Doing The Most

Summary

Pour Minds Podcast

Episode: "Doing The Most"

Date: November 7, 2025
Hosts: Drea Nicole & Lex P
Guest: Toddie (bartender, business owner)

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Episode Overview

This lively solo episode of Pour Minds is an intimate, wine-fueled journey through Drea and Lex’s current mindsets, lessons in passion and hustle, juicy friend drama, reading habits, and steamy relationship red flags. They’re joined by Toddie, who brings bar wisdom and insight into business. Expect trademark humor, raw honesty, and “drunk therapy” girl talk—the perfect wind-down for anyone who wants to feel like they just hung out with their hilarious, unfiltered friends.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Value (and Limits) of Passion

[04:33–16:48]

• Lex on Reality TV & Career Passion:
  Lex opens with stories about bingeing "Bar Rescue" and how hosts like Jon Taffer exemplify fierce passion (and questionable fashion).

  • “He used to dress like a TGI Fridays manager.” (06:30)

• Passion vs. Drive:
  Both hosts reflect on their careers as bartenders—Lex had the “passion for drinking, not for bartending,” while Draya admits bartending was always about the money, never passion (“I just used to be trying to make my money and go home.” 08:12).

• Pour Minds = Real Passion:

  • “Poor Minds is going to be what makes me a millionaire first.” (10:02)
  • Draya contrasts her less fiery cosmetics brand (Muse Beauty) with the magnetic pull of podcasting, declaring this her true calling.

• Lex on Trying and Moving On:
  “If I'm gonna do something, I' ma go in. I'm gonna go hard until I can't no more. Then I'll move on to the next thing.” (11:22)

Notable Quote

“When I start something, anything I do, I want to be the best at it. And you not going to stop me.” — Lex (14:48)

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2. Bartending, Business, and the Joy of the Craft

[16:51–18:47]

• Toddie’s Path:
  Toddie describes discovering her passion for craft cocktails at The James Room in Atlanta, shifting from “just drinking” to building a business and seeking a niche.

  • “That craft cocktail element changed the game for me… The James Room taught me everything.” (18:10)

• Lex: Chasing Knowledge Never Ends:
  Lex relates this to wine, podcasting, and media—you can never know everything and that’s the real thrill.

  • “You'll never know everything about wine. There’s no end of the road…” (19:48)

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3. The Importance of Lifelong Learning

[19:36–31:34]

• Being a ‘Student of Life’:
  All three discuss how they fall down Wikipedia rabbit holes, love to read both for self-help and for leisure, and are fascinated by random knowledge.

  • “I love to be knowledgeable… that’s why I’m always reading books and articles.” — Draya (20:27)

• Book Snobbery & Reading for Fun:
  Playful shade at people who only read basic self-help books (“48 Laws of Power,” “Rich Dad, Poor Dad”).

  • “If you say that’s the last book you read, I know you don’t be reading for real.” — Draya (28:10)

• Switch to Romance & Fiction:
  Draya and Lex confess to rediscovering the pleasure of fiction—from Nicholas Sparks to spicy Zane novels.

  • “Sometimes reading will take you to a whole other dimension!” — Draya (33:07)

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4. Topic: Can Your Homegirl Be Too Flirty with Your Man?

[35:40–47:00]

• Lex’s Take:
  Most of Lex’s friends aren’t flirty, and if a woman’s getting too flirty, it’s “deeper than that”—she probably wants your life.

  • “Is she your friend, or does she want to be you?” (36:46)

• Draya’s Take:
  Monitoring spirits exist (friends that obsessively mirror your choices). It’s a major red flag if a friend tries to cross lines, but Draya tends to give people enough rope: “I like to give people the freedom to do and be exactly who the fuck you gonna be. And if you do something to disappoint me… then let me remove you from my life.” (40:51)

• Storytime:
  Lex recounts a close friend openly dating (and tripping with) Lex’s ex BDB (Big Dick Baller), after Lex vented about him—confirming that weird energy doesn’t lie.

  • “I looked up and they in the Maldives together—not fucking LA, not New York… a whole trip!” (45:13)

Memorable Moment

“She’s a jealous bitch. She’s a weirdo.” — Draya (46:26)

• Toddie’s Anecdote:
  Even casual acquaintances can cross the line by exchanging numbers with your man, and it’s about intent—if it’s secretive, it’s shady.

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5. Destiny Swapping, Spiritual Protection, & Karma

[52:29–55:54]

• Discussion of "destiny swapping"—friends or people who try to take your place or luck through envy or even spiritual means.

  • “It's called destiny swapping. They will really try to do that.” — Lex (53:09)

• Draya argues such tactics don’t work on people “locked in with God”: “The God I serve, He’s just not going to let certain things even come in my path or happen to me.” (54:09)

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6. Faith, Hoodoo, Astrology & Ancestral Protection

[55:54–58:01]

• Lex’s family story about hoodoo (folk magic) healing her sister’s nosebleeds.
• Tension (and acceptance) between traditional faith, astrology, and ancestor veneration.
  • “All I do is praise God and mind my business.” — Lex (57:09)

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7. Intuition vs. Insecurity: Sensing Friend or Partner Betrayal

[58:09–61:35]

• The group distinguishes intuition (an internal “knowing”) from insecurity (provoked by others’ actions).

  • “You can have a spirit of discernment… but I think it’s the action that makes it become an insecurity.” — Toddie (58:51)

• Context matters, and whether someone is just generally “doing the most” or specifically seeking your partner’s attention.

  • “If you only start doing it when the n*ggas is around—now I’m suspicious!” — Draya (61:01)

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8. “Why Boring Sex Might Be a Red Flag”

[62:39–78:08]

• What Counts as Boring Sex:
  “No effort. No passion. Just going through the motions. Predictable.” (63:57)
• Lex: It’s a Red Flag!
  “It should bring out an adventure in you… climb this mountain and get to work!” (74:22)
• Draya: Not Necessarily—Some Folks Just Have Wack Chemistry:
  “Some people just wack—and some people coochie wack too!” (64:09)
• Spark Matters:
  “If you and this person are locked in, then it’s not gonna be boring sex… As long as the spark is there. That only happens when you lose the spark.” — Draya (78:03)

Memorable Moment

“If a man don’t do this about me when he sees my booty hole… If you don’t see this glory hole and go berserk!” — Lex (77:55)

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9. The Bop of the Week

[80:18–85:38]

• Lex’s Pick: "Tie You Down" by HAIM feat. Bon Iver — “Let’s be depressed and cry in front of a fireplace. Let’s bring back the sad music!” (81:06)
• Draya’s Pick: "Lady" by D’Angelo — Touching on the recent deaths of D’Angelo and beloved soul artists—“Life is so fragile, you have to cherish the moment...” (82:24)

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10. Pour Your Heart Out: Listener Letters

[86:25–99:45, assorted]

• Q1: Icks in Dating:
  Examples like “moaning while eating,” “losing self-control while drunk.” Hosts agree: everyone has icks, but they don’t always mean deal breakers unless the ick is something serious.

  • “If a person checks off 8 to 10 of your list, keep it.” — Lex (89:38)

• Q2: 31yo Virgin Struggling to Date:
  Advice: Don’t make sex the focus or announce virginity up front. Let genuine connection develop.

  • “Just date like a normal person. Sex is not even something I want to talk about when I'm getting to know you.” — Lex (91:41)
  • “A man who is really trying to get to know you, he not gonna bring it up all the time. He know it’s gonna come eventually.” — Draya (92:49)
  • “Men will give you the green light when they ready to… You don't have to do the most.” — Draya (92:58)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments (with Timestamps)

• Lex on Passion vs. Drive:
  “When I start something, anything I do, I want to be the best at it. And you not going to stop me…” (14:48)

• Draya keeps it real:
  “I just used to be trying to make my money and go home.” (08:12)

• The monitoring spirits monologue:
  “People be having monitoring spirits…as soon as you get it now they gotta get it.” (38:38)

• Lex’s legendary lines:
  “If you don’t see this glory hole and go berserk…” (77:55)

• Draya nails the ick topic:
  “Men be narcissistic, they be sociopathic, and you give a fuck about a nigga moaning while he eat?” (89:41)

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Timeline: Important Segments

• 00:36: [Conversation starts after ads]
• 04:33: On finding passion and “Bar Rescue”
• 16:51: Toddie’s craft cocktail journey
• 19:36: Lifelong learning, being a “student of life”
• 31:34: Leisure reading, from self-help to romance
• 35:40: Can your homegirl be too flirty with your man?
• 52:29: Destiny swapping and spiritual protection
• 55:54: Hoodoo, astrology, and family magic stories
• 58:09: Intuition vs. insecurity in relationships
• 62:39: Boring sex as a red flag (with hilarious tangents)
• 80:18: Bop of the week (music picks & tributes)
• 86:25: Listener questions: “icks” and dating as an older virgin

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Authentic Tone & Style

The tone is uproarious, candid, and Southern-fried real—full of playful shade, NSFW quips (often escalating into wild digressions), and empowering advice. Drea and Lex use humor to tackle real issues, never shying away from uncomfortable truths or personal vulnerability.

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Final Takeaways

Doing The Most is both a testament to the power of friendship and finding joy in your own lane, as well as a riotous, down-to-earth reminder to never stop chasing knowledge, checking your friend group, and demanding what you deserve in love and the bedroom.

“Give the people what they need. Stop trying to do all the extra stuff. Give the people what they came here for.” — Lex (27:43)

“If I take off my clothes and you don’t be like this—wasn’t Smokey the Bear friendly?—you need to act like a wild animal when I take off my clothes.” — Lex & Draya (77:17–77:27)

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For anyone who needs a boost of confidence, laughs, or raw advice—this is unmissable.

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[Summary excludes all ads, music rights, and repetitive outro segments.]

Transcript

[Toddie]

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[Draya Nicole]

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[Draya Nicole]

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[Lex P]

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[Lex P]

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[Lex P]

Sex is not a red flag to you, it's a red flag to me. Let us know in the comments how you feel.

[Draya Nicole]

Why do you think it's you said it's not a red flag. No, I did say a red flag.

[Lex P]

Because I think I should bring out the beast in you. I need to bring out that Smokey the Bear. If I take off my clothes and you don't be like this.

[Draya Nicole]

Wasn't Smokey the Bear friendly?

[Lex P]

I don't give a fuck. And I'mma bring it out of him. You need to act like a wild animal with rabies when I take off my clothes.

[Draya Nicole]

A boar.

[Lex P]

Yes, a boar with a whore.

[Draya Nicole]

Or a whore cook. Mm. Why you keep such a mean.

[Lex P]

Ah, just. I just love you. You know, you've hit me like. Cause it's passion. Cause you see how I am when I'm around you. This is passion. And I'm not fucking you. This is passion. So if a man don't do this about me when he sees my booty hole.

[Draya Nicole]

You making my little. You making my turkey, big mama. Your arm say if you don't see.

[Lex P]

This glory hole and go berserk. Yeah, what's up, y'? All? It's your girl Lex.

[Draya Nicole]

And it's your girl Draya Nicole.

[Lex P]

And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind, where a drunk.

[Draya Nicole]

Mind speaks sober thought.

[Lex P]

We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. You know, every week this is what they be waiting on, Chap.

[Draya Nicole]

They love a solo episode. I mean, I love a solo episode too. Cause I feel like we could just be free spirit.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

And just have a grand old time. So how you doing this week? What's up with you?

[Lex P]

Oh, my gosh, girl, you know, so, so much is going on and I am just so thankful, Blessed, happy with life. I'm in like my era. Oh. So what I've been doing lately is I've been watching Bar Rescue.

[Draya Nicole]

Do you remember that song Bar Rescue the other day?

[Lex P]

They don't make reality shows like they used to. The way he used to tell them a new ad. Look at this chicken.

[Draya Nicole]

It's not cooked.

[Lex P]

Oh, he used to eat them up. Oh, he used to eat him up. We need to eat that.

[Draya Nicole]

Everybody's so sensitive now. Yeah.

[Lex P]

The way he used to. You are poor and you like being poor. That's why your bar loses $5,000 a month.

[Toddie]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Oh, yeah. That's how he used to talk to him.

[Draya Nicole]

But he ain't wrong though.

[Lex P]

People do be like, let's eat these people up. Tell em the truth. Yeah, yeah, tell them the truth.

[Draya Nicole]

But these days you can't do that. If they gonna say you rude, they gonna say you nasty, nasty spirit.

[Lex P]

Yep.

[Draya Nicole]

They don't care how you make other people feel.

[Lex P]

Now, mind you, I don't like him, though. Now, the host, why you don't like him? He's. Cause, you know, once I watch something, there's this thing about me, right? I watch a movie, I can name the actors. I can name about at least three or four movies they been in. I probably know if they're a Nepo baby. I know who they daddy or they mama is. I just. I'm interested in stuff like that. So when I watch tv, I like to Google people and see like, damn, what they been up to. Come to find out. He is a Trump supporter. And I mean, he is hard. He is a hard maga.

[Draya Nicole]

It's on his page.

[Lex P]

He has said a lot of things that were just like, wow, you really never cared about these bars. You just made sure your check cleared. You don't have a passion for dressing for fashion? No, he. Oh, he definitely didn't have a passion for fashion.

[Draya Nicole]

He never had that shit.

[Lex P]

He used to dress like a TGI Fridays manager.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay, but can I ask, though, what made him so when it came to bars and restaurants, did he have a successful bar or a successful restaurant business?

[Lex P]

So what it was. Yes, he did. And he was also, like. When he started his restaurateur career, he started as a bartender and like, kind of moved his way up. And I'm not gonna lie. This is such a. Like, you know how, like, this is such a stupid thing to say what. What I'm about to say. Cause you know how, like, when n was good at football or basketball in high school, they used to be like, man, I was cold. I could have went to the league. But, like, I mean, sometimes it be true.

[Draya Nicole]

As a bar bag, I was the coldest barbado.

[Lex P]

As a bartender, I was really. I could make really good drinks.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh, you was saying that. I was.

[Lex P]

And it was like, they used to want me to do stuff. Cause Fridays, TGI Fridays, they're like, known for their bar competitions and all that stuff. And they used to want me to participate, but I was just like. Not that I wasn't interested. During this time, I wanted to pop pussy. I wanted to be in the club.

[Draya Nicole]

Instead of popping bottles.

[Lex P]

Yeah. I didn't care about making a drink and learning and this and that. So I say all that to say, I see how when you have a passion for something and you can move up and really be. Cause they know. They know. And you can make a lot of money, like, bartending, it, like, for, for example, Ty. Ty has a passion for liquor. Not like my passion. My passion is like, I'm.

[Draya Nicole]

You just like to drink.

[Lex P]

I'm a drunk. You know Hay from Hunger Games? Yeah, that's me. I'm Lex. Mitch.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah. I think that you do have to have a passion for things to become successful with it. I think that's why I was never personally a great bartender. Yeah, I never had a passion for it. I just used to be trying to make my money and go home.

[Lex P]

And then you never let it make you.

[Draya Nicole]

Like, it never, never let it make me worried on me. But when I started working at Suite Lounge, Lynn and our other friend, they really used to love bartending.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Draya Nicole]

So, like, our other friends to always make it a competition. And at the end of the night, she would be like, what y' all tabs? Like, how much did y' all sell? How much did y' all sell? And she would be so excited about it. And Lynn will be like, oh, I sold this much. And then I would be like, oh, I sold this much. And she would be like, see? Yeah, I sold way more than y'. All. And I'll be like, so we still making the same amount of money. Right?

[Lex P]

Because y' all wouldn't like. But that's the difference, though.

[Draya Nicole]

But that's what I'm saying. It's like, it's the passion thing because she really used to be excited about that. Like, she would be like, I sold a thousand. I. I sold $1,200, and y' all only sold 700. And I used to be like, okay, but I get it. Yeah, it's a passion thing. Cuz when you're passionate about something, it can just take you to really great heights and great lengths. I feel like this is probably the first thing in my life that I've ever been passionate about.

[Lex P]

I don't. I don't think that's true.

[Draya Nicole]

And I make the most money from it.

[Lex P]

Well, I'll say this.

[Draya Nicole]

No.

[Lex P]

What do you.

[Draya Nicole]

What do you think I was passionate about before? Well, I.

[Lex P]

Well, I thought I. I. You're passionate about muse, beauty and muse. Beauty is fire.

[Draya Nicole]

Thank you. But I'm more passionate about poor minds, and I think that's why poor minds is more successful than me.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

I do think muse one day will get to that level once I pour as much into it as I pour into poor minds.

[Lex P]

No P. But.

[Draya Nicole]

Right, right. But right now, I pour a lot more of my energy into this because I know this is the main thing. Like, poor minds is going to Be what makes me a millionaire first. I'm not saying that. I mean, that Muse won't add to it.

[Ryan Seacrest]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

I'm saying.

[Draya Nicole]

But Poor Minds is gonna be the thing, so I don't know. But do you feel like I'm wrong? What do you feel like I was passionate about before Poor Minds?

[Lex P]

Being a bad bitch. And you were good at it. You still.

[Draya Nicole]

That's easy. I don't have to be passionate about that.

[Lex P]

No, but I'm saying it was just like. I think when you're good at something, the passion is there and it just comes naturally.

[Draya Nicole]

I don't care about it, but, you know, like, I don't care.

[Lex P]

Okay, but I wanna go back to what you were talking about with the sales. Right? Cause that used to be me. We had a screen and it would show, like, drink sales, so. But for us, the drink sales did equal money.

[Toddie]

Mm.

[Lex P]

Mm. I mean, I used to clear them motherfuckers out. I would make a drink, they didn't even realize they was lit. And they done spent two $300 in the TGI Fridays until they're closing out. I mean, I was so good at getting people drunk. That's how we became friends. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? So I think for me, it's like, I'm not gonna lie. I've been passionate about a lot of things. I have been passionate about a lot of things. I am just a person. Wait. I'm passionate about everything I do. But I think that's just me being a Leo and me just being. But that doesn't mean I'm gonna be successful at it. I'm the type of person, I wanna try something, and I'm gonna go hard at it until I realize, you know what, bitch? Let it go, sweetheart. And then I'll move on to the next thing. You know what I'm saying? Like, that's me. If I'm gonna do something, I' ma go in. I'm gonna go hard until I can't no more. And I'm like, you know what? Never mind, baby.

[Draya Nicole]

I think you be passionate about anything. Entertainment.

[Lex P]

No, that has to be at European Wax Center. Same thing. Sales off the roof, wax passes. And I know it sounds corny, but I used to sell the fuck off them wax passes. They had to give me a bonus so big one time. It was kind of like, I could tell the owner was annoyed with me. At one point, he. It was a point in time. He said, okay, do you wanna be a manager? I said, yeah, that's cool. Because I need more money. This is when. Around the time we started Poor Minds. He said, but you have to sign a contract and guarantee you're gonna stay.

[Draya Nicole]

Here for three years.

[Lex P]

I said, no, I'm not. Like, I'm not doing that. Like, people have always put me in those predicaments. You're either gonna give me all of you, because I need that. We worked at prime time. How long did I bartend before they asked me to start doing the books and being a manager?

[Toddie]

I agree.

[Draya Nicole]

But I think that to me, that's not passion though. Like, that doesn't mean you were passionate about it. I just feel like you the type of person, like, if you know that you need to do something, you gonna do what you gotta do and you want to excel at it. I don't think that that's passion because I don't feel like you ever cared about those positions. Like, you didn't want to be the best wax past seller.

[Lex P]

But you know what?

[Draya Nicole]

It was, you didn't want to be the best bar manager. Like, being a bar manager wasn't even in your scope. Like, it wasn't even something you was thinking about. It was an opportunity that got presented to you, right, because you were a good bartender, but it wasn't something that you wanted to do. Like, when I think of things that people are passionate about is something that they can't live without or something that they see themselves doing. And like, they just have this fire inside of them when it comes to it. Like, I think you have a passion for making people laugh. I think you have a passion for. I can agree, comedy. You have a passion for entertaining. I don't think you had a passion at European Wax Center.

[Lex P]

Well, no, you was just driven.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, driven. Because it's like, bitch, I got bills to pay and I need to sell these fucking wax passes. Like. And so I'm gonna do what I need to do. And I just so happen to sell away more than everybody else. Cause I'm hungry. Cause I need this Money.

[Lex P]

And you're 1000% right. But I also, in the time though, I was like, when I get some money, I wanna open a European wax center. So I think what it is. No, you're right. I'm not passionate about.

[Draya Nicole]

That's the people who made money though.

[Lex P]

I'm passionate about learning things. I think, I think I like figuring stuff out. And I'm like, I can do this. Cause I'm not gonna lie to you still to this day, do I wanna open a European wax center.

[Draya Nicole]

No.

[Lex P]

But I'M gonna open some wax centers just because the margin is so large. Wax and waxing multiple people, that margin is so fucking big.

[Draya Nicole]

Mm.

[Lex P]

But that's another topic. But you're right, you're right. Maybe I think I'm just a passionate person about like learning. And I just. When I start something, anything I do, I want to be the best at it. No matter what I do, I want to be the best at it. And you not going to stop me. Like, even with love, Lexp, the trajectory that I've done in this short amount of time, I done shocked my goddamn self. But it's because I'm like, I gotta do this. Like I got to like, I'm gonna show y' all how hard. Like nobody gonna outwork me. But I like to work, if that's. If that makes sense. Like I like to create. But I agree with you with that. I think I'm just a creative person. I like to entertain.

[Draya Nicole]

That's what I said.

[Lex P]

I like to cook.

[Draya Nicole]

A little bit passionate about entertaining. Like that's what I think your passion is. I don't think it's any of like. Because the stuff you was talking about with working at European Wax center, that's like selling.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

Being a salesperson, I don't think that's your passion. I think you're passionate about entertaining people, making people laugh, like you know, giving your gifts to the world. And in that position, I think it was more so about like rent do rent do bills got to get paid. And I'm going to go hard at this cuz I know that this is going to get me more money than my normal amount. Like cuz you had a set amount of money that you was making hourly, but it's like, okay, this is cool. But if I sell these wax passes, I could maybe make an extra $600, $800. However much they used to hate me.

[Lex P]

When I tell you people do not like bonuses, they hate giving out that bonus. They be like, oh, this is an incentive to sell and make us more money. But once you start making that money for real, they be like, damn, I gotta pay this hoe.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

I'm like, where my money? But I will say I did. I enjoy now the alcohol aspect. I think like as far as bartending, like I get why you have created the empire that you have created. Because liquor is interesting.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, yeah, that's what I was gonna say.

[Lex P]

That's interesting.

[Draya Nicole]

When did you realize that it was something that you had a passion for? Because I've had a lot of friends Who I've, like, my friend Lynn still to this day, my best friend. She'd be like, I don't need to, but I would go back and work at a bar. She was like, just because I really enjoyed it. Like, I feel like some people really enjoy bartending. They really enjoy, like, interacting with their customers. They enjoy selling and all of that. So when did you realize that you had a passion for it?

[Toddie]

Honestly, really just me, I think I had a passion for liquor before I started bartending. For real?

[Draya Nicole]

For real.

[Toddie]

Like, when I first started bartending, I was just doing, like, nightclub. Like, I didn't really care. It was Hennessy and Coke or Crown and Coke, whatever. Just going in the cup. It wasn't until I started really playing with craft cocktails, and I got. I started working at the James Room, which is like a speakeasy here in Atlanta. Like, and that's when I really fell in love with, like, the specialty cocktails, the flavor pairings, and then fully understanding what is going in the liquid, how it's made, and just fully understand it. I think also because I had a whole separate career in insurance before I started bartending, I came in with a business mindset on, like, how can I capitalize on this? What's missing? What's what niche market can I target? And that's kind of what helped me build it, because I didn't know, like.

[Draya Nicole]

I would be like, y'.

[Toddie]

All, like, I would just be drinking if I started in my 20s. And that's where a lot of people, a lot of bartenders mess up. They just be drunk, they be drinking. They don't think about the business side of it and how you can find a niche market and build a product and build a service and build a business around it. But I think, really, truly, that craft cocktail element changed the game for me. And the James Room was, like, it taught me everything. I give them they flowers all the time. They taught me everything that I needed to know about craft cocktails, the spirits industry, and just how to grow from there.

[Lex P]

Yeah, it's crazy that you say that, because I just went there the other night, and, like I said, I do not. I don't know nothing about liquor anymore. Like, you know, it's like, you don't use it, you lose it or whatever.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

But I can tell when I go into a bar, and I can tell when it's like, okay, this is a place that knows, like, some drinks, and the person I was with is like, a drinker, and it was like, the drink he ordered, like, girl, they pulled out the ladder. They had to climb up, out to the top. I said, I know. That's motherfucking right, Right? You know what I'm saying? But stuff like that is interesting to me. Like, when people. Especially drinkers. So I was watching. What's the thing I was telling you. I was watching the architectural. No, Architectural Digest, right. And I was watching Jimmy Butler. His house is beautiful, Right. But the main thing I noticed is, like, he has a wine whole, like, wine room.

[Toddie]

Cellar.

[Lex P]

Cellar. And he was talking about how he started learning about wines. And he said, and I think that's what it is. Even with poor minds and podcasting, we're always chasing something. You will never know everything about wine.

[Toddie]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

There's no possible way. There's no possible way to figure out the end of the road with media or with sales, because everything changes so often. And I think that's what it is. I think I have a passion about learning more. So, like, I love to learn and figure out what are people gonna. Like, what are people gonna attach to what tastes good. And when I say tastes good, that can mean for food, a drink, making people laugh, what you got on whatever it is, what is the taste that people wanna taste? I think that's what interests me because humans are so interesting and complex. You know what I'm saying?

[Draya Nicole]

No, yeah, I understand. I feel like I'm a person who. I love to be knowledgeable on a lot of different topics and just random things. That's why I think I'm just always reading books and I'm always, like, reading articles. And I fall. I find myself falling down black holes. Like, researching the most random. Because I just love to know fun facts or, like, random things that I think most people don't know. Like, I just like to be a student of life. I don't understand people. Like, some people will be like, oh, I haven't read a book in, like, six months. I be like, how?

[Lex P]

How? Not even watched a little documentary.

[Draya Nicole]

I love it.

[Lex P]

It was so perfect when Clayton came on that episode and we started talking about space. Cause I get in my little things where I just. I get consumed. I have. I am. I got consumed with space. Like, it'd just be fun to learn things that you never. That things that'll just blow your mind. Like, learning it really. It's fun.

[Draya Nicole]

And people who believe in being, like, a student of life and, like, are always constantly trying to learn. You can tell in conversation. And people don't even have to tell you that, oh, I don't read right Right. I don't know. No, baby, we can tell. We can talk about your limited vocabulary. We can tell by your limited knowledge. Like, it's obvious, like 1,000%. And it's interesting to me because it says a lot about people. Because to be honest, I think most people, once they get in a position in life where they no longer have to study or research, they don't. Like a lot of people, I think it stops at the highest form of their education.

[Lex P]

That's true.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah. It's like once you graduate college, once you graduate high school, whatever your highest level of education is, most people don't really care to still read and study and find out more about life or find out more about certain topics or even if they see something on tv. Because a lot of people like to watch tv. I never really been an avid TV person, but a lot of people like to watch tv. Even if you see something on tv, how do you not want to dig deeper into the topic and find out more about it if it's something that intrigues you, you know, I'll be googling me too.

[Toddie]

Something like, wait a minute, me too go down a whole rabbit hole.

[Lex P]

I can't watch nothing without me too reading an article about it. Where did this come.

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[Lex P]

And hi, I'm Cal Penn and we're.

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[Lex P]

You know what?

[Draya Nicole]

I can see you as Mr. Darcy. You got a little Colin Firth.

[Ed Helms]

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[Lex P]

On, I rewatched look, that's why I keep talking about Hunger Games. I rewatched Hunger Games. I was like, okay, I'm seeing a lot of people that are in Hunger Games that were in Game of Thrones, right? So I'm like, okay, well who is the crossover? Who are these people behind the scenes? And it was like a whole article that came up about the cinematography behind the scenes. I'm like, oh, what is cinematography and what do they do on. It's just so much. It's always something to read about if you wanna be. I don't care what it is you're doing TikTok dancing. It don't matter. You have to research and read about something that somebody is doing in that field to figure out what is it. Cause there's always something. What is it? Why are people so intrigued with Hunger Games? 10, 15 years later? Why am I still watching Hunger Games right now? Why are people still talking about Game of Thrones right now? It's just like in anything. Like, what's her name? Anastasia. Beverly Hills. We talking about beauty. She did one of them little interviews on TikTok the other day and they were talking about it and she was just talking about how she became popular. And she was like, I took advantage of social media and going viral. She was like one of the first makeup brands that were doing like the get ready with me things and oh, the lip matching kits and things like that. And it was like, like you said, you find a need for what people want to see, give it to them.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Give the people what they need. Stop trying to do all the extra stuff. Give the people what they came here for.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah. I just love to ask people. One of my favorite things to do when I read people is be like, what's the last. Like, do you be reading?

[Toddie]

Do you read books?

[Draya Nicole]

And then there are. People will be like, oh, yeah, for sure. What's the last thing you read? And whenever people tell me something like, the secret 48 laws of power, bitch, you don't read.

[Lex P]

You know the last time I held the.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause that's like typical. Like, that's people favorite shit to say. If you say that's the last book you read, I already be knowing the last time you don't be reading for real.

[Lex P]

I had that book in my hand.

[Draya Nicole]

You was on Twitter or TikTok.

[Lex P]

When was. When I was posing in my. I had a Halloween costume on and my ass was out and I had the 48 power. The 48 laws of power in my hand and I was posing with it. You know, I remember that. And everybody was like, that was the.

[Draya Nicole]

Look I had at my house.

[Lex P]

And everybody was like, you know it's a bad when she got that book. Cuz that's what the bad bitches like to say for.

[Draya Nicole]

No, literally, that's people favorite things to say. 48 laws of power. The secret. I'm trying to think of another one. Oh, my God. What's that book about? Money.

[Toddie]

Rich dad, Poor dad, Rich dad, Poor Dad.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh, it's another one about money too.

[Lex P]

My God.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh my God. It's called Let me see if I can find it.

[Toddie]

Real quick, how many books do you read a year?

[Draya Nicole]

Thinking Grow rich Thinking.

[Lex P]

Oh, they love thinking. I remember I used to date this.

[Draya Nicole]

Guy and call me, how many do I read a year? I mean, I try to read a book a month. That's good, I try.

[Lex P]

That's really good.

[Draya Nicole]

I try. But this year I've been kind of slacking a little bit. So I've only read like seven books.

[Lex P]

Yeah, it's crazy because I remember I was dating this guy, he was like, oh yeah, I'm reading this book called Think and Grow Rich. I was like, yeah, I got me one.

[Draya Nicole]

When you were younger?

[Lex P]

Yeah, like I was in college, you know. You know how it get down when you think you got a nigga who. And let me tell you that that nigga did not think and grow shit. That's what he was reading. Think and grow shit. That's what the fuck he was reading. God damn it. But you know what I'm saying, I think. Go ahead, go ahead.

[Draya Nicole]

No, I was just gonna say I used to be an avid, like, I don't know, maybe it's an earth sign thing, but I think we're just always on a constant quest for like growth and knowledge and just wanting to be better. So I used to be an avid self help book reader. Like I would always be reading self help books and my best friend, she is Sagittarius and she would just always be like, do you ever read for leisure? And I was like, sometimes like everyone.

[Toddie]

Or like fiction books.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, sci fi, fiction, mystery, you know, just any of those things. And she would just be like, do you ever read for. Because she reads a lot of books. Books too, but like she reads a lot of leisure books. She be like, you need to read for fun. Like everything don't got to be to help you to, to grow and stuff. So this year I've been trying to get more into that and I just finished reading this book called the Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo. It's a really good book.

[Lex P]

You know what, you and my sister need to be on text because she be put me on some good ass books.

[Draya Nicole]

It's really good. And I'm about to start reading the Housemaid. I don't know if y' all heard of it, but she was telling me, Lynn was telling me the Housemaid is like a really good series. And it's like about maybe four or five books that you can read.

[Lex P]

I love a series. That's how I got into Hunger Games was like, I read the books and I like series. I like stuff like that. But I think that was my problem when I first started kind of like trying to read again. Like I was that little kid that read the Harry Potter books. Little weirdo. Then I was like, I got to read a self. If you're not reading a self help book, then you are. And I'm like, you know what? I don't enjoy this. I like to drift away.

[Draya Nicole]

Mm. I love romance. Romanticy. Yeah.

[Lex P]

Nicholas Sparks. I don't give a fuck what nobody say. He gonna write it down.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay.

[Toddie]

Okay.

[Lex P]

And tell you a good story till this day. Y' all know Nicholas Sparks from a walk to remember. But he still be writing and still be having good books. So I'm like, yeah, read a little fantasy novel. You know what I'm saying? I don't see it. Is it this?

[Draya Nicole]

I used to. Thank you. I. I used to really like Zayn book.

[Toddie]

O me too.

[Draya Nicole]

That was my first.

[Lex P]

It's time to get freaky sometimes.

[Draya Nicole]

That was my first introduction to books. I. Well actually that was my first introduction.

[Lex P]

To like just really reading books for erotica.

[Draya Nicole]

For leisure.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Draya Nicole]

Cuz I feel like prior to that I was just reading stuff that was for school, you know, that we had to read like books that they told us to read for like essays and projects and all of that stuff. Yeah, Zayn was really like some of the first books that I was reading. Just cause a bitch wanted to read.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Draya Nicole]

She was trying to get freaky and I was like, ooh. It'd be like, what's life gonna be like when I get to my 20s and it was the fuck night. Hell, hell no, it was night. It was absolutely night. But yeah, like so just thinking back on that.

[Lex P]

Oh shit.

[Draya Nicole]

Reading for leisure is really fun. I think a lot more people should do do it. For sure.

[Lex P]

I am with you on that because like I said, I be the. Some of now I will say some of the books I be reading, I'll be like, girl, this ghetto as hell. Cuz sometimes like people will.

[Draya Nicole]

I can go anywhere.

[Lex P]

Oh, she throw that one.

[Draya Nicole]

Just take.

[Lex P]

It's in a book.

[Draya Nicole]

No, but for real reading will take you. They used to say that when we were younger and it was so fucking corny, I'm telling you. But it really will take you to a whole nother dimension and take you places that you never thought that was Maya and Black Street.

[Lex P]

Yeah. No, I definitely agree with you.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm more of a.

[Lex P]

Like I said, I like fantasy books. I like books that. But that's why it's the type of movies I Like to. Yeah, I like to read shit that this would never. Dystopian books.

[Draya Nicole]

Like, don't even get me started. Like.

[Lex P]

I'm gonna send you some books, but you ain't you gonna meet.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, I would be.

[Lex P]

Like, what you gonna be like, hold on, Lex, why? Cause I like, I take it a little too far with my dystopian shit, but it gets interesting once you get in. I mean, we about to be in a dystopia, so bring it on.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, I mean, I love. To be honest, I love all type of books. Like, I love all type of genres. If it's a good read, I'll read it.

[Lex P]

Yeah, okay. Okay, now we talking. Yeah. Okay. Let's get into these topics. Cause you know one thing about it. We gonna yap.

[Draya Nicole]

Yes.

[Lex P]

Well, Ty. Oh, go ahead. Go ahead.

[Draya Nicole]

Well, that's what I was gonna say.

[Lex P]

Ty.

[Draya Nicole]

What we drinking today, sis?

[Toddie]

Okay.

[Draya Nicole]

I kind of like where we were.

[Toddie]

Going with the topic, so I changed the name. This one we're gonna call Student of Life.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh, I like that.

[Toddie]

So it's a little grounded. It has some fruit in here. We have some pomegranate juice. Any spirit of choice that you prefer. Pomegranate juice. We have some blood orange syrup. We have a little bit of lemon juice. I muddled some fresh strawberries and some fresh sage in there. So we're saging away all of the negative energy as we are in Q4. We're ending the year on a bang. And then any spirit of choice. Lex has some vodka. Drea has hers topped off with some Prosecco. And then we've garnished it with a fresh strawberry slice and a sage leaf. So this is the student of life. Yeah, girl.

[Draya Nicole]

Thank you, Toddie.

[Lex P]

Dre took me to a restaurant and they had put some of that sage and a brown butter on top of some raviolis. I said, good googly moogly. What restaurant was that? Yelpa.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh, Yeppa.

[Toddie]

Oh, yep. It was good.

[Draya Nicole]

Yep. Good food.

[Toddie]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

I almost popped my open on the one in Buckhead.

[Toddie]

Okay.

[Draya Nicole]

I still haven't been to the one on the belt line because when I first tried to go, it was the weekend that they had just opened and they didn't have no restaurant. I mean, no reservations. I was like, ok, so I haven't been back. But yeah, I love Yeppa. It's cute, that pesto pasta. Chef's kiss every time.

[Lex P]

So go ahead, what we got?

[Draya Nicole]

First up for topic number one, I really wanted to talk about. Can your homegirl be too flirty? With your man?

[Lex P]

Ew, I would hope the fuck not. But you know what? I have never been in this situation, but I've had friends who have told me stories about it. And for me, I don't understand it because half the time when my homegirl be talking to me about her n, I be like, girl, how are you even dealing with this? Ain't nothing about your man that I want to give flirty to. So. But I do think that it can happen. But I think it's deeper than that, right? I think it's more so it's like, but do you have a homegirl that kind of wants your life a little bit? Is she your friend or she's like, I want to be you, I want to be in your shoes, I want to do the things you do. I want to live everything how you living. You got this high rise, I don't want it. You got a fucking bentlet truck, I want that bentlet truck. You got that Chanel, I want it. So sometimes it's more so not even about the man. It may be about you. So I think you can have a homegirl that's too flirty with your man, but I think if she's too flirty with your man, it's deeper issues going on. I ain't never seen my homegirl be with a man that she's dating, in love with. They on a date and maybe I'm third wheeling and I'm like, let me join in and I'm grabbing his leg.

[Draya Nicole]

Hey, bro.

[Lex P]

Huh? And when I be like this, I be like, what's up bro? Yeah, that's the kind of energy we may chat it up, chop it up, but I give homegirl energy anyway. I'm not a flirty person naturally, anyway. So yeah, I think you can be too flirty with your homegirls, man. But I think it has underlying issues.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, I just think you have to like read the room. I ain't never really had a situation necessarily where I felt like somebody was like being flirty with my man. Now I have had dudes that I dated tell me that like they felt like my friend was flirting with him or like they felt like somebody that I was close to was like trying to get at them. But I've never seen it myself. Yeah, I've never seen it my myself. Cuz I don't even know how I would react to that. Cuz to me to do that in front of your friend, you got to be such a bold ass. Very. To like be being flirtatious with Your friend man, while she's sitting there like, do you want to get smacked ho the is wrong. Like no, for real though. Like, are you trying to get SmackDown WWE?

[Lex P]

You get smart.

[Draya Nicole]

Are you okay? Like I don't understand so I've never had that happen to me. But I do think that when it does happen, I agree with Lex. I think it'd be more so people be having monitoring spirit.

[Lex P]

Oh, talk about that. That's what I want you to talk about. I need you to talk about it and I need you to talk about it right now.

[Draya Nicole]

People be having monitoring spirits. Like people be wanting what you have. But I feel like you can always tell that she like if you ever be friends with somebody and every time you do something or you get something, all of a sudden they become obsessed with doing it or getting it or wanting it. It's like as soon as you get it now they gotta get it. As soon as you get it now they asking a for it. I feel like that be like monitoring spirits or they be people who like want to be like you and live your life and it be obvious. So then if they try to like talk to your man, is that really surprising? Because they want everything else you got. Why wouldn't they want the especially look like he treating you well. So I don't know. I don't. I think that should be weird. I just think people who have that type of energy or weird period because God put us all on this earth to be ourselves and the best thing that you could do is to be you and show up as you and you won't get the type of person that you want really and truly too. It just never work out in people favor. Like I have a cousin. Thank you. Sorry. I have a cousin who like she had a friend who like ended up her man and like stole him in. But I just think even if a want what you have, it never end up working out that way for them. Because you not me, you're not me. You not me.

[Lex P]

And you never will.

[Draya Nicole]

What he was doing for me and the person that he was to me, that doesn't necessarily mean just cuz he was that person to me that he would be that person to you. Because people get different versions of people all the time. So I just feel like, yeah, it's weird, but you could definitely be too flirty. I feel like be knowing what's overstepping boundaries. They be knowing what's overstepping boundaries. Like I'm the type of person and maybe for some people this might even be Too overboard. Because I know some women, they feel like your friend having your man number whatever is off limits. I don't be feeling that way cuz I just. To me it's not even like a being naive thing. I just truly feel like I like to. I don't like to put restraints on people.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

I like to give people the freedom to do and be exactly who the you gonna be. And then if you do some to disappoint me, Come on. Then let me remove you from my life and let me show like you've showed me who you are. I don't feel like I could put you in a position to. To do some ho to me or to betray me. Unless that was already. The betrayal was already in you. And I really be feeling like if I'm dating a you not even going to try me like that and knock on wood. But so far I have been lucky enough to like deal with men who they ain't never even tried to with my friends. I or their advances. Shall I say that they told me like, oh, this person tried to talk to me. They wasn't fucking with it. They came and told me.

[Toddie]

I mean, I'm laughing cause this recently came up with me and my boyfriend and the girl isn't my close friend. We are colleagues, acquaintances in the industry if you will. But I found out that she gave him her phone number.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh my God.

[Toddie]

And it pissed me off more so because, you know, I introduced him as my nigga.

[Draya Nicole]

So why did you.

[Toddie]

We not again, we not close enough for you to have his number. If it was like my very close friends. And yeah, we got, we've traveled together and all this type of thing, that's one thing. But why did you feel the need to give him your number? And I didn't know about it, I didn't initiate that. So that made me feel weak. But I trust him because he gonna tell me anyway every time.

[Draya Nicole]

You know what I mean?

[Lex P]

And that's why.

[Draya Nicole]

And you're not wrong, Todd, because in a situation like that, I agree. I feel like that's a little weird. It's different if I know, but if you doing it in a roundabout way, then that's kind of weird.

[Toddie]

And I'm asking like, so when did this. Like I dug deep into it.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm like, I know I was, I was there.

[Toddie]

Like I was in the same place I put money in your pocket, all of these. So it's just weird to me. But my close friends, I agree with you. Yeah, I wouldn't have a problem but it's to your point, some of these people that are eyeing what you got, wanting what you got, and will do what they think they need to do to get to your spot, but you can't.

[Draya Nicole]

You can't, Bitch. You're not me. I'm me.

[Lex P]

First of all, I think that's weird, because it's like, he loved the girl. It's like, if you know men, if she knew he. You know, he finna go tell you. Why would you even do that?

[Draya Nicole]

Second, Well, a lot of girls won't tell if. If their intention is in the wrong. Yeah. If their intention is not pure, if their intent is not pure and they want to try to see what's up with it, they not gonna tell you.

[Lex P]

I guess I just feel like the way my friends are, like, we're not just. I'm not saying, like, all my friends, like, we're just all the. But I feel like we solid women.

[Toddie]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

So when my friends are dealing with men for the. I can't say that we solid niggas, but it's just none of that goes on. But let me tell a story. Let me tell a story about how this happened to me. And it happened to me with a close friend. And it was bad. I shared this on Poor Minds a long time ago, but it's time to revisit it.

[Draya Nicole]

Bitch.

[Lex P]

Y' all done sparked, and I'mma keep it short and sweet. I had this friend, and we were very, very close. We used to work at the bar together. We made money together. It was everything. This was my girl, right? And this is around the time I was young. We started dating BDBS for the first time, But I started working in the club first. So I started dating the BDBS first. And I'm starting to get little things. And, you know, she noticing in XYZ and I. This was when I first moved to Atlanta. Me and her were still cool. I first moved to Atlanta, it was just this. And I don't give a fuck. Cause I know he watched the show. A bullshit ass nigga that I was dating, and he bought me, like, some red bottoms, and he used to send me money. He, like, bought my furniture for my apartment. Cool. Cause he had it at the time. Mmm. And we cool. Mind you, like, I'm telling her about him. I'm sending her pictures of me and him and stuff. Something happened. I mean, he. Y' all know, he was. Well, not. Y' all know, but he was a Nigerian dude. Y' all know how that gets down.

[Toddie]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

So I got My feelings hurt. So we stopped talking. Next thing I know, baby, I look up and they in the Maldives together. Not fucking la, not New York. They went on a whole trip together. A whole fucking trip. And she was like, oh, I thought y' all were. I didn't know. I didn't.

[Draya Nicole]

I remember that already. I remember that. But also that hoe had weird energy from day one. She did. And I used to tell you that long before.

[Lex P]

And my other homegirl told me that too. And I, you know, I just.

[Draya Nicole]

One thing about it, see, I do. I just feel like I really have intuition about people and like her, but just because too, I'm such a nice person. So sometimes I feel like when people don't be liking me for no reason other than to say, oh, I think she thinks she all that.

[Lex P]

No, you think she all that. Yeah.

[Toddie]

Haven't even.

[Draya Nicole]

You haven't even gotten a chance to know me. And like this particular friend that she had, she just had like this issue with me, but I didn't have no issue with her and I didn't even know her like that. So something about her energy automatically was just off. And it would be other certain things that Lex will tell me that I won't get into, like, you know, on camera, but it would be other stuff that you would tell me about her. I'm just like, something about her energy is off. So then when that situation happened, I'm just like on brand.

[Lex P]

On brand.

[Draya Nicole]

She's a jealous bitch. She's a weirdo.

[Lex P]

But also. But let me talk about him too, because you not free either, right?

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[Lex P]

And hi, I'm Cal Penn and we're.

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[Lex P]

You know what? I can see you as Mr. Darcy.

[Draya Nicole]

You got a little Colin Firth.

[Ed Helms]

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[Draya Nicole]

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[Lex P]

Approval terms apply because no, but let me say about that but I feel.

[Draya Nicole]

Like your homegirl is the one who owe you, not the nigga.

[Lex P]

But let me tell you a story about him. You 100% right. But mind you, me and him had stopped fucking around and this was still before he had took her on the trip. Mind you, I'm like I ain't got no money. I told you, I moved to Atlanta with $3. I really don't have nothing. But I liked him. I put this on everything. I love. It was his birthday. I have no money. I didn't have nothing. So I was like, oh, let me send him just, like, a basket of goodies. It was like a little basket of goodies, y'.

[Draya Nicole]

All.

[Lex P]

That basket was like $50, and I had, like, $80 in my account. And I was like, let me just. Cause I'm being thoughtful.

[Draya Nicole]

Right?

[Lex P]

Right when I tell you. This man got on Twitter and was like, how would y' all feel if y' all bought a babe red bottoms? Y' all know that's how they talk. I bought a babe red bottoms. And y', all, he was British. You know he wasn't British. Nigerians talk like that. Oh, I'm about to say, oh, if I bought a babe some red bottles and this, edit that out.

[Draya Nicole]

A babe.

[Lex P]

But her. Well, you know, he's. His parents are traditional. Not like, yeah, but anyways. So he's like, how would y' all feel if y' all got this girl all this stuff and all she sends you is a basket? And I was like, damn, that's fucked up. Because that was my last. And I liked you. But it's cool. Only to fast forward, you lost everything. Cause you was a scamming ass nigga. You went to jail, you lost everything. And it's no shade, no tea. But I will never. You don't forget people, how they treated you when you was at the bottom.

[Toddie]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Cause there's people out here that's like, I did stuff for their birthday. And it wasn't a lie. It wasn't much. Or I'm just like, hey, I show up, this is all I got. And they're like, I don't give a fuck. Let fuck with you. Right? And you decided to get on social media. Cause you felt like you was that nigga at the time. And I'm not gonna say how hard life got for him. Cause it got real bad. Worse than jail, girl. Well, losing it all. Oh, it got bad. It got real bad. I'm gonna say, was the girl with him? No. Okay, that was now. And you wanna know how bad life got for her? She took a bad drug and she cuckoo. She can't even walk straight. Don't know where she at. Oh, I'm telling you, you don't get to live your life and do things and treat people like that. I'm not saying that karma happened because of me. But the way she was living her life, you did other people wrong. That had nothing to do with me.

[Toddie]

I was gonna say if Dre said her energy was.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I was doing that. I'm blessed. I'm blessed. I had this conversation with somebody yesterday. I said, hey, you know what? You need to get your shit together.

[Draya Nicole]

And who had bad juju.

[Lex P]

I'm blessed. I said, my friends love me. I get to go to work and do this and talk to my bitch. And yeah, you know, we get paid for a walkthrough and all we do is this. But that's because we live. We good people. We good to people.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

I don't ever look at somebody and be like, how can I get that? What's they call it destiny swapping.

[Toddie]

Is that a word? Yes, that's the term.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay, I didn't know that.

[Lex P]

It's called destiny swapping. And they will really try to do that. Now. I'm not going to talk about who the people that they really said did it. And some people they said succeeded.

[Draya Nicole]

I think people can succeed. It gets deep for me with stuff like that because I feel like people can succeed with that only with people who are not strong in their faith and spirituality. Like, if you trying to destiny swap with somebody who don't already have like a good relationship with God and they not rooted in their own faith and their own belief, then yeah, you could probably succeed. But I feel like somebody who is really on their walk, really on their path, whose life is really anointed and they locked in with Jesus, who they are. They know who they are. They know where they going. I don't think that can succeed. That's the same way I feel about voodoo and stuff.

[Lex P]

Yeah, no, I'm listening. I wasn't. I was making that face. Yeah, I just.

[Draya Nicole]

I feel like it's. I know all of those things are like a real thing. And I don't doubt it. I don't doubt black magic or any of that stuff, but I just feel like it work on people who not locked in, who have some type of doubt in them when it comes to God. Because the God I serve, he just not going to let certain things even come in my path or happen to me. It don't matter who praying against me. He's stronger than all of that.

[Lex P]

I1 now you know that.

[Draya Nicole]

You know I'm agreeing, but I do think it work. I do think it work for some people.

[Lex P]

Sister, you did I tell her nose.

[Draya Nicole]

Depending on who they trying to the.

[Lex P]

Nosebleed story of my Sister.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Yeah. If y' all don't know, quick story. My sister used to get nosebleed real bad. My family, all my family from Louisiana. One of my great aunts. Rest in peace to my aunt Nettie, she up there with my kids right now. One of her friends used to do hoodoo. Not voodoo, hoodoo. And my sister.

[Draya Nicole]

What's the difference?

[Lex P]

Hoodoo is. You know what? Let me not say it wrong. Hoodoo is the. More like the American slaves. Right? I don't want to. I don't. If that's. The. More. If that's the proper term. I don't want to say, like, American because. And voodoo.

[Toddie]

Voodoo. I'm going to say both of them.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay.

[Toddie]

Is an organized religion with established beliefs, rituals, and deities originating from West African Bowden traditions.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Toddie]

And I'm fucking this word up. Syncretized. Syncretized. Syncretized with Catholicism. Hoodoo is a separate folk magic system focused on practical outcomes using herbs, roots, and other natural objects for purposes like healing, protection, and luck.

[Lex P]

Okay. Okay. So that's what it was. Then I got her completely wrong. So she. It was. It was a hoodoo thing. Cause that's what it was.

[Draya Nicole]

Perfection.

[Lex P]

Cause she had nosebleed. But my mama didn't like that shit. Didn't like none of that shit. But my sister. I mean, she couldn't even walk outside without having to her nosebleed. And child, my mama came. We was staying at my auntie's house. Her friend came over. That lady was burying something, plucked something out my sister head, did all this stuff, burying it under the tree. My mama walked in and caught her doing something. Her and my mom got on a whole fist fight. But guess what?

[Draya Nicole]

She never had a nose to this.

[Toddie]

Day, because she put it on her.

[Lex P]

I don't know what she did to my sister. Her nose ain't never bleed again.

[Draya Nicole]

But do y' all feel like that with astrology and stuff? Like, do you feel like you could be, like, super rooted in your faith and, like, believe in astrology and stuff? Because I don't know, when I think about faith and God, I look at ancestors and, like, astrology. Separate as separate things.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Draya Nicole]

But I feel like I have really strong ancestors who fight for me, but I don't necessarily think that they have anything to do with, like, God.

[Lex P]

Mm. I think it's just.

[Draya Nicole]

If that makes sense.

[Lex P]

It does make sense. But I think somehow all of this stuff ties together, but we're not gonna find out until we go to the afterlife. Astrology is connected. All that stuff is Connected. But we don't know how. And we will never know until we get to the cause. I'm telling you, my mom was not a religious woman at all. But you cannot sit here and tell me that she has not had something in her of my life, of how it is right now. There's no way. There is no way. Like, you will never convince me of other. The dreams that I have are so vivid. You cannot tell me. So I know it's all connected. I just don't know how. I don't try to understand it, and I don't try to explain it. All I do is praise God and mind my business. Business. Because that's all I got for y'. All. I don't like to get too deep, Chad, because if I get too deep, them kids is because they got something to say, too.

[Draya Nicole]

They gonna be up there waiting. Just waiting on a moment. But no. Okay, real quick, before we move on to the next topic.

[Lex P]

Okay, we're gonna skip to the next.

[Draya Nicole]

Do y' all feel like it's a difference between intuition and insecurity? Like, you could kind of have an intuition that. Oh, like, I feel like my friend being weird. She's trying to. With my Negro. I feel like. I don't know. I don't trust him around her. He trying to do some sneaky or some. That's making me feel some type of way. Or is it just you being insecure? Like, where do we draw the line? And how do you know what's. What's the difference between the two?

[Toddie]

I think the actions make you insecure.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Toddie]

Like, you can have the intuition, but if you see your friend touching your. Like you said they were. Now you're making me feel insecure about this situation.

[Draya Nicole]

You know what I mean?

[Toddie]

But you can have a spirit of discernment and be like. Like you said, your. Your spirit, your energy's off. I don't need you in my orbit. I'm not liking what's coming out of you, what you're putting around me. Like, you can have that feeling, but I think it's the action that they're putting out there that makes it become an insecurity.

[Lex P]

And I think also it goes into who you are as a woman and also who you're dating. I think sometimes it do be girls that be doing a lot like, girl, calm down, relax. But also, you know, the person you're dating. So I think it is a fine line between, like, this is her cutting up versus is he gonna go? So I think it's. Sometimes it's your intuition, but sometimes it is insecurity. It just depends.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, I think you. I don't even wanna be with a nigga that I'm wondering if he gonna go same. Like, I like niggas who I know. I know you not going nowhere.

[Lex P]

I know you're not going nowhere. But I also don't want to be friends with somebody who does care about me too. It's the both. I don't want either around me.

[Draya Nicole]

I don't. That's fair. I definitely don't want either around me. But I don't know. Like, I'm just a little. I don't care about a looking I don't care about niggas looking cool, but.

[Lex P]

Not but my friends. I think that's a little like, I don't want a around me who I okay, you can look whatever cool. Whatever is cool with you. But I also don't want a friend that's doing the most either. Like I said, I think it's just a respect respecting. I don't want a friend that's doing the most, and I don't want a who makes me feel like he on go. I just think, can we be normal and go out? Like, can we just drink and talk? Like, is everybody okay?

[Draya Nicole]

I be feeling like it's a different stuff between somebody who do the most in general and somebody who do the most to, like, get attention from your yeah or a yeah. Because some people naturally just do the most no matter what. Like, no matter what type of setting they in, no matter who they around. Like, oh, you just know this. She just gonna do the most. Whatever. It's not personal. You not doing this. Cause you around my right.

[Lex P]

I see what you're saying.

[Draya Nicole]

Versus somebody who is like, you're doing it to garner the attention of this particular person.

[Lex P]

You're cooking. You're cooking.

[Draya Nicole]

It's a difference. And I feel like that's what you have to pay attention to. Because if my friend naturally do the most, if she always twerking, if she always loud, if she always being extra and then she doing it around my and he looking. I don't give a Cause you always do the most. Of course he's a man. He's gonna look, right? But if you only start doing it when the knickers is around, now I'm suspicious. Or more particularly when my is around, then now it's kind of like, what is you doing? Hoe no, I agree with you.

[Lex P]

Let us know what y' all think. Now look, we done y'. All. We Done got a little chatty, y'. All. So now it's time to get into the beat Bow.

[Draya Nicole]

The beat about the be about.

[Lex P]

Bow. Bow. So y' all know, per usual, this segment is brought to you by her fantasy box. Y' all know I got that Earl on my legs and I'm smelling like nothing but pineapples. It smells so juicy.

[Draya Nicole]

And for me, it's been a long day. I definitely had to go to to the bathroom and refresh. So I had to use the everywhere wipes. Ooh.

[Lex P]

Because, yeah, sometimes, you know, you don't stank. You just gotta wipe it up a little bit.

[Draya Nicole]

You don't stank, but you ain't trying to be rank.

[Lex P]

Give it to em, Dre.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm saying.

[Lex P]

I know. Yeah. So y' all know it's refreshing. If you wanna balance that ph. It's a soothing wash for the vulva. I love the vulva.

[Draya Nicole]

I love to love the vulva. Me too.

[Lex P]

Because you can't just put anything on there. Y' all just be putting anything on there. You know what I'm saying? And mind you, y' all know the girls on Tick Tock and Amazon, they be knowing it's number one on Tick Tock and Amazon for a reason.

[Draya Nicole]

Absolutely. And I love also that they have so many supplements as well. Like you can literally take the chlorophyll pills. Then you also can use the boric acid suppositories in your vajayjay once you get off your period. It's also good to use them after sex just to refresh you and make sure everything is balanced.

[Lex P]

And it's plant based ingredients. That's what we care about. Y' all don't want to put all this. That's how the ingredients look. You can't read it.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, but not with this.

[Lex P]

Not with this. It's plant based.

[Draya Nicole]

It's simple ingredients.

[Lex P]

No artificial fragrances, nothing. All right. It's aromatherapy in a bottle, child. All right, so moving on. Shout out to her fantasy box her fave for the bed. Why? Boring sex might be a red flag. Okay. What counts as boring sex? To me, boring sex is like, it's no effort. It's no passion. You just trying to get your nut off. And you just fucking me because you feel like I got to. We're dating. I've been fucking you for six months. I've been fucking you for seven months. It's just motion, same position. It's nothing change. It's predictable. I'mma let you go first. So to you It's. Is boring sex a red flag? And should it be a red flag for women?

[Draya Nicole]

No. Cause I think some people just wag and some people coochie wag too. And y' all get together and y' all have wax sex.

[Lex P]

I almost hit you. Preach on it. I ain't gonna hit you.

[Toddie]

It's okay.

[Draya Nicole]

You've done it all episode like this. Yeah, but no, for real, like, I don't think that's a red flag. I just think some people aren't adventurous. Now, what's the red flags? If y' all having like buck wild sex and then it get boring, then I feel like he probably don't want to you no more and he probably getting it from somewhere else or he just not interested. He doesn't feel out of love. Like it's something like that going on. If it was real intense. Intense and interesting and extra. And y' all was living out y' all fantasies and you was trapped in.

[Lex P]

The closet and things.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay, here we go.

[Lex P]

Every episode.

[Draya Nicole]

Every episode.

[Lex P]

I don't know why that came. I don't know how that slipped out. I don't either. Because it ain't had nothing. I have nothing to do. I was thinking about what he was. Go ahead.

[Draya Nicole]

Have anybody ever found. Has anybody found the address, the PR box?

[Lex P]

Ok.

[Draya Nicole]

Cause I feel like you should definitely be on his list of people. Like, he would love to hear from you.

[Lex P]

I don't have nothing to say to him. You have a lot. No, I don't.

[Draya Nicole]

To say, you know all of his greatest hits. Girl, I wish you. Okay, we can send him a. We can send him a compilation. We can send him a compilation video of like all of your greatest moments on Poor Minds where you mention him. Cause it's. At least.

[Toddie]

That is funny. We should definitely do that.

[Lex P]

No.

[Draya Nicole]

What if the picture on the wall right now.

[Lex P]

Can I be honest? Can I be honest? Yeah. I don't listen to his music anymore. So I think sometimes when it comes out, it's just like maybe I'm singing it in my head. It's not funny at all. Cause he's wearing like. I don't take his crimes as a joke. I really don't. But I think sometimes I just. You know, I wish. I wish I.

[Draya Nicole]

That you could be there.

[Lex P]

No, let's move on. Let's move on. His birthday coming up.

[Draya Nicole]

I believe facts.

[Lex P]

He's a Capricorn.

[Toddie]

So we could definitely do that for his birthday. That'd be so sweet of us.

[Lex P]

No, it wouldn't. Yeah, he doesn't deserve Anything he doesn't deserve.

[Draya Nicole]

What's that song where he said, in.

[Lex P]

Her walls there dwells a.

[Toddie]

Great.

[Lex P]

Okay, get back to the topic.

[Draya Nicole]

Go ahead.

[Toddie]

I made love to R. Kelly this weekend.

[Lex P]

A song called the Zoo.

[Toddie]

And he's like, I did that in his ear.

[Lex P]

You did that to the. Thank you, love.

[Draya Nicole]

I can't wait till. Like a monkey in a ear.

[Lex P]

I would love to be put.

[Draya Nicole]

I might do that tonight.

[Lex P]

By the buttered roll.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh, now that was a. Oh, my. Okay. I'm not gonna lie. Won't lie.

[Lex P]

We must.

[Draya Nicole]

We must all be stopped. However, though that may or may not have came on my playlist two weeks ago.

[Toddie]

Just saying.

[Lex P]

I don't.

[Draya Nicole]

And when he said.

[Lex P]

She got on them tickets.

[Draya Nicole]

Girl, you were in the kitchen cooking me a meal. Cutting up tomatoes, fruits and vegetables and potatoes.

[Lex P]

Sexy when you do this. Shut up, girl. That's such a good song, though. Girl, I'm breathy, too. Talk show salad. Well, make it all hush. Girls, shut up. Hey, hey. Everybody calm down. We got some rap.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm just saying, like that better than karaoke. Yeah, it is. And it was such a good song. It is just not fair.

[Lex P]

He's a weirdo.

[Draya Nicole]

It is not fair that he's a weirdo. But also, it don't go to his. He don't make no money from the streams no more.

[Lex P]

That's how I know.

[Draya Nicole]

Where does the money go to him? Even though you.

[Lex P]

No, I did my research. I read.

[Toddie]

Where does the money go?

[Draya Nicole]

That's a good. I didn't know. For the victims.

[Lex P]

He doesn't.

[Toddie]

The victim.

[Lex P]

You just made that up.

[Draya Nicole]

That's what I thought.

[Lex P]

And she think it's funny. You just made that up to make you feel better. Cause you just listening to the shit. She said this for the victims.

[Draya Nicole]

I was in the kitchen. I was, like, cutting up tomatoes. You said vegetables and potatoes. I was definitely cooking to that the other day. I'm so sorry, y'.

[Lex P]

All.

[Draya Nicole]

Please don't be mad.

[Lex P]

No, seriously, all jokes aside, but I.

[Draya Nicole]

Would like Felicia to admit that she be listening Trapped in the Closet at Home. And then we can all just move on in peace. Cause I know you do. I know you be listening to Trapped.

[Lex P]

In the Closet, the package. No, I don't. I haven't. I'm not kidding, y'. All. I'm serious. I don't listen to him. It really bothers me. Ooh, it's so good. That bead who did that. So nasty. But let's move on. Let's move on. I don't Support R. Kelly. There's nothing I have to say to him. I think he is a peasant and him and the diddler are right where they deserve to be. Right?

[Ryan Seacrest]

I agree.

[Draya Nicole]

I agree.

[Lex P]

He gets our jokes off now.

[Draya Nicole]

I agree.

[Lex P]

But it hit us. We'll make it love fiesta. We about it like a snigma. I mean, this is my song for real.

[Draya Nicole]

Hey, can you see what I sent you on Instagram?

[Lex P]

Walking to the dance?

[Draya Nicole]

No.

[Lex P]

Oh, yes, I did. Do you have your passport? Did you get your shot? Do you wanna.

[Draya Nicole]

They about to be like, these bitches spent five minutes talking about.

[Lex P]

Yeah, you right. It's time to move on. And we might cut this out.

[Draya Nicole]

We will.

[Lex P]

Maybe not, okay? But honestly, this is how I feel about boring sex. I think I agree with you. If you have boring sex from the jump, you just don't got good dick and you don't got good pussy. I'm not gonna lie to you. I ain't had boring sex. Damn, I haven't fucking since I was a teeny tot in a long time.

[Draya Nicole]

A teeny tie concerns me, though.

[Lex P]

Does it?

[Draya Nicole]

Cause how teeny and how tidy.

[Lex P]

Blowing up tomatoes. Oh, now don't do. Ooh, that's right. Too dark. Too dark. That was too dark.

[Ryan Seacrest]

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[Ed Helms]

Hey, everyone. Ed Helms here.

[Lex P]

And hi, I'm Kalpen and we're the.

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[Lex P]

You know what?

[Draya Nicole]

I can see you as Mr. Darcy. You got a little call in Firth.

[Ed Helms]

Okay, that's really sweet. I appreciate that. But are you sure I'm not the dad? I'm not Mr. Bennett.

[Draya Nicole]

Here.

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[Draya Nicole]

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[Lex P]

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[Draya Nicole]

CP3 is too young. That was like 2001.

[Lex P]

Okay. But okay. I was just trying to keep the theme of the joke and sometimes I take it too far. But what I'm saying is I cannot remember.

[Draya Nicole]

I was like, damn, I wasn't even born yet.

[Lex P]

I think that. I think that to me boring sex is a red flag. I'm not gonna lie because I feel like. Do you see these things? These supple breasts? It should bring out an adventure in you. It should make you feel like you wanna do something. Cause tonight, Barry, I won't. This ass is. You ain't seen something this high since you looked at Mount Everest. Bitch, you better climb this mountain and get to work.

[Draya Nicole]

I don't like supple breasts.

[Lex P]

My breasts are supple. My breasts are supple.

[Draya Nicole]

That's one of them things that I always say. It just sound too grown.

[Lex P]

I'm grown, though.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm supple, bruh.

[Lex P]

I'm supple. You know what I'm noticing as I get older?

[Draya Nicole]

What does supple even mean?

[Lex P]

Like this. He got a cuppet. That mean he got a cuppet. Cause it hang a little bit. It hang. It hang. So he got a couple and it's supple and he gotta scoop it up and. Mm. Just like that.

[Draya Nicole]

Mm.

[Lex P]

You know what I'm saying? He gotta grab me and my ass is rotund. And he gotta squeeze it. And he gotta dig them heels in the rug. In the area. Rug. Cause you know I got. What?

[Draya Nicole]

He gonna slip.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Cause it's slippery. Excuse me. Yes, we got all. Everything. Wind, snow, sleet, earth and fire. Yes, all the. All the elements is going on right now. I'm grown and it's finna get nasty.

[Draya Nicole]

When do they be Euphorty?

[Lex P]

Hell, my. But I queefed.

[Draya Nicole]

I bequeathed him kissing bean.

[Lex P]

That's the word you use?

[Draya Nicole]

You fartied? No, I bean.

[Lex P]

I bequeathed him Lex.

[Draya Nicole]

I don't care what nobody say. I know you be gassy from the beginning.

[Lex P]

You know what's crazy? I'm not gonna lie. I think I just. It's normal. But I think, you know, when you eat something all the time, my stomach don't feel nothing. I have regular bowel movements like normal person.

[Draya Nicole]

So you probably be farting and you don't even know it. If you don't feel it.

[Lex P]

I do. Cause it'd be like this. Oh, my goodness. There's no structure back. Oh, I know.

[Draya Nicole]

Let's wrap this up. I know we be doing that. Cause I smelt it. Mm. But anyways, let's go.

[Lex P]

Let's move on. Let's move on.

[Draya Nicole]

Queen.

[Lex P]

So boring. Sex is not a red flag to you. It's a red flag to me. Let us know in the comments how you feel.

[Draya Nicole]

Why do you think it's. You said it's not a red flag.

[Lex P]

I don't think it's a.

[Draya Nicole]

No, I did say a rug because.

[Lex P]

I think I should bring out the beast in you. I need to bring out that Smokey the Bear. If I take off my clothes and you don't be like this.

[Draya Nicole]

Wasn't Smokey the Bear friendly?

[Lex P]

I don't give a fuck and I'mma bring it out of him. You need to act like a wild animal with rabies when I take off my clothes.

[Draya Nicole]

A boar.

[Lex P]

Yes, a boar with a whore.

[Draya Nicole]

Or a whore cook. Mm. Why you keep such a mean.

[Lex P]

I just love you. You know you've hit me like. Cause it's passion. Cause you see how I am when I'm around you. This is passion. And I'm not fucking you. This is passion. So if a man don't do this about me when he sees my booty hole.

[Draya Nicole]

You making my little. You making my turkey big mama your.

[Lex P]

Arm shave if you don't see this glory hole and go berserk.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, I feel like it's about the emotional connection.

[Lex P]

I do, too.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, you gotta have an emotional connection. If you and this person are locked in, then it's not gonna be boring sex. I just. I don't think it's possible as long as the spark is there. That only happens when you lose the spark.

[Lex P]

And what I told you. You know how that spark comes when you hear this in the background? No music. No. When you hear this, it's no electricity. You just hear it in your head. That's how you know you love a nigga sometimes. I don't fuck the nigga. It ain't no music. It ain't no nothing around. I hear Maxwell. I just hear it in the air. That's how you know you got good dick. You slide it in. Yeah, it just plays automatically.

[Draya Nicole]

I've been there. I have, too.

[Lex P]

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. He ain't lying. It's like a violin.

[Draya Nicole]

And you just be like this. And you be holding your supple breasts.

[Lex P]

Yes, they supple. This is when the breasts start to go. Pray God you can cool. That's what I'm telling you, man. You feel it?

[Draya Nicole]

I did. I felt it.

[Lex P]

Your breasts were supple just then, right?

[Draya Nicole]

My breasts is always supple.

[Lex P]

But you just said you didn't like supple.

[Draya Nicole]

I don't like that word. Oh, but they always supple.

[Lex P]

You know it.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, I just don't like the word. It's too grown. It's. Supple is the word breast. I've said this before. The word breast itself is just. It's too grown of a word for me. I don't think I have breasts yet. I think breasts.

[Lex P]

You have breasts.

[Draya Nicole]

Is 50 plus.

[Lex P]

No, but you have nice breasts.

[Draya Nicole]

I have boobs.

[Lex P]

No, you have nice breasts.

[Draya Nicole]

You know, I keep a bad bitch looking Sorry. Your boob. I have boobs.

[Lex P]

Love. Nick. I have boobs.

[Draya Nicole]

I have titties. I have tits.

[Lex P]

So can we move on? Titties. Can we move on? Titties? We can move on. You got titties like Dolly Parton. They're just never gonna fade.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh, me?

[Lex P]

Yeah. Like you're gonna be real titties. No, but I'm saying they're just always gonna sit up mine. Yeah, I'm probably gonna get them redone.

[Draya Nicole]

When I'm, like, 65.

[Lex P]

So now it's time to get into the bop. Ay, the bop. The bop.

[Draya Nicole]

Bow bow.

[Lex P]

A bow bow bow. So my bop of the week is something a little off, a little odd, a little different. And I love this group. Y' all probably heard of them a long time ago. The group Hame, they had that song. If I could change your mind. You remember that song?

[Draya Nicole]

No.

[Lex P]

I could hit the ground running. Anyways, they're actually a really super, like, huge group. And y' all know I usually do, like, underground artists, but this is different. Bon Iver, Love them. Come on. Pretty love. No. Okay. Anyways, so they have a song together called Tie youe Down. And it's just. Let's bring indie music back like that.

[Draya Nicole]

Indie music.

[Lex P]

Like, let's be depressed and be in love and just cry in front of a fucking fireplace. It's time. Like, I'm done popping pussy, bro. It's about to start snowing. Let's get the marshmallows, the s'. Mores. Let's get the hot cocoa. Let's cry. Your tears need to be falling on my vagina while you eat it. And we need to cry together. Let's bring back the sad music. It's time. It's fall, winter. Let's bring in the sad music. So this is a good love song. Hame, tie you down featuring Bon Iver. A bop, a hit. Let's get into it.

[Draya Nicole]

My bop. Is d' Angelo a lady. Such a good song. Like, D has so many good songs. So he had Cruising. He had Brown Sugar, R P to d'. Angelo. This song that made me so sad the other day. Like, yeah, I think one of the set. Like, one of the craziest things about getting older is, like, we not old per se, yet, but, like, all of the people that we grew up listening to, like, is dying.

[Lex P]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's like a. A harsh reality.

[Draya Nicole]

But, yeah, it's like life is so fragile, and you really have to, like, cherish the moment and cherish while you here. And it's just a reminder that it doesn't matter how successful you are, how much money you have. Like, we all got an expiration date.

[Lex P]

You know, A lot of people tagged me the other day because that's my favorite. Brown sugar is my favorite. He taught me, I want some of your brown shoes.

[Draya Nicole]

I think sex.

[Lex P]

No.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

That's crazy. I grew up on that.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

He taught me how to go to that low. Register that to the high one. I want some of your brown sugar. Sh. I ain't know how to jump like that. I ain't know how to jump from that low to that high. I didn't know how to do it.

[Ed Helms]

Till he taught me.

[Draya Nicole]

Okay? So, yeah, so, like, I just wanted to, you know, give a little old. Pay homage to d'. Angelo. He has some hits. Nothing even matters with him. And Lauryn Hill. That's, like, literally one of my favorite songs ever created, ever.

[Lex P]

But in all seriousness, all jokes aside, because I think about his son and how he lost both his parents in a short period of time. Both of them. Well, you know, I don't want to say. Speak on, you know, him being sick or whatever. I don't know if that.

[Draya Nicole]

And d' Angelo has other kids, too. Like, I feel like people keep talking about him and Angie's.

[Lex P]

Well, the reason they're talking about that, because she just passed, and then he passed, not shortly after. So I think that's why they keep talking. Cause, yes, he did have other kids.

[Draya Nicole]

And she has another kid, too.

[Lex P]

Right? So, I mean, prayers to all their kids. But to lose both parents in such a short period of time, especially with Angie, it was like, what a wreck. What are we talking about here? I'm sorry. To lose somebody unexpectedly. I'm not saying death has been easy. Anyway. I don't care if you expect it or not. It's still not okay. But to, like, oh, a wreck. What? You know what I'm saying? So tragically, it's just tragic. So, you know, all jokes aside, prayers out to all their children, you know, but especially their child together. Because, like, that's a lot. That's a lot. Two parents in a year's time. Jesus Christ.

[Toddie]

Isn't it? When did she pass?

[Lex P]

It was earlier this year. Yeah, it was like, six months ago.

[Draya Nicole]

It was in March.

[Lex P]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

And cancer is just such a crazy thing. It just me up every time somebody died from cancer because it's just. I don't know. It's just one of those things where it's like, I think we're still as long as it's been around, we still be like, how the fuck does it happen? Where does it come from?

[Lex P]

And you just literally watching somebody wither away.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah. Like, where does it come from? How can we prevent it? How can we stop it from happening? It's like we still don't have the answers to any of those things, and it just. It's crazy. But, yeah. So, yeah, d', Angelo, that's my vibe.

[Lex P]

And since we're speaking of those who have passed. Diane Keaton passed away.

[Draya Nicole]

Oh, yeah.

[Lex P]

And honestly, y' all have never heard of this movie. Everybody, I don't care what you're doing right now. Go find. If you're a person who likes romance dramas, go watch the Other Sister. I watched that movie when I was way too young, but it is one of the best movies. Like, still to this day, it's one of my favorite movies. It's called the Other Sister. Diane Keaton plays the mom, and it's such a good movie. And I was like, damn. Damn.

[Draya Nicole]

I used to love First Wives Club.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Oh, my God. Classic. Yeah. Moving on.

[Ryan Seacrest]

O.

[Draya Nicole]

But yeah. So now it's time to. Crazy.

[Lex P]

Pour your heart out.

[Draya Nicole]

So now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show. Y' all know if y' all have any questions. Sending the poor minds. Ask poor minds Gmail dot com. That's a S K P O U R M I N D sgmail.com. question number one. Hey, Dre and Nicole and Lex P. Please keep this anonymous. First off, congratulations on everything. I've been binge watching since the very first episode. And I love seeing Yalls growth. So I'm dating this guy I really like. He's attractive, gives me space to be independent, but also treats me like a princess. Exactly what I've been looking for. I'm a Taurus. He's a Virgo. This past week, we were out with friends, having fun and doing a little recreational stuff. But the way he acted had me catching the egg. And once I see a ick, I can't unsee it. Now I'm wondering if I'm overreacting or if it's a deal breaker. Do y' all think a ick means it's over, or can you move past it for me? Examples are moaning while eating, losing self control while drunk. Like, we both can't be sloppy. What are some icks for y'? All?

[Toddie]

Those are good icks, though.

[Lex P]

Those are good icks, though. I don't like a man that gets too sloppy, especially if I'm Sloppy. Who gonna protect us? Who gonna be the boys?

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

So that's a good ick to have. Cause I done dealt. Cause y' all know, like I said, I love. I have a drink. I love to have a little drink. And I usually date men who love to have a little drink too, but they never ever get to the point to where they can't be alert if something goes down. So I agree. That's a very good ick to have. Moaning while you eating. It depends what kind of moaning. Like, if you like. Mm, good. Yeah, like if you like. Especially if I cooked it.

[Draya Nicole]

That's what I was gonna say. Is it my food?

[Lex P]

Yeah. Like, if I cooked it. Yeah. But I don't.

[Draya Nicole]

But I also. I don't be mad. Like, I enjoy my food.

[Lex P]

I'm moaning a little bit when I eat it too.

[Draya Nicole]

I like food, so I might even do a little dance. Like, sometimes I'll catch myself being like, oh. So I. But I do think everybody has different ick.

[Lex P]

I told you, I talked about this ick. I have an ick.

[Toddie]

When.

[Draya Nicole]

That's not an ick for me, though.

[Lex P]

My ick talked about this. I don't like when you can't find a parking spot. I think that's weird as fuck. As a man, why you can't find a parking spot? I get icked out. Like, if you're not a good driver as a man, why you can't drive as a man? If we in an escape room, why you didn't get me out? If we go on a date to an escape room, why are we stuck in here?

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, figure it out. I definitely think it's certain things that, like, are icks with a man, but moaning while eating ain't necessarily a bad thing because. Do he moan while eating the coochie? Eating what exactly? You didn't specify.

[Lex P]

Oh, but I think it's okay to have icks. But icks? It depends. Like, icks to me are like little things. You gotta think of your deal. Your serious deal breakers. And I think that if a person can check off 8 to 10 of your list, keep it.

[Draya Nicole]

Men be narcissistic, they be sociopathic.

[Lex P]

So much more serious things to get.

[Draya Nicole]

They be having childhood trauma. And you give a fuck about a nigga moaning while he.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Mm. I just moaned right then.

[Draya Nicole]

No, you didn't.

[Lex P]

I said mm. That's not moaning, that's a moan.

[Draya Nicole]

Moaning is. Mm.

[Lex P]

All right, good luck. Hey, ladies. I'm a 31 year old virgin. See? And Key Glock said that we didn't have no virgins that listen to the show. I'm a 31 year old virgin.

[Draya Nicole]

What was that? Ain't that.

[Lex P]

Yes we are out here. I was always focused on school and then helping take care of my mom and grandma. I've been on dates and a wild amount of talking stages with both men and women, but as soon as I bring up being a virgin, I get ghosted. Now I understand being this old and not having any experience, but damn, should I just start lying and pretend I know what I'm doing? By the way, I love watching y' all keep up the amazing work.

[Draya Nicole]

Y' all would just stop telling. Naw.

[Lex P]

Cause you gonna come across a weirdo that's just gonna wanna fuck you just to say he took it. And then you gonna come across people that's like they don't wanna break a 31 year old's virginity. But I think at 31 you've waited this long. Your connection should have nothing to do with sex. Like nothing. You don't even know what to expect. You don't even know what you like.

[Draya Nicole]

It took.

[Lex P]

I had been fucking for so long, by the time I was 31, I been knew what I liked. So you got a long adventure once you start fucking, you know what I'm saying?

[Toddie]

But if she doesn't tell people that she's a virgin, then won't they be? Cause you know how some people can just be freaky immediately? Like they gonna be a little bit more pushy, they won't understand it. So like what was she like? What should she do with that then if she doesn't tell them and like, let's say she meets somebody and they just talking, whatever, you know, niggas just take it to the next level quick. How does she feel them off then without telling them?

[Lex P]

I think as a person who's been fucking since a teeny tied. How I date now is I don't like to talk about sex though. I don't. And if you bring up sex too early, you're getting cut off. And this is coming from a reformed health. Don't bring up sex too early. It's weird whether you're a virgin or not. I agree. So I just think just date like a normal person. Because for me, sex is not even something I want to even talk about when I'm getting to know you. And then once I'm there, then we can have the conversation. But by the time I'm talking about sex with you and we're taking it there, we already really like each other.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah, I agree. Like, kind of going back to, like, the previous question. Now that I'm thinking about it, that's an ick for me. I hate when men start talking about sex too early. Like, we shouldn't even be in a situation where you're having to find out that whether I'm a virgin or how experienced I am early on in the dating stage. This shouldn't even be something that we discussing. Yeah. Because we getting to know each other. And if you start bringing it up too early, it's definitely like, okay, you're weird, you're too horny. Yeah, Mr. Kelly.

[Toddie]

I definitely just. Just stop texting you if you start taking it there. I'll try to, like, divert the conversation. But if you keep bringing it back, I'm just gonna stop texting you because.

[Draya Nicole]

I'm gonna just stop talking to you because why do you keep bringing this up to me when I have not one thing about women? They will give you the green light when they ready to. Yeah, when they ready to give it up, Are they feeling you like that? You gonna know and you gonna feel it. You don't have to do the most. So would a man be too thirsty? And I feel like with her being a virgin, we know you not bringing it up. So it's the man. So I feel like that's. That's a red flag. A man who is really trying to get to know you, he not gonna bring it up all the time because he know it's gonna come eventually if you feeling him.

[Lex P]

And I also think it's the difference between a man talking about like, damn, you're really beautiful, you're attractive. I'm attracted to you. Versus talking about how fine you are. Damn, you thick as. Damn, that ass fit dance.

[Toddie]

Like, over sexualizing.

[Lex P]

Yeah, over sexualizing me versus complimenting me and calling me beautiful. Saying, oh, man, you really look nice. Like, that dress look good on you. Versus being like, God damn, you thick as fuck. It's a big difference. Like, I get turned off by that. Like, you keep talking about how thick I am.

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[Lex P]

And hi, I'm Cal Penn and we're.

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[Lex P]

You know what? I can see you as Mr.

[Draya Nicole]

Darling. You got a little call in Firth.

[Ed Helms]

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[Draya Nicole]

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[Lex P]

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[Lex P]

You know?

[Toddie]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

All that stuff.

[Draya Nicole]

What if he say you got the body of a goddess?

[Lex P]

Got eyes. Put a pink in brown. I see you, girl. Yeah. A body of a goddess. That's a beautiful compliment. What?

[Draya Nicole]

But he's still talking about how thick you are.

[Lex P]

But that's the difference, man. You got the body of a goddess. Wow. Versus somebody being like, you thick as fuck. Body of a goddess. Body of a goddess is like.

[Draya Nicole]

Yes.

[Lex P]

If a man told me I had the body of a goddess, oh my.

[Draya Nicole]

God, you were fucked.

[Toddie]

She was fucking right.

[Draya Nicole]

You right. And see, he got you that. Fucking sick.

[Lex P]

But that's how easy it is. N S is so stupid. At this age, you would be surprised. Niggas are still talking their way out of pussy. They can be the richest niggas, finest niggas, all this and that. You be like, I get why you single. Yeah.

[Draya Nicole]

Yeah.

[Toddie]

And I kind of be shady to Shorty. Maybe you should look at like, I don't want to say Christian and just single that out. But like more religious events because those people usually are focused on the word and like finding their partner that they want to build with and not so over sexualized in that aspect.

[Lex P]

And they'll have the same kind of like even if they're not virgins. Even though a lot of them times they're like reformed and they want to wait til they're married and things like that. Not saying that you want to do that, but I think you'll be more successful in finding somebody in the same mind frame.

[Draya Nicole]

Christianmingle.com Is that still a thing?

[Lex P]

I wouldn't know. I don't like no dating apps.

[Draya Nicole]

Me either. I mean, I feel like we're at a point where we can't really be on dating apps.

[Lex P]

We not talking about that again. But yes, we can. The one. Everybody on that one.

[Draya Nicole]

Woody Hall Brown.

[Lex P]

What?

[Toddie]

That's an app.

[Lex P]

That's a app.

[Draya Nicole]

I feel like that's the one Lakes will be on.

[Lex P]

No. What was the one we talked about?

[Toddie]

Hinge.

[Lex P]

Not Hinge. The one. Raya. We could be on Raya.

[Draya Nicole]

No.

[Lex P]

Yes. We can. Ben Affleck and them be on Raya. Seriously. They do.

[Draya Nicole]

Ben Affleck was married to JLO for.

[Lex P]

A minute, but he was when he was single. I see.

[Draya Nicole]

But I. And exactly. And now everybody know he on there.

[Toddie]

Cuz.

[Draya Nicole]

Guess what? You done told it.

[Lex P]

I didn't tell it. It was a tik tok that went viral, baby. I didn't tell it.

[Draya Nicole]

And I spread the word even more.

[Lex P]

Don't. And I spread it again. They should have added me on that and I would have kept my mouth shut.

[Draya Nicole]

So the point that I'm making is I just think when you get to a certain point, you can't be. You can't successfully be on dating apps. I really do believe that. Because how do you know the sincerity of the person that you're trying to date? How do you know they really are interested in you? Or do they want. Because they already know that you. This person from this platform that has all of this shit going on. I personally wouldn't be interested in the dating app.

[Lex P]

Well, I think on Raya, a lot of. There are a lot of like. And I say regular, like, normal people with nine to fives on there, but there are a lot of people who match, like, influencers match with other influencers. So it's like they can find each other. I don't know.

[Draya Nicole]

I don't know.

[Lex P]

Yeah, let's.

[Draya Nicole]

I think we should leave them alone.

[Lex P]

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[Toddie]

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[Lex P]

And we gonna give it to them like this. Yeah. You like that brown Sugar? You like that? Tell me you like it. Sway with them.

[Draya Nicole]

Drea, let me tell you about this girl. Maybe I shouldn't. I met her in Philly and her name was Brown Sugar. See, we've been making love constantly. That's why my eyes are a shade of blood. Blood burgundy. That's all kissing it's like any other way that I be kissing When I'm kissing When I miss him Won't you listen? Brown sugar babe I get high off your love I don't know how to.

[Lex P]

Behave True.

[Draya Nicole]

I want some of your brown sugar I want some of your brown sugar I want some of your brown sugar oh, sugar when you're close to me Love me right down, down to my knees and when you let me hit it, hit it sweet like honey when it comes when it comes to me with the cocoa eyes Even got a big sister by the name of chocolate side Brown sugar babe I get tired I feel love I don't know how to I want some of your brow. I want some of your brown sugar. I want some of your brown sugar.

[Lex P]

I want some of that brown sugar. And you gonna give it to me, baby. This is how we do the spoken poetry. I'm gonna show y' all how to talk about that brown sugar. Cause sometimes when I wake up in the morning, I just want a little pancake. And you know what I want on top of that pancake? A little brown sugar. Sure. I want some of your brown. Cause that's supple. You don't know. She got marp to d', Angelo.

[Draya Nicole]

D' Angelo. Rip to d'.

[Ryan Seacrest]

Angelo.

[Lex P]

And I'm say this one more time. This is gonna be the last time I hit it.

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Why?

[Lex P]

Because I can't.

[Draya Nicole]

No more legacy live on. This should be the last time.

[Lex P]

I guess I got. I want some of your bro show clap. I want some of your brow. I want some of your brown.

[Draya Nicole]

Rip. Rest in peace.

[Lex P]

Damn. Damn. Sa.

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[Lex P]

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[Toddie]

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