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Dre Nicole
I have a small head, but the problem is I have a dent in my head.
Lex P
That makes sense.
Dre Nicole
Nobody. Bitch. What?
Lex P
What's. Hey, y'all, it's your girl Lex P.
Dre Nicole
And it's your girl Dre Nicole.
Lex P
And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds, where a drunk.
Dre Nicole
Mind speaks sober thought.
Lex P
We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. I know.
Dre Nicole
That's right.
Lex P
That's right. That's right.
Dre Nicole
You know what, though? Our intro sound like the beginning of a fire rap song.
Lex P
It is. And we're gonna. We did say that on the last solo episode that we gonna get in the booth. Like y'all did not.
Dre Nicole
Like y'all did not do. Y'all did not get in the booth, so obviously I didn't say.
Lex P
That's all right.
Dre Nicole
I did it. I did. Good.
Lex P
So obviously we just talked about this last week, but y'all know we be recording multiple episodes in a day, so we are still in shock. Shooketh. We. We discussed it a little bit on last week's episode, but I am just still upset. So y'all just have to bear with my energy today. I have a lot going on. But good news is, by the time y'all see this, well, you look beautiful, bro. You finna piss. Delete it. Hobby. Delete the curse word, Javi. You're finna piss me off, okay? But you look nice.
Dre Nicole
I like it.
Lex P
Thank you.
Dre Nicole
It's giving shout out to Rocky. You give it. African goddess.
Lex P
I am. And that's what I am. I'll always be an African queen and represent for my black people. Like did in the booth.
Dre Nicole
Amen. I did, too.
Lex P
I never want to watch an episode of Coke. I mean, the movie Coco, ever again.
Dre Nicole
Why?
Lex P
Because we know what they did. Poco Loco did not vote with us. It's not. I'm struggling.
Dre Nicole
Lost. They hold.
Lex P
Now, see, we not supposed to curse.
Dre Nicole
My bad.
Lex P
Deleted. Javi, that's going to be the episode deleted. Okay? But anyway, because y'all.
Dre Nicole
Because y'all.
Lex P
Delete.
Dre Nicole
Because y'all was dead in the booth.
Lex P
No, we're not doing that. We're not doing that.
Dre Nicole
Delete it. Hobby. Delete the whole. Delete the whole part.
Lex P
Oh, my gosh. Okay, so my bad. By the time y'all see this, I will be back from vacation. But literally, I booked a flight. I'm leaving. I'm going on vacation. I'm going to Brazil for a week. And I'm excited. I'm just. The timing was perfect. What? What? What?
Dre Nicole
Okay. What you have like.
Lex P
Okay, well, get it off the.
Dre Nicole
You a little.
Lex P
I'm sorry. Delete it.
Dre Nicole
I ain't know what to do. Like you a little spicy today. I'm scared I might get slept.
Lex P
You might know you might get shanked.
Dre Nicole
You got a knife?
Lex P
I do.
Dre Nicole
You be walking around with that hang on you.
Lex P
I keep it on me. I'm getting ready to go to London.
Dre Nicole
No, you going to Brazil. Oh, oh, I got a good idea.
Lex P
What? Man?
Dre Nicole
I think you should do a video to beautiful. Cause that's what they shot it at.
Lex P
I know.
Dre Nicole
You should do that. That would go viral.
Lex P
I'll think about it.
Dre Nicole
That ass on you I'm not in.
Lex P
The mood to do.
Dre Nicole
Remember that song, Shawty got an ass on her? I'm gonna put my hands on her. Rubber band on her.
Lex P
Man has some hits still.
Dre Nicole
Who?
Lex P
That was Gucci man, right?
Dre Nicole
It was.
Lex P
I thought so.
Dre Nicole
I don't think that was Gucci, man.
Lex P
I think it was.
Dre Nicole
Let's do our research somebody.
Lex P
We don't have a Google team.
Dre Nicole
But she thick in the lips like Jack. Yo, ain't that what he said? Are looking at hips?
Lex P
Yeah, that was Gucci mane.
Dre Nicole
It was.
Lex P
Come on, man.
Dre Nicole
Okay, you know your history.
Lex P
Do you. Did you vote?
Dre Nicole
Go ahead. By Gucci, man. That is crazy Gucci mane. Come I must fun fact about me. Well, I'm an icy girl.
Lex P
Are you? Because you didn't know that that was his song.
Dre Nicole
You know, I did know. I think it's the teremana that's getting to me. Hey, the casamigos.
Lex P
So I bought the biggest bottle of teremana yesterday.
Dre Nicole
Why?
Lex P
Because I went to an election party. I'm not kidding. It was about this big. I'm not capping.
Dre Nicole
Did y'all drink the whole thing?
Lex P
No, we didn't. I made some. We had some kamalaritas and they were actually really good. I took a page from Ty's book. I was bartending in there. I did my thing and they were really good. They drank them all.
Dre Nicole
Yes, I know. That's right.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
When you get in your bartending bag, you get. You was bartending the other day.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
Yeah. You should have put the hair behind your ear.
Lex P
Yeah. Okay. So anyways, I. I have some things I want to talk about before we get to the topics today. First, let's do a catch up. What you been up to? What's going on?
Dre Nicole
What's t. You know what? I ain't really been up to nothing much, to be honest. Yeah, I'm just taking it day by day. I can't believe these results. I am as appalled as you are. It's crazy times that we living in. One thing I will say though, we have our passports and our shots, so we are. We might go out the country and not come back.
Lex P
Oh, I'm going out. I got a one way.
Dre Nicole
No, I know you leaving. Yeah, like you about to go. I might have to come meet you.
Lex P
Let's do it.
Dre Nicole
And we might have to build a new life outside of a business.
Lex P
You know what? At this point, I feel like Poor Minds is a machine. It runs. I'm sure I can find a Brazilian Javi. Javi's close to Brazilian. Anyway. Javier is a Hispanic. It's a Hispanic name.
Dre Nicole
And Javier is in.
Lex P
Javi got some good hair. I see. You know. No, you don't.
Dre Nicole
I feel like Yvette is a Hispanic name.
Lex P
It is Yvette. And Yvette can cook. Yeah, she's a abueta. How do you say abuelita?
Dre Nicole
She's more of A to a T. I mean a tia. A tia.
Lex P
A tia.
Dre Nicole
A tia, tio.
Lex P
She's a tia.
Dre Nicole
She a tia.
Lex P
You know, enough to be an abuelita. You know, Ty. Ty knows how to shake a good mark.
Dre Nicole
We can bring, we can take the crew, we can take this show on the road. You guys, you down.
Lex P
Awol, awol, ready to go.
Dre Nicole
We going to have to change your name though. That ain't going to work.
Lex P
What is it gonna be? Alejandro. Alejandro. Do y'all remember that song by Lady Gaga? Ala, Alejandro. You know that I love you, Lady Gaga.
Dre Nicole
She had that.
Lex P
She had a song.
Dre Nicole
I never heard that song.
Lex P
Alejandro. What?
Dre Nicole
No.
Lex P
You know that I love you, boy. Like Mexico. You never heard that song? Oh my God.
Dre Nicole
I was more of a bad romance girl. And.
Lex P
We'Re singing that today.
Dre Nicole
Gaga.
Lex P
Roma, Roma, Oola hula Roma. I ate that. Thank you, Yvette. Cause y'all be bull with me. I don't need to even talk to y'all, girl.
Dre Nicole
Cause you always gotta take too far.
Lex P
That's how she sang.
Dre Nicole
I feel like we be vibing. And then you always. Then you always gotta.
Lex P
Your biggest fan.
Dre Nicole
I'll follow you until you love me.
Lex P
Papa, papa.
Dre Nicole
The hits.
Lex P
She just kept dropping hits and she did not.
Dre Nicole
2009 was a great year and I remember that because Lady Gaga. Huh?
Lex P
She had a song with Beyonce.
Dre Nicole
Telephone.
Lex P
She had two.
Dre Nicole
What was the other one?
Lex P
Video Phone Remix.
Dre Nicole
I said Telephone.
Lex P
No, Telephone was one of them. It was Telephone and Video Phone Remix. Oh, just keep on talking.
Dre Nicole
Uh huh.
Lex P
Saying that you Want me low key.
Dre Nicole
They stole that from B2K.
Lex P
She said.
Dre Nicole
Remember B2K song? Uh huh. I know that you hunting, man.
Lex P
You know what? And I want to.
Dre Nicole
You never know where these conversations be going.
Lex P
Okay, but let me just say this. We have to give Lady Gaga her. Her flowers because please fact check me because I may be wrong. I may be wrong. But before Lady Gaga, I don't think Beyonce had collaborated with any women yet outside of Destiny's Child up to that point. I could be wrong. I could be wrong. She had did Slim Thug Bun, B, all that stuff. Because this was before she did the Nicki Minaj feeling myself.
Dre Nicole
You need to stop playing around with all them clowns and wanksters.
Lex P
Girl, focus.
Dre Nicole
Good girls gotta get down with.
Lex P
Okay, okay, but focus. What I'm saying is before, before the Lady Gaga collab, I think that was the first woman that kind of was like. Beyonce was like, yeah.
Dre Nicole
With you.
Lex P
Because Beyonce don't do.
Dre Nicole
I'm feeling your vibe.
Lex P
I'm feeling your vibe.
Dre Nicole
That's why Quiet as is. Cut. That's. They be hating on.
Lex P
Baby. Hating on who? Me.
Dre Nicole
What I do.
Lex P
Go ahead.
Dre Nicole
I know you ain't judging me after that outburst you just had.
Lex P
And I'll do it.
Dre Nicole
And a vet gonna co sign it because Yvette knows. No, that's because that got an ear. No, that's cause y'all both leos. She's co signing your.
Lex P
I sounded amazing.
Dre Nicole
Telling me I need to stay focused and doing that is crazy.
Lex P
What you were saying. What you were saying. You were saying.
Dre Nicole
Oh, fine. Is this cub? That's why they be hating. They be hating on Meg because having Beyonce on a track is a big feat.
Lex P
No shade, no tea. Who else? Of all the new girls, nobody has a Beyonce feature except for Meg. Now we gotta give that to her. Yeah, we gotta give that to her.
Dre Nicole
We gotta give everything to her. I love me some Meg. And speaking of.
Lex P
Come on, let's talk about it. Let's get into the doc.
Dre Nicole
Because we ain't chatted about the dots.
Lex P
We haven't chatted about the dots.
Dre Nicole
We haven't chatted about the dots. Die. Shakira and Missy Elliott.
Lex P
Shakira and Missy Elliott before Lady Shakira. That's fair. Also, I. Let's not kill the drama. Okay? I forgot. And what was the Missy Elliot one? Oh, fighting Temptations. I'm just fighting Temptations.
Dre Nicole
And Missy Elliott wrote a lot on. Wrote a lot on Destiny's Track and Shout out to Free. Cuz that was the one song Free Did. And it was. What is funny?
Lex P
Nothing is funny.
Dre Nicole
First of all, that was no shade. I love me some free like she. She walked so. She walked so we could run.
Lex P
And she never laughed at AJ with his lace front drip.
Dre Nicole
Okay.
Lex P
Do you know how good of a.
Dre Nicole
Okay, bitch. But no, for real, though, that was no shade. Like shout out to Free. I want me. And you talked about this on a recent episode. Like, I want to do a hit. And it be like that hit.
Lex P
You know who else. You know who else had a hit under her belt?
Dre Nicole
Who?
Lex P
Angie Martinez. Oh, if I can go. Nothing at all. Remember that song?
Dre Nicole
Yes, I knew exactly.
Lex P
She had the first verse. It's ladies night. What? It must be Angie on the mic. The Honey Bee.
Dre Nicole
They got the sugar, got the spice.
Lex P
Go to L. Spike Keith and ride right. Yo, I just made him up last night.
Dre Nicole
An icon, Angie. A legend.
Lex P
Come sit on the couch.
Dre Nicole
Yes, Angie.
Lex P
And free and free. And AJ with your wig.
Dre Nicole
He ain't coming. He ain't coming. Yo, them hoes.
Lex P
Okay, but back to the documentary. Let's talk about the documentary. Let's chat about the documentary.
Dre Nicole
Why does he have alopecia?
Lex P
That's fine. There's nothing wrong with having. You know what? Speaking of alopecia, I'm not saying nothing.
Dre Nicole
Wrong with it, but I'm saying there's.
Lex P
A whole community of tiktokers that have millions of follower followers with alopecia. And they are so beautiful.
Dre Nicole
They are.
Lex P
I mean, she does her makeup so good. I wish I could shout out her name. Oh, I forgot.
Dre Nicole
And there's so many girls with alopecia.
Lex P
Who like, they Rocky.
Dre Nicole
They Rocky. And they be rocking the out this like. I don't think I could ever go bald. God.
Lex P
I think you could.
Dre Nicole
You think so?
Lex P
Yes, I think it's. Oh, got that nugget I forgot.
Dre Nicole
No, no. The funny. No, first of all, McDonald's.
Lex P
First of all, McDonald's, please. First of all, first and foremost, piece first barbecue.
Dre Nicole
Little honey.
Lex P
Okay, I'm sorry. Okay.
Dre Nicole
No, for real, though. I. I have a small head. Like, whenever I get, I do bitches. I'm not saying my hairstylist be saying different. They always be like, your head is so small.
Lex P
Yeah, I'm a shady bitch. I'm not. I'm listening, Drea. I promise I'm listening. I haven't said a word. I haven't said a thing.
Dre Nicole
I'm on your ass, poet Trey, lately. No, for real, though. I have a small head, but the problem is I have a dent in my head.
Lex P
That makes Sense Nobody, bitch.
Dre Nicole
What?
Lex P
No, I mean, like, that makes sense why you would never do, like, an extremely small.
Dre Nicole
You know, they say when you have a dent in your head, your daddy.
Lex P
Is a freaky ass nigga. He A 69. Go.
Dre Nicole
No, for real, though. I do like, it's right here.
Lex P
Okay.
Dre Nicole
It dip a little bit. Dip it low. Do you have a dent in your head?
Lex P
No, I don't.
Dre Nicole
You don't. You don't have a soft spot?
Lex P
I have a beautiful head.
Dre Nicole
A big head.
Lex P
You know what's crazy?
Dre Nicole
I don't even imagine.
Lex P
Remember when I went viral on Twitter? A long. This was years ago. I went viral because they were calling me Little Head bae because my head looked small, because I didn't have no wig or nothing on.
Dre Nicole
Who here looks small?
Lex P
It literally went viral. They were calling me Little Head bae. I'm so serious.
Dre Nicole
That was because of your titties, though.
Lex P
No, I mean, maybe so, but I think that's like. But no, but what I'm saying is.
Dre Nicole
Why did you look at me like that?
Lex P
When I get my hair done, they say the same thing, you know, I just got that wig, man. She was like, oh, girl, you got a small head. Every time I. Oh, you can have.
Dre Nicole
A small head, but I can't. That's crazy.
Lex P
I didn't say you couldn't have a small head.
Dre Nicole
That's nothing.
Lex P
I looked at you and I was listening.
Dre Nicole
You took some. No, you was like this.
Lex P
Yeah, you was.
Dre Nicole
You. You wasn't believing. You wasn't feeling what I was saying. But that's crazy, though. I do feel like your head used to appear smaller when your titties was bigger.
Lex P
They did.
Dre Nicole
And you had that short haircut. I love that era of. I hated it. It was really like. People say you look like Tony Workston, but it was really.
Lex P
You know what's so crazy?
Dre Nicole
Life had that short haircut.
Lex P
Life is so crazy, cuz. People always talk about my short haircut, how much they loved it, and they're like, oh, my God, Lex, you were so.
Dre Nicole
But you were having a mental breakdown, bro.
Lex P
I was fucking like, let's just drink a little mimosa with bleach. That's what I was going through at that moment. So when people always bring up, okay, yeah, yeah, let's talk about it. You want to chat? You wanted to have a chat about.
Dre Nicole
My short hair that went dark.
Lex P
Let's talk. Let's talk pitch.
Dre Nicole
What? Excuse me.
Lex P
Oh, yeah, you want to chat? We're gonna have a chat. Yeah.
Dre Nicole
No, I remember, though. I remember when you called me and you had cut your hair off, and I was like, okay, because remember, I cut it, but your face is so beautiful. It's, like, unreal. I was like, wow, you crazy as. Cause. Why did you just cut your hair off? Spur.
Lex P
In a moment, I cut my hair.
Dre Nicole
But you looked so cute. I loved it.
Lex P
I cut my. Well, when I. When I first cut my hair, I called you, but my hair was messed up. Cause I don't know how to do hair. So once my sister heard me crying. She came upstairs, and she was like, what did you just do? So my sister actually had to come and fix my hair.
Dre Nicole
You thought you was a nigger from the Southwest so bad.
Lex P
What?
Dre Nicole
Cause you used to be gonna get edge. UPS designs. I was like, girl, what the fuck?
Lex P
Never got a design. It's giving real niggas a design is crazy. A design. Why would you just say that, Lex?
Dre Nicole
You did.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
Say it.
Lex P
Who? Who? Say it. Oh, say it. What were you about to say?
Dre Nicole
I'm about to say because I was about to say, child, you lying.
Lex P
But I had a part.
Dre Nicole
I have a video.
Lex P
I had a part.
Dre Nicole
I have a video in my phone. You definitely had a design.
Lex P
It wasn't a design. It was a part. It was a little moving on.
Dre Nicole
You know how be getting a little squiggly?
Lex P
I never had a squiggly. Never had a squig.
Dre Nicole
I beg to do food.
Lex P
I had a part. I had a part.
Dre Nicole
That's not a design.
Lex P
No.
Dre Nicole
Cause who the fuck put a part in no hair?
Lex P
Well, it was hair. I didn't have a fade.
Dre Nicole
Why do you need a part?
Lex P
Because I never had a fade. It was short and curly, so it would look cute when I had the part. And I would lay my edge, and I would do a little swoop with the edge so it looked cuter with the part.
Dre Nicole
What are you parting my hair?
Lex P
Because I was never bald, Bat.
Dre Nicole
The funny thing is, I'm talking shit. But I want to cut my hair off. I want a short haircut so bad.
Lex P
I hope that dent just is shining.
Dre Nicole
My dent.
Lex P
Yes.
Dre Nicole
It ain't gonna be that low, bitch. Ooh, I see your bitch. I raise you one.
Lex P
Okay, okay. Let's. Let's take a pause. What's up, y'all?
Dre Nicole
It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Drea Nicole.
Lex P
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Dre Nicole
Yes. I love Chime. Especially tea free overdrafts. Because if I don't have $10, then why y'all think I got the 50?
Lex P
Yes, they have spotted members up to $30 billion in overdraft fees. So I'm telling you, if you want to save money and do right by your finances, go to chime.com and what.
Dre Nicole
I love about Chime is that you can get your money up to two days early with the direct deposit.
Lex P
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Dre Nicole
Your girl Dre Nicole.
Lex P
And we are here to tell y'all about our brand new ebook and E course bundle pour into your pod.
Dre Nicole
Yes, y'all, we have been working on this for a while and we're so excited to put it out and give it to y'all because we know so many people have been asking us for such a long time about how to start a successful podcast and we have literally put all of the information that we have and everything that we've utilized into this one eBook.
Lex P
Yes, and this is not your typical ebook because I know what a lot of y'all are thinking. But I'm telling y'all, we give y'all direct access to how we built our brand. It's not no fluffiness and all that what I've read in ebooks before. This is the ebook that gets straight to the point and gives you all the direction you need to start your podcast today.
Dre Nicole
Absolutely. And you can trust that we are putting 100% good information, no filter into this book and it's going to help you build your brand and it shows you exactly how we build poor minds and made it into a six figure company.
Lex P
So make sure y'all head to poorminds.com to purchase your ebook or the e course. And we also have it available in a bundle for you, so you can get both poor minds.com pour into your pod. I think we should talk about the drink. The drink. It's all right, Yvette. You can stay right there. Shout Out. Yvette. That's our photographer. Y'all have seen Yvette on Broken Play, but y'all have never seen a bit.
Dre Nicole
On shout out to a bit. If you ever need a photographer here in Atlanta, she does all of our photos for the show. So any photos I see on a Poor minds page of it is responsible. Book my girl. Book a black woman. Okay.
Lex P
Shot in. Vote for one.
Dre Nicole
Hey, I'm with you when you write. Hey, but let's go to another black woman. What's up?
Lex P
That was good.
Dre Nicole
I like that. Like that. So this one is going to be by the fireside. Because it's getting chilly. I know y'all be trying to snuggle up. I know y'all probably watch. Hopefully you're watching this with your boo. If not, I don't know what to tell you, but this one's gonna be called by the fireside. You can use whatever spirit of choice, whether it's vodka, tequila, a bourbon goes nice in this. Even a little cognac goes nice in that. You like it? Yeah. A little raspberry liqueur. I'm about to buzz. That's what she needs to name this dream. About to buzz. I'm about to bust.
Lex P
Let's change the drink name to what I'm about to bust.
Dre Nicole
Okay. This is the I'm about to bust. Wait, what was it at first, though? By the fireside.
Lex P
Nice and wholesome. I'm about to bust by the fireside.
Dre Nicole
Let's incorporate both of them. I like that. I'm about to this. Hello, y'all. The drink of the day is I'm about to bust by the fireside.
Lex P
You can add in whatever spirit of choice you like. Whatever's gonna help you bust quicker. Okay.
Dre Nicole
We have a little raspberry liqueur, peach schnapp, some lemon juice, and a little demerara syrup, which is like a brown sugar based syrup. And then I actually floated a little bit of red wine. So definitely, if you trying to, you know, I don't know, but you know. By the fireside.
Lex P
Thank you. I love a fireside.
Dre Nicole
And then garnished it with a cinnamon stick. So cheers, y'all enjoy. This is delicious.
Lex P
It is good. So, Ty, we gonna do a little update with Ty, what you been up to? Everything. Yeah.
Dre Nicole
My girl Be on the go. One thing about you booked and busy. Booked and busy, literally everywhere.
Lex P
So of course.
Dre Nicole
So Mixy is doing great. We're being booked daily. We love that.
Lex P
Keep on coming.
Dre Nicole
Y'all had a few people reach out from the show that they watch it. They want to book with us, so that's amazing. I work with Crown Royal as the cultural educator for Atlanta, so that's keeping me busy. You can follow me at Crown Royalty ATL there. But really, we just elevating these cocktails every day, and that's it. I'm not pulling out of the bag. You'll be booked and busy, and that's how I know my girl be getting a coin, because she be there, but she don't be there, if that makes sense.
Lex P
You know what we need to work on?
Dre Nicole
I seen. So Mixy just did an event for shout out to Brady and Sab.
Lex P
Yeah, love to be.
Dre Nicole
We love Sab and Brady and Brady love y. So, yeah, she just had her going back to work party. So cute. Yeah, it was.
Lex P
You know what? We need to lowkey work on, like, all four of us. We need to do a cocktail, like, table, coffee, book.
Dre Nicole
Right, you mentioned that.
Lex P
Let's do it, ladies.
Dre Nicole
All right.
Lex P
Okay, back to the topic, Meg.
Dre Nicole
We didn't have no topic.
Lex P
Yes, we did. We were talking about Meg's documentary because we never talked about it.
Dre Nicole
Oh, okay. Yeah, that was a good topic. So I watched it. I watched it and it was good. First of all, I loved it. It was so good. I love the animation. I feel like it added an extra element to the doc or whatever. And then also with her, like, being into anime, I thought that was, like, pretty cool that they did, like, a little animation. And it just kind of gave people a little bit more insight to the things that happened who are, like, more visual people who needed to kind of see exactly what happens. It's just so sad to me because that girl have been through so much, and people are so focused on her lying about that when at the end of the day. Yeah. Did she lie about it on Gayle King? She did, but she admitted to it when it mattered, which was in court. But either way, I'm. I stand with her. When she said, people are loose. Stay focused.
Lex P
Y'all losing the plot.
Dre Nicole
Stay focused. Y'all so worried about whether or not I. This. This man shot me.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
In the grand scheme of things, how much do it really matter that I was fucking him? And y'all care way less about the fact that he shot me? And then in the Midst of all of this, I came around a bad group of people. I started being in the wrong company because I was going through shit because I lost my mother. I didn't know where life was going. I didn't know what to do. I was just looking for help. I was looking for friendship in the wrong places. And you thought that this man was your friend, and he definitely was, like, taking advantage of you. But at the end of the day, I just think people need more empathy for the fact that, like, this girl lost everybody in her life that held her down. Everybody that loved her unconditionally, like her mother, her grandmother, her dad. Like, this girl really going through life by herself. You just gotta get. And then she was young as, like, meg, only, what, 29 right now?
Lex P
She's not even 30 yet.
Dre Nicole
Yeah, she's not even 30 yet.
Lex P
This girl is not. So. I'm glad you said that. Let's take that into account. This lady is not even 30.
Dre Nicole
Yeah, yeah, she's only 29. So it's like, imagine the. All of the mistakes we made in our 20s, all of the. We did in our 20s, but it wasn't documented. It wasn't on a platform for the world to see. You know what I mean? And I just feel like. Did she. Like, she had her faults and she had her. That she did wrong too, in the situation, if we being honest. But at the end of the day, like, this lady have been through so much. It has persevered. You know what I mean? Like, if anything, she should be a testament or a role. Like, I don't want to say a role model, but because, you know, they're gonna. I mean, stuff in the comments.
Lex P
If I say wrong, you said it right.
Dre Nicole
But it's a testament to persevering.
Lex P
Yes.
Dre Nicole
And still going and still making it through. That's so hard. And. And unfortunately for both of us, we know what that's like too, to have to, like, keep going in the midst of loss, in the midst of grief and losing somebody that's so close to you. And I just feel like people just be so hard on this girl all the time. And it really. I always liked Meg, but it definitely made me have a really softer, even more soft spot for her.
Lex P
So I'm gonna give my takeaways from the documentary. I have a few things I wanted to take away.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
One, of course, the main thing that broke my heart, which I'm gonna get into at the end of my little spiel, is the mother thing. Of course. But one thing that broke my Heart was. If you notice, in the documentary, after everything happened, when she fell out with Kelsey in the court, if you notice, she didn't have any friends around her. Everybody around her were people that worked for her. So, yeah, the only person that was around her that was like a friend was her cousin. And let me tell you somebody that.
Dre Nicole
And shout out to you, bitch. Cause you were real.
Lex P
Yeah. So let. And let me say this.
Dre Nicole
Her. Her. Her cousin is a real one. I really meant that at the bottom of my heart.
Lex P
So let me finish. So I will say, I say it's so important all the time, community. When you're going through things, you need friends, you need your sisters, you need your aunties, you need your. You cannot live this life without community. So the fact that I saw her, the fact that I saw her going through this and she didn't have community, what made me really sad. Another thing that I noticed, I specifically remember her performing her anxiety song. And she's on stage and she's performing and she's giving her heart and she's crying. And it made me cry because she started saying that part, if I could write a letter to heaven, you know, and she's like talking to her mom and she's just like, mom, what am I doing? And I felt that because I've been there. And when she got off stage, everybody around her, she was like, oh, did I look pretty? And she's just trying to have a moment because she's trying to cheer herself up. Everybody was like, oh, you did so good. Not one person grabbed her and hugged her. Not one person.
Dre Nicole
And sometimes that's what you need.
Lex P
And in that moment, she didn't need to be Megan thee stallion. She needed to be Megan Pete. And she needed a fucking hug. So let me say this. On top of that, the one person that I saw around her that we see that has always been, oh, my God, this woman is a machine that poured into her every time.
Dre Nicole
Loriann.
Lex P
Loriann fucking Gibson, she was constantly pouring into her and telling her how great. The reason that Meghan is so great is because she's Meghan and she's herself. But Lori Ann, who has created superstars, who has been in this industry, we interviewed her when we were in la.
Dre Nicole
And I loved her.
Lex P
And I'm not funny. If you've ever been in the presence of somebody who has done great things and they're just great, being around them, you feel something. Like when Lori walked up to me, like, inferior. It was just like, oh, my God. And the way she even spoke Life into us. She was like, you ladies, y'all are doing it. Y'all are beautiful. And that was the first time she met us. She was like, this is the best interview I've did all day.
Dre Nicole
She was like, so that's what everybody say.
Lex P
The way that Lori Ann poured into her was very important to me, and that stuck out to me.
Dre Nicole
Shout out to us.
Lex P
I got two more points, and I know I'm getting long winded. Second point was, it's okay.
Dre Nicole
I speak yo, speak your piece.
Lex P
I am so glad that she showed the depth of her and Kelsey's relationship, because everybody was like, oh, Meg Ron. Because she was having sex with Tori. They doing that. Was it wrong? Yes. We're not taking away that. Anyway, I don't know who did. But at the end of the day, we don't know who was doing what first or what. We don't know nothing about nothing. All we know, we don't know nothing. We're only going by he say, she says, but what I'm saying is, at the end of the day, it was weird, and it was wrong. Because if y'all are friends, why are y'all hopping on the same xyz?
Dre Nicole
But I mean. And that's the. And that's where I'm like, yeah, you right.
Lex P
So. But let me finish. So. But my thing is, because I've had somebody do this to me. Mm.
Dre Nicole
Mm.
Lex P
For Kelsey to sit on that camera and cry about Miss Holly and say, me and Megan have been through the dirt and the trenches. And when we. She said, not with Meg, she said, when we lost Miss Holly, I knew I had to be here. So instead of you being by her side, you chose to take some hush money and get on that stand and not say nothing. Because at the end of the day, the Meg do you wrong from what it comes to be. But let me tell you, if that would have been me and Dre in that situation, first of all, that nigga would have been beat the fuck up. Cause ain't nobody finna pull out a gun on my friend. Somebody. Somebody gonna die tonight.
Dre Nicole
Shout out to 50 cent. So that would have been the theme of the night.
Lex P
If that was the situation. And say, I'm having. I'm messing with somebody. And then Dre go back, though, and she messing with him, and it comes out in the car, and same thing happens. Don't care. I'm sitting on that stand, and I'm telling him what he did. Now, I may choose to never talk to you again, but deep down inside, I Know what you going through. Cause you're going through a lot. And you've been drinking a lot and you're struggling. So I will forgive you for my peace. But I'm never gonna talk to you again. But I'm gonna sit on that stand and I'm gonna give you justice. Cause no matter what, you did not deserve to. Almost. If that bullet would have hit a foot higher, it could have hit an artery, and that woman would have died. And the narrative would have been, y'all would have needed Meg to die for y'all to care.
Dre Nicole
Dance. Bitch is crazy.
Lex P
Exactly. So.
Dre Nicole
Cause what, nigga? And that's probably how she responded too. Cause, like, n. What are you talking about? Cause I wanna get out the car.
Lex P
And like I said, third and my last point about Kelsey, and I'm glad that she focused on that. It's just being that, like I said, it taught me how scary people are. Because everybody has their best interests.
Dre Nicole
You never know who have your best interests.
Lex P
And I've lost when, like I said, I had somebody look at me in my face and said, when your mom passed, I felt like she told me to watch over you. And this person did the worst.
Dre Nicole
Don't piss me off.
Lex P
Worst things to me that I've ever endured and encountered.
Dre Nicole
So, girl, please don't piss me off.
Lex P
Well, no, I'm just saying. No, no, I'm talking about. It was a guy.
Dre Nicole
I'm talking about some of that girl.
Lex P
No, not her.
Dre Nicole
Well, she was saying the same thing.
Lex P
Yeah, it was kind of the same. I had a lot of people the year my mom passed and I had to get out of my mind.
Dre Nicole
My mom always told me, hate is a strong word. I don't hate her. I strongly dislike. Strongly dislike that.
Lex P
But I'll say this about Kelsey. I'm glad that she showed that, because there was a lot of things that the stands and fans wanted her to focus on. She didn't post, like, the beef with Nikki. She didn't post her with party. Because none of that matters.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
What hurt her was that Kelsey sat on that stand and act like you didn't know nothing. And I could have lost my life. And no matter what beef or whatever transpired, you could have served justice and made sure that justice was served a lot easier.
Dre Nicole
Well, you know what? Justice was served.
Lex P
It was.
Dre Nicole
No, I'm saying, you know what? Justice was served. At the end of the day, losers gonna be losers.
Lex P
Only for you to be online taking a whole photo shoot with Nikki's shoes and Nikki to come out and Say I didn't ask her to do that. Cause one thing I can say about Nikki, Nikki on tour, she doing her thing. Like you was trying to be shady. You thought Nikki was finna kiki with you.
Dre Nicole
But that and shout out to Nikki. Yeah, we love us some Meg and we love us some Nicki.
Lex P
Yeah. We don't choose sides over here.
Dre Nicole
So hopefully. I really hope. Hope they can get cool at some point because a collab would be fire hot girl.
Lex P
Summer was a bop. And we need to run it back.
Dre Nicole
A collab. A new collab.
Lex P
But either way that it goes. Last point I want to make. You called me. Well, no, I think I called. We talked the next day, maybe after the documentary when I.
Dre Nicole
No. Cause I hadn't. I don't think I had. Oh. Oh, yeah. I hadn't watched it yet. Yeah, but you were. Your reaction. Oh, my God, please. I don't want to get emotional. This is not. Bitch. I got my makeup done and I got lashes on.
Lex P
We don't cry.
Dre Nicole
I don't want to get. I don't want to get emotional. But like, your. Your response. Okay, wait, maybe it's the liquor.
Lex P
Okay, it probably is.
Dre Nicole
You'd all be crying for real. Like, what the fuck going on? Oh, okay. So like, your response was just so. Thank you, Ty. Your response was just so triggering for me because. Oh, my God. What the fuck is going on? No. You about to start crying too.
Lex P
No, I'm not.
Dre Nicole
You are.
Lex P
My tears don't fall.
Dre Nicole
Oh, my God. Okay, so maybe this is a good thing because I feel like people don't really see this side of me.
Lex P
Yeah, it's.
Dre Nicole
Okay, so people think I don't have the side which. You see this side of me all the time.
Lex P
But no, but we needed to talk about it.
Dre Nicole
Oh, my God. So you've been through so much. We both have. You know, like losing my dad was so hard. And then it's like I kind of was prepared for it a little bit because I knew my dad was sick.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
But like, still when it happened, it was like, what the.
Lex P
Yeah. Yeah.
Dre Nicole
You know, crazy thing about me, I recorded the same day and then we didn't talk about it for like two months or whatever. A lot of people didn't even know because I'm just that type of person. Like, I gotta keep myself busy to keep my mind off of things. So I feel like for a long time I didn't even deal with the death of my dad. And so right when I felt like we was kind of like get into a Good space with the head. Like, the situation, which your mom happened, which was like, so crazy still to this day, because it just happened out of nowhere.
Lex P
Yeah. Yeah.
Dre Nicole
We was all so shocked.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
And, like, so when you called me about the documentary, I was just like, wow. Like, it was so triggering because I could tell you was really, like, experiencing it all over again because you and Meg kind of have, like, the same story a little bit, you know, and it was just like. I don't know, bro. I just be feeling for you so bad because I know, like, the thing with me is, it's not to say that I don't. I don't go through the same things and, like, miss my dad and. But I just feel like me and you are just so different. Like, I'm a little bit more, like, hard by.
Lex P
Yeah. Yeah.
Dre Nicole
You know, like, I go through it, but I'm just able to, like, maneuver. Yeah. And I feel like for you, it's, like, a little bit harder and. Which is so crazy because I think when people see us, like, you're older than me. You. You the thick. You, the. You the stallion. Like, people think that you're gonna be, like, the tougher one, but in reality, it's me. Like, I feel like I'm, like, your little pit bull. And I just always worry about you, I guess, is what I was. My whole point in saying all of these. I just always worry about you because I'm okay.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
Like, I'm at a point where I have accepted it.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
And I've accepted what it is, and I'm okay. Like, I have my moments where I'm sad and I. Some days I don't want to get out of bed still, too.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
But I'm okay with you. I just don't never know if you're going to be okay. And it worries me so much. But also, I'm never gonna like to tell your business, but, like, even when it first happened, like, what you shared with me, I was just like.
Lex P
Yeah, it was. I think it was a lot for everybody around.
Dre Nicole
Well. Well, even, like. Because you was like, I'm so glad that you came.
Lex P
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Dre Nicole
When you came.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
And I'm just like.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
It just always scared me because I just never know.
Lex P
I think. I think with this. And like I said, I've worked through a lot of things, and with the documentary, it was. It was shocking because I've. I went through the same thing.
Dre Nicole
Right.
Lex P
You know, Meg lost her dad at a young age. I lost my dad at a young age. And you Know when you say y'all.
Dre Nicole
Have, like, the same stories when you.
Lex P
Don'T have two parents and you have one parent that. I mean, my mom would. If you. If y'all go scroll back far enough, y'all can literally go in 85 south comments and see my mom in there arguing down. When you have somebody, literally, the last.
Dre Nicole
Post on your mom's page is me, you and Ryan.
Lex P
Literally, me, her, and Ryan.
Dre Nicole
She loved us now.
Lex P
And when you have a parent that just believed in you and would go to war about you and was your best friend and your everything. So the way that Megan's relationship was with her mom, I saw that because her mom was like, twerk, dance, shake that ass. My mom was like, the same thing. Like, when you go and you crack them jokes, like, you need to be like, you can, you know.
Dre Nicole
No, your mom. My family members used to call.
Lex P
They used to call my mom like, oh, Lex got a potty mouth. And. Well, they wouldn't call me Lex. You know, they would be like, you know, she got potty mouth and she. So she doing her thing. Let her do her.
Dre Nicole
And shout out to mothers like that. Because I feel like my mom like that, too. Like, she come to all our shows.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
She be there, like, shout out to. Having mothers that support your dreams and your vision. And your mom was a real one.
Lex P
So the fact that when Meg lost her mom, she kind of had to. She couldn't stop. And I know that feeling because I had nothing. And when I moved out to Atlanta, it was like, oh, my God, we're getting ready to go on tour. I could not stop because not only was it, I have a business partner, I have a team around me. I got people that gotta get paid. And I knew the same thing that Meg said. If I would have stayed home and cried for the summer, my mom would have been so mad at me.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
She would have been like, what the. Did you learn anything from me, you dumbass bitch? That's exactly what she would have said. And so I understood that feeling of, I have to keep going because this is what you prepared me for, and this is what you said I was built for. But also, it's like, you have no guidance. I have no guidance.
Dre Nicole
You really. Okay. So, like, oh, my God, I don't want to start crying again. Like, Lord, please. You really broke my heart when you was like, I just feel like everybody around me, they can, like, call people.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
You know, like, you even with me, like, it's like, okay, my dad did pass away, but I could still call my mom, you know? So you were like, everybody around me, like, if y'all going through something, if y'all dealing with something, you can call people, bitch, I gotta get on Google.
Lex P
And I'm. And when I was talking about that, I'm talking about, like.
Dre Nicole
But that was such.
Lex P
I mean, it's real.
Dre Nicole
A real thing. Because I feel like so many people, like, are dealing with that. Like, it's like, what the fuck do I do?
Lex P
As we're being. I'm sorry, I don't mean to interrupt you, but as we're adults. We're adults, right? So you go to the doctor or your emergency contact, you like, oh, mom, when was the last time? Or, oh, mom, what's my blood type? Oh, mom, what's this? Mom, what's that? What's the. I don't get that. And it hits me all the time. Like, whenever my health had went to shit, I'm trying to figure out xyz and I'm like, fuck, this is stuff that my mom knows I don't have. I gotta get on Google. When I'm trying to figure out stuff with my taxes, stuff with her house or stuff with medical and this and that. I gotta get on fucking Google. Or I gotta call and hope my sister can help me with something. But shit, she got two kids, she got a husband, she got. You know what I'm saying? So it's just like, I have to navigate this alone. And I'm sorry, but. And I say, because I'm watching Meg and I'm watching her, and I'm not even on. Nowhere near the level of her, and I'm watching her become a global superstar. Because also, when you make money, you gotta learn how to keep it. You gotta learn how to multiply it. You gotta learn how not to lose it. You gotta learn all this stuff. So on top of being relevant and making good music, having good episodes, dropping good episodes, I'm trying to learn how to make money now.
Dre Nicole
And all I was going to say, like, I'm not, you know, trying to cut you off or nothing, but like, bitch, shout out to you. Shout out to you. And shout out to you, too. Shout out to you, too, Ty. Because I think we may have talked about this on an episode. I can't remember. I think we did talk to you about this on the episode, though. But I know you lost your mom, too. And shout out to y'all. And shout out to Meg, because all y'all doing a great job. Y'all moms will be so proud of y'all like. And even when you doubt yourself, I just always be one to let you know, like, you doing a good job like you are at the end of the day. We have been dealt unfair cards. I think anybody that lost they. One of their parents at a young age has been dealt an unfair hand. You know what I mean? But we doing the best with the. The cars that we've been dealt, and that's all we could do. You know, it's. It's unfortunate. It's like people who get to grow old with their parents. You're so lucky.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
And y'all don't really. Y'all do not realize how amazing that is and what a blessing that is. You know what I mean? Because it's hard out here, like, losing your parent, you do be feeling like, how the fuck am I supposed to keep going? How am I supposed to go on in life? Like, I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. And it's like the same thing you said with your mom. That's how I be feeling about my dad losing my dad. Like, me and my dad were so close.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
He always had my back. He was always there for me. I could always call him right or wrong. He always had my back and always had my best interest. And it's just hard. Yeah, it's a hard thing.
Lex P
And like I said the last point I wanted to make.
Dre Nicole
I hate that this conversation went here because I know you don't like talking about it. I can tell by your face.
Lex P
No, it's okay. I'm just trying to finish my thought. And the last, like I said, the last thing I'll say, then we can wrap this up and move on. When Meg said, what did she say? She said, you know, you can be doing all these amazing things, and you're so used to having your mom or your parent be like, okay, you're doing a good job. You're doing a good job. So it hits a little different when you don't have that, like, somebody who literally pushed you out and you don't get that. You know what I'm saying? Like, I say all that to say it just be hard because you're like, but am I doing a good job? Because the person who raised you, who saw you through all, all your chapters, all, they see that growth and they see, like, you know, you see me from, you know, 26, 27 to now, which is a lot of growth, by the way.
Dre Nicole
I've been knowing you since he was 25.
Lex P
That's what I'm saying a lot of growth. So 10 years now. But sometimes, like, when I'm not, when I'm doing something that everybody looks like is right, My mom was there to be like this. Yeah, that ain't it. And so you're like, am I doing a good job, though? Like, am I? Cause like I said, I don't have that. I don't. You don't. You need that motherly guidance. I don't have that motherly guidance. And I think that's what broke my heart. Because it's. I could never be Meg because I get hundreds of people saying mean things to me, and I'd be ready to break down. Imagine millions of people on the Internet tearing you down, and all you trying to do is grieve your mother. All you was trying to do was go out and have a good time and somebody shot you. All you trying to do is just do what you want for a living. All you're just trying to do is fucking exist in this world. And this world is hard. It's hard to exist. So to close the documentary out, it was great. I think it humanized Meg a lot. And I'm not saying if you don't like her, whatever, that's your opinion. But to people that have lost dads mothers, and we still have to show up to do our job, just go a little bit easy on people. All that comments that y'all be saying. I be sometimes, like, when the documentary dropped, I searched the in her words hashtag. Cause I knew we were gonna talk about on the show. It was. I saw some nasty things.
Dre Nicole
I mean, and I'ma say this too, because not that I care that much, because again, I feel like I'm a very, like, strong, resilient person. But I feel like the. The response that you get with you losing your mom is not the same response I get with me losing my dad.
Lex P
Really?
Dre Nicole
No.
Lex P
Why you feel like that?
Dre Nicole
Because I feel like you get such an outpouring of love all the time from listeners, from people like, oh, Lex, I feel like, you know, you're doing such a great job and you lost your mom or whatever, and. Bitch, I never get it.
Lex P
Well, you know what I think, to be honest, but people don't understand how close you and your dad were because.
Dre Nicole
How, bitch, I have that nigga name. I mean face.
Lex P
No, I know, but what I'm saying is people perceive, you know, like we were talking about with him last week. People think that dads aren't in the home or they don't, so they assume they don't know how much your dad loved you and how close y'all were.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
So that's not nothing to do with you. That's more so how people perceive black fathers.
Dre Nicole
No, no. And that's the thing. I was gonna say friend. I don't take it personally.
Lex P
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Dre Nicole
But it's the. The reason that I brought it up is because it's just interesting to me.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
Like, it's. It's interesting that we've both been through technically the same thing. You know what I mean? Like, no, it wasn't my mom, but it was my dad. And, like, I knew this my whole life. Like, I never knew a life without him. I never knew a life where I couldn't call my dad, talk to him, go see him, whatever. And then I lost this person. But it's just interesting, the. The difference in support that we get. You know, like, you losing your mom versus me losing my dad.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
It's just interesting when I be peeping it from, like, the. The comments and all of that stuff, it's just an interesting thing. It's interesting because I think people don't feel like they need to offer the same support. Like you said, when you lose your dad versus when you lose your mom, it's like, when it's your mom, it's like, oh, my God.
Lex P
I think it's like, maybe because she cares you.
Dre Nicole
Yeah, it's just a different type of relationship. Yeah, it's a different type of relationship, and I think it's different with men, but to me, that's sad. And going back to the conversation that we had with the ball. I mean, the bell, it's like, why, though? Men. Men who are present in the home, men who are real fathers, when you lose your dad, it's the same effect on the person. Yeah, it's the same thing. It's a. It's a huge loss.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
But why?
Lex P
I mean, I knew that because I'm close to you, and I saw how bad it was. I saw how bad it was for you.
Dre Nicole
Affected me.
Lex P
Yeah. And like I said, I think that's more of just like, a community thing and just. I think it's how we present as well.
Dre Nicole
I was gonna.
Lex P
You're. You're strong, and they be. My sister is the same way in the family. When we go around the family, everybody be crowding around me because I'm just. I've always been open about my struggles, and I'm sensitive, but I'm always like, if I'm going through it, I let you Know my sister is very much like, I gotta pick it up. I got two boys. I gotta keep it pushing. That Taurus energy. She's like, I gotta keep it pushing. Like, I can't stop. I can't. Which, we're both the same like that. But my sister's just like.
Dre Nicole
I was gonna say, give yourself a little more credit. Cause you are like that.
Lex P
Yeah, I mean, I am like that to a certain extent.
Dre Nicole
I think you like that. Front facing.
Lex P
Yeah, yeah, front facing.
Dre Nicole
You gonna go home and cry.
Lex P
Yeah, I'm definitely gonna go home and cry.
Dre Nicole
But one thing I will say about you, though.
Lex P
No, I'm getting the booth. Y'all didn't. I'm not done with y'all yet. But I would say I get it, though, because everybody's like, oh, Dre don't give a fuck about nothing. She's strong. She this, she that. So not saying that's okay, but still, I definitely 1,000%. Like, I never. I never thought about that. But now that you say that, it does make sense. But like I said, I think that's just how people perceive us. But they just. That goes with people just. They know you online and they don't know you in real life. Because I know how close you and your dad were. I saw how it affected you. I saw how it still affects you. You know, you still have your days. We both still have our days. Like I said the day you called me and you were like, girl, I'm just checking on you. Cause where you been? I know something going on. Cause you just know me. And you were like, I'm just.
Dre Nicole
Well, I know you. And then anytime you are a person, unfortunately, where I won't say everybody, but people that know you can look at your social media and say, when you're not in a good space. Well, like, that's something about you that has been that way forever. Like, ever since I've known you. Like, bitch, I can get on your. I can get on your Instagram, I can get on your Twitter. And I know when my friend not in a good mood. Like, I know when you. I know when you dealing with something. I know when you going through something. So. But you also, you're an interesting person because you a person where it's like, people got to check on you, but people also got to give you your space.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
So whenever you say stuff online and I know you going through something, I will check on you. But then I also be trying to give you time.
Lex P
And I think with social media, too, everybody knows this about Me too. I've always hate. I don't like social media, so it's like, I'll be active on there now because it's my job and I have to. So when I'm, like, extremely active and I'm, like, doing my job, it's. Cause, like, I'm laughing, I'm joking, I'm having fun. But, like, when I do, like, the bare minimum, that's when I just be like, I hate this. I hate talking to y'all. I hate everything. I hate. You know? So I think, like, with social media, like, you can tell. You can tell.
Dre Nicole
Yeah. Cause I know you.
Lex P
Cause you know me. But people be. You know, they just. Oh, Lex being goofy, Lex being silly. Lex being xyz. Because I.
Dre Nicole
Because, bitch, sometimes you tweet. A lot of the time for me, you tweet like.
Lex P
Well, I'll say real shit.
Dre Nicole
Like, you will say. Like.
Lex P
I mean. But one thing I will say, I do tweet about my mom all the time. I'll be like, I miss my mom. Like, oh, my God, I cannot. Like. Cause I'll be in the best space in my life, and then I'll just be thinking about my mom and I'll, like, tweet that. So I think that's why they don't notice it. But you can tell the difference in my tone. Like, just. Cause, like, I said, you know me. But other people, like, they don't be knowing. They don't see. And it's crazy because we gonna move on.
Dre Nicole
But, I mean, it's fine. I think this was a really good conversation.
Lex P
But I will say, when that documentary dropped. When that documentary dropped, y'all don't. I got so many messages. I got so many messages from a lot of people that went to that first tour. And it was one girl who messaged me. She was like, lex, I don't know if you remember, but it was right. Whenever your mom had passed. I don't mean to bring it up, but she was like. I was in the audience, and I remember somebody asked you, like, how you were doing and you had to get off stage. She was like. And I was on the side. She was like. And I saw the guy hug you. She talking about Ryan. Cause, like, ooh, I don't wanna get emotional, but, like, when I ran off the stage and Ryan just hugged me. And it made me sad because, like I said, I thought in that moment about Meg. I'm like, thank you. When you run off stage and you're overwhelmed, I needed that hug. And the fact that Nobody was there to hug her. It made me so sad. And one thing I can say that I'm grateful for is because I get to do this with you.
Dre Nicole
I get to be like, girl.
Lex P
No, but it's the truth, though. I had to go on tour.
Dre Nicole
Oh, my goodness.
Lex P
And I'm struggling. I'm having breakdowns every day, but I got somebody knocking on my door, like, what you need? Yeah, I'm here.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
And I. And like I said, I know I keep bringing it back to Meg because I really wanted to talk about this, because I hate the way people treat her because y'all don't know how it feels to not have nothing.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
And the fact that she.
Dre Nicole
Well, no, let me.
Lex P
No, when I say nothing, I mean parents.
Dre Nicole
Well, no. Well, let me say this. They don't know what it's like to not have nothing, but look like you have everything.
Lex P
Everything. Yeah.
Dre Nicole
And I think that's where people lack empathy.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
People like us. Yeah, People like me.
Lex P
Oh, you're beautiful. You're.
Dre Nicole
Bitch. You're like, what.
Lex P
How.
Dre Nicole
How are you complaining when you have this platform and you're doing X, Y, and Z and all of these people are watching you, and y'all are successful and y'all making money, and y'all are beautiful. Like, what the are y'all complaining about? Perception is everything.
Lex P
Yeah. That's where.
Dre Nicole
Like, that's where people lack empathy.
Lex P
Yeah. And I. I. Like I said, I hate the way that they treat her, but my heart goes out to her because she was on tour by herself. And that's the point I was making. That's why I was like, I didn't have to go on tour by myself. I had my sister with me. You know, like, obviously, like, you're like, you're not. It's beyond business. It's beyond a friendship. Like, you're like my family. Like. And when I think about that tour and when I think about that whole year, it was such a blur for me. But I think about how I was on the edge and I was there, and I was like, there's no point. I don't have no point. And. But I could just. Like, I could wake up and I could get through the day because, like, I had somebody to pick me up. I had that. I had that community. And I don't have a big community still to this day. I don't.
Dre Nicole
I mean, you don't need one.
Lex P
I mean, I don't need one, but I didn't have one because that year when I lost my mother, I had People, like I said, look at me in my face and say things only to stab me in the back.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
So I say all that to say because this documentary made me realize how evil people can be. Just because, like you said, they think that they have it all. But, like I said, my heart goes out to Meg because she didn't have that community. And like I said, the biggest part that stuck out to me was when she walked backstage after that performance and not one person hugged her. And it broke my heart, because when I walked backstage, I had somebody there that I met him through work, but he flew his ass out to Houston and drove to Orange and was at my mom's memorial. Like, I had that. Everybody, like, showed up for me. Everybody showed up for me. And, yeah, my heart broke for her. But I think that, like I said, if you're indifferent about Meg, you don't like her. I'm not saying you have to like her, but just give people a break. We're all human. Life is hard for all of us. I don't care how much money you got. I don't care how beautiful you are. I don't care anything. Your race life is hard. Give people a break.
Dre Nicole
Give people some grace, you know, because this shit is.
Lex P
And also. And like I said, especially for you, and I want to say this to you because I talked about this even when your dad passed. I ain't never seen no shit like that in my life. Cause when my mom passed, bitch. I canceled the photo shoot.
Dre Nicole
Yeah, we had canceled.
Lex P
I canceled the photo shoot. We had a photo shoot that day. I was driving to the photo shoot.
Dre Nicole
We was about to go there. Yeah.
Lex P
And I. And I. My sister called me, and I literally had to pull on the side of the road. I pulled in the gas station, and I just broke down. I called Dre. I was screaming. I said, I don't know. I don't even know. It was such a blur.
Dre Nicole
But I remember what you said. You was just kind of like, you didn't know if your mom was okay. Cause y'all talking to group chat all the time, and I'm just like, oh, you know, just me. Because one thing about me, y'all, I'm always, like, optimistic. Super overly optimistic, over manifester. Like, that's just me. Like, everything. Everything is gonna be okay. It's fine. And so I'm just like, oh, it's fine. Maybe her phone dead.
Lex P
Like, oh, I just knew it.
Dre Nicole
Yeah. And you said that.
Lex P
I just knew it.
Dre Nicole
You said that.
Lex P
Kept saying, I. I said, oh, my.
Dre Nicole
God, This Is just such an emotional episode. Cuz I don't want to start crying again. Be like you did. You was like, I just know something is wrong. Like, I know something is wrong. And I was just like, no, it's fine. Like, it's fine. Like, maybe her phone is dead. Like, she's okay, whatever. And then you ended up was. He was like, oh, my sister gonna do a wellness check or whatever. She gonna get the. The police to go or the emergency people to go do a wellness check. And then they went, did the wellness check. And he just called me back. He was just screaming. And I just knew.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
What it was, you know, like, it was just crazy.
Lex P
And like. And that's what I'm saying as far as you. Because, like, the morning you called me, you were crying and I was like.
Dre Nicole
No, I was hysterical. I was at Kiki.
Lex P
No, that's what I'm saying. You were.
Dre Nicole
That's my friend.
Lex P
I know. Because you were crying and you were like, I couldn't understand you. And I kept saying, what, Drea? I kept saying, what? And you would. I'm like, what? I'm like, what is going on? I couldn't hear. Like, you just kept. You were saying something. I'm just like, drea, please. I said, please, just breathe and slow down. And you finally, like, got it out and you said it. And I said, okay, we don't have to record today. We don't. You said, no, we're still gonna go to the studio. And I'm like, what the actual fuck? Like, I tried to cancel. I'm like, yeah, no, you were very. I was like, no, we're not going to this.
Dre Nicole
I kept saying.
Lex P
I'm like, bro, we're not going record today. We're not going. You like, no, we gotta go record. Because this is during the time this was.
Dre Nicole
I mean, we didn't have. We didn't have stuff in the can.
Lex P
This one we used to record on Mondays.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
On Wednesdays.
Dre Nicole
Yeah, we hadn't worked. We hadn't did the 85 episode yet. Where like, the. Went viral.
Lex P
Yeah, we had.
Dre Nicole
We just talked about too on episode with Develle. Like, we hadn't did the 85 episode. It was just us. We was in a booth, bitch.
Lex P
We was in the booth, unlike y'all.
Dre Nicole
And like, they was used to, like, getting episodes every week. So I'm just like.
Lex P
I was willing to go. I was like, me and Moran can do the episode. I was like, but you showed up. Because I couldn't show up.
Dre Nicole
And people still to this day like, when I talk about that situation, because even if you go back and watch it, people are always like, you would never know. Dre is just fine.
Lex P
So I think, like I said, when anybody has lost anybody, y'all have to be just nice and stop just assuming things. And we all. Moral of the story is we all going through it. So thank you, Meg, for being vulnerable and being open. It's not easy. We rarely talk about our parents on the show. We'll crack a little joke.
Dre Nicole
Oop.
Lex P
Here and there. But I think the world needed to see that.
Dre Nicole
Yeah. I think people never really see us talk about it for. I mean, they saw a little bit on the Melissa episode.
Lex P
That was, like, the first time we talked about it.
Dre Nicole
Yeah. But I feel like I didn't really get that emotional.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
On this episode. But I just get emotional when it comes to you.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
And the situation. Because like I said earlier, for me, as your friend, as one of your best friends, I. And I feel like out of all of your best friends, I'm around you the most.
Lex P
Yeah. Because I'm out here.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
All my best friends are.
Dre Nicole
They. All the rest of them live in Houston. So it's like, I see you every day, and, like, I just don't be knowing if you.
Lex P
Okay. Yeah. I mean, and that's a fact.
Dre Nicole
And it stressed me out because it's always, like, a thing that I'm always thinking about. Like, whenever I'm not around you, I just be like, oh, I wonder if it's okay.
Lex P
Yeah. And that's a fair. And like I said, I'm not. I appreciate you for that. I mean, my sister be the same way. My sister be having whole breakdowns because she be like, answer the phone or this and that. And I'll just be like, no.
Dre Nicole
Cause you one of them people, too. Like, yes, I be. Just when you don't answer the phone, I be like, oh, no, bitch, let me call again.
Lex P
Bleach, mimosa.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
Okay. Dark humor while you relax.
Dre Nicole
No, I mean, we both have dark humor, so I get it. Like, that's why I can laugh at it. But no, bitch. For real, though.
Lex P
I know. But say this. Appeal. But I'll say this. I will say this. I think I have come a long way with my mental health and my journey. And I will say. I know. I understand now that I'm more blessed than I'm not. I am more blessed than I am not.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
And like I said, I think this. Sometimes it sounds so weird. And I remember talking to you on the phone the Other day when you called me and you were like. And I was just crying and I'm like, I know it sounds so stupid because I'm crying over this Meg documentary and I don't even know her, but I'm like, certain things will trigger you and certain things will make you realize things and see things. And I'm like. And in this moment, Meg, I'm thinking, she has the world. She got Grammys, she got Beyonce. And I'm looking in this moment as somebody who has no parents either. I don't got half the shit she got. And I'm feeling sorry for her because all the things in the world and you couldn't get a hug, bitch, they couldn't hug you. You couldn't get a hug. And one thing about it, I got plenty of people to hug me now. And that's a blessing. And I hate the fact that she. She has to practice discernment now. She has to watch who's around her. But I think that was maybe a lesson that she needed to learn. Cause she's young, she's not even 30 yet. The fact that she's going through this. I lost my mom when I was what, 32, 33? I lost it as a full blown woman. I know what is going on. And I was. I'm still going through it. So the fact that she lost her mom so young and she's has to navigate an industry that's actually worse than our industry. The music industry is horrible. And she's navigating that.
Dre Nicole
Yeah. But to be tbh. Same thing.
Lex P
Same thing.
Dre Nicole
Music industry, media industry is all the same. Like, I feel like it all misses together. Episode is sponsored by Better Help.
Lex P
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Dre Nicole
And it's your girl Dre Nicole.
Lex P
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Dre Nicole
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Dre Nicole
A little belt to ass? Ain't never hurt nobody.
Lex P
Okay.
Dre Nicole
I mean, it hurt a little bit. Did I get whoopings?
Lex P
Ty? Did you get whoopings?
Dre Nicole
Bitch, I got.
Lex P
But I got them now, bitch.
Dre Nicole
I got hella whoopings. Let me tell you. I have vivid memories of whoopings. And that's why I think they were.
Lex P
Did they, though?
Dre Nicole
Cause it's certain. Yeah. Cause there's certain ones I remember, and it still put the fear of God in me. Like, I got whooped one time in the bathtub. I. No matter, bitch. Yes.
Lex P
I don't.
Dre Nicole
No matter how long I live, I will never forget that ass with me. My mama said she had said something to me. Now, what I will say is, I don't remember all of the context of the conversation, but she said something to me, and I was like, girl, whatever. In the bath.
Lex P
Boy, please. Whatever. That Houston came out in the bath.
Dre Nicole
While I'm taking a bath.
Lex P
How old were you?
Dre Nicole
I had to be, like, between 8 and 10 bad. Between 8 and 10 you was bad at. But she was. She was saying something, and I was like, girl, whatever. And I remember I heard my daddy, y'all, because. And maybe that's one of the main reasons why I miss my dad so much, because that was my nigga. Like, when I say, always had my back, my mama, I heard her say, oh, hell, no. And my daddy was like, wait a minute. Wait a minute. Just calm down. Calm down. She was like, no, I'm about to whoop her ass.
Lex P
She was tired of you. Cause you always used to run to your daddy.
Dre Nicole
My dad was my dad. You was a daddy's girl. Yeah, he used to always, like, have my back. Like, my dad was the reason that I didn't get a lot of whoopings, because he would talk my mama down. So. So he. So he was like, no, just calm down. I could hear it. I was like. He was like, no, I just calm down. I was in the tub.
Lex P
Yeah, she ain't gonna come in here. My daddy got my baby.
Dre Nicole
I ain't worried about her.
Lex P
Girl, you are a mess.
Dre Nicole
And then she came in there with that fucking belt. Dang, you was wet and I was wet and naked.
Lex P
Good.
Dre Nicole
You deserve naked and afraid. That was me, bitch.
Lex P
You was the first season.
Dre Nicole
I was the first season of naked and afraid.
Lex P
Bitch, fuck.
Dre Nicole
What they talking about right now? Okay, so let's go back to 2001.
Lex P
Are you gonna whoop your kids, though? Whenever you have to. Exactly.
Dre Nicole
I want to try. Because, like, it was more. It was more frightening than anything. But not frightening enough to where I still wasn't gonna cut up.
Lex P
Hello. That's what I'm saying.
Dre Nicole
Like, I'm not gonna lie. I vividly remember the whoopings, but it stopped me from being bad. No. You know what really stopped me more? When I would get shit taken away.
Lex P
Yes.
Dre Nicole
Like, when I would get punished and my mom would take. Well, she would be like, are we taking your TV out your room?
Lex P
You couldn't watch, smart guy. Life is about to end. Or Doug.
Dre Nicole
Or Doug.
Lex P
Why does she sing that intro so bad, smart guy? She sang really bad on that intro. Who was that?
Dre Nicole
I don't know. Another master linoleum.
Lex P
Mr. T.J. henderson. Super intelligent and fine young gentleman.
Dre Nicole
Why do you remember that?
Lex P
That was so bad.
Dre Nicole
I do not even remember that. But Tyena is what me up. That was my Tyena. And as told by Ginger, someone watched it's always green on the other side. It was. I mean, that's what really used to. That will mess you up, that not being able to play Snake on my Nokia.
Lex P
Ooh, okay.
Dre Nicole
Hey. So it's just like. That used to fuck me up more than anything.
Lex P
And that's what I.
Dre Nicole
Not being able to go outside, hang out with my friends.
Lex P
When I couldn't go to the skate rink. I used to think my world was gonna end.
Dre Nicole
And especially when you go to school on Monday. And I was like, oh, yeah, we had such a good time. And you just sitting there like, can't relate.
Lex P
I'm so lame. But okay. But I say that's why I'm not whooping my kids. I have two nephews. Okay.
Dre Nicole
And one of them bags Jackson and Rod.
Lex P
Right. I. Can I maybe.
Dre Nicole
Oh, why you don't want to whoop the bag?
Lex P
Because let me tell you why I. Let me tell you how you suspect Jackson.
Dre Nicole
Cause you always say he bad.
Lex P
Let me tell you how you suspank Jackson. I used to be like this. And that's what I would do to him. And it. It wasn't a spanking. For real. But I couldn't spank him. Cause he was just my. My sweet. That's my. Oh, I will cry. My sweet baby.
Dre Nicole
But you always say he's sweet. And I never had to.
Lex P
Right? I never. I never spanked Jackson. My sister. My sister don't spank either one of them never spanked Jackson. And when I tell you now, he's still a kid, you know, he's still. But he's so well behaved. He's so respectful. He's an angel walking this earth.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
The sweetest baby. And I never. Until this day, Jackson. Yes, ma'am. No, ma'am. Yeah, angel baby Rod Junior. That little one. It's something about that second child.
Dre Nicole
The second child? No, you the oldest nigga.
Lex P
Still bad. Shit don't work. Nothing works.
Dre Nicole
And bitch, you're just bad. And I was the only child. Bad as fuck.
Lex P
Just bad.
Dre Nicole
Nothing works bad. Nothing works bad.
Lex P
So I feel like, honestly, it doesn't matter. It matters more about the child.
Dre Nicole
Yep.
Lex P
But spanking. It don't really do. It don't really do too much. It don't do too much.
Dre Nicole
I feel like if anything get traumatized your kid. Cause like, I still to this day be. My mama used to.
Lex P
We used to somebody go like, hey, what's up, Dre?
Dre Nicole
You be like, we. No, I'm telling you, me and my mama used to be in a car together. I'll never forget. It was another time. At this point, I'm like 14.
Lex P
Oh, you was a grown girl.
Dre Nicole
Yeah, I was in high school.
Lex P
That's when that ass started coming in.
Dre Nicole
I was in the car with my mama. She said something to me. I said something back. She ain't like, she me in the mouth. So, like, still to this day, when I be in the car with her and she say something, I be like.
Lex P
Yeah, but you still got a smart ass mouth.
Dre Nicole
No, I don't say nothing to her.
Lex P
It was to teach you to not have a smart ass mouth.
Dre Nicole
But you know what? But you know what? I'll tell you though, and maybe I'll be wrong. Maybe people in the comments will disagree with me. I think you need to be scared of your parents.
Lex P
I do too. You need that little. A little bit of fear.
Dre Nicole
I think sometimes that's the fucking problem. And I'm not trying to say like, my parents definitely made their mistakes by societal standards. If you analyze how they raise me, a lot of people will probably say, oh, it's certain shit they did wrong. Nobody is perfect. You know what I mean? Like, my parents were not perfect.
Lex P
There's no such thing as perfect.
Dre Nicole
But bitch, but I ain't gonna look at the material. They did something. They did a little one too. And I was scared of my parents. Like, I.
Lex P
But I say all that to say, you know, there's a study, they have twins in A home that were raised the same, and one twin goes off to be a multimillionaire and the other twin on the side of the corner popping perks.
Dre Nicole
I feel like you. Okay. So the whole parenting thing where, like, people want their kids to be their friend, I stand. I stand on the side of history where it's like, I'm not your little friend.
Lex P
Yeah, no, I agree with that.
Dre Nicole
I don't want my. I don't want my kids to think I'm their little friend.
Lex P
Yeah, my mom was. She was cool when I got older, but she was weapons. Hell. Yeah.
Dre Nicole
But that's what I'm saying.
Lex P
With a switch, though. I'm from the country.
Dre Nicole
Oh, yeah.
Lex P
I used to get whipped with switches.
Dre Nicole
Oh, let me tell y'all something. And they gonna probably be in the comments like, oh, you was a abused. I give a. I got whipped with an extension cord before.
Lex P
Not that extend, though.
Dre Nicole
Yeah, that extend that.
Lex P
Yeah, I got whipped with. I used to. And then they used to make me go pick the switch out. Oh, go pick the switch. Don't pick the small one, cuz those hurt the worst.
Dre Nicole
Yeah. And so it's like, I don't know, Like, I personally, for me, I'm not going to whoop my kids if I can help it. Like, if shit gotta get to that. You bad as fuck.
Lex P
Yeah, like you.
Dre Nicole
You bad as fuck.
Lex P
Coming from somebody. Like the, like, people that I've dated dealing with their kids whooping don't work. Take that iPad. Oh, they finna. They finna be the sweetest thing you ever met.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
Take away things that they value. But to me, temporarily, I would be.
Dre Nicole
A different type of parent.
Lex P
Temporary pain is just. That's what it is. Just temporary.
Dre Nicole
It's temporary. You gonna still do what you want to do because mama whooped my ass with that extension cord at that time. And I still snuck that boy in the house when I was 15. Like, you ain't got.
Lex P
You.
Dre Nicole
You ain't. And got caught and got caught with that too. Then. Then got caught.
Lex P
Two to two was hot.
Dre Nicole
Then got caught with that and then went to high school. They got me a car. They was like, oh, you need to be home at 11 o'clock every day. Still was coming home at 12, like.
Lex P
Cause you was like, I'm gonna eat this whooping. You gonna eat that whooping. I'm saying, if you get whooped a.
Dre Nicole
Lot, it's momentary, but that's what I'm saying.
Lex P
To me, whoopings don't do nothing now. They like to call it Trauma and abuse. And I don't disagree with that. Whatever. I don't like to call people whatever you wanna call it, but to me, it's more effective if you have to go days with feeling. Some. I used to have to go days without my car whenever. Mom. When I got older, my mom stopped. Last time I got a whooping, I was in, like, second or third grade. Once I got older, she would take away things from me. So when I did something bad, I had to go two weeks without my car.
Dre Nicole
I was hurt. First and foremost, I am with you because imagine sitting in your room with nothing to watch, bro. You're just looking at the wall, and then you hear your mom in the living room listening to what was. No, what was the name of that show with Delarice on the loan down the road?
Lex P
Touch My Angel. You talking about Touch My Name? Yes.
Dre Nicole
Ain't that how the theme song Touch.
Lex P
My angel was such a good song?
Dre Nicole
Angel. Imagine sitting in your room. No tv, is there? No. She died.
Lex P
Damn. Rip. My girl. She was so good. My pinky, too.
Dre Nicole
Y'all say whooping. You mean like full whooping? Yeah. Where you saying you won't even spank your kid? Like, is it the same.
Lex P
I'm not doing.
Dre Nicole
I don't want to put hands and feet on my feet.
Lex P
I'm not doing that if I can avoid it.
Dre Nicole
Because my mama put hands, feet. She put other objects, too, because she threw a boombox at me one time.
Lex P
And I would say.
Dre Nicole
And I think me a little too far, like, traumatizing. And I love my mama. Like, this is no shame.
Lex P
Y'all know you're not traumatized?
Dre Nicole
No, but that was. I'm not traumatized because the thing about. I had a good mother.
Lex P
Right.
Dre Nicole
My mama loved me. Like, everything that she did, I feel like she did because. Because at that time, she thought she was parenting to the best of her ability, and she thought she was trying to get me right and get me in line so that I wouldn't become a up adult. I truly do think that even though I would not necessarily do some of those things with my own kids, I think that people are only a product of what they've been through and what they seen. From what my mom tells me about how my grandparents disciplined her and her father, siblings, that was the sheet that they got. That's how they got these.
Lex P
They was definitely. I think. I am not a parent, obviously.
Dre Nicole
Yeah.
Lex P
But I raised my nephew. But right before, like, my. I was there. Like, it was me and my mom, we were there. And I never had to spank him. Like I said, I would do like this. Yeah, I would literally do like this. And he would laugh and we. It's still an inside joke to this day. But I got the most out of him to being respectful because I take things away. Now he's on my phone bill. Your grades, right. Because I'm not gonna pay this bill. And he love his phone. He love his game. So he gets straight A's because he don't want his phone taken away. I feel like there's more effective things to do. To do than.
Dre Nicole
And that's what I was gonna say. Although to a certain extent I feel like it. It kind of works. Kind of. But to the point that I was making, I still went and did other afterwards, you know. But I feel like she was. But I feel like she.
Lex P
Her.
Dre Nicole
She was doing what she felt like was the best thing to do. Now that we're in a different generation and we in a different time, I no longer feel like that's necessarily the best thing to do.
Lex P
So you're not whooping your kid?
Dre Nicole
No.
Lex P
Ty, are you whooping your kids?
Dre Nicole
Are you, Ty? This is the first time I've ever considered a. My initial response was, hell yeah.
Lex P
Right.
Dre Nicole
But I'm also not into. Although I was whooped with belts, extension cords, whatever they could reach and pull. I don't think I would do that. But I feel like if they're small enough, a nice little.
Lex P
Especially when it's stuff. Now if it's something that they're trying to touch. I'm trying to teach you. Don't touch this. I'll pop their hands so they'll know. Cause that's stuff that you have to learn. But it's like if you're doing something. I went to a private school till I was in sixth grade. They used corporal punishment. So when you were bad, you got.
Dre Nicole
Pops shout out to Miss Flussy. I'ma always remember that lady, Miss Cook, Miss Flucy used to pop us on the.
Lex P
Oh, no, we had the pad.
Dre Nicole
No, she had. She had a. She had a little stick and she used to call it a Cox machine.
Lex P
We had paddles.
Dre Nicole
And she used to. Anytime you used me in bed, she was like, I'm gonna pull out the cotch machine. And like my mom. But. But the thing about her which. Shout out to her too. Cause she. Your parent had to give her permission. Like she would talk to the parents and be like, okay. So I have a certain way of how I reprimand the kids, get them in line but if you not okay.
Lex P
With it, what did your mom say?
Dre Nicole
And she told my mom. And my mom was like, oh, we'll play.
Lex P
Go ahead, Barbara. Exactly. Because I know you was bad. I seen your baby pictures you was giving Chucky. Bitch, was that you were so cute, but you just looked bad.
Dre Nicole
Oh my God, I was bad. As I was a terrible child.
Lex P
So I went to a private school. Terrible. They didn't.
Dre Nicole
But that's how I used to get niggas. Cause I was like, I was cute. You ain't seen me come.
Lex P
You just like. You used to bite people.
Dre Nicole
You. I did. And then you know what? Funny story real quick. I used to bite people all the time. And my mom was like, you used to think that shit was funny. Like you would bite people and be laughing. Cause you thought it was funny until the day I beat your ass back.
Lex P
Exactly. I bet you stopped and she beat me back.
Dre Nicole
And she was like, you ain't think that was funny and you ain't doing no more.
Lex P
I. So I went to a private school. They didn't have to get nothing approved from the parents.
Dre Nicole
So that's what I'm saying. Like it so.
Lex P
But let me tell you something about Ms. Cook.
Dre Nicole
Is it abuse or is it.
Lex P
I don't know.
Dre Nicole
Cause she beat me back and it worked.
Lex P
Let me tell you something about Ms. Cook, though. Ms. Cook, now that I look back on it and I think about it, I know what Ms. Cook went into the booth and did. What is she doing?
Dre Nicole
He was cooking.
Lex P
No, Ms. Cook went to the booth and didn't vote while she was supposed to vote.
Dre Nicole
Okay? Because you don't know if Ms. Cook's still alive. Don't say that her.
Lex P
I hope my mama up there whooping her ass right now. Because let me say this about Ms. Cook. It don't matter what I did. Go to the office to get Pops. She wouldn't say nothing. She would just be like, teairra, go to the office to get Pops. Damn, bitch. Let me get my joke off. Ho ass nigga. I'm trying to tell a funny ass knock knock joke. I just looked up in my little book that my mama bought me for Christmas. I'm getting these jokes off me.
Dre Nicole
Well, bitch, I know you was bad. That's a whole nother topic for this.
Lex P
But what I'm saying is I wasn't doing no.
Dre Nicole
Cause you bad.
Lex P
Now when I think about the reason she used to give me pops, it was so like, I'm being a kid now. If I was going around terrorizing, biting people Girl excuse. I just use that as an example. I wasn't biting nobody. I'm telling jokes. I'm. Now, I was loud and obnoxious. I was that kid.
Dre Nicole
I was.
Lex P
You ate that?
Dre Nicole
No, but that's.
Lex P
No, but what I'm saying is, now that I think about it, Ms. Cook was giving, like, sending this to the office.
Dre Nicole
She was white.
Lex P
Bleep that out.
Dre Nicole
She was white.
Lex P
Yes.
Dre Nicole
Oh, Miss Flucy was black.
Lex P
Oh, that's why your mom gave permission and she. My mom came up to the school. My mom came up to the school and raised hell because she started to figure out. She was like, I feel like y'all are picking on my child. Why is my child always in the office? And I'm asking what's going on? And they just talking about. Cause she talking loud, the little bitch. Loud bitch.
Dre Nicole
You was. Still is. So Ty is thinking now. So now you're reframing.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
Because I agree. I think there is better ways, especially nowadays, because now kids have way more things that they're so attached to as well. So it's like, oh, you taking my iPad? Oh, you know, like, now they feel like there's something more to work towards. But I do. I still agree. Your kids should fear you in some capacity. And it's like, how do you have that? How do you find that?
Lex P
I'm.
Dre Nicole
Honestly, though. Cause, like, whenever you post pictures of your mom and stuff, I'm like, your mom looks so sweet, so cool. Like, I can't believe she used to be whooping your ass.
Lex P
I mean, Barbara looks sweet, too.
Dre Nicole
Nope.
Lex P
Yes, she does. And when you talk to Barbara, you okay again?
Dre Nicole
Funny story. I went to Houston a few weeks ago.
Lex P
Don't do her.
Dre Nicole
Me and my mom. So my mom, you know, she's up in age now, so she be having to go to, like, routine Dr. Be visits all the time. That's why it'd be funny when people be like, oh, people always want to doctor because they is. So she was like, oh, I want you to come to the doctor with me, please. So I was like, okay, cool. So we was getting in the car, and I can't remember what we was talking about. We were talking about something. She was like, yeah, all your friends, they always love me. They be like, your mama's so sweet, so cool. And I was like, yeah. Oh, my God. We was talking about this, about whooping your kids. And I was saying how I was not gonna whip my kids. And my mom was like, for real? And I was like, yeah. And I was like, when they Come to your house. You better not whoop them neither, because I'm not gonna whoop them. And she was like, well, I feel like you turned out all right. She was like, but it's so funny because when I meet all your friends, they be like, yo mama so sweet. And she was like. And I was like, yeah. And I be telling them, like, you really a minute.
Lex P
You do be saying that.
Dre Nicole
Because y'all don't know. Y'all don't.
Lex P
But no, I be seeing it now when we go out to eat or I be around Ms. Barbara. I be seeing that little minute. I'll be like, okay, this is what Barbara be cutting up a little bit.
Dre Nicole
This is my theory, though, with people. When people get old, they become nicer. So y'all have only known, like, you gotta think about it, friend. Like, when me and you became friends. My mom is 75. She just turned 75 in October. So when me and you met in 20, what, 15, 16. But I don't think you met my mom till like two, three years later.
Lex P
Yeah. Yeah.
Dre Nicole
It wasn't until you moved to Atlanta that you met my mom for the first time. So, like, when you met my mom, she was already in her 60s. You don't know the 40 something year old version of her. And my mom will tell you. Like, I would actually love to have her on the show one day because she would tell you, like, when she was younger, she was a fighter. She used to be fighting.
Lex P
She used to get out there.
Dre Nicole
She used to be outside. She, hey, what I told you about my granny. But, like, she used to be outside. Like, y'all be underestimating. My mama was a fool when I was younger.
Lex P
Side note, you know, the signs of.
Dre Nicole
My daddy was the cool one.
Lex P
The. You know the signs of a good grandma is when you see a grandchild and they be greasy. Greasy. You know, grandbaby, that's a love child. That's a greasy baby. Oh, my God. Every time my sister would come home from work, when me, we would both be at work, we would come home. Jackson used to be a little greasy. And my mom used to be like, he look fat. Look at him. He ain't dry. That's a good granny. If your granny grease your baby up, they good to go. What's up, y'all?
Dre Nicole
It's your girl xp and it's your girl Dre Nicole.
Lex P
And it is the holiday season, so, you know, we have to put y'all on the perfect stocking stuffer. Thanks to manscaped.com.
Dre Nicole
Yes, you have to get your man the manscaped products, you, who wants somebody with a furry face, all that stubble scratching you or scratching, you know, other.
Lex P
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Dre Nicole
Your girl Dre Nicole.
Lex P
And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping.
Dre Nicole
Yes. So we have a brand new show dropping, y'all, on Patreon. It's gonna air on September 2nd, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We're gonna be doing so much stuff on there. We're gonna be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bella, no Shade, where the hell could you go?
Lex P
If you can't go to Bella, no.
Dre Nicole
Chase, what the hell we're gonna be doing? Talk to me. Chit chat with me. It's gonna be spilling a little tea.
Lex P
Oh, my God. No, you didn't. Oh, my God.
Dre Nicole
Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon.
Lex P
Yes. Y'all ask us for so much. Well, we finna give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's gonna be a time y'all know Poor Mars has grown into its own little entity. Well, we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down.
Dre Nicole
Thanks.
Lex P
Now it's time to get into the bop. Hey. Okay. What's your Bob? What you been listening To.
Dre Nicole
Oh, well, okay. This is like a. A song that's not necessarily new, but I feel like it fits the episode. And I don't feel like we've ever had this as a Bob. Why are you making that face?
Lex P
Cuz I'm more scared. You been cutting up today. What did I. Cuz you done crack about 30 jokes. You done cried, you done cursed me out.
Dre Nicole
Who the am I?
Lex P
I know you ain't cut up today. You said you hurt my feelings.
Dre Nicole
You did.
Lex P
I'm sorry.
Dre Nicole
Because that's the thing people don't know about you. And I'mma go ahead and say I ain't trying to throw no shade, but like, Lex, be mean, y'all. Sometimes. Sometimes you do. And the funny thing is people think I'm mean. People think I'm the mean one. When really and for real. For real, real time.
Lex P
You think I'm meaner than you?
Dre Nicole
Abso lutely. Absolutely. 100%. Cuz when you in your mode, people know not to with you. People know. Just be like, look at t. You.
Lex P
Think I'm meaner than Drea? Oh, damn.
Dre Nicole
Thank you, Ty.
Lex P
I feel like. I'm not gonna lie.
Dre Nicole
What's the name? What was the name of that movie Jamie Foxx was in? Was it Redemption?
Lex P
Hmm? What happened?
Dre Nicole
Was it Jamie Foxx?
Lex P
What? What movie? What happened?
Dre Nicole
It was a movie. It was a movie called Bitch. It was a movie called Redemption. I feel like I'm having my redemption moment because everybody feel like I'm mean. I'm the mean one in real life, Lex. Meaner than me on camera. No.
Lex P
Okay, let me say this.
Dre Nicole
But in real life, let me defend myself. Not with the.
Lex P
Okay, I'm not gonna lie.
Dre Nicole
And I do.
Lex P
I did go off this morning. I went off real bad this morning. We had our makeup shout out to what's the makeup artist? What's his name? Oh, hey, Gutter did our makeup today, and he saw me go off, so he's probably. He probably thinks I'm A too. I didn't go off on him. It had nothing to do with him. But I was going off. Maybe I am a little bitch. I'm working on it. I'm working on it.
Dre Nicole
You a little more mean and, like, you'll be mean to me. Like, one thing about me that I.
Lex P
Think I'm mean to everybody. Shay thought I was mean to her one time, remember?
Dre Nicole
Oh, you do be being mean to Shay.
Lex P
I will not be being mean to Shay.
Dre Nicole
Well, oh, my God. Exactly.
Lex P
Javi, have I ever been mean to you? Okay, Have I been mean to you on Twitch? I've been meaning you before, Ty. Have I been mean to you before?
Dre Nicole
But. Oh, but let me ask. Have I ever been mean to y'all?
Lex P
Oh, my God.
Dre Nicole
Say, have I ever been mean to you? I don't think you mean either.
Lex P
It's time to work now.
Dre Nicole
And when you were. And I think that be the thing too. When you be ready to go.
Lex P
Oh, it's not about. Okay, but let me say this. It's not about being ready to go.
Dre Nicole
I be ready, but you always ready to go.
Lex P
Exactly. I'm always ready to go, but I be ready to work. Let's get this work done so motherfuckers can go home.
Dre Nicole
Nah, but the thing is, nobody be tripping on going home but you. No, you'll be the only one that be going home.
Lex P
You don't know that, though, because they. They work for us, essentially. So they can't be like, ah, I wanna go home. Let's get these people in and out. Hello. So, yes, it comes off a little mean, but let's get this show on the fucking road. Fifteen men's. Let's get back in here.
Dre Nicole
Well, going back to our relationship. Cause, bitch, I ain't. I don't work for you. But you still like it. I don't. You were spicy earlier this episode.
Lex P
And I'm like, oh, no, I wasn't spicy this episode. I was emotional because I was like, you know, let's take.
Dre Nicole
No, this is what you said. Javi might have. Well, he don't gotta delete this part. But no, you was like, well, if I could say. No, if I finish my thoughts.
Lex P
Yeah, because I was trying to. Because I know we. When we have conversations, we cut each other off. But I was trying to get my points about the documentary off. And so it was an emotional conversation, so I wanted to get out. I was just saying. Let me finish. It wasn't like. I didn't say it like that.
Dre Nicole
Well, girl, first and foremost, you ain't gotta talk me down. Cause I know you. And I'm also not really that sensitive. But I was just saying, whenever you be in your little mood, I be like, I'm not in the mood, though. No, you. Not right now. But I'm saying whenever you do be. I'll just be like, okay, bitch, bye. I'm gonna talk to you later. Because I just don't be having time for it. And I've learned how to deal with you, but your ass is way meaner than me. Because I'm one thing about me? I don't stay mad.
Lex P
You? No, I don't.
Dre Nicole
Oh, fuck.
Lex P
No, I don't stay mad is for like a day.
Dre Nicole
That's a long time.
Lex P
That's not a long time.
Dre Nicole
I don't stay mad for hours. Like, it'll be like hours later. And I be like, okay, hey, girl, you wanna go have drinks?
Lex P
No, your bad. I'll see you tomorrow.
Dre Nicole
No, you be like, bitch, I'll see you next Wednesday, possibly. You be mad.
Lex P
I don't be mad.
Dre Nicole
Not mad, but like.
Lex P
Like, get away from me. Not you. Just people in general.
Dre Nicole
No, me too.
Lex P
Just people in general.
Dre Nicole
No, not you.
Lex P
I've learned to like. I. I know you, though.
Dre Nicole
Do you think that's a fault of mine? I feel like I've talked about that before on the show. Like, I've gotten into my man about that hell of times. He be like, one thing about you, you don't take shit serious.
Lex P
Like, no, it's not that.
Dre Nicole
You just don't hear. Like, you think. Like, you think that we can have a conversation, and then because we had the conversation, tomorrow, we gonna talk. And it's like, everything's cool.
Lex P
But you know that meme.
Dre Nicole
He was like, you push stuff under the rug.
Lex P
You know that meme from. What's her name? Juicy. And she walked in the room, she was like, hey, how y'all doing? That's you. So it's not that you mean any harm. You just be like, okay, we talked about it. It's good. Hey, we outside.
Dre Nicole
I mean. And let me know if y'all wrong. I would like to say. Cause people always be like, y'all be taking surveys. But who? Let's take a survey.
Lex P
I.
Dre Nicole
Am I wrong? Like, I feel like once we have a conversation about some shit, it's over.
Lex P
No, let me process that conversation and let me sit in my feelings of how you made me feel and your reaction to it. Let me process that. That's it.
Dre Nicole
You gotta sit in it.
Lex P
Yeah, I gotta sit in my emotions. I gotta sit in my feelings. And sometimes I gotta let shit go. Because if I talk to you right now, I'm gonna go off. So let me say that shit. Ho.
Dre Nicole
Annie, we know.
Lex P
Yeah, I go off all the time. But I'm also.
Dre Nicole
We know.
Lex P
I need a moment. Give me a fucking moment.
Dre Nicole
And I don't go off at all. I just be like, you be cheesing. Hey, hey, y'all.
Lex P
I be like, get the.
Dre Nicole
But, you know, whenever people say we don't look, quote unquote, like we in our 30s, I feel like people be wanting to know my skincare regimen, not giving a.
Lex P
It's low key.
Dre Nicole
The fact that I don't give a. About.
Lex P
Okay, Dre, what is your bop of the week? How do we get on this? What is your bop?
Dre Nicole
Oh, Birds of a Feather by Billy.
Lex P
You already made that your Bob. The other. Yes, you did. Yes, yes.
Dre Nicole
Oh, well, okay. It's gonna be Sisters. I mean, not sisters. What's that song by Brandy? Whenever I'm down. Best friend. That's my song for the week. I love you.
Lex P
I love you too, sister. We done been through a lot.
Dre Nicole
Oh, you gonna make me cry again. Don't. Don't do that.
Lex P
Okay. My Bob. Bbl Fester ate down. I cannot believe people's in the comments. Like, is Lex going through something? The one week I was actually happy because they thought that you didn't dress up.
Dre Nicole
And you weird. That's all about to say, first of all, you weak ass hoes.
Lex P
But I mean.
Dre Nicole
Well, I'm not mean. I'm responding to the hate. What Joseline said. And who the haters.
Lex P
The grandma is the best.
Dre Nicole
And who you hate Us. First of all, I did dress up. I was Morticia.
Lex P
You know what? I'mma get to my bop. But I'm just over being a bad for Halloween.
Dre Nicole
I ain't never over being a baby. Can't relate.
Lex P
I know. I just feel like being a bad for Halloween. And, like, why? It's me.
Dre Nicole
It's who I am.
Lex P
Listen to this.
Dre Nicole
It's embedded in my DNA.
Lex P
You're supposed to be fucking Tommy Pickles. Why is your ass hanging out of your diaper, bitch? Why is your pussy lip out of your diaper? Why do I see your nipples through your baby shirt, bitch? First and foremost. And you're supposed to be Tommy Pickles. Like, I'm just. I just think, like, don't get it twisted. If you're in your 20s, whatever, 30s, everybody have fun with it. But when you a bad bitch every day, do something outside the bar.
Dre Nicole
Well, first and foremost, that's real rich coming from bbl. Fester.
Lex P
Bbl. But I wasn't attractive at all.
Dre Nicole
You was, though, because your ass was still ass.
Lex P
But I. Because I had to do that. But I covered it up as much as I could. But Fester was still gonna shake a tail feather.
Dre Nicole
I ain't gonna lie.
Lex P
Being attractive.
Dre Nicole
BBL Fester was a crazy name because it sounded like a disease.
Lex P
Festering.
Dre Nicole
Anything. Festering. But like I said, don't sound right.
Lex P
I make this a challenge to all the baddies of the world. Next Halloween, do something out outside the box. Be something really horrifying and scary. I ain't been a baddie for a long time in Halloween. Oh, it's been two years. Because last year, because you was at.
Dre Nicole
School, girl, and I was like, you had the ass out. We went outside. You had the whole ass.
Lex P
Lame. That was so lame.
Dre Nicole
Oh, my bestie calling me.
Lex P
Okay, my bop of the week. Y'all know I love a good tick tock bop, because let me tell you, TikTok will put you on some amazing artists. These are small artists that just post their songs. They happen to go viral. So my bop of the week is called I love you, I'm sorry by Gracie Abrams. She's like an indie artist, y'all. This song is so good because I love a good, like, heartbreak song. I love to sit in my room and listen to good lyrics and good. I love girls who play the guitar. It's something about a girl that can pick up a guitar and pluck some strings. That's why I was gonna say India already need to come back, but she be wilding sometimes.
Dre Nicole
Why does she be walling?
Lex P
She be saying some crazy.
Dre Nicole
Well, what I will say is, what was this? Sometimes I comb my hair and sometimes I don't.
Lex P
Ate that. It's something about women who play the guitar. Doesn't Summer Walker play the guitar?
Dre Nicole
Do she?
Lex P
Yes. Yes. I mean, it's something about women that play the guitar. They be wild enough.
Dre Nicole
India Arie is just immaculate.
Lex P
That's an artist.
Dre Nicole
That's when we used to make a beautiful woman inside. Beautiful, like.
Lex P
Well, you don't. You can't say inside. You don't know her. You don't know that lady well, from what I see. But she's beautiful on the outside. Beautif. I loved her. I remember growing up, I'm like, from.
Dre Nicole
What I see, I think she is beautiful on the inside.
Lex P
What I seen, she. She used to be online wild, and that's why I said what I said. But beautiful lady. I used to love her hair and how she would just, like, have it up. And the rag. The big earrings. I was like, oh, my God.
Dre Nicole
And the skin tone like that.
Lex P
That was like. When I used to look at her, I'm like, that is what. Like a beautiful woman. Like, that's a beautiful woman.
Dre Nicole
So shave your legs, though. Don't listen to that part now.
Lex P
See, Brown skin was a hit. Okay. Yeah. My bop of the week. I love you. I'm sorry, Gracie Abrams. It's like going Crazy on Tick Tock. And it's such a good song. It's like a little indie song. So I think y'all will like it. Okay, you know what? I had no. We're not doing this. Let's wrap it.
Dre Nicole
Okay. Real quick, though.
Lex P
I gotta go to Brazil.
Dre Nicole
This is my sorry for 2004. And I ain't gonna mess up no more this year.
Lex P
I'm gonna take my sometime to make it real clear. I'm sorry for me.
Dre Nicole
I'm sorry for June. I'm sorry for July.
Lex P
I'm sorry in case I don't tell you.
Dre Nicole
Well, that. That song that you had reminded me of that. Cause it was like, I love you. I'm sorry. And I was like, what about Reuben Studdard? Somebody said on Twitter the other day, and I concur. They said, ruben Stutter ain't nothing. I mean, Rod Wave ain't nothing but Ruben.
Lex P
Why was I getting my lashes done? Shout out to J. I started getting my lashes done again. And she was playing Rod Wave. I'm like, why are you so angry?
Dre Nicole
They was like, rod Wave ain't nothing but room and Stutter remastered.
Lex P
He said, I threw a party of.
Dre Nicole
The sanctuary and people came over. No one was sober.
Lex P
And it was all for you.
Dre Nicole
And the young kids be like, and it was all for you, bro. When Broadway and we be over here.
Lex P
Like, when he was sitting on the stage and he was in that house and he fell backwards, I said, move on that mattress.
Dre Nicole
You did say that.
Lex P
And See was laughing. Dre was like, oh, let me call Lex.
Dre Nicole
I was telling y'all, any. Any wrong move Lex make, I be like, hey, girl, how you doing today?
Lex P
Okay.
Dre Nicole
You okay?
Lex P
But shout out to Rod Wave, because you know what?
Dre Nicole
Rod Wave, she be like, yeah, you.
Lex P
Know what Rod Wave is?
Dre Nicole
Ruben Sutter.
Lex P
No. No, he's not. Rod Wave is just an international or global or national Zero. Zero chose to be a hus. Zero is content. He like, he makes music. And he chose to stay in Houston and to stay, you know, in the southern regions. But people love Zero all around the world. But he chose not to take that route of being a literally global superstar. Cause he wanted to do shit his way. I know Zero is a real nigga. Who's he Know that Real depression. Raw wave be a little fake with it.
Dre Nicole
Ro and Trey ass hoes by nation. No doubt. Tell me, nigga, can you stand the.
Lex P
Train when I load my ak?
Dre Nicole
You bitch n gon lay.
Lex P
He meant that shit. I hate you, bitch.
Dre Nicole
I hate you, bitch. I never thought I'd say I hate you, bitch.
Lex P
Like, that's a real depressed nigga.
Dre Nicole
Rod Wave. Take time after time. I'm on the grind for you.
Lex P
Yeah.
Dre Nicole
Cleaning something, something. That's what I'm trying to do. See, I what the other ones and my man trying to do all that I can, but you act like you ain't nothing.
Lex P
No, listen, y'all niggas don't have to fuck with me. Cause I can do bad just being one deep.
Dre Nicole
Yeah, that's assholes by nature.
Lex P
Y'all ain't got to fuck with me. That's how that was. Like, I don't fuck with y'all, and.
Dre Nicole
That'S how I be feeling about you niggas my whole life.
Lex P
That's why you was biting niggas. Tell them.
Dre Nicole
That's why I was biting you niggas. Because y'all ain't gotta fuck with me.
Lex P
So, yes, shout out to no. And this is no shade to Rod Wave. I was joking. Rod Wave is amazing. Rod Wave, he's an amazing artist. Amazing artist. But I do feel like, you know, Rod Wave is like the new age Zero. If you really listen to Zero's music, if you are impressed, if you're a young person and you love Rod Wave, go listen to Zero. I guarantee you, you'll like it.
Dre Nicole
We putting y'all, like, seriously, we're putting y'all on some new. Go listen to if you love for our wave. You gonna love zero.
Lex P
Love it.
Dre Nicole
45.
Lex P
45. That was a lot of lighters.
Dre Nicole
Well, where you got them?
Lex P
20 of them from?
Dre Nicole
25 was a light.
Lex P
But you said 45. It's something done happened in that.
Dre Nicole
Because T, first of all, she played wine.
Lex P
It's time for I get it. I know it is her fault.
Dre Nicole
Why?
Lex P
Why, Ty? Why?
Dre Nicole
Why, Ebony? Why?
Lex P
What's up, y'all?
Dre Nicole
It's your girl xp, and it's your girl Dre Nicole.
Lex P
Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week, but do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here, period.
Dre Nicole
If you have an item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if. If you would like to get your product featured for Item of the Week, all you need to do is send an email to Item of the week, PM gmail.com. that's I T E M O F T H E W E E k p m@gmail.com. send us an email and we'll work it out. We gonna figure it out. Get your product, get your business sponsored and yeah, make you some money.
Lex P
We love to support a small business.
Dre Nicole
Now in a black business at that. But I mean we don't discriminate. Ah, any business is welcome. Hey y'all, it's Dre Nicole, CEO of Muse Beauty. Are you ready to take your beauty brand to the next level? Well, I've got something special just for you. I'm introducing the keys to a success successful e commerce brand ebook. In this guide I spill all of my secrets on how I built Muse Beauty from the ground up into a global beauty brand serving thousands of customers from all over the world. From defining your brand vision to mastering marketing strategies, this book literally covers it all. Plus exclusive highlights and tips that you won't find anywhere else. But wait y'all, it's more Check out my curated vendors list featuring over 50 top supply in the beauty, fashion and packaging industries. Whether you need cosmetics, accessories, clothing or chic packaging, I've got you covered. So what are you waiting for? Go to www.museveautycollection.com and get your ebook, your vendors list or you could bundle them both together. All right, bye.
Lex P
I'll read one today so we can wrap this up. I gotta go to Brazil.
Dre Nicole
Hey Netflix.
Lex P
Hey Lex, Andrea. First of all, thank you both so much for everything you do with your show. You both truly make me feel seen, make me laug and make me feel included as a black woman. And I love y'all down. So I'm gonna try to make this short, but it's a toughie to me. Lol. So I have had a male best friend since middle school. We've been knowing each other for maybe 17 years now. Like all friendships, we've had our ups and downs and phases where we're closer at times than others. Lately we've been in a good place. But I can't help the fact that sometimes he irritates the out of me with his flamboyant and sometimes as if he doesn't make an effort to be happy or pour into me as I do him. Let me give you some examples. We live in two different states, so when we talk on the phone it's about work and our social life. And I know his manhood and confidence is low, so I always make it a point to uplift him and validate him and congratulate him on his work, accomplishments and adversities that he has. But I feel like he doesn't return the favor. Like when he was interviewing for an assistant director position. For months, I listened and validated him and even helped him interview prep. But when I tell him about my work adversities or accomplishments, he's very dry and doesn't inquire more. Then the masculinity thing is so frustrating because he says he's not gay but hasn't had sex in eight years. He has piercings all over and carries himself like a woman with his mannerisms, hand movements, and even the way he touches himself or looks in the mirror or inquires about his clothes. My question is, am I just being a bitch and not accepting him? Can you give me ways to find out how to accept him a bit more? Or should I just put boundaries in place? Hope to hear back. Love y'all so bad.
Dre Nicole
I'm not bygones. And you can go. Get the hell out of me.
Lex P
I was with you in the first half, but you was being real to me.
Dre Nicole
You and your mama.
Lex P
I was with you in the first half, but that last part rubbed me the wrong way. Cause who cares that he has feminine mannerisms, he has piercings, he hasn't had sex. Let him be comfortable. And when he's ready to talk to you about whatever it is, y'all have to learn how to be better friends.
Dre Nicole
I will say this. This. The reason that I said what I said initially is because if you don't like it, just stop being his friend.
Lex P
Simple as that.
Dre Nicole
Like, you asking us, like, how should you navigate the situation if you don't want to be friends with him? If you don't like all of these things, this laundry list of things, stop being this friend. Like, you ain't gotta be nobody forcing you. Nobody forcing you.
Lex P
One deep like zero.
Dre Nicole
Or. Or, hey, first things first. I'm king of the ghetto.
Lex P
Oh, I say Iggy, first things first. I'm a realist.
Dre Nicole
Okay.
Lex P
You know, that's a lot.
Dre Nicole
Zero said, first things first. I'm the king of the ghetto.
Lex P
First things first off. What's. How's it go? First things.
Dre Nicole
I don't know.
Lex P
That's Biggie. What's the song?
Dre Nicole
First things First. I Big fix all the honey.
Lex P
That's what it is.
Dre Nicole
Come on. Wanting money. Those are the ones I like because they don't get Nathan but penetration. Unless it smells like Sanit. Black and ugly as ever. However, I stay coochie down to the side.
Lex P
Oh, okay.
Dre Nicole
Like, no, I just feel like.
Lex P
What.
Dre Nicole
The is wrong with people? Like, y'all? I love y'all for Real shout out to Monique, girl, come on the show. I love y'all for real. But when y'all be writing us, sometimes I be like, did you read. Do you really need advice on this? Like, zoo what's best for you?
Lex P
Well, no, I think they be needing a little guidance. So I'll say this if you don't.
Dre Nicole
Like this, but if you don't like.
Lex P
This nigga, but it seems like she loves him. Cause they've been friends for so long. So let me say this, but you.
Dre Nicole
Don'T cause all that extra shit.
Lex P
But the first half, I'm not gonna lie. If I'm talking to a friend and they don't inquire what I have going on, I'm gonna say, like, honestly, I feel like I'm always pouring into you, and you don't give that back back. Tell him. Tell him how you feel. If nothing changes, set a boundary. And if nothing changes from that, cut him off. Now, I do disagree with you as far as how he dresses, piercings. Who cares if he's gay or not? That doesn't. His sexuality doesn't matter. Are you fucking him?
Dre Nicole
No.
Lex P
Who cares?
Dre Nicole
But that's the point that I was about to make. Like, I would never write an email to somebody asking for advice on my friendship and then being like, yeah, but, you know, she done mad or she done did xyz See? Why is that, like a prerequisite? Why is this.
Lex P
It's giving Kelsey.
Dre Nicole
Why did you put that in? Why did you put that in the message to begin with? Because his sexual orientation and what he like, does. It's not going to make me and Lex make a different, like, you know what I mean? It's not going to have. It's not going to make us form a different opinion about the situation. One thing I always say, right? And it's so funny because I feel like as the show has evolved, I too have evolved because we don't get these comments anymore. I used to always tell people, leave that, lead that situation. Like, that was always my advice. I feel that way still, though. I feel like now I try to give more of.
Lex P
In depth.
Dre Nicole
Yeah, more of an in depth analysis, an in depth response. But I truly feel like people's number one problem is like, y'all be acting like y'all so afraid to leave situations that don't longer serve you. If you feel all of these ways. Cuz I feel like all of that stuff that you said and sis, I with you, I. I appreciate the fact that you're a listener of the show. But sometimes I be feeling like y'all just need real advice. You said all of that, and then you brought it down to, like, his sexual orientation, his mannerism, all of these things. I kind of just feel like you don't even really want to be friends with him no more, but you feel like y'all have had a long standing relationship, so, like, let me work this out. That doesn't matter if it doesn't serve you anymore.
Lex P
You know how you know you don't like somebody no more when literally, like, they can sue and it gets on your nerves. They can say, hey, and it gets on your nerve. You don't like him no more because you're talking about his mannerisms. I can't help my mannerisms. This is who I am.
Dre Nicole
It's me.
Lex P
So just reevaluate that friendship. And I think you need to take an exit.
Dre Nicole
I think.
Lex P
All right, y'all make sure y'all go tomuse beauty collection dot com. Love Lex P. Dropping soon. Dre's YouTube dropping soon. Dre and car with follow Poor Minds. We're going on tour soon. Dates dropping soon. Go to patreon.com poor minds. New episodes drop every Monday. Early episodes drop on Wednesday. And yeah, we have a lot of good stuff cooking up for y'all. And I love y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content. Like, subscribe, follow all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P O u R under M I N D S. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page. Okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have one Instagram one. One Twitter one Tick tock. It is P o u r underscore mi nds. All right?
Dre Nicole
And we got hella fake Facebook pages.
Lex P
The Facebook pages our face.
Dre Nicole
The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers.
Lex P
So if you go on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers.
Dre Nicole
The one that's not us got like 250,000 followers. Fake.
Lex P
If you actually look at the content. Cuz the caption is like, whoever it is don't speak English because their captors.
Dre Nicole
Are like, Mama Claude.
Lex P
Should men. Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes. No check answer below.
Dre Nicole
Block, block. Like, that's literally what the captions I.
Lex P
Like what that DDG bumba claw.
Dre Nicole
Caught in a bedroom O.
Lex P
I want your ugly. I want your desire. I want your everything as long as it's free. I want your love.
Dre Nicole
Love, love, love.
Lex P
I want your love. I want your drama, the touch of your hair. I want your leather studded, kissing saying I want your love. Love, love, love. I want y'all love. Hey, you know that I want you. You know that I need you. I want it bad, your bad romance. I want your love and I want your revenge. You and me could have a bad romance. How are loving all their lovers revenge?
Dre Nicole
You and me could have a bad romance. Caught in a barrow, man.
Lex P
Caught in a barra.
Dre Nicole
Wash your barometer.
Lex P
I want your horror. I want your delight. Cause you're a criminal as long as you're mine. I want your love.
Dre Nicole
Love, love, love.
Lex P
I want your love. Yeah. I want your cycle, your vertical shock. Want you in my room, baby, you're sick. I want your love. Love, love, love.
Dre Nicole
I want your love.
Lex P
Yeah. You know that I want you. You know that I need you. I want it bad, your bad romance. Hey, De'Dre.
Dre Nicole
I want your love and I want your revenge. You and me could have a bad romance. I want your love and I want your revenge. You and me, we're right about me. It's all right.
Lex P
Oh.
Dre Nicole
Caught in a barrow, man.
Lex P
Oh, caught in a barrow, man. Watch your bar mess. Walk, fashion, baby. Work it move. That bitch is great. Walk, walk, fashion, baby. Work it move. That bitch is crazy. Walk, fashion, baby. Work it move. That is crazy. Walk, walk. Passion, baby. Work it. I'm a free baby. I want your love.
Dre Nicole
Ass.
Lex P
Want your revenge. I don't know how this part goes. I don't want to be friends.
Dre Nicole
We love you.
Lex P
Watch out for Roma. Watch out for Roma. Watch out for Roma. We love you.
Dre Nicole
You're amazing.
Lex P
Watch out for Roma.
Dre Nicole
You sign my boob, okay? Period.
Lex P
We ate that up real bad. See y'all next week. I broke my dress. I broke my draft. Watch out for. Don't know.
Pour Minds Podcast - Episode: "Get In The Booth" (Released November 22, 2024)
Hosts: Drea Nicole & Lex P
Produced by: 85 South Media
In this emotionally charged episode of the Pour Minds Podcast, hosts Drea Nicole and Lex P delve deep into personal experiences, societal issues, and the importance of community support. Skipping the usual guest appearances, the duo offers an unfiltered and candid conversation that resonates with listeners navigating similar life challenges.
Lex P kicks off the episode by sharing significant personal news:
Lex P (01:03): "I'm leaving. I'm going on vacation. I'm going to Brazil for a week. And I'm excited."
Drea Nicole supports Lex's upcoming journey and reflects on their continuous hustle:
Drea Nicole (06:05): "We might have to build a new life outside of a business."
The hosts discuss their workload, expressing surprise at recording multiple episodes in a single day, which adds to the episode's spontaneous and heartfelt nature.
A substantial portion of the episode is dedicated to Meg's documentary, where the hosts critically analyze and empathize with her experiences.
Lex P expresses profound sadness over Meg's lack of genuine friendships during her tumultuous times:
Lex P (27:43): "She didn't have any friends around her. Everybody around her were people that worked for her."
Drea Nicole underscores the importance of authentic support systems:
Drea Nicole (29:31): "Cause sometimes that's what you need."
The hosts highlight moments from the documentary where Meg, despite her public persona, lacked the personal support essential during crises.
Both Drea and Lex share their own experiences of losing parents, drawing parallels to Meg's struggles:
Drea Nicole (37:11): "I lost my dad at a young age. I was just looking for help. I was looking for friendship in the wrong places."
Lex P (47:10): "Meg lost her dad at a young age. I lost my dad at a young age. And I know when you're dealing with something, you can call people."
This segment emphasizes the enduring impact of parental loss and the necessity of having a reliable support network.
Lex P underscores the critical role of community:
Lex P (30:24): "Community. When you're going through things, you need friends, you need your sisters, you need your aunties."
Drea Nicole adds her perspective on the disparity in support received:
Drea Nicole (50:26): "People think that dads aren't in the home or they don't, so they assume they don't know how much your dad loved you and how close y'all were."
The discussion highlights societal perceptions and the varying levels of empathy extended based on gender roles and cultural expectations.
Shifting focus, the hosts engage in a candid conversation about disciplining children, debating traditional methods versus modern approaches.
Drea Nicole shares her childhood experiences with corporal punishment:
Drea Nicole (68:07): "Cause my mama put hands, feet. She put other objects, too, because she threw a boombox at me one time."
Lex P reminisces about his disciplined upbringing and its impact:
Lex P (73:07): "First things first off. What's... How's it go? First things."
The conversation explores the effectiveness and emotional repercussions of physical discipline versus alternative strategies like loss of privileges.
Both hosts advocate for compassionate and understanding methods:
Drea Nicole (75:46): "I don't want my kids to think I'm their little friend."
Lex P (85:38): "Help him feel comfortable. And when he's ready to talk to you about whatever it is, y'all have to learn how to be better friends."
The emphasis is on building respectful and supportive relationships with children, steering away from fear-based discipline.
The emotional core of the episode revolves around coping with grief and mental health challenges.
Lex P and Drea Nicole openly discuss their struggles with losing their parents, emphasizing the isolation that often accompanies such grief:
Lex P (57:13): "This woman is not even 30... I have to navigate this alone."
Drea Nicole (61:02): "I feel like people don't really see this side of me."
The hosts advocate for seeking professional help, highlighting their partnerships with mental health services:
Drea Nicole (18:23): "We are here to tell y'all about our brand new ebook and E course bundle pour into your pod."
Lex P (18:38): "Yes, they have spotted members up to $30 billion in overdraft fees."
Additionally, they promote BetterHelp as a resource for listeners seeking therapy:
Lex P (19:34): "Go to betterhelp.com poor minds today to get 10% off of your first Month."
A listener reaches out with concerns about a long-term friendship where imbalance and differences in emotional support are evident.
Listener's Question:
"Am I just being a bitch and not accepting him? Can you give me ways to find out how to accept him a bit more? Or should I just put boundaries in place?"
Drea Nicole and Lex P respond with practical advice:
Lex P (113:26): "Tell him how you feel. If nothing changes from that, cut him off."
Drea Nicole (115:38): "If you don't like it, just stop being his friend."
Their guidance emphasizes setting healthy boundaries and reassessing relationships that no longer offer mutual support.
In a lighter segment, Lex P and Drea Nicole share their current favorite tracks, offering listeners a mix of nostalgic and contemporary tunes.
This segment provides a refreshing break from intense discussions, showcasing the hosts' diverse musical tastes.
While the episode primarily focuses on deep and personal topics, Drea and Lex also make important announcements regarding their upcoming projects and caution listeners about fake social media accounts impersonating the podcast.
Lex P (117:01): "If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page."
They encourage listeners to engage with authentic content and stay connected through official channels.
These quotes encapsulate the episode's themes of support, empathy, and personal growth.
"Get In The Booth" serves as a poignant exploration of loss, friendship, and resilience. Drea Nicole and Lex P offer listeners not only their personal stories but also actionable insights on building supportive communities and navigating complex emotional landscapes. This episode stands out for its honesty and the hosts' commitment to fostering a space of understanding and growth for their audience.