Hang It Up

Summary

Pour Minds Podcast: "Hang It Up" (Feb 20, 2026)

Hosts: Drea & Lex
Network: The Black Effect Podcast Network and iHeartPodcasts

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Overview

This episode is a classic “just Lex and Drea” session with no guest, focusing on their signature blend of real talk, humor, and unfiltered takes. The central theme weaves through Black History Month appreciation, setting boundaries (especially in relationships and family), and revisiting key personal and cultural topics—with a healthy sprinkle of “drunk therapy” vibes and side commentaries as only Pour Minds can deliver.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Back to Basics—No Guests, More Realness

Timestamps: 04:00–05:30

• Drea and Lex acknowledge attempts to schedule guests have fallen through lately. Instead, they're enjoying solo episodes, which feel nostalgic and allow them to connect more directly with listeners.
  • Lex: “I feel like we’re getting back to the basics… so, I like it. Yeah.” [04:32]
  • Drea: “It was one point in time where we didn’t even used to have guests… they really have been enjoying the guest episodes. But because we have been having so many guests, I like when we get to do solo.” [05:13]

2. Navigating Adulting & "Young Ho" Behavior

Timestamps: 05:31–10:01

• The hosts joke about aging and what “young ho” behavior is.
  • Warming up your car in winter: Drea admits she never does it, even when her dad used to warn her; Lex shares a hilarious moment when her car made a weird noise due to not warming it up.
    • Lex: “My car started whistling. I thought somebody was cat calling me.” [06:50]
• Transition to gym progress and body fat percentage tracking; Drea prefers measurable goals over just watching the scale.
  • Drea: “If you’re trying to gain muscle and you’re eating right, the scale might not be moving… your body is probably still changing.” [10:45]

3. The Texas/Atlanta Ice Storm: Overhyped or Real Talk?

Timestamps: 12:20–16:14

• Lex and Drea touch on the recent southern ice storm—reflecting on grocery hoarding, local responses, and working out through bad weather.
  • Lex: “Grocery shopping and having extra food in your home is not like the gotcha y’all think it is.” [13:41]
• Drea’s brain fog kicks in when she forgets why she drove 30 minutes across town (for hair braiding), leading to a tangent about memory lapses.

4. Black Inventions and White-Only Towns

Timestamps: 30:39–39:23

• For Black History Month, the duo satirically discuss a current "whites-only" town in Arkansas:
  • Should such towns forfeit Black inventions? Both hosts list crucial innovations—from blood banks and clothes dryers to microphones and home security systems—that this town should “hang up” if they won’t welcome Black people.
    • Lex: “Y’all can’t dry y’all clothes. The clothes dryer was invented by George T. Sampson. Hang that shit up on the clothesline, bitch.” [02:40 & 34:25]
    • Drea: “If we ain’t welcomed in your town, bitch, you don’t need our blood. Die…” [03:00 & 34:45]
• They highlight and riff on the deep-rooted racism, mixing humor with pointed criticism.
  • Lex: “Ain’t a bad bitch in sight... Just a bunch of dumbasses in one town and can’t count one plus one…” [32:17]

5. Pour Decisions: Setting Boundaries, Home Renovations, and THC Munchies

Timestamps: 19:21–30:37

• Lex opens up about setting boundaries after being asked for money.
  • Lex: “I'm an empath... I didn't want people to think I was being rude or nasty, but I'm glad I told my truth.” [20:11]
• Drea’s “poor decision” involves getting the munchies after THC drinks and eating way too many snacks during the ice storm.
  • Drea: “It was like 10 servings in the bag. But we was busting them snacks down.” [27:16]
• Lex’s ongoing struggle with home renovations: waiting too long to get her closet done led to chaos—her advice for homeowners:
  • Lex: “Anybody who is in the housing market or you're buying a fixer upper, do your closet first.” [22:10]

6. Revisiting Old Topics: How Do You Argue? Growth in Conflict

Timestamps: 40:50–61:50

• Inspired by a listener request, Lex and Drea reflect on their past and present arguing styles.
  • Lex used to be the type to cut deep in arguments but is now trying to be more logical and less reactive.
    • Lex: “Sometimes you say things you can't take back. I've learned that... Now I definitely argue [more] logically.” [44:12]
  • Drea doesn't consider herself argumentative, more confrontational: she’ll say her piece and not go back and forth.
    • Drea: “I'm a confronter, but I'm not an argumentative person. Because I will confront you if you have me messed up, but I ain't trying to argue with you.” [42:26]
• Both agree: if someone brings out an unrecognizable side in you, they don’t need to be in your life.
  • Lex: “If you bring out a side of me that is not normal... get rid of them immediately.” [59:07]

7. Crying in Arguments: Power Move or Manipulation?

Timestamps: 52:31–61:50

• Lex admits she cries for any emotion, but tries to suppress it in arguments so as not to seem manipulative.
  • Lex: “Everything makes me cry. I cry when I'm happy, I cry when I'm sad, I cry when I'm mad...” [52:31]
  • Drea: “Get 'em a tissue and finish what you saying.” (her mama’s advice) [55:17]
• Distinction is made between genuine emotion and manipulative crying during confrontation, especially with partners.
  • Drea: “With my man, it’s more manipulation. Yeah.” [60:13]
  • Lex: “With my man, I feel like I be having to hold my ground... Let you know, ain’t shit sweet over there.” [61:06]

8. “Sex in the Dark” Debate

Timestamps: 66:29–79:27

• Both hosts prefer not to have sex in pitch-black darkness; favor moody, warm lighting—unless someone’s hiding something, darkness is unnecessary.
  • Lex: “I like a, a sexier lighting... warm moody lighting.” [68:01]
  • Drea (on turning on lights): “I need to see what's going on because we just met each other.” [72:20]
• Funny/ridiculous tangent on cockeyed lovers and cross-eyed moments; Lex admits sometimes her eye gets “a little crossed” when drunk.

9. Weekly Bops: Music Recommendations

Timestamps: 80:00–84:44

• Lex’s pick: "Worldwide" by Eric Bellinger and Will Gittins—a summer vacation vibe.
• Drea’s throwback: “Lay Up” by Future—workout motivation and classic Atlanta sound.

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Memorable Quotes & Standout Moments

• Lex (on boundaries):
  “You could be nice and still set firm boundaries.” [20:35]
• Drea (on gym progress):
  “The scale might not be moving… but your body is probably still changing.” [10:45]
• Lex (about racism):
  “How ignorant can you be? It's just a bunch of dumbasses in one town… Ain't a bad bitch in sight.” [32:17]
• Drea (on arguing):
  “If I have to argue with you, I’m going to hurt your feelings. So I just don't even like…” [45:30]
• Lex (on crying in arguments):
  “I cry for every emotion.” [52:31]

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Advice Segment Highlights

Letter:

• Cherry, 23, asks for advice about maintaining a relationship with her abusive, manipulative mother (who physically fought and sued her).
  • Lex: Cautions about keeping strong boundaries; suggests the potential for regret if the relationship is cut off—listen to your own emotions.
  • Drea: More resolute—if it’s toxic, cut her off, even if that means keeping her from your child. Advocates for family counseling as a potential safe space.
    • “It don't matter who it is, if somebody is toxic, you need to cut them off, mother or not.” [88:04]
  • Lex: “Pay attention to how you feel when you’re around her... if it’s not feeling good, you know you can cut her off.” [88:38]
  • Drea: Recommends counseling as a safe intermediary step. [89:27]

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Pour Your Heart Out & Bottled Up

Timestamps: 85:06–92:37

• Lex and Drea respond to listener voice notes about relationships, cutting people off, and not "warning" someone you're about to walk away.
  • Lex: “You are never gonna be like… did we? No, we be fucking down to the ground!” [75:52]
  • Drea: “Don’t warn. Just walk away. Block their ass. Change your number.” [92:05]

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The Hosts’ Chemistry & Tone

Lex and Drea slip seamlessly from hilarious riffing (often R-rated), to grounding Black cultural commentary, to surprisingly deep advice and vulnerable revelations. The language is raw and distinctly Southern-Black-woman, saturated with insider slang and camaraderie. Their signature is balancing jokes with nuggets of wisdom and empathy.

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Notable Segments & Timestamps

| Segment | Time Range | |----------------------------------------|--------------| | Back-to-Basics (No Guests, Updates) | 04:00–05:30 | | “Young Ho” vs. “Old Ho” Wisdom | 05:31–10:01 | | Ice Storm & Adulting | 12:20–16:14 | | Black Inventions/White-Only Towns | 30:39–39:23 | | Pour Decisions & Boundaries | 19:21–30:37 | | How Do You Argue? | 40:50–61:50 | | Emotional vs. Logical Arguing | 52:31–61:50 | | Sex in the Dark Debate | 66:29–79:27 | | Music—Bop(s) of the Week | 80:00–84:44 | | Listener Advice: Toxic Family | 85:06–90:00 | | Outro & Uplifting Closer | 97:01–end |

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Final Feel-Good:

Show ends with a rousing, half-goofy, half-serious a cappella of Michael Jackson’s “They Don’t Care About Us” [97:18+], perfectly capping the episode’s mix of laughter, Black pride, friendship, and survival.

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Summary Takeaway

This "Hang It Up" episode is classic Pour Minds—raucous, irreverent, deeply rooted in Black womanhood, and always earnest about setting boundaries and celebrating growth. The hosts turn life’s drama (personal, historical, or viral) into shared laughter and collective wisdom—perfect for fans old and new who want to feel like they’re “wining down” with their girls.

Transcript

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[Drea]

So it is this all white town in Arkansas, and basically, like, no black people live there. So do you feel like because it's all all white town and none of us are welcome there, that they should get rid of all of our inventions?

[Lex]

Absolutely.

[Drea]

I think so, too.

[Lex]

Y' all can't dry y' all clothes. The clothes dryer was invented by George T. Sampson. Your clothes finna be meal, Dewey. Stay out there in them damp ass clothes, bitch. Hang it up on the clothesline. I better see clothespins. Nothing but your clothes hanging up. Y' all don't be putting that shit on anyway. Country motherfuckers. Hang that shit up on the clothesline, bitch.

[Drea]

I got one. The blood bank that was created by Dr. Charles Drew. If we ain't welcomed in your town, bitch, you don't need our blood dye. Yeah, low iron ass hoes just shivering die.

[Lex]

Nope, nope. They don't get no transfusion. I don't wanna hear it. I don't understand. I don't wanna hear nothing. No. Oh, my blood.

[Elf Cosmetics Announcer]

L.

[Drea]

That ain't got to do with.

[Lex]

It ain't got to do with us. What's up, y'? All? It's your girl Lex, and it's your girl Dre and Nicole, and you are tuned in to another episode of Poor

[Drea]

Minds, where a drunk mind seeks sober thought.

[Lex]

We ain't got no guests today.

[Drea]

We ain't got no guests today.

[Lex]

So you know what? We was. We had a meeting yesterday. You know we always have our Tuesday meetings, right?

[Drea]

We do.

[Lex]

And honestly, it's been crazy because, you know, we've been trying to get some guests lined up and things like that. And if I'm honest, we've had, like, a lot of cancellations, scheduling misalignments, and things like that. But you know what? Like I said in the meeting yesterday, I'm actually not mad at it. I feel like we've had an influx of listeners. So welcome if you're new here.

[Drea]

Hello.

[Lex]

But also, I just feel like we're getting back to the basics, you know, we're going back to the solo episodes, getting the people flamiliar, familiar with the worlds. So. I like it. Yeah.

[Drea]

I mean, I always like doing solo episodes. It's fun.

[Lex]

They're easier.

[Drea]

It's a good time. Yes, it's a good time. And I don't know, I feel like it was one point in time where we didn't even used to have gifts. Like, for years. Yes, we didn't really have guests. And then when we did start getting them, like, people didn't want to see us have guests. And now I feel like they be liking the guests they do. Like I don't really be seeing as many complaints as I used to.

[Lex]

Not many complaints in all my cuz

[Drea]

they was complaining at one point. But I don't really see the complaints. Like I feel like they really have been enjoying the guest episodes. But because we have been having so many guests, I like when we get to do solo.

[Lex]

It's fun, it's a little more relaxing. You know, I.

[Drea]

We get to get off topic. I mean we going to do that anyways even when we have guests.

[Lex]

But you know, real quick cuz you know, on Patreon we had a discussion about like young hoes and things like that and what young hoes do and what we don't do. I said we. I mean like what we don't do as older women, we aren't. Or older hoes, if you will. I got in my car the other day and I got in my car and I took off. You know, it's cold outside. Yeah. And then like I was on the phone, my friend, she was like, bitch, that's some young ho shit. Like, why did you not warm up your car? Do you warm up your car?

[Drea]

No, I be screwed as soon as I get in that beach.

[Lex]

Warm it up.

[Drea]

Yeah, especially in this cold.

[Lex]

Like you got to get the going. I've always.

[Drea]

But I guess, I guess I've always thought like warming your car up is something that you do with like a older car.

[Lex]

Oh, I need to warm that.

[Drea]

Well, no, but I'm just. Well, not you. But I'm saying because like growing up when my dad used to always say that he had like a older car when he used to be like, oh, I need to go outside and warm my car up. I don't see the point to do that if your car is newer though.

[Lex]

Well, let me the reason I asked this because in the moment I was thinking about like maybe I should have warmed my car. But I was like, what do I need to warm it up for?

[Drea]

What difference do it make? Like if you don't warm it up, is it gonna shut off?

[Lex]

I pressed the gas and it was. It started whistling. It made a noise I ain't never heard before. Bitch. That hoe started whistling. I thought somebody was cat calling me. I have never heard my car make that noise before. I swear to God.

[Drea]

You probably just need to put a little earl on.

[Lex]

I don't know what it. But I was like, that's what I get. Cause I'm like, like it's fine, girl. You know me and Rinky didn't going to ride it. Yeah. But when I tell you I have never heard my car make this noise. It was like I never.

[Drea]

Yeah, that's some young house that I have forever did and I'm going to continue to do. I've never been a person to warm my car up. Now I will say though, my dad used to warm my car up for me when I was in like high school and stuff.

[Lex]

Lucky.

[Drea]

Yeah. I was.

[Lex]

I didn't have no daddy around when I was growing up.

[Drea]

I know. I'm sorry.

[Lex]

That's all right. Right.

[Drea]

But my daddy did used to pull my car up for me. But once I moved out on my own, that was not going on no more.

[Lex]

Well, your seats are heated now.

[Drea]

They are.

[Lex]

I know, that's right, they are.

[Drea]

But that's what I was saying. It's cold when like. And you know, I be leaving my house early in the morning. It be cold as I'm not about to just be dry ass sitting in my car while it gets hot. Because it take a while for your car to warm up, for your heat to like penetrate the whole car.

[Lex]

How long does it take your. I'm not being funny. How long does it take your seats to warm up?

[Drea]

Immediately.

[Lex]

I love that, Rich. Immediately. Immediately.

[Drea]

But it does take. But it take a while for my whole car to get warm.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Drea]

With the heat. Yeah, but the seats, they heat up immediately.

[Lex]

Them seats get hot too. I remember in your other car in my Range Rover, I had some toasty buns.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

My mom, you know, she had came out here earlier this year. I called myself. Well, last year, my bad. Because it's a new year. But when she had came out here last year and she was in the car, I called myself trying to be courteous and I turned the heat warmers on and she was like, can you turn it off? It's burning my back because it gets hot.

[Lex]

It gets very toasty. It feels like a fucking air fryer.

[Drea]

But I like it.

[Lex]

It feel good. You'll be having that shit on, Burl.

[Drea]

Well, I be having it on the highest setting because that's how I like it.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

But then my car have cooling seats. Like it get cold in the my shit.

[Lex]

You gotta go like this before you sit down. That's how I warm my seats.

[Drea]

And it's like it has air conditioned vents in the seat.

[Lex]

Ooh, girl.

[Drea]

Goodbye.

[Lex]

I don't got none of that luxury. I know y' all get off my Nerve, baby. When y' all ride a rinky dink, you just gotta make do.

[Drea]

But the good thing about your car, though.

[Lex]

Please name one good thing. I'm about to.

[Drea]

I'm about to. The good thing about your car is that you have clock seats, so you don't have to worry about it being too hot or too cold when you sit your ass down.

[Lex]

I wish you were you, right? Yeah. And don't your steering wheel warm up, too?

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Wow. Now that's the shit that be fucking me up. I be rubbing your bicycles be wrapped around it.

[Drea]

Your hands be cold.

[Lex]

Sometimes I just let that bitch go and pray. Hey. Goddammit. This weather has been really cold.

[Drea]

It's been crazy cold. But luckily, I haven't really been having to go nowhere but, like, the gym. And when I finish, I go straight to life. I straight home. Jim is like, I know you're new.

[Lex]

I told y'. All. Dre's new nickname when y' all see her is Abby.

[Drea]

Let him know.

[Lex]

Abed up. Abed up.

[Drea]

I can't wait till. Till I lose some more body fat. I be getting on that little machine every week.

[Lex]

What machine?

[Drea]

At Lifetime, we have this machine where you stand on it and it shows you your body fat.

[Lex]

Oh, okay. I need to get on. I know we have something like that in the. I'm pretty sure.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

So I need to see what my body fat percentage is, and it measures your metabol. What is it?

[Drea]

Metabolic rate.

[Lex]

Metabolic Age or something?

[Drea]

Oh, age, yeah.

[Lex]

Like, oh, if you're, like, you know, I'm 36, so it'll say mom, probably 48.

[Drea]

But the age of what?

[Lex]

Like your metabolism. Metabolism, yes. It lets you know, like, how old it is. I need to do that in my gym and see you should.

[Drea]

I like it because, I mean, it keeps you on track, and that's how you know if you're making progress. Because I think typically a lot of people track their progress by getting on the scale, but that's a horrible way to track your progress, especially if you're somebody who you're trying to gain muscle and you're eating right. The scale might not be moving as quickly as you would like, but your body is probably still changing. Like, it's probably still getting tighter, you losing body fat, gaining more muscle. But you can't really tell that if you only measuring it by the scale.

[Lex]

So how often do you check it?

[Drea]

Like, every week.

[Lex]

Every week. So, like, how much do you say is, like, a successful week? Like, how much does your body fat go down? You're like, this is a good week.

[Drea]

So I want to say for women, and don't quote me, but it's like, women, we have. We naturally have more body fat than men. So for a woman, I think a good rate is like 20.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Drea]

Or like 30 or something like that. Mine when I first started was like, 38.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Drea]

Or something like that. So, like, I want to get it down to like, 20.

[Lex]

Okay. But, like, in a week, if you go down, is it like half?

[Drea]

But it don't go down every week. You don't go down every week. I just be wanting to make sure it's going up.

[Lex]

Okay. I see what you're saying. Yeah.

[Drea]

But it's not gonna move every single week. But I just like to check it because I'm a little extra.

[Lex]

Yeah, I know that's right. I like that.

[Drea]

But yeah, I'mma look it up, though, so I could give y' all the accurate percentage.

[Lex]

But yeah, you know, I want to talk about this, too, before we get in the first topic. Well, honestly, first, this episode is brought to you by Taylor Port. Taylor Port Family, y' all know we keeps that poured up all day, every day.

[Drea]

Y' all know we love us some Taylor Port.

[Lex]

The Taylor Port.

[Drea]

Taylor Port make you teleport.

[Lex]

But I want to say this, too, because, you know, the ice storm and all that stuff that was going on. Well, listen, listen, because everybody was online talking about devastating.

[Drea]

That's what they were saying on the news.

[Lex]

They said people were. Lives will be lost. That's what they said.

[Drea]

But knock on wood, because what if somebody did?

[Lex]

Exactly. Okay, so this is what I have to say, because everybody was online. They were like, y' all so stupid. Y' all done stocked up on these groceries and went and did that. And they were just trying to stimulate the economy. This is what I have to say about that. I grocery shop, like, pretty much every week because I get a lot of produce, and I like to buy fresh food. That's just me personally. So when I went to grocery shop this time, I got the same things I normally do. I just prepared for a week. If I stay in the house, who cares? I'm not here anyway. But I think a lot of people didn't take into account this one. People were probably getting extra things because people have families. If you have two, three, four children and they're not gonna be at school, that means you have to feed them breakfast and lunch. Cause sometimes people. Kids eat breakfast at school. So you got two extra meals that you have to provide for. Some people who usually Go to work, they're working from home, they're eating at home. So I think that it can be like, maybe they did do that to stimulate the economy maybe a little bit. I don't know. But grocery shopping and having extra food in your home is not like the gotcha y' all think it is. And honestly, just because your area didn't get snowed in, a lot of people have been stuck in the house. And it's been really bad in some areas.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

And I don't think it was as bad in Atlanta, Georgia area as we thought it would be. But a lot of people have been snowed in, like, literally stuck in their homes. It was snowing so bad in Dallas.

[Drea]

Yeah, I saw that covered. I did.

[Lex]

I saw that, you know.

[Drea]

Yeah. And then the other day, I'm trying to remember where I went. I went somewhere and I can't. Like, that's crazy, cuz it was literally like two days ago. And I can't remember why I drove 30 minutes away, nor can I remember the area that I drove to.

[Lex]

You drove 30 minutes? You don't know why you did?

[Drea]

I don't remember why I was going some.

[Lex]

Did you steal my perks?

[Bowen Yang]

No.

[Drea]

I was going somewhere, but I can't remember where I was going. But long story short, when I was out there, I seen so much ice on people cars.

[Lex]

When you was out where?

[Drea]

What the

[Lex]

what?

[Drea]

And it's so like, I promise y', all, my brain is just drawing a blank.

[Lex]

I don't know where the hell I

[Drea]

was at, why did I go there, what? But it was a whole bunch of ice on people's cars. I was like, God damn.

[Lex]

Yeah. Now I'm not gonna lie. It was icy in my home. It was very icy in your home. Not in the house. No. Like on my balcony.

[Drea]

Oh, okay.

[Lex]

Me too. It was very icy. I could see like behind me. It was like ice on the trail and ice on. Like, I could tell my car was icy. Yeah. I didn't drive. Cause I just wasn't taking that risk. But it was definitely icy where I was. But I enjoyed it. I always love an excuse to stay in the sanctuary.

[Drea]

Yeah, me too. I enjoyed it too. But yeah, it was a lot of ice on my balcony. It was like icicles.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

I seen liquor and then the trees were frozen.

[Lex]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Drea]

It was a lot going on. And N was still outside running. I said they were not me, though

[Lex]

now I will say that's one thing that the whites ran.

[Drea]

I've seen a few. I seen a few blacks you did? I did. They was outside running.

[Lex]

That is dedication.

[Drea]

That is.

[Lex]

I'm not.

[Drea]

I'll say this. I still worked out, but I went to the gym in my building. I'm not going outside.

[Lex]

Yeah, Like, I. You know, I have dumbbells in my house now.

[Drea]

I know this work.

[Lex]

So I do at home workouts. Like, if it's like, I can't make it to the gym, luckily the gym is, like, right up the street from my house, so obviously I stay in. So I just did my dumbbells at home, got on my little walking pad. Yeah. But I'm sorry. If you are the type of person that runs in the rain, that runs in the freezing cold, you are a different type of beast. I'm just not there yet.

[Drea]

I can't do it. I can't do it either. I can't do it either. It did just come back to me, what I went to do, though.

[Lex]

What?

[Drea]

To get my hair braided.

[Lex]

Oh, okay. That was like.

[Drea]

I had went to get my hair. I had went to get the top of my hair redone, but it was like, 30.

[Lex]

Why did you not remember that?

[Drea]

I don't know, but it was like, 30 minutes away, and I was like, why was I way out there?

[Lex]

I couldn't remember why. I'm weak.

[Drea]

That's why.

[Lex]

And speaking of real quick, and then we going to move on. Did you know that I saw this on. Y' all know I'm a Tik Tok Scroller, that when people are shoveling snow outside or ice and it's really cold, they say if, like, you hold the shovel above your heart, you could die. Mm, I never knew that.

[Drea]

No. What's the science behind it?

[Lex]

It's something that has to do with, like, the blood flow with the arteries, but it can literally give you a stroke and you'll, like, die.

[Drea]

Oh, it's crazy.

[Lex]

And then what was so crazy is I'm watching the video of the lady explaining it. She's watching her neighbor shovel, and she was like, lower the shovel. But mind you, he can't hear her. I'm like, if that's really true, why don't you go and tell him? Cause they say it usually happens in, like, older men, and it was like, an older guy, and I'm like, you need to go save his life.

[Drea]

But how common is that, though?

[Lex]

It was a lot. I'm not gonna lie, though. It was people in the comments like, yeah, my dad died like that. My grandfather. I said, God damn.

[Drea]

Especially if they're not moving a lot. Normally or if they don't have, like, a workout routine, then, yeah, it could definitely can be catastrophic.

[Lex]

Oh, yeah, that happens. That be in Chicago. People be dying left and right. No.

[Drea]

Cause we used to it. Now they be tipping over. I had to shovel my car out

[Lex]

one time when I came to college.

[Drea]

I said, you'll never see the likes of me again in the winter.

[Lex]

I didn't know that. Like, what do they call it in Chicago when y', all, like, dig out your parking spot and like that?

[Drea]

Leave a chair?

[Lex]

Yes.

[Drea]

The what? You leave, like a chair or like a cone. And nobody better come in your spot either. Cause if I shovel this whole spot, this is mine. Okay.

[Lex]

So it's, like, rude. Like, they be fighting.

[Drea]

I would want to fight, too. If I did all that goddamn work and you came and stole my. I'd be ready to fight in Atlanta when somebody still. Have you ever had somebody steal your parking spot? Like you was waiting to turn in and you had your blinker on and then somebody just squirt and get in front.

[Lex]

I ain't never had that happen.

[Drea]

That happened to me before.

[Lex]

Well, that's because I be parking far. I don't want nobody to see my. I'll be trying to sneak out my car. Can nobody see me?

[Drea]

No. I be trying to park close. As close as I can.

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[Lex]

I've never been in that situation.

[Drea]

For real. Nobody never stole your parking spot?

[Lex]

Never. But I also will say I've always been the type of girl. It's just something that my mom told me growing up. And it's just so silly. But, like, parking spots, like, if you have to park far, it's okay. Cause she's like, just get your steps in, girl. Just walk. So I've never been that person. I was like, oh, my gosh. I have to park at the front. I've never really cared. Cause I'm like, okay, I'll get some extra steps in. So I still kind of have that mentality about it.

[Drea]

You are like that. I'm always trying to park close to the floor. Cause I don't like walking far. Especially if I already done hit my 10k steps for the day.

[Lex]

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't mind. I'm a walker. Yeah, yeah. That's funny. All right. And y' all know every week we have to do a poor decision.

[Drea]

You know what I'm saying?

[Lex]

I know y' all be mad. Cause we don't be giving y' all the tea, but I'mma give y' all what I got this week. Cause you know what? I'm glad I did my poor decision that I did the other day. And I was like, y' all need to stop asking me for money. At first, I felt bad about talking about it. I really did. But honestly, I got a lot of love in my messages, like, lex, we understand, girl. And a lot of times that stuff be fake. And so you did the right thing. Cause I was actually kind of like. I didn't want people to get, like, you know, I'm real sensitive, and I'm an empath. So I didn't want people to think I was being rude or nasty, but I'm so. I didn't want people to think I was being rude or nasty, but I'm. What is it?

[Drea]

Empath.

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[Drea]

Then I see y' all wrong. Cause I was gonna let it slide.

[Lex]

I said, what?

[Drea]

Yeah, I was gonna let it slide,

[Lex]

but I was like, you know, I didn't want people to think I was being nasty and rude because I tried to be, you know, a nice person for the most part and be understanding, because I've been there. But I was glad I told my truth. And I got a lot of messages of people just showing their support, you know? So I was. I was glad I kind of told my truth and how I felt. I feel like.

[Drea]

Oh, sorry.

[Lex]

No, no, go ahead.

[Drea]

I was just gonna say that's good. I do think that it's good that you nice, but you could be nice and still set firm boundaries.

[Lex]

And that's why I said, I'm working on it.

[Drea]

Yeah, yeah. Set them boundaries.

[Lex]

Set them back. Oh, set them boundary. But my poor decision this. This week. What is my poor decision this week? You know what? I'm not gonna lie. So this has something to do with my house. Again, I made a very, very poor decision, and I decided to, like, wait to get my closet done. And honestly, like I said, I haven't been living in my main bedroom yet. I haven't decorated it yet. And you've seen my main bedroom. It's closed everywhere.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Because my main bedroom is like my closet right now. Honestly, that was the worst decision I've ever made in my life. I'm miserable. It's been very tough for me. I should have did my closet the first thing I did when I moved in. Because, like, finding stuff to wear.

[Drea]

It's hard.

[Lex]

Is, like, overwhelming to the point to where, like, I break down I. The tough first world problems.

[Drea]

I know, but why you didn't just hang. Why you didn't just hang your stuff up in your other closet until you got your master closet.

[Lex]

It's not enough room. I don't have enough room. And honestly, I thought it was gonna be easy and I was like, oh, I'll have to. It's awful. It's horrible. But I'm getting my closet done this week and I'm just so excited because it has been months and months of just struggling like stuff everywhere. I get overwhelmed. So honestly, anybody who is in the housing market or you're buying a fixer upper, do your closet. Do your closet first. Do your closet first. Please, please, please, please. Because I have been in hell yeah over there. So I'm so happy the time has finally come. But like I said, this is a learning process for me and I've really been enjoying the. I'm glad I bought a fixer upper because it's like really custom to what I want and what I like. But I'm learning, so if I do, I'm never going to get a fixer upper again for myself personally.

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[Lex]

as I build. It's gonna take a while. I'm probably gonna. When I start building my house, I'm. I imagine it's probably gonna take me about two or three years to build it.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

For real. For real. Like, once I. If I really get in there and get the details done, I'm not gonna be in that house for like two or three years. So. But I know what to do. You know what I'm saying? I know what to do because it's been a Lot of poor decisions I have made with this home. Yeah. But I'm learning, you know, you live and you learn how I feel like

[Drea]

it is with your first anything. Like, you know, it's just trial and error.

[Lex]

It's trial and error, but nevertheless. Nevertheless. I'm an empath.

[Drea]

Nevertheless. Empathy. What's in your cup? That ain't no water.

[Lex]

I got this drinking my good shout out to Kirk.

[Drea]

Actually, it's not water because it's tailored.

[Lex]

I know. So what's your poor decision, child?

[Drea]

So my poor decision was, man, okay. My best friend Lynn, she had came and spent the night over my house during, like, the ice storm or whatever. And we had these THC drinks that we were drinking. And y', all, when I say we had the munchies, oh, my God. We just kept getting up and going to the kitchen and was like, oh, I'm just gonna get one little snack. One more little snack. And we was eating so much stuff. Like, we bust down a bag of popcorn, a whole bag of trail mix. I mean, it was somewhat healthy snacks. But then, you know, anything isn't really that healthy if you eating the whole

[Lex]

bag, you eating the whole bag.

[Drea]

It's like 10 servings in the bag. But we was busting them snacks down.

[Lex]

I so weak.

[Drea]

And we was high as off of the drink.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Drea]

That's crazy, because we had drunk, like, two of them. No, one a piece.

[Lex]

Oh, okay, okay, okay.

[Drea]

Well, we had two. We had two different cans.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

So we both drunk half of each one, like, throughout the day. And we was watching movies and stuff. And then she was like, I don't know. Do you feel anything? Because I don't really feel anything. And then she just started laughing randomly, and I'm like, are you sure you don't feel anything?

[Lex]

Y' all are so silly.

[Drea]

No. Yeah. We was up in that beach high as and just snacking, and I'm just not even a snacker.

[Lex]

You're not?

[Drea]

Yeah, I'm not. Like, I could have. Literally, I'd be having snacks in my house, and it'd be lasting me for, like, weeks, because every once in a while, I want a little something something. But for the most part, I'm like a person who really like meals, but when I tell you all them snacks gone, they all gone.

[Lex]

Was it like protein popcorn that's that you eat?

[Drea]

No, it wasn't. Cuz you know what's funny? I don't even really like popcorn.

[Lex]

For real. I love popcorn.

[Drea]

I think it's because when I used to have my braces you know, it's such a long list of things that you not supposed to to eat. So I couldn't eat popcorn for a really long time. And I just also don't like the way, like, the kernels and stuff about, say them kernels.

[Bowen Yang]

Yeah.

[Drea]

Be getting stuck in your teeth. Like, I don't like it, but because I am doing 75 hard right now, I've been trying to find, like, super healthy snacks. So they had this popcorn at Trader Joe's, and. Oh, my God, when I tell you I've already ate, like, six bags of it in the past, like three.

[Lex]

You need to put that back.

[Drea]

I know, I know, but it's so good. It's the kettle corn. Because you. I'm doing no dairy and stuff with my 75 hard, so I be having to read the ingredients on stuff. And it was, like, the only popcorn that they had that only had four ingredients. Sugar, salt.

[Lex]

I think probably some kind of palm oil or something.

[Drea]

Yeah, like sunflower oil or something. But it didn't have no butter or anything. Legs. When I tell you this popcorn is so good, like, I be tearing that popcorn up embarrassed how many bags I went through in, like, three.

[Lex]

I think the only thing about healthy snacks that I don't like is just the overload of protein. They be like protein chips, protein dip, protein water, protein everything. Protein foam, protein soap, protein enough for the goddamn protein. Ooh.

[Drea]

But speaking of protein snacks, them Quest chips. Have you ever tried the Quest chips? They're good. I tried them before, but you didn't like them.

[Lex]

I want a real fucking potato chip. You want a real Dorito? I don't want this shit. If I'm on a healthy kick. I would just rather get my protein from the chicken and say, I don't want no protein chip and protein dip.

[Drea]

I made some nachos with it once.

[Lex]

That was good. The Quest protein chips with turkey, ground turkey, and black beet.

[Drea]

It was good, though.

[Lex]

Please, enough. It was good.

[Drea]

When you get off your Chinese diet, you should try it.

[Lex]

I don't eat that in my. We only eat egg drop soup, miso soup. We are good. Okay. Warm lemon water. That's it. Week. We are good. Okay.

[Drea]

Yes. That was my bad. That was my poor decision for the week. Well, you deserve a little splurge.

[Lex]

You've been doing really good.

[Drea]

I did. Thank you.

[Lex]

Thank you.

[Drea]

I'm gonna try not to be so hard on myself, but yes. It is Black History Month. Power to the people. Amen. So we gonna talk about, like, some fun little Black History Facts and stuff. But then. But before we get into that, I want to talk about this all white town in Arkansas. Have you heard about it?

[Lex]

Oh, I thought she was about to say orange.

[Drea]

That's not why all white you on there can't be all white. But. And didn't you say Little Mauriceville? That's where the black community, bro.

[Lex]

It's little Cypress Mauriceville. But there's a lot of black people on Orange West Orange is like, you know. You know, somebody left a comment, side note, and they were like, why does Lex talk about orange? Like, it's all white. There's plenty of black. I never said it was all white. I said I went to a predominantly white school. Y' all be trying to clock my tea. And it's like, let's move on before I curse somebody out. I'm working on myself.

[Drea]

Yeah, I understand. They do be trying to clock that

[Lex]

T every time you want to do

[Drea]

that to both of us. But yes. So it is this all white town in Arkansas and basically, like, no black people live there. So do you feel like because it's all. All white town and none of us are welcome there, that they should get rid of all of our inventions?

[Lex]

Absolutely. Absolutely.

[Drea]

I think so too.

[Lex]

And no offense, that's why. Have y' all seen that on TikTok? That family that they had to come and like, kind of save them? Cause they were inbred so bad. They were severely, severely, like, mentally like. I don't know what the word I'm looking for, but it was bad. It looked like the heels have eyes type of people.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

So stay y' all asses over there and keep our inventions out of there. You know, I'm perfectly fine with that. Cause people that have that type of thinking, I don't want y' all in society anyway because y' all are the type of people that do dangerous things to people who don't look like you. Y' all are ignorant. Y' all don't deserve to be around people that are normal. Cause you are weird. I think it's so weird how in 2026 we are still separating people by their skin color. How ignorant can you be? Nah, it's just a bunch of dumb asses in one town and can't count one plus one ugly motherfuckers, too. Okay. Ain't a bad bitch in sight.

[Drea]

Well, the name of the organization is called Return to the Land, and it's based in northeastern Arkansas, and they have a whites only community on privately owned land in rural Arkansas. And it was founded in 2023. But it says. Okay, they own about 160 acres in the Ozark region. It's is the Ozark region where that show was filmed?

[Lex]

It seemed like it wasn't.

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[Lex]

On that show.

[Drea]

Yes or no? Can you look that up, Todd? Because I was never really a Ozark watcher.

[Lex]

Yeah, I watched like the first season, but I. I don't know, I just didn't stick to it.

[Drea]

That one was set in Osage Beach, Missouri.

[Lex]

Oh, okay, okay, okay.

[Drea]

All right. But, yeah, I just think that's so interesting that it's still places like that in 2026.

[Lex]

Yeah, it's very weird.

[Drea]

People are.

[Lex]

Y' all are so weird.

[Drea]

It is. It's very strange.

[Lex]

So one thing that y' all can't have is traffic lights. Ho ass niggas run into each other and crash and burn. Bitch, if I see a motherfucking traffic light, Bitch, blow that bitch up. Blow that bitch up. What else, Drea?

[Drea]

They can't have ice cream scoops.

[Lex]

And you know they love protein ice cream. Bitch, put it up.

[Drea]

I would be miserable if I couldn't have no protein ice cream.

[Lex]

You know Blue Bell makes some protein ice cream.

[Drea]

They do.

[Lex]

It's coming out.

[Drea]

But, you know, I don't really eat ice cream no more. Unless it's like. What is that stuff called? So delicious.

[Lex]

I don't know what that is.

[Drea]

It's like the coconut milk.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

Base ice cream. It's really good, though.

[Lex]

Another thing y' all can't have. Y' all can't dry y' all clothes. The clothes dryer was invented by George T. Sampson. Your clothes finna be meal. Dewey, stay out there. No damp ass clothes. Hang it up on the clothesline. I better see clothes pins. Nothing but your clothes hanging up. Y' all don't be putting that shit on anyway. Country motherfuckers. Hang that shit up on the clothesline.

[Drea]

Bitch. I got one. The blood bank that was created by Dr. Charles Drew. If we ain't welcomed in your town, bitch, you don't need our blood. Die.

[Lex]

Yeah. Low iron ass hoes just shivering. Zar. Nope, nope. They don't get no transfuse. I don't want to hear it. I don't understand. I don't want to hear nothing. Oh, my blood is low. And it's that.

[Drea]

Ain't got shit to do with us.

[Lex]

Ain't got shit to do with us. Ooh, this is a good one. Touchscreen tech contributions. That was by Dr. Samuel C. Collins and others. Yeah, give me them iPhones. Give Them up. Yeah, I don't want to see. No. No scanning or nothing. Nothing with that. This. Put it up. That's for us. Keeping it on this side, bitch.

[Drea]

Okay, That's a good one.

[Lex]

That motherfucker's finna be in the dark with candles. And it can't be the candles that Drake made either. Cause you know Drake got a candle line. Those are for us too. He deleted. Yep, he did. A long time ago. I didn't know that he had a candle line.

[Drea]

But he don't have it no more.

[Lex]

I don't know. But if they try to buy a candle. Not Drake. Bitch. Put it back. Put the candles back, bitch.

[Drea]

So the folding chair.

[Lex]

Uh huh huh. What? My hair. I got mad and don't use Sprint Caesar. I'm mad now. My blood pressure high. But I could get a transfusion. Okay, I can get one. Go ahead. Go ahead.

[Drea]

The folding chair. Which is good because. Must we beat y' all ass with them again?

[Lex]

A moment in history.

[Drea]

In history. We need to bring that.

[Lex]

Bring it back. No barbecues. I better see full dining chairs in your yard when y' all have a barbecue.

[Drea]

Bitch.

[Lex]

You know what I'm saying? I agree. No folding chairs for you. Home security systems. That was invented by Marie Van Britten Brown. Leave that shit. I don't want no rings. I don't give a fuck if a white man invented it. You know who it came from? Marie. Put it back. No, Vivid. No Vivid. No. I don't even wanna see a fucking. What? What is the thing? The Google. The Google speak. Siri.

[Drea]

None of that.

[Lex]

None of those.

[Drea]

No Siri, no Alexa, nothing.

[Lex]

Put it back.

[Drea]

No, I home.

[Lex]

Put it. None of that. I'm not playing with you. You don't understand what Bernie Mac said. Oops.

[Drea]

Okay, Your ass getting so bad.

[Lex]

I'm mad.

[Drea]

Okay. Toilet tissue holder by Lida D. Newman. Yeah. Put that shit on the counter.

[Lex]

Y' all don't wipe anyway.

[Drea]

They don't.

[Lex]

Yeah, I'm not talking about all of y'.

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[Lex]

I'm talking about the people in this town now.

[Drea]

Yeah, I know. They don't be wiping.

[Lex]

Just nasty. Put it the back. Sit your toilet paper on the ground. Ho at. Yo. Set it on the ground. You don't. You're not gonna prop that up or use some wipes.

[Drea]

But don't get no toilet paper holder.

[Lex]

And then this is the. This is a good one, too. Microphones. Oh, by James Edward West. I don't want to see no podcast coming out that. Put it back. I don't want to hear no. Oh. Welcome to the podcast of rttl. Welcome to our land.

[Drea]

No podcast.

[Lex]

Put it back.

[Drea]

Well, just in that one little area.

[Lex]

Yeah, just in that one area. Put it back, bitch. Put it back. But I do.

[Drea]

I think that's crazy. And I know they using all that peanut butter too.

[Lex]

Yes. P.B. and J. You know they love a me peanut butter cookie now.

[Drea]

They do.

[Lex]

Put it back.

[Drea]

I like a peanut butter cookie.

[Lex]

They love a little Nutter Butter.

[Drea]

Girl Scout.

[Lex]

You can't eat it. That's not for you. That is not for you. I truly feel like if you do not like people and don't get us started on even other races who have invented things because they said not only blacks, non whites, period.

[Drea]

Whites only.

[Lex]

I don't want to see no motherfucking taco night. No butter chicken. You better not eat no egg drop soup. Cause that's my other people. I don't want to see none of that shit on your plate. Unseasoned chicken only, bitch.

[Drea]

Well, the good thing is I don't think you was ever going to see what's on they plate anyways. Cause you're not welcome there.

[Lex]

I wasn't invited.

[Drea]

You wasn't? They'll probably run you out of town.

[Lex]

They would. They would.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

I don't give a damn, man. It's just nasty of them.

[Drea]

But I wonder, do they go other places or do they just stay there? I hope if you leave out of that town, I mean, you're gon run into other people that aren't right.

[Lex]

But imagine these people that probably used to be somebody's neighbor. It's just a scary thought and I know it smell crazy in there. In there. Yeah. In the society, 160 acres of funky. Yeah, I know it's funky in there. So prayers down to y'. All. Y' all are very, very strange. And shout out to all. All jokes aside, shout out to all the black creators and black inventors out there, all of our brothers and sisters who have helped us advance and all that great technology, good foods and things that we use to this day.

[Drea]

Yes, we are innovators. They can't do without us.

[Lex]

All right, y', all, this one is smooth grown. It's a little classic, but at the same time it's elevated.

[Drea]

We're starting it off with Taylor, Port Rich, Jammy and giving dark fruit energy.

[Lex]

Yes. Then we balance it out with some bourbon because you already know.

[Drea]

So you know, we had to add a few dashes of bitters to tighten it up. Keep it classy and not too sweet.

[Lex]

Yes. Stir it down nice and slow. Let everything just, you know, get acquainted together.

[Drea]

So, you know, you gotta finish with an expressed orange peel oils only because aroma matters. And we're doing this with care. This is a slow sipper, late night conversation vibe.

[Lex]

That's why we're calling this one Couch Confessions.

[Drea]

It's smooth, layered, and built for real talk.

[Lex]

This one's for you.

[Drea]

So for topic number two, I wanted to talk about an old topic.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Drea]

So I saw somebody leave a comment, and they was just kind of like, why don't y' all revisit some of the old topics that y' all talked about and see if y' all have a different perspective now. So I think that would be fun for us to start doing. Not every week, but like on some of the episodes. So for this topic, I wanted to talk about, how do you argue? Are you an emotional arguer? And this is something that we talked about before. I wonder what I said years ago.

[Lex]

I can't remember what I said.

[Drea]

And that's probably what we should try to do too.

[Lex]

Good. Because I want. When y' all insert the clip, I don't know what I said. So if we can find the clip, we gonna insert it so you can see my answer. But I'm not gonna lie. If we're having a heated discussion, don't

[Drea]

let me get my turn.

[Lex]

Them words finna flow and then I' ma say some mean. Because I like to cut a person deep. I like that little dagger in the heart.

[Drea]

What if you can't come back from there?

[Lex]

That's all right.

[Drea]

I love to use a big word. Because everybody ain't that articulate.

[Lex]

Because I but did see? And that's why I don't like arguing with smart people.

[Drea]

Yeah, I love these. I love to use a word that I know you're not gonna understand.

[Lex]

Hold on. Cause what the hell that means.

[Drea]

But you can't say hold on during the argument. No, you can't.

[Lex]

I'm gonna be good.

[Drea]

No, you can't.

[Lex]

You lost. I never lose.

[Drea]

You lost if you had to stop and pause.

[Lex]

But luckily for me, anytime we've argued, I'd be prepared. Because I talk to you a lot, so I know the words that you be using.

[Drea]

Like wood.

[Lex]

Like perplexed. The first time you use perplexity, you said legs.

[Drea]

I was so perplexed, I said, what

[Lex]

the hell does that mean? Did she just call me the N word?

[Drea]

I wouldn't consider myself necessarily an argumentative person. I'm a confronter, but I'm not An. An argumentative person. Because I will confront you if you have me messed up. But I ain't trying to argue with you, though, because I said what I said.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

That's really the type of person I am. And that's probably my problem in my downfall, because I' ma say what I gotta say, and I ain't trying to. Or we ain't about to go back and forth about it. I said what I said, and that's what I'm standing on.

[Lex]

That's my favorite Carlos joke. That's a classic joke. If you know, you know. But anyways, no, you know, what about meme that pisses people off?

[Drea]

I'm not a confronter at all. Argumentative. I'm confrontational. But I ain't trying to argue with you. I just gotta get that off my chest.

[Lex]

Yeah. And you know, for me, I'm like, more so is people will be mad as hell going off on me, and I'll be like, I'll try to crack a joke. Cause I feel so uncomfortable. Yeah. Like, that's the only thing I know how to do.

[Drea]

My man like that.

[Lex]

Yeah, I will crack a. My man is like that too. But honestly, now, I will say it depends on what it is, but I will say I definitely go into arguments being more logical now than I used to be. I feel like when I look back on certain things I would get mad at or certain things that would blow, like, I would blow up about, I'm like, if I would have handled that better, I would. Things would have been easier and better with our communication. So I feel like 100% sometimes I still do get out of character a little bit. Like I said, depending on what it is. But 100% now I definitely think about things before I say it. I don't speak from emotion, because when I speak from emotion, I say hurtful things. I say things I don't mean. And sometimes you say things that you really can't take back and you take things too far. And I've learned that from even, like, my past situations that I've been in with, like, friends, people I've dated. So I think now I definitely argue. And I don't even like to use the word argue. Cause I don't even feel like me and my partner don't really argue now. And I think that's something that we've grown in. In our cause. At first, maybe it was World War III in that motherfucker, but now it's like we have disagreements and we talk it out, you know, And I Think I try to go in from a logical standpoint. I don't always succeed. But I'm growing and I'm learning very different how I used to be. Cause it used to be like, fuck you, nigga. Yeah, I hope your mama just dead on the floor. Fuck that bitch with a crusty ass. And she had a crusty ass, son. Both of y' all just crusty. The crusty twins. Bitch, you think I give a fuck about a nigga with a crusty mama?

[Drea]

See, I used to just bring a nigga's mama. This shit is wild as fuck.

[Lex]

I used to talk about niggas. It so bad when I got it, cuz. I wanted to hurt them so bad. But so I don't do that no more. I definitely don't, cuz it's like, no, no. What about you?

[Drea]

My absence going to hurt you. So I've never. And I've never been like an emotional arguer, cuz I don't like arguing with people. To be honest, cuz, I'm going to take you to the moon. I don't like being taken to a place to have to argue with people. Because if I have to argue with you, I'm going to hurt your feelings. Like I'm going to hurt your feelings. So I just don't even like.

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[Drea]

I'm really more of a I'm just not going to talk to you.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

Type of person. And I always been like that. Like, I'm not entertaining this. Like, and when we do have a conversation, if you being emotional, I'm really like, okay, bro, I'm really not entertaining this. Go away from me with this Apollo. Yeah, it's Like, I just. I don't be having time, like. And because to me, also, anybody. I just never really been into, like, that super toxic. I feel like anybody who can make me argue with them all the time or make me want to, like, go back and forth with them, you not a good person to be in my life. Because I'm naturally a person who I don't. I don't be on that type of shit.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Drea]

So if you bring that out of me, you not really a good person that I need around me. Because why should we be dealing with each other if we always arguing? Are we always trying to say something to, like, hurt each other or have one up on each other or. Oh, you said this. So I' ma say this back. Like, that just always been, like, childish to me. And like, I said, like, maybe because I am a Taurus. And, like, we just don't play this. Like, we only about to do so much argument.

[Lex]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Drea]

Before I'm ready to punch your ass. So I don't even like to argue with people. Like. Like, I remember vividly one argument that I had with this girl that I used to live with. And I was about to hit that hoe upside the head with a glass.

[Lex]

I remember that.

[Drea]

And luckily, my best friend was there.

[Lex]

I remember you called me and I was like, what don't went down. The tea was hot.

[Drea]

Yeah. I was about to smack fire out there.

[Lex]

I remember that.

[Drea]

Cause, bitch, what we not about to do is keep going back and forth, especially when you standing in my room.

[Lex]

Yes, she was. And wouldn't get out.

[Drea]

Sitting on the edge of my bed. Sitting and telling me you not about to get out. Oh, you about to get the out.

[Lex]

Nasty, vile.

[Drea]

Or I'm gonna force your ass to get the out. Yeah, it was. But, yeah, so, like, I just don't be with all this. And I feel like when you and a person respect each other, y' all not gonna be having a whole bunch of arguments all the time.

[Lex]

Yeah, I agree with that point. You said, too, you have to notice when people bring a certain side out in you that you really don't even. Like, I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm really, like. When I'm around my friends and, like, certain people, I'm like a great ball of fun. And then I was noticing this person I was around. Every time. It was like, I would just turn. I'm like. It got to the point to where I didn't even recognize myself. And I had to take a step back, like, girl, what are you doing? Why is every time you're around this person you don't feel good? They're saying things to you that make you feel bad. You just get in a mode that's not you. I got in protective mode cause I felt like let me protect myself against you. I should not have to feel like I need to protect myself when I'm around you. So I think that's stuff that we need to take note of. That was an excellent point. If you bring out a side of me that is not normal, like when I'm around my friends, we drink, we have a good time, we party. Even if we not drinking, we're just being girls having a good time.

[Drea]

That arguing shit is just, that's too much. And like I said, I'm just not even trying to go there with people because I am. I be taking it to the moon when I argue with people. So I just don't even want to be brought to that place. I like to stay in my happy place. But do you feel like when people cry or they are emotional doing an argument, people don't take them as serious.

[Lex]

I, I do to a certain extent because I'm the type of person, everything makes me cry. I cry when I'm happy, I cry when I'm sad, I cry when I'm mad. That's just my. I don't know why my body does that. I cry for every emotion. So sometimes when I feel like I'm mad, like people be like, oh look at this weak ass hoes. Like, no, I'm mad. So sometimes I'll be feeling like how Candy used to be. That's my mama. That's my mama. That's how I be.

[Drea]

Her voice starts shaking.

[Lex]

That's my mama. That's how I be. Because I'll be mentioning.

[Drea]

No, the fuck you don't.

[Lex]

Cause people be what?

[Drea]

You sound like Scooby Doo. What the fuck was that? Cause I beat that did not sound like Candy.

[Lex]

That's my mama. And I feel her. Cause that's my mama. Bitch, you got me fucked up. So sometimes I do think crying makes people look weak. But don't get it twisted, you know what I'm saying? Now I do think there are certain people who cry to be manipulative.

[Drea]

That's what I was about to say. I don't think, I don't ever really think that it make people look weak. I just hate when people be crying when we get into it. Cuz you should have thought about that before you wanted to argue with me or you know what the. You did. So why are you surprised that we arguing and now you want to pull out the crying card? I hate people who cry when they know what the they did. And then if you do it like,

[Lex]

yeah, you be doing that. That's why.

[Drea]

That's why her ass was looking at. Cuz. You definitely used to do that all the time.

[Lex]

And I be like, bro, I still cry. I can't help it.

[Drea]

One thing about Lex, she gonna cry every argument though.

[Lex]

Like, majority of majority.

[Drea]

All right, here we go again.

[Lex]

Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. I don't do it on purpose. And honestly I don't. I actually try not to because I know what it looks like and I know what it comes off as. So like, sometimes, like, if I'm arguing with a friend or me or somebody, we're not seeing eye to eye, I'll be like, okay, either let's talk about this later when I can gather myself, or I just try to like, okay, give me a second. Or I try to hold back my tears. But sometimes when I start talking, when it's my turn, talk. And then you know. But I will say I have had disagreements with friends in the past before where it's just like, girl, you trying me right now. Like you think that this is gonna make me feel like, oh, no, girl, you know what you did. Cause I've been in situations where somebody did things purposely to me to hurt me. And you're trying to cry as a defense mechanism.

[Drea]

Yeah, but.

[Lex]

And then I've had people who've did things and it's like they didn't know necessarily it was gonna hurt my feelings or something. And I know they didn't mean it. And you can just kinda tell, I think in that situation. Cause it's like, girl, you trying it. But I get that sometimes people just can't help it.

[Drea]

It's like my mama always say, get him a tissue and finish what you saying.

[Lex]

Yeah, clean it up. Here you go. Clean it up.

[Drea]

But like I was saying, no, my mama be like, tear, don't let them tears move you. But my mama always been like that, even with me. Like she gonna still say what she have to say. She don't give a damn about you crying. Because at the end of the day, majority of the time, people know what they did. So why you crying now? You wasn't crying when you did it.

[Lex]

Yeah, that's a Taurus thing too. Because my mom was like that for real. I don't. Cuz again, I'm a crybaby. Girl, shut the hell up, girl. She didn't. Girl, shut up, girl.

[Drea]

Yeah, finish it. I mean, especially because me and your mama got the same.

[Lex]

Oh, my God.

[Drea]

To be like, oh, brother, she did.

[Lex]

And she used to be like, I don't give a. About you crying, bruh. Yeah, go do what I said you were supposed to do.

[Drea]

I won't say that to people. I don't really say it to people when they be crying, but I be thinking into my head, I don't give a damn.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

Anyways, like I was saying, but I don't know. What do you think, Ty? Are you an emotional arguer? I used to like to fight. Used to be a fight.

[Lex]

She used to throw them bones.

[Drea]

Used to be scrappy.

[Lex]

Excuse me. What?

[Drea]

For real? I would get mad really quickly. So maybe that's the emotional side. Other than that, I'm more logical, especially now. I agree 100%. Like, I love my piece. I don't even if I know a situation is going to be like some confrontation. I'm like, even more hesitant now. I think through it, what am I going to say? How am I presenting myself? Because I just would like to avoid any confrontation at all. But yeah, I used to be ready

[Lex]

to throw them bones.

[Drea]

I get. When I get mad, I get real mad. So, like, I just don't like going, it's like 0 to 100. Somebody was telling me the other day, they was just like, you'll be letting stuff slide off your back a lot. Like, I feel like you don't really let stuff, like, get you super riled up a lot. And that's intentional because I feel like when I was younger, I did like, I used to get really upset about a lot of. Now I just be like, it's not even that big of a deal. If it's not something that that's gonna matter in a few hours. I don't work myself up over it because when I get mad, I be ready to fight too. Yeah, I'm a fighter, though, because I haven't gotten a fight in a really long time. So I wouldn't call myself a fighter. But when I was younger, I did used to in my 20s for sure. In college, when I was in high school and middle school and stuff, I used to get in fights.

[Lex]

I will say, though, I haven't seen you be like, upset like that. Like that for real. Since that friendship, it was like always something. Like every day I'm like, what the actual fuck? This situation is actually worse than what I thought it was gonna be till this day, I have never seen you to this day. To this day, I still have not seen you just be around somebody. It was just like. It was draining for me to feel that energy come.

[Drea]

It was so weird because I really can't be bothered by a lot of shit. I feel like you know that about me. Like in order to be bothered by things, you have to. Have to care.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

And I hope it doesn't sound bad, but then I mean. Oh well, if it does, I really don't be giving a. About a lot of. You know what I mean? So that's why I think things just don't ever bother me. But that particular situation, cuz that girl was just. She was so weird, like. And I've had a lot of weird friendships over the years, like with different girls. Girls just. I don't know, they just done did some weird. But like, she was by far the weirdest. The weirdest one to the point that it was like, I can't do this. And that's why the friendship didn't last. Cause I was literally about to whoop her ass. And if it gets to that point, we can't be friends. And we lived together.

[Lex]

Oh no. Yeah. Y' all would have been fighting. Would have been ass jiggling all over that goddamn apartment. That was a lot of ass in that friendship.

[Drea]

It was, it was. It's more ass in this friendship.

[Lex]

Booty jiggling all over them hallways.

[Drea]

But yes. And like, I just think what you said is a really good point though, cuz I think that's a testament to the people that I keep around me now too. Like, if somebody is making you feel that way or taking you to that place, get rid of them immediately.

[Lex]

Immediately.

[Drea]

Because they not somebody that need to be in your life. Ain't nobody worth taking penitentiary chances over.

[Lex]

Penitentiary.

[Drea]

Serious. I mean, because if you whoop somebody ass and then they say that you assaulted them, you will go to jail for that.

[Lex]

That's a fact.

[Drea]

Especially if you swamp.

[Lex]

If you would have hit her on

[Drea]

the head, I'm definitely about to swing first.

[Lex]

If you would have hit her in the head with that glass, you would have definitely been in jail.

[Drea]

I would have smiling in my mug shot. Ah, yeah, I did it.

[Lex]

All right, so y' all let us know. Are you an emotional. Are you. Are you More logic. Do you cry? Do you not cry? Cause I'mma shed it a little bit.

[Drea]

Lex is gonna cry. Lex is a crier.

[Lex]

Everything makes me cry. I'm finna cry right now.

[Drea]

I don't only ever Cried in arguments with my man. Same, but that's with my friends, I don't cry argument. But I rarely argue with my friends.

[Lex]

So why is that? Y' all only cry with y', all, man.

[Drea]

I mean, for me, it's more manipulation. Yeah.

[Lex]

Oh, stop. Okay, that's real. I can accept that.

[Drea]

Cuz, I'm like, you yelling at me. Feel sorry for me.

[Lex]

Okay?

[Drea]

For me, it's not manipulation. It's just. I think it's more emotional. Emotional because we just more emotionally intertwined.

[Lex]

Okay, I can understand that too.

[Bowen Yang]

Yeah.

[Drea]

Like, I don't know how to explain.

[Lex]

And it's. And for me, I actually, like. I try to hold back my tears anyway. But with my man, I really try to hold them back because I don't want you to think I'm being like, I need you to take me seriously and stop thinking I owe me poor baby. No, I'm a. You up.

[Drea]

Okay.

[Lex]

So with my man, I really try to hold my tears back. With my friends, I feel more like I can be a little. I can, like, just kind of be myself. With my man, I feel like I be having to hold my ground. Let you know, ain't shit sweet over there. No ass nigga. I can't let that voice shake.

[Drea]

I' ma hold my ground. But then I'm also gonna, like, cry too, because, oh, my God, I'm just a girl.

[Lex]

I'm just a girl. I'll punch you in your chest.

[Drea]

I'm so. I'm your little sweet baby dog. Like, why would you treat me like that?

[Lex]

I don't want to. Maybe I should try that approach. You should. You were practicing.

[Drea]

I feel like you get more B's with honey in any situation. Like, in life, in any relationship.

[Lex]

Well, you know what? I will say, I think I'm learning to do also what works or what works for us at the same time.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

But I will say I don't have to do that anymore. Cause we discuss things now. We wanna thousand percent discuss it. I can't. Like, we don't raise our voice at each other other no more. It's baby steps, you know?

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

But I think that's something I'm trying to work on internally with myself, you know, so. All right, y', all, now it's time to get freaky. Now it's time to get into the bow about.

[Drea]

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[Lex]

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[Drea]

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[Lex]

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[Drea]

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[Lex]

You have.

[Drea]

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[Lex]

I just want to take a second these. Okay, let me get into this spiel real quick before we get into this hobby, because one thing I've always, always said, I hate it, if you follow me, like, I'm the type of woman who. I hate the fact that media is always telling women, this is how to keep your man happy in the bedroom. This is how to turn your man on to where he don't want to leave you. This is like, everything is geared towards women. This is how you suck dick. This is how everything is. We have to over perform in the bedroom. Right?

[Drea]

I hate that. I do. I hate that.

[Lex]

But sometimes these products do make it do what it do.

[Drea]

Make it do what it do.

[Lex]

This slippery Elm. Slippery elm is also good for your insides, your digestive system. So if you want to take it for that, take it for your dodge. It makes everything just, you know, slide right on out.

[Drea]

But it coats some nails, but it

[Lex]

coats that coochie that is lubricated like a stripper pole on a Saturday night.

[Drea]

Yeah, facts. If you take it. But you have to take it consistently, though. You have to take.

[Lex]

Take it every day when I tell you I can 100% tell the difference. And, you know, it was already giving Splash Town. You know, I'm a drowner motherfucker. I'm not lying to y'. All. I was like, I just added it to my. You know, I already take my daily meds or, I mean, my supplements and everything, so I just made it. Well, that too.

[Drea]

Does it have vitamin supplements in it, too, Like.

[Lex]

Well, it says the slippery elm, of course, is the main thing in there, but, yeah, that's it. Okay. It's just a slippery elm.

[Drea]

Okay. But slippery elm is natural, so.

[Lex]

Yeah, so just a natural plant. If you having a little dry issues down there, that's gonna fix it right on up now. We not no doctors. I'm not saying it's guaranteed, but it works wonders for me. So shout out to Saw xo. I used to have, like, I have my favorite products, but that has been, like, added to my top two.

[Drea]

For sure. Yes, for sure. Me, too. It's definitely part of my daily supplements. So shout out to the sweet release.

[Lex]

And speaking of supplements, real, real quick, did y' all know vitamin D, like, is amazing for your hair?

[Drea]

No, I didn't.

[Lex]

I did not know that. So this is so crazy. I've been taking vitamin D for about three months now just because, you know, I've had fibroids in the past, and we gonna talk about that on a future episode, but I have a vitamin D deficiency. Whatever. So I started taking vitamin D, and it was so crazy. Cause this TikTok came across my page, and this lady was like, basically, before I take clients on, I tell them to start taking vitamin D because it helps with your hair. I went and got my hair done yesterday, and DeeDee was like, Girl, why is your hair so soft? I was like, I don't fucking know. She was like, it's grown so much. Cause y' all remember I accidentally cut my hair off when I took them braids out. She was like, your hair is basically already evened out. And she was like, and it's so soft. And I was like, oh, my gosh. I've been taking vitamin D. So if y' all are having issues with, like, your hair not. Not retaining moisture or, like, little growth, take some vitamin D. It's excellent for your hair.

[Drea]

I like vitamin D. That's a part of my daily supplements, too. And I've been taking it for years, but for other reasons. Like, it's really good, like you said, for, like, fiber.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

And things like that. But I didn't know it was good for your hair. Yes.

[Lex]

I did not. Dee Dee was like. She kept. She was like, girl, your hair is so soft. She was like, it's gotten so. I was like, I don't know. I was like, oh, you know what? It's the vitamin D. Because I saw that TikTok. I was like, that's so crazy that you. You said that.

[Drea]

Yeah, It's.

[Lex]

Oh, yeah.

[Drea]

D3. Vitamin D3 is just good for, like, your reproductive health in general. So something good to add.

[Lex]

Add it on now.

[Drea]

Daily vitamins.

[Lex]

All right, let's get into this topic. So. And we have. This is another one that we have discussed before, but is sex better in the dark? You know, like, do you feel like you like to be like, oh, surprise, it's a nut. You know what I'm saying? Do you like to be in the dark and be like, you don't know what's grabbing and, and touching and pulling

[Drea]

and squeezing A nut is never surprising.

[Lex]

Oh, and there's, you know, it's coming, you know what I'm saying? So do you like having sex in the dark? You know, like is that your thing? You know, it could be more focused on sensations. Your other senses could be risen because you can't see.

[Drea]

I mean I'm not opposed to it, but I like to see during sex.

[Lex]

You a freaky mother.

[Drea]

Yeah, I like, like to see what you like. Myself? Yeah. I don't know, like the dark is cool. It's fine. I mean and I think sometimes it definitely up it a little bit. Like especially like if you don't had a few drinks and you put a little blindfold on or something like that.

[Lex]

Remember T Pain had that song? If I think one more drink.

[Drea]

Yes.

[Lex]

I'm gonna end up you. I do remember that song. Is that what you want to do?

[Drea]

I do for that song. But yeah, like I do like I think that darkness is appropriate for some settings. Cuz I do like a little blindfold.

[Lex]

Ooh, I do. I'm not gonna lie. I don't like like pitch black. That's what I'm thinking about.

[Drea]

I don't want.

[Lex]

I don't like that. I don't, I. No. I like a, a sexier lighting.

[Drea]

Like moody lighting.

[Lex]

Moody lighting, yes. Cuz I can still see but like I do not like having sex. And the lights are on like white lights. I don't even have white lights in my home period. All my lighting in my house is warm.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Warm moody lighting.

[Drea]

Yes.

[Lex]

I do not like sex in the dark. I feel like sex in the dark is either for people who are a little self conscious about their body.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Are you hiding something? Is there bumps on your dick?

[Drea]

I told you. I think kinda like. Yeah, let's check it out.

[Lex]

Let me see. I need to see them balls.

[Drea]

I told you.

[Lex]

Yes. I need to see what's going on.

[Drea]

I do too. And I, I think I talked about this on the show before. Like I told this story about my mom. Cuz you know, my mom used to be a nurse. Used to be rn. And this lady that she used to work with at the hospital, she was saying how like she had a little date with this man and they ended up like they were about to have

[Lex]

like a little, you know, after party Rendezvous.

[Drea]

Yeah, a little afterparty. And so they went back to the hotel and he was like super Adamy about having sex with the lights off. And she was like, no, like I want to have the lights on. I need to see what's going on because we just met each other.

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[Drea]

They went back to the hotel and he was like super adamant about having sex with the lights off. And she was like, no, like, I want to have the lights on. I need to see what's going on. Cuz we just met each other. I don't know you like that. And he was just being really weird about turning the lights on. So she got up, turned the lights on, and he had like all kind of crust and like bumps on his dick. Well, not on his actual shaft, but yeah, around. Yeah.

[Lex]

That is horrifying.

[Drea]

Yeah, but you would have felt that. That's up. You was really about to get that lady something.

[Lex]

The package.

[Drea]

Yeah, people be dirty and nasty like that too. Oh my God. Giving a about other people and you

[Lex]

still want to have sex?

[Drea]

He wanted to, of course. And needless to say, I mean, she ended up leaving him there. But thank God she was like, no, I'm turning the light on cause I want to see what's going on.

[Lex]

I'm surprised he didn't jump up and put his panties on. Jesus Christ.

[Drea]

But yeah, but this was like a really, really long time ago. Cause my mama said this is like in the 80s something. She told me about that.

[Lex]

But. And honestly, that's even worse. Cause they used to think everything was something. She's deadly back then, I mean, because

[Drea]

HIV had just came out and they didn't really Hear have. You know, just came out.

[Lex]

But they just were figuring out, you

[Drea]

know, in the 80s, it didn't. I thought it had just hit like America.

[Lex]

No, it was running rampant, really. Christopher Columbus was passing around something that dirty.

[Drea]

But I thought they was having siftly.

[Lex]

They had everything. Everything. That's what. Exactly what they have in the Ozarks.

[Drea]

Okay. But yes. You have to be careful out here though, with like. Especially on your first encounter, if somebody trying to be weird about turning the lights on. I don't know. But like. Like, I'm not really so much of a light person, but I like daytime sex.

[Lex]

You do?

[Drea]

Yeah. Son, you know what's crazy? Yeah, I like. You like daytime sex? Yes, Yes.

[Lex]

I don't know. It's something about night that just makes it more romantic. But I do catch myself having more daytime morning sex than night sex. Cause I feel like, honestly, at this age, like, we be tired over. We be going. Too bad. Like, I be like, when I get over there, I'm gonna rock your world, daddy. I be over there knocked out.

[Drea]

Morning sex be easy. So all you gotta do is turn over, lift that leg.

[Lex]

Good. Yeah. Yeah. But I do feel like. But we get. Sit in. In the morning now. We get. We put it in the morning.

[Drea]

So then you like daytime sex.

[Lex]

I mean, I don't necessarily like. I prefer nighttime sex, but we have more daytime morning sex. But we still get it in. Because I feel like sometimes it's okay to kind of like lift it up just from the side. But I think that if you have too much morning sex, it tends to get repetitive and quick. Oh. Cause we gotta go to work, we gotta go to the gym. We got things to do.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

I feel like when you have sex at night, it's like you get to take your time more. And it's more like, you know. But I do find myself having daytime sex more.

[Drea]

I love a little daytime. Little rendezvous.

[Lex]

Especially after brunch.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Now, midday sex I like. You know what I'm saying? Like, you just came over and we just getting to it just to do it. Let me call my man.

[Drea]

You gotta make them little daytime appointments.

[Lex]

Yes. And sometimes. I don't care what nobody says. We all love a good date night. But sometimes you do need a Netflix and chill night. Yeah. Like, sometimes you need a weekend where y' all just locked up in the house and y' all are just chilling, ordering food or cooking and just watching movies and relax and fucking. Yes. A marathon. I love a good sex a thon. Just fucking.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

I've always said this, like, just know if I'm in a relationship with a man and like we break up and you start dating him after me. Not that it matters, but just know we was fucking down. Anytime I'm in a relationship, we be fucking down, bitch. Like you are never gonna be like, oh, did we? No, we be fucking down to the ground. To the down, down, down. Shout out to big Sexy. Down baby.

[Drea]

That's how I be feeling too. You got some big shoes to feel. But like, I don't know, I just think, going back to the topic, I just think that darkness is not as intimate. Like I think that when you can see somebody, y' all can make eye contact and it's just more of a connection.

[Lex]

Have you ever had sex with a couple cockeyed man?

[Drea]

Why the would you ask me that?

[Lex]

Because I'm saying sometimes people have a

[Drea]

lazy eye and they try to look at. You've seen everybody that I've dated. I've never dated anybody cockeyed.

[Lex]

Well, honestly, I don't really look well.

[Drea]

You've seen everybody? For the most part, yeah. I mean since we've been friends. Everybody that I've dated, you've seen.

[Lex]

I have, but I never like looked them in the eye. Cause sometimes you'll look at if a got a cockeye. You don't.

[Drea]

You don't need to be close to see that.

[Lex]

But I'm. No, but sometimes they have an eye that'll drift off and you don't you

[Drea]

think you would have caught that sometimes?

[Lex]

No. Cause sometimes it'll be like this for a good five seconds and then wandering. Yeah, it'll start to wander.

[Drea]

Yeah. Don't ever wonder.

[Lex]

Don't. Okay. I don't think I have myself, but I don't know.

[Drea]

I don't know.

[Lex]

I don't think I have.

[Drea]

I haven't dated a guy that was cockeyed, you know.

[Lex]

I'm a little cross eyed, that's why.

[Drea]

No, you're not.

[Lex]

I'm a little cross eyed. Sometimes they do. They get a little cross. Especially when I was younger.

[Drea]

Did you used to wear glasses?

[Lex]

No, my eyes used to just be crossed like sometimes. Especially now when I get a little drunk.

[Drea]

But isn't that something for like corrective lenses?

[Lex]

They don't need to be corrected.

[Drea]

They all right if they crossing. They might need a little correction.

[Lex]

But it only happens straightening when I have a little drown.

[Drea]

Do you feel it like drifting?

[Lex]

Sometimes it be too late when I notice it.

[Drea]

Okay.

[Lex]

Everything already done crossed up.

[Drea]

No, I ain't never seen Your eyes crossed? Because I done seen some cross eyed people.

[Lex]

It's not bad, though. It's very faint. Like, if y' all notice, like. Like if y' all make an AI picture of me, AI gets in everything. So my eye will be a little crossed, but AI gonna cross them, you know what I'm saying? They be like, oh, her eyes are crossed. Let's make sure they're crossed. Crossed. They be crossed a little bit to where the average eye can't really tell. Okay. But AI, the way it aligns it, it's like, oh, she's cross eyed. Let's just go ahead and make them cross, you know? But that's all right. It ain't bad. Bad.

[Drea]

Yeah, because I was gonna say, I mean, I've never noticed.

[Lex]

I think the men that I've dated have noticed it.

[Drea]

They've said something. Have they said, damn your eye cocked like a piss?

[Lex]

No, because they're not cocked. They're just like. It be. Sometimes when I'm like focusing on something a little bit. Yeah. But it be like, well, you a little. Yeah, them eyes a little. That's all right, baby.

[Drea]

No, I never noticed.

[Lex]

But that slippery elm hit them where it hurts so they don't cry. What the fuck do the slippery elves, that slippery elm make they eyes cross? So we just two cross eyed motherfuckers. I'm slow.

[Drea]

I thought you were saying, like. Cause it lubricates your eye. Sock to it. He get it straight.

[Lex]

Make him look n.

[Drea]

Multiple uses.

[Lex]

Yes, but that's all right. All right, let's move on to the next topic. Now it's time to get into the. Okay, y', all, y' all know the weather is starting to maybe warm up in a few weeks. You know, we're getting there. We're almost done with the cold months. So with that being said, y', all, it is time. It's time for y' all to start releasing the summer spring tunes. We're ready to go outside. We're ready to pop that cooch.

[Drea]

Okay.

[Lex]

Y' all know I love Eric Billinger. Shout out to Eric Billinger. That's my dog. I actually had to sit. This song is so good. I have to send him a message. I was like, bro, y' all killed the this. Like, this is my. It's such a summer song. It's called Worldwide. It's with him and an artist named Will Gittins. And I. I hope I said his name right, y'.

[Drea]

All.

[Lex]

When I tell y' all it is a summer bop. It's about you and your woman, you stamping that passport up for y' all finna go worldwide. It's one of the. You got to do a little dirty wine to it. You got to get real when I tell y'. All. Eric Billinger is, like, the perfect artist. When you meet, like, these indie guys that try to act like, yeah, I'm going to the stew. I think when men go to the studio, especially R B singers, they. They are trying to get that sound that Eric Billinger just makes naturally his talent. I just. I can't. I. I don't know how to even explain it. He gets in this pocket.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

The ad libs, the lyrics, everything. I feel like nobody asleep on Eric when I say this, because we all know the amazing songwriter he is, but I feel like his music needs to be talked about a lot more than it is. He's got the type of music. It doesn't need to grow on you. One listen and you're like, this is a fucking hit, bitch. So that's my bop of the week. Eric Billinger, worldwide. It's time to pop that coochie. And I'm ready to. This is the kind of music.

[Drea]

It's time to pop that coochie.

[Lex]

Yes. When you're on vacation with your man on the beach. Beach. This is the song you play.

[Drea]

Okay. I'm have to listen to it.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Drea]

Shout out to Eric Billinger.

[Lex]

You know, shout out to my dog, our homie.

[Drea]

Okay. So my pop is a old bob.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

But I was listening because I. And I really have to do better this year because I know I'm always telling everybody about my workout playlist.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

And I still ain't never dropped that hoe. And I have multiple ones. I need to start dropping my workout playlist. But I was working out.

[Lex]

All you have to do is make them public.

[Drea]

I know. I just need to do this.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

I don't know why I just always forget, but I was on the Stairmaster today, and I was listening to Lay up by Future, and I was just like, oh, my God, this was such a good song. It was the beat.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

It was the beat, man.

[Lex]

Zaytoven gets on that piano and does

[Drea]

the motherfucking food, bitch does like it was. I mean. And of course, Future and Zaytopen have, like, a lot of good songs together, but Layup was such a good song, and that was just such a time.

[Lex]

Can I say something that people always argue with me about?

[Drea]

What?

[Lex]

I personally like Layup and Peacoat. I love Peacoat better than March Madness. Just me Personally, I got on my

[Drea]

pea coat today, kind of.

[Lex]

Yeah, you do a mini pea coat?

[Drea]

It is a mini pee.

[Lex]

A mini pee. Abby and a mini pee. I do. I like pee Coat. And I like Layup better than March Madness. Like, March Madness is a classic, but it's something about that Peacock Berry. Oh, man.

[Drea]

But I thought you gotta be deep in your funeral. I don't want to say deep in your future bag to know about Pico, because to me, March Madness was just more of a. It was more of a easily recognizable song because it was on the radio and stuff. He Coat was never. I don't think Pico was ever a single. Yeah, I don't think it was on his mixtape back in the day. But Peacock is better than Marshmallow Madness to me, too, so you ain't wrong.

[Lex]

Okay, thank you.

[Drea]

I'm with you when you write.

[Lex]

That's all I'm saying. Don't get me wrong. It's a classic, But Pico and Leia. I with that. I with that. With Layup. God damn it. That was a time.

[Drea]

It's so good, I had to run it back twice.

[Lex]

I need to ask some people.

[Drea]

I could finish my little workout. Yeah, my workout playlist is full of future songs.

[Lex]

Songs, I'm not gonna lie. And sometimes my playlist will end while I'm working out. You know what came on the other day and I caught myself bopping, but I had to stop. What? That Jack Harlow song I was about to say.

[Drea]

I thought she was gonna say something inappropriate. No, you know what I thought she was gonna say? I knew who she was talking about.

[Lex]

Hush now. I didn't bring it up.

[Drea]

What Jack Harlow?

[Lex]

That I don't know. Mr. Damon, you can't throw me down now.

[Drea]

But that was a good song.

[Lex]

It was, but it was like whips and chains. Who are you talking about? Not during this month. I had to switch it. Not now. Turn it off, wigger. Not today. Not on my watch. It'll start March 1st.

[Drea]

That was a good song.

[Lex]

I thought you.

[Drea]

You was about to scare me for a minute. I'm about to say, now, what Jack do?

[Lex]

No, Jack didn't do anything.

[Drea]

We can't listen to him no more.

[Lex]

But not during. Not during. We can still listen to him, just not during February. Especially when he talking about whips and change.

[Drea]

Okay.

[Lex]

You ain't putting no loving on me with that white boy. Get on back. Get on back. Put it up.

[Drea]

That is a good song, though, to have on your workout playlist. I feel like it's going to get you through it.

[Lex]

It did. I finished it, though, but then I turned it off. I turned it off. All right, all right. Okay, y', all, let's get into our favorite segment of all. Pour your heart out. If you want your question answered on the show, make sure you email us at Ask poor minds Gmail. Y'. All. Keep it short, cute, and sweet, okay? Period. Go ahead, little Dre.

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[Drea]

I hope you ladies are doing great. You can call me Cherry, because I don't want my name revealed. But I've been feeling conflicted about maintaining a relationship with my mother. When I was 17, I moved from my mother's house to my grandma's house due to the physical and mental abuse from my mom. I became very distant, and we didn't start talking again until I started dating my. My fiance in 2023. Then in December 2023, my grandmother passed away from pneumonia. During this time, I found out that I was pregnant. My mom sued me for my grandma house and lost. We physically fought. She harassed me and told my grandmother and told me that my grandmother's death was my fault. And she still haven't got my grandma a headstone yet. And it's 2026. My grandma left her $50,000, by the way. Now I'm 23, and we do have a relationship, and she is a good grandma, but it's just hard to let go of my anger of everything she's done to me. And I hate that I have to be the bigger person and let it go, especially since she's never going to apologize. Can y' all give me advice?

[Lex]

You know, it's hard for me to give advice on situations like this just because I was blessed with a amazing mother. So a lot of times, like, when people talk about how their mom was their, like, first hater, their biggest enemy, and stuff, like, I can't even comprehend that or understand that. But I will say I think that there is a space where you have very, very strong boundaries and you can still have a relationship, because I don't want to, say, completely cut her off and then something happens, and you would have wished that you had this type of relationship, because what I do see a lot is people have a strained relationship with their mother, and the somebody ends up passing away, and they're like, damn, I wish we could have fixed things. You know what I'm saying? So I think that I can only give you so much advice. But I will say this is a relationship where you have to have very strong boundaries, because anybody that sues somebody when Things get ugly when people die.

[Drea]

Yeah.

[Lex]

And that shows their true side of who's coming for the money, who's coming there to comfort you, who really cares about your well being. So to me, her suing her when her mother has passed away, this is her own mother, and she was worried about going to court and things like that when she already got $50,000. I don't know, something's not sitting right in the water with me, with her. So I think that just tread lightly. But you do have a child, and you do want to have a child who gets to know their grandmother and things like that. But I don't know, it's a very tricky thing. It's a very tricky thing. I know what you finna say.

[Drea]

I mean, no surprise there. I just feel like it don't matter who it is. Like if somebody is toxic, you need to cut them off, mother or not. Like. And as far as, like, her child having a relationship with her grandma, I wouldn't want my child to have no relationship with my mom if my mom treated me like that and was that way towards me. Because you're not a good person.

[Lex]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Drea]

And I don't care if you're nice to my child and you're me and you have a different relationship. I don't want my child around you because, I don't know, I just feel like somebody who will fight their own kid. I don't know what you would be telling my kid about me when I'm leaving them in your possession. You know what I mean? Or like letting you watch them and stuff as they get older. I don't know what you might be telling them. I just. I don't know. I think that no matter what position a person plays in your life, if something don't feel right in your spirit, cut them off, mother or not.

[Lex]

Right. And then also pay attention to how you feel when you're around her. Do you feel like things are getting better? Do you feel. How does your nervous system feel around her? And like, like I said, I do agree with Dre to a certain extent. It's like, if it's not feeling good, you know, you can cut her off. But I'm also in an area where, like I said, I've seen people be like, damn, my mom passed. I wish I would have fixed things. So I think that's something that you really have to sit down and listen to your body and how you feel around it. You know, it's very tricky. Cause I don't know, fighting is a different.

[Drea]

That's all about to say it's different when, like, you and your mom have a disagreement, but, like, physically fighting, that's just a little too much. Like, that's toxic. That's really, really toxic.

[Lex]

Yeah, that's scary.

[Drea]

I was gonna recommend family counseling, too.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Drea]

If you feel like you want to kind of rebuild that relationship, try family counseling. Because then you're in a safe space where both of you all can communicate and articulate how you feel, how you felt, how this person has made you feel in the past, where you're both looking to go in the relationship. And then you can, to your point, determine do you still want this relationship and do you want this person to be in your life? And that might be just a little helping hand to just set up that safe space for you to communicate how you feeling. I agree. Yeah, girl, protect your peace. Because now you have more than just you to think about. You gotta think about your child, too.

[Lex]

So good luck, sister.

[Drea]

Yes.

[Lex]

All right. Now to our Bottled up segment. Y' all know we like to listen to y' all get things off of your chest. Just a quick 30 to 60 seconds. This is sponsored by our family at Taylor Port. Shout out to our family at Taylor Port, y' all make sure if you're in Atlanta, y' all go to the Hawks game and visit the Taylor Port bar. It is so nice.

[Drea]

It is.

[Lex]

Yes. We had a ball. So shout out to Taylor Port. Let's get into our Bottled Up. Don't y' all hate when y' all

[Drea]

finally done with a.

[Lex]

Hey, want to be like, oh, after all this time, after everything we've been through, you finally done? Yes, that's why I'm done. Because after all that, that you put me through, that I've been through, the pain that I endured, the tears, all of that stuff, yeah, I'm done. I'm not about to keep going through that. It's time to elevate and update.

[Drea]

Date the Amen, sister, and upgrade to a new.

[Lex]

That's like the. They call that the rubber band theory. What? Like when you pull away from a man and he just snaps back, I don't want to do all that. I don't. I'm not for that in that playing game. So. And when you're. When. If you decide to cut a man off and all of a sudden he wants to act right and try to guilt trip you, that is the biggest red flag. Cuz a man that really cares about you and loves you, I'm not saying he's necessarily going to get it Right. The first. But changed behavior is everything. He would have been stopped before you would have got to that point of walking away. Okay, moving on.

[Drea]

Yeah, I agree. I mean, and sometimes I do feel like people do really change.

[Lex]

Agreed.

[Drea]

But a lot of the time, more often than not, niggas be being manipulated.

[Lex]

Yep. 1000%. It just remind me of situations where I'm like, you really gonna walk away from me? Yeah, I am.

[Drea]

Watch me.

[Lex]

You know what I'm saying? And I always say this. It's some men that I've walked away from. And I was just in awe of how much better my life got. And I know it sounds. It's easier said than done, but I'm telling you, you are. I have never, not once regretted walking away from a man. Never.

[Drea]

And don't warn. Just walk away. Block their ass.

[Lex]

Change your number.

[Drea]

I don't like. I don't really give people warnings that I'm not talking to them no more because. Especially if I'm cutting you off for good. I already done told you where you had me up numerous times. So when I'm really walking away and not just saying it because. Because I think sometimes two women will say that they done with a. But sometimes they'll say because they want the reaction. They want him to react or they want him to get his together. But like, I think when you really ready to walk away, I don't need to say nothing because I'm really done with you and I don't need you trying to convince me. And I.

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[Lex]

Okay.

[Drea]

But this is like the first time that I did my eyeliner in a really long time. And thank you. And it's. That had me so weak. Villain is funny as, but yes. So I have on Muse Beauty eyeliner today. And then, of course, I also have on the mascara. So, yeah, make sure y' all shop

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[Drea]

Maybe I'll get y' all black history discount.

[Lex]

Hey, man, that's all right. Everybody wake the up. Everybody wake the up. You ready, sister?

[Drea]

I am.

[Lex]

This is serious.

[Drea]

This is serious business.

[Lex]

Oh, yeah.

[Drea]

Not that serious.

[Lex]

It's serious. This is us marching to freedom. Skin pit. Oh, I'm early. I got excited. I'm nervous. We gotta do it right for Mike. We do. Okay, here we go now. Skin head, dead head. Everybody gone bad situation aggravation.

[Drea]

Everybody allegation innocent on the Duke.

[Lex]

Everybody dog food, bang bang, shut that.

[Drea]

Everybody gone mad.

[Lex]

All I want to say is that they don't hear them about us. All I want to say is that

[Drea]

they don't really care about us. Beat me, hate me, you can never break me. Will me, thrill me, you can never kill me.

[Lex]

Use me, sue me.

[Drea]

Everybody do me, kick me, don't talk like I like me.

[Lex]

All I want to say is that

[Drea]

they don't really care about us.

[Lex]

All I want to say is that

[Drea]

they don't really care about us. Oh,

[Lex]

they come of my life. I have a wife and two children who love me. I am a victim of police brutes at lie. I'm tired being the victim of hate. You gave birth and fall for God's sake. I look to heaven and fulfill his prophecy.

[Drea]

Skin hit dead hate, everybody gone bad. Trepidation, speculation. Everybody allegation on the news. Everybody dog food, black man blackmail, throw their brother in jail.

[Lex]

All I want to say is that

[Drea]

they don't really care about us.

[Lex]

We'll be free. Set my people free.

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