At This Point

Summary

Pour Minds Podcast - Episode: "At This Point" Summary

Released on December 13, 2024 by 85 South Media

Hosts: Lex P and Dre Nicole

Description: Two single Houstonians residing in Atlanta, Drea and Lex navigate life, friendships, and dating, discussing hot topics while enjoying their favorite wines. Their conversations resemble a candid therapy session with friends, offering listeners relatable insights and engaging dialogue.

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1. Navigating Viral Content and Audience Feedback (00:00 - 02:40)

The episode begins with Lex and Dre addressing recent feedback from their YouTube audience. They discuss a viral short that garnered unexpectedly high views (500,000+) and mixed reactions. While some viewers praised their content, a significant number criticized them, leading Lex to acknowledge the validity of certain constructive comments.

Notable Quote:

• Lex P (01:17): "Somebody was like, can y'all move that centerpiece? It's kind of distracting. But when I looked at it, I'm like, it low key is."

2. Body Image, Plastic Surgery, and Authenticity (02:40 - 24:36)

A substantial portion of the discussion centers on body modifications such as Brazilian Butt Lifts (BBL), liposuction (lipo), and other aesthetic procedures. Lex shares her perspective on maintaining authenticity amidst societal pressures and the double standards often faced by Black women regarding body image.

Key Points:

• Honesty about Procedures: Lex emphasizes the importance of being truthful about any body modifications to combat misconceptions and false accusations.
• Double Standards: Both hosts highlight how Black women are frequently scrutinized and unfairly judged for their natural curves versus those attained through procedures.
• Impact of Aging: They discuss how natural body changes with age can be misinterpreted as surgical enhancements.

Notable Quotes:

• Dre Nicole (14:24): "I just hate when people lie. I don't want to say hate because hate is a strong word."
• Lex P (22:33): "But I do think it's very strange to lie about it. Just keep it cute and keep it on mute."

3. Putting Relationships Before Work: A Gendered Perspective (24:36 - 41:10)

Lex and Dre delve into the dynamics of prioritizing relationships over personal and professional responsibilities. They argue that women often compromise their ambitions when entering relationships, contrasting this with men's tendency to maintain focus on their goals.

Key Points:

• Women’s Ambition: The hosts express concern that women may temporarily halt their career progression for romantic relationships.
• Supportive Partners: They advocate for partners who support and encourage personal and professional growth rather than hindering it.
• Personal Boundary Setting: Emphasis on the importance of setting boundaries to ensure that relationships do not impede individual success.

Notable Quotes:

• Dre Nicole (32:08): "Absolutely the fuck not. No. Like, no."
• Lex P (36:22): "Because if they don't feel like your job is valuable or what you're doing is valuable, they'll be like, oh, yeah, girl, you don't got to do that."

4. Self-Improvement and the Seven Deadly Sins (41:10 - 54:35)

The conversation shifts to self-improvement, focusing on the seven deadly sins: sloth, pride, gluttony, wrath, envy, greed, and lust. Lex and Dre discuss their personal challenges and areas they aim to improve, encouraging listeners to engage in self-reflection.

Key Points:

• Identifying Personal Weaknesses: Each host identifies specific sins they recognize within themselves—Lex focuses on pride, while Dre contemplates wrath.
• Commitment to Growth: They express intentions to work on these areas in the upcoming year, promoting continuous personal development.

Notable Quotes:

• Lex P (43:49): "I can't hang around Lex too much, though, y'all. Cause I be serious about my diet."
• Dre Nicole (46:00): "I'm very prideful."

5. Pornography in Relationships: Boundaries and Perceptions (54:35 - 62:34)

Lex and Dre explore the topic of pornography within romantic relationships, discussing acceptable boundaries and the potential for addiction. They reflect on societal perceptions and personal experiences related to porn consumption.

Key Points:

• Healthy vs. Excessive Use: Differentiating between occasional use and excessive consumption that may indicate deeper issues.
• Impact on Intimacy: Addressing how excessive porn use can affect the emotional and sexual intimacy between partners.
• Changing Landscape of Pornography: Both hosts note the evolving nature of pornographic content and its impact on viewer satisfaction.

Notable Quotes:

• Lex P (56:56): "I don't think there's nothing wrong with watching porn. But I do feel like you... shouldn't have to... like, get off or whatever like that."
• Dre Nicole (57:27): "I feel like back in the day, they used to get straight to it."

6. Listener Questions and Real-Life Scenarios (62:34 - 81:37)

The hosts engage with listener-submitted questions and testimonials, offering advice based on their experiences. Topics include unhealthy relationships with significant age gaps and challenges faced by young professionals in the nightlife industry.

Key Points:

• Age-Gap Relationships: Advising young listeners to recognize red flags in relationships where there is a significant age difference.
• Professional Boundaries: Discussing how to maintain professional integrity and personal boundaries in environments like bartending, where social interactions can lead to misunderstandings.

Notable Quotes:

• Lex P (72:26): "If a man is dating a woman that's extremely young, like it's different."
• Dre Nicole (75:05): "You got bills to pay. You have things that you need to do with your money."

7. Community Engagement and Social Media Awareness (81:37 - 85:20)

Concluding the episode, Lex and Dre warn listeners about counterfeit social media accounts impersonating the podcast. They emphasize the importance of interacting only through verified channels to maintain authenticity and community trust.

Notable Quote:

• Lex P (82:15): "So if you on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers."

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Conclusion

In "At This Point," Lex P and Dre Nicole tackle a variety of pertinent issues ranging from body image and authenticity to relationship dynamics and personal growth. Their candid conversations offer listeners valuable insights into maintaining personal integrity amidst external pressures and societal expectations. Through honest dialogue and relatable anecdotes, the hosts encourage self-reflection and empowerment, fostering a supportive community for their audience.

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Notable Moments and Quotes:

• On Authenticity:
  Dre Nicole (14:24): "I just hate when people lie. I don't want to say hate because hate is a strong word."

• On Balancing Relationships and Ambition:
  Lex P (36:22): "Because if they don't feel like your job is valuable or what you're doing is valuable, they'll be like, oh, yeah, girl, you don't got to do that."

• On Self-Improvement:
  Lex P (43:49): "I can't hang around Lex too much, though, y'all. Cause I be serious about my diet."

• On Pornography in Relationships:
  Lex P (56:56): "I don't think there's nothing wrong with watching porn. But I do feel like you... shouldn't have to... like, get off or whatever like that."

• On Social Media Authenticity:
  Lex P (82:15): "So if you on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers."

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Timestamp Reference Guide:

• 00:00 - 02:40: Introduction and Audience Feedback
• 02:40 - 24:36: Body Image and Authenticity
• 24:36 - 41:10: Relationships vs. Professional Goals
• 41:10 - 54:35: Self-Improvement and Seven Deadly Sins
• 54:35 - 62:34: Pornography in Relationships
• 62:34 - 81:37: Listener Questions and Real-Life Advice
• 81:37 - 85:20: Social Media Authenticity Warning

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Note: This summary excludes promotional segments, advertisements, and non-content sections to focus solely on the core discussions and insights shared by Lex P and Dre Nicole.

Transcript

[A]

But I'm talk. If a man has you in his house, he wants you doing something.

[B]

I disagree.

[A]

He wants you doing something. I disagree.

[B]

I think some men. I think if you date somebody wealthy enough, they don't want you doing nothing.

[A]

Actually, you going to have to wash a sheet or something. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's.

[B]

Your girl Dre Nicole.

[A]

And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds, where a drunk.

[B]

Mind speaks sober thoughts.

[A]

We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today.

[B]

Hey.

[A]

Oh, my gosh. You know what I meant to do.

[B]

What?

[A]

You know. So I'll be reading the YouTube comments and stuff because I like. I like constructive criticism. So when people tell me things about the show, I'm always like, okay. Some I listen to, some I don't, because I can tell when someone's being, like, genuine. So somebody was like, can y'all move that centerpiece? It's kind of distracting. But when I looked at it, I'm like, it low key is. And it do be in the way because there's nothing like.

[B]

So you mean to move it?

[A]

I'm gonna move it. Okay. Okay. You can just set it right here for now. But I forgot to move it, so. Because it was. It's just there.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know what I'm saying?

[B]

I mean, it's, you know, decor, but.

[A]

It wasn't really adding.

[B]

It wasn't really adding. Yeah. I mean, I feel you. But I do feel like something needs to be right there. I hate an empty table.

[A]

Yeah. Maybe we'll get, I don't know, something better, but it just kind of blocks.

[B]

It's just, I don't know, like, blocks the view.

[A]

Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

I mean, I understand that. I think I had seen that comment, too. I don't really be reading the comments. I just sometimes will see some occasionally when it'll, like, pop up for the notifications. We had a video that went viral on YouTube.

[A]

Oh, my God. I'm so sorry.

[B]

A short. It was the first time.

[A]

We never go viral on the shorts.

[B]

Yeah, the shorts never get a whole bunch.

[A]

They'd be, like, 440 views.

[B]

And it's, like, so crazy because it's like a old, old, old YouTube short from before we even moved to this studio. Remember, like, when we had recorded those two episodes at that old studio? I mean, at that studio we had to rent because we had moved out of the.

[A]

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay.

[B]

So, yeah, we were, like, talking about men not being able to get it back up.

[A]

Like, oh, for round two. I do remember that. Oh, yeah, I did see it. I did see it.

[B]

And I don't know why it's so random. Out of nowhere, it just went viral, and now it's at, like, 500,000 views.

[A]

That's so crazy.

[B]

On YouTube. And people have been commenting on it every day. So every time I look at our YouTube channel, I see nothing but comments about that. And they've been going in on us, like, bad.

[A]

Oh, my gosh, they're so mean.

[B]

That's why I don't read the comments.

[A]

They were being mean to us.

[B]

Yes. I mean, some people was being nice, of course, but it was a lot of people being like, I can't believe that this is what the Internet has come to. These are the conversations and discussions that we're having. Me and you could talk about a plethora of serious topics and other things, and people will see one clip like that and swear that we bird brains and we don't have nothing to talk about.

[A]

But you know what's crazy?

[B]

Other than sex?

[A]

I'll say this. When poor minds first started, we were the, like, craziest thing, because we were. The things we would say was like, I can't believe that they're saying this on camera, but you're thinking it. No, no, no, no, no. But what I'm saying is now we're very light work. Modest. Not. Let me not say modest.

[B]

I said mild. Mild.

[A]

Mild.

[B]

Mild.

[A]

We're very mild to the things that people say on podcasts now.

[B]

We ain't as spicy as we used to be.

[A]

So I be like, when stuff like that goes viral, it's not that crazy. But it's like we are not talking about anything that's just so craz crazy that you haven't seen before.

[B]

I mean, I don't know. Sometimes, like I said, I just feel like you were thinking it, but we just said it. So, like, what's the problem? It's the same thing you were thinking, but it's an issue because we said it publicly.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

It's something that everybody go. But it's always things that everybody goes through. It's like you're cringing and you're, like, clutching your pearls at some.

[A]

That y'all probably do remember the cursing.

[B]

Oh, I forgot my bad body. Gonna bleep it.

[A]

I'm weak. Okay. I want to talk about the dress. The body is audience. Thank you. We kind of matching together.

[B]

We are. We coordinate.

[A]

Little one two. You got the real latex.

[B]

We looking like Two Hershey Kiss bars.

[A]

Girl.

[B]

But anyways. Yeah. So this dress. Oh, my God, it's a House of CB dress, and it's so hard to get into. This is the second time that I wore it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Cause I wore it when we did the LA show, the LA Live show for Netflix. And then I was like, oh, I never wore it for episodes. I'm gonna put it on today. It was a struggle. It was a struggle. It was. It's like. Then you have to, like, lube it up the first time you wear it. And it's only a certain type of lube you can use.

[A]

Yeah. So latex. I didn't know that there's like, a whole, like, big community of, like, latex lovers. I got.

[B]

They can have it. Because then you be sweating up your hair, start smelling like a.

[A]

You have to use a cert. I don't have anything real. I don't. Well, I don't have any latex or anything like that in my closet. Just because once I did my research on it, I was like, oh, this is not for me. Because you really have to take care of latex. You can't just use any type of oil, like baby oil, because it'll break down the latex and it'll actually rip. But there's like, a whole community, like, on TikTok, like, online, they're like latex lovers. So I was actually trying to get a Halloween costume one year that was latex. And when I did my research on, I was like, oh, no, this is very hardcore. This is very hard. And speaking of how it is.

[B]

But it's like, to me, I don't.

[A]

Know, it's too much.

[B]

You just use. You. You just use lube.

[A]

Yeah, but see, you are, like. I won't say petite, but you're small. So. Yes.

[B]

Ain't nothing about me petite, but my waist.

[A]

But what I was saying is, like, you wear small, medium, so you don't. You know what I'm saying? For me to put something like that on, I would have to go to Grey's Anatomy and get operated on.

[B]

No, no, I don't think so. Cause, I mean, that's the point, though. Like, when you put the lube, you have to put the lube on your body, and you have to put it on the jury so that if you. You can just slide in there.

[A]

Move your body like a snake.

[B]

Yeah, you gotta just slide in there. And I mean, it really does help. It's just super tight.

[A]

Yeah. No, thank you.

[B]

I don't like the smell of latex that's what I don't really like.

[A]

You be walking around smelling like a condom.

[B]

I just said that real, like, two minutes ago.

[A]

I wasn't paying attention.

[B]

Yes, that's why I was saying to be smelling like a condom because it's so tight and be sweating.

[A]

So, Ty, what we drinking today?

[B]

I ain't even named this one yet. I was hoping y'all was gonna get deeper in the episode.

[A]

Look, I said we on a time crunch today.

[B]

She was not prepared.

[A]

Well, since y'all went viral, we going to call this viral vibe. Okay? Period. So this one is. You can choose whatever.

[B]

Spirit of choice. Again, Autumn Winter vibes is where we're. We're coming through with this one. We have some pomegranate juice, a little bit of lime juice, and some blood orange syrup. Y'all know I am obsessed with blood.

[A]

I love blood orange.

[B]

Oh, my God. And then we topped it off with a little bit of ginger beer. If you're at home. You could also use, like, a PRCO or, like, a sparkling rose that would, like, be really good with this as well. And then we garnished it with some of those pomegranate arrows at the bottom, so, like, when you stir it, you can kind of see them floating around just a little bit better.

[A]

It's giving holiday.

[B]

I'm ready. It tastes really, really good. I love blood orange, too. Like those blood orange San Pellegrinos. They are so good. I wonder how they would taste in a drink. Good. You want me to try it? I'll try it one day.

[A]

Cheers, y'all. I like that. Cheers. What's up, y'all?

[B]

It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Dre Nicole.

[A]

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[B]

I.

[A]

Wanted to talk about. I don't like. Of course y'all know we don't like to talk about people specifically. I just do. I do have a question I wanted to ask you and I wanted to say this not necessarily in this girl's defense, but I just think it's so weird. So. And we've talked about this before we have on the show, but I just wanted to address this real quick and then we gonna get into the topic. So y'all know Jay. Nice. Is it Jay or Jai?

[B]

I'm not sure.

[A]

Okay. I don't wanna say her name wrong. Y'all know I hate pronouncing people name wrong. So you know, I'm just on instagram yesterday scrolling being nosy like I always do. I'm always in everybody business. So if you see me in your story, don't be like, oh my God, Lex P. No, I'm being nosy, girl. I'm just being nosy so I can be messy.

[B]

Yeah. One thing about me, I watch anybody page from my real page.

[A]

She do.

[B]

I don't care. So if you see me in your views, same thing. Or you came up on my explore page and I was just like, oh, let me go, let me go see.

[A]

Let me go see the tea. So basically she dropp a new line of like workout clothes and supplements and all this stuff and she took some bomb ass pictures. Like, I'm not gonna lie, they're beautiful pictures, workout gear showing her body. And we all know she has an amazing body.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So everybody was like, oh, I hate that pipeline of girls getting bbls to being a workout guru person. So it's been going on for like two weeks. Everybody been like talking about her eating her up online. So she posted yesterday, she was like, why can y'all just not believe that I did not get lipo. So I just wanted to say this and I'm gonn my opinion on what she did to her body and give a little t from somebody who's been chopped and screwed on the table 45 times. I'd like to know I know a little something about A one, too. This is what I think. And I could be completely wrong. But first of all, Jay. I'm gonna say Jay. I hope that's her name, but Jay. Nice. If you look at her old picture, she was very petite. I mean, I'm talking about very skinny. But I always say there's different types of skinny, right? You know, they. How like the Victoria's Secret models were skinny, but they had a little curve. You know what I'm talking about? That's how she was shaped. She was tiny, but she had an hourglass shape. So I think whenever she was tiny, she got a little one two. When I say little one two, I think she got ass shots. Butt shots, right? So I think whenever she got butt shots, that's when she was, like, you know, curvy, whatever. But as she got older, she gained weight. Obviously, she gained weight in the bottom half a lot. Cause she does. That's genetics. She don't gain a lot of weight in her stomach. Of course, when you gain weight, you're gonna gain weight everywhere, but genetically, you'll gain weight everywhere.

[B]

And that's where I was gonna say, I don't know. Cause that's the thing for me. Like, you don't get to choose where weight distributes, right?

[A]

But her stomach. Not that her stomach is big. It's not. But her waistline got thicker with the rest of her body. Like, for me, when I used to gain weight. Well, I still gain weight. I gained weight in my breast. Now does it go all over? Yes. But weight doesn't really go to, like, my butt or other, like, my arms. You know what I'm saying? It would go to my thighs and my breasts. It would go to other places, but not as much. So I truly believe, obviously, she got her breasts done, but I don't think that. I really don't think she got lipo. I really do not believe that girl got lipo. I think she just naturally has a small waist and she got butt shots. And as she got older, she gained weight. And, you know, of course, everybody does a little face tune, a little one, two. So she probably, you know, does her little pictures, right? So it looks like that. But I just think she was a skinny girl, got butt shots, and that's how her body ended up looking. I really believe that. I don't. It's not giving. I can. You can just kind of tell when somebody has had a little lipo. Sometimes you can't. Sometimes you can't. But I feel like her waistline has always been like that. And it's got a little thicker. But it's not giving BBL. It's not giving BBL. It'S giving ass shots personally. So this is no shade to J. I fan of your work. Beautiful body. But also, on the other side, it's like, why y'all care so much? Y'all be trying to clock that T hard. Like, y'all be trying to clock her teeth so hard, but you're even worried about your own body.

[B]

Yeah, I just think there's people on the Internet, though. People be trying to clock people to you so hard.

[A]

Like, why do y'all be trying to clock it? So why do you care?

[B]

But I feel like we get that, too, though.

[A]

About what?

[B]

A lie. Like, oh, yeah, I'm just trying to clock our tea. Like, what have we got done? Like, oh, my God. They be, like, making false accusations about work we got done to our face. They be making false accusations about work we got done to our bodies. Like, it's just like, whatever I tell you I did. Why you can't just take that for being the truth? Because I'm telling the truth. To me, it's one thing when people will tell you what they've done or just not say nothing.

[A]

Right.

[B]

You know what I mean? I just hate when people lie.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, either say what you did, say what you said, say what you say. Either say what you said or just don't say nothing at all. I just hate when people lie because I just feel like, why lie about it if you've got something done? Like, we live in an era where so many people have had plastic surgery, so many people have had procedures done, and it's just not no reason to lie no more. You know what I mean? Like, it's okay. Like, I think we've talked about these before on the show. Definitely. It's. It's definitely women out there who have nice, natural body.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

I say this all the time. Prior to me getting lipo, I always had a nice body. Like, I always had a slim waist. I already had hips and stuff. But then it's like I got lipo, and then I ended up getting lipo again. I got a little more added to my hips. I don't. But it's like, I don't care when people say stuff, but it's just like, I hate when people try to make accusations. And you not. Right. Because I remember before I even got, like, a second round of lipo and got any fat added to my hips, people were saying that I had A bbl. And I never had a bbl. And you know me, you're my best friend. Like, I have no reason to lie about these things. People will try so hard to clock that T. Because they just don't believe that girls can already have. Like, we're black women. I get so tired of saying that. Like, we are the originators of having curves. Why is it so hard to believe that some people can just have big butts naturally? You know what I mean? Or have hips naturally? I don't know. I just think it's weird. But I hate the girls that lie. I don't want to say hate because hate is a strong word. I don't care enough to hate y'all, but I just think it's weird. I think it's weird when girls lie. Just like, even when people be trying to clock our tea, people be always trying to say, I had a nose job. If I've had a nose job, I would say, I had a nose job. But I also have old pictures up on the Internet from when I was 18 years old, 16 years old, 20, 21 years old. I have the same nose. But why is it hard to believe that a black woman hasn't gotten any work done to her face? And she just has a beautiful face? Like, I think it's weird.

[A]

And.

[B]

Oh, and people love to say, oh, well, y'all have. Y'all done. Have Botox and lip fillers. That's not surgery.

[A]

It's not. Well, I'll say this because I'm glad you brought that up too, because somebody.

[B]

Has sent me, and Botox doesn't change anymore.

[A]

Well, I'll say this to me personally, it does, because I had somebody respond to me. I had somebody respond to my story probably like a week or two ago. They're like, lex, you were so beautiful. Stop touching your face. And I said, like, girl, have I done a little one, two fillers and stuff? Yes, I have. But personally, I liked it, but it wasn't something that I continued to do. But Botox is something like, I like a little Botox. Does Botox change your face? Yes, it does, because it relaxes the muscles. Things get, you know, a little tighter. A little. Yes, Botox does change your face. But again, who cares? Who cares? At the end of the day, we are on camera on 4K camera every week. So if I wanna do a little one, two. And I like to look good, let me look good. But it doesn't matter if you've put a needle to anything. That's how I feel. But it doesn't matter. Stop trying to clock t. Tell people, hey, you know what? You look good, boo, and keep it pushing.

[B]

Well, I guess what I more so meant when I said Botox doesn't change anything is that it's like, it's not changing the anatomy of my face. Like, my face still looks the same. My bone structure is the same, my feet, my features are the same. It's not changing anything. All it's doing is, like, stopping my forehead from wrinkling. It's making my skin tighter and smoother. That's it. But it's not changing the structure or the anatomy or my features.

[A]

I agree.

[B]

That's why I hate when people always try to be like, oh, we all have had Botox. My face is my face. I have not had any work done. But I get so tired of, like, having. I think we both do it just to be like, whatever.

[A]

At this point. At this point, run with it and.

[B]

Believe what y'all want to believe. It doesn't matter what me and Lex tell y'all we've done. Y'all are still going to believe what y'all want to believe. It doesn't matter if I say I never had fat injected into my butt. Y'all are never going to believe me. It just don't matter.

[A]

I'll say this, too. When we were talking about, like, the girls who be lying. Cause there's one girl who be lying so bad. And I wouldn't. I don't. I don't care personally, but I always just, like, see, sometimes it'll get retweeted or posted on my timeline. I'd just be like, it's just so much. And this is coming from a professional liar. I be lying for no reason.

[B]

Well, I feel like if you a professional, you good at it.

[A]

So I. I am. I am. That's just because you know me. You know too much of my truth. If somebody don't know my truth, I.

[B]

Think you be giving away your lies easily. Like, it's easy to clock it.

[A]

Not you trying to clock my teeth.

[B]

It's easy. Cause it's too easy to clock it.

[A]

But I was just saying, like, when I see this person always lying about their body and stuff. But I think that goes back to why people don't believe you. Because she had a fire body before.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And her body is still nice. But that's why people be like, okay, girl, if she lying and Dre a lying. But anyways, I say that to say.

[B]

But I will actually say, though, like, that's the difference.

[A]

I know, but what I'm saying is, like you said earlier, it's easy just to not say anything. Just don't say nothing. And for me personally, the reason I've always been honest and truthful is because I know I was that young girl looking at people older than me or looking up to people and be like, oh my God, I wish I could look like that. Not knowing that they've spent like $50,000 at the doctor. And that's not shade. Because when you're a beautiful woman and you want to keep up with your looks, that's what be happening. That's what be going on. So I've always been honest and I be telling girls, hey, don't look at me and be like, o, I wanna go to the gym and get that. Cause you're not going to the gym to get that. You can if you have a night. But that's just what my journey was.

[B]

Well, I do have a question. This is a question that I have. For me, I feel like when I was younger, like the first round of lipo that I got, I was like 23. Cause I got my boobs done and I got lipo at the same time. And for a long time, you know, that was me. I would never lie about it. I just wouldn't talk about it. Like, I just would never talk about. I would talk about getting my boobs done, but I just would never talk about why.

[A]

Why is that?

[B]

Because I just felt like, I don't know, I didn' the need to talk about it.

[A]

But I'm sorry, I don't mean to interrupt you. I think it's so weird how people will be like, oh, I got my boobs done. I got my boobs done. But they won't admit to like, BBL typo nose job.

[B]

Well, to me, this is the thing. I think that for a long time and I think that other girls, like, maybe some of the, Some of y'all, if some of y'all out there, y'all can leave comments in the comments, but.

[A]

Comments in the comments.

[B]

Comments in the comments. But like, I feel like for me, for a long time I felt like I didn't add nothing to my body. Like I just got lipo and I already had a fire body. So I didn't feel like I had really like changed anything dramatically. That's why I feel like a lot of people didn't know whether or not I had did nothing for a long time anyways. Because people who knew me from high school and college, I already had Like a nice. A nice body. So I don't know, to me, I didn't feel like I changed anything. To me, for a long time I looked at BBLs and lipo completely different.

[A]

Really?

[B]

Yeah, because I feel like a bbl. You're changing your whole frame, like, and that's what I was gonna ask you. Like, with you, you don't feel like you had to kind of like speak on it because your body looked dramatically different from your older pictures. So when you got that first round of like, I mean, that first bbl.

[A]

You know what's crazy? I didn't feel like I had to speak on it. But y'all know me, I'm an oversharer.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But I didn't feel like I had to speak on it. Like, I remember the first time I went out after my first round and people were like, I mean, I had an anxiety attack because it was so many people, like, oh, my God. And mind you, I got my first round in 2016. That doesn't seem like that long ago, but in 2016, BBLs were not how they are now.

[B]

Right?

[A]

Not. I was a pioneer of the BBL crew.

[B]

No, you were. And I think I low key think I was the pioneer of getting lipo. That's why I was.

[A]

Oh, you were a pioneer of getting your boobs done for black women. Because black women really weren't getting their boobs done at that time.

[B]

Cause I got my boobs. That's what I'm saying. I got my boobs done and lipo in 2015. You know, at the booth, they're about.

[A]

To take this out of context. These hoes think they started everything.

[B]

No, but seriously. And I think that that's the thing too, because it wasn't that many women getting lipo back then. I just kind of felt like, okay, I'm just not going. I'm just not going to talk about it. But I never cared about telling my friends. Y'all all knew, but I don't know.

[A]

Well, I think for me, the reason that I wanted to be honest. Cause like I said, once I found out, the girls I used to look up to or be like, oh my gosh, she's so fine. She's so this. I'm like, oh, y'all all doing the same thing. So I felt like it was my due diligence to be like, hey, let me tell y'all what the bad.

[B]

What I did.

[A]

Yeah, let me tell y'all what's really going on. But I guess like I said, for me, lipo it's still changing your anatomy. Like. Like for you, you already had an hourglass shape. So that doesn't matter. I mean for you. So I can see why you think that way.

[B]

I used to think that, but I think that's why I started being honest about it.

[A]

Yeah. Because I didn't start changing your shape. Because there'll be women out there who, they got hips, they got a butt, they just have a thick waistline. So once they take out that, they do that lipo, take out that fat, they're changing the shape of your body. So even though your waist was, let's say, 25 inches after you got that surgery, it's 23 inches. So you're changing the shape of your body because now it is an illusion that your hips and your butt look bigger. You know what I'm saying? So I just feel like this surgery is surgery. Who cares? Clock t. Don't clock t. Let the women be beautiful. Let us do what we want to do. If you want to go to the gym, go to the gym, whatever. But one, if you stop lying, just don't say nothing at all. That's my thing. Stop lying. Don't say nothing at all. I'm not saying you gotta tell the truth. Just stop. Just don't say nothing.

[B]

Yeah, just don't say nothing. Like I said, I never used to lie about having lipo. I just would say nothing. Body tea. Yeah, I just would say nothing. But I do think it's very strange to lie about it. Just keep it cute and keep it on mute. If you don't wanna tell the tea. If you don't wanna spill the tea, just be quiet about it. But I do think at the end of the day, the day it's very weird as fuck that people care so much about what people have done to their body.

[A]

Now that's crazy to me. Over everything, over the line, over everything.

[B]

Over everything. Y'all hoes and y'all be weird. Cause it really ain't your business. Like, what somebody else did to their body really ain't your business. And if they don't. And that's another thing too, I can understand when y'all be going in on people that y'all found out, lied about some stuff. But like, if somebody don't want to share something with you and they be going in, in the comments, in on the people because they don't want to tell them the tea. Nobody owes you to tell you they business. If they don't want to share their business. Right?

[A]

Agreed. I agree 1000%.

[B]

People gotta stop feeling so entitled to, like, these influencers and celebrities and knowing their business if they don't want to share it with. With you.

[A]

And let me add this for the filler girlies, and this is just my advice. I really need y'all to listen to me. For the ladies that get fillers, I don't care what your injector tells you. I don't care what you're seeing. These. Please stop going. Get fillers every three to six months. Stop doing that. Okay. I did a facial balancing, what, two years ago at this point? Well, it'll be three. Actually, It'll be three years in December. It's been three years. I did facial balancing one time. I liked it. It was a cute little one, too. But y'all, as we know, like, fillers don't ever dissolve. Like, they do a little bit depending on your body, but people metabolize things differently. Again, I don't care what your injector tells you. This comes to lips, facial balancing, all that stuff. You do not need to go every six months. Y'all are starting to really. Now y'all be talking about our faces like, oh, they need to stop, baby. When I tell you I see Helen once a year. If that. Yeah, for both. And I don't even. You're supposed to get Botox every three to six months. I don't even do that.

[B]

Mine lasts a long time.

[A]

I go every. I probably go once a year to do my Botox, but y'all have got to. I seen a girl that. I didn't know her, know her, but I see her outside and I seen a before and after of her getting all her injections, and I was horrified. You know which one I'm talking about?

[B]

Yeah. Because I. My Missy ass Cynthia you sent me.

[A]

I said, oh, if y'all can see me and Dre DMs, oh, my God, we be talking about all y'all. All y'all. None of y'all safe. Cause y'all be talking about us, though.

[B]

They do.

[A]

But anyways, y'all gotta stop doing all that stuff to your jawline and this and this. And it just looks so stuff. Like I said, I like to trial on one, too, but you don't have to go too far. The three to six months for fillers is absolutely insane. Like I said, I don't care what your injectors are telling you. Let me tell you what Big Mama knows. I'm not an expert, but I know what I can see.

[B]

I agree. I agree, because I haven't had my lips done since 2021. Like, I just feel like if they still look juicy, then why do I need to add some more? Like, I just. I don't know. And granted, they are, like, in my opinion, smaller than they were when I first got them done.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But I just don't.

[A]

They still look full.

[B]

Yeah. I don't see a reason to add more to it. And I just feel like people be going get lip fillers every six months, every eight months, every 12 months, and then they start migrating.

[A]

Yep. Because they will migrate.

[B]

And then they start migrating, and then they up here, and. Are you giving, like, the duck lips look?

[A]

They be eating like this.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. So just. We got off topic again. That was my fault. Okay, we're gonna get into the topics. Let me know what y'all think and what y'all think about people lying. People lying. But I also want to. If y'all think I'm right about J. Nice. Because I think I'm right.

[B]

You do?

[A]

Just because I see. I worked in a strip club, and I saw girls who used to get butt shot and gain weight. And gain weight, and I saw what their body would look like, you know, like, in a year or two or when they gained weight. So I just wanna.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But like I said, Jay. Nice. You can correct me if I'm wrong. Come sit on the couch. We'd love to talk to you. We would. All right. What's up, y'all?

[B]

It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Dre Nicole.

[A]

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[B]

Yeah, baby. One thing about it, we don't save a coin. And that is why I love Rocket Money. Literally, it helps you cancel all of your unwanted subscriptions, the ones you forgot about. And you don't even have to get on the phone with customer service. I feel like that's the most dreadful thing.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

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[A]

I like that.

[B]

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[A]

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[B]

No.

[A]

No, never.

[B]

Absolutely the fuck not. No. Like, no. But I do. I do feel like that is. That is the difference between women and men. Like, women will cut off their goals. They will not work on the things that they want to work on when they fall in love or when they're in relationships. Whole time, your nigga's still working, though. He's still working on his goals. He still. Wow.

[A]

We. We need that chick. Redo, redo.

[B]

Rewind. As women, we'll stop working on our goals. We'll stop going hard. We'll stop being ambitious momentarily.

[A]

Come on. Now.

[B]

We get into a relationship, and we all in love, and we want to be up under our men. Men. The whole time, your man's still working, he's still getting to the bag. He's still getting to his goals. He not letting the fact that y'all in love and y'all, like, happy stop him from progress. I think that that's definitely something that women do that we just gotta do better. Now, what I can honestly say, I ain't never really subscribed to that. I. If I'm gonna take off work for you, my time is money. My time is money.

[A]

Like, so he gotta pay you to take off work.

[B]

Yeah, but even still, though, I'm not gonna take off. Like, for example, now that we run our own business, nobody could get me to take off work to come do anything with them. You know what I mean? Like, nobody could get me to take off work to come do anything with them. We gonna have to schedule it around me working around my business. When I was younger, like, when I used to bartend and stuff. Yeah. Like, it was times where I. Like, I was dating somebody one time and he wanted me to, like, come to Miami with him. And I went. But I was like, okay, like, if you want me to take off the whole weekend. Cause the club I used to bartend at, that's where we used to make the most of our money. If you want me to take off the whole weekend, you need to reimburse me rent due.

[A]

Rent due.

[B]

Cause rent due. I have bills. I have things I need to do. You want me to come hang with you on leisure time. And I'm not making no money.

[A]

Right.

[B]

I'm missing out on the bag. So, like, no. And I would never advise that. Like, now that I'm older, I say, go to work, go to work. Don't even be like, oh, you need to reimburse me. Go to work.

[A]

It depends on your job, though. Like, if it's like a little, like, part time or something, like a bartender, you can take a weekend off.

[B]

But that wasn't part time. That was my job job. But.

[A]

Right. But it wasn't like a career where if you miss it, like.

[B]

Well, yeah, that's what I'm saying.

[A]

So if it's like a little bartending job or like how I used to be at European Wax Center, I think that's okay if they're, like, reimbursing you or whatever. But if you're in your career and you need to be there clocking in to advance yourself. But also. I want to talk about the bigger.

[B]

Issue, but I'm talking about just. But I'm More so. I think that we both kind of just. More so. Talking about, like, I've never been the type to just take off. Talaya.

[A]

Right?

[B]

We got to, like. And be up under you and like, ooh, I just want to be around my man today. So I'm gonna call in. He asked me to stay home, so I'm gonna just call in. No, I'm going to work.

[A]

I want to talk about the bigger issue here, though. I never dealt with a man who would even be happy that I did that. The type of men I deal with, they. The number one thing I always hear from men that they love about me is my ambition and, like, how much they be like, man, you really. Everything you. Even the guys I used to talk to, like, back in the day and what they see me doing now, they said, man, this is crazy, because everything you said you was gonna do, you did it. And even when I was dealing with them, when I had to be like, oh, I gotta go here, I gotta go there, it was like, oh, man, do your thing. You know how many dates I've canceled or xyz? Because now, for me, working was not different from you, but different from a lot of people. Because I had to go to work because I needed to fund my ambitions. I needed to fund what I was trying to do. You know what I'm saying? So a lot of times, even if a dude would slide me some money to take off, I might take off. But I'm gonna pick up some extra, extra shifts next week.

[B]

The only time I ever took off from work, we was going somewhere. I was like, right, so.

[A]

But like I said, I think we need to deal with men or partners or people that don't even ask you to do something like that. You want to deal with somebody who is supporting your goals and supporting your dreams, because honestly, that's a red flag to how they're going to be later on. This is somebody who don't take what you doing seriously.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Because if they don't feel like your job is valuable or what you're doing is valuable, they'll be like, oh, yeah, girl, you don't got to do that. Come with me.

[B]

Yeah. They don't be like, you can meet me after or you can meet me tomorrow. We can go do something tomorrow.

[A]

Yes. So putting relationships before work, especially for women, that's a big no. No. Big fat no. No.

[B]

Yeah. I feel like men don't really do that. It's definitely just for women because I feel like men don't really.

[A]

I mean, sometimes men Will the lazy ones. There's some lazy men out there and.

[B]

Thankfully I don't know none of them.

[A]

Right.

[B]

So I don't, I've never, I don't think I have any man in my life from like my daddy to my grandfather to my uncles to my male friends to men that I've dated. Like no, like ain't nobody taking off work just staying with you. I got stuff to do. But that and you should feel the same way, period.

[A]

I agrees, I agree.

[B]

The lazy men, they need to get it together. Cuz that's not a great, that's not a good quality for a man.

[A]

That's not a good quality as a person. Like I.

[B]

It's not, it's not. But like I was talking to somebody about this the other day. Women though, some women can be lazy. Like I think it's not a great quality to have and you should work on it. But women can be a little lazy because sometimes if you beautiful enough, somebody will step in and like help you out.

[A]

That's not enough though.

[B]

I'm not saying it is. I'm just giving context with men. Ain't nobody coming help you, you know, what is it like nobody's coming to help you even as a cute man. A lot of times the world don't care that you a cute man.

[A]

Show don't and cute man get on my nerves. But we not going to talk about that. But I don't think I'll say this about beautiful lazy women. I don't think women can be like. I think beautiful lazy women are kind of like the women that like a man will like pick you for like a little bit but it's not gonna help you in the long run. Every beautiful woman that I know that is extremely successful work, they ass off.

[B]

But we not talking about successful women, we talking about lazy women.

[A]

But that's what I'm saying. They're living from. If they're not working and they're living off of a man, they're living from peen to peen. You know what I mean?

[B]

No, I think men, some men really be wanting a woman who will stay in the house.

[A]

That's not lazy. A stay at home wife or stay at home mom, they're doing a lot.

[B]

I'm not saying, I'm not saying that they not. But what I'm saying is if you're staying at home, men be wanting some women because what if you're not a wife yet? What if you're not a mother yet? You just be in the house some Men just want women who be in the house, who don't want to go nowhere, who don't want to do nothing. They want to take care of you because they like control, right? They want you brought up money. I never said nothing about a stay at home mother.

[A]

But what I'm saying is, obviously as.

[B]

A mother, you're doing work, you're taking care of the kids, you're taking care of the house. That's work. We ain't talking about them. Right?

[A]

But I'm talking. If a man has you in his house, he wants you doing something.

[B]

I disagree.

[A]

He wants you doing something. I disagree.

[B]

I think some men, I think if you date somebody wealthy enough, they don't want you doing nothing.

[A]

Actually, you don't have to wash a sheet or something. Oh, you gotta wash a sheet, wipe off a counter. I, I just feel like as a man, when you come home, imagine if you left a baddie in your bed and you come back home and she's still laying in the same spot. You ain't gonna like that. You are not gonna like that. So even if you do have a stay at home, you can't be lazy.

[B]

But you take. But sometimes I think when people talk about stuff, people go to extremes. I think you're going to an extreme level. Like somebody leaving the house and then coming back home and you staying in the same spot. That's an extreme level of lazy. You can still be lazy and still be out doing nothing all day. You could be out like, I used to be friends with this girl. Oh my God. Lynn know too. Cause me and Lynn both used to be friends with her. She was the most busiest person I ever met that was never doing nothing.

[A]

Like what, what she used to be doing all week.

[B]

Literally, like. And then when we would call her and be like, hey girl, what you doing? You wanna go have brunch? She would be like, no, I this and I have to do this and I have to do this and it would all be nothing.

[A]

I gotta go to Starbucks.

[B]

Yes, like, but, but literally every day. Every day from like 7 to 4. But that's, but doing nothing though. You're doing nothing.

[A]

It's better than staying at home.

[B]

Nothing product. Is it though? Is it though? Cause you'll probably be better off staying at home. Cause at least you ain't spending no money.

[A]

But you gotta do.

[B]

Because you're not making it back. All the money that you outspending, you're not making it bad.

[A]

Is she creating content? No, I tried, I tried to have your back, sister girl.

[B]

So I said that to say, a lot of people be fake busy. I know so many fake busy people who. We act like they so busy. Sometimes I do that.

[A]

I'm not gonna lie. I be having days where I plan a whole lot of nothing just because I want to get out the house and be moving, though. Like, you know, you gotta be moving around.

[B]

Yeah. But every day doing nothing is crazy.

[A]

Okay, I agree with that. Okay. Damn it. All right, now we gonna move on to this. Well, let us know what y'all think about the laziness. Because, you know that's one of the seven deadly sins.

[B]

It is.

[A]

That slit. The viral. The viral girl. Viral vibe. I said viral girl. It's getting so. But no, that is one of the seven deadly sins is being girl.

[B]

What is going on?

[A]

Them exes fuck. I'm over here, like. I'm over here, like thin and thorpe. I can't get it out.

[B]

It is.

[A]

Cause he. Okay, first of all, they shot Club Shay Shay in here.

[B]

They did.

[A]

So if y'all recognize that background, period. Cause we ate this up.

[B]

We did.

[A]

But, yeah, it's one of the seven deadly sins. Sloth. Isn't that what it is? Sloth isn't what they call it, is it?

[B]

What, being lazy?

[A]

Yeah, I think it's sloth. I'm not sure. But, yeah, that's one of the seven deadly sins. I feel like, out of all the seven deadly sins, though, I'm gonna move on. I feel like, what would you think the one I needed to work on the most? It's wrath, envy, gluttony, sloth. I'm missing three. Let me see.

[B]

Google it. Because I don't know the other.

[A]

Pride, greed. Okay, so pride, wrath, gluttony, greed, sloth, envy, and lust.

[B]

Between lust.

[A]

Lust and what?

[B]

And gluttony.

[A]

Ooh, I was just about to say gluttony. You know me to a T, y'all. Let me tell you something. I will.

[B]

You love a good meal. I love a hot little burger.

[A]

Oh, my God.

[B]

That's why I can't hang around Lex too much, though, y'all. Cause I be serious about my diet. And when I'm with her, she be like, let's order five cob.

[A]

Oh, my God.

[B]

And I did that in New York. The whole time I was in New York, I was eating bad, fucking with legs every time, y'all.

[A]

I'm so bad. Because I'll be like, oh, y'all want a snack? And they'll be like, everybody. Like, yeah, let's get a snack. I'll order like 15 burgers. Three for each of y'all. That's a midnight snack to me.

[B]

Let me tell y'all. Cause when we were. When we ordered the five guys in New York, because it was like 2 in the morning. So I'm like, okay, let's get something to eat real quick because we haven't ate since earlier. So I'll put one burger and one fries.

[A]

I hate her. Let's split a meal. Ass bitch.

[B]

She talk about. You don't think we need two burgers. Girl, it's. It's two in the morning. We can split the burger. It's a double patty. Anyway, I look, I love a good burg.

[A]

Yeah, I love a good burger. I love tacos. I'm trying to work on my. Out of everything that is something that I just cannot. I love a nice hot meal.

[B]

What do you think I need to work on?

[A]

Let me see. I think I'll say two of them. One. Sue. It's either. I would say pride.

[B]

Ooh, that's what I was thinking.

[A]

Pride or greed.

[B]

I think pride because I don't think I'm greedy. I'm too generous to be greedy.

[A]

No, when I say greed, but I think. Let me see how they. They talk about greed when I say greed. You can take it as a good way or a bad way, though. But I just think you're.

[B]

I think greed is a bad thing.

[A]

Well, it is, obviously, because it's a deadly sin. But I. It's like you want. You want it all and you gonna get it by any means necessary. So that could be a good thing or it could go to bad. But I think you want. You want it all.

[B]

I do. But I'm not at any means by necessary person. No, you're not.

[A]

You're not. But that's what they said. It just says greed.

[B]

You. But no, you said that as somebody who knows me. So I'm saying I don't think I'm any means by necessary person. Like I'll be letting shit go. Like it's like you gotta have.

[A]

But pride, definitely. I'll say pride.

[B]

I think that's the one.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I'm very prideful.

[A]

And I'm very hungry. Prideful and hungry.

[B]

I'm so we need to work on that. We gonna work that in 2025. I'm not about it.

[A]

Yes, I want a burger.

[B]

Le. Work on it in 2025. It's a sin.

[A]

It's so good. Have you ever had a hot, juicy burger?

[B]

I love me a fresh burger. I Personally, love me a smash burger with a little grilled onion.

[A]

Oh. Oh, the onion.

[B]

And a little pickle. Oh, Little smash sauce.

[A]

That's why I need to make me an ASMR channel.

[B]

I feel you. I feel you.

[A]

Okay, I'm gonna work on it. Honestly, I have gotten better, obviously. Cause I've, you know, I've lost a lot of weight. I'm active now, but I don't know. It's just something about having a nice halt museum. But I will say, I think gluttony sometimes is to the point to where, like, you're overdoing it. Like, when I'm full, I do stop eating. I think pride with you. You have came a long way with your pride, too. Yeah, you actually. Now I don't really have that much. Drea said two words I never thought she'd say before. Or three words what I was wrong. I said. Who? Who said that? Who said that?

[B]

Yeah, I don't really feel like I have that much pride these days.

[A]

Oh, you still do?

[B]

Well, I think when it comes to other people, but I think when it comes to, like. Well, not even just you, but I think in general, when it comes to, like, people in my life that I care about, whether it's my partner, whether it's my friends, my mom, like, everybody, like, even, I would say, like, our staff and stuff, like, I feel like I can admit when I'm wrong in situations with people that I care about. You know, it's just more so, like. Like, to the others. To the others, you'll never see me sweat, ever, period. Pookie, I don't know why I'm like that, but I just am.

[A]

Okay, so we gonna work on our glutton and our pride in 2025. I'm not making no promises, but you know what?

[B]

I do feel like I've started to be even more transparent, though, on the show.

[A]

Yeah, you def. No, I don't. Yes, you definitely have. I think that that is something that people have been wanting to see from you, and it's, like, refreshing, because I think there's a lot of things that you've been through or that you can relate to that people need to hear and things that I can't speak on because I don't know how it is. So they only get so much from you, but you do open up a lot more. Like, even when you talk about your relationship, people be like, oh, my God. You know, because they feel like. I think a lot of people feel like you're unrelatable because you be Like, I don't know how that is. Don't know that emotion. Don't know how it feels. Because a lot of times people look at you because you're so beautiful and you're successful. They be like, oh, Dre hasn't made. She don't go through nothing but you.

[B]

As my best friend. Can you speak on this, though? When I say that stuff, do I be lying or do I be being for real? Like, a lot of. I feel like a lot of stuff I just generally don't care about. I think as I'm getting older, I'm becoming more emotional. Like, I'm starting to be way more emotionally in tune. I think for a really long time, I was very detached. So that's why I would always say it's not coming from a place of, like, me thinking I'm better and stuff or nothing like that, which is where I've always felt like people misunderstood me. It's not coming from that place. It's just coming from. Never been through that. Never felt that way, because I don't. I literally did not used to care about a lot.

[A]

Well, I don't think it's that you've never been through it. Like I said, I always say this. It's not about what you say, it's how you say it. So if somebody's talking about an experience and you're like, oh, I don't know, never been through that. That's cool. But what I'm saying is, as somebody on the platform, it will be easier to be like, well, I've never been through that. So how did you navigate, like, you know what I'm saying? So it's not that people would be mad that you didn't go through it. I think it was just, like, how it comes off. But like I said, now you open up a lot more. And because when you say, oh, I've never been through that, it's not that you lying, but it used to come off kind of, like, judgy. Like, that was just how people would perceive it. I'm knowing you, I know you, so I know you're not being judgy, but.

[B]

Cause I don't be caring with. And I feel like maybe that's a bad thing, too. But it's like, you gotta care to be judgy.

[A]

Right? But what I'm saying is how the audience would perceive it. So we know that you don't care. But then not caring is another thing of, like, okay, you're just a beautiful. You know what I'm saying? So Even you can't make yourself care about something. Yeah, but like I said, if somebody is talking about something that you haven't experienced, but a lot of the people have experienced it, or maybe some people haven't. They don't want to hear, oh, couldn't be me. You know what I'm saying? They don't want to hear that. They would rather hear you be like, oh, wait, well, I'm gonna let her talk on it, because, honestly, I'm not gonna lie to y'all. I've never been through that. So you know what I'm saying? Versus being like, oh, y'all crazy. You know what black people say.

[B]

But you know what I feel like, too? It was all at least for me, at least that's the way I look at it. I always felt like I at least wanted to come from a place of, like, Zuber. Right.

[A]

But you know what? It comes.

[B]

Or you should want better for yourself.

[A]

Right?

[B]

Like, not so much like, oh, couldn't be me like, you stupid, but just more so, like, do better.

[A]

Right? So that.

[B]

And you should want better.

[A]

That sounds better. You should do better, or versus somebody saying what black people say, oh, she better than me.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Cause you saying, bitch, you not better than me. You're actually. So, like I said, I know you didn't mean it like that, but I think that's how people, you know, perceived it.

[B]

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[B]

Now it's time to get into the beat. Bow the bed.

[A]

Ow.

[B]

The big bow. Bow, bow, bow, bow.

[A]

But yeah, going back to the last topic real quick, I just want to say, y'all, let me know what said seven deadly sin y'all gonna work on. Ty, which seven deadly sin are you gonna work on? Definitely pride.

[B]

Possibly wrath.

[A]

Oh, how you be mad?

[B]

Get upset. I turned red.

[A]

Ooh, I like that. That's real.

[B]

That's a real self aware moment.

[A]

Yes, Wrath is a wild girl. Okay, so for the bed, I'm gonna let you introduce.

[B]

So I have seen. So I had seen a post on social media recently where this girl was basically saying like a big boundary for her is that her partner can't watch porn. And I saw it and I was just like, zam, you strict because it's just not that serious to me. Like, I think that if you. If it's Excessive. That's a little concerning. Because it's like, if we're in a relationship and you have me, then, like, why am I always catching you watching porn?

[A]

I've always.

[B]

But I don't think it's nothing wrong with watching.

[A]

I don't think there's nothing wrong with watching porn. But I do feel, like, okay. Like, for me, I feel like you. When you reach a certain level of, like, sexual experience and sexual intelligence and emotional intelligence, it shouldn't be something that you're tuned into all day, every day or something that you need to, like. Like, get off or whatever like that. So I'm not gonna say I agree with her, because I don't. But I can understand it because there'll be some men who, like, they'll have sex and they'll go to the bathroom and watch porn, and still they not done yet. That's a little excessive. That's when you might be a sexual addict. But I also believe, like, if you can't get in the shower and do what you need to do, but you always have to look on your phone, it's like, are you searching for something else? Are you a little more freakier than what your partner is giving you? Because me, personally, I can get off by thinking about something or, you know, imagining me with my partner or having, like, if we haven't seen each other in a while, I can do my due diligence without that so I can understand what she's coming through. Because there is, like, a thin line between, you know, watching porn to, like, maybe if you're doing it, to, like, hurry up, like, okay, I don't have time to, like, fantasize about my partner and do. So if you're doing, like, I got 30 seconds to go and do this, cool. But if it's something, like, you're always having to do, I kind of get that. A lot of people are addicted to porn more than we like to admit and then more than what people talk about.

[B]

And I don't even understand that, because porn ain't the same no more.

[A]

What do you mean? Not you doing your research.

[B]

It ain't the same no more. Oh, my God. I seen this tweet. I seen this tweet. I've seen this tweet, like, three weeks ago, and this girl was like, I was so mad. I was trying to find a good porn to watch because I wanted to masturbate. And I just gave up because I was like, fuck it. I couldn't find nothing good. I wasn't even horny. No more. And I agree.

[A]

Wow. What's wrong with the porn?

[B]

It's just not that good anymore.

[A]

Like, you feel like they be faking. It doesn't seem.

[B]

I feel like they be faking. I feel like it's hard to find porns that just get straight to the point. Not your. I don't want all the. The themes and the cinematics. Like, I don't want all of that.

[A]

They be like, oh, my God, who did your hair?

[B]

No, for real, though. Like, it'll start off in a backyard with this. With a. With a woman watering the lawn.

[A]

She bending over, her whole booty hole.

[B]

Yeah, her whole booty hoe out. She got on a little skirt. Booty hole out. She watering the lawn. The grass already dead, though. Then it's a mailman who comes back there, tries to deliver. He's trying to deliver a package, and.

[A]

He ain't got no pants on. Hold on. This story getting good, but then it.

[B]

Like, will last for, like, 20 minutes before they start. Ain't nobody got time for these. Get to the business.

[A]

You horny?

[B]

Cause if I'm facts. Because who not horny? Who not horny? If they looking up a porn, you know. You know gonna get down to business. Ain't nobody got time to watch all that. It's just not. I don't know. I feel like back in the day, they used to get straight to it, and they used to have that music playing in the background. They just used to be oiled up, ready to go. You don't even know. They ain't even put the oil on on camera. They just come on camera, oiled up.

[A]

They do be ashy, but you know what?

[B]

They do be ashy.

[A]

You got eczema. That video. You got eczema. Okay, but you know what? This is why I say I'm always shouting her out. I don't care what y'all say about her. They be bullying her, being mean to her on Twitter, Ms. Be nasty. I feel like that's why she's so successful. She did her research. She know what to do. She be oiled up.

[B]

I don't care if Javi, please.

[A]

But what I'm saying is her pornography looks real. It. She could be probably getting the worst peen that she's ever gotten, but you will never know. Yeah, it looks like she is really enjoying it, and I really, truly believe that is why she's so successful. It's believable. It's straight to the point. I never seen that girl Ashley. She be earled up.

[B]

She do Be ordered.

[A]

And so I think a lot of people are. They. They missing the mark on that. It's supposed to be a fantasy. Y'all not selling a fantasy. Y'all are just doing this to try to pay bills. But we've talked about that before. Stop doing only fans if you ain't about that life.

[B]

You got to get down to the nitty gritty.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

If you don't do it. If you don't do it, do it right.

[A]

If you're not at the AVN Awards. Isn't that the porn Star Wars. That's what they called.

[B]

Is that what it's called?

[A]

The only reason I know who really.

[B]

Horny in the room.

[A]

Well, no, because horrible, horrible decisions got nominated before. So that's why I know.

[B]

Cuz no one else knew the name.

[A]

Thank you, cuz. Mandy.

[B]

And we got nominated for.

[A]

That's why I knew. They got nominated twice.

[B]

I'mma take up for my Leo sister.

[A]

Period.

[B]

Solidarity.

[A]

They have a. No, it's a. It's a sex podcast. And it's. So they got nominated twice. But like I said, if you didn't get nominated for an avn, you ain't about your business.

[B]

What AVN stand for?

[A]

I don't know. Let me look you looking it up. Ty got her computer. She ready today. We got to Google her now.

[B]

That's right.

[A]

Ty said it's time for a raise. It doesn't say, but it is called the avn, right? Adult Video News. Okay, I like that. I like that. But, yeah, I feel like if you ain't been nominated for avn, you ain't about that life. You ain't about that life. For real. For real, though.

[B]

I mean, because if you gonna do it, do it full throttle.

[A]

Full throttle. But back to the topic. I think there should be a little boundary. I think if you catch somebody watching porn, you're probably watching porn too much because there's no reason I should catch you.

[B]

But I don't know, it's like, what if you having a little me time and then I just burst in the room.

[A]

I'm there. What are you watching porn for?

[B]

I've caught you watching porn.

[A]

You. You just made that up.

[B]

Oh, I didn't.

[A]

Yes, you did. Now see how the line I told y'all line is contagious. What was I watching then? Exactly. I already know.

[B]

I do.

[A]

I know.

[B]

Big beautiful.

[A]

You so full of shit.

[B]

Big beautiful cream pie.

[A]

You were.

[B]

What?

[A]

You just made that up. What? See how you be lying. I don't know. Me personally, I like a Little storyline.

[B]

I don't.

[A]

I don't.

[B]

Cause, like, what do I need all these for? This is not how it happened in real life. I like something that's as realistic as possible.

[A]

I am we. Okay, let us know. Do y'all like the storyline porn or do y'all like it straight to them?

[B]

And are y'all okay with y'all partner watching porn or no? Personally, I watch a little porn with my nigga.

[A]

Yeah, no, we can watch it together. Like, that's not bad either. Like, if we doing it together. But I think there's a thin line between it being too much and a healthy amount.

[B]

But I feel like, you know, when it's too much, though, like, if he always watching porn.

[A]

That's why I said you got to be watching porn a lot.

[B]

A catch you. Yeah.

[A]

For somebody to catch you. That means you, like, at the dinner table. Like this on a stay.

[B]

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[A]

I am weak. What's up, y'all?

[B]

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[A]

So now it's time to get into the bop. Hey. Okay, so my bop of the week is. I don't know how to say his name. I don't know if he just this. I hate when I get people's name wrong. It's jmsn. I don't know if it's like, Jameson, he just took the vowels out or is.

[B]

Wait, what?

[A]

It's jmsn. Oh, it's Jameson. He took vowels out. Okay, cool. So Jameson has a song called Soft Spot. Apparently this song came out, like, last year. It is like, it gives, like 90s groove. It's like a 90s groove song, but it has like an EDM twist. It's so good. So I went into a deep dive of his music, and I like it. It gives me, like, nostalgia. I like when I hear music that's new and updated, but it has that, like, old school twist on it. I think that's what a lot of artists are missing these days. And you want to make music that we can listen to 30 years from now. So my bop of the week is Jameson Soft Spot. You did your big one with that one. It's a groove, so if you like the edm, but it got like a hip hop type of beat to it, stuff like that, you'll like this song, period.

[B]

So my real bop of the week, I won't say.

[A]

Why?

[B]

Because I won't. I'll tell you after the show. But I was on Title earlier today and the Trilogy album, it's like the anniversary for the trilogy.

[A]

Really?

[B]

Yeah, the weekend. And so I was listening to it on the way here and I was like, oh, my God, this album was so good. And it was just so nostalgic because it just brought me back to my college days. And I really used to love that album. I mean, shout out to the Weeknd. He's still doing his thing, but yeah. It was just so nostalgic. So that used to be my favorite album at one point, I think when I was, like, a sophomore in college.

[A]

You know what whole eye went down the other day? The Dream.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

The Dream album. All his songs were, like, flowing into one song to the other. Oh, my God.

[B]

It was so good.

[A]

Oh, my God. The dream was still. That was such a good album, the first one. All of them are good, but that first album hit me a little different.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

All right. What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's.

[B]

Your girl Dre Nicole.

[A]

And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping. Yes.

[B]

So we have a brand new show dropping y'all on PA Patreon. It's gonna air on September 2nd, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We're gonna be doing so much stuff on there. We're gonna be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bella, no. Where the hell could you go?

[A]

If you can't go to Bella, no.

[B]

Chase, what the hell we're gonna be doing? Talk to me. Chit chat with me. It's gonna be spilling a little tea.

[A]

Oh, my God. No, you didn't. Oh, my God.

[B]

Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon.

[A]

Yes. Y'all ask us for so much. Well, we finna give it to y'all every single Monday, and it's gonna be a time y'all know Poor Mars has grown into its own little entity. Well, we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles, so make sure y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down. What's up, y'all?

[B]

It's your girl XP, and it's your girl Dre Nicole.

[A]

Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week, but do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here, period.

[B]

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[A]

We love to support a small business.

[B]

Now in a black business at that. But I mean we don't discriminate. Any business is welcome.

[A]

Do we have an item of the week this week? You got anything you want to talk about for the item of the week?

[B]

No, I don't have an item of the week this week.

[A]

Okay. Period.

[B]

We just gonna get into pour your heart out. So of course if you have any questions or testimonials, you can always send them to ask poor minds Gmail dot com. That's a S K P O U R M I N D X at gmail dot com. Send us your questions, testimonials, period. So question number one. Hey Lex, Andrea, keep me anonymous. I'm a 21 year old female and I met this man at my job when I was 19 and he was 33 at the time. I was in my little phase of doing me and talking to whoever I wanted or you know, other things. We started talking, I began staying over at his place and eventually we got into a relationship. Big mistake. From there everything started going downhill and I realized he was just a broke bum who was way too emotional and thought everything was supposed to go his way. Never admitting he was wrong. I'm different. I'm a hustler and my bills are always paid. But being young and dumb, I stayed with him and tried to help him get back on his feet when he lost his job, got an eviction notice and had his car repossessed. I started listening to y'all and y'all opened my eyes for real. I realized that kind of situation is for the birds and I deserve someone who could provide and give me the lifestyle I deserve. So I left his ass with no remorse. Thank y'all for that. Keep doing your thing. Love you and see. And that's why I used to be telling y'all couldn't be me because it shouldn't be you neither.

[A]

And I will say this for the young girls, there is no reason a 33 year old man should be coming at a 19 year old. And you know why? You have to really look at a man's patterns. If there's a 30 something year old man trying to date a teenager, it's because he cannot do what it needs to do to date a 33 year old his age. I'm sorry, Yeah, I said it. If a man is dating a woman that's extremely young, like it's different. If it's like a 28 year old woman in like you know, a late 30s, early 40s man. But if you have a man who is dating like 25 and under and he's like, well in his late 30s and 40s, it's because they can't do what needs to be done for a woman his age. So y'all have to pay attention to that. Cause honestly, now being older, like when I was younger though, my mom instilled that in me. She was like, you need to ask yourself, why is this man not dating women his age? Why? Period?

[B]

I agree. I feel like you better than that queen. I'm glad that you live.

[A]

She learned. Hey, y'all, I'm in almost 20, 24 year old female. I've been a business owner for six years and have been always been on top of my stuff and very mature for my age. I recently started bartending and the nightlife is no joke. I'm young, cute, and know how to get my tips out of my customers, which requires flirting here and there. Even though I'm not interested most of the time. There are guys that I meet outside of the club that I that find out that I bartend and I feel like they think I'm just going to go for anything because of where I work and how we dress at work. Work. Even the guy I was talking to for almost two years started acting different towards me because he saw all the attention I was getting. How did y'all handle that as bartenders? I don't want to be looked at the wrong way because this is just my job. What do you have to say again? That goes into what we were talking about earlier. Any man that's trying to get in the way of your money because he feels jealous and xyz. Okay, well, if I quit, you gonna pay my bills? I just feel like, yeah, I'm maturity level too.

[B]

Yeah. I think a man who is not trying to help you get out of the situation that you in, that he disapprove of his opinion don't matter.

[A]

Right.

[B]

You got bills to pay. You have things that you need to do with your money. And so it's like if you're not going to help me start the business or if you're not gonna gonna fund my life until the business takes off, you can't tell me what you don't want me to do. Especially if it's not a ring on my finger.

[A]

Come on now.

[B]

It's different if somebody is your husband. If this is your husband, then that's different. But like, like I'm supposed to stop living my life and stop doing what I'm doing that's paying my bills off. The hopes and dreams that you hopefully are the one and you might pick me, Right? Like, no.

[A]

And I also think, like, absolutely not. When you're young and you're bossing, you said you have your own business. So he obviously knows that this is not, like, a permanent thing.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know, So I feel like if he doesn't see the value in you outside of what you do for a living, because. Because my job doesn't define me. So if any man is taking my job that seriously, I don't care what I do. It's like, are you liking me for me or are you judging me by. Off of what I do? So that also says an important thing. So I think that how to navigate through this situation is to focus on you. Because guess what? A man ain't gonna. Like we said earlier, a man ain't gonna quit his job because of what you think or how you feel. He gonna go and get that money. So until you find somebody that is willing to accept your grind, your hustle, your ambition, your job, girl, move on.

[B]

And then two, just always be be aware of people who will meet you doing something, and then they try to change it about you.

[A]

Hey, come on.

[B]

I try to make you feel bad about it. Like, you already knew when I met you, this is what I was doing. This was my job. Like, now you got an issue with it. Now you want me to change it? This is what I was already doing. You had the option to just not with me.

[A]

T, did you ever have that problem? The first place that I worked, where you used to work at, you had them booty shorts on.

[B]

But I also was older coming into bartending, so some things I would automatically just say no to. I just personally wasn't comfortable. But if I had started bartending when I was younger, I would have definitely been outside.

[A]

Oh, yeah, man. We literally used to work in thongs. I'm not kidding. But when I moved to Atlanta, I'm not gonna lie, they used to try to make me wear them outfits. I said, bro, I'm too old for this. I was like, 28 at the time. 29. Real quick, before we close this out, y'all know Bernice just did her interview with Joe Budden. I have to ask y'all this, so I wanna know how y'all feel. Cause she said on a slow night, she would make 30 bands. On a. On a busy night, she would do 70k. How you feel about that, Jerry? What you think? Cause they Some people been like, like, I'll say this as a bartender, during that time, every strip club in the. Every black strip club in the nation tried to model themselves after starlets. Them starlets, girl. It was Gracie, what's that girl name? Loni Blair, Laney Blair or something. Bernice. It was like the fine girls at NYC and every black strip club in America had modeled their strip club. How it was set up like Star Tenders because they were making so much money. Honey, I do not think Bernice was capping. I really don't. I really do not think she was capping because a lot of people are like, oh, she capping. But if you were in the industry at this time, even me, I was working at Dreams. Now, I wasn't making nowhere near 30k a night on a slow night, because that would have been. Baby, if I would have made 30k one night, I would have probably quit thinking that I made some real, real money. Like. But I will say, working at Dreams in Houston, I used to make a lot of money. I used to make a lot of money. So being in New York, where the money is obviously different, when she said that story, I was like, okay, that makes sense. That makes sense to me. I don't know how y'all feel about it.

[B]

I just feel like she didn't say she was working every day, so I don't understand why that's not believable. Because she wasn't working every day. She didn't say I was going to work every day making $30,000. I think in New York at the time when they used to be bartending, I could believe she made that some nights. I don't think it was an every night thing.

[A]

Right, right.

[B]

But I think she was making it on some nights. I do. Like, I used to go bartend in New York on occasion. Like, I did it probably like three or four times and I made like thousands of dollars in one night. You know what I mean? And I wasn't even like a popular girl out there in New York. I wasn't even as popular on social media as Bernice was. So I 100% believed it. Yeah, like, but I feel like you also had to kind of be in, like, nightlife back in those days and at that time. So, like, understand how much money girls was making. Like, even here in Atlanta at the clubs I used to work at that weren't even strip clubs, we used to make a lot of money on the weekends. Like when I used to work at Medusa, we used to make a lot of Money on Sundays. Cuz Sundays was the day I would make my whole rent in one night, literally, especially if I worked service bar. So I just feel like it sounds crazy to people, but you have to understand like how reckless dudes used to be spending money back then. I think people is way more tight these days. Like guys is not even right now. The girls at Starless is not making $30,000 a night. They not. But I mean, correct me if I'm.

[A]

Wrong, this was like during the era. It was a little bit after. But y'all have to realize like women who were dancers were becoming famous too. Like this was kind of like during that Blac Chyna era. What was that other girl? Mazani? This was like a era where like dancers were becoming famous, you know, like Amber Rose was a dancer, you know, then she started dating Kanye. Like the strip club was the place to be. So I don't think she was capping at all. What you think, Ty?

[B]

I don't think she was capping at all. Especially like you just said in that time people were throwing money at bartenders.

[A]

And dancers and all that stuff.

[B]

What I thought was funny though is that Joe said that she made the worst drinks though.

[A]

And that's fully believable. That's. I mean when we worked. What was the name of the club we worked at prime time. I was a bartender bartender. Them hoes could not make. Let me not call them hoes. It's just the drink talking. My bad. Them girls could not make drinks at all. But they're not there for the drinks. They there to be fine, just to be cute.

[B]

There to see the girl, nice shape, like that's it. Pour it in the cup, girl.

[A]

That was funny. But that's why I don't think Joe had put up an argument with her. Because he used to be in there. So he used to see. So that's why he didn't like correct her. Be like, okay, you cap. Because he, he probably been in there some nights where he said.

[B]

Well, I think he did say that. He, he wasn't believing it at first.

[A]

Didn't believe it. I don't think I didn't finish the clip.

[B]

Well, I mean, I don't think it was like he was saying she was capped. I just. He was like, definitely, like for real. But at the end of the day he did used to be in the club. So I think he know, like, yeah, you can make that kind of money in the club. I don't know, I just think. But here I go. People always be Feeling like I'm being mean. People just need to mind their own pockets. Worry about your pocket. Why you think that lady didn't make that kind of money? If that's what she said she made? Like, why is it not believable? She doesn't. In my opinion, she doesn't look to me like somebody who. Who couldn't have made that kind of money and who isn't living the lifestyle reflective of. She made that kind of money years back.

[A]

Not gonna lie. That lady been. She bought a house.

[B]

That's what I'm saying.

[A]

And she lives on that side of the States. It's not cheap to buy a house out there.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And she's been having a house for a long time. To be a homeowner, you got to be making a lot of money, especially if you're living in that Jersey, New York area.

[B]

But it's the Internet where people love to be negative.

[A]

So shout out to Bernice and her 30k, 70k nights. I believe you, Queen. Make sure y'all tune in Support minds every Friday. Subscribe to our Patreon. Subscribe to the YouTube channel muse, beauty collection.com. check all that out. Yeah. Anything you want to add?

[B]

That's it. Bye, y'all.

[A]

Y'all make sure y'all share the content. Like, subscribe. Follow all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out, y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P O u R Underscore. M I N D S. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page. Okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have one Instagram, one Twitter, one. Tick tock. It is P O U R underscore. Mi nds. All right?

[B]

And we got hella fake Facebook pages.

[A]

The Facebook pages, our face.

[B]

The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers.

[A]

So if you on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers.

[B]

The one that's not us got like 250,000 followers. Fake.

[A]

If you actually look at the content, because the caption, it's like, whoever it is don't speak English. Because their captions are like, mama cl. Should men. Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes. No. Check answer below.

[B]

Block, block. Like, that's literally what the captions.

[A]

I like you. What that. Ddg. Bomba Claude.

[B]

Bomba Claude.

[A]

Oh, that time. We shouldn't have left you without our. Don't beat to step two, step two, step two, step 2, yeah. Hey, baby girl, sing what you do.

[B]

To get to me? What would you say to have your way? Would you give up or try again? If I hesitate to let you in now? Would you be yourself or play a role? Tell all the boys I keep it low? If I say no, would you turn away? And if play me off? I would just say oh.

[A]

If at first you don't succeed? Then dust yourself off and try again? You can dust it off and try again, try again? Cause if at first you don't succeed? Here. You can dust it off and try again?

[B]

Dust yourself off and try again, try again. I'm into you, you into me? But I can't let it go so easily? Not till I see where this could be Be eternity or just a wee? You know our chemistry is off the chain? It's perfect now but will it change? This ain't a yes, this ain't a no? Just do your thing we'll see how it go up?

[A]

You can dump off and try again? You can dust it off and try again, try again? If at first you don't succeed? Dust yourself off and try again? You can dust it off and try again try again, throw it all away.

[B]

I may be shy on the first date? But what about the next date?

[A]

Huh, huh, huh, huh, huh, huh?

[B]

You don't wanna throw it all away? What about the next date?

[A]

And if at first you don't succeed? Then dust yourself off and try again? You can dust it off and try again, try again? Cause if at first you don't succeed? You can dust it off and try again? And dust yourself off and try again, try again.

[B]

Girl, I don't know that choreography. That was a little too.

[A]

Shout out to Aaliyah. It's been a long time.

[B]

A little one, too.

[A]

I think they went like something like this. That's all I know. That's all I know.