Pour Minds Podcast - Episode: "Get In The Booth" (Released November 22, 2024)
Hosts: Drea Nicole & Lex P
Produced by: 85 South Media
Episode Overview
In this emotionally charged episode of the Pour Minds Podcast, hosts Drea Nicole and Lex P delve deep into personal experiences, societal issues, and the importance of community support. Skipping the usual guest appearances, the duo offers an unfiltered and candid conversation that resonates with listeners navigating similar life challenges.
Personal Updates
Lex P kicks off the episode by sharing significant personal news:
Lex P (01:03): "I'm leaving. I'm going on vacation. I'm going to Brazil for a week. And I'm excited."
Drea Nicole supports Lex's upcoming journey and reflects on their continuous hustle:
Drea Nicole (06:05): "We might have to build a new life outside of a business."
The hosts discuss their workload, expressing surprise at recording multiple episodes in a single day, which adds to the episode's spontaneous and heartfelt nature.
Deep Dive: Meg's Documentary
A substantial portion of the episode is dedicated to Meg's documentary, where the hosts critically analyze and empathize with her experiences.
Lack of Community Support
Lex P expresses profound sadness over Meg's lack of genuine friendships during her tumultuous times:
Lex P (27:43): "She didn't have any friends around her. Everybody around her were people that worked for her."
Drea Nicole underscores the importance of authentic support systems:
Drea Nicole (29:31): "Cause sometimes that's what you need."
The hosts highlight moments from the documentary where Meg, despite her public persona, lacked the personal support essential during crises.
Personal Loss and Empathy
Both Drea and Lex share their own experiences of losing parents, drawing parallels to Meg's struggles:
Drea Nicole (37:11): "I lost my dad at a young age. I was just looking for help. I was looking for friendship in the wrong places."
Lex P (47:10): "Meg lost her dad at a young age. I lost my dad at a young age. And I know when you're dealing with something, you can call people."
This segment emphasizes the enduring impact of parental loss and the necessity of having a reliable support network.
The Importance of Support Systems
Lex P underscores the critical role of community:
Lex P (30:24): "Community. When you're going through things, you need friends, you need your sisters, you need your aunties."
Drea Nicole adds her perspective on the disparity in support received:
Drea Nicole (50:26): "People think that dads aren't in the home or they don't, so they assume they don't know how much your dad loved you and how close y'all were."
The discussion highlights societal perceptions and the varying levels of empathy extended based on gender roles and cultural expectations.
Parenting Practices
Shifting focus, the hosts engage in a candid conversation about disciplining children, debating traditional methods versus modern approaches.
Discipline Methods
Drea Nicole shares her childhood experiences with corporal punishment:
Drea Nicole (68:07): "Cause my mama put hands, feet. She put other objects, too, because she threw a boombox at me one time."
Lex P reminisces about his disciplined upbringing and its impact:
Lex P (73:07): "First things first off. What's... How's it go? First things."
The conversation explores the effectiveness and emotional repercussions of physical discipline versus alternative strategies like loss of privileges.
Modern Approaches to Parenting
Both hosts advocate for compassionate and understanding methods:
Drea Nicole (75:46): "I don't want my kids to think I'm their little friend."
Lex P (85:38): "Help him feel comfortable. And when he's ready to talk to you about whatever it is, y'all have to learn how to be better friends."
The emphasis is on building respectful and supportive relationships with children, steering away from fear-based discipline.
Mental Health and Grief
The emotional core of the episode revolves around coping with grief and mental health challenges.
Coping with Loss
Lex P and Drea Nicole openly discuss their struggles with losing their parents, emphasizing the isolation that often accompanies such grief:
Lex P (57:13): "This woman is not even 30... I have to navigate this alone."
Drea Nicole (61:02): "I feel like people don't really see this side of me."
Therapy and Support
The hosts advocate for seeking professional help, highlighting their partnerships with mental health services:
Drea Nicole (18:23): "We are here to tell y'all about our brand new ebook and E course bundle pour into your pod."
Lex P (18:38): "Yes, they have spotted members up to $30 billion in overdraft fees."
Additionally, they promote BetterHelp as a resource for listeners seeking therapy:
Lex P (19:34): "Go to betterhelp.com poor minds today to get 10% off of your first Month."
Listener Q&A: Navigating Friendship Challenges
A listener reaches out with concerns about a long-term friendship where imbalance and differences in emotional support are evident.
Listener's Question:
"Am I just being a bitch and not accepting him? Can you give me ways to find out how to accept him a bit more? Or should I just put boundaries in place?"
Drea Nicole and Lex P respond with practical advice:
Lex P (113:26): "Tell him how you feel. If nothing changes from that, cut him off."
Drea Nicole (115:38): "If you don't like it, just stop being his friend."
Their guidance emphasizes setting healthy boundaries and reassessing relationships that no longer offer mutual support.
Music Segment: Bop of the Week
In a lighter segment, Lex P and Drea Nicole share their current favorite tracks, offering listeners a mix of nostalgic and contemporary tunes.
- Drea’s Bop: "Sisters" by Brandy
- Lex’s Bop: "I Love You, I’m Sorry" by Gracie Abrams
This segment provides a refreshing break from intense discussions, showcasing the hosts' diverse musical tastes.
Closing Remarks and Announcements
While the episode primarily focuses on deep and personal topics, Drea and Lex also make important announcements regarding their upcoming projects and caution listeners about fake social media accounts impersonating the podcast.
Lex P (117:01): "If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page."
They encourage listeners to engage with authentic content and stay connected through official channels.
Notable Quotes
- Lex P (27:43): "She didn't have any friends around her. Everybody around her were people that worked for her."
- Drea Nicole (37:11): "I lost my dad at a young age. I was just looking for help."
- Lex P (58:48): "I had somebody knocking on my door, like, what you need? Yeah, I'm here."
- Drea Nicole (75:46): "I don't want my kids to think I'm their little friend."
- Lex P (85:38): "His sexuality doesn't matter. Are you fucking him?"
These quotes encapsulate the episode's themes of support, empathy, and personal growth.
Conclusion
"Get In The Booth" serves as a poignant exploration of loss, friendship, and resilience. Drea Nicole and Lex P offer listeners not only their personal stories but also actionable insights on building supportive communities and navigating complex emotional landscapes. This episode stands out for its honesty and the hosts' commitment to fostering a space of understanding and growth for their audience.