born for it, but I think, you know, he really fostered that spirit in so many collaborators and so many fans who maybe never even met him that, you know, we're lucky that he did what he did.
Colby Ekowitz
Yeah. Let's talk about his wife, Michelle Singer Reiner. Tell me about her.
Sonia Rao
Yeah, so they met in the 80s, late 80s. Rob was previously married to Penny Marshall, also beloved actress and director. They met on the set of When Harry Met Sally. Actually she was working as a photographer at the time.
Colby Ekowitz
Uh huh.
Ashley Flowers
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Sonia Rao
You know, I don't think he was expecting to fall in love with her. I don't think he was expecting to fall in love at all at that point. And spoiler alert, I guess for those who still haven't seen this movie, which I would suggest remedying, the original ending of this film was supposed to end with best friends not getting together. You know, Harry and Sally were not supposed to end up together, but Rob Reiner meets Michelle, his future wife, and says you know what? I think we should change it. I think men and women can fall in love and be friends at the same time.
Colby Ekowitz
Yeah.
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Sonia Rao
And love is real. And it endures. And he ended up changing the end of that film.
Nick Reiner (clip)
I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.
Sonia Rao
And I don't know what When Harry Met Sally would have been without that ending.
Colby Ekowitz
Right.
Sonia Rao
I don't know if it would have endured the same way. Maybe it would have. I don't want to discredit Nora Ephron's screenplay, which is brilliant, but it is.
Colby Ekowitz
An ending that, like, sticks with you absolutely forever.
Sonia Rao
So I just, I can't imagine how special it was to have that permanent, you know, memory.
Colby Ekowitz
She also, I read she was the photographer that took Donald Trump's photo For his 1987 book, the Art of the Deal. Now, talk about things that are seared in your mind. Like that image of Trump on the COVID of that book, I feel like is seared in the mind of so many people. That's fascinating.
Sonia Rao
It really is. When you look at what the relationship between President Trump and this couple became. Yeah. Down the road, I mean, there's so many instances like that in life. But learning of that was especially eerie to me.
Colby Ekowitz
After the break, the Reiners social and political impact and President Trump's shocking response to their deaths. We'll be right back.
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Sonia Rao
So obviously.
Colby Ekowitz
Rob Reiner had a huge impact on our culture, but he and his wife were also incredibly active in social causes, Democratic politics. What were some of the things that they cared most about?
Sonia Rao
I would say the hallmark achievement of Rob Reiner and Michelle Singer Reiner, who also helped with this, was helping overturn Prop 8, this piece of legislation that banned gay marriage in California, which then.
Colby Ekowitz
Kind of led to the Supreme Court case that legalized gay marriage across the country.
Sonia Rao
Yeah, so I'm not saying they're single handedly responsible for anything, but that was a huge piece.
Colby Ekowitz
They were also really prominent Democratic donors. Yes, as I Understand it. And I remember this from my years covering politics. They held fundraisers for Hillary Clinton, Barack Obama. They were just very much of that world.
Sonia Rao
Mm. And, you know, after the news of their death spread, this isn't unusual for any major figure, but there was a lot of outpouring of support and expressed grief from. From those Democratic politicians that knew them on a personal level.
Colby Ekowitz
And also, Sonia, you alluded to the fact that they were critics of President Trump. Rob Reiner consistently was warning that Trump was a threat to democracy, to the rule of law. I know that was true. In Trump's first term. Did he continue to be that outspoken in the last year?
Sonia Rao
I would say it was, especially during the first term, but that's continued. There's such a aspect of comedy where comedians, you know, are kind of one of the folks who speak truth to power in many ways. And I think Rob Reiner was a big supporter of that. I think he believed in using his platform to espouse his beliefs. And so that, to me, that spirit did seem, you know, to be with him right until the end.
Colby Ekowitz
I mean, and Rob Reiner obviously had this idealized version of politics. You mentioned the American president, which was the inspiration, then later for the West Wing. Both of those, that movie and that TV show show this ideal version of what a president should be or could be. And there's the famous monologue at the end of the American President when Michael Douglas talks about what leadership looks like.
Nick Reiner (clip)
America isn't easy. America is advanced citizenship. You've gotta want it bad. Cause it's gonna put up a fight.
Colby Ekowitz
So I imagine that that's always been a part of who Reiner was.
Sonia Rao
Yeah. And I think even, you know, in terms of leadership, being a director, you.
Colby Ekowitz
Are leading a set.
Sonia Rao
Right. You have department heads who are working under you, you have people working under them. You know, you're the boss. And so I think he understood what it meant to be an empathetic leader in many ways.
Colby Ekowitz
Yeah.
Sonia Rao
Again, the responsibilities are entirely different when you're talking about an actual politician versus a director on a film set. But there are parallels. And all of his collaborators, especially as they're grieving him, but even before that, when they were doing interviews, just about working with him when he was still with us, very open about the fact that he was a thoughtful leader and always put his people first. And I think that translates to the way he looked at the world at large.
Colby Ekowitz
I mean, speaking of Trump, the president posted about the Reiners death in a way that stood in pretty stark contrast to what the the other past presidents and other condolences that poured in yesterday. I wanted to read you a part of what President Trump said on his social media network. He said that Reiner and his wife were killed, quote, reportedly due to the anger he caused others through his massive, unyielding and incurable affliction with a mind crippling disease known as Trump Derangement Syndrome. Then later Monday in the Oval Office, some reporters asked Trump about this and Trump doubled down.
Nick Reiner (clip)
Well, I wasn't a fan of his at all. He was a deranged person as far.
Sonia Rao
As Trump is concerned.
Colby Ekowitz
Trump posts a lot of shocking things about his perceived political enemies, but this feels particularly awful. And there's been some really strong reaction to this post. What have you seen people saying about it?
Sonia Rao
I mean, I would say folks on both sides of the aisle, if we're still referring to the aisle these days, we're shocked by that. I think it's startling to see the President of the United States share such words about such a tragic incident. There's a level of disbelief I felt reading that despite having seen previous posts of his that are along those same lines about different incidents. I think everybody was very surprised by the tenor of that post. It's no secret that Reiner wasn't a fan of Trump and vice versa as a result. But I think this was really a moment of shock for everyone. I mean, even if somehow you escaped Rob Reiner's filmography and haven't seen any of his TV shows or films or any of his appearances, I think you can look at what happened, you can look at the facts of what happened and say, wow, I can't believe our President is posting that.
Colby Ekowitz
Well, and making what it seems like a situation within a family that turned incredibly tragic into something that is about him. When it does not appear that their murders had anything to do with their.
Sonia Rao
Opposition to charge and there has been no indication of that at all from police or, you know, any sources yet.
Colby Ekowitz
Well, Sonia, thank you so much. I know that I'm gonna spend my weekend rewatching When Harry Met Sally for the millionth time and just remembering all their Rob Reiner gave us.
Sonia Rao
So yeah, I'll be doing the same.
Colby Ekowitz
Thanks for joining me.
Sonia Rao
Thanks so much.
Colby Ekowitz
Sonia Ra is a features reporter for the Post. Right before we were set to publish this episode, the LA County District Attorney announced in a press conference that Nick Reiner is being charged with two counts of first degree murder for the alleged killing of his parents. He could face life in prison without parole, without or even the death penalty. That's it for Post Reports. Thanks for listening. We are so grateful to have you as a listener. Now we want to learn more about your listening habits and how you think we can be better. We've got a new survey that we're running for a limited time, and we would love to hear from you. It shouldn't take more than 10 minutes to complete. To do that, you go to washingtonpost.com podcastsurvey again, that is washingtonpost.com podcastsurveY when you're done, you can enter to win $100 gift card. So one more time if that got your attention. That is washingtonpost.com podcastsurvey Today's show was produced by Sabi Robinson. It was mixed by Sam Baer and edited by Peter Bresnan. Thanks to editor Jonathan Fisher. I'm Colby Ekowitz. We'll be back tomorrow with more stories from the Washington Post.
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The Washington Post | December 16, 2025
Host: Colby Ekowitz
Guest: Sonia Rao (Washington Post features reporter)
This episode of Post Reports addressed the shocking deaths of famed director Rob Reiner and his wife, Michelle Singer Reiner, found murdered in their Los Angeles home. The discussion explores the circumstances of their deaths, the turbulent family dynamics that preceded the tragedy, Rob Reiner’s monumental legacy in film and politics, and the intense, controversial reaction from President Donald Trump. The episode reflects on Reiner’s enduring influence both on screen and as a public figure, and considers the broader social and political impact of his and his wife’s work.
Nick Reiner’s Relationship with Parents
Insightful Film Dialogue
"I'm sorry. Every expert with a desk and a diploma told me I had to be tough on you. But every time we sent you away to another one of those programs, I saw you slipping further away from us."
Reported Argument Prior to the Deaths
Film and TV Milestones
Industry Influence and Reputation
"I only met him briefly on this set, but this man influenced me in an immeasurable way. You know, he's why I wanted to do comedy. He's why I wanted to do this."
Roots and Family
Creative and Social Impact
“I think we should change it. I think men and women can fall in love and be friends at the same time.”
Memorable Connection to History
[Resumes after advertisement break at 14:18]
"America isn't easy. America is advanced citizenship. You've gotta want it bad. Cause it's gonna put up a fight."
"[Reiner] and his wife were killed, reportedly due to the anger he caused others through his massive, unyielding and incurable affliction with a mind crippling disease known as Trump Derangement Syndrome.” (17:29)
“I wasn’t a fan of his at all. He was a deranged person as far as I’m concerned.” (18:07)
“I mean, I would say folks on both sides of the aisle… were shocked by that. I think it's startling to see the President of the United States share such words about such a tragic incident.”
Nick Reiner on the cycle of addiction (Access Hollywood interview clip, 03:30):
"I was like, okay, I'm pretty bored of this. It wasn't like, I want to go back to be well. I was like, I'm sick of this cycle. This using drugs, it being so temporary, the fix, then going back into a place for months on end, then getting out and just, you know, rinse washes, just being my life."
Rob Reiner’s philosophy on love (as immortalized in When Harry Met Sally, 10:15):
"I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
On Trump’s response (Sonia Rao, 18:28):
“There's a level of disbelief I felt reading that despite having seen previous posts of his that are along those same lines about different incidents. I think everybody was very surprised by the tenor of that post.”
The episode underscores Rob Reiner’s vast contributions to film, TV, and public life—a legacy marked as much by creative vision as by advocacy for social justice. The podcast thoughtfully navigates the layers of personal tragedy, lasting cultural influence, and volatile political climate surrounding the Reiners’ deaths. While the news is tragic and complicated by family conflict, the love, work, and ideals of both Rob and Michelle Reiner remain celebrated, even as the industry and their admirers process an untimely loss.