Hootin and Hollerin Ft. Durand Bernarr

Summary

Pour Minds Podcast – "Hootin and Hollerin Ft. Durand Bernarr"

Published: April 17, 2026 Hosts: Lex & Dre Nicole | Guest: Durand Bernarr

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Episode Overview

In this lively, unfiltered episode, Atlanta-based hosts Lex and Dre Nicole, two single Houstonians, welcome Grammy-winning artist Durand Bernarr to the Pour Minds couch. The conversation is a spirited tour through creativity, Black family dynamics, self-expression, fame, music industry realities, pop culture, and hilarious personal anecdotes—all while sipping cocktails and riffing on the edges of art, therapy, and "drunk therapy." The trio dives into the nuanced intersections of confidence, upbringing, authenticity, generational differences, style (and lack thereof), personal boundaries, and the importance of community and self-care.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Durand Bernarr’s Grammy Win & Family Support

• Grammy Moment: Durand describes being shocked at the win, initially expecting to congratulate someone else ([06:53]).
  • Quote: "I was already preparing my body and my position in the theater to congratulate someone else. Wow. So it was like, wait, it's not Bullo, it's Bloom." — Dre Nicole ([06:53])
• Family and Identity: Durand discusses being raised as an only child and homeschooled, with parents who were both deeply involved in music.
  • Quote: “My mom was a vocal coach and my dad was a sound engineer…having that kind of support did fuel and motivate my confidence within myself…” — Durand ([09:23])
• Supportive Parenting: All agree having older, progressive, and artistic parents fostered their confidence and strong sense of identity.

2. Individuality, Self-Expression, and Representation

• Dealing with Being "Too Much": Durand and Drea relate to being told as kids to "calm down" or "relax," but ultimately double down on authenticity ([08:00]).
  • Quote: "I was fine as myself when I was in the house... There were always people that had their own idea and projection of how I should conduct myself, and I'm just an expressive, eccentric, theatrical, flamboyant iteration of my mother." — Durand ([08:00])
• Prince Comparisons: Durand often gets compared to Prince for style and stage energy, but clarifies his inspirations draw from Little Richard and Rick James, not just Prince ([13:04]).
  • Quote: "I get those isms from Little Richard. I get those isms from Rick James…Visually they see Prince, but vocally, absolutely Rick James…" — Durand ([13:04])
• Being Yourself Publicly: Durand recalls how performing on NPR’s Tiny Desk Concert was a turning point for exposure ([15:14]).

3. Generational Views on Family, Relationships, and Parenting

• Stereotypes about Black Families: The group pushes back against the trope that non-traditional views come from broken homes.
  • Quote: "It has nothing to do with my parents because I'm a grown ass woman who formed my own opinions…but people just love to believe you have certain views because you didn't have a father in the home." — Lex ([19:03])
• Experience Shapes Perspective: Emphasis on learning through one’s own life journey rather than just parental example ([19:28]).

4. Discipline, Cycles of Trauma, and Changing Black Parenting

• Corporal Punishment: Deep discussion about spanking/whuppings, generational trauma, and the roots of corporal punishment in slavery ([33:06], [35:36]).
  • Quote: “If you can’t find healthy ways to communicate with an underdeveloped brain that is outside of physical abuse or punishment, you’re not fit to be a parent.” — Dre Nicole ([33:44])
  • Quote: "Beating a Black child is one of the whitest things you can do…it never came from us. That was something that was given to us [in slavery], and we still doing it.” — Dre Nicole ([35:36])
• Children’s Rights Advocacy: Strong advocacy for alternative, respectful, and trauma-aware parenting ([38:31]).

5. Music Industry Realities: Background vs. Center Stage

• Starting Out as a Background Singer: Durand stresses the duality learned from ensemble work: both blending in and standing out are valuable skills ([39:14]).
• Ego Check: There’s pride in being able to switch between supporting others and leading ([40:10]).
• Audition Stories: Durand shares transparent stories about Broadway auditions, success, and the realities of a performer's schedule ([40:49]).

6. Fame, Style, and Authenticity

• Fashion & Red Carpets: Conversations about how wealth doesn't always translate into taste, and the pitfalls of "label-chasing" ([57:23]).
  • Quote: "You could pay for school, but you can’t buy class." — Lex, quoting Jay-Z ([69:07])
  • Quote: "Just because you got money, doesn’t mean you have style… Some people need to hire a stylist, period." — Lex ([69:39])
• Personal Style v. Trends: Social media exacerbates sameness; "everybody got the same shoe, the same bag, the same ass" ([70:01]).
• Delegating & Teamwork in Professional & Creative Life: It's necessary to bring in people better than yourself and build a dream team ([71:13], [77:27]).
  • Quote: "Having a team is important…you need to pay them to do what they’re good at so you can do what you’re good at.” — Lex ([78:43])

7. Navigating Public and Private Life

• Protecting Intimate Relationships: Durand is deliberate about what to share, noting that keeping love life private is about preserving peace ([80:56]).
  • Quote: "I don't need a critique on who I love and who I'm building with…I have given so much of myself. If you want to know about certain things, I might put it in the music." — Durand ([80:56])

8. Hilarious Music Shenanigans

• Game: Lead vs. Background Singer Battle: The trio sings and riffs on classic R&B; a highlight is the Alicia Keys “Diary” group singalong ([42:51]), SWV’s “Weak” ([43:45]), and “Can You Stand The Rain” ([44:59]).
• 90s/00s R&B deep cuts: Nostalgic hilarity as they reminisce on 90s vocal stylings, samples, and how some artists can’t really sing ([87:00]).
  • Quote: “Britney Spears owes her whole career to T-Boz…” — Dre Nicole ([87:35])

9. Sexuality & Body Positivity

• "Catching Prints" & Moose Knuckle: A raunchy, comedic conversation about visible genital outlines in clothing and gender double standards ([102:05]).
• Circumcision: Durand and Drea advocate against routine circumcision, describing it as unnecessary cosmetic surgery ([127:33]).

10. Community, Language, and Respect

• Terms and Respect in LGBTQ+ Spaces: In-depth breakdown of appropriated language and respect for boundaries, explaining why terms like "punk" are slurs ([134:12]).
  • Quote: "Punk, sassy, zesty...all those words are f*ggot with a silencer on it. Y’all are not slick." — Dre Nicole ([134:27])
• Respect for Other Generations: Millennials’ reverence for elders contrasted with Gen Z’s approach to respect, and why respect needs to go both ways ([32:16]).

11. Advice Segment: Letting Love In After Hurt

• Listener Letter: A 28-year-old gay man asks how to open up after heartbreak ([132:24]).
  • Quote: "Does the fact that motherfuckers don’t know how to drive keep you from being on the road?" — Dre Nicole ([132:24])
  • Key Insight: Don’t let others’ inability to love keep you from seeking love. Let people show you who they are, and don’t internalize incompatibility as inadequacy.

12. Random Gold

• Vocal Health Tips: Durand shares secrets for fresh breath—“get you some tongue gel and a tongue brush” ([47:01]).
• Storytime: Hilarious tales about run-ins with celebrities, red carpet etiquette, and day-to-day realness ([22:41], [53:15]).

13. Bop of the Week

• Music Shares: Lex chooses “Mango Butter” by Durand Bernarr ([119:14]), Dre Nicole picks “90s Aquarium” by Bone Chic ([120:12]), Duran picks Fetty Wap’s “Xavier” ([117:52]).

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments (with Timestamps)

• On being yourself against external pressures:
  "To play me is to play yourself." — Dre Nicole ([14:09])

• On Black parenting and respect:
  "Just because you old don't mean you wise. Just cause you old don't mean you can’t get your ass beat." — Dre Nicole ([32:22])

• On corporal punishment's origins:
  "Beating a Black child is one of the whitest things you can do...It was something that was given to us." — Dre Nicole ([35:36])

• On teamwork:
  "You don’t have to do everything by yourself. There are people who can pick up that stack and see where we can’t see. It's about finding that synergy, that dream team." — Dre Nicole ([71:48])

• On style:
  "You could pay for school, but you can’t buy class" — Lex ([69:07])

• On leading with authenticity:
  "I give so much of myself through my art... I don’t mind an opinion and critique of that… I don't need a critique on who I love." — Durand Bernard ([80:56])

• On why you should try love again:
  “Does the fact that motherfuckers don’t know how to drive keep you from being on the road?” — Dre Nicole ([132:24])

• On Black women and rest:
  “There’s a nice collective of Black women taking your rest. We don’t need to be on the front lines. Get somebody else to do it." — Dre Nicole ([85:27])

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [06:53] — Durand’s Grammy win feelings
• [13:04], [14:09] — Prince, Rick James, and performance isms
• [19:03]–[19:24] — Black family structures & relationship views
• [33:06]–[38:31] — Discipline, corporal punishment, generational trauma
• [39:14] — Background singing and confidence
• [45:03]–[46:20] — “Can You Stand the Rain” background vocal fun
• [57:23]–[72:32] — Fashion/style, personal vs commercial taste, and teamwork
• [102:05]–[105:45] — Print, moose knuckle, and body positivity
• [127:33] — Circumcision as cosmetic surgery
• [132:24] — Listener advice: Love after heartbreak
• [134:12] — Terms and language in the LGBTQ+ community
• [119:14] — “Bop of the Week” segment

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Final Thoughts

This episode is a rollercoaster of laughter, realness, and affirmation. Pour Minds “Hootin and Hollerin” takes on the big stuff—identity, community, family, love—while never taking itself too seriously. With bold musical interludes, deep dives into Black familial and personal history, and sharp critique of everything from slurs to Saks Fifth Avenue, Drea, Lex, and Durand leave you with a powerful reminder to love yourself loudly, do what you do best, and not take no mess, no matter who’s watching.

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Listen to the full episode for all the candid jokes, stories, and infectious energy.

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[Dre Nicole]

is unnecessary cosmetic surgery.

[Duran Bernard]

I do agree with you on that, but if I was a baby, I would have got my BBC. Excuse me. In that moment, like, how did that feel?

[Dre Nicole]

I was already preparing my body to congratulate someone else.

[Duran Bernard]

Wow. How do you feel when people compare you to Prince?

[Dre Nicole]

To play me is to play yourself.

[Lex]

Exactly.

[Dre Nicole]

May I get another play?

[Duran Bernard]

Come on now, we about to have fun.

[Lex]

Do you feel like you're NPR?

[Dre Nicole]

Yes.

[Duran Bernard]

Correct me if I'm wrong.

[Dre Nicole]

You're wrong. 25 is when your brain fucking be 12 this year.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, Abigail, you'll be 10.

[Dre Nicole]

Wonderful.

[Lex]

I used to get whoopings all the time for like talking during class.

[Dre Nicole]

Now you on the podcast.

[Lex]

Hey, I love how every time you about to say some shit, you be like,

[Duran Bernard]

they all got the same shoe, they all got the same bag, they

[Dre Nicole]

all got the same ass.

[Duran Bernard]

Now why am I in it?

[Dre Nicole]

A lot of these niggas be ugly as and they think just pumping iron that's going to make this the I got to look at you ain't but so much hitting it from the back we gonna do who can't sing to you child. That is my shit.

[Duran Bernard]

Uh oh.

[Dre Nicole]

Remember that girl that lost her wig?

[Duran Bernard]

I won't tell. I won't tell your secrets.

[Dre Nicole]

For her to not have no music and for her to start it, I'm like, okay, sis, I see you.

[Lex]

Brit smells phenomenal because you was real close.

[Duran Bernard]

What's up, y'? All?

[Lex]

It's your girl Lex and It's your girl, Dre Nicole.

[Duran Bernard]

And you are tuned in to an

[Lex]

episode of Poor Minds, where a drunk mind speaks sober thought.

[Duran Bernard]

We got a guest today.

[Lex]

We got a guest today.

[Dre Nicole]

We got a guest today.

[Duran Bernard]

The whole Is Holland has already started, y'. All. Can we hear it, Brittany? I'm so excited, y'.

[Dre Nicole]

All.

[Duran Bernard]

Because again, y' all go look at the comments. Y' all been blowing us up for this for a long time. So. So you ask and we deliver. We have singer, songwriter, producer, dj, you know, hooting and hollering. Connoisseur. You know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

The howler to the hooting and the.

[Duran Bernard]

All right, y'. All, we got the Rev I in the building.

[Dre Nicole]

Grammy Award winner.

[Duran Bernard]

Grammy Award.

[Lex]

Don't win the Grammy.

[Duran Bernard]

Don't forget the Grammy.

[Lex]

Don't forget the Grammy.

[Duran Bernard]

Let me ask you something. Cause you got a Grammy. Mm. Like, that's not. That's a big deal in that moment, like, we know you're the meme running it, but in that moment, like, how did that feel?

[Dre Nicole]

I really was just for a split second of disbelief. Cause I was already preparing my body and my position in the theater to congratulate someone else. Wow. So it was like, wait, it's not Bullo, It's Bloom.

[Duran Bernard]

Right? But that's all right. You understood.

[Dre Nicole]

Listen when I tell you my toes was like this in the Mules. Cause I didn't want. I was like, do not let me fall. If I fall, it's a. But hey, I'm a still tumble and get up. Cause I know how to do this. Yay.

[Lex]

Award Grammy winning.

[Dre Nicole]

Very much. Very much.

[Duran Bernard]

That's what I'm saying now. You know, I feel like you have such a distinctive personality. You have a distinctive voice. How was it like growing up? Cause I know. Cause I used to get this a lot, too. So I couldn't wait to ask you this question. Because did you get a lot of people being like, oh, you need to calm down. You need to just like, relax a little bit. Like, how did you deal with that? And being like, you know what? I'mma be myself.

[Dre Nicole]

What's interesting is I was fine as myself when I was in the house. It wasn't until I stepped outside in certain parameters of my neighborhood, where it was an issue for some other little ashy little boy who wanted to push me or pick with me or somebody's mom telling me, well, you need to stop all that honey child stuff and this, that, and the third, you know, so there were always people that had their own idea and Projection of who they felt, how I should conduct myself, when I'm just a very expressive, eccentric, theatrical, flamboyant iteration of my mother. Because she's homeschooling me and I'm an only child.

[Duran Bernard]

Right. Oh, wow. I didn't know that.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, yes. My parents are only baby. Listen. Where else are they gonna dedicate all that time?

[Lex]

All that energy and all that time?

[Dre Nicole]

What were you supposed to do after me?

[Duran Bernard]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

Tell her I am the headliner.

[Duran Bernard]

I feel like you came out, like, wow, listen. Just like that.

[Dre Nicole]

Listen, listen. Her afterbirth was curtains and lights.

[Duran Bernard]

Hello.

[Dre Nicole]

You know, just the whole production.

[Lex]

Right.

[Duran Bernard]

You are funny.

[Lex]

So do you feel like. Because your mom was a vocal coach and your dad was a sound engineer, so being that your parents were both in the music industry and you grew up in that environment, do you think that that has a lot to do with the fact that, like, they supported you so much in your career?

[Dre Nicole]

Yes. I think it's easier when you have parents that are doing the thing that you. You would like to do. I didn't want. I didn't know what I wanted to do up until 16.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

But I. It was always around. And having that kind of support did fuel and motivate my. My confidence within myself. You know, even with not knowing all the time, still having the curiosity and the mindset to learn has always kept me.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, I love that.

[Lex]

And your mom was working with some big names. Cause she used to work with Earth, Wind, and Fire.

[Dre Nicole]

Right. So Pops was the one that was the artist.

[Lex]

It was your dad.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, yeah. Mom was the vocal coach and the piano teacher. She taught public school. I'm sorry, Music. In public schools for, like, 20 years before I was born.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. So she was 41 when she had me.

[Duran Bernard]

Really? Okay.

[Lex]

Period. My parents were a little older, too. Cause I'm adopted, so my parents were older when they adopted me, and I was the only child. I just feel like you have a different upbringing and a different appreciation for, like, good music, too, when your parents are significantly older than you.

[Dre Nicole]

Absolutely. When you have boomers as parents. And I will say that they are a very progressive pair of boomers.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Because talking about 1948. 1947. 1958.

[Lex]

My mom was born in 1949.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Yeah. So it's. You have, like, the best of both worlds, at least with them, because they came up in a time where they knew life before the Internet. So I've been on the Internet for, like, 30 years, you know, but they never bucked technology. They were, you know, the first four years of my life were documented, which is why when my therapist asked me to write out from the very first memory that I have up until right now, and I said, well, that's gonna be challenging because I don't know what memories are genuinely mine and what I've had access to all my life. So, like, my first. My first. My first. What was that? My first words. My first couple birthdays, like my, you know, Christmases, like, things like that. I've had access to that. So, yeah.

[Lex]

So your parents. Was them parents that was recording everything with the camcorder.

[Duran Bernard]

I love that, though, to look back on. So let me ask you this. Being that, you know, you grew up having great music tastes around you, being around these great artists. Cause I know you've been seeing it. How do you feel when people compare you to Prince? Cause that's a lot.

[Dre Nicole]

I think, first and foremost, love Prince. Wasn't able to listen to him when I was, you know, I was growing up, though, so that was out. But as an adult, I was able to.

[Duran Bernard]

Why weren't you able to?

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, Sherlyn was not having that.

[Duran Bernard]

It was.

[Dre Nicole]

No, Sherlyn got saved three years before I was born, baby. Fending for the Lord.

[Lex]

Okay. It's a little explicit controversy.

[Dre Nicole]

More like celebrate good times. Come on. We can do that.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah. Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

You know, but not, not. Not Prince. I think the reason that they compare me to him is because of similar mannerisms and the fact that we are smaller in stature. Even though people think that I'm six foot, which is hilarious.

[Duran Bernard]

Really?

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. I'm five, eight. A petite six. Five. With my clothes off, though.

[Lex]

Exactly.

[Dre Nicole]

Period.

[Duran Bernard]

I know.

[Dre Nicole]

Anyway.

[Lex]

Hello.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm weak.

[Dre Nicole]

Wait, what was I saying?

[Duran Bernard]

You were talking about how my comparison.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes, that. So it's because of how we express ourselves. You know, my mic is on our eyes and whatnot. But what people don't understand is I get that isms from Little Richard. I get those isms from Little Richard. I get those isms from Rick James. And Prince opened up for Rick James. When we're talking about vocally, like, you listen to me and you listen to Rick James, like, absolutely. She's a very freaky girl. The kind you don't break out. Mother.

[Lex]

That was a hit.

[Duran Bernard]

Nah, I see it.

[Dre Nicole]

You know what I'm saying? When you hear it. But. But visually, they see Prince. They see the little. They see me wearing ass Japs. You know, the assless Japs. You ain't wearing assless jobs.

[Duran Bernard]

I was like, look at that. They see me.

[Dre Nicole]

They Want me to play the violin?

[Duran Bernard]

They want you to do that.

[Dre Nicole]

But if I could do Little Richard, if I could do Rick James, that's. Vocally, that's where I sit. But mannerism wise, more so. They're like. That's Prince. Very much the deep speaking voice. You know, I don't. You. To play me is to play yourself.

[Lex]

Exactly.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't use Melodyne or auto tune. You know, my mic is on always. You know, all of that. So, you know, I see it. So I take it as a compliment. However, I know who I am at the core. You know, I am a continuation of all those things. But I have my own identity.

[Duran Bernard]

I love that.

[Lex]

Do you feel like you're NPR Tiny Dick?

[Dre Nicole]

Yes. Wait, I'm sorry, what was it?

[Lex]

Do you feel like that's what catapulted you and made you more mainstream? Because I truly believe it is such an art to be able to sound just like your music, just like your audio in real life. And you literally sound the same. Like, especially these days for a lot of artists. They don't sound the same.

[Duran Bernard]

They're studio singers.

[Lex]

Yeah, they're studio singers. You literally sound so amazing live. And your tiny desk went crazy. So do you feel like that's what, like, really catapulted your career because you had been making music for a really long time before that?

[Dre Nicole]

Putting out music since 2009?

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Not on DSP via band camp, but yes. Shout out to Bandcamp, period.

[Duran Bernard]

I remember Bandcamp.

[Dre Nicole]

I do believe that. Yeah. Tiny Desk was the moment in my career where I had to, like, if we were. If I was in a seat, I had to. I already had the. Over the lap restraint, but now we got to cross the chest. Now we gotta have security.

[Lex]

Yeah, yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

So it's like. Yeah, that's actually. Yeah, I would say tiny desk definitely was. That was that moment.

[Duran Bernard]

I mean, it was everywhere. It was getting clipped. And I think a lot of times you were introduced to people who had never. You know, people are still shocked to see somebody just living in their truth, being who they are being. Because I'm not gonna lie, you know, I like to get a little messy now. That drink done hit me. Because the people were so in shock that you have a father that was active. That was a whole conversation.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh.

[Duran Bernard]

They were like, oh, where's his dad? And he's right there being supportive like a dad.

[Dre Nicole]

I said this in a video. Cause a girl quoted my picture of me and my dad at the Grammys, and she said, he got a father and a Grammy, I know the homophobe's extra hot. And I was like, sis, you took my breath away. Because, yes, that's a fact. Absolute fucking lutely. Like, these niggas absolutely went out they way, took the scenic route to get over to my side of the conversation where I am on Gullah.

[Duran Bernard]

Gullah island, having a good time.

[Dre Nicole]

And they just knew that there was no father in the household.

[Lex]

Hey, I mean, we understand it as well, because people say that type of stuff, too in the comments all the time about us. And like, I grew up in a two parent household.

[Duran Bernard]

Would they be right about me?

[Dre Nicole]

They'd be right. She said, listen, listen, a broken clock, right?

[Lex]

Sometimes.

[Duran Bernard]

Sometimes.

[Lex]

Sometimes it's right.

[Duran Bernard]

That's all right.

[Lex]

But, you know, that's only half of the show. And so with me, I grew up in a two parent household, and people just love to believe that you have a lot of the ideologies that you. And the views on relationships and dating that you have because you didn't have a father in the home or. I have these views because of my own experience.

[Dre Nicole]

Of my own experience.

[Lex]

And because they don't make niggas like my dad no more.

[Dre Nicole]

Babe, let me tell you something. If we were waiting on men that were like my father, I would. Ugh.

[Lex]

Hello.

[Dre Nicole]

Y' all be waiting forever. And I hate that for y', all, because y'. All. That's a. That's a man right there. You talking about somebody that genuinely loves his family. Like, he prioritizes his own comfort and his own peace of mind to make sure that we are taking care of. Care of. I'm telling you, it's like you brought me here and I didn't ask to be here. You better. You goddamn right. You better rearrange and modify your life to accommodate me. I better be extra comfortable.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm telling you seriously, because parents, a lot of times parents think that they're doing their children a favor just by bringing them here, and you're not. A lot of them aren't even equipped.

[Lex]

Hey.

[Dre Nicole]

And you want to involve them in your. That's why I said, I'm so grateful that my parents waited until the time that they did have to have me to involve me in they shit.

[Duran Bernard]

Love it.

[Lex]

Hello?

[Dre Nicole]

Even though Sherlyn said, had she had me any earlier, I'd be out here looking crazy. What is this?

[Duran Bernard]

She still. But it's amazing.

[Lex]

Yeah. I don't know. And I just think it's crazy, too, because. Are we losing sight of the fact that parents can raise their Children however they want to raise them. But when you become an adult, you're going to form your own opinions and you going to live your life how you see fit. Why does it always have to be assumed that the parents didn't weren't in the household because you grew up to be gay or because I grew up to have certain views. Because I, when I was younger, I didn't used to believe in monogamy. I mean, not monogamy. I didn't used to believe in marriage when I was younger. And I used to talk about it on this show all the time. And people used to be like, well, that's crazy. She must not have had a dad in the house. My parents were married my whole life.

[Dre Nicole]

My parents are still married.

[Lex]

Hello.

[Dre Nicole]

And I. And I'm not. I don't know if marriage is for me.

[Duran Bernard]

Right.

[Lex]

Same. And I still sometimes feel that way. But it has nothing to do with my parents because I'm a grown ass woman who has formed my own opinions and my own views based off of things that I went through in life and things that I've seen. I don't have to do things the way my parents do it.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, agreed. I think people like to minimize life experience.

[Lex]

They do.

[Duran Bernard]

And what we go through just in the dating world, not even just dating, having friends or whatever your opinion may be, it's like your parents can only do so much. Cause you do have to go out and live in the real world by yourself. You do. So I do want to ask you about them all. Look now, I told you, you know, I'm the missy. Mm.

[Dre Nicole]

May I get another, please?

[Duran Bernard]

Come on now, we about to have fun. Go ahead, pull it up. I love a hootin hawk. I can be loud this whole episode and nobody can tell me nothing. See? Can you teach me how to do that? Can you teach me how to do that?

[Dre Nicole]

I was just waiting. I was just waiting.

[Duran Bernard]

Before I get to the messy question, do you think people can learn how to sing? Like you can teach someone how to.

[Dre Nicole]

As Stevie Mackey said, anyone can learn how to sing. I think I'm ready. The art of singing is just finding the note. But I think when we're talking about being a singer, that's different. Like, can you learn how to dance? Can you learn how to step? Absolutely. You can learn how to step. Now can you dance? Can you do some Alvin Ailey and a plie and all that? Maybe not. So it just depends.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Just like how I can cook. I can put eggs in the skillet. Right. Shake it up.

[Lex]

Yeah. Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm not a chef.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Duran Bernard]

All right.

[Dre Nicole]

That makes sense.

[Duran Bernard]

Can you teach me how to sing?

[Dre Nicole]

We can probably. I probably could. I probably could at least help you. I wanna. I would. I would like to hear what.

[Duran Bernard]

See, I got a little song.

[Dre Nicole]

She got it. She got it. She got it.

[Duran Bernard]

Thank you.

[Dre Nicole]

I feel like she might be second alto.

[Duran Bernard]

Thank God. I. My validation. A Grammy Award winning artist told me, I got something. You can teach me something.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, we gonna get something together.

[Lex]

And then I think it just takes a little bit of training. Like, all of the greats had a little bit of.

[Duran Bernard]

I would love one.

[Dre Nicole]

Had teachers. Okay, I'm ready.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm ready.

[Lex]

Right?

[Duran Bernard]

Okay. So back to what I was saying. Back to what I was saying.

[Wheezy]

Yes.

[Duran Bernard]

Cause you on the red carpets, you're doing. And I love that you go in these spaces and you are yourself. And I think you don't understand how much like people relate to you. Cause you know what I'm about to ask? Huh? Yes. You are hooting and hollering so bad. Cause I felt this before. I did this before. What? He was hooting, hollering on the red carpet so bad. Lin Whitfield turns around and says, hey.

[Lex]

Oh, I remember that. I thought it was fun.

[Duran Bernard]

Hey.

[Dre Nicole]

So real quick. Which is funny because I ain't saying Muffin man since. So

[Lex]

he said, put that shit in the dirt.

[Dre Nicole]

This young lady walked up to me. Mind you, I'm in the cut. I be trying to be inconsistent when I go out. Genuinely. Like, I'd be trying to be in the cut. But she came up to me and was like, I just had a question. Do you know the Muffin Man? I said, no, baby, he passed. You didn't hear? He did. He went on to glory. Yes, I'm trying. I did. No, seriously. So here's what happened. You know, the girls be getting excited when they see me. And of course, they done started that. The sisters of Alera, they're the ones who. Who did that. Songs of a Lair, My bad. And the Leah, bless her heart. How you doing? She up here getting excited. As soon as she see me. It's two theater kids seeing each other.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

And I'm trying to keep it cute. I said, do you know. Okay, keep it low like that. And then she kept going.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes, I know. Yes, I know. Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Like. And I'm the closest to Lynn.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, my God.

[Dre Nicole]

So she said, excuse me. And as soon as she said, I

[Lex]

said, oh, y' all was. Y' all was gagged. I was like.

[Dre Nicole]

I was no, you have to understand how. How much I lived for that moment. Truly, like, and utterly. Because you rarely get to see millennials and boomers interact genuinely. Not on screen, not on script, but genuinely. And we respect her.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

You know what I'm saying? That is absolutely auntie. That's our mother, that's our grandmother. You know what I'm saying? So it's like there's absolutely a respect for that. And she wasn't disrespectful at all. And of course she's like, it's the POVs. It's her POVs.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

Human beings are so complex.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes, I know.

[Dre Nicole]

Y' all was hilarious. Like, I love that moment. And then later that night, I saw her and had her cracking up yet again.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, good.

[Lex]

If it's a picture in the dictionary hooting and hollering next to it, it would have been that moment.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes.

[Lex]

That's the definition.

[Duran Bernard]

Excuse me. Handle your interview over here. You handled it so well. Cause I'm not gonna lie with the influencers and the girls and the.

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[Duran Bernard]

That's innerbalance.com actors and actresses and singers these days, they would've been like badina, huh? They would have been disrespectful first and

[Dre Nicole]

foremost if it was never known or realized in that moment. Specifically me and Lee, of course, we are all just children. Yeah, we are all children operating these adult bodies seriously and truly. Like, we're not our brain legally. There's adulthood and then there is biologically. 25 is when your brain fucking forms and fuses up. Okay, so technically

[Duran Bernard]

then we should be growing.

[Dre Nicole]

I got 12 years of adult life experience.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, I see what you're saying.

[Lex]

Uh huh.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

So 25 is when we really start and we're developing.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh.

[Dre Nicole]

So how old is your we the same age then? 25? Yeah. 88.

[Duran Bernard]

I'll be 12 this year. Happy birthday. Ho, Africa.

[Lex]

You'll be 10.

[Dre Nicole]

You'll be 10. Wonderful.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, I like that.

[Dre Nicole]

So we have to really tap in with our inner children too.

[Lex]

You right? And I mean, and also too, when it comes to these new influencers like Gen Z and stuff, they don't even be knowing who our legends are half the time. They be thinking Busta Rhymes is Tracey Morris.

[Dre Nicole]

What was that? What was that? Who was that one?

[Duran Bernard]

They knew.

[Dre Nicole]

What was that one? That's talking about some as an up and coming actor who.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, God, he was talking to Delroy.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm sorry, I said up and coming.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, when he said up and coming, I. I couldn't finish the clip till this day. I didn't finish the clip because I. To this day, this is more funny. Yeah, Let me take a sip.

[Lex]

I'm telling you, it's crazy.

[Dre Nicole]

But him too.

[Lex]

Yes, it's crazy.

[Dre Nicole]

He said, I'm not gonna wrap it up.

[Duran Bernard]

He said up and coming.

[Dre Nicole]

Up and coming is don't play with

[Lex]

Me, he, like, all my life, I had to fight.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm telling you, up and coming. Up and coming is crazy. But I think that it's a certain level of respect that we as millennials have that like, I wish the new generation would learn. And I hate to say that. Cause I sound like an auntie, and I am auntie, but.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, you also have to consider that there are a lot of us now that are not taking disrespect, okay. From some of our elders. And I'll say this, a lot of times, when you have people reiterating over and over how grown they are, that's a wounded child. That's a wounded child that was not heard, that had to fight for attention or didn't get any at all. And so now that they have a voice, they're like, you're not gonna treat me like that. I'm going, I'm grown. It's like anybody that's an adult doesn't have to iterate it. But we're only 12 and announce it. We are. We are. I've never said I was grown. I'm growing.

[Duran Bernard]

All right?

[Dre Nicole]

What auntie say? Whatever's not growing is dead. Hey, so when they say you're grown, I said, oh, yeah, you know what that means, right? Grown means something that's reached its full potential and they got nowhere else to go. Is this it? Is this as good as this going to be? Cause I'm not impressed.

[Duran Bernard]

All right, now that's a good point. That is a great way to.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm always growing.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex]

I don't know. Respect was just different with our generation. Like he said. I mean, I think a lot of the time these days, people be feeling like they gotta put their foot down. Like, oh, no, you're not about to disrespect me or you're not about to play me to the point that these kids just don't have no respect for the elders no more.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, the elders gotta be respectful too. Just because you owe don't mean that you are garnered respect. And just because you old don't mean that you wise.

[Lex]

Just cause you old don't mean you

[Dre Nicole]

can't get your ass to that part.

[Duran Bernard]

Seriously now, Dre, why you got.

[Dre Nicole]

And speaking of that, I'm all for children whooping their parents ass. Yes, I said it. Yes, I am.

[Lex]

I ain't mad at that.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes, I am. Put your hands on. No, no, no, no, no, no. Because children are the most underprivileged people, period. They are most unprotected okay, I'm not. There are literally states that say you can beat your child's ass legally.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, maybe. Cause I'm thinking about my nephews.

[Dre Nicole]

My sister.

[Duran Bernard]

Don't whoop them, though.

[Lex]

I think if your parents are beating you, like physically abusing, you gotta fight back. You can put your foot up they ass.

[Duran Bernard]

All right.

[Dre Nicole]

No, no. But anything. If you pop me, you get popped back.

[Duran Bernard]

Ooh.

[Lex]

Oh, well, not a pop.

[Dre Nicole]

No. Yes, a pop. Any kind of physical anything.

[Lex]

So you didn't get popped growing up?

[Dre Nicole]

I didn't say I didn't get popped, but I also didn't deserve any of that.

[Lex]

I don't.

[Dre Nicole]

You look like cutting up a little bit.

[Duran Bernard]

But I get what he's saying.

[Lex]

When he don't deserve.

[Dre Nicole]

When I tell you the actual punishment versus what was actually going on was never that necessary. When you have someone in the house whose presence, their presence alone is intimidating. I agree with you. You don't have to put your hands on me. See, my inner child is in the driver's seat right now. I'm very turned about parents who say they put their hands on kids because I was a child. I remember it very vividly.

[Duran Bernard]

Same.

[Dre Nicole]

And it's not okay. It's never been okay.

[Duran Bernard]

No, I will.

[Dre Nicole]

And if you. Hold on.

[Duran Bernard]

Go ahead.

[Dre Nicole]

And if you can't find healthy ways to communicate with an underdeveloped brain that is outside of physical abuse or any kind of physical punishment, then you're not fit to be a parent. Yeah, you need to regulate your emotions because you want somebody with an underdeveloped brain to regulate their emotions, and you can't even regulate yours. And yet if you. And if. Yet if you put your hands on another adult, that's assault. I'm telling you, you will go to jail. So why is it that you can't go to jail for a child? Because children aren't even viewed as people.

[Lex]

And let's chat about it. Because a lot of parents that raise their children, they raised them, but they wasn't equipped to be parents.

[Dre Nicole]

That part.

[Duran Bernard]

That's why they weren't always pro choice. But I will say now I do agree with you because my not.

[Lex]

They should have got rid of them leaks.

[Dre Nicole]

No, no. Some of that lineage should have stopped with them.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, some of that lineage should have stopped.

[Dre Nicole]

It should have just stopped. It should have stopped with you. You continuing some bullshit. You're continuing liability instead of an asset.

[Duran Bernard]

So I'm kind of like in between on it because I don't have kids, but I do have nephews. My sister doesn't spank my nephews. And, you know, my oldest nephew, he's well behaved. He does the youngest one. Y' all know how the youngest kids are. They muck and run crazy. But when I think about, like, the whoopings I got growing up, do I think it affected me? No. But I will say it was one whooping that I got from somebody in the family. I'll say that. Cause I don't. Cause people watch the show.

[Lex]

But it wasn't your mom, though.

[Duran Bernard]

No, it wasn't my mom. And it was with a switch. I had to go. Y' all remember that? You had to go pick the switch. Now, when I think of instances like that, what in the fuck are you doing hitting somebody with a stick with thorns on it?

[Dre Nicole]

Well, you know, that's. Well, I was abused.

[Duran Bernard]

I am a victim.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Well, it's sexual. It's sexualized violence.

[Duran Bernard]

Now, hold on.

[Dre Nicole]

Wait a minute. Oh, yeah. See, what happens is. And this was someone, Stacy, Stacey Patton, I do believe she did a book called Spanking Kids Won't Save America. Something like Spanking Black Kids Won't Save America. But she said that beating a black child is one of the widest things that you can do. It is one of the widest things that you can do to a black child.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

And she was also talking about the. The. What is the study of something like going all the way back to its origins. Corporate punishment never was with us.

[Duran Bernard]

Right.

[Dre Nicole]

That never came from us. That was something that was given to us.

[Duran Bernard]

Right.

[Dre Nicole]

And yet we're still. And we're still doing it.

[Duran Bernard]

It's embedded in us.

[Dre Nicole]

And if you. But it. But her question was. Oh, also, the whole thing about sexualized violence is when you are spanking a someone on. On the. On the butt, it is also activating all of these other nerve endings in your genitals. So you're experiencing. Your body doesn't know how. As a child, your body doesn't know how to distinguish the pain from the pleasure. And so you're discovering what this is doing to your body. And so now I'm in the shower thinking, like, wait a minute, is that why I like to get my ass slapped? Like, what's going on? Or like. Or why people like to get choked? There's certain things that implement itself into our sex lives because of the things that we experience as children. But that's why it's like. It's not. It's not healthy. Yeah, it's not.

[Lex]

Damn.

[Duran Bernard]

I never looked at it like that.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm not being.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm gonna send you the link to the book.

[Lex]

Yes. Send it to us. Because that is a really good point, though, when you think about, like, where did beating, spankings, all of these things being punishment, come from? Slavery.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, it definitely did. And I'm not trying to be funny. I do enjoy being spanked.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, I'm a little spanking.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Little consensual.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah. But I mean, I think that's a good point to make, though, because I do feel like if I ever do decide to have kids, I'm gonna take the route that my sister's like, I'm not doing things because it is a thin line. Cause sometimes people are like, oh, y' all are soft. Y' all don't understand. And this and xyz. But I do think there is a line.

[Dre Nicole]

And you're soft because you don't want bruises.

[Duran Bernard]

Right.

[Dre Nicole]

You're soft because you don't want your flesh to be torn.

[Duran Bernard]

Right? Yeah. And I think that's a good point that you made. Sometimes your presence is intimidating.

[Dre Nicole]

It is a parent's disappointment. Should be enough to make your knees weaken.

[Lex]

And also, just looking back on it and thinking about when we were getting whoopings when we were kids, what the fuck did that really do, though? In the moment, you was crying, you was hurt, and then you was like, okay, I'm not gonna do this again next week. You at school doing the same shit. I used to get whoopings all the time for, like, talking during class and stuff. And then I would do it again the next week.

[Dre Nicole]

You wanna call?

[Duran Bernard]

So should I have really even been

[Lex]

getting punished for it in the first place? Cause not my mama reaping the benefits.

[Dre Nicole]

That part. That part. Somebody owe somebody.

[Duran Bernard]

Reparation.

[Lex]

A little reparation.

[Duran Bernard]

I agree with you on that. I like that. Okay, this was very. I want that link now.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, yes, I got you. No, seriously, I'm very. I'm very pro children's rights.

[Lex]

Okay, so we gonna get into the first topic, which is kind of like a game. So we gonna play a game called singing in the background. And it's gon lead versus background battle. So we're going to basically sing a song. We're going to pick a song. One person is the lead singer, and the other two are the dramatic background singers trying to steal the moment. And the reason that we wanted to do this is because you started off background singing. How do you feel like you being a background singer helped with your confidence becoming the lead?

[Dre Nicole]

I was already my own artist Before I got into background. But theater is what helped sharpen my duality from being in the ensemble as well as doing your own thing. So when it's time for you to do your own thing, you work that stage back and forth. You cut up. And then when it's time for the bigger picture of things, you blend in. You lose your identity to match someone else's. So it just. It helped. It created my duality, a skill because. And also because I have my Grammy, I'm still doing background. Oh, yeah. I will never not have work.

[Duran Bernard]

Amen.

[Dre Nicole]

You know, when there's no ego involved, when you do it just because you genuinely love your art and you want to help wherever you can. Like, I will always, always be in the midst of things.

[Lex]

And that's a good point about the ego. A lot of the time, people will cut their hand off or just don't want to be a part of something just because they don't. Because they can't be the leader.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, yeah. No, it's. It doesn't. It doesn't have to be about me all the time. I can be about the bigger picture. It doesn't have to be the center. You have to step back to be able to see where I am contributing to this thing.

[Duran Bernard]

Correct me if I'm wrong. I can't.

[Dre Nicole]

You're wrong. Already wrong.

[Duran Bernard]

You made a TikTok video because somebody was like, we wanna see Duran on Broadway. We wanna see him do more. You were like, I'm trying. But it was like, so talk about that.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, yeah. No, I auditioned for Dreamgirls for Jimmy early and Chocolate Cake.

[Duran Bernard]

You've been good on that one.

[Dre Nicole]

I should upload my audition.

[Duran Bernard]

You have to.

[Dre Nicole]

But they did not call me back. And a part of me felt very relieved because if I had won this Grammy, and then I'm also about to do Dreamgirls, and I'm already all over the place. Like, I would have. I would have been exhausted to no end. Like, I already know. And that is a lifestyle. Like, that is eight shows a week.

[Lex]

That's a lot.

[Dre Nicole]

Eight shows a week. Your only off day is what, Monday?

[Duran Bernard]

Now we gotta send prayers up to our girl Meg.

[Lex]

She went to the hospital yesterday.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, who did? Who did?

[Duran Bernard]

Megan.

[Lex]

Thee, Stallion.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, no.

[Duran Bernard]

Dehydration, exhaustion. Mm. Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

It's like that kind of activity, like, that's Broadway is like the Olympics.

[Duran Bernard]

Like.

[Dre Nicole]

No, I'm sorry. Not the Olympics. The Marines of, like, theater and the theater world. Like, you. Like, you are going. Yeah. So I. In my mind, I would I would have still done it just because. For the experience. Of course. Because I've never done Broadway before. But also, Broadway isn't going anywhere.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

And I'm open to whatever makes sense. You know, what I can cram in, you know? Cause I. People need to see me. They need to see me. Absolutely.

[Lex]

I 100% agree. We do.

[Duran Bernard]

What's it called?

[Dre Nicole]

We got EGOT.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes. You gonna have an EGOT. I can feel it in my bones.

[Dre Nicole]

Ugh. Speaking of that word, I need to finish that song.

[Duran Bernard]

Ooh, I wanna hear now.

[Lex]

We got a little teaser.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, go ahead. You know, we get distracted.

[Lex]

We do, we do. And that's my fault too. Cause I asked the damn question before we got into the game.

[Duran Bernard]

That's all right, that's all right.

[Lex]

So, okay, for the first song, it's Diary. Alicia Keys. Who wanna be the lead?

[Duran Bernard]

I think we needed to skip to the chorus. So he can do the background part, right? Yeah.

[Lex]

Gotta be the lead and the other people gotta be the background.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. We can just do. We can just. Gonna do the I won't tell part. Okay, okay, okay. I won't tell, I won't tell. Your secrets, your secrets.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

See with me, I won't tell, I won't tell, I won't tell, I won't tell, I won't tell. Oh, no. Your secrets, your secrets.

[Lex]

Take it to.

[Dre Nicole]

Y' all hear that, though? Oh, y' all hear her? She was in key first two takes.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah. I get a little carried away. She did.

[Dre Nicole]

No, no, no.

[Duran Bernard]

That's right. But I get ready.

[Dre Nicole]

But for her to not have no music and for her to start it, I'm like, okay, sis, I see you.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm ready for another one.

[Lex]

So which one we gonna do next?

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, you know what? This is an easy one. Week swv. You gonna do a good background on that one? Cause do they got background for week?

[Lex]

Yeah, they do.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, they do.

[Lex]

I'm sure they do. Look, I get so weak in the knees I can hardly speak. I lose control and something takes care

[Duran Bernard]

of me in a case.

[Lex]

It feels so amazing. It's not a face. I want you to stay with me. Oh, my God.

[Duran Bernard]

I swallow my pride.

[Lex]

Your love is so sweet it knocks me right off of my feet.

[Duran Bernard]

Can it slay while you love it makes me, makes me, makes me a mood.

[Lex]

That is how them background singers be, though. They be trying to take over, telling

[Duran Bernard]

you I know my part,

[Dre Nicole]

my part.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, that was good. That was good.

[Lex]

That was good.

[Duran Bernard]

I said make the weed.

[Lex]

Yeah, that Boy, good. That was really good.

[Duran Bernard]

Which one you want to do?

[Lex]

I want to do Ready or Not. But I don't know all the lyrics. Oh, we can do can youn Stay in the Rain?

[Duran Bernard]

Okay. Okay. We gonna do the chorus. We gonna jump into the chorus.

[Lex]

We'll be the background singers this time.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay? Okay, okay. Okay. You gonna do the main part?

[Lex]

Sunny, sunny Days. Yes.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay. You gotta start it.

[Lex]

Yeah. You. Sunny days.

[Dre Nicole]

That's the chorus. Y' all doing backgrounds or. I'm doing backgrounds?

[Lex]

We doing backgrounds.

[Duran Bernard]

We gonna do backgrounds.

[Dre Nicole]

Cause I gotta do something.

[Duran Bernard]

You know what? I feel like we most even make professionals. Ooh,

[Dre Nicole]

calling HR on you.

[Lex]

Cause I need somebody who will stand

[Dre Nicole]

by me in the good times and bad times.

[Duran Bernard]

You will always.

[Dre Nicole]

Come on, Dynamic.

[Duran Bernard]

Always be right there.

[Dre Nicole]

Sunny days. Everybody loves them. Can you tell me?

[Duran Bernard]

Can you stand? Can you see these storms?

[Dre Nicole]

Will.

[Duran Bernard]

I know.

[Dre Nicole]

I know. All the days.

[Lex]

We know for sure.

[Dre Nicole]

This I know for sure.

[Duran Bernard]

Can you.

[Dre Nicole]

Can you stay in the rain?

[Duran Bernard]

I know that, right? Oh. Oh, my God. Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Can you stand? Can you stand?

[Lex]

And your breath smells phenomenal. Cause you was real close.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, my God. Thank you.

[Angela Yee]

Oh, my God.

[Duran Bernard]

So check this out. Check this out.

[Dre Nicole]

Check this out. This is what you do. This what you do. Okay. You check. You got this. It's one of the secrets. Get you some tongue gel and a tongue brush.

[Duran Bernard]

Now, I got the tongue gel.

[Dre Nicole]

Tongue gel. It breaks up. So you can either do that or use theraflu, the mouthwash, but it breaks up the white coating on your tongue. That's what smells. Not your teeth. It's your tongue.

[Lex]

Sometimes it be that rotten tooth, though.

[Dre Nicole]

It can be that rotten tooth. But for those of us that be smoking and the Backwood brothers and sisters, my God. Today, wake and bake with y'.

[Duran Bernard]

All. God. Dig it in. Bake.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay. Smoke over there.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm not gonna lie. I'm glad we brought up breath, y'. All. I went to my. I've been talking about her all. I got my teeth clean. I went to JLM Dentistry in Atlanta. It's a black, totally black dentist office.

[Dre Nicole]

I love that.

[Duran Bernard]

Nothing but black women in there. I had a ball. When I tell y', all, I was like, this gum's just swollen. Yeah, I like that. Yeah.

[Lex]

I was having a bra.

[Duran Bernard]

It was a great cleaning.

[Dre Nicole]

I love that.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, my God.

[Dre Nicole]

So, yeah, see, Black women.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes. We need more black women in the medical field. It's a lot of them already. But I'm saying we should shine the light on them. So I just. I'm Glad we brought that up. Okay. Period. Another. Yes, I know that's one. Make another one too. You ain't finna laugh.

[Dre Nicole]

One for the father, one for the son, one for the homo ghost.

[Duran Bernard]

What? Okay, can I tell a story?

[Lex]

Well, real quick.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, go ahead.

[Lex]

Speaking of the drink, Todd, what are we drinking this week? Okay, my loosey is cause we are setting up.

[Angela Yee]

This is for so for one.

[Lex]

This is for the Grammy award winning Hello Duran Bernard Baby, I've been flouncing

[Duran Bernard]

through my garden all day.

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[Lex]

be called Bloom in honor of his Grammy award winning album. And we have some tequila in there. We have some green chartreuse, which is like more of an herbal liqueur.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex]

We have a little bit of elderflower, some pineapple and some lime and just a splash of agave if you want it a little on the sweeter side and a splash of prosecco to give it some effervescence. And then because we're in our garden playing with all of these fun ingredients, we garnish this one with a blue orchid. All right, so this is the bloom just for you, mister.

[Dre Nicole]

And I got another one right up.

[Duran Bernard]

Yay.

[Lex]

Thank you, y'.

[Duran Bernard]

All. Can I just say I'm having a ball with you, too. I love when we have fun guests. Like, I'm having so much fun.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, yeah. Now y' all are. Thank you.

[Duran Bernard]

Look at the Bible story for Tell me, Tell me. Cause, like, I really wanted you to come on the show because I had to tell you. So you probably. I don't know if you remember this or not. Cause y' all follow each other, right?

[Lex]

Yes, me and him follow each other. But if you about to talk. Are you about to talk?

[Duran Bernard]

Yes, I'm about to tell him about the day. Yes. So we met you on turf.

[Lex]

I saw you a few weeks ago at that party at Molly's party. And I was like, remember me from Kev Show?

[Dre Nicole]

Yes. Yes.

[Duran Bernard]

So I have to tell you a story about that day. Okay, so we filmed Churchy, right? And your part that we were in with you, that was our one scene. It was hilarious, mind you. But before, you know, we were, like, on set, like, all day, kind of waiting around. And we were, like, in the little waiting area. And you and Dre were over there just having a key, like, having a good time. Let me tell you something. I was in the corner and I felt so bad. I was like, I wanna talk to him, but I don't feel good. I had my diaper on. I had a diaper on because I had a heavy flout and I was sick. I had fibroids and things going on. And I was so sick, child. And I remember that day. I was like, hi, I met you, too. I, like, sling your DMs. I was like, I'm so sorry. Cause I was being so mad. You didn't even open it and read it. I said, let me unsend it, bitch.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, Lord.

[Duran Bernard]

I didn't see that. But I felt so bad because I was literally in the corner, like, dying. Y' all were just over there.

[Lex]

We was having a grand old.

[Duran Bernard]

Y' all were having a ball.

[Dre Nicole]

I really hate that for y'.

[Duran Bernard]

All.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, that is just.

[Duran Bernard]

I was literally. I had a diaper on. I thought every time I got up and walked by you, I'm like, he can hear me coming. That diaper was just a crunching, Ty.

[Dre Nicole]

Not the crunch.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, Lord, help me, Jesus. But I'm better now.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm better now. You know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

So I gotta be something.

[Duran Bernard]

I was like, oh, my God. I bet he thinks I'm just, like, so nasty and so rude. Because I felt like Dre was over there, you know, talking, and y' all were just. I was just looking over there like, it's okay, sister.

[Dre Nicole]

You know? Honestly, though, if I'm being.

[Duran Bernard]

You don't remember.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't.

[Duran Bernard]

Cause that's what I Was gonna say, wait, wait, wait.

[Dre Nicole]

And when she said that me and her was keying, I said, oh, that checks out. I don't remember that either. I'm just like. You know what I'm saying? So it's just.

[Duran Bernard]

But think of how life goes by. Like, I have been cringing in that moment for years. I have been cringing in that moment and thinking about. Like, he probably thinks.

[Lex]

And he wouldn't even think about it.

[Duran Bernard]

He wouldn't even think about it.

[Lex]

He ain't remember us when I said, seen him at the party.

[Dre Nicole]

No, no, no, I remember. I remember your face well.

[Lex]

You were like, you look familiar. And I was like, from Kev's show. And you was like, oh, yeah, a lot of times.

[Dre Nicole]

So here's the thing. And this is what I've had to get adjusted to. Not adjusted, but it's still one of those things where I have to remember a lot of people know my face. They don't know me personally. And so there would be a time where if you were. If I was out and about and someone called my name, I knew it had to be somebody that I knew because you not finna say Duran, like, you know me. So when I start getting called like that by strangers, it's like, okay, bet. Like, so. And also, I don't know where I've seen certain people from. Like, I'm like, I know I've seen you. I don't know if we've met in person or we've actually met or we've just seen each other on social media or it'll be something. And I. And it's not that I've ever been fake. It's not that. Like, oh, no, I don't think I remember you. It's never been that shit. It's just that I will have a very brief encounter with people and then they will see me some weeks or months or years later. Remember you saw me at that party five years ago when we had that brief encounter for 10 seconds. I don't. But we're meeting again now.

[Duran Bernard]

But you weren't like. You're not. You're not a forgettable person, if I'm being honest. So you know what I'm saying? So everyone.

[Lex]

And it also didn't give that either. Like, it didn't. Y' all weren't being fake?

[Duran Bernard]

No, it wasn't like, oh, you talking about when y' all seen.

[Lex]

No. Yeah. When I met you, when I saw you a few weeks ago, it didn't give that at all. I was just like, it Was a long ass time ago.

[Dre Nicole]

And I'm always introducing myself to you because I don't know who knows me also. So it's like, that's just a natural thing that I do. Hi, I'm Duran. You know. Yeah.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, now I feel relieved. Oh, my God. How is she? Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

No more diaper. Amen.

[Duran Bernard]

Amen. Okay, now, y' all know I got to bring up random shit, but we gonna get into the second topic. I'm gonna wait to bring that up later. Cause I got some. I got a little bone to pick with you. Ooh. But topic two. When people with no style get money, is it cringe or are we hating? Okay. Do you ever look at wealthy people with new or old money and think, ooh, God, be giving money to the wrong people. Why do some wealthy people sometimes have the worst taste in everything? Home decor, cars, shoes, whatever it may be. Now it's just lighthearted. We don't have to get nasty and ugly. But have you ever seen somebody with money and be like, why was that the choice? Why did you make that decision? Cause, I mean, you go on the red carpets. I mean, you see what people got on. They've even like, how do you feel about style in Hollywood?

[Dre Nicole]

So I wanna first preface by saying that I am not a fashion expertise. Some fabrics, I couldn't tell you what it was. I know what cotton is. I think I know that's all I wear. I think I know the difference between silk and satin. Help me. But outside of that, like, you do.

[Duran Bernard]

You invaded me.

[Dre Nicole]

I said I think. Okay, I was about to say heavy on the thing.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

But outside of that, like, I just go with what makes me feel good. If I put it on and I feel confident. If I feel like, ooh, I like how this. I can move my legs. I can do all that. Like, it does this. And then there are pieces that I've seen that I'm like, this look. You just made that up. It looks like you just made that up and you're calling it high fashion. Like Balenciaga making trash bags. Or remember them balloon boots? The balloon like.

[Duran Bernard]

Or the red ones?

[Dre Nicole]

Or just certain things.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm like,

[Dre Nicole]

is it because of the brand? It's because of the label. It's obviously because of the label, you know, so. But I'm not a. I just know what looks, what I would wear. I can only go off of that. And my style and sense of fashion has absolutely evolved over the years because I have a style. Hey, we need an adult when we do certain things. Like getting dressed to go for the car. Wear carpet.

[Duran Bernard]

We can't be 12 makeup.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay. We cannot leave that to the children. My child. No.

[Lex]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

Car seat. Car seat, Yes.

[Lex]

I feel like when you go into a red carpet event, like, you absolutely should get a stylist. I mean, unless you just really be like that. Yeah. Unless you just got it like that. I will say you need a stylist.

[Dre Nicole]

I will say getting to this point in my career now where I can't go out unless I'm dressed is actually a little annoying.

[Lex]

You feel like you overthink what you about to put on.

[Dre Nicole]

It's not even about what I overthink. I can't go out and be seen in something looking crazy.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Because I'm good for wearing the same thing all the time. Garments are meant to be worn.

[Lex]

You got your favorite feet.

[Dre Nicole]

I got my favorite docs. I got my favorite high waist blue jeans and my black blazer. You know what I'm saying? Like, I'm very simple. I'm not naturally in my natural. I don't. I'm not a flashy person.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

You know, it's very. It's very chill, but it's stylish, but it's chill. And so when I'm at the point in my career where when I want to go to a screening or I want to go to a premiere of something of a sort, and it's not necessarily anything on the. On the calendar for us to have to do, it's like, well, you know, you got to get style for that.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

It's like you.

[Duran Bernard]

Like, I can't even go outside.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Without having to be dressed up. So that.

[Duran Bernard]

Ugh.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, I'm. I'm annoyed. Like, I know first world problems, but that's.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, my God. How to get a stylist. I have to put on these. Nice. I'm just playing with you. No, no, no.

[Dre Nicole]

I can't go out unless I'm stopped. Right. Cost to go outside.

[Lex]

Yeah, it does.

[Dre Nicole]

If I want to go out to the club, I need security.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

That's a ban.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, absolutely.

[Dre Nicole]

That is a band. To go outside.

[Duran Bernard]

So when you go to parlay. She came.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't really like it. Honestly, though. For real. For real. If I'm being. I don't like the club.

[Lex]

I don't like the club because the

[Dre Nicole]

sections got me up.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't like to be in the club.

[Lex]

Confined to one space.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't like to be confined to one space. I like to move About? I like to dance. I like to fellowship with the people. You know what I'm saying? I like to go up to, hey, Baranda, what you got going on? Like, I like the whole experience, but to be confined to a section and I feel like I'm on display. I'm already on display already when I go out into certain spaces. But to be in that. And I. I don't like it. Just. That's my coat. You staying here? Good. I'm about to go do a couple laps.

[Lex]

Yeah, no, I feel you. I feel like the club is cool when you on vacation or. Or every once in a while. Like, if you. But if you in your city and you in the club every week and you.

[Dre Nicole]

And you.

[Lex]

30 plus, find a new hobby.

[Duran Bernard]

I ain't gonna lie, y'.

[Dre Nicole]

All.

[Duran Bernard]

I've been outside cutting.

[Lex]

Yeah, that's not a hobby.

[Dre Nicole]

That's not a hobby.

[Lex]

Some people. That's why I said, find a new one.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm gonna get a new one real quick. I'mma do it.

[Lex]

But this is new for me, though.

[Duran Bernard]

I just been outside recently.

[Lex]

Being outside ain't new for you. You worked at a strip club.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, I'm talking about in my 30s.

[Lex]

You was outside at 30?

[Dre Nicole]

How old are you now?

[Duran Bernard]

I'm 30. I'm about to be 37 this year. But I've been going out recently with my friends. Cause, like, I am a homebody so Bad.

[Dre Nicole]

Cause that's where all your stuff is.

[Duran Bernard]

I know, but I do feel I

[Lex]

like to be around my sheets.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah. Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

As she said, as Char Jackson said in Good Burger, you wanna go home. Why? Well, that's where my stuff is.

[Duran Bernard]

Exactly. And I told myself, this year I'm gonna be more social. So I have been going out a lot lately. I have just to be like. But it's not like, oh, I'm going out. I'm being connected with my friends. Like, my girls invite me out, and I'm usually that friend that says, no, I don't wanna go out. I wanna be at home. So now I'm like, I accept all happy hour invitations, all dinner invitations, wherever you invite me to, I'm coming. You know what I'm saying? Now let me ask you this. When you go out, do you get a stylist? Like, just to go to the club? Like, if you have a hosting or you're. You know, do you get a stylist for that?

[Dre Nicole]

Sometimes. However, my going out more so consists of, like, house parties.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Private mixers, like that type of thing. Because then I'm in an environment where I can hear myself think, I can hear myself talk over the music because it's not blaring. It's a more of a controlled environment. It's more intimate. So I can kind of move about in the space without the being sardined the fuck up and being the short king that I am. Being in spaces where you are sardined up and have to maneuver through people, it's not. I hate it. I don't like it.

[Lex]

It'd be too many smells in there.

[Dre Nicole]

It's not even smell.

[Duran Bernard]

You got thrown off.

[Dre Nicole]

It's not even smells. It's. You don't know who's next to you. And so I'm pretty sure y' all know this. Y' all ever been in the club and a man is trying to move past you and he put his hand on the small of your back?

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, they be putting that peen on our back.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, you was being tired.

[Lex]

What clubs you be in?

[Duran Bernard]

They be like, excuse me.

[Dre Nicole]

Excuse me. Yikes.

[Duran Bernard]

They do.

[Dre Nicole]

They do.

[Duran Bernard]

They be moving by and they. There is no reason you need to grab my waist and do all that.

[Dre Nicole]

Are y' all strapped?

[Lex]

I am.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm not.

[Dre Nicole]

Please.

[Duran Bernard]

But I'm scared. I'm so scared.

[Lex]

But I'm scared to carry my car.

[Dre Nicole]

Let me tell you something what fear is. Fear is. Fear is ignorance.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay. I'm over 12 and.

[Dre Nicole]

No, no, I got you. Fear means. I mean, I'm sorry. Ignorance means the lack of knowledge.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

We fear what we do not understand. We fear what we do not know. The more time you spend with something and you get an understanding of it, the less you are afraid.

[Lex]

Yep.

[Dre Nicole]

You as a black woman, need to be strapped. These niggas are crazy.

[Shopify Announcer]

They are.

[Duran Bernard]

I agree. I need to get over that fear, though.

[Dre Nicole]

I keep.

[Duran Bernard]

I've been saying for years, I'm gonna go to the gun range, and I still haven't done it.

[Lex]

You gotta use it if you pull it out.

[Duran Bernard]

But

[Dre Nicole]

the whole thing is not to have to ever use it.

[Duran Bernard]

I know. I feel like.

[Dre Nicole]

But if you got. You got the bruh back up.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

If you got back up, bruh.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Don't let.

[Duran Bernard]

Don't let this top.

[Dre Nicole]

Don't. Don't let the. Don't let the lace fool you.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Take your sister to the range.

[Lex]

She need to go.

[Dre Nicole]

They don't need to go. Pull up to the house. Be like, sis, get in the car. We're going.

[Shopify Announcer]

Don't be like, this.

[Duran Bernard]

Ain't no asking. Don't be ready.

[Lex]

Cause I used to be the same way. Like, I used to be scared to, like, walk around with a gun. Cause I do feel that way. Like, I feel like if you pull that shit out, you be pissed. You might have to use it. Because it's either gonna be you or me. You can't just pull it out for fun and be like, move.

[Dre Nicole]

And that's my father as one of his famous sayings that he said to me when I was growing up. Yeah, it's me and you till it's me or you.

[Lex]

Yeah. Ooh, he right.

[Duran Bernard]

But I'm not gonna lie. Being a homeowner now, I do feel like I need one in the house.

[Lex]

Yeah, I need one in the house. Yeah. I just don't play that shit. I feel like I be having too much shit on. I be having to walk.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, I know you ain't cold. Sitting behind her. She got it on her.

[Lex]

No, but it's real chilly over there.

[Duran Bernard]

You gonna be warm over there. But I just. Yes,

[Lex]

it's just about that. But then it's also, I think, how you pull up as a woman, too. Like, I be pulling up, I be hopping out of.

[Duran Bernard]

See, I popped out my hoopdick. Okay. No problems.

[Dre Nicole]

No problem.

[Lex]

And then I'm small in stature as well, so I feel like when you tiny people be thinking that they could try you, like, it's like, oh, look at her. She's so little. She probably helpless. She not with a man. Oh.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, also, if you want to at least get started on something, kickboxing.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Self defense, if anything. Specifically, martial arts. Gung Fu. Mantis style. It's not gung.

[Lex]

What is that?

[Dre Nicole]

It's not kung. That's because of that ass song. Everybody was.

[Duran Bernard]

Kung Fu Fight. Oh, I would say a panda. Panda.

[Dre Nicole]

No, no, no, no, no. They got up. No, no, no, no, no, no. It's G. Gung Fu.

[Lex]

Gung Fu.

[Dre Nicole]

G, U, N, G. Okay. F U. Okay. Gung Fu Mantis style, specifically. That's what I studied. So it's pretty much like yoga.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

But sharp with the. You're breathing, it's flowing. You move like you flow.

[Duran Bernard]

I like that.

[Dre Nicole]

So get into that.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Duran Bernard]

Gung Fu.

[Dre Nicole]

Gung Fu. Mantis.

[Duran Bernard]

Mantis. Okay, I'm gonna look at that up.

[Lex]

I'm gonna look it up, too. Cause I try.

[Duran Bernard]

You look like you a flip somebody, baby.

[Dre Nicole]

The last thing you would wanna see is somebody try to fight you. And then you drop to the floor. Like, drop to the floor. Like, okay, bet. Let's go. And then you put your Foot up.

[Lex]

Like I'd be scared.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, no, Yeah. I wouldn't fight you if you dropped the floor and put your. Drop to the floor.

[Dre Nicole]

Put your feet up. Cause you gotta get down to reach to me. Nah, come down to my level, bitch.

[Wheezy]

Oh, yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm not fighting either.

[Lex]

He can fight or he crazy. Either way. Either way, I don't wanna find out.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm not doing that. He's mentally uncomfortable. I'm like, what's up, nigga? Let's go. He like, yeah, okay, right?

[Dre Nicole]

You drop to the floor, put your leg up in there like, come on, bitch. Come on.

[Duran Bernard]

I wouldn't be trying out what's next. Yeah, I'm finna gung fu on they assume unfold.

[Lex]

But no. One thing about us, we always going

[Duran Bernard]

to get off topic.

[Dre Nicole]

I know, I know.

[Lex]

We were supposed to be talking about. No, but it be us Duran. It be me and Lex.

[Duran Bernard]

Like me, I'm fine.

[Lex]

Because we supposed to be talking about people with who get money when they don't be having no style.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, I do want to add something. Go ahead, go ahead.

[Lex]

Well, I was just going to say, in the words of Jay Z, you could pay for school, but you can't buy class just because you get some money. That doesn't automatically mean that you're gonna have style or that you're gonna be able to dress like. That's why I think it's important to know what to do with your money. And people don't like delegating tasks. People feel like they can do everything. Just because you're a great singer or you're a great actress, that doesn't mean that you can style yourself. You might need to go ahead and use some of that money to hire you a stylist to get you together.

[Duran Bernard]

And I also think. I think nowadays we are being more expressive. We're being ourselves. What about personal style as well? Like, nobody really has personal style. I feel like, especially with the. You see one Instagram girl have something on. They all got the same. They all got the same shoe. They all got the same bag.

[Dre Nicole]

They all got the same ass.

[Lex]

That too.

[Duran Bernard]

Now why am I in it? I got mine first. I'm just playing. I'm playing. No, but I say all that to say because I think that we need to bring back just like wearing things that you like that you feel good in and learn how to style things better.

[Lex]

I don't know, just cause you feel good in it, sometimes it be tacky.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, yes, no, I agree. But what I'm saying is you can get a stylist, it feel good and

[Lex]

it still don't look good.

[Duran Bernard]

But people think it's a label. They gonna put that Chanel on.

[Lex]

But it look crazy. But it's not even about it being a label. Sometimes. Sometimes in my personal opinion, it could not have no label on it. It's about how people piece things together. It's about people over accessorizing. I think a lot of the time it's all of those things that make people look like tacky. You know what I mean? And it doesn't have anything to do with a price. Cuz some girls wear fast fashion well. And you can't even tell that it's fast fashion when they have it on because they put the pieces together really nicely. It's not always about it. Being designer. Designer can be tacky. Tackle. When you got on a full Gucci fig with the double jeans, that shit is tacky.

[Duran Bernard]

Gucci hat, Gucci jacket, Gucci Jack Gucci.

[Lex]

Yeah. Just because he's designer. Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

So I will say this, just like how I spent more of my career working by myself than with other people. The moment that I started working with other people is when things started to move. I started to get into different rooms. I started to get nominated, you know, bringing in other people to bounce ideas off of. Now we're winning awards. So a lot of. So the thing is, for me at least don't think you have to do everything by yourself.

[Lex]

Right.

[Duran Bernard]

Agree.

[Dre Nicole]

There are areas in our lives where we have strengths, where we can utilize that. And then there are people that can pick up that stack and see where we can't see. So it's just about finding that synergy, that dream team, you know, Law Roach and Zendaya, Clive Davis and Whitney Houston. You know, in a time and an era, Khaleesa and the Neptunes. Like there's just Missy and Timbaland. Like there's a certain Michael B. Jordan and Ryan Krueger. Like there's just a certain synergy. Like you're not. You don't have to do it by yourself. You can't do it by yourself.

[Duran Bernard]

Come on now.

[Dre Nicole]

So when you find someone that understands who you are and can amplify that, then we got a sweet spot.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

Dre, Nicole and Lexp.

[Lex]

Come on.

[Duran Bernard]

Hey, Rubble.

[Lex]

Magic duo.

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[Lex]

All.

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[Duran Bernard]

All. Yeah, go ahead.

[Lex]

I just did a panel on Monday where I got honored for being like a woman that sets the bar in the spirits industry and I'm Congratulations.

[Duran Bernard]

Yay. Why you clap Clap.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay, woman.

[Lex]

But I was talking about like building my business and that is just so true. So I know there's a lot of entrepreneurs that watch the show. Y' all can relate to that. Because unless you're bringing in someone smarter than you that know more than you on the marketing, the administrators, the systems to even set in place to run your business. You're not going to be able to go anywhere. What you just said about being in rooms, getting nominated now, I would have never been honored if it had not been for me being outside, networking and moving around and showcasing my talents in my business. You have to share that with the world. That was just so perfectly eloquently put. So I just wanted to just jump in on that. Because having a team is important. You can't do everything. You can't be in every place all the time. And just the fact of the matter is, people are better at you than some. Like, you know what I mean? You're good at what you're good at, and people are good at other things. And you need to pay them. You need to be okay with paying them to do what they good at so you could do what you're good at.

[Dre Nicole]

You know what I'm saying?

[Lex]

I want to hire people that are smarter than me.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, always.

[Lex]

Because I'm not the smartest person in the room. I just know how to move it around.

[Dre Nicole]

And you don't need to be the smartest person in the room unless you are a teacher. And even then, you won't be the smartest person in the room because it's still an exchange of learning versus a teaching. Because even as the teacher, you are learning.

[Duran Bernard]

Absolutely.

[Dre Nicole]

You know, so that's why it's always when you. When you can be in a position in.

[Duran Bernard]

In.

[Dre Nicole]

In your. In your life, peer, not even just career, but in your life where you can always be teachable.

[Lex]

Yes.

[Duran Bernard]

You will never.

[Dre Nicole]

Where you can always. Here's the thing. I'll be wanting what I want and liking the how I like. And then there is the reality of what that is. And when you have people that can break down. Okay, I know this is what you want. However, this is what needs to happen. Because if you do X, Y and Z, you won't get the result that you wanted if you were to do what you need to do. So it's important to have people that can be your eyes and your ears and to trust them and they trust you. It's all an exchange.

[Duran Bernard]

I agree. Me and Dre call that connecting the dots.

[Dre Nicole]

You gotta know how to connect.

[Duran Bernard]

Me and Draya, we connected so many dots with just me and her. And then we was like, okay, bro, we gotta do this. We got that dot connected. Okay, we gotta outsource this. Wait, I connect them dots.

[Dre Nicole]

Wait, do you call your dude bro

[Duran Bernard]

sometimes when he piss me off? We do that to each other. You Know what?

[Lex]

She probably say, dog.

[Duran Bernard]

Dog. Yeah, yeah, dog, bro.

[Lex]

I do.

[Duran Bernard]

But that's how. That's how he know I'm mad at him. When I be like, all right, bro. All right, dawg. All right, my nigga.

[Dre Nicole]

Then you be like, would you date you?

[Duran Bernard]

Absolutely. I'm a hoot.

[Dre Nicole]

Would you date you?

[Duran Bernard]

I would.

[Lex]

I'm a grand time until you piece me off. Then she can get real.

[Duran Bernard]

She can get real in the field.

[Lex]

She get real in the field, but it do. But it also takes a lot to piss me off as well.

[Duran Bernard]

So what is your daddy life like? Because I feel like you keep your personal life so personal.

[Lex]

As he should.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, we gonna talk about it.

[Dre Nicole]

Here's it. Well, here's the thing. And I'm gonna break this down for you.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

I give so much of myself through my art, through my physical body, through my, my, my, my upbringing. And I don't mind an opinion and a critique of that because it is something that I've put out there. I don't need a critique on who I love and who I'm building with. And I used to wonder why my homegirls would get so upset when people would have comments and opinions about their partners that they would personally post on social media. And it's like, well, babe, if you didn't post about it, no one would have an opinion. Like, it was just. It's really that simple. And so I purposely keep that over here because I have given so much of myself. If you want to know about certain things, I might put it in the music. Yeah, but that's not. That's not an opinion I'm looking for. As much as I would love to be a part of relationship goals and all that stuff, you have to. You have to have some kind of parameter, have something for yourself. And it's nothing that I'm ashamed of. It's just something that's important to me.

[Duran Bernard]

So you are in a relationship.

[Dre Nicole]

Something like that.

[Lex]

That's all the T. I need to lie. But I agree with that. I think when people put it out there, you can't be upset when people have opinions about it. You need to keep it to yourself.

[Dre Nicole]

Absolutely.

[Lex]

I love how every time you about to say some shit, you be like, he takes a deep breath.

[Duran Bernard]

He got a.

[Dre Nicole]

You hold.

[Lex]

You take a pause.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay, let me take a breath.

[Lex]

And then you smile. And I love that shit because it give. Like when your grandma was about to say some real shit and she had to get her thoughts together real quick before she start dropping them Gems.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Lex]

And that's exactly what the fuck been going on. He be like, okay, you know who I want to.

[Duran Bernard]

He's very esteemed. You know who I want to.

[Dre Nicole]

Boomer parents.

[Duran Bernard]

I would love to see him and Dominique Morgan have a conversation.

[Dre Nicole]

When I say that's my Auntie Eve

[Duran Bernard]

Magic the read that she the fervor.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, I love me some Dominique TS Madison. I love some Hope Giselle. Like, I love all my. All my. Like my sisters love them.

[Duran Bernard]

I would love to see you and Dominique just have a sit down.

[Dre Nicole]

We need to. I need. I want to. I want to make that happen as soon as possible.

[Duran Bernard]

You have to.

[Lex]

I would love to see that.

[Duran Bernard]

Love it. Shout out to Dominique.

[Dre Nicole]

Shout out to Dominique.

[Duran Bernard]

We have to have Dominique on. On the couch. I mean, y' all know we don't like to do a lot of like tiktokers and things like that, but I think Dominique is just so. I don't even know the word.

[Dre Nicole]

You're talking about. Someone who has a thought provoking analysis on what is going on in the world that is also comedic but witty comedic. Like you just have to have a. And she's going to extend your vocabulary.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, them words.

[Dre Nicole]

Like even the breakdown that she gave about ej, you know, EJ Johnson. Which by the way, shout out to ej. I don't feel that when he said, well, I dress cuter than the girls. I don't think that he was saying women in general. I'm thinking he might have been talking about the girls in his high school that he was in.

[Lex]

But you also a billionaire heiress.

[Dre Nicole]

That part.

[Duran Bernard]

But he's also in. Let's be honest, he's in white spaces. He wasn't talking about us. He wasn't talking about us.

[Lex]

Cause he don't wear the full Gucci

[Duran Bernard]

feet and he doesn't wear the full Gucci fit. And he doesn't be around a lot of black women. Let's be honest. He's in spaces where maybe he do he. Not around us. That's why I said he's not around.

[Dre Nicole]

That's why I said I didn't think he was.

[Duran Bernard]

He's not in the room.

[Dre Nicole]

That's why I said I didn't think he was talking about women as a whole.

[Angela Yee]

Right.

[Dre Nicole]

I think he was talking about the women that he was in close, close proximity with. Like, oh, actually I dress better than you. That's fine. You talking about them, not us. Not.

[Duran Bernard]

I wasn't offended.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, yeah, but that's.

[Lex]

I wasn't either. I wasn't offended by that at all. I don't understand why people. I always say we're just living in a time where people love to be fake outraged by everything. Because when you wake up tomorrow, are you really gonna give a fuck what E.J. johnson just said?

[Dre Nicole]

They're not you.

[Lex]

Not like, it's just not that serious to be online creating all of these think pieces about something that's not gonna matter five hours from now. People just love to be upset. And in an uproar about you, I

[Dre Nicole]

don't have the energy. As Funky Dineva just said, I will deliver the news, but I don't have the energy to be outraged. And the stress that that puts on your body and your nervous system being mad about something that you genuinely have no control over, or are you even gonna do anything, anything about it? Like, genuinely, are you going to do anything about it? You know? And that's why I'm so glad that there are a nice collective of us that are taking our rest, Right? There's a nice collective of black women taking your rest. We don't need to be on the front lines. Get somebody else to do it. Seriously, be in your house. Your bonnet better be on. Yeah. Bonnet better be on.

[Lex]

Yeah, you right.

[Dre Nicole]

Don't move. The only march you need to be going to is to the refrigerator.

[Duran Bernard]

And that's what I do to the

[Dre Nicole]

front door to get your doordash. Like, what house are we talking about?

[Lex]

You, right? And if you think you would dress better than ej, put that shit on and make a ootd, but leave us alone.

[Duran Bernard]

It didn't even. I think that people don't. You're supposed to feel like you're the baddest bitch in the room. You are. When every time when somebody says they the baddest bitch in the room, it gets backlash. But why? Cause y' all say, oh, you're so insecure. But then when somebody's confident, y' all hold that.

[Lex]

You too cocky.

[Duran Bernard]

You too cocky and this and that.

[Dre Nicole]

So it's the confidence that gets confused with arrogance. Okay. Cause I know what I'm doing.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

And I am a little fluid.

[Duran Bernard]

I know that's right.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. That's.

[Duran Bernard]

Who can't sing to you?

[Dre Nicole]

Who can't sing to me?

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah. Cause we had an episode with Deontay Kyle, and he said Christina Aguilera couldn't sing, and it went viral, and it was a lot of backlash and things like that. So who is somebody that people just be like, they can sing and you be, like, a little pitchy I know

[Dre Nicole]

my publicist is looking at this, like, nigga,

[Duran Bernard]

but I don't think it matters if you can sing or not, because look at the success of Britney Spears.

[Dre Nicole]

Here's the thing.

[Duran Bernard]

It doesn't really matter if you.

[Lex]

You can sing.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, so.

[Duran Bernard]

But I felt like Britney.

[Dre Nicole]

Here's the thing. Britney Spears owes her entire career to T Boz, because Baby, One More Time was originally for tlc.

[Duran Bernard]

Are you serious right now?

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, baby, baby. T Boz. How was I supposed.

[Lex]

I didn't know that.

[Duran Bernard]

I didn't know that. And then.

[Dre Nicole]

Chili, show me how you want it to be.

[Duran Bernard]

But what was last time?

[Dre Nicole]

They were not fucking with that. Hit me one more time, please.

[Duran Bernard]

No, but they already said, I ain't too proud to beg.

[Dre Nicole]

I understand, but you talking about something they're talking about. I'm not too proud to beg for sex.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

They're talking about Hit me. No. No, sir.

[Duran Bernard]

Wow.

[Dre Nicole]

No. And also, Slave for your was originally for Janet Jackson.

[Lex]

No, I didn't know that.

[Dre Nicole]

She said slave for what?

[Lex]

But I can do it.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't think so.

[Duran Bernard]

Mm.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

Stop.

[Dre Nicole]

Brittany is Janet's daughter. We all know this.

[Angela Yee]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

Now I agree with that.

[Lex]

Yeah, she is.

[Dre Nicole]

That's her daughter.

[Duran Bernard]

Play it for you. Was for Janet.

[Lex]

And that's a good song.

[Duran Bernard]

I can hear it.

[Dre Nicole]

It is.

[Duran Bernard]

Baby, don't you wanna dance up on me?

[Dre Nicole]

Do another time and place oh, baby, don't you wanna dance up on me? Living behind my knees indeed.

[Lex]

She love it.

[Duran Bernard]

She love.

[Lex]

She do.

[Duran Bernard]

What was that like that today? He. Do y' all do that too, though. Y' all know that clip to my.

[Dre Nicole]

Michelle. Michelle Pharrell.

[Duran Bernard]

You need to stop.

[Lex]

That just feels sexy.

[Dre Nicole]

She said,

[Duran Bernard]

I'm gonna cry.

[Lex]

Put that foot up, gung fu panda.

[Duran Bernard]

Hey. Yeah. See, Ty, it wasn't me today. Oh, she was looking like, I like that. I am weak as fuck. Cause I remember that. I liked it.

[Lex]

I did, too.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay. Ooh, ooh. And I like it.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, okay. But I want to get back to the tea.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes, yes, yes, yes.

[Duran Bernard]

So slave for you. I never knew that.

[Lex]

It was for Jani.

[Dre Nicole]

That was for Jani. And she said, absolutely not.

[Lex]

But I get it. I don't want nothing that has to do with a slave in a song I've seen.

[Duran Bernard]

Jack Harlow didn't say no to whips and chains.

[Lex]

Jack Harlow is white.

[Duran Bernard]

So it's on his.

[Lex]

So what was your point?

[Duran Bernard]

Cause he should have said, no, I don't like whips and chains.

[Lex]

But he's white.

[Duran Bernard]

You like whips and chains. Jack Harlow.

[Lex]

That song was also about. I'm glad he didn't say that.

[Duran Bernard]

You're loving on me. Oh, we can't get whipped. We can't get whipped.

[Dre Nicole]

The album titled Monica. I'm still.

[Duran Bernard]

Is it Monica?

[Dre Nicole]

I'm still clutching my pearls. That's all.

[Duran Bernard]

That's what they said. Monica, Monica.

[Dre Nicole]

That's all.

[Duran Bernard]

I like Jack Harlow. I can't lie.

[Lex]

I didn't pick that up. Wait, his album was called Monica M O N I.

[Duran Bernard]

And listen, boy, I'm no rowdy chick. Monica.

[Dre Nicole]

I just.

[Duran Bernard]

What do you think it was? Did you listen to the album?

[Dre Nicole]

I have not as of yet.

[Lex]

What? So I'm stuck on.

[Duran Bernard]

He said he makes black. Well, he said I got blacker.

[Dre Nicole]

He felt like he got blacker.

[Duran Bernard]

He said I got blacker because usually when white artists make music, they go. They go back to country like Post Malone.

[Dre Nicole]

But he went into.

[Duran Bernard]

He said I went deeper.

[Dre Nicole]

He looks like he's dressing like Remy Shan right now. And if you don't know about that. Take a message from my love Take a message from my message.

[Duran Bernard]

You went way back. Y' all don't remember Remy Shan now what the hell?

[Dre Nicole]

I heard that Carlo has turned into.

[Lex]

I don't.

[Duran Bernard]

He is a woke king. I love it though. I'm not gonna lie. I kind of like it.

[Lex]

So wait, he really named his album Monica?

[Duran Bernard]

Monica.

[Lex]

M O N I C A I

[Dre Nicole]

C A M O I see K trying to take my man away from me. Y' all remember that song? Monica, Monica, Monica oh, Monica Stalking and hawking and jocking and she follow ya what she don't know is that I'm looking Father. Somebody better let her know. I don't what she said Stalking and hawking and jocking and she always following you.

[Duran Bernard]

I don't remember that.

[Dre Nicole]

You don't? It came out in 2001. It was a group called Before Dark.

[Lex]

Oh, I thought it was Monica.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Was called Monica.

[Duran Bernard]

I ain't never heard that one.

[Dre Nicole]

The song was called Monica.

[Duran Bernard]

What album?

[Dre Nicole]

That was on Before Dark?

[Lex]

Okay, now I do know Before Dark.

[Duran Bernard]

I feel like if I heard it. No, no, no. I remember that.

[Dre Nicole]

They was real flat on that last note too.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm always flat.

[Lex]

But they used to do that a lot in the 90s. Like though I'm kind of a little glad that we've elevated from the way they sing in the 90s.

[Duran Bernard]

You hate to do you hate that song? What's the first time that I saw your brown?

[Lex]

I feel like they used to sing world nasally yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

No.

[Dre Nicole]

A prime example of that. A prime example. A prime example.

[Lex]

And can we please. Doing what you're doing to me.

[Duran Bernard]

Wait, say me and you, homie. Dre, you rock me.

[Dre Nicole]

Dre, you remember Mona Lisa? Can you tell me what's going on in your mind? Is it affection you need?

[Lex]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

Is it love you wanna find? Where you wanna go? Just ask me my sign.

[Duran Bernard]

I like it.

[Dre Nicole]

And just be sure that you won't. You can't be wasting my time.

[Duran Bernard]

It's that point. No, Dre, Tell me where you'll find. No, no, no, listen.

[Dre Nicole]

If you love, you wanna find.

[Duran Bernard]

Fine. Yeah. No, wait, wait. I got one for you. In the 90s, I used to be like, what was this one? He's a monster.

[Dre Nicole]

No way. The fact that Prince signed off on that sample. That is a Prince sample.

[Duran Bernard]

That's a good song, though.

[Dre Nicole]

That is Do Me Baby.

[Duran Bernard]

It's a good song.

[Dre Nicole]

I understand. But he was very anti sample, so the fact that he approved He's Mine by Moke and Steph, which, by the way, I have that album on vinyl.

[Duran Bernard]

I love it.

[Dre Nicole]

My song off that album is Come on and follow this. I'll give you what you need. Something physical. But I'll just be gentle. That is my shit.

[Duran Bernard]

Uh. Oh.

[Lex]

He got too excited, that Harry.

[Duran Bernard]

What is going on? That blue.

[Dre Nicole]

Remember that girl that lost her wig?

[Duran Bernard]

Yes. Oh, my God.

[Dre Nicole]

She said, oh,

[Duran Bernard]

okay, let's focus.

[Lex]

But it was also. It was the way they used to sing, but it was also the dance moves.

[Dre Nicole]

I liked it. It was.

[Duran Bernard]

What was that girl's name? Do you really want to touch it? Oh, Monifa.

[Dre Nicole]

Speaking of Touch it by Monifa, I got a speeding ticket because of that song. When I got my first car when I moved out to Los Angeles, it was a. A silver. I call it the Silver Bullet. It was a 1999 convertible Mustang.

[Duran Bernard]

Cause you was on me too hard, baby.

[Dre Nicole]

I was on my way to the skating rink out in Chino Hills. I was on the phone with one of my good Judy's. Bitch and Touch it by Monifa came on in the shuffle. Bitch, my foot went.

[Duran Bernard]

I can't remember what song she sampled. I got pulled over. It's a good song they talking about.

[Dre Nicole]

Do you know how fast you were going?

[Lex]

Actually, I.

[Dre Nicole]

Listen. I was just listening to Monifa, and

[Lex]

they was probably like.

[Dre Nicole]

They were, can you get out the car and walk?

[Duran Bernard]

Sure.

[Lex]

Is Monifa gonna come pick you up?

[Dre Nicole]

I had to tell her that when I first met her, I was like, I Got a speeding ticket because of your ass, bitch.

[Duran Bernard]

That's a song, though.

[Wheezy]

It is.

[Lex]

It is.

[Dre Nicole]

Speaking of bops, Monifa wants to talk.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, are we gonna. We gotta go into the bed now.

[Lex]

It's time to get into the bed.

[Dre Nicole]

The bed. I love the bed bow.

[Lex]

The bed bow, bow.

[Duran Bernard]

A bow, bow, bow, bow, bow, bow,

[Dre Nicole]

bow, bow, bow, bow, bow. And you know that I'm up now Stay down, stay down and come up like my wrist up and I'm AP. Look at my wrist. Bow, bow, bow. Hey, shout out to Faze Lee. Faith Leezay. I think that's how you pronounce her name.

[Duran Bernard]

You are cut. We are cutting up so bad.

[Lex]

The time is being had.

[Dre Nicole]

It is.

[Duran Bernard]

I love it. I love when y' all hang out. Okay, go ahead, Dre.

[Dre Nicole]

Sorry.

[Lex]

Ah, okay. So for the bad topic.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, first. Oh, yeah.

[Lex]

So why you told me to go ahead?

[Duran Bernard]

Sorry. It was my bad. Cause I looked up and I said, oh, go ahead.

[Lex]

Go ahead.

[Duran Bernard]

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[Lex]

First of all, yes, it's gonna have your ph balance. It's gonna have your coochie feeling like you ate a meat. And on top of that, outside of just vaginal washes to keep your ph balance, they also have other products. Like, she has boric acid supplements.

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[Lex]

she also has a sweet release, which is slippery elm, which is really good for your GI tract, but it's also good for that coochie. You need a little lubrication. It's gonna get you right.

[Duran Bernard]

And then they also have the rejuvenating oil, which works great on ingrowns. Do you get ingrowns anywhere?

[Dre Nicole]

See, I stopped shaving my backyard because of the ingrowns.

[Duran Bernard]

We gonna send you with his bet

[Lex]

and it smell really good.

[Duran Bernard]

And I want you to give us an honest review on how you like it.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, absolutely.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes. This helps with ingrowns. So get y' all rejuvenating oil. Cause it's for, you know, whoever needs to use it. Okay, go ahead. My bad, girl.

[Lex]

Amen, sister.

[Duran Bernard]

Uh huh.

[Lex]

Okay, so for the bad topic, we're gonna talk about catching prints, which I had never heard this term before. Have you heard it?

[Dre Nicole]

I feel like I recently just heard it, but I didn't get a thorough breakdown. Is it when a woman just. Or someone notices your print in your sweats?

[Lex]

Yes, but more so for men though, right?

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, they catch my print.

[Lex]

They be catching my print.

[Dre Nicole]

But no, no, y' all have moose now.

[Lex]

We do have moose knuckles.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Y' all don't have print. Y' all have moose knuckle.

[Lex]

It's a little print too.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, it's a shape. It's a dent.

[Lex]

It is.

[Dre Nicole]

It's a.

[Lex]

It's a crease.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes, a crease.

[Lex]

It's a crease.

[Duran Bernard]

It's that split Ebi.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes, the crease that passes all in the skirt.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, so how you feel about the print?

[Lex]

Well, the question is, have you ever noticed the print and then you was trying to look away or you didn't know where to look? Me, if I see a print, I'm gonna look.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, obviously if it's there, you want me to look, right?

[Duran Bernard]

I'm not gonna lie. I don't like when men have their print out.

[Lex]

So you be shy.

[Duran Bernard]

I have been violated. Why are you shaking at me?

[Lex]

So you be like this.

[Duran Bernard]

I mean, I look and then I be like, come on, Lonnie, why do you know everything?

[Dre Nicole]

I've been on the Internet for 30 years, ma'. Am.

[Duran Bernard]

Thanks, but no. I feel like he had a lot of years for the Internet now. I feel like sometimes like women, like, we have on like tight workout pants, but we have on draws sometimes that Garfield gonna show.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

And we can't help it. It's just a big fat monk.

[Lex]

But, you know, I know.

[Duran Bernard]

And let me say this. I'm glad we brought this up. Cause when I'm on Poor Minds and we talking, y' all can call me Garfield. If I post a nice, nice picture and I'm thinking I'm cute. Don't comment Garfield under there. There's brands out here watching me. They, like, look at Garfield, bitch. That thing bad as fuck.

[Lex]

But they might think that's your favorite cartoon.

[Duran Bernard]

No, them braids is not.

[Dre Nicole]

We're ready to party.

[Duran Bernard]

You know what I'm saying? I can't help it, but I do feel like it's a little different for men. For the most part. Honest.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay, honest question. Is it really that big of a deal? We already see the imprint of y' all breastesses.

[Duran Bernard]

Mm. And her nipples, they all.

[Dre Nicole]

Or the. Or the. Not no more.

[Lex]

I want to.

[Dre Nicole]

Or the curvature of an ass. Okay. We know it's there. Like, is it truly that big of a deal?

[Duran Bernard]

You know why I say yes and no? No. If you're just. You run into the store real quick. Yes. Because there's men that are being weird about it.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Duran Bernard]

When you're. Yeah.

[Lex]

I did see a video on Instagram the other day that made me a tad bit uncomfortable. So it was this man, and he was standing outside, and he had some boxers. Well, he had on, like, some long, like, basketball shorts, but that was, like, this light blue color, so you could tell he didn't have no drawers on underneath. And you could see his print or whatever. And he was like, I don't care about what women talking about. They don't listen to men. I got money, and I touch cervixes. And I was like, that's not good.

[Dre Nicole]

You touch cervixes.

[Lex]

But you could see the dick, though. And I was like, yeah, but my thing is.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay, is that all you? Is that all you have to offer? Are you. Are you actually cute? Because a lot of be getting away with they meat and they not the body. A lot of these be ugly as fuck, and they think just pumping iron that's going to make this. I got to look at you, nigga. Yeah, I have to look at you. Ain't. We can't. Ain't. But so much hitting it from the back, we gonna do. Ain't so many paper bags I can put over your goddamn head, I be able to look at you.

[Duran Bernard]

Hello. But let me ask y', all this one.

[Dre Nicole]

My mother was a real ho.

[Duran Bernard]

You need.

[Dre Nicole]

And she sold me for 10.

[Lex]

$10 in a fix, she fixed up $10. If that could be bought for $10,

[Duran Bernard]

she finna come get you again. See how you do. She finna come get you again.

[Lex]

$10.

[Duran Bernard]

Why would you do that?

[Dre Nicole]

I have a man.

[Lex]

I'm weak.

[Duran Bernard]

Who loves me. That loves me. Titus, y' all your fault. I'll take all the responsibility. And I won't let him make out the view.

[Angela Yee]

Making that face.

[Duran Bernard]

Dude, Dre, what face you was making? I got a man.

[Dre Nicole]

I am a man.

[Duran Bernard]

Y' all going ahead?

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

I just want to say real quick. I just have to. I just have to say real quick, Uncle Tyler.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah. Uh.

[Lex]

Oh.

[Dre Nicole]

You have made some of the most traumatic films, comedies. Now, I just want you to know there is a whole generation behind us that are looking at us like, why are y' all laughing at the Color Purple? Why y' all laughing during or quoting what's Love Got To Do With It? And all these, like, traumatic movies.

[Lex]

I wrote it, Ike.

[Dre Nicole]

It's your fault.

[Duran Bernard]

I know the song, Ike.

[Dre Nicole]

I wrote it because all them ad libs that he was doing in them plays.

[Duran Bernard]

It's all right, though. We needed that. I mean, they're looking at us crazy.

[Dre Nicole]

They are.

[Duran Bernard]

The new generations. Like, how are y' all watching this? Cause they wasn't there.

[Lex]

Or even for colored girls.

[Duran Bernard]

So you the one to be. Oh, that was a sin. Oh, you doing me?

[Dre Nicole]

He said, no, it's Loretta Devine.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

I just met Loretta, by the way. I love her.

[Duran Bernard]

I love her. I love her voice is so, like, comforting.

[Lex]

It is also, too.

[Dre Nicole]

And I just say I'm so grateful to be in the same timeline as Jennifer Lewis.

[Duran Bernard]

A gym alleged.

[Dre Nicole]

There is nothing in the world like getting cussed out by Jennifer Lewis.

[Duran Bernard]

You got cussed out, baby.

[Dre Nicole]

We were FaceTiming one of the first few times we were talking, and I was smoking a Dutch.

[Duran Bernard]

She said, I know this motherfucker ain't smoking on the goddamn FaceTime. Oh.

[Dre Nicole]

And I was like, ooh. But then I wait. Then I went to go try to sneak my.

[Duran Bernard]

She was like, take one more hit, nigga.

[Lex]

I need to get cussed out by a legend. I ain't living right now.

[Dre Nicole]

Between getting gathered by Lynn Whitfield and getting cussed out by Jennifer Lewis, life is complete.

[Duran Bernard]

You finna get blocked by Oprah?

[Lex]

I'm about to add that to my

[Dre Nicole]

no for real life.

[Lex]

What is it called?

[Dre Nicole]

Well, I've been blocked by Mary J. Blige.

[Duran Bernard]

For real.

[Dre Nicole]

But that's on X. But I don't Think that's really her. But that's because niggas kept tagging her in my cover of Crispy Chicken. And it's just again. I know, I know.

[Duran Bernard]

Chicken Fresh let.

[Lex]

That was a good song.

[Duran Bernard]

I don't know why. Why did people drag her? For my life. I thought that was good. I think people the backlash, but I thought it was a hit.

[Dre Nicole]

But nobody was giving Peabo Bryson and Vested Williams any fever about scatting about Big Mac burgers.

[Duran Bernard]

You know what I'm saying? McDonald's been making them commercials.

[Dre Nicole]

Extra cheese, lettuce, pickles, onions, pickles. I'm having on a sesame Y bun. Like.

[Lex]

Or Smokey Robinson about there.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, yeah. He said we was smoking. Smoking that crack.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Smoking that dude.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Smoking that hoe.

[Duran Bernard]

So it's like, leave her alone. I thought the commercial was great. And guess what? When I saw it for the first time, guess what I went and did? Went and got me a crispy chicken with lettuce.

[Dre Nicole]

Do they even still have those?

[Lex]

I don't think so. But they need to bring it back. Cause then I might go back.

[Dre Nicole]

No. What Dunkin Donuts need to bring back is the strawberry banana smoothies with the Greek yogurt. Okay? That's what y' all need. Need to bring back.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

Y' all are on notice.

[Duran Bernard]

I didn't even know they had that.

[Dre Nicole]

They did.

[Duran Bernard]

And speaking of food.

[Dre Nicole]

And they discontinued it.

[Lex]

And it was.

[Dre Nicole]

Speaking of food. Oh, my God.

[Lex]

It was the best thing on me. Oh, God.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, speaking of food, real quick. Cause I told you I had something to charge you up about earlier, so I'm ready to talk about it now. Cause that was the perfect time. And then we gonna move on. What's wrong with ice cubes and orange juice? Cause you got so upset that she said she liked ice cubes and orange juice. I think I don't even like ice cubes. Really? But I think ice cubes and orange juice are fine. Cause orange juice is thick, so the ice cubes will kind of thin it out.

[Dre Nicole]

No, uh, we don't need to thin out our orange juice. Furthermore, pulp in your orange juice is a sign of laziness. Mm, it is. Unless it is fresh squeezed. Yeah, orange juice is the only time I'm going to accept orange juice.

[Duran Bernard]

Mm. Po.

[Dre Nicole]

Ice in your orange juice. I know you got bodies hidden under your house. Mm, mm, mm. Yeah, I know you do. You and Jeffrey Dahmer. Absolutely. See, they're sisters. Okay? People who drink orange juice with ice in it and Jeffrey Dahmer, your sisters.

[Lex]

Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. As an orange juice connoisseur myself, I'm crying.

[Dre Nicole]

What kind of orange juice?

[Lex]

I like orange juice without the pole.

[Dre Nicole]

No, what kind of orange. What brand?

[Lex]

Oh, simply with a little ice. No, that's why you lost me. If anything, if you want it a little colder, put it in the freezer so it can get frothy.

[Dre Nicole]

Get a chilled. Get a chilled glass. Get a little frothy with liquid inside of the glass.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

So that it can chill the beverage. Amen.

[Lex]

I agree.

[Dre Nicole]

We don't need any ice.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay. Okay. I'm gonna let y' all have these. Cause pulp.

[Dre Nicole]

We don't need ice.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, we don't.

[Dre Nicole]

We don't need ice.

[Lex]

Please, no ice. No ice. But pulp is weird to me. Cause why is my juice textured?

[Duran Bernard]

I don't want no textured juice.

[Dre Nicole]

So here's the thing. Here's the thing.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm sorry, y'.

[Dre Nicole]

All.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

[Dre Nicole]

May I have one more, please? P A, R, T. Because I gotta. Oh.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, my gosh.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh. Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

It's just nasty. That's what it is.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, that's fine.

[Dre Nicole]

Just like chitlins and black Eyed peas. Ice and orange juice. Juice nasty.

[Lex]

Or just like chitlins, Period.

[Dre Nicole]

Period.

[Duran Bernard]

Black Eyed peas are amazing.

[Dre Nicole]

You know what? Can I just say this? I am so grateful. Shout out to you, Cherilyn, my first best friend, okay? She never forced me to eat anything that I did not want to eat. See, that's why every time I watch Crooklyn, my inner child be like, every time he sees Nate have to eat those black eyes.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, God. Oh, God. Just throw me in the chokey for the weekend, why don't you? I have eight black eyed peas.

[Duran Bernard]

What's your favorite food?

[Lex]

Okay, but have you had them with, like, the cooks. Like, slow cooks with the turkey necks with the seasoning with the rice and little hot sauce? Have you had them like that?

[Dre Nicole]

It's just when I. When. When the. When the pea explodes.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh.

[Dre Nicole]

In my mouth.

[Duran Bernard]

I love that.

[Lex]

The spirit of Which y' all talking about both.

[Dre Nicole]

Spirit of regret. Watch is over me because. Why is this in my mouth? I've never liked black Eyed Peas. Now, what I do like.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes. Let's talk about.

[Dre Nicole]

We love a grill. Everything that I usually do for the most part, is grilled.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

We love a grilled chicken.

[Lex]

I like grilled chicken.

[Dre Nicole]

We love salmon. Mm.

[Duran Bernard]

Mm.

[Dre Nicole]

We love some ground turkey.

[Lex]

Mm.

[Dre Nicole]

I got that.

[Duran Bernard]

Meal prep.

[Dre Nicole]

Of course. I love a rice roach. Okay. Give me some shrimp.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, a rice roach. Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

I love a mussel.

[Lex]

Yes, I like mussels.

[Dre Nicole]

A little lobster tail. Yes, please save the turkey bacon. Okay? You and those putters of ice and orange juice, y' all are. Again, y' all are sisters.

[Lex]

I like turkey now.

[Duran Bernard]

Turkey bacon and ice and oj.

[Dre Nicole]

Your sister.

[Duran Bernard]

That's my whole birthday now.

[Lex]

See, I used to fuck up some turkey bacon. However, they said that it's like a class A carcinogen. And I was like, mm, mm, I can't eat that no more. Cause it's processed meat. Which I did know that, but, like. Yeah, So I don't eat it no more.

[Duran Bernard]

Do you like beans? Any kind of beans?

[Dre Nicole]

Beans, greens, tomatoes, tomatoes, lamb. Hog moss, Boss moss. You know, black beans a little bit. In my chipotle order.

[Lex]

I like black beans.

[Duran Bernard]

That's it.

[Lex]

A little pinto, A little bit.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Red beans and rice, too.

[Duran Bernard]

All right, okay.

[Dre Nicole]

You got a little red beans and rice.

[Duran Bernard]

All right. Okay, now that's fine.

[Dre Nicole]

I love rice, period.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, I'm a rice cooker.

[Dre Nicole]

Especially congee.

[Lex]

I like rice.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm not mad. Oh. I was Chinese at the beginning of the year.

[Lex]

What the fuck is congee?

[Duran Bernard]

It's a breakfast that's warm.

[Dre Nicole]

I got you. I got you, sis. I got you. Congee is Chinese grits.

[Lex]

Oh, okay.

[Dre Nicole]

It's just a little soupier. But they put bits of pieces of chicken in there. Some chives, some ginger, you know, And I put a little lemon pepper seasoning in there, you know, to liven it up.

[Duran Bernard]

Lemon pepper.

[Dre Nicole]

And I just got a rice cooker, so I'm about to try it. It takes an hour to do, but I'm. You know.

[Lex]

That sounds like a spread.

[Duran Bernard]

You know, it's like a. Porridge.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, porridge.

[Lex]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

And one thing you want to do. Okay, so. Okay, so do this.

[Lex]

What's today with chicken pieces? Porridge with chicken pieces.

[Dre Nicole]

What's today?

[Duran Bernard]

It's not sweet.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay, okay. I know what today is. So for the next week, ladies do this. Because I heard this really benefits y'. All. For those of you who have uteruses. Oh, yes. May I have another thing?

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Warm water. First thing in your stomach.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, I've been Chinese. Oh. Y' all remember when I was Chinese? At the end of the year, he,

[Dre Nicole]

like, you don't even.

[Duran Bernard]

You gotta add goji berries in there.

[Dre Nicole]

No, no, no. But you don't. I mean, goji berries are cute, but you don't even need lemon because that's too much acid on your teeth. Come on now.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, mine.

[Lex]

Porcelain. It's all right. I don't think it's gonna do nothing.

[Dre Nicole]

My eyes aren't really green. This. You know what? This is my hair.

[Lex]

Right? Exactly.

[Duran Bernard]

These. These ain't mine either. Why you. This isn't my leg. I'm not.

[Dre Nicole]

You never saw. Did you ever see? I'm gonna get you, sucker.

[Lex]

Yeah, I did.

[Duran Bernard]

That's why I was on.

[Dre Nicole]

Just making sure. Listen, because I know. Listen. I know the Gen Zers are like, I'm sorry. The alphas and all that.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, they lost.

[Lex]

We were lenient, though. We with you. I seen and I told you my

[Dre Nicole]

parents was booming that. That part. And she was adopted. Amen.

[Duran Bernard]

We still got one. We still got another.

[Lex]

It adds character.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, go ahead.

[Duran Bernard]

We got another.

[Dre Nicole]

You, you, you.

[Duran Bernard]

We finna do it now. This is gonna be your favorite one.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh.

[Lex]

Now it's time to get into the bop a the bop a the bop.

[Duran Bernard]

Bow, bow, bow, bow, bow. So Bop of the Week is music that we've been listening to this week.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay. Bet.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay. Or like, whatever that we really love. So I'm so excited because I talk about this person so much. And I said, he's one of my personal favorite vocalists because he can sing. And I think people got misguided by the type of music he was making. He's kind of having his T. Pain moment right now. Remember when everybody was like, T Pain can't sing. He had to take that autotune off and show y' all that he can sing. So Fetty Wap dropped an album and he released his new song called Xavier. And it's like a old school. He's, like, scatting, doing jazz, and it's fucking fabulous. And everybody's like, oh, Lex P has been avenged. Yes. Cause I've been telling you, Betty, Wap can sing.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, he can sing. I know you're not believing me right now.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, no, I haven't heard. Bishop Wap.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, Bishop Wap. But I think that the video is creative. I think it's good. Like I said, it gives a jazz type of vibe. And he's really singing in it. And I think that this is what he needed to show the people. So thank you, Fetty Wap, for proving me right. That's all right. Tear it up. Tear it up. That's all right, Dee, we having a ball.

[Dre Nicole]

That's all right.

[Duran Bernard]

You gotta have that, boy.

[Dre Nicole]

You gotta have that.

[Duran Bernard]

Mom gave up, but yeah. That's my Bop of the Week week. Fetty Wap Xavier singing his Ass off. As he should.

[Dre Nicole]

What's your bop of the week?

[Lex]

Okay, so in very rare situations do we have guests on the show and then their song is my vibe. But Mango Butter by Duran Bernard. That's my song. Because I'm a bad. And I'm that.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Lex]

Hello.

[Dre Nicole]

That's your theme song, baby.

[Duran Bernard]

It really is.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex]

That's my.

[Duran Bernard]

I love.

[Lex]

That's probably my favorite song by you, to be honest.

[Dre Nicole]

Thank you.

[Lex]

But, yeah, that's my.

[Dre Nicole]

Thank you for the Grammy.

[Lex]

Exactly.

[Duran Bernard]

What's your bop of the week?

[Lex]

But that's my. I was listening today on the way here.

[Dre Nicole]

My bop of the week. Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh. My bop of the week is. Oh, God. Yes. It is called. I saw it on somebody's close friends Whore.

[Lex]

The lady.

[Dre Nicole]

No. Someone. No. Who's.

[Duran Bernard]

Who posted the song?

[Dre Nicole]

Who posted the song? It was on their close friends and they were showing their tail. Yeah, it was somebody who has to go with. But you know, that's my friend. They with their new lover. You know, I was the best thing that ever happened to him, by the way. But I'm just saying, you know, he know that and his mama know that. Cause me and her still be about talking. It is 90s aquarium by bone Chic. That is my song of the week. It is an 11 minute song. It just. It's wavy. It's very. Y' all know that girl.

[Duran Bernard]

What genre is that?

[Dre Nicole]

It's like think of if you were here. If you were here tonight by Alexander o'. Neil. It's in that realm. But imagine that instrumental just for 11 minutes long. It's so. Y' all know that girl on social media that be dancing in the different environments to Alexander o' Neal and then she jumps off randomly. You know what I'm talking about? Yeah.

[Lex]

Oh, I thought he was talking about that girl from the Apple store.

[Dre Nicole]

No, no. Yeah, yeah. Nah, she's another. But y'.

[Duran Bernard]

All.

[Dre Nicole]

But just 90s aquarium bone chic. B O N Chic. It's. It's just. Honestly, it sounds like holding music, but it's still.

[Duran Bernard]

It's. It's all right.

[Dre Nicole]

I know.

[Duran Bernard]

That's the Verizon song. Can you do a song to that?

[Dre Nicole]

Yes.

[Duran Bernard]

I love that beat.

[Dre Nicole]

When I'm old, will I.

[Duran Bernard]

When they put me on hold and they play that one right there. What y' all talking about?

[Dre Nicole]

You said, can you do it?

[Lex]

Can he?

[Dre Nicole]

I said, oh, yes.

[Lex]

Can I?

[Duran Bernard]

Will I?

[Dre Nicole]

Will I.

[Lex]

That's the difference is the question.

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[Lex]

We having a grand time over here.

[Duran Bernard]

We just having a little key. Okay so y' all never said if

[Lex]

y' all like the print.

[Duran Bernard]

I don't like the print.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't mind. I don't mind a print. It's just penis is cool but I have my own so it's not that exciting. I think the only time, the only time that that penis will excite me is if it's uncut. Oh yeah, you like it raw. I'm a uncut advocate. Absolutely. Because see what happens is that right there being circumcised is unnecessary cosmetic surgery.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

That's why it is done when we are infants. Because if we were to get it later on in life, we wouldn't want

[Lex]

to get it cuz it hurt.

[Dre Nicole]

And on top of that, you're already removing more than 25% of our nerve endings. So guys that are uncircumcised feel more closely to how your clearances feel when it's stimulated than us that are circumcised. So I do have a little bit of penis envy for my uncut brothers. Yes.

[Duran Bernard]

Now I do. I do agree with you on that, cuz I feel like it is unnecessary cosmetic surgery. Like if a baby could choose. But if I was a baby, I would have got my bbl. Okay, okay. Excuse me.

[Lex]

Babies do be having booty doo, though. They do.

[Dre Nicole]

The booty do.

[Lex]

They do be having booty doo for a long time.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay. You know what I'm saying?

[Lex]

They do.

[Duran Bernard]

I made a bet. But you know, you right. All jokes aside, you right.

[Dre Nicole]

Order the car.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, let's move on, y'. All. Okay, so we gonna do our last segment of the show. I'm sorry, y'. All.

[Lex]

Pour your butt.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, it's the.

[Dre Nicole]

Is this string number three or four?

[Lex]

This 16.

[Duran Bernard]

You 16 at war.

[Dre Nicole]

Stop. 16 not Karina Pace, y'.

[Duran Bernard]

All.

[Lex]

I'm 16 and I should never feel like this.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm sick. Oh my God. My wig.

[Dre Nicole]

Lord Jesus.

[Duran Bernard]

Get the wig, baby. Get the wig.

[Lex]

He's 16 at war feet.

[Dre Nicole]

I am. Okay, you are. This hat is trying to run. Run away. Lala.

[Lex]

Hey, Kiki.

[Duran Bernard]

Papa's like this.

[Lex]

She wanna run away and never come back.

[Duran Bernard]

That song Ludacris was rapping.

[Dre Nicole]

No, Ludacris don't never come. Ludacris does not get his just due specifically when it comes to visuals.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Because I put Ludacris in the same category as Missy and Busta Rhyme.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh yeah. Stand up. Absolutely would not move you just like that. Cause he fills her up balloons. She's selling pussy. Why another? I didn't even say that. Another drink.

[Dre Nicole]

Somebody tell me something.

[Duran Bernard]

Watch out. Time is all reckless.

[Dre Nicole]

Feels like she's good at it. She should charge.

[Duran Bernard]

That's what I'm about to say.

[Lex]

Why we asking why? We know why she said it.

[Dre Nicole]

You Know what? Shout out to the sex workers. Sex work is work, hard work.

[Lex]

It's necessary.

[Dre Nicole]

And you should be respected for your line of work. You should be compensated for your work. You know what I'm saying? So it's just. Cause if you good at it, why should you be doing it for free, period?

[Duran Bernard]

And shut up. To miss being here.

[Dre Nicole]

And that's why the girls be shading the sex workers. Because they getting compensated for the shit that they doing for free. And what you getting paid for? An empty gas tank, a used credit

[Lex]

card and an interest.

[Duran Bernard]

Also a stroke, a hemorrhoid. See, you done did it again. And shout out to Ms. B. Nasty. Cause she just got married. And that's my girl. I'm just saying she did. Ms. B. Nasty just got married.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm just saying.

[Duran Bernard]

No, you finna go, you know what? I'm gonna put you in the corner.

[Lex]

Somebody in the room looked up at me,

[Duran Bernard]

What happened every time. He said, and God, baby. Y' all remember that thing on bet? And God, that's you. The prayer prank. The prayer prank with you and God. E by okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.

[Lex]

No, for real. If y' all have any questions, send them to ask for mines. That's a S K P O U R M I N D S mail dot com.

[Duran Bernard]

See, I wasn't the most unhinged one today.

[Lex]

No, you was always the most unhinged one.

[Duran Bernard]

I love y' all Ty and the show. I know that.

[Dre Nicole]

Right.

[Lex]

I need a little advice.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm a 28 year old gay man and I've never been in a relationship or really experienced anything romantic. In the past, I would catch strong feelings for guys, but it was never mutual. And I had to learn the hard way not to wear my heart on my sleeve. I've spent a lot of time pouring into myself, building confidence and practicing self love. And I've gotten to a place where I'm okay being single if that's how life plays out. But at the same time, I still want to experience real love. My only thing is my heart has been hurt so many times that I don't know how I trust if it finally comes. Part of me wants to take a chance. Another part of me is ready to run. So my question is, how do you open yourself up to love again without letting fear hold you back? And how do you know when it's real love, y'? All?

[Dre Nicole]

Okay, so I'll go and I'll take us real quick. Does the fact that motherfuckers don't know how to drive Keep you from being on the road. Mm.

[Duran Bernard]

Come on.

[Angela Yee]

No, I.

[Lex]

Be still outside.

[Dre Nicole]

Still outside sweeping. We cannot allow other people's lack of direction keep us from going on our journey just because I. I.

[Duran Bernard]

Don't you dare touch them goddamn fingers together, ma'. Am. But, you know, hold up, T. First

[Dre Nicole]

and foremost, it's the middle finger.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay, we was arguing about that.

[Dre Nicole]

It's the middle, which means it is the middle.

[Duran Bernard]

You ate that.

[Dre Nicole]

You ate that. I approve. That's applause clock. That is not a hand signal.

[Duran Bernard]

So what's this?

[Dre Nicole]

This is playing with pre. Come.

[Duran Bernard]

I do that too, though.

[Dre Nicole]

That's what I'm saying. But don't do that in public.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, okay. You right.

[Lex]

It is.

[Dre Nicole]

Do that in the privacy of your own home, baby. You right.

[Duran Bernard]

You right.

[Dre Nicole]

This is the sign language. This is the sign language signal for the number eight, which means you ate that. I approve. Oh, bitch. Yes, I approve. Oh, yes, ma'. Am. So when you say clock that. There is no signal. Hand signal for clock that. Clocking. That means that someone exposed your truth. So when we're talking about our trans sisters that are going out into the world, they're like, oh, bitch, you got out into the world without somebody clocking you, Meaning they clocked your reception. That's what that means. But there was no hand signal for that. This is what leiomy started on legendary saying, oh, bitch, you ate that. I approve. Middle finger. Middle finger.

[Duran Bernard]

Thank you.

[Dre Nicole]

We gotta stop it.

[Duran Bernard]

I didn't know.

[Dre Nicole]

Let your sisters know.

[Duran Bernard]

I let us know.

[Dre Nicole]

And also.

[Lex]

Cause you peeps. I've been doing beautiful.

[Duran Bernard]

Absolutely.

[Dre Nicole]

And while we're at it, I didn't know. And while we're at it, that word punk.

[Duran Bernard]

No, I said that. I made a video about it. And they were up in arms at me.

[Dre Nicole]

Absolutely not.

[Duran Bernard]

Stop.

[Dre Nicole]

Because I'm gonna tell you something, and y' all can't say this word. Punk, sassy, zesty. All those words are faggot with a silencer on it.

[Duran Bernard]

Uh oh.

[Dre Nicole]

Y' all not slack.

[Duran Bernard]

Say that word. I can't say.

[Dre Nicole]

Y' all are not slick.

[Lex]

We can't.

[Dre Nicole]

It's not all right. And I understand that there are some of people, specifically the older generation of gay men, who don't care about the word fag. And they allow other. Their women counterparts, their friends, to say that it's not all right. It's not okay.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Just like how no random person can come up to you and call you bitch or call you by a nickname that they did not earn. A lot of times folks want a Nickname that they didn't earn. I don't know you like that.

[Lex]

Don't call me no punk.

[Dre Nicole]

Don't call me no punk. I don't do that. Word.

[Duran Bernard]

I made a video about that on TikTok, like, two months ago. And they were up in arms. They were like, sales. And I was like, that's crazy that people are telling you not to call them that. And y' all like, when is this?

[Dre Nicole]

And I'm also. I'm also very interested in the people within our community. I'm not talking about y' all within my community, because we gotta have a talk. Why is it that y' all are so. It's so impossible for you to ex. To embrace certain terminologies, but yet you want people to respect you. Mm. You want people to have an understanding about you, but yet you can't. You can't respect someone's pronoun.

[Lex]

It's always or.

[Dre Nicole]

Or. You can't fathom a feminine man that is also heterosexual.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

You just can't fathom that.

[Duran Bernard]

That's the truth. The way they were talking about the word cis, like, it's not a scientific term. It's a science.

[Lex]

Like, oh, cis.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah. Like, being a CIS woman, it means

[Dre Nicole]

you identify with the gender you were assigned to at birth.

[Duran Bernard]

It's just not that.

[Lex]

And stop calling me sis.

[Duran Bernard]

No.

[Lex]

And, you know, that's what I thought you was talking.

[Duran Bernard]

You didn't. Go to hell.

[Dre Nicole]

I saw that. And, you know, honestly, it's moments like that where it's. It's like, I really want somebody to just educate my sis.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah. And that's all it is.

[Dre Nicole]

That's all. Cause she's an extension of us. That's us. So let us call each other in.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't like when other people outside of us be trying to check other folks within our community. No, no, no. This ain't got nothing to do with you, baby.

[Duran Bernard]

Agreed.

[Dre Nicole]

We can call each other in. We will have that conversation.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

This ain't got nothing to do with you.

[Duran Bernard]

Agreed.

[Lex]

So to answer your question, young lady,

[Duran Bernard]

it was a young man.

[Lex]

It was a young man, mister.

[Dre Nicole]

My. My thing is. My thing is, lady, you have to be. You have to be open.

[Duran Bernard]

I agree.

[Dre Nicole]

Because my thing is, if we. If. If we maneuvered our way of life by how people mistreat us, we would not get the things that we genuinely need.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Because we'll be going off of their understanding of us, which is a lack of understanding. So my thing is, if that's genuinely who you are at the Core. If it's. If love and partnership is what you genuinely desire, then put that out there and stop charging everything as, oh, a woe is me if things don't work out. Look at it as a game. It's like, okay, bet we're just not compatible. It's really simple as that. We're not aligned in the areas that genuinely matter. And I'm not going to force that.

[Duran Bernard]

And I wish people would understand that and stop looking at it like, I'm not good enough.

[Dre Nicole]

You are good enough.

[Duran Bernard]

Y' all just weren't compatible. Yeah, it's okay. And that was a good point that you made. Because when it comes to our, like, careers, for example, people will make fun of us, tell us no, but we keep going. But why is it y' all don't apply that same logic to love?

[Lex]

You know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

Because it's the. It's. It's getting your. It's getting another avenue of your emotions involved.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

It's another level of expectation that you are pouring into that you're hoping that that meets that idea. So for me, it's allow people to show you who they are.

[Duran Bernard]

Agreed.

[Dre Nicole]

Number one. Allow people to show you who they are. Number one. And believe them where they are. Sometimes there are people that come into our lives that are aligned with a previous version of who we are. You ever met a dude that was like, baby, had you met me five years ago, you would have been shoe in.

[Lex]

Yeah, you.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean. I mean, hands down. And that part of you still exists. But it does not drive. It exists. It does not drive. So you understand. No. I have to make the decision that best suits me. Where I am now.

[Lex]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

And who you are is not compatible with who I am today. So it's just about keeping your eyes peeled for what makes sense, what is aligned. Because one thing that I learned about Neil Degrasse Tyson, which is one of my unofficial uncles, him that's a scientist. He's an astrophysicist. Him, Sinbad and Michael, Eric Dyson, those are my uncles in my mind. And one thing that Neil said was. Shit.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, God. We got go over here.

[Dre Nicole]

Where was I going? I was talking about shit. I was right there. I was right there. Cause see, that's what y' all get for having me. This number four.

[Duran Bernard]

This number six.

[Dre Nicole]

This number four. Look, what was I talking about?

[Duran Bernard]

Hey, you was talking.

[Lex]

I mean, growing.

[Dre Nicole]

Growing. Right.

[Duran Bernard]

Cause all the last time you said the Neil and I said, that's the scientist, man.

[Dre Nicole]

That's a scientist.

[Duran Bernard]

Scientifically, Speaking.

[Dre Nicole]

Right, Right. No, it's all right. It's all right.

[Lex]

He's a grower. Not a shower.

[Dre Nicole]

Not a shower. Shout out to the growers.

[Lex]

Amen.

[Dre Nicole]

Not the showers.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, let us know what you got coming up where we can. Cuz you everywhere.

[Dre Nicole]

I know we are in. We're doing. I'm doing Netflix as a joke. Netflix is a joke. They're doing a festival run, and I'm one of the performers that will be doing it. I don't like to call it standup, but story time.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

There are things that I've experienced that, you know, has some comedic flair into how I'm delivering what's going on. I'm also going to be going on tour in the fall, and I'm only. And I'm only doing a small number, so. So when I say a city near you, I mean a city near you because I didn't want to, I didn't want to tour this year.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

I was on four tours last year.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Lex]

That's a lot.

[Dre Nicole]

Three of my own in Badu.

[Duran Bernard]

I'm getting tired of your baby.

[Dre Nicole]

Don't put me on the clock, please.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay. My bad. We going.

[Dre Nicole]

But yeah, no, I, I, I just, I wanted to do something that was. We're doing theaters this coming year. I'm excited about theaters. I've been waiting on ushers to hand you a program and escort you to your seat. That's what I've been waiting on. I've been wanting. Cause when you have such a wide variety of audience attendees that are from people that can barely just get in 18 or 21, to the grandmothers and the uncles, like, they are out there standing for me. And I used to feel really bad about that because I'm like, I need venues that can accommodate them to be able to sit. I got booked for North Sea Jazz Festival last year, and this was the same night that Leon Thomas and Diana Ross were playing. I went on first, and this was also the same room that I performed in where I watched Leann Lahavis perform a couple years prior with Leticey and Lisa Fisher.

[Duran Bernard]

Ooh.

[Dre Nicole]

And that room packed up immediately. I think I had maybe like 30 minutes between doors. And when I was time to go on and the room packed out immediately. And being on the same night as Diana Ross, like, it was her name, and then my name right after her is in the lineup of things.

[Duran Bernard]

Hey. Nothing else needs to be said.

[Lex]

Full circle moment.

[Dre Nicole]

Full circle moment. I have no idea where I was going with, with this story. It doesn't But I know.

[Duran Bernard]

Upside down.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, boy.

[Duran Bernard]

You came where they can find you.

[Lex]

We were talking about your touring.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes. Touring. Yes.

[Lex]

Touring.

[Duran Bernard]

Yes,

[Dre Nicole]

yes.

[Lex]

He gonna get you back, right?

[Dre Nicole]

Thank you. I appreciate that. I'm so glad you said right. Not straight. Okay, Forward, forward. Never straight.

[Duran Bernard]

Right, right.

[Dre Nicole]

Give me direction. Not a construct, a. I'm an ally.

[Lex]

I'm actually part of the community.

[Dre Nicole]

Actually, we, you know, allies are cute, but we need accomplices.

[Lex]

I'm next.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, shit. See?

[Dre Nicole]

Allies. I'mma tell you what allies do. Okay? Allies. I mean, no, like, allies post the little black square. They post the hashtag Black Lives Matter, and they go back to their regular schedule, programming. Allies. Accomplices. Accomplices are checking folks in real time.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

The accomplices are going home to family dinners saying, you know, what you said is actually racist. What you said is actually homophobic.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, in real time. I don't want. I don't want an ally. Accomplices. I want somebody that would be like, you know what? No, no, no. You stay home. This ain't even your fight. I got this.

[Lex]

Oh. I ride for my niggas.

[Dre Nicole]

And I ride for you, black woman. I ride for you. I don't play. And I say black women because you're not strong black women. You're black women. You decide when you want to be strong or not. But I'm not gonna put that on you. You've been strong enough.

[Lex]

Thank you. We tired of being strong.

[Dre Nicole]

Exactly, which is why you need to take your rest.

[Lex]

Amen, brother.

[Duran Bernard]

But I still like to fight a little bit. I'm not in an argument about that. F word. I'm a fighter, by the way.

[Dre Nicole]

I understand.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

And then there's the art of continuing to scroll. Everything does not squabble. Everything. Everything does not deserve a response nor reaction.

[Duran Bernard]

Well, I'm talking about in real life. It was a family argument. Cause somebody in my family.

[Dre Nicole]

Fuck them. Family members.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, Fuck the family. They fuck the family.

[Dre Nicole]

I can't believe I met Vanessa Williams and did not go into that monologue. I'm so upset. Like, it was right there.

[Duran Bernard]

Fuck the family.

[Lex]

Fuck the family.

[Dre Nicole]

We were Hanging out for 20 minutes. The hall. It was right there.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, you should have did it, Auntie.

[Dre Nicole]

I love you.

[Lex]

Y' all will meet again.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, yeah.

[Lex]

It's gonna happen.

[Dre Nicole]

I got her phone up. It's all good.

[Lex]

Y' all text her right now.

[Dre Nicole]

Speaking of right now, do y' all know that around Valentine's Day this year.

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[Dre Nicole]

I got a phone call at 10, 11am Pacific Standard Time by Ms. Toni Braxton.

[Duran Bernard]

That's our favorite.

[Lex]

We love Tony.

[Dre Nicole]

Hello. I know to say who I think it is Wait, wait, wait, wait. And I can't stop thinking about the way I used to be and I can't stop thinking in about.

[Lex]

Let me join.

[Dre Nicole]

Hello. Hello. It's practicing.

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[Duran Bernard]

He wasn't bad enough for me either. What did she say?

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, how much she loved me and how we do brunch soon.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, and we get a song and a tour.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, listen, I'm also in my bag now and I want to put this out there. I am in my writing and producing bag. I would love to write and arrange and produce for other people. A lot of the songs that I've recorded, I'm not immediately married to them. Some of those stories.

[Duran Bernard]

Hush that door. Stop. Oh, exactly. Look at crack.

[Lex]

It's strict in his speed.

[Dre Nicole]

Thank you.

[Duran Bernard]

Gosh.

[Lex]

Exactly. Craig, fix that shit up.

[Dre Nicole]

I would like.

[Duran Bernard]

Yeah, yeah.

[Lex]

And you don't want him to put that leg up.

[Duran Bernard]

It's rubbish.

[Dre Nicole]

There are stories that I feel that could be told by someone else.

[Duran Bernard]

Okay.

[Dre Nicole]

There are a few stories that I would like to tell from a woman's perspective that I think would be pretty dope. So I'm just. I'm just open, but I'm letting everybody know, Hey, I wanna write. I wanna do backgrounds I wanna like, wherever I can be of assistance. I wanna be there.

[Lex]

Can you write us a song?

[Duran Bernard]

Yes.

[Lex]

We wanna get in the studio. We said we gonna drop a song. Cause we feel like we could be like a one hit.

[Dre Nicole]

Y' all need a theme song.

[Lex]

We just want one hit. Just one.

[Duran Bernard]

Just one. I feel like. I feel like we could really do like a good song.

[Lex]

She's not saying I'm a no, but

[Duran Bernard]

I think we can do two songs low key. We need one rap song and one ballad.

[Lex]

This is where you always.

[Dre Nicole]

So you the rapper, she the singer.

[Lex]

I can sing a little bit too.

[Duran Bernard]

See, that's what I'm saying. We need a ballad.

[Lex]

I need one. No, Lex always gotta take too far. One song.

[Duran Bernard]

Ky, we need a ballad and a rap song, right? Yeah. Duran can do our ballad. And then we gonna have Santana do the rap song.

[Dre Nicole]

Come on, Santana.

[Duran Bernard]

You know what I'm saying? We just need to Mysterio brow. I like Mysterio. I want to turn that eye boot.

[Dre Nicole]

What was that song?

[Lex]

Shake them titties. I'm looking for the hot in the city. You can't see our titties today but

[Duran Bernard]

they shake we and ladies, today, if

[Dre Nicole]

I ever had titties, that's all I would say.

[Duran Bernard]

We're gonna keep talking forever.

[Lex]

We will. Thank you so much for coming. Thank you.

[Duran Bernard]

This is, I'm not gonna lie, this one of my favorite. Y' all make sure y' all go follow him, listen to the tunes. We had a great time. Muse Beauty Collection.

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[Dre Nicole]

Y' all got lip balm, too?

[Lex]

We do.

[Dre Nicole]

Come on now.

[Lex]

On the way. I sent you an exclusive.

[Duran Bernard]

On the way. On the way. And y' all make sure y' all tune in to Love Lex P every Monday morning at. At 10am And y' all make sure y' all go get Yalls tickets and we'll see y' all on tour soon. Still tipping 20, 26. Tickets on sale now. And see y' all next week.

[Lex]

Bye.

[Duran Bernard]

Bye.

[Dre Nicole]

See ya.

[Duran Bernard]

Oh, my God. That was so funny. Just let go Let it flow Let it flow Let it flow Everything's gonna work out is a solo Let it

[Dre Nicole]

go now y' all part Let it

[Duran Bernard]

flow Let it flow Let it flow

[Dre Nicole]

this is my prayer Just let it go, baby don't nobody want no don't nobody want no Two time losers now, now.

[Duran Bernard]

But it can't remember respect without you There's a time when we must go our way. Yeah. Wine d wine d wine d wine. Hey.

[Lex]

I love that girl.

[Duran Bernard]

Dr. Wayne, Dr. Wayne,

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