Why smaller houses can make us happier

Summary

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Episode: Why smaller houses can make us happier
Date: January 28, 2026
Host: Elahe Izadi
Guest: Michael Coren (The Washington Post’s Climate Coach)
Podcast: The Washington Post’s Post Reports

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Episode Overview

This episode explores a counterintuitive idea: that smaller homes can actually lead to greater happiness, despite societal pressure, market trends, and a cultural obsession with bigger houses. Elahe Izadi and climate coach Michael Coren discuss why “sizing up” often doesn’t bring the anticipated satisfaction—and how social connections, neighborhood, and personal priorities matter far more than square footage.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

The Personal Angle: Living Small

• Introduction: Elahe shares her own experience in a 900-square-foot home, facing pressure (“When my mom stayed for a couple days, she kept talking about how the kitchen was too small…” [00:02]) but finding unexpected positives—like reduced clutter, easier cleaning, and less furnishing expense.
• Sentiment: “I can't really hoard too much stuff... I love that I don't have to spend a lot of time or money furnishing my place or keeping it clean.” ([00:31])
• Michael Coren’s reporting reassures her that there’s research to support these feelings.

Does a Bigger House Make You Happier? (03:06)

• Finding: Michael Coren explains that research shows bigger houses do NOT make people happier—sometimes, they do the opposite.
  • “After we have this brief initial burst of satisfaction... people typically report their life satisfaction returning... and in many cases it even declines.” ([03:06])
• Reason: The trade-offs for a bigger house (time, money, commute, social ties) are often overlooked and outweigh the perceived benefits.
  • “We systematically overlook the costs... and we dramatically undervalue the intangible benefits that actually drive our happiness.” ([03:53])
• Key Insight: It's not just financial strain; even those who can afford more space might lose essential social ties or proximity to what matters most to them. ([05:13])

Square Footage, Household Size, and Happiness (05:36)

• Ideal Space? There’s no universal “ideal” home size; however, having less than ~150 square feet per person can lead to stress or anxiety, but this is personal. ([05:44])
• What Matters: The “currency of happiness” is strong social relationships and neighborhood connections, not square footage.
• Household Size: Michael references research by Gerardo Levia showing that households with four to six people tend to be happiest, regardless of home size.
  • “The effect of sharing with others is positive because... the nature of the connections are of support and understanding and love.” ([07:23] - Gerardo Levia)
  • Latin America vs. US: In places with strong extended families and social ties, people report higher happiness even when incomes or living spaces are smaller. ([07:55])

The American Obsession with Bigger Houses (11:34)

• Trends: US homes have nearly doubled in size since 1970, while the average household has shrunk.
  • “1970... homes were just 1600 square feet. Now... around 2,400” with fewer people in them. ([11:53])
• Why? Michael points to “keeping up with the Joneses”—relative status matters more than absolute size.
  • “People care about relative wealth, not absolute value... comparison is the thief of joy.” ([12:40 - 13:24])
  • The McMansion Effect: People’s satisfaction with their home size is influenced by how their house compares to their neighbors’ homes, not the actual size. ([13:24 - 14:36])
  • Metaphor: Michael likens this to everyone standing at a stadium—when one person stands to see, everyone has to stand, but no one benefits in the end. ([15:14])

Individual Experiences & Downsizing (16:02)

• Downsizing Stories: Michael shares emails from readers who regretted losing space, but also many who found happiness after downsizing—fewer possessions, more free time, closer family ties.
  • “Once you wake up, the reality that is that is more happiness, more time, and much less environmental impact, you don’t go back.” ([17:07])

Environmental Perspective (17:09)

• Climate Impact: Smaller homes use less energy and likely involve shorter commutes—two major factors in individual carbon emissions.
  • “A smaller home... is likely going to mean a much shorter commute. And those are two of the three biggest contributors to your overall emissions.” ([17:18])

How To Choose a Happier Home (18:05)

• Prioritize Neighborhood & Social Ties: “Our happiness depends very much on where we live. Because you could think of a home as emotional infrastructure—how does it facilitate our relationships?” ([18:05])
• Quality Over Quantity: Spaciousness is rarely among the top priorities for home buyers; affordability, proximity to friends and family, and walkable locations matter more.
  • “We only use something like 30% of our homes regularly. And it’s three rooms: living room, dining room, kitchen.” ([19:42])
• Practical Advice: Optimize for quality of life, not number of rooms.

Michael Coren’s Personal Conclusion (20:26)

• After reporting on the topic: Michael feels validated staying in his smaller apartment (with his family and husky) and has little desire to move—except maybe to add a bathroom for practical comfort.
  • “All the things we give up for that extra space are just completely eclipsed by what we do have already.” ([21:09])
  • “I think I was internalizing other people or other values than my own and not even realizing it.” ([21:49])

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “You should feel superior, even.” — Michael Coren ([01:51])
• “After we meet all our needs for shelter and minimum square footage, at best, there’s a tenuous relationship between life satisfaction and the size of our homes.” — Michael Coren ([03:36])
• “Comparison is the thief of joy.” — Michael Coren ([13:24])
• “Once you wake up, the reality that is that is more happiness, more time, and much less environmental impact, you don’t go back.” — Barry Crist (via Michael Coren, [17:07])
• “You could think of a home as emotional infrastructure, it’s how does it facilitate our relationships.” — Michael Coren ([18:05])
• “We only use something like 30% of our homes regularly… living room, dining room, and kitchen.” — Michael Coren ([19:42])
• “I feel so lucky. And the desire to size up has evaporated.” — Michael Coren ([20:49])

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• 00:02 — Elahe’s personal experience with small home living
• 03:06 — Michael Coren discusses research findings on home size and happiness
• 05:44 — Is there an “ideal” square footage? Discussion of household size
• 07:23 — Gerardo Levia on the happiness benefits of shared households
• 11:53 — History of American home sizes and household numbers
• 13:24 — The “keeping up with the Joneses” phenomenon and McMansion effect
• 16:02 — Reader stories on downsizing and its impact
• 17:09 — Climate impact of home size
• 18:05 — Practical advice: what to prioritize when choosing a home
• 20:26 — Michael Coren reflects on his own living situation

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Takeaways

• The assumption that a bigger house equals more happiness is not supported by research.
• Social connections and a fulfilling neighborhood life are far more significant for wellbeing.
• Americans have increased home sizes dramatically, yet are lonelier on average—indicating bigger does not mean better.
• Psychological traps like status comparison (“the McMansion effect”) drive desires for more, even when it doesn’t satisfy.
• Downsizing can bring happiness through less clutter, financial freedom, stronger relationships, and a smaller environmental footprint.
• When house-hunting, focus on community, design, walkability, and personal needs above sheer size.

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For anyone weighing a move or feeling pressure to “size up,” this episode offers both research-backed reassurance and practical advice: happiness is more about who you share your space with and where you are, not how much room you have.

Transcript

[A]

I live in a small house, like 900 square feet small, that's less than half the size of the average American home. And I feel it. When my mom stayed for a couple days, she kept talking about how the kitchen was too small for her to cook in. And whenever I have more than seven people over, it feels like playing Tetris, trying to fit them all into the living room. Sometimes I wonder if I should upgrade, especially when I go online and it feels like everything there is telling me I need more of whatever I already have, including living space. But I've been resistant to sizing up. There are positives of a small home, like I can't really hoard too much stuff. And I love that I don't have to spend a lot of time or money furnishing my place or keeping it clean. And turns out there is research to back me up. My colleague, the Post's climate coach, Michael Goren, has been reporting on this and discovered something surprising, that actually smaller houses can lead to happier lives. From the newsroom of the Washington Post, this is Post Reports. I'm Elahi izadi. It's Wednesday, January 28th. Today I speak with Mike about why bigger houses don't necessarily make us happier and how most of us are asking the wrong questions when we're trying to figure out where to live next. Mike, thanks for being on the show today.

[B]

Hey, my pleasure, Mike.

[C]

I have a small house, as I've said, and your story made me feel so much better about having a small house. So thank you for that.

[B]

You should feel superior, even.

[C]

I do, in fact, and I sent it to some people in my life, like, ha. Vindication.

[B]

Yes.

[C]

So, Mike, really, what made you want to look into this question of do bigger homes make us happier?

[B]

Well, my friend Jay mentioned that she had raised two kids in a 500 square foot apartment in New York City. And then she mentioned that everyone would hang out there and it was the smallest apartment of all her friends and it was built like a ship because it was such a tight fit. She also said it was like the best years of her life and it wasn't without inconveniences, but it was the most meaningful. And so that fascinated me. And then of course, there's selfish reasons. I have two toddlers and a husky in a 950 square foot apartment or a flat in San Francisco. And so my wife and I have been talking about sizing up, but I was hesitant. So this is all on my mind.

[C]

Yeah, I love the idea of using your position as a journalist so look into a question about what should I do with my own life?

[B]

I'm just solving my own problems. Yeah, they just happen to be other people's problems as well.

[C]

I love it. I love it. So, really, okay, the big question here that you looked into, and here it is, does having a bigger house make you happier? What does the research say about that question?

[B]

So we can definitively say that a bigger house does not make people happier on average, and in fact, it often does the opposite. So after we have this brief initial burst of satisfaction with new homes, people typically report their life satisfaction returning to close to its previous state. And in many cases it even declines. So basically, after we meet all our needs for shelter and minimum square footage, at best, there's a tenuous relationship between life satisfaction and the size of our homes.

[A]

So I think this is fascinating because there is this assumption, at least in.

[C]

In the US that specifically like, a.

[A]

Bigger house will make you happier.

[C]

But you're saying, actually, no, the research doesn't bear that out. So why does a bigger house not.

[A]

Lead to more happiness?

[B]

So it turns out when you ask people, are you happy with your house? That's very different than asking people, are you happy with your life? And so, yeah, you can enjoy your house more, but you can also enjoy your life less. And so, you know, does that mean that a bigger house automatically makes you unhappy? It does not. But generally, what we give up in pursuit of these bigger houses makes us unhappier. So basically, all the things that a house might give us can't compensate us for many things that we give up because time, money and distance are, you know, are real trade offs when we decide, I want a bigger house, so that means we have to uproot our life and go somewhere else. So we systematically overlook the costs, the mortgage, the commute, the maintenance, and the social disruption. And then we dramatically undervalue the intangible benefits actually drive our happiness. So this is like seeing our kids at night, hanging with friends, having free time, knowing our neighbors, walking places. And so we're basically overvaluing things that don't ultimately make us happy in the long run and undervaluing things that do.

[A]

So I guess one part of this question is, are people just like, pushing beyond their means when they are reaching for that bigger house?

[B]

Not necessarily. So even if you can afford a bigger house, if that means that you then lose the friend next door, or you lose that tight social network you had, or you no longer can walk to the places that you want, that actually matters just as much or more as if you were stretching yourself financially to get there. So it's not one or the other, but you really have to look at it in totality.

[C]

Is there actually, like, an ideal square footage that makes us happiest or that.

[A]

We should be aiming for?

[B]

No, there's no ideal size, but there's probably a floor. So in my research, it was around 150 square feet per person. That was the point at which a lot of people felt anxious or stressed or even depressed from overcrowding. And even that's personal. So my friend Jay was well under that number, and she was okay despite the inconveniences. But that's not to say that a tiny house is going to make you happy. There's no ideal. Everyone's different. Everyone has different needs. And so basically, you should think about the square footage as independent of the things that matter. Because the currency of happiness, ultimately, is social relationships, is how plugged in are we to the people we love, the people we care about, the people around us and the environment around us. And to the extent that you can optimize for that is the extent to which you can cash in on your happiness.

[A]

I want to, like, stick with this idea of a household size, though, because in some ways, it's like you're saying not how big the house is, but how many people are in it and.

[C]

Who'S in it with you. When you were looking into household sizes.

[A]

What did you learn about the connection.

[C]

Between how many people are in a.

[A]

Home to how big it is?

[B]

So that was a surprise for me. I didn't expect that to be one of the main findings, but household size is actually a big driver of overall happiness. It's not the only one, but it's a big one. Gerardo Levia, he's an economist and researcher at Ibo American University in Mexico City, basically analyzed data from, like, tens of thousands of households in Mexico and Europe. And what he found was that people who live alone and the people who live with lots of people are not the happiest overall on the average.

[D]

The effect of sharing with others is positive because in general, the nature of the connections are of support and understanding and love.

[B]

Well, what's interesting, though, is that people living alone did report the most satisfaction with their financial lives, so they were most happy with their finances. However, that trend didn't apply when you asked about overall happiness. And by far, the happiest households peaked around four to six people in the. And that was regardless of home size.

[A]

Oh, wow.

[B]

In fact, when you look at Latin America data, the happiness in most countries is far happier than the GDP per capita would predict. That's likely because they have these strong households and these extended family connections. And Levi predicts that basically we have these strong households that form strong emotional bonds that act like a shock absorber for life.

[D]

The family life and the social life in these countries is particularly rich. In these countries we like to be happy and the fiestas and connecting with other people. And this kind of social effervescence kind of compensates for other fields in which don't fare as well, like income and life expectancy, for example.

[B]

And so it compensates for maybe the inconveniences that you have in a smaller home or even a little slightly more crowded home.

[C]

Because, yeah, you've got like people to laugh with.

[A]

And just like that sort of social connection, it makes life a little easier to get through.

[B]

That's right. That's right. And it does so in a way that's just greater than having an extra bathroom or maybe an extra bedroom. As nice as those might be.

[A]

After the break, what to prioritize when choosing a new home. We'll be right back.

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[C]

Mike, you mentioned research in other countries.

[A]

In Europe and Latin America.

[C]

If we're talking about the United States. Just from my own observation, I'm not a professional in this regard, although I do like to scroll on Zillow for fun. It seems like houses in this country are getting bigger. So is my assumption correct?

[B]

You have been correct. So historically, 1970, for example, homes were just 1600 square feet. And now a new single family family home is around 2,400 square feet. That's slightly down from its peak around 2,500 in the 2000 and tens. But yes, we are living in the biggest homes in history in the United States, and yet we have the fewest number of people living in them. So 1970 there were more than 2.8 people per average per household, and now we're at a record low of around 2.5. So what that ultimately means is that we have more square feet per person, like around 940 and, and that's almost double than what we had in 1970.

[C]

Seems like we're obsessed with building bigger houses. Why are we doing that if they don't make us happier?

[B]

Well, like I said, you know, economists have found that we are really bad at understanding what will make us happy in the long run. And so what we tend to do is optimize for things that seem like they're going to give us happiness. And they may in the short run, but that value, that contentedness, tends to evaporate. So basically, you could almost boil this down in many ways to this. One of the strongest findings in social science, which is that people care about relative wealth, not absolute value. That is that people will choose a smaller home if it's still larger than most of their neighbors. So in other words, it's keeping up with the Joneses.

[A]

Oh my Gosh, the root of all.

[C]

The root of all of our troubles.

[E]

Right.

[C]

Is just comparison.

[B]

Yeah, I mean, there's a saying that comparison is the thief of joy. And they're absolutely 1,000% right. And it's very hard for people to overcome that consciously or subconsciously. So one of the researchers I talked to, Clement Belle, he called it the McMansion effect.

[A]

Wait, Mike, just real quick, what is a McMansion?

[B]

So there was a technical definition in the research, basically that McMansions are these single family houses that are just bigger than the average houses in the suburbs, about 3,000 square feet. And so in 1980, only like 5% of suburban houses met this definition. But by 2008 or so, that was about 15% of all homes. Clement Belle, he actually went into the American suburbs. He's a Dutch researcher. And what he found was that larger homes were not, on average, making people happier. Their well being did not increase. And what he found that mattered most was how close the size of one's house was to the largest houses in the neighborhood. Meaning that the people who moved into a larger home, all the benefit that they achieved in the short term for that larger home from terms of happiness was erased when there were larger homes nearby in the same neighborhood.

[A]

Oh, so like, okay, let's say I move into the a. A big, A house bigger than mine, and I like, I'm feeling pretty good.

[C]

But then two blocks over, someone builds an even bigger house and ah, all the benefits, all the satisfaction I felt immediately went away because I'm like, that house is bigger. I want that.

[B]

Or if you're just the smaller house in the bigger neighborhood, you actually aren't going to see a persistent happiness effect. The analogy I like to use is basically, let's say you're in a sport, at a stadium, watching a game, and then one person stands up and so the person behind them can't see. And so they stand up, another person stands up. And so basically at the end, no one's left sitting because everyone is trying to see over the other person in front of them.

[D]

And.

[B]

And no one is better off and the experience of the game is ruined. And that is life in a lot of American communities.

[A]

Yeah, just like, sit down.

[B]

Easily said, but hard to do. And this kind of holds true not just with houses, but with income. For example, if someone's offered a monetary reward, they will pick a monetary reward that's smaller if they know that other people are getting one that's even smaller than theirs. And so people will forego a larger absolute Value in terms of income or assets in order to make sure that their status or like their relative value is not lower. So that's kind of the reverse. So that we, we care very much about what our status is relative to our neighbors more than what's the absolute value of the house that I have or the money I have, even.

[A]

So, Mike, I'm curious.

[C]

The people you spoke to, did anyone tell you anything surprising or that just.

[A]

Stood out to you about why they.

[C]

Liked their smaller living quarters?

[B]

Yeah, I had quite a few readers write me on both sides. Like someone who had moved from the Northeast to a condo in Florida, and she actually was regretting the lack of space. She had to put things on her balcony because she didn't have storage. And so there are people like that for sure. And those are real inconveniences. I'm not diminishing those in any way. However, there were many people who said this was the best decision they ever made to downsize from whatever large home, sometimes three homes they had to something much smaller. Barry Crist and his wife Maureen, they downsized from a home, a big home in Seattle, to this fixer upper cabin in Lopez island in Washington state. And all the contractors, when they were trying to build, basically wanted to tear it down and build something big to, quote, fully realize our property investment return. And they didn't do it. They have never been happier. And he says, you know, once you wake up, the reality that is, that is more happiness, more time, and much less environmental impact, you don't go back. And so that was the right decision for them.

[C]

Those examples are pretty interesting.

[A]

And also, like, one thing we haven't hit on, and I know you're like the climate coach, right? From a climate perspective, what are the implications of like a bigger house versus smaller house?

[B]

I didn't actually mention this explicitly because I think one of the most important things for people is not necessarily the climate impact, but how this home makes them feel. It's such an emotional decision. But you're absolutely right. A smaller home going to consume a lot less energy. It's likely going to mean a much shorter commute. And those are two of the three biggest contributors to your overall emissions, basically, is how you get around and where you live. So, yeah, it's a massive proportion of your total impact.

[A]

Yeah. Okay, so, like, if I'm looking for a new place to buy, like, what. What are some of the very practical, like, or just straightforward questions I should ask myself that would allow me to make a decision with my priorities in.

[B]

Order so I think the first thing to focus on is your neighborhood. And it sounds weird because you're buying a home, but really you're buying a place. And one of the things that shows up in the data is that our happiness depends very much on where we live. Because you could think of a home as emotional infrastructure is how does it facilitate our relationships. And that's not only inside the home, but around us. And if we're isolated and we feel like we can't plug into this larger community, that's going to make a massive difference. And even if you have a bigger home that's really private and really comfortable, it may not be enough. And everyone has different priorities on what they're looking for in neighborhood. But I think it's actually more important than people think. The other one is quality over quantity. So space per se is really not the most important metric. There was a good study in Canada and it asked people, you know, what was most important to them. And the house design or the house size was really number eight or nine on the list. And what was much higher was affordability, proximity to friends and family, and their ability to basically walk places that they wanted to go. And so I think that when you think about what space is gonna do for you, certainly a minimum is important. But after that, we only use something like 30% of our homes regularly. And it's three rooms. It's the living room, the dining room, and the kitchen. You know, obviously we sleep in our bedrooms.

[C]

Yeah, I was like, I use. I'm like, I use all my rooms, all your rooms.

[B]

And you're probably a little bit of an exception cause you have a smaller house. But they had studies where they do motion tracking and they found that basically 70% our waking life is spent in these three rooms. And a lot of our sort of bigger spaces, whether they're game rooms or cinema rooms or all these sort of amenities are nice, but they often end up as very pricey sort of storage that. Where people don't use them regularly. And if you're spending a lot of money to have those, that comes at a cost, it's not free. And so that's something to consider. Of course, you know, if it's not a. If money and space is no limitation, that might apply here, but for many people it does.

[C]

So, Mike, we started this conversation out with you, explaining. Part of your quest of looking into.

[A]

This question was driven by your own.

[C]

Living situation, of living in the flat that you live in with, you know, three family members and a big dog. Now that you've done all this reporting.

[A]

And research and also just deep thinking about this topic. How do you feel now about your current living situation?

[B]

I feel so lucky. And the desire to size up has evaporated. I should say has been replaced by the certainty that I will probably add an extra bathroom onto my current house.

[C]

So you did assess how you could optimize your happiness, but it ended at a bathroom.

[B]

That's right. It really did. And because I think that all the things we give up for that extra space are just completely eclipsed by what we do have already and the inconvenience that we're really trying to solve for is the extra bathroom. And you know, we're gonna spend more money than we'd like to do that. But compared to moving, the real cost of moving, not just the financial cost, would be so much higher. And so at least for now, we're very happy, I think, with what we have. And we'll know what to look for when we decide to move, if we ever do. And I think I was internalizing other people or other values than my own and not even realizing it. And so this allowed me to really be true to what I actually think is going to make me happy in a way that I just couldn't put my finger on before.

[A]

I love that.

[C]

Mike, thank you so much for sharing your reporting with us.

[A]

This was so fun.

[B]

My pleasure. It was great to be here. Thank you so much.

[A]

Michael Coran is the Post's climate coach. That's it for Post Reports. Thanks for listening. Today's show was produced by Sabi Robinson. It was mixed by Shawn Carter and edited by Dennis Funk. Thanks to Marissa Bellic. If you love the show, help other people discover it by leaving a rating on Spotify or a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. I'm Elahi Izadi. We'll be back tomorrow with more stories from the Washington Post.

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