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What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's.
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Your girl, Dre Nicole.
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And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind, where a drunk.
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Mind speaks sober thoughts.
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We got a guest today. We got a guest today.
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We do got a guest today.
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Hey, Bon Quisha.
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Hey, Bon Quisha. AKA this is. AKA Cousin E. Yeah, this is a cousin.
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It's so. Happy Halloween.
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Happy Halloween, y'all. In case y'all haven't figured out who we are, we are the Addams Family. You are Uncle Faster. That's your voice.
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That's how he talk is. He knows it's not that special.
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Do it again.
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Uncle Faster.
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Are you gonna talk like that the whole episode?
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Maybe.
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Okay. I am Mortica.
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Oh, a little hood with it.
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You know, I'm not like Morticia, because she stayed with her N. Well, this is the thing, though. Like, so y'all probably wondering what happened to my bust down middle part, but I got a new haircut because, you know, they say a woman who cut her hair is about to change her life. So, you know, I left him. That's why he not here.
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Gomez is not nowhere.
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Gomez is not in the picture. That is why I got the bob. I felt like I needed a new start, a fresh start, you know?
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I like it.
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You like it?
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I like it.
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You do like it. Thank you. Thank you. Yes. I just feel like I needed a new start. You know, we about to go into 20, 25. Sometimes you just gotta leave him in a dude. You gotta pay him this. She knows.
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She know all about the dude.
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She know all about the days from dust to this, ashes to ashes, dust to this. So, yeah, sometimes you just gotta leave him in the dust. It's about to be 20, 25. You know what I feel like I'm giving? Remember that lady that they was using every year for New Year's that was stepping up, and it was the words that she had, the little bag, and it was like, leaving behind past trauma. Leaving behind Nati. This is me, Mortica.
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Mortica.
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Mortica.
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Shout out to Mortica.
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Shout out to her. So, yeah, not in real life. Like, in real life, me and my man is together in 2025, period. But Mortica left her man.
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I love it.
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And that's why she got a bob. I like it.
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Well, and I.
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It's giving.
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My.
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My son is my king. Where Pugsley?
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Yes, where he at? I like that. Wednesday, right there. Wednesday.
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My kids are my king queen.
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I like that. Well, me, I'm not the average Uncle Fester. I am Bbl Festa.
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Can we see it?
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Yeah.
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Oh, my God. You look like a priest. Because. What is this?
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You gotta hold it.
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What? I like it. You gonna wake Cousin it up from the dead.
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Yeah. I'm PBL Festival.
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She about to get hard.
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She already is. She's got a boner.
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What?
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What?
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Bbl Fester, you need to calm. You need to calm down. You need to cool it. Okay, so, yes. I'm Martika, and this is my cousin, Fester.
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I'm Bbl Fester.
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They was cousins, right?
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I think he was the brother. He was either Gomez's brother or Morteka's brother, but he was Uncle Fester. So he was somebody's uncle, obviously.
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Well, I mean, he was Wednesday and Pugsley Uncle.
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Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. I don't know if he was the great uncle. Like, he was Gomez's or. I don't know. But I'm Bbl Festa, period.
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So. Yes.
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Happy Halloween. We got the candy, y'all. I'm so excited. So shout out. What's the intern's name? Damn. Mikayla. Shout out to Mikayla. She decorated the set for us today, and she picked up candy, and she didn't even know Nerds Clusters are my favorite candy, so I'm taking that home. Yay. Sorry. Sorry.
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This wig cap is sending me.
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Well, honestly. Okay, no. All jokes aside, I feel like one thing about Halloween is I really take it there. This is my actual bald head. I shaved my hair for this.
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No, you didn't.
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Yes, I did.
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Then why it's not the same color?
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Cause I didn't get a tan. Duh. The sun don't hit my head, so it's not gonna be the same color.
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Why do it lift up?
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It don't moved.
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You talk too much. I don't remember Uncle Fester talking this much. You need to be quiet. Oh, he was quiet. He said, like, maximum 10 words. No.
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I feel like Uncle Fester was chatty. Well, I'm not Uncle Fester. I'm Bbl Fester.
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Bbl Fester is Nay.
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So, to kick off Halloween, why are your eyes black? These are. I didn't sleep last night. I don't have no makeup on right now. This is really how I look, so that's hurt my feelings.
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I'm sorry, bro. Cuz.
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Unk.
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Big Unk. Well, you ain't my uncle. I think you either my brother or something.
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Something like that.
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We figure it out, we related.
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Jay, can you look that up and figure out How Uncle Fester. Like, who's.
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And Mortica related? I mean, Morticia.
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Hester.
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Oh, so you.
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Yeah, I'm your uncle. Oh, it changed. So now I'm Gomez's brother. So you cut Gomez off, but I'm still in the picture? Cause, I mean, that's okay.
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He had to go. He used to be cheating.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, he used to be cheating. Like, I didn't have time for that.
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Okay, so to start off the Halloween episode, y'all know it's Friday night. I know y'all in the house, or maybe you getting ready to go out. So y'all know we gotta start it off with the game. We gotta play. Ty, you gonna play the game with us today? Let's go. Okay, so we gonna do. Y'all know I love a good ABC game. Okay, so we gonna do the ABC game. So, you know, we go in order. A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I. Okay. Anyways, and. But we have to name Halloween things. Things that have to do with Halloween. Scary things. Okay. Through the Alphabet. And if you can't think of something, you know, you gotta take a sip of the drinking drink.
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It gotta be something scary.
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I mean, not something scary, but if it's like, anything that has to do with Halloween. Anything.
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Okay.
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Anything. Okay, is everybody ready? Y'all can play at home. Ty, you gonna start it off for us with a. With a. And action.
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A ghost.
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No, no, it don't work like that.
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Yeah, they start with an A.
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No, no.
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I think I talked that whole time.
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Cause I was giving you time to stop it.
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I don't think she thought you was gonna start with her.
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You could have said ow.
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That don't fucking work either.
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That's a good. No, that's not.
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Owls do not do that.
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That was a woof.
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But that's also a howl.
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Morticia, you kind of slow a. Wolves.
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Do not say ow.
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Yes.
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They don't start with an A.
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You never heard that song from the 80s? Thank you.
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Right. Wait, somebody look up wolf sound.
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Ooh. You never heard that song from the.
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H. It's howl with the H. But.
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I said, I know that's howl. Is she over there talking about shit, right? No, the word is howl. The word is howl. But the noise is.
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Well, I believe it's a song. But, like. No, that does not count.
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Well, Ty got it wrong.
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Okay, well, I'm gonna start over.
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I'm ready. Okay.
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She thought about how to eat.
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Okay. And action.
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Adam's family.
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Ooh.
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Hey, Sus. Bobbing for apples.
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Candied apples. Demon.
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Ooh, funky. That's scary.
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Skip E. But what about E? But what about E? You. You. Yours was E. Oh, Mortica. Oh, I'm not gonna. It's not. Shouldn't count, but I'm accounting for creativity.
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Yeah, I ain't that slow. Okay, I did skip over. Eat on my bed.
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F. Frankenstein. Ghoul.
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Goodies. My goodness.
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Just did G. Montika, you're. You are H. What are you doing? Drea. You. You have H, not G. Okay, so are you gonna do your words?
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Let me see. H. Focus.
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That's a good one. What am I? Hi. I can't think of one.
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Insects. Yeah, insects are scary.
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Okay, I didn't think of that, though. Ooh, that's really spooky. For real. You wanna give Uncle Fester some coochie, Wednesday? Ooh, that's what she said. She said.
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Excuse me.
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She said incest. Hrhr.
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I'm calling 911, bitch. Not my child. I'm a mother first.
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Martika.
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I'm a mother first.
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Martika.
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Please do not play with my daughter.
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I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Okay.
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H, I, J. I know she got cheap. Pull your stockings up, Wednesday. You showing too much stuff.
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Jeepers Creeper. Oh, that's a good one. Krueger.
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Freddy Krueger.
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Does it count, y'all? Does it count?
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That counts.
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Okay. H, I, J, K, L. A layer.
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You talking.
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A witch's layer. A layer. Emma.
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Morticia.
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Oh, okay. N. I'm scary. Yeah.
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In America. A nigga in America. That's scary.
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You right. You right. Okay, elementary. Oh. Oh, there you go.
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That's good. That was good. That was good. That was good. You getting festa. Calm down. You ain't had your meds today, right?
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You right. Okay. Okay.
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P. Potion.
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Ooh, cute. What? Take yourself. Take yourself.
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What? Start with a cube. Queef.
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Queef.
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Queefing ain't scary to me.
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Cortica. Oh, my God.
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Kept Gomez all in here.
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Okay. Q, R. I'm R. Riding the broom. Riding the broom.
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That was a good one. That's not good, right? It's not good. They said no.
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Oh, my God. Okay, so what's a R? One?
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Q, R.
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Roaches.
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You should have said roaches are rats.
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Oh, yeah, that was a good one. Okay. Qrs. Spider webs. Ooh.
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T. Telly to a beast.
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That is pretty scary.
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Grown ass men walking around in this.
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Oh, but wait. Did y'all know that TeleTubbies were, like, 6ft tall? Like 7. They were, like, huge. I'll give that to you.
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Yeah. That was scary. I don't know about y'all, but I never could with this show. It was scary to me. It was a little scary.
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Okay, You. You.
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Tombstone. Yeah.
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Oh, okay. You. Umbilical cord.
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Why is that scary? Bitch, take the shot. Take the shot.
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It's bloody.
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People be seeing where I'm going with things. You be. Just take the shot.
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Oh, fuck. Okay.
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UV I was gonna say vaginas, though some of them, they're not scary.
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Some of them be scary.
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I done seen some scary ones. No, Ty, you gotta take pause. How many have you seen?
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Quite a few in my day. Old ones?
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Young, Hairy. Okay, okay, okay, okay. V. W. Yeah, Wicked.
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That's a good. That's a good one. X. X ray.
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That's not an X ray.
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It kind of is.
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No, no. Why did nobody say S for skeleton? I just thought about it.
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X ray don't count because it's bones.
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X ray don't count because the X ray not scary. Think it's. Don't be beating her up. Let's start with an E by Wednesday.
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Wednesday said exorcism, y'all.
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It start with A. E. The ecstasy it's giving the whole family slow.
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Okay, I'll take my little sip. Okay. X. Y.
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Young niggas.
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Hey, them young niggas, they scared. They be robbing. They be robbing young niggas from Chicago. So out of this world. Okay, last one. Drea, finish us out a Z.
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The zoo.
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That's not.
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They be having their monkeys and shit.
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Take your shot.
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Oh, what about. What's that lady name? Who you be dancing like?
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Jojo Siwa.
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Oh, I thought he started. I thought it was zozo.
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And there's nothing scary about Josie.
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She a little scary. She scares me.
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A legend. So don't do that.
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I don't know why I thought it was zozo. She's scary, all right. So are you.
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Girl. What?
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I can show you.
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What?
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Wait.
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I'm a boy.
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You are.
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Please respect me and stop misgendering me. I am a boy, Damon. Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. So let's get into the first topic. Cause we ain't finna be here all day. God damn it. We going to be serious.
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What is a good Z word, though?
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I don't know. I don't know a lot of Z words. Z words aren't really in my vocab. Zebras aren't scary?
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No. I'm just saying, like, that's one Z word. I know. What's another Z word? Zealous.
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Okay. Oh, ZOM who? Zap.
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Zap. Zombies.
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Zombie was perfect.
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Yeah.
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Zam. Zam.
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Zam. Zaddy. Now we thinking of all of Z word.
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Okay, okay, okay. So we're gonna get into the first topic today. What's up y'all?
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You should take the Destiny's Child approach.
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What's the Destiny's Child approach?
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Ladies, leave your man at home. The club is full of ballers in their pockets, full grown.
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Okay. I can feel you on that.
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I just don't subscribe to staying in any situation that no longer serves you.
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Yeah.
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If you are not happy, leave. It doesn't matter how many years you invested in, something shit be running its course.
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Yeah.
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Like, if you're happy. I think it's amazing when couples can say, oh, we've been married for 50 years. We've been married for 40 years. We've been married for 30 years. Happily married though, right? Or you just been married. Because I think the happiness matters.
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Yeah.
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And people be taken away from that. People be forgetting, like, happiness matters. Who the wants to be married or be in a relationship for 50. Who want to be in a relationship for 30 years. And then they can't put a ring on your finger. Because we're not gonna sit here and act like it don't be hella common law marriages.
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Yeah.
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Or it don't be hella situationship that people be in for 30 years. And they been with this man. He done had outside babies, he done did X, Y, and Z, and you just been thugging it out with him because of the time you invested.
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You known as the family.
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The what?
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The family.
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The family friend. In the obituary you ain't. Matter of fact, I lied. You ain't even in the obituary, the family friend don't get no purge.
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Yeah, yeah.
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So it's just like, come on. Like, I just think women who have that mentality are very small minded and they're thinking on a very low level. Like, that's very low vibrational, low level thinking. To think like, oh, I've invested all of this time into this man, so I should stay with him. No matter what is going on, no matter me being unhappy. If he's a really, really good man, Savannah. And then work it out with him. Absolutely. You know, like, if he's going through a rough patch and you feel like you could withstand stand the storm.
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Yeah.
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Then work it out with your man. It's nothing wrong with going through a rough patch with the person that you love. But it's the difference between a rough patch and a rough man. It's. It's the difference between like a bad time and a bad.
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Right.
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So I think people, for whatever reason, it be hard. I don't want to say it be hard. That's a lie. It don't be hard. Women just don't be wanting to leave. I think people fear being single more than like, people fear being single. So they're afraid to get out of situations that they already in. When in reality, if you just let that go.
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Yeah, a lot of people, God got.
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Something better for you. It's always something better on the other side. And you can always find what you need if you let go of what no longer serves you. But people be afraid to be single.
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Well, I also feel on the other.
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Side of that is bitches be acting like being single is the plague.
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They do. But I also feel like, like you said, going through a rough patch with your partner is okay, but are y'all both making the effort to get better? You know what I'm saying? If it's one sided and you're the one who's trying and the other person isn't, what are you holding on to? Like, if me and my dude are going through a rough patch and we're both trying, like, I can appreciate that if we're both trying to get through it and I see him making that effort and then if we come to the conclusion like, hey, this is not working, then I can be okay with walking. But I hate to see a woman in a situation like, oh, I'm in too Deep. He'll come around. He'll eventually come around, and he's not even trying. If a man really wants to be with you, I think he's gonna at least make that effort to try to get out of the storm with you. He's not gonna see you swimming out in the ocean alone and just leaving you there to drown. And a lot of people do that. So I hate to see a person being like, oh, I'm in too deep. I gotta hold it down. Oh, he finna come up. I don't wanna leave because I held him down when he was broken. He didn't have nothing. And he's about to break through and make all this money, and I wanna reap of it. It's like, no.
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And what about like. But the sad part be if that be a lot of women mentality. A lot of time when these finally do have that breakthrough, when they get that money, they leave you anyways. They don't get on.
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He leave your ass for a white girl.
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Not necessarily even white.
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Well, I was just quoting Kanye.
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No, I know, I know, but I'm just saying, not even necessarily white, but just what they deem more attractive or better in their opinion. So it's like, they going to leave you if somebody is your. If. If that is your man and he all for you, he gonna stay with you regardless. Rich, poor. Yeah, big, small.
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I'm just not in the stage of.
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Like, he gonna stay with you regardless.
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I think everything should be reciprocated. Like, I'm holding you down if you holding me down. And we're in this together, but you being in too deep. But, girl, is he in too deep, though? Do he feel that way? Do he feel like, hey, man, I'm gonna hold it down for my girl because I love her and I want to work it out. That's what you have to ask yourself. Like, if somebody is being cold to you. Like, what's the lady name? Shira. The sprinkle sprinkle lady. She made a good point. She said one thing that you'll know if you're ever crying in front of your partner or you get frustrated and you're upset and he gets agitated at the sight of your tears, that's a sign that he's done and he's over you. Like, if you ever cry in front of a man and he's like, oh, my God, here you go. Y'all have to leave. Trust me when I tell you, because I've been in that situation before. And when she said that, I was like, oh my gosh. And then another lady shared a story. She was like, I was on a flight one time and she said I get panic attacks sometimes, right? And she said I was on a flight to Europe and one of the flight attendants, it was like a European guy, whatever. She said I had a panic attack. And she said one of the flight attendants, it was a lady, she was very attentive. Cause she was like I was crying, she was asking me if I was okay. And she said the guy was just like, oh my God. Like basically just kind of like you doing too much. Like we on a plane, it's not that serious. And she said she distinctively remembers it was a girl sitting in front of her. She was like a blonde, cute girl, whatever. And she got inconvenienced or something, she wanted something and they couldn't get it to her. And she said in like a 10 minute span, that man must have walked over there like three times to just be like, oh, are you okay? Do you need anything? And she was like, just something like that. It just shows you how men are when they care about you or they're attracted to you or they want to be around in your presence when they see that you need anything. It's a natural instinct for a man to like, how can I help you? Damn's. On the stress type thing. But if you're in a relationship with a man, he's still going to look at you that way. Like, what can I do to help my baby feel better? Like, how can I help her? So yeah, that's a big sign. Like if you're upset and your man is not trying to comfort you and be there, baby, you need to let that go.
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Yeah.
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And I, when I think about a situation I was in, it was like a big red flag to me. Cause it was like, okay, let's talk. What now? And I was just like, damn. Damn. Okay, okay. You gotta pay attention to the signs. Cause in that moment I realized, girl, you in too deep. And he's not. Let it go. Let it go.
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Yeah, but sometimes people just be annoying too.
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Well, I think it's a.
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Not you.
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No, no, no.
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But I agree with you. Sometimes women and men, people just be nagging too much. So I feel like sometimes when people be kind of like, oh brother, what is it today? What is it now? That be very much warranty. Because some people just be complainers and like no matter what, they're always unhappy. But that's another side of it.
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It is true. But that's also a sign of Unhappiness. Both on both ends. A lot of times, men or a woman, they're nagging because they're unhappy.
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Yeah.
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And so they've brought that space on. So it's like a negative ending circle. Cause it's like she's upset or he's upset. She don't. Or he don't wanna hear why they're upset. And it's just never fucking ending.
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Right. And that's the thing, though. Somebody need to end it. It needs to end and somebody needs to leave. That's the part where it's like, no, you're not in too deep. If you're unhappy, leave. If you that unhappy. If it's always more negative times more bad energy than good energy, leave that. It does not matter if you've been with him for 10 years. It is going to be a fresh start if you leave somebody. I have never in my life been in a situation where I let something go and God did not send something better in replacement. So every single time when you left Gomez. Yeah.
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Who you started dating.
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My man.
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Oh, I like that. I did.
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Bless you.
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Let me taste this drink. I ain't tasting.
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It's good, T. So speaking of the drink, what we drinking today? Okay, so since we're doing the Addams Family, we got Morticia. I know you.
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More Mortica.
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Mortica who?
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In the middle?
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This cousin. Eat. Oh, okay. I mean, AKA Yeah, AKA that was her real name, but they didn't say that in the movie.
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Yeah, yeah.
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This is Monquisha. Cousin Ed.
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Okay.
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Hey, Cousin Ed. So I am the claw's side piece, period. I gotta wear my man everywhere I go.
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I know. That's right.
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You look, you. How did you get his hand?
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He crawled up there, period. He know where it says.
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He know where it's at. He know where home is. Exactly. So this is Morticia's midnight martini. And so what we have, we have a lot of things going on. We have some marshmallow that's been melted at the top to make like, a spider web. But inside the actual cocktail, we have, I infuse the tequila and the vodka with activated charcoal. So that's what's floating on top. And at the bottom there's a green layer. So it has apple schnapps, lemon juice, and a little bit of agave. So it's kind of just giving us that martini, that lemon drop type of feel. So if you take a sip of the top by itself is just going to be the liquor.
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Okay. It's tasty.
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It's real Tasty. I like that. I want another shot. Uncle F the BBL fl. Let's do it.
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I got my shots still. I was sipping mine during the game.
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Oh, I'll take another one.
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Ty, I have mine still. Okay. All right, what's the next?
B
So this has been. This has been a great topic. So I don't know, I just be want.
A
Was that blood?
B
Maybe. But I just want to tell the girls, like, listen, when I tell you it's always something better out there. Like it is always something better. And I know that sounds so cliche because so many people be wanting to feel like, oh well, if you feel like it's always something better, then you're insatiable. I have been called insatiable a lot throughout my life. I don't think that I'm insatiable though. I think that I just always know that if this no longer is working for me or if this no longer serves me, I can find something else. And I don't think anything is wrong with that. I think society wants to make people. Because I don't even want to just say women. Society wants to make people think that they have to settle.
A
Yeah, I know. I agree with that.
B
Or that you have to be okay with some that you ain't okay with. If I ain't okay with this, I ain't okay with it. And that's the thing. Maybe you want. Maybe you won't immediately find a better man or a better woman. But being single ain't bad. Sometimes being single is one of the best things that you could be because it allows you time to focus on yourself and to look into self and figure out what it is that you like and who you are, what makes you happy. And then that way when you do go into a new relationship or get into a new relationship, you know what you looking for, right? And you know you're non negotiables. You know what you're okay with, you know what you're not okay with. And you know what's going to make you walk.
A
Yeah.
B
But you have to take that time and that work oneself to figure that out.
A
Yeah, I just feel like, like I said, holding somebody down and being in too deep, like at the end of the day, what I learned is it can't rain forever. Yes, we know breakups are hard. But one thing I've learned too, you're gonna be okay. Everything always is gonna be okay. You're gonna have bad days and guess what? That's gonna fly by and then you're gonna have some good Days. You may have a good week, you may have a good month, you may have a six month streak of good days. But guess what? It's gonna rain again. And it's gonna be a cycle, but it doesn't rain forever. And I think that's something I have to realize, too. Yes, it hurts.
B
It's that Kelly Price song.
A
I'm fucking weak. Wednesday, come on, Wednesday.
B
I gotta be knowing.
A
Thanks. But that's what I'm learning, too. I feel like sometimes when you be going through a breakup or you have to walk away from somebody that you love, you be feeling like, oh, my God, it's the end of the world. And that shit be hurting so bad. I get it. But that's one thing that I have Learned with age 2. Girl, it's gonna be okay. Sit in your room, cry. Let it out. But it passes. This too shall pass.
B
It always passes.
A
Always.
B
It always passes. And as long as you live in, you have another opportunity. Well, was she not leaving? Not all of us, but she said she moved.
A
Okay, bringing this topic.
B
But yeah, like, as long as you have breath in your body, sorry. Because, damn, then you have. Then you have another chance, you know? And it's. And something better is going to come. It's going to be another opportunity. And yeah, just keep living. Keep living. Boo.
A
What's up, y'all?
B
It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Dre Nicole.
A
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B
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B
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A
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B
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B
So for the second topic, I want us to talk about. Okay, so it was a tweet.
A
Okay.
B
And the tweet said, be nice to people because you'll never know what you need or what you'll need them for later in life. Right. I think that that's a good perspective to have, but I think you should just be nice, period. Because you should just be nice.
A
Right.
B
Like, it literally costs nothing to be nice. So if you're being nice because you never know what you need from people or you never know what you might need or who they might become, you're being nice with the ulterior motive.
A
Yeah. Yeah.
B
And I feel like when you do anything with the ulterior motive, it's not genuine.
A
Yeah.
B
And you won't end up, quote, unquote, reaping what you sold.
A
Right.
B
Like, you. You like, oh, I'm being nice. I'm being nice. I'm gonna reap what I sow. But, like, you had a motive, right?
A
That's your intention.
B
Nice people are just nice people, and they're not doing it for a reason. It's just embedded in who they are. It's just who they are. Like, they can't help but be nice. I feel like I'm a very nice person. Like, I can. Would be nice to people. It's.
A
It's crazy.
B
Until you got me up when I was younger.
A
I remember this poster in my seventh grade teacher. It was in her. On her desk, in front of her desk. So, you know when you walk into the room, I'm weak. You would see this on her desk and it said, be nice. You never know who's going to be your boss and you want to take your shot. Yeah, I'll take. Okay.
B
I'm a bad influence.
A
Yes. Martika.
B
Sorry. BBL.
A
Do.
B
This ain't for big booty legs. Festa. Your last name? Fester.
A
Lex Fester.
B
Bbl. Fester is Big Booty Lex Fester now.
A
You own or something. Anyways, she had this poster on her desk and it said, be. Be nice to people. You never know who your boss might be. And it was crazy because I remember, like, sometimes she would talk about the quote or when, like, students would get into it or when People would get caught up for bullying. She would always talk about this. But I always thought it was so weird. Even when people say that.
B
You said, who said this?
A
My teacher.
B
Which teacher?
A
My seventh grade teacher. She had a poster and it said, be nice. You never know who's gonna be your boss. So anyways, I always thought it was weird. Cause like you said, I'm a nice person. I'm just nice to people. So it doesn't matter, you know, X, Y and Z. Because even if, like, me and a person don't get along, just because I don't necessarily like you as a person, I don't have to be mean to you. So I never had that fear of, oh, my gosh, a classmate could possibly be my boss. Let me make sure I'm nice to everybody or treat somebody a certain way. Because I have people in my life where it's been like, okay, I don't like her. But there's not a person walking this planet that can say, man, Lex really bullied me, or Lex was mean. You know what I'm saying? So I think it's very strange and it's interesting when people say things like that because it just comes like, you're a user and you giving me one of them. People who are, you know, they try to finesse their way into situations and they try to manipulate people. Like, I can't stand a manipulative ass person.
B
You're a liar, a cheater, a deceiver, heartbreaker, and I won't let your back in my life. So I'm taking the house, the car, the kids, the dog. I want it all. You're nothing. But no, for real, though.
A
But that's what I'm saying.
B
That's what it's giving.
A
That's what it's giving. Because to me, don't be nice to me because you want something from me. Because once I figure that out, I'm.
B
Not fucking with you.
A
I'm not fucking with it. I'm not fucking with it.
B
It's easy, though.
A
What?
B
It's easy. I think if you have good discernment. Well, that's the thing. Most people don't really have good.
A
Most people don't. But you know what?
B
But if you have good discernment, I think you can always tell somebody.
A
You can be peeping. You can peep.
B
I think you can always tell somebody who's trying to use you. Somebody who wants something from you, from somebody who's like, genuinely trying to build a connection or a relationship with you. And then maybe later, down the line. It so happens that, like, a money move might happen or why do we sound ashy?
A
It's smooth.
B
It sound rough. Did you put oil or did you put some girl on it?
A
Yeah.
B
Okay. Well, it don't look like it. It don't sound like it anyways. I just feel like, you know, when someone is being genuine.
A
Yeah.
B
And a lot of the time, people don't have genuine intentions. But people be thinking they finesse it. Yes.
A
I don't.
B
They be thinking they getting over. Ain't no. Hey, let me say this, though, Devil's advocate. I don't see nothing wrong with finesse. A little finesse is necessary in life. Now, a finesse, get to where you trying to go. If you're trying to go far, finesse is necessary.
A
Sometimes finesse is necessary. Yes. When you're trying to, like, oh, let me finesse this person coming on and doing this because I want to get to this person and let me make maybe work my moves, that's okay. But when you're trying to finesse in a way where it's manipulative, well, you.
B
Ain'T gotta hurt nobody in your face when you start. When you. When you crossing people. What are you. What's in your cup, daughter? Wednesday, Wednesday, what are you drinking? Come show the people.
A
Wednesday says she ready to show.
B
They can't see you. You ain't on camera. But yeah, anyways. Yes. I feel like people be trying to get over.
A
If you finesse somebody and they find out it hurts their feelings, you're not a good person. Now, if I finesse. Yes.
B
Yes, That's. That's. No, you just said some bullshit.
A
No, that's not. If you finesse somebody and it's like, damn, I thought you did this because you fucked with me, but you did this because you wanted this to happen, that hurts my feelings. That's fucked up. Because if I try.
B
If you finesse somebody and they find out that's fucked up, the reason behind.
A
It, yes, that's fucked up.
B
No, finessing somebody, period, is fucked up. It doesn't matter whether or not they find out finessing somebody is fucked up. What I just said, though, is that finessing is necessary. I think that any super successful person, they done finesse, they done finesse.
A
But I think when you.
B
I don't think you necessarily have bad intentions, but sometimes it's like you doing what you gotta do, but.
A
Right. But it's not nothing personal. Like, a lot of times n. S be like, oh, let me finesse this move real quick and they be like, all right, bro, I got you. And they working. They all finesse and they all finessing moves. But like, I said, yes, if nothing is bad.
B
You're the one who told me. Because I used to think that finessing was not a bad thing. You used to be like, bro, no, finessing is horrible. But that's what I'm saying.
A
But in, like I said, in certain situations, if a like, hey, bro, this is what we fitting to do. And everybody kind of knows it's different in certain situations. But I'm saying, if somebody be like, man, I'm really f to put the work in because I want to get cool with Lex, because I want to come on poor minds. I'm just using that for an example. And I'm thinking, this person coming around because they care about me, I'm sharing secrets with them. Like, I'm thinking that we bonding. And I found out they was just trying to finesse because they want a job or they wanna to me like, that shit be fucked up. Or like, say, I actually let him, I gave him a job. Cause I'm like, man, my homegirl be coming around. She be coming around helping. I'm thinking, you really fuck with me. And I found out, like, girl, that girl really don't like you. She really don't fuck with you. She just wanted a chance to do poor minds or something like that. That's what I'm talking about. But people are like that. They see what can I get from her, and I know she got a big heart. And that's what be fucked up about it. The main people that get finessed are people with the big hearts. And they be fucking like, y'all be really fucking up good people like that. You know what I'm saying? I think sometimes even me, like, I.
B
Feel like if you a good person, though, you can't get fucked up.
A
I feel like. No, and I agree with that because like I said, I'm always a lover. I'm always a people person. I have a big heart. That's just who I am. But I will say I do move more cautiously now. I do have to have more discernment. I kind of like, I don't jump into friendships as quickly as I used to. You know what I'm saying? Just because people have hurt my feelings, I figured out, okay, I see what you trying to do. Like, you know, I feel like a person that I've tried to befriend. A couple of years ago, I was like, oh, you was just trying to get on with Somebody because you was trying to find xyz. I'm not gonna get into it, but, you know, like, she was just trying to get on to getting what she wanted. And she thought she was trying to figure out who was the key to that. And she was hopping with anybody. And I was like, damn, girl. Bitch, I was fucking with you. Like, I was taken up for you when everybody had their back against you type shit. So it just be stuff like that. It just be like, it's just easy just to be a good person. Not because you're trying to use somebody or get ahead. So when people be like, be nice. You never know who you might need. Bitch, you're a user. That's what it gives. That's the vibes it gives to me. Me, period. And Festa don't like, but I do.
B
But I do feel like that's a good point also. Like, I think it could be looked at from either pov because you should be nice to people, because you never know what you might need. You should be nice, period. I think if you're a nice person, you're going to be nice.
A
Yeah, it's not about what I might need.
B
I said that earlier. However, though, what I'm saying is that's also a good perspective. Because if you nice to people, people will be more likely to help you with anything that you might need help with.
A
I mean, I. And I get what you're saying, which.
B
But it's okay. It's okay with that being a motivation, too. I don't think it's anything wrong with that.
A
You know, it's not anything wrong with.
B
It, but like I said, because you like karma. Because to me, that's karma. It's more like. It's more like, okay, be nice to people because you never know what you might need. I'm gonna always be nice to people and have good energy because I want that same energy reciprocated whenever I need it.
A
Now, that's what I like. Maybe it's just the wording. I like that I feel like I.
B
Put out different wording.
A
I like to give out good energy because Festa want that back.
B
Back.
A
Well, Festa put in the world. Festa wants that back. You know what I'm saying?
B
Okay.
A
And I'm talking about good energy, good vibes. I'm not talking about, oh, be nice. Because you never know what you might need. Only thing I need is good energy and happiness around me.
B
So you don't feel like you ain't never in your life with somebody for what you Don't.
A
I can't say that.
B
Yeah, Yeah.
A
I used to. I didn't. Did all of that. Festa used to be popping that BBL booty back in the day. Now Festa done did some things.
B
So. So Right. So Festa. Finesse. Finesse and Festa.
A
Hell yeah. I'm not saying that it's right, but I'm also saying that I've grown into a space to where I just don't move like that no more. And I realized my life got better when I started doing. When I just started moving better. Cause I feel like I was always this nice green girl and stuff. It's like. Then I was like, ah. You know, I just got like, oh, let me work my move.
B
You was being a bad gal for a minute.
A
Festival was cutting up. I mean, did I have a time? Yes. But I do feel like that's not the life I wanted to live anymore. Just because at the end of the day, it didn't feel good. It didn't feel good. I didn't feel fulfilled.
B
Like, I swear, it's a way to be fulfilled living that type of life, though.
A
Yeah. Like, I just feel like you said, going back to what you said, because I like the way you said it. And like I said, words mean things, and it's like how you. Yeah. Put good. That's what my mom always taught me. She was like, you know why we're so blessed is because I put good energy into the world. And that's how we receive our blessings as far as. And it's not about things. It's just about living a peaceful life. I'm at peace. I wake up in the morning every day and I'm peaceful. You know what I mean?
B
And I also hate fake nice people. Like, I hate people that be like, oh, I'm gonna be nice. So I'm gonna put on this nice Persona so I can get what I want. But you ain't really nice.
A
Yeah. I don't hate people who think they getting over because we had a. I'm not. Not gonna get into details at all, but we had a recent situation where I feel like somebody tried to pull the wool over our eyes and think they was about to do they big one and it just wasn't happening. And we see right through that shit. It's just not happening. And I don't like shit like that. I don't like like that. I don't even want to talk about it because it's pissing me off. It's making Fester mad.
B
Me no lackey you know, like, house be weird.
A
That's all we got to say about that. We're not gonna get into it too much. But yeah, like I said, I don't like when people try to be like.
B
I mean, this is the thing that I personally feel about a lot of things in life. You know, sometimes slow motion, growing things organically be the way to make things have longevity.
A
Okay.
B
Just because you have a lot of motion, are you doing something right now? It doesn't necessarily mean that you have longevity.
A
Right.
B
Because you have longevity when you build relationships.
A
Right.
B
And when you have a good reputation with people, a lot of the time people be having motion, but they don't have a good reputation.
A
Right. So that was a word. No. Yeah, like that.
B
Yeah. So it's more so about keeping your word and the reputation that you have, and a lot of people just don't keep their word. That's something that I think we're good at.
A
Yeah.
B
Whatever we say we gonna do, we do it.
A
And I don't think we try to present anything, like, outside or try to put on or try to have this facade of things. I think we just who we are. And. And yeah, I think, like I said, I can't. I. I told y'all, I tried for a long time to, like, fit in this mode of what I thought people wanted me to be, and I got tired of it. But I also, like I said, I found peace and happiness and just being me and being fest. You know, that's what they call me. What?
B
I know nobody that calls you fast.
A
They call me fast.
B
Who?
A
The peeps. Bonque used to call me Bonque dead, but when she was alive.
B
Bonque is beautiful, though. She with her pink skin, beautiful.
A
So, yeah, I don't like the phrase.
B
Weave her hair. Weave long.
A
Shout out to hair fiend. Queen sent bone.
B
Lil Wayne said that, didn't he?
A
What?
B
My skin tanning in my hair long.
A
I don't know, but his skin is not tan.
B
Or was that Drake?
A
Who was that?
B
That was Drake.
A
Drake ain't never been long.
B
He said my skin tan and my hair long. And my fans who been so patient.
A
Drake be like this.
B
But this is the thing, though. I don't like that. I don't like how you trying to clown Drake.
A
I'm not clowning him.
B
But you just named yourself Bbl Fester.
A
Drake didn't make that song. BBL Drizzy.
B
He did.
A
They. That was what. What? Metro booming. They made that beat to make fun of him. Bbl Drizzy. Drake did not make that.
B
What I'm saying is.
A
I said.
B
What I'm saying is he didn't make the song, but he made it popular anyway. Did he not make it when he got on the song with Sexy Red? Is that not what made the song popular?
A
No, that's not BBL Drizzy was going around, that's why.
B
No, they had the cartoon that was twerking.
A
Okay, well, wrap the verse if it's so popular. Rap. No, exactly. Drake didn't say that. Drake didn't make that popular. People was laughing at it because of what it was. Drake didn't make it popular. He laughed at himself, which was funny.
B
Drake made it popular because it was about Drake. If it was not about, Drake would have became popular.
A
Yes, because the people. Actually, if you want to go to the history of it, it was BBL Fester first.
B
And this is how. This is how I know you delusional as bbl. I knew you was about to say some because at the end of the day, nobody knows BBL Fester until this episode comes out. Nobody ever heard of you.
A
Martika. It is. That's all I see. Martika. He do talk like that.
B
You want some cookies?
A
No, not to say from fucking crumble, bitch.
B
It's for me.
A
No, I don't trust you either.
B
I may. Bitch, you done ate my cookies before.
A
Pause.
B
No, but for real, though, BBL Fester is delusional.
A
Why did you look at my hand like that for?
B
I don't know. Cause I didn't know she was not. We low key showing them. I be getting abused.
A
You not scared?
B
Oh, my God.
A
Why don't I be hitting you?
B
I do. I was scared.
A
Don't say that.
B
I'm scared.
A
Don't. Jeria.
B
Oh, my God.
A
What's up, y'all?
B
It's your girl xp and it's your girl Dre Nicole.
A
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B
God, period.
A
Anyways, so now put your hand down. Mortica.
B
I. Mort. Mortica is mortified.
A
Girl, be for real. So now it's time to get into the b. Ow.
B
The big bow. The bow bow, bow, bow, bow, bow.
A
Wait. So we wanted to make it spooky time because obviously it's been a lot of things going on on the Internet. I don't like to name drop our name names or things that's going on. So basically there has been a popular only fans person. Basically. Allegedly he gave a bunch of women herpes.
B
Okay.
A
And one of the women had actually spoke out and said, you know, she thought something looked a little funny on his wee wee. She's seen a little. What? What is it? A lesion. Warts. A lesion. She saw something on the tip of that peen.
B
Okay, it wasn't on the tip. It was on the shaft.
A
The shaft. I'm sorry, the shaft. So today we're not going to talk about them, but we're going to talk about what do you do if prior to sex something.
B
Who's the man who understands shots?
A
Damn right.
B
Damn wrong. In this situation, what do you do? Damn wrong.
A
What do you do prior to sex if something spooks you out? Whether it's a smell, you see something, you smell anything. If anything makes you feel uncomfortable, what do you do?
B
Morticia? Gotta go. She ain't got time for that. I was in a committed relationship for a very long time and I. Why are you looking like that?
A
Oh, I forgot about Gomez. Shout out to micro.
B
Yeah, that's your brother.
A
You right, you right. Festa got bad memory.
B
Mortica was in a committed relationship for a very long time. Cannot relate you. Y'all young girls need to be out here getting these tests done.
A
Yes.
B
But most importantly, I'm about to get on my soapbox real quick and I Probably should not say this. We probably gonna get some backlash from these. I'm sorry.
A
Please.
B
I know. I'm sorry.
A
Tired.
B
I'm sorry. I'm sorry. But at 19, at war, at war, what makes you be like, you know what? I'm not gonna go to school. I ain't gonna go work at Lowe's, Home Depot, Randall's. None of the typical Foot Locker. None of the typical places that 19 year olds work at. Imma just get a. Put a camera up and start on only fans. What at 19 makes you decide that that's the. The route you want to take? You. You 19, you just graduated from school a year ago. When girls be doing only fans at 26, 25, 27, 28. I. I could be like, okay, at least you done try some things by then. And you like, okay, it like, I'm gonna just do this because I feel like this easy money at 19, though. What makes you be like this? What I'm a resort to? Well, and then what makes you believe that he cut his penis shaft.
A
With a razor?
B
With a razor?
A
No. No.
B
When there ain't no hair that grow there.
A
Okay, so let me say this. Let me answer your first question.
B
And it was raised.
A
You saw it. Yes. I didn't see it.
B
It was a. They. The screenshot was going around.
A
Okay, so let me fester.
B
It was festering.
A
Leave me out of it.
B
It was infested. Faster.
A
Leave me out of it. Okay, so let me say this. First of all, I'll answer your first question. At 19.
B
What.
A
What would you know? Why would you do only fans? So I like to say this. I don't like to judge people. You never know what somebody's going through financially in life and what they have to resort to. Whatever. But I will say this. The porn industry and only fans is like. It's kind of two different worlds in the porn industry. Like Ms. B. Nasty told us, it. It's you. It's mandatory. You have to get tested, and you have to show updated results before you can even shoot Only fans. You're basically your own boss and you're running it yourself. So if y'all want to stay safe, y'all, please get yourself if you're going to be doing that. I'm not judging the reason why you want to do that. But y'all do have to remember one if something's on the Internet, it lives forever. Y'all saw how we was talking about. We looked up poor minds in my booty hole. All on the Internet. My booty hole. But all that stuff you. I can't get rid of it. It's there forever.
B
It was your booty ho.
A
It wasn't my booty ho. It wasn't my booty ho. But again, make decisions. Like I said, just be careful. But also, if you're going to do it, just be safe. And one thing that raised the red flag on me for her was, like, he said something like, oh, my test results coming back. I'll show them to you after. We're not filming until you get. Show me your updated test results. So I think we have to be smart and be safe and be careful. Like, if y'all are having raw sex with. At the end of the day, these are strangers. Y'all are meeting somebody that's a co worker. At the end of the day, you have to be careful. So if y'all are going to enter this sex industry, I think you need to run your business exactly like they do in the porn industry. The same way. Like, as for poor minds, we try to run our business just like we are the Jennifer Hudson show or the Oprah Winfrey. Like, we try to be as organized and sufficient as possible because eventually we do want to be on those levels and making that type of money. So I think it's like, you have to look at yourself like a business.
B
Yeah.
A
So to me, you know, if you see anything spooky before sex, if you smell something, if you see something stop, drop and roll. Get out of there. Get out of there. This is your health. This is your health. And I don't. I know a lot of women especially. And you know what? Let me not just say women. Cause sometimes men can, too. You feel that pressure. Like, oh, my God, we're drunk. I don't pull like, you could be vibing with somebody the whole night. Y'all on date number three. Y'all vibing. You really like him. Conversation perfect. It's time to fuck. You done pull this pants down and you see a lesion.
B
I ain't never seen a leisure.
A
I've never seen that. But I'm telling y'all, please. But you never know. Like, sometimes people just feel pressured or they be scared or whatever. Y'all do not let nobody pressure you. If you see a wart, I don't care if it's an ingrown.
B
If I see a wart, I have to abort.
A
Made me sneeze. Festa don't like that.
B
Bless you.
A
Thank you.
B
And bless them. They need it.
A
Y'all. Y'all better inspect y'all genitals Absolutely not.
B
If I see a wart, I am.
A
You be inspecting your vagina?
B
Me?
A
Yeah.
B
Do I inspect my vagina?
A
Like, do you be looking in there?
B
I expect my vagina all the time. I inspected my vagina yesterday and I found out that.
A
How do you do it? Do you like, lay on the back?
B
Maybe I should say. I shouldn't say this on the show. Cause I should. I never have said.
A
Or do you raise your booty? Like, what do you be doing?
B
I just be looking down there.
A
You be like, doing like this or doing like, spread it like this or like this?
B
No, I be for real. I spread it. My fat, I got Spread it with both hands.
A
You like this.
B
It ain't that fat. That's you. You got me. That's what you be doing.
A
I am a boy.
B
Your is a monster.
A
I'm Fester. I'm a boy.
B
Spooky season. I have a very. My fat, but it ain't so.
A
You do like that with two hands. I just pull it apart like this.
B
I do have to pull it apart.
A
Like this or like this?
B
Like what?
A
Like this or like this?
B
Like, I don't need all these. I.
A
You like this?
B
It's like this? Yeah.
A
It go like this when you open it. You go like this when you open it.
B
I be pulling it apart.
A
Okay.
B
So yesterday I had, like, noticed that something was missing.
A
The clip?
B
No. You know what was missing?
A
What? You know.
B
Oh. And I was like, when did it fail? When did it.
A
That man probably ate it.
B
He swallowed it. Oh, my God.
A
He did.
B
I don't know. It was gone. And I said, I gotta go get another one. Oh, my God, it's gone. And it bit me.
A
No. That's spooky.
B
But it's crazy because I asked him too, because, like, he did do that the other day. So I said, was it still there when you did it? And he said, man, I don't know. Stop asking me that. He got mad.
A
He probably ate. He probably sucking.
B
I think he swallowed it.
A
He was probably savory.
B
I mean, his poop.
A
That is horrible.
B
But yeah, it was gone. So I. I inspect my coochie all the time.
A
Okay. Yeah.
B
Do you?
A
Yeah, I do. I look at it all the time.
B
Me too.
A
Yeah. Like, and sometimes when I get need a real deep inspection, I'll, you know, I'll get down there with the camera sometime.
B
I just going to say, you let somebody get in there?
A
No, but I mean, sometimes I be telling my man, you know. You know, make sure everything's straight down there. I Be looking in there. I'll be looking. Cause you know, I get waxed from the rooter to the tooth.
B
Me too.
A
You know what I'm saying? So I need to make sure I ain't got no ingrowns, all that good stuff. Will he be in there? I be telling him, help me out. I'm in between appointments. Help me out.
B
Yeah, sometimes you might need a little.
A
A little one to an inspection.
B
You know, I think it's very concerning when people don't want to have sex with the lights on.
A
Oh, yeah. I need to see.
B
I need to see what's going on.
A
I'll be.
B
But I'm not trying to be that fat nappy.
A
Show it to me. I expect my man sometime.
B
Me, too.
A
Just to make sure everything's straight enough. Okay, Mortica Pugsley and Wednesday is listening.
B
Oh, I'm sorry, y'all. Y'all, Daddy had a fat nappy.
A
But yes, inspect your genitals. Inspect your partner's genitals. And never do anything you don't wanna do. Okay, moving on.
B
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A
All right, so now it's time to get into the bop. Hey.
B
The Bop bow.
A
The Bop Bow bow. A bow bow bow bow. Okay, Drell.
B
What you listening to?
A
You want me to go first? I cannot remember if I made this my bop before or not. I don't think I have, but y'all know I love me some Arya star. I feel like we don't give her her flowers enough. I know. I love Tyler, too. I know everybody on the Tyler wave, but I just feel like, you know, she always be Doing her big one. And she has a song called Pina Colada with black and it's fire. I love her voice. It's so smooth and sultry. I just feel like she is a absolute superstar. I say this all the time. And I hate when they compare her and Tyler because it's like we can have more than one superstar. Tyler is amazing. She's a superstar. She is a force to be reckoned with, and so is Arya Star. You don't have to choose either or. So I don't like the comparisons with them too, but I am a Arya Star stand. I think she's absolutely amazing. And, yeah, that's my bop of the week. Oh, another person is on it. This is London. So, yeah, that's my bop of the week. Shout out to Arya Star. We love you.
B
I feel like I haven't had a Drake song in a long time. I used to always have Drake, but I feel like I haven't had one in a long time. So Circadian Rhythm by Drake is my song. I really like that song. I think it's a good song. It's cute. I be vibing to it in my car, but y'all know I'm a little bit of a Drake stand. He ain't really been coming out with music like that lately.
A
He kind of let the. He had to let the. Yeah, they had to die down, which is what you supposed.
B
I think he about to come out with an album. 2025.
A
We. Drake is finna make us dance and we're about to forget all about that. Like, nobody cares. Not saying nobody cares. Like, it was an amazing song. They not like us is fire. But what I'm saying is, you know the song did exactly what Kendrick said it was gonna do.
B
We about to be on a boat in Santorini, summer 2025, dancing to Drake. Not worried about none of that.
A
So that's what it is. So, yeah, shout out to the item of the week one more time. Bonquent. It has on the Hair Fiend Queens wig. This is very nice quality hair, y'all. It is a beautiful, beautiful wig. So y'all be asking beautiful straight hair that I have on. I actually borrowed this from Bone Quique. So go to Hair Fiend Queens. I'll tag her below. And yeah, get y'all a little glueless unit. Ain't that right, Late Queequee?
B
She laid period poo.
A
All right, what's up, y'all?
B
It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Dre Nicole.
A
Y'all know we have A segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week. But do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here, period.
B
If you have an item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if you would like to get your product featured for Item of the Week week, all you need to do is send an email to itemoftheweek PM gmail dot com. That's I t e m o f t H e w e e k p m@gmail.com. send us an email and we'll work it out. We're gonna figure it out. Get your product, get your business sponsored, and, yeah, make you some money.
A
We love to support a small business.
B
Now in a black business at that. But, I mean, they can be anybody.
A
We don't discriminate.
B
Any business is welcome, y'all.
A
Make sure y'all subscribe to our Patreon Poor Chronicles. New episodes of Poor Chronicles is a brand new show. Drops every Monday. Every Monday, Poor Chronicles drops. Make sure y'all subscribe to our YouTube channel. We're trying to get our subscribers up, period. We love y'all. We appreciate y'all. I hope y'all enjoyed our costume. Did you like it? Okay.
B
It's. It's been great. Uncle Fester is like, festering. He needs to go home. I think he a little drunk, however, though.
A
What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's.
B
Your girl Dre Nicole.
A
And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping. Yes.
B
So we have a brand new show dropping y'all on Patreon. It's going to air on September 2nd, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We going to be doing so much stuff on there. We're going to be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bella, no. Where the hell could you go?
A
If you can't go to Bella, no.
B
What the hell we going to be doing? Talk to me. Chitchat with me. We're going to be spilling a little tea.
A
My God. No, you didn't. Oh, my God.
B
Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon.
A
Yes. Y'all ask us for so much. Well, we finna give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's gonna be a time y'all know Poor M has grown into its own little entity. Well, we gonna have a lot of fun. Still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure you y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down.
B
Thanks. Now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show, which is pour your heart out. So you know, if you have any questions, if you have any testimonial, send them to ask poor minds gmail dot com. That's a P O u r M I n d s at gmail.
A
Okay, you want me to go? You want to go? Okay.
B
No, I'm gonna go. This is a long question.
A
Okay.
B
Hey, poor friends, My name is Shani and I need to hear how delusional I am from strangers. I recently caught my man with two women in his bed. It ended up being a whole mess with me bursting out in his bedroom, bursting out his bedroom window and seeing the females with my own eyes. He claims they were all having drinks and the women were too drunk to drive home. So he offered his bed and he slipped on the couch. After a few days of me acting like a Scorpio psychopath, we finally stopped arguing. He has been stuck to me like glue for weeks, even falling asleep on the phone with me every night and actually being a good man. He knows I'm a tit for tat person, so I'm sure he's staying close so I don't get my leak back. Well, I'm at a point in my life that I don't want to bring in another person as a haha. So what I have been doing is when I get angry, I get aggressive. Hold on, wait. I get aggressively turned on to where? In place of reaching out to another man, I have been mentally treating him like he's my side and taking it, taking all of my frustrations out on him sexually. He is enjoying you too much and thinks I'm over the situation. I told him I turn off emotions when I have sex with him and role play in my mind that I'm sleeping with a different version of him. The street version he was when we saw our date nine years ago. I made him get tested so I know he is clean. But I am stupid. But am I stupid for even dating with him at all?
A
Not. First of all, dating for nine years is crazy.
B
As far as our relationship. I am one foot out the door. But I don't want to throw away the nine years and don't know what I should do. What would you do in my case?
A
We just talked about this. First of all, I think I would need a little more details because who were these women? Are these somebody that you knew, like, some female friends that he has or girls that are his sisters, you know, whatever. And again, if she walked in the house and she seen the girls in the bed and he was on the couch, I mean, was he lying or not? Like, I don't know. It wasn't a lot of context. But I just think when situations like that happen, I don't know why men do the things that they do. Because if that's the case, why didn't you just say, hey, babe, my homegirls are over here. They're drunk. They can't drive home. I'm just letting you know that they're sleeping in my bed. You know, you can come over here, or can I come stay the night with you? There's just so many ways to get around that. So I feel like, again, like we were saying, she's obviously unhappy because you're doing things that you wouldn't normally do with him. You're taking your anger out. You're imagining and you're doing all these things that seem not necessarily unhealthy, but you're not happy. So I think what you need to do is kind of take a step back, and maybe you need to ask yourself, what do you want? I think nine years is a long time to be with somebody. Like, what is your. What is your end goal with him? I think you need to ask yourself that. Where do you see this relationship going? Because nine years with somebody and they can't even give you the decency to call you and let you know, hey, babe, this is what's going on. I don't want you to feel uncomfortable. I know you come to my house unannounced sometimes, so just in case you come over here, this is what's going on. So I just feel like it's just a respect factor and you can't be with somebody you cannot trust. I don't care how much you love somebody. If you don't have trust, that's nothing. You cannot even be friends with somebody you don't trust.
B
I'm getting a little tired. Broken promises, promises.
A
Looking at your pages, seeing different numbers. Number.
B
Yeah. Absolutely not. I agree with you. If I can't trust you, I'm gonna shoot you.
A
Damn. We gotta make sure. Jesus. Okay. Hey, Drea and Lex. I found your podcast and have been hooked ever since. I even ventured off and watched other podcasts you two were featured on. In one of the podcasts, the topic of changing your mindset, upgrading your mentality within the dating world came up. How did you do it? What helped you get to the point you are at now? Thank you for giving your insight. You both are truly healing those who didn't know they were broken.
B
Tired. I'm tired.
A
Tired.
B
I was tired. I was tired of dating the same type of men. I felt like I had to switch up the type of men that I was dating because I felt like if I kept dating the same type of man, I was going to keep getting the same type of result. Like I needed to try something new, different. And that's what I did. Because I was tired. When I say something different. I mean, as far as like, he's very attentive, he's a little more emotionally intelligent. But I don't know, I think when it comes to like, if you want a successful man, I think successful, all successful men be having a lot of work to do. Oh, of course you're not gonna find one that's like all the way healed because I think to end up getting to that point in life, you don't.
A
Been through trauma and they have tunnel vision.
B
You have tunnel vision. Yep.
A
They don't work on themselves. A lot of times they working on work.
B
Right. What were we talking about earlier? But it was something specific that we were talking about. But I just feel like they'd be having to like overlook a lot of. They be having to play their role, they be having to finesse. I think it's hard to find a successful man who ain't a little up.
A
Yeah. I'll say this for me.
B
So it depends on what type of man you're trying to date too. Like, if you want a man that's successful, you to me gotta understand that he gonna come with some trauma.
A
Yeah.
B
Honestly, you don't necessarily.
A
A lot of men have that anyway.
B
Yeah.
A
Because they're not taught how to channel their feelings anyway, in general, successful or not. So a lot of these people, it's a lot of broken people out here in general, especially in the black community. So with that being said, I think the biggest thing is finding somebody who's open minded and you can say, hey, what you're doing right now and the way you're communicating isn't healthy. And instead of them getting mad and upset, they're open to talking about it and they're open to understanding and they're gonna try to work on themselves. And honestly, for me, I just wanted somebody who was fucking nice. Like a sweet, genuine, thoughtful man. A lot of times, like a lot of times men be n s be mean. And I got tired of dealing with a mean Nigga, like, he mad or he upset, he don't wanna talk to me, he cursing me or whatever. We getting into it. I wanted somebody who could be soft with me and, like, it's the same thing. I got tired. We're gonna have a disagreement, but I need somebody who can be soft with me and we can have a conversation without it being. If we get into it, it doesn't mean that it's like a toxic relationship and we're fighting. Like, we have a disagreement and we talk about it, we discuss it. We, you know, we go our separate way. It may be a day or two that we don't talk, but we take our space and we come back and they like, oh, I'm mad. I'm finna go outside. My n A done made me mad. It ain't none of that. So I think you just have to get tired of getting treated a certain way, and you have to understand what you value, you know? Like, I wanted somebody who was ambitious, somebody who was successful, somebody who was driven, but also somebody who wants to work on their emotional intelligence, their communication. So it's a lot of things that I used to value that really doesn't make a person valuable. So I think you just kind of have to get tired of the bullshit that you're going through. I think we can both say that we just got tired of the type of niggas we were dealing with. And we were like, you know what? Let me think outside the box. Date outside.
B
I mean, I want to be happy. Happiness is like. Like, when I think about the things that are most important to me on my checklist of, like, a relationship, for me, happiness is number one.
A
Facts.
B
I have to be happy.
A
Have to.
B
All of the other things are going to fall in line. All of the other things are going to come into play. Like, it's a given at this point in my life, I'm not going to date a man that's not successful. I'm not going to date a man that doesn't have certain qualifications. But I want to be happy. Do you make me happy? Are we happy most of the time? Do we have a good relationship? Do we get along when we're around each other? Is it peaceful? Is it blissful? That's important to me. Today's episode also has taught me something. You have a very beautiful head.
A
Thank you. I shaved my head off.
B
Well, no, that's not.
A
This is.
B
But I think you would look cute with a short haircut, is what I have any hair. Well, you had a short haircut. That before, Cuz you got a nice head.
A
Thank you. My. I mean, my hair doesn't grow anymore, so this is. This is what it is now. This is my true self.
B
But I can pull that off.
A
No, you can't. This is my skin.
B
I can pull it off.
A
I'm scratching my head. Don't touch.
B
Why would you tell me don't if I can't?
A
Don't touch. Fester. I mean, I just feel so free ever since I shaved my head.
B
Living my life like it.
A
Like when I'm riding my car and I put my top down and the wind is just blowing on my smooth scalp. I just feel free and I'm just glad to be here. You know, they say you a different type of baddie if you can shave your head.
B
You didn't, though.
A
You mad you got that meat head.
B
Meat head. It's a little wrinkle. I ain't want to. I don't. I don't know. I don't know what I mean.
A
I just. Thank you.
B
And your eyes is black.
A
I just didn't sleep last night. But this is my natural. This is my natural face. This is who I am. So if you don't accept me when I.
B
No, I accept.
A
I don't have lashes on.
B
You do have lashes on. No, I don't. But what the thing is, I'm accepting you, but I'm.
A
What you talking about? You got dark around your eyes.
B
Cause it is.
A
No, it's not.
B
But I'm wondering why it's so dark.
A
I had a long night, Mortica. But this is my natural.
B
I mean, you my uncle. So you is a little old. You old. You probably like 80.
A
Come here, Bonque. We don't need her. Sit by me.
B
No, this is.
A
Close the show out.
B
This is my sister. Okay, well, anyways, make sure y'all subscribe. Support minds. P R Underscore. Mi NDA subscribe to the channel. Also make sure y'all subscribe to our Patreon channel. Make sure y'all follow us on Instagram. Again, P R M I N D S. Follow me on TikTok. Dre and Nicole with three E Underscore and Instagram. Dre and Nicole with three follow. Lix P on all platforms. Licks, Underscore, P Underscore and just. Yeah. Follow Poor Minds. Follow us on Patreon. We drop new episodes every Monday. Poor Chronicles drops every Monday. And then we also drop the early episodes of Poor Minds on Wednesdays.
A
She busting it open.
B
Her mouth open, too. She ready for that meat and Y'all.
A
Make sure y'all follow. Love, Lex P. It should, like, by the time this drop, it's going to be there. Okay? So YouTube.com love Lex P. I hope y'all enjoyed the Halloween episode.
B
And we'll be collection dot com.
A
Yes.
B
And B A U T Y Y, make sure y'all follow my YouTube too. Dre and Nicole with three.
A
And we'll see y'all next week.
B
Bye, y'all.
A
Y'all make sure y'all share the content. Like, subscribe, follow all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out, y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P O U R Underscore. M I N D S. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page. Okay? They blocked me, Andrea and the Poor Mods page on both. So we only have one Instagram, one Twitter, one Tik tok. It is P O u R underscore in my NDs. All right.
B
And we got hella fake Facebook pages.
A
Oh, the Facebook pages.
B
It's the our face. The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers.
A
So if you on Facebook, the one that's I ours got the least amount of followers.
B
The one that's not us got like 250 thousand followers. Fake.
A
If you actually look at the content because the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English because their captions are like, bumba.
B
Cl.
A
Should men. Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes. No. Check answer below.
B
Block, block. Like, that's literally what the captions I like.
A
You want that? Ddg Bombaclaud.
B
Bombaclode.
A
I love that DG Wednesday. You better fucking sing. Without you baby, I feel worthless I'm living on the edge it's been an hour since you've been gone and that's too long so come back home I can't live without you so I'll cry for you do anything that I can to feel the touch come from your hand Sorry that I want you lady, what can I do? You know you're everything I do Whoever oh, yeah do what you want me to I would do it easy get on my knees for you oh, what else is there to do? But I'll cry, baby, I will cry for you tonight oh, yeah oh, baby, I cry for you tonight Tonight oh.
B
Oh, oh it's for me, girl Like a child when you're not here. I can't even.
A
That's my mama, y'all.
B
I can't think without you? My mind is always with?
A
It's amazing what you do to keep me falling in love with you? Girl, you all that I know where else can I go? You're everything I do, yeah, oh, yeah? Auntie do what you I will do, I will do? Get on my knees? Who are you? Yeah, yeah, yeah, oh, yeah? What else is there to do? She don't know he don't know but he'll proud lady, I will cry for you tonight oh, oh? Tonight you. Okay, okay, I got it. I got it. Auntie. I will cry for you tonight? Tonight? Lily. I said. Ah. Hold on. Festa. Help me, Martika, please.
B
Sometimes my pillow gets so wet.
A
Martin.
B
I don't know. I don't know, but I'll cry.
A
Fester, we're begging, begging. Fester, Fester, we're begging.
B
Fester, we're begging, begging.
A
Fester. Fester, we're begging. Fester, we're begging, begging. Fester. Fester, we're begging.
B
Fester, we're begging, begging. Fester.
A
Woohoo. All right, I'll see y'all at dinner. Happy Halloween. Happy Halloween. Sa.
Pour Minds Podcast – Episode: Festerin & Finessin
Release Date: October 25, 2024
Hosts: Lex P. and Dre Nicole
Duration: Approximately 89 minutes
The episode kicks off with Lex and Dre diving into their Halloween-themed activities, embracing the festive spirit with a lively ABC game focused on Halloween-related terms. The playful banter sets a spirited tone for the show, blending humor with the spooky season's essence.
Notable Quote:
Lex P. [07:16]: "Y'all can play at home."
Transitioning from the Halloween festivities, Lex and Dre delve into the core theme of "Festerin & Finessin," exploring the complexities of being "in too deep" within relationships. They discuss the importance of recognizing when a relationship no longer serves one's happiness and the courage required to let go despite the time invested.
Notable Quote:
Dre Nicole [20:13]: "If you are not happy, leave. It doesn't matter how many years you invested in, something shit be running its course."
Lex and Dre engage in a thoughtful conversation about the essence of kindness. They debate whether being nice should stem from genuine intentions or if it's motivated by potential future benefits. Emphasizing authenticity, they advocate for kindness without ulterior motives, highlighting how genuine interactions foster meaningful relationships.
Notable Quote:
Lex P. [35:21]: "Nice people are just nice people, and they're not doing it for a reason. It's just embedded in who they are."
Addressing a more serious topic, the hosts stress the significance of sexual health and safety within relationships. They discuss the importance of personal inspections and open communication about health concerns before engaging in intimate activities. This segment serves as a crucial reminder to prioritize one's well-being and maintain transparency with partners.
Notable Quote:
Dre Nicole [61:02]: "Y'all better inspect y'all genitals. Absolutely not."
In the "Pour Your Heart Out" segment, Lex and Dre respond to a listener named Shani grappling with trust issues after discovering her partner with other women. They offer compassionate advice, emphasizing the need for self-reflection and the importance of trust in sustaining a long-term relationship. The hosts encourage listeners to evaluate their relationship's foundation and make decisions that prioritize their emotional health.
Notable Quote:
Lex P. [73:15]: "But I just think what you need to do is kind of take a step back, and maybe you need to ask yourself, what do you want?"
Celebrating their love for music, Lex and Dre share their favorite tracks of the week. Lex praises Arya Star's "Pina Colada," appreciating her smooth and sultry voice, while Dre opts for Drake's "Circadian Rhythm," reflecting on her nostalgia for his music. This segment adds a personal touch, showcasing their diverse musical tastes and fostering a relatable connection with listeners.
Notable Quote:
Lex P. [65:43]: "I love her voice. It's so smooth and sultry."
Throughout the episode, Lex and Dre emphasize the importance of authenticity in personal and professional relationships. They share anecdotes about navigating friendships and business ventures, advocating for genuine interactions over superficial ones. Their commitment to maintaining integrity resonates as they discuss building their podcast brand without compromising their true selves.
Notable Quote:
Dre Nicole [48:34]: "I think people be trying to get over. Let me say this, though, Devil's advocate. I don't see nothing wrong with finesse."
As the episode draws to a close, Lex and Dre reiterate the value of self-respect and the courage to make difficult decisions for one's well-being. They leave listeners with empowering messages about prioritizing happiness and maintaining healthy relationships.
Notable Quote:
Lex P. [32:30]: "Yes, we know breakups are hard. But one thing I've learned too, you're gonna be okay. Everything always is gonna be okay."
Summary:
In "Festerin & Finessin," Lex P. and Dre Nicole navigate Halloween festivities before delving into profound discussions about toxic relationships, the essence of genuine kindness, and the importance of sexual health and safety. Through relatable conversations and listener interactions, they offer valuable insights on maintaining personal happiness and building authentic connections. The episode seamlessly blends humor, personal anecdotes, and actionable advice, making it both engaging and enlightening for listeners seeking guidance in their personal lives.